They're humanizing kirk when kirk didn't see half of those people as humans.
I get that seeing grief will always pull at your heartstrings and seeing his most normal side can make someone feel bad but people need to remember he was a modern day nazi like did we forget that bit
because, besides us seeing the humanity in him acting ‘normal’, he was able to befriend a black woman, a member a social minority, which has its effects no matter how much of a grifter she equally is