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I remember being in the "I hate smalltalk" camp well enough that I think there's a here here that just needs to be better expressed. Sometimes could be perhaps as simple as "I hate smalltalk that fails to allow a followup topic I'd like to go into"?
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"it's made of genuine fur. you know, from the animal known as the genuine"
[joke works better in Finnish when you can opt to not translate and instead directly loan _genuiini_ which kinda sounds like an animal]
alright, here is the bird's eye snapshot of my bigass chart of all my ~105 mutuals; arranged according to who are also mutuals with each other. region color assignment was basically randomly seeded, line colors b/w regions are mostly projected from big users or dense clusters
and thinking now also of this "trans autistic catgirl communication protocol" infographocomic I've seen not too long ago; it even had a "phatic communication to establish familiarity" phase; but then, if you go "mrow :3" at normies they … will not recognize this as "smalltalk"
correct take. I remember when Aqua dropped (having already grown up in a Mac household since System 7.5) and the current news is the closest shift to that experience they've put out since
on the desktop of an old laptop I have a folder titled "also not porn" and it contains some lecture slides or something boring like that that had been previously accumulating on my desktop. the story of how it got that name is left as an exercise for the reader
low-N anecdotally, it seems easier to get a woman to agree that she does not understand a particular man's interiority, than that she does not understand that of "men" as an aggregate or ideal. this at least seems preferrable to the opposite
Subtler error modes too: I grew up familiar with this advice, eventually finally found a relationship and it was not that hard, and took this as a sort of a pre-payout promise to still stick into it as it deteriorated to become harder and harder
before this I have been uhh
– BBS lurker: ca. 1993–1996
– mailing lists: ca. 1996→
– various forums: ca. 1997→
– wikipedian: 2005→
– RYM: 2007→
– LW lurker: 2007→
– tumblr: 2012–2024, on hiatus
– research blogging: 2012→
– discord: 2021→
– work twitter, tpot lurker: 2022→