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Q. The Nayar system challenges the popular understanding of Family.

Comment.

The traditional Nayar family system of Central Kerala, as meticulously analyzed by E. Kathleen
Gough, profoundly challenges the popular, often ethnocentric, understanding of what constitutes
a 'family' or 'marriage'. Prior to British control, the Nayars were believed by some not to possess
a true family system, prompting an examination of their societal structure as a test of the nuclear
family's universality. Gough’s extensive field and historical research ultimately concludes that,
while highly differentiated, the Nayar system did indeed feature concepts of marriage and
paternity, necessitating a re-evaluation of anthropological definitions.

The prevailing understanding of family in many Western societies centers on the nuclear unit: a
father, mother, and their children, living together as a cohesive social and economic unit. This
popular view often implicitly aligns with the 'Notes and Queries' definition of marriage from
1951: 'a union between a man and a woman such that children born to the woman are recognized
legitimate offspring of both parents'. However, anthropologists have long grappled with the
limitations of such narrow definitions when faced with diverse global practices. Problems arose
with criteria like cohabitation, ritual recognition, specific sexual rights, or domestic services, as
these lacked universal distribution. Even the 'Notes and Queries' definition, admirable in its
conciseness, faltered in cases like the Nuer woman-to-woman marriage, yet the legal provisions
are comparable to conventional marriage, establishing the legitimacy of children.

Dr. Edmund Leach further complicated this discussion by arguing against any universal
criterion or definition for marriage, including potential legal paternity or the legitimization of
children. Instead, Leach proposed a list of ten classes of rights frequently associated with
marriage, concluding that any institution fulfilling one or more of these criteria could be termed
marriage.

Gough, however, identifies a 'simple logical flaw' in Leach's argument, asserting that it would
lead to arbitrary definitions and hinder cross-cultural comparison. For Gough, a 'single,
parsimonious definition' is crucial to isolate the phenomenon under study. Leach specifically
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Nayars traditionally had no marriage according to the ‘Notes & Queries’ definition and the
notion of fatherhood is lacking, with children being recruits to the woman’s matrilineage.
Gough's paper directly aims to analyze traditional Nayar marital institutions to counter these two
interpretations.

Gough's account focuses on the Nayars of Central Kerala in the pre-1792 period, before
significant British influence. The Nayar caste was structured into ranked subdivisions, including
royal lineages, district chiefs, village headmen, and commoner Nayars. Commoner Nayars
resided in villages with four to seven exogamous matrilineages, organized into 'property-groups'
(taravād) comprising brothers, sisters, and their children and daughters' children. These groups
lived in common houses, held property jointly, and were overseen by the oldest male
(karanavan). Nayar men were often absent due to military duties, leaving the karanavan,
women, and children at home. The concept of 'linked lineages' (enangar) was central, involving
reciprocal, hereditary ties for ceremonial cooperation, acting as guardians of caste morality.

The Nayar marital system involved two distinct yet interconnected rites: the tali-kettu-kalyanam
(ritual marriage) and sambandham (visiting union). The tali-rite was a crucial pre-puberty
ceremony for girls aged seven to twelve, performed every few years for a lineage's unmarried
girls. Ritual bridegrooms, selected from linked lineages (enangar), tied a gold ornament (tali)
around the girls' necks. After three days of seclusion, during which sexual relations might occur
if the girl was nearing puberty, the couples were ritually purified. In some areas, a symbolic
separation occurred by tearing the girl's loincloth. Crucially, the ritual husband had no further
obligations to his bride, except that at his death, she and all her children (regardless of biological
father) were required to observe death-pollution for him. This was a significant obligation, as
death-pollution was otherwise reserved for matrilineal kin. Children in Cochin even referred to
their mother's ritual husband as appan, a term used by lower, patrilineal castes for the legal
father.

The tali-rite had profound social implications for a Nayar girl. It marked her social maturity,
endowing her with ritual sexual and procreative functions, and granting her the status of a
woman, allowing her to participate in adult women's rites and be addressed respectfully as amma
(mother). Furthermore, it initiated strict incest prohibitions regarding men of her own lineage.

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Most significantly, the tali-rite was essential for a girl's social standing; failure to undergo it
before menstruation theoretically led to expulsion from lineage and caste, and potentially death.

From the child's perspective, the mother's ritual husband was a figure of 'great symbolic
significance,' as a child born without the mother having a ritual husband could not acquire caste
and lineage membership. This observance of death-pollution by the child for the ritual husband,
and the use of the term appan, formally recognized that, for ritual purposes, the child had been
'fathered' by a man of appropriate caste.

Following the tali-rite, typically around puberty, girls entered into sambandham unions,
receiving a number of visiting husbands. These men were from outside her lineage, usually from
her own subcaste or, for aristocratic women, from higher subcastes or Nambudiri Brahmans.
Historical accounts suggest women might have three to eight, or even up to twelve, regular
husbands concurrently, and could also receive casual visitors. There was no limit on the number
of wives a Nayar man might visit. Husbands visited at night and left before breakfast, leaving
their weapons at the door as a sign of their presence. While casual visitors might offer a cash gift,
more regular husbands were expected to provide small 'luxury' gifts at festivals, such as clothing,
betel, and oils. These gifts were personal and associated with courtship, not the economic
maintenance of the wife or child. A husband's failure to provide gifts signaled the end of the
relationship.

The most critical obligation for a sambandham husband was to acknowledge probable paternity
when a woman became pregnant. This was done by providing a fee of cloth and vegetables to the
low-caste midwife attending the birth. If no man of suitable caste would make this payment, it
was assumed the woman had relations with a man of lower caste, a Christian, or a Muslim. In
such cases, the woman and child faced expulsion from their lineage and caste, or even death.
Even in 1949, over 150 years into British rule, a Nayar girl who became pregnant without a
'modern marriage ceremony' could maintain her standing if a Nayar of suitable subcaste paid her
delivery expenses; otherwise, she faced total ostracism, with her natal kinsmen performing
funeral rites for her as if she were dead.

Despite the uncertainty of exact physiological paternity, legal paternity was established by the
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obligations to, his children after paying these fees. Guardianship, care, and discipline were
entirely the concern of the mother's matrilineal kin, led by the karanavan. Children referred to all
their mother's current husbands as acchan (lord), but did not extend kinship terms to these men's
matrilineal kin, nor did they observe death-pollution for a visiting husband unless he was also
their mother's ritual husband.

Gough highlights that this system meant the elementary family was not institutionalized as a
legal, productive, distributive, residential, socializing, or consumption unit. This directly
contradicted views like Murdock's, which posited the universality of the elementary family as at
least a unit for economic cooperation. Instead of durable interpersonal links through marriage
and fatherhood (common in other matrilineal systems), the Nayars had the hereditary institution
of linked lineages (enangar), which fulfilled formal affinal functions and provided neighborly
help regardless of individual sexual ties.

Gough explicitly contradicts Leach, asserting that the notion of fatherhood is not lacking among
the Nayars. She argues that a child's caste and lineage membership absolutely depended on both
the mother having been ritually married by a man of appropriate caste and her biological
paternity being vouched for by one or more men of appropriate caste. This concept of 'legalized
genitor' alongside a ritual father was fundamental for legitimizing children.

Gough interprets Nayar unions as a form of 'group-marriage'. The tali-rite, in her view, initiated
a state of marriage for each girl to a 'collectivity of men of appropriate caste'. It ceremonially
endowed the girl with sexual and procreative functions, and sexual rights in the woman were
conferred upon all men of her subcaste as a collectivity, represented by the enangar who
performed the rite. The ritual husband symbolized the correctness of the children's paternity. The
later sambandham unions, then, were the claiming of sexual privileges by men who were
potential husbands by virtue of their caste membership. Their key duty was to provide the
woman and her lineage with children and to acknowledge their potential biological paternity
through birth-payments which legitimized the woman’s child.

Gough provides two main reasons for classifying Nayar unions as marriage: First, mating was
not promiscuous; strict prohibitions existed against sexual relations within the same lineage,
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property-group with one man. Importantly, relations between a Nayar woman and a man of lower
subcaste or caste were absolutely forbidden, with severe consequences including expulsion or
death. These prohibitions directly connect to her second, more crucial reason: the concept of
legally established paternity was of fundamental significance in establishing a child as a member
of his lineage and caste. The Nayars were aware of physiological paternity and associated a
child's resemblance to its genitor, reinforcing a racist ideology of inherited qualities linked to
caste hierarchy. This ideology also motivated hypergamous unions, where aristocratic Nayars
boasted of superior qualities derived from royal and Brahmanical fatherhood. The generalized
concept of fatherhood even played a role in political integration, binding higher subcastes and
fostering loyalty to military and religious authorities.

To accommodate the Nayar case and other unusual marital forms, Gough proposes a new, more
encompassing definition of marriage: 'Marriage is a relationship established between a woman
and one or more other persons, which provides that a child born to the woman under
circumstances not prohibited by the rules of the relationship, is accorded full birth-status rights
common to normal members of his society or social stratum'. The phrase 'one or more persons'
addresses group marriage and polyandry. 'Full birth-status rights common to all normal members'
is a crucial, broader concept than 'legitimate offspring,' covering all social relationships and
property rights a child acquires by virtue of legitimacy, whether through the father or, through
the mother. The inclusion of 'society or social stratum' accounts for caste systems where
birth-status rights vary.

In conclusion, the Nayar family system serves not as an exception disproving the universality of
marriage and family, but rather as a powerful case study for redefining them.

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Q. How does the aging body complicate our understanding of the

household, kinship ties and familial bonds in India.

Sarah Lamb has offered a profound ethnographic exploration of aging, gender, and the body in
the village of Mangaldihi, rural West Bengal. Her work highlights how the aging body, far from
being a simple biological progression, intricately complicates and reshapes the understanding of
household dynamics, kinship ties, and familial bonds in India.

A cornerstone of understanding how the aging body complicates kinship and household
structures in Mangaldihi is the concept of maya. Maya is defined as a multivalent term
encompassing illusion, attachment, affection, compassion, and love. It is often conceptualized as
‘bindings’ or a ‘net’ (maya jal) in which all living beings are enmeshed. While attachment might
seem desirable in many cultures, Bengalis classify maya as one of the six chief evils (ripus), as it
is believed to cause immense pain and suffering due to the inevitability of separations and losses
in life. Moreover, a more abstract philosophical view posits that maya hinders one's perception of
God or ‘truth’ by binding individuals to a world that is false because its elements are ultimately
transient.

For most villagers in Mangaldihi, maya was believed to increase significantly with age,
profoundly complicating their later years and the fluidity of their familial connections. Several
reasons were offered for this intensification. Firstly, the sheer demographic reality of large
families meant that as individuals aged, their network of kin expanded, leading to a natural
increase in the number of maya ties. Secondly, maya was perceived to flow more powerfully
downward through generations, meaning that affection for junior kin (like grandchildren) was
often more intense than for senior kin. This created a compounding effect, where a grandmother's
maya for her grandchild could be greater than for the son himself. Thirdly, the accumulation of
possessions, wealth, and connections to homes and village land over a long life further
intensified maya. The more one acquires, the stronger the desire and attachment become, making
it harder to relinquish them in old age. Finally, the impending awareness of death itself
heightened maya. This inherent growth of maya with age stands in stark contrast to the cultural
expectation of detachment, creating a fundamental tension within the household and personal life
of the elderly.

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The intensification of maya in late life presented significant dangers, directly complicating the
process of aging, dying, and the afterlife. A primary fear was that strong attachments could cause
individuals to hang on in painfully weak old age rather than die. Villagers often chided one
another for having too much maya, believing it made dying slow and painful. Furthermore,
excessive maya was feared to bind the soul (atma) to its body, surroundings, and relationships
after death, trapping it as a lingering ghost (bhut). This directly undermined the desired state of
mukti or release, which entails liberation from binding ties and the attainment of peace (santi),
and specifically freedom from lingering ghosthood. Thus, the aging body, instead of naturally
disengaging, became a nexus of intense, painful attachments, posing a spiritual as well as a
physical dilemma for the individual and their kinship network.

To navigate this conflict between increasing maya and the imperative for detachment, many
older people in Mangaldihi employed various techniques for loosening their ties of maya or
disassembling their personhood. These practices reshaped their roles within the household and
their familial interactions.

One significant technique was physical relocation or decentering. Elders often moved from the
central activity hubs of the household to its peripheries, such as string cots at the end of a
veranda. This physical shift symbolized their freedom from former ties and duties while also
signaling a surrender of control over goods and people that is best exercised from the center.
Beyond the household, retirees spent more time in public spaces- visiting others, resting at
temples, or loitering at shops- behaviors deemed inappropriate for younger individuals but
acceptable for seniors seeking detachment. This movement away from the household center
demonstrated a deliberate redefinition of their familial roles.

Another set of practices involved ‘cooling’ the body and heart-mind (manas). This included
eating separately from other family members, a privilege that underscored their seniority while
preventing substance mixing with others. Many older couples also became celibate. This
curtailment of physical and transactional exchanges was seen as desirable for making the retired
individuals more separate (prithak) in anticipation of ultimate separation. Older people also
consciously adopted ‘cool’ and ‘dry’ bodily states through diet, avoiding ‘hot’ foods like meat,
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clothing served as a public advertisement of their celibacy, purity, and renunciation of the world,
starkly contrasting with the ‘hot’ red colors favored during their reproductive years. These bodily
disciplines were direct attempts to alter their internal state and external presentation, signaling a
loosening of their physical and emotional ties to the household and its procreative functions.

Verbal techniques also played a role in detaching from intense familial bonds. Arguing and
cursing were sometimes used, perhaps subconsciously, to create alienation. For example, Hena,
Lamb's companion, picked fights with Lamb before her marriage, so she could loosen her maya
ties. These actions, though seemingly destructive to familial harmony, served as a means of
emotional disengagement.

Finally, individuals worked to diminish their ties to things by giving away possessions like
property, jewellery, and saris in late life. To be ‘possessionless’ (nisva) was equated with being
‘without self’ (sva), as possessions were seen as integral to one's personhood and ability to
attract or repel others within the household network. This deliberate disinvestment of material
wealth was sought to lighten oneself for departure.

However, not all individuals conformed to these ideals of detachment. Khudi Thakrun, at
ninety-seven, was a notable exception, remaining ‘hot’ and central, deeply engrossed in family
and village affairs. Despite adopting some cooling practices like wearing white and eating
separately, she actively continued to increase her wealth through moneylending and boasted
about her extensive kin and property. Other villagers widely disapproved of her, viewing her
actions as accumulating ‘sin’ (pap) at an age when she should be accruing ‘merit’ (punya). Her
own family joked that she would become a lingering ghost, pestering them for mangoes and
treats, emphasizing the dangers of such defiance. This illustrates the tension that the aging body
did not always facilitate the desired loosening of ties, thereby creating internal household conflict
and social critique.

The aging body further complicates traditional kinship and household structures by shaping the
experiences of those who live ‘outside of samsara,’ or household life—pilgrims, beggars, and
old age home dwellers. While often marginalized, these individuals frequently experienced a
unique form of detachment from maya.

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Pilgrims, predominantly older people, used journeys to tirtha-sthans as an appropriate activity

for late life, often after their children were married and, for women, after menopause. These
pilgrimages were seen as a transition to a life focused on God, a ‘major break’ from household
routines. Doing tirtha explicitly involved suffering (kasta)- enduring hunger, cramped
conditions, bare feet, and giving away money- all designed to cut the ties of maya by forsaking
material comforts and company of loved ones. While pilgrims acknowledged the difficulty of
fully severing all maya, their journeys represent a culturally sanctioned way for the aging body to
deliberately disengage from intense familial and worldly bonds.

Beggars, though driven by necessity than by choice, paradoxically found freedom from maya.
Their life of wandering, living alone, and lacking possessions led to an emptying and lightening
of the self, effectively loosening their attachments to homes, villages, kin, and material wealth.
Cluber Dadu, a Brahman beggar, despite his suffering, described his life as happy because it
lacked the hassles of household life and the bindings of maya, allowing his soul to receive peace
(santi). The extreme conditions imposed on the aging body by poverty unintentionally facilitated
the very detachment sought by others through deliberate practice.

Old age homes are sometimes viewed as a consequence of societal degeneration and residues of
the colonial era. Some residents reinterpreted these homes as comparable to the ‘forest-dwelling’
stage (vanaprastha) described in Hindu texts. The reduced sharing and exchanges in these
communal settings naturally led to a waning of maya, though it often required immense sadness
(dukha) and suffering (kasta). These alternative living arrangements demonstrate how
non-traditional settings could become sites for achieving detachment, even if born out of
hardship.

Crucially, the aging body's relationship with kinship and household bonds is deeply gendered.
While men's primary connections were often made once and tended to endure through life,
women's personhood and ties of maya were continually 'unmade and remade' at critical junctures
such as marriage and widowhood, in addition to aging and dying. This was rooted in the
perception of women's bodies as more anatomically 'khola' (open) and 'garam' (hot), making
them more vulnerable to impurity and suitable for marital exchange.

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Marriage for women involved a profound transformation, requiring them to sever many natal
connections and form new ones within their husband's family. This transition was often
accompanied by feelings of vulnerability, homesickness, and loneliness in the early years. The
strict bodily regulations imposed on women, including spatial seclusion, modest clothing, and
cooling diets, aimed to control their perceived 'sexual heat' and channel their reproductive
powers towards the patrilineage, thus defining their place within the household.

Widowhood presented the most extreme complication for women's familial ties and personhood,
contrasting sharply with men's experiences. Brahman widows were supposed to wear white,
avoid nonvegetarian foods, eat once a day, and lifelong celibacy- symbolizing their ‘coolness’ or
infertility. Unlike men, who were encouraged to remarry, women's remarriage was rare and often
legally disadvantageous.

The widows were believed to be in a permanent state of death impurity. This rendered her
perpetually inauspicious and barred her from participating in auspicious rituals, even her own
children's weddings. This directly complicated the understanding of the household, as a widow,
though physically present, was socially and ritually diminished, isolating her within the family.
While older widows might gain some authority and freedom in later life, their personhood
remained fundamentally altered by this unseverable bond between her and her dead husband,
complicating their place within the kinship structure.

In conclusion, Sarah Lamb's ethnographic work illuminates how the aging body in Mangaldihi is
a site of complex and often paradoxical negotiations, profoundly complicating conventional
understandings of household, kinship ties, and familial bonds in India.

Q. In what ways is the family implicated in the gendered process of

ageing?

While both genders grapple with the paradox of intensifying attachments (maya) in old age while
simultaneously needing to loosen them for a peaceful death, women’s experiences within the
family are notably more dynamic, often involving a painful 'unmaking and remaking of their
personhoods' at critical life junctures like marriage and widowhood, which stands in stark
contrast to men's generally more stable trajectory.

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However, the family’s implication in aging is profoundly gendered, with women experiencing far
more dramatic and often painful transformations than men. While men’s most important
connections are typically made once and tend to endure throughout their lives, women's
personhoods are repeatedly 'unmade and remade'. Marriage, for women, necessitates a
fundamental familial reorientation. It requires severing many of her natal connections and
forming new ones within her husband's family- a process facilitated by rituals where she absorbs
substances from her husband's household, symbolizing her integration into his lineage. The early
years of marriage are often described by women as periods of vulnerability, homesickness, and
loneliness, highlighting the emotional toll of this transition.

Widowhood, the expected final phase for most Mangaldihi women, is an even more stark
illustration of gendered aging. Widows face economic precarity, social isolation, and are
considered inauspicious. For Brahman widows, the family and society enforce strict lifestyle
changes, including wearing white, avoiding non-vegetarian foods, eating only once a day, and
lifelong celibacy. These practices are meant to transform her into a 'cool' and infertile state,
contrasting with the 'warm' married life. The ritual of bidhoba—breaking bangles, wiping sindur,
shaving her head, taking a 'widow's bath'—symbolically strips her of her married identity,
reinforcing her perpetual marginality within the family.

The rationale behind these strict codes is deeply rooted in family concerns, primarily the control
of female sexuality and the protection of family honor (naam). Women's bodies are perceived as
more 'open' and 'hot' than men's, making their sexuality a potential danger if unregulated. A
widow's sexuality, once awakened by marriage but no longer controlled by a husband, is seen as
particularly problematic. The fear of promiscuity and subsequent dishonor for the family drives
the enforcement of these ascetic practices. Widows, therefore, often conform to these stringent
customs not necessarily due to internalized beliefs, but to avoid dishonor and protect their
family’s reputation.

The family instills in women, from a young age, the value of devotion to a husband, which
continues even after his death, bringing 'merit and good karma' to the family. Conversely, a
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her husband's death indicates her failure, leading to blame and accusations within the family,
such as 'eating' her husband.

Crucially, the 'bodily connections and ties of maya' between a woman and her husband are
believed to persist even after his death, leaving the widow as his 'half body' (ardhangini). This
'unseverable bond' with a deceased husband renders her in a permanently diminished state and
makes her a perpetual outcast within the social fabric of the family.

This contrasts sharply with widowed men, who face no such lasting impact and can easily
remarry, revealing a profound asymmetry in gendered aging within the family. While older
widows might gain some freedoms and respect within the family, younger widows face immense
hardship.

Despite the dominant narrative of disengagement, there is also evidence of ambivalence and
resistance within the family. Individuals like Khudi Thakrun, Mangaldihi’s oldest resident, defy
the ideal of renunciation by remaining 'hot' and central, fully engrossed in family and village
affairs, continuously increasing her wealth and cultivating relationships. Her family and other
villagers express disapproval, worrying about her accumulating 'sin' and the dangers of her
excessive attachments potentially leading to her becoming a pestering ghost. This demonstrates
that while the family is the context for enacting ideals of disengagement, it can also be a site of
deviation and critique. This shows that family norms, while powerful, are not always fully
internalized or rigidly adhered to, and individuals navigate these expectations with a degree of
personal will and resistance.

In conclusion, the family in Mangaldihi is not merely a setting but an active, defining force in the
gendered process of aging. It is the primary generator and intensifier of maya—the deep
attachments that accumulate over a long life. Simultaneously, it is the crucial arena where
societal anxieties about excessive maya are played out, with family members, through various
practices and social pressures, encouraging the loosening of these ties for a peaceful death and
afterlife.

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Q. Trace the continuities and transformations in marriages with

reference to South Asia.

Marriage in South Asia, as expertly illuminated by Rajni Palriwala and Rajinder Kaur in their
insightful introduction to 'Marriage in South Asia' presents a complex analysis of enduring
traditions and dynamic transformations. Far from being a static institution, marriage in this
diverse region is a site of constant negotiation, reflecting deep-seated cultural values while
simultaneously adapting to the forces of modernity, globalization, and individual aspirations.

Complexity of Marriage in South Asia

Examining marriage in South Asia evokes a wide array of questions regarding its complexities,
changes, and continuities. Despite new public perceptions, love or self-choice marriages have not
replaced arranged marriages, nor has divorce supplanted lifelong marital unions. The discourse
surrounding marriage in the region involves various factors, including modernity, capitalist
development, globalization, and individualization, prompting a re-evaluation of theoretical
models traditionally used to understand it. Even outside the media glare, marriage practices are
evolving.

The Institutional Nature of Marriage

Marriage in South Asia is profoundly an institution, shaping both individual and collective
actions. Sociologically, whether arranged or self-chosen, it represents a structured and patterned
set of social relations and practices embedded in norms and values. Explicit social prescriptions
and sanctions from public bodies, the state, religion, and community underscore its institutional
character.

Key aspects of marriage as an institution include:

●​ Legal and Public Recognition: It makes an intimate relationship legal and public, even
if not always socially accepted, thus intertwining the "public" with the personal.
●​ Alliance Between Social Groups: In many South Asian cultures, marriage is more than
a relationship between two individuals; it establishes ties between social groups such as

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family-households, lineages, or clans, and often reiterates existing ones. It serves as an

alliance in structuralist and political terms, involving affinal relations, which can be
congruent even with self-choice or love marriages.
●​ Legitimization of Filial Ties and Continuity: Marriage provides social sanction and
legal recognition to filial ties, legitimizing children and impacting group continuity,
boundaries, inheritance, status, access to resources, labor, care, and support. This
dimension fuels families' and communities' control over individuals' marriages.
●​ Basis for Family-Households: Marriage remains significant in official value and
practice as the foundation for family-households. Its stability is considered necessary for
the care of the young and aged, protection of women, and societal well-being.
●​ Exclusion and Marginalization: As a pervasive and hegemonic institution, marriage
often excludes and marginalizes those who fall outside its parameters or never enter it,
such as the unmarried, divorced, homosexual, and widowed.

