Author of How Mamas Love Their Babies and ENJOY ME AMONG MY RUINS š; contributor to #WeToo, The Rumpus, Vice, Tits and Sass, Autostraddle; writing a novel š«
Iām getting back into sex work. Hereās why:
āmedical bills exceeding 20k
ānot enough $ to take my ex to court for child support
āI hold a PhD but make less than min wage
āI have a child
It is willfully ignorantā and downright meanā to talk abt prohibition but not poverty.
Today I heard a male prof ask a female student to smile for him. Then he said āCāmon! You know I only come here to see that smile!ā
I stepped in.
He cornered and threatened me.
But please, go on abt the āinherently dangerous and patriarchalā aspects of the sex industry.
So my university promised to pay me for moderating an event on exploitative prison labor and after I did all the, ahem, labor, my uni said itās actually against policy to pay me LOLLLLLL
But please tell me more about how my sex work is bad & I should do ReAL wOrK š¤·š»āāļø
Men writing women:
āShe was delicate; her virginity was the most salient part of her.
Then she became a cock sucking fiend, that little bad girl mmmm yummy yummy bad girl
I saved her, naturally.
Now mine is the only cock she sucks.
Itās the greatest love story ever told.ā
Itās so interesting how ādaddy issuesā describes a womanās personal struggles with an absent, neglectful, or otherwise abusive father but is meant as an insult against *her.*
Twice in the sex industry I gave a portion of my earnings to a (feminist) friend to help keep me safe. Under current federal definition, sheād be considered a pimp.
If you canāt conceptualize the nuances of sex work, you should take a fucking seat and shut your cakehole.
Dear ppl whoāve never been pregnant,
YOU CAN GO INTO LABOR IN ANY TRIMESTER; āSECONDS BEFORE LABORā DOES NOT INDICATE THE AGE OF THE FETUS.
Signed,
A mother who had an abortion
Notice how itās āsex with a porn starā and not āhad an affair.ā The subtext is that mere proximity to a sex worker sullies a manās moral character. Itās christofascist purity bullshit and itās absolutely bipartisan.
Ppl in crisis so often just need someone to come over and like ... do the dishes.
We donāt need flowers and we donāt wanna talk and we certainly arenāt ādistractedā from our shit lives with tales of all the drama at your yoga studio.
A woman was 10$ short on her grocery bill and the cashier *refused* to let me pay it āācause this chick needs to LEARN, needs to do WIC better!ā
Welcome to this obscene world where poor ppl punish other poor ppl and sell out to fascism.
āSex work is degrading and humiliatingā say folks who steal our stories, twist our words, profit off our lived experiences, and then refer to us as disembodied orifices.