SUCCESSFUL
MARRIAGE
Subtopics at a glance
1. Introduction- Marriage and its importance
2. Factors affecting Marriage
3. Problems faced in marriage nowadays
4. Successful Marriage & its characteristics
5. Factors important for successful marriage
6. Research Evidences
7. Conclusion- Case study
Marriage
Noun;
the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners
in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions
specifically a union between a man and a woman).
INTRODUCTION
◦Importance of this Institution of Marriage
◦Marriage VS Wedding
◦Civil Marriage VS Religious Marriage
Factors Affecting Marriage
Personalities change with time and couples might not remain as compatible as they once
might have been.
◦ Values and beliefs
◦ Sexual differences
◦ Life Stages
◦ Infidelity
◦ Boredom
◦ Jealousy
◦ Stress
PROBLEMS FACED IN MARRIAGE
NOWADAYS
◦ Overstepping Boundaries
◦ Lacking Complete Communication
◦ Declining Occurrences of Sexual Intimacy
◦ Wandering Focuses
◦ Emotional Infidelity
◦ Fighting About Money
◦ Waning Appreciation
◦ Technology Interference
◦ Selfishness
◦ Lacking Trust
◦ Anger issues
SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
◦ Meaning: “A successful marriage is the celebration of what makes the other different
and the reconciliation of those differences in a life together. It is the commitment they
both share.”
◦ Characteristics
◦ Mutual Respect
◦ Trust
◦ Mutual Understanding
◦ Compassion
◦ Communication
◦ Forgiveness
◦ Acceptance
◦ Commitment
◦ Time and Physical Presence
◦ Flexibilty
◦ Friendship and Love
Factors Affecting Successful Marriage
◦ Love /commitment – marriage is a decision to be committed through the
ups and downs, hood and bad. Love is a decision to be committed to
another person.
◦ Sexual faithfulness- sexual faithfulness in marriage includes more than just
our bodies. It also includes our eyes,mind,heart,and soul. Sexual
faithfulness requires self discipline and an awareness of the
consequences.
◦ Humility- An essential building block of a healthy marriage is the ability to
admit that you are not perfect,that you will make mistakes,and that you
will need forgiveness.
◦ Patience/forgiveness- successful marriage partners learn to show
unending patience and forgiveness to their partner. They don’t except
perfection, do not bring up errors in an effort to hold their partner
hostage.
More Factors
◦ Time- relationship don’t work without time investment. Never have, never will.
Relationship with your spouse should be the most initamte and deep relationship.
Date- night once a while wouldn’t hurt.
◦ Honesty and trust- honestly and trust becomes the foundation for everything in
successful marriage. You can become selfless,committed, or patient in a
moment, but trust always takes time.
◦ Communication- healthy marrige partners communicate as much as
posdible.they certainly discuss kids schedule,utility bills,etc. They even
communicate hopes,dreams,fears, anxities. They are nott just concerned about
changes taking place in their kids life but even in their own hearts and souls .
◦ Selflessness- most of the marriages are broken because of the selfishness than
any other reason. Give your hopes,dreams, and life to your partner. We need to
value our marriages , treat Them with great care, and invest in them daily.
RESEARCH EVIDENCE
◦ Dey and Ghosh (2016) examined the factors involved in the distribution of a successful marriage. A
sample of 300 respondents were randomly selected from different professional settings in
Jharkhand. The data collection was done through a specially designed schedule. The outcomes
revealed that among people of different professional settings factors that commonly emerged to
be important for enhancing marital satisfaction were respect for each others emotions, attitude
towards marriage, expression of love, regard for views and importance to the likings of the
spouse, ignoring weaknesses of the spouse, sexual adjustment, and similarities in value, taste and
interest. Lower ranks were given to factors like management of time, management of income,
technological factors and job related factors. For the dimension of conflict resolution avoidance
was given higher rank in comparison to arbitration.
◦ Nimtz (2011) investigated the contributing factors for a satisfied and successful marriage by a
sample of 35 couples married for more than forty years. The data was collected through Dyadic
Adjustment Scale (DAS) to assure the phenomenon of satisfaction was experienced in the
marriage and semi-structured interviews, pertaining to the phenomena of both marriage
satisfaction and marriage longevity. It was found that the participants described 2 major essential
themes each for marital satisfaction and longevity namely, togetherness & children/grandchildren
and attitude(of commitment, respect and humour) & action (of communication, compromise
and support) respectively. The theme of sense of security emerged as the most important
contributing factor in marital success.
◦ Asoodeh et al (2010) explored the factors of successful marriage that
accounts from self-described happy couples. The sample comprised of
365 couples selected through cluster sampling from the staff of several
companies in Iran. The data was collected through Enrich Couple Scale
and in-depth, semi-structured interview. The results revealed that successful
couples trust and consult each other, are honest towards each other,
believe in God, make decisions together, are committed to each other,
and have friendly relationship. Traditional couples and non-traditional
couples differed only in the procedures of family management.
CONCLUSION
Case study
PROFILE :- Couple married for 6 years. The couple is in their early 30’s.
PROBLEM IN THEIR MARRIAGE :- The husband believes that it is impossible
to trust his wife and she cheats him through the internet services, and
the wife explains that her husband does not want to be involved into their
family affairs. Both partner's are not confident in the desire to remain
committed to each other in this marriage, still, they have two sons, and
have to think about the wellbeing of their children.
CONCLUSION :- Finally, it is necessary to keep in
mind that human behavior is hard to change, still,
it is possible to create the conditions under which
people may feel safe, protected and pleasure
of being together without taking into consideration
the troubles and discontents and remember that
“successful marriage is like farming: one needs to
start over again every morning.”