Shifting Frameworks in Marriage Studies

Research on marriage, kinship, and family in South Asia has undergone significant shifts:

●​ Early Scarcity of Research: Initially, there appeared to be a paucity of recent work on

marriage, leading to questions and criticism like that of Forte, about whether there was
anything new to add beyond spousal selection procedures.
●​ Theoretical Shifts: Studies in the subcontinent, alongside global trends, moved from
structural-functional to structural and then to cultural frameworks, yielding new
analytical insights
●​ Critiques and Decline in Interest: Schneider's (1984) critique of kinship studies,
highlighting biological premises, ethnocentrism, and implicit 'orientalism,' suggested
there was no transcultural category for kinship, which froze kinship studies in the US
academy. Bourdieu's (1977) critique of formalistic and legalistic models in kinship
studies, which viewed rules as sufficient descriptions, is seen as more pertinent in
explaining a decline of interest in the subcontinent.
●​ Displacement by Other Foci: The study of marriage did not disappear but was
displaced. As economic growth and population control became central ideologies,

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demographic change and reproductive behavior gained privileged funding. Social

demographers explored correlations between marital sexual behaviors, reproduction
strategies, and fertility levels with various socioeconomic factors. The assumed role of
the family in care and welfare also led to debates on the 'decline' of the extended
family-household, bringing marriage into focus.
●​ Gender-Focused Scholarship: A steady thread of scholarship emerged globally with a
new focus on women's voices and gender, aligning with Yanagisako and Collier (1987)
call for unified analysis of gender and kinship. Earlier analyses were re-examined
through a gender lens, focusing on women's lives, including the author- Palriwala’s own
study of feminine mobility in residential practices. These studies explored the ideology,
dynamics, and practices of marriage beyond mere structure and form, often examining
how capitalism favored patrilocal systems and male inheritance, affecting gender
equations.

Diversity and Continuities in Marriage Practices

South Asia is home to a vast array of religions and communities, each with cultural uniqueness
and specific marriage rules. Attempts to analyze change or continuity in marriage must consider
these manifold cultures and local variants.

●​ Regional Patterns and Distinctions: Early anthropological work, focusing primarily on

Hindus, identified key distinctions:
○​ Consanguineous vs. Non-consanguineous Marriage: Preference for
cross-cousin and uncle-niece marriage in South India and among Muslims, versus
the North Indian Hindu proscription of marriage between close kin.
○​ Residential Rules: Variation in post-marriage residential rules, with matrilineal
and bilateral groups in Malabar, Northeast India, and Sri Lanka not always
conforming to simple patrilocality.
○​ Marriage Prestations: Differences in marriage prestations between dowry and
bride-price.
●​ Gendered Implications of Diversity: The north-south divide in marriage practices
gained analytical significance with the rise of gender studies, linking to regional

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demographic patterns in sex ratios, age at marriage, and female empowerment. However,
these divergences are now being questioned, examining caste ideologies, widow
remarriage, and domestic violence.
●​ Persistence of Practices Amidst Rules: Despite stated rules, demographic and internal
stratification have led to high rates of non-consanguineous marriages among groups
preferring cousin marriage. Close-kin marriage, for example among South Indian Muslim
khandans, can maintain community identity, secular prestige, and enable conjugal
compatibility, sometimes even constraining dowry.
●​ Renewed Traditions: Practices like child marriage persist; in Bangladesh, it can be a
contemporary strategy to avoid or lessen dowry. The ritually marked deferral of
consummation also allows adherence to traditional norms while fulfilling modern goals
like women's education.

Economic Dimensions of Marriage

Marriage in South Asia is deeply intertwined with economic processes, moving beyond simple
modernization theses to a political and cultural economy.

●​ Impact of Capitalist Development and Globalization: These forces have affected and
utilized various forms, dynamics, and strategies of marriage, influencing gender
equations, conjugality, and love.
●​ Labor and Value of Women: In economies like plantations and small-holder farming,
marriage remains significant, controlling women's sexuality and granting rights to their
labor and earnings. Women's value as workers and earners can be exploited by parents or
in-laws. A daughter's marriage may be delayed to retain her labor and income..
●​ Dowry and Economic Strategies: Large dowries may accompany marriages of
educated, urban daughters, or migrant women may negotiate better marriages due to their
ability to pay dowries. Educated women might view dowry as a substitute for ancestral
property if legal rights are elusive, or to maintain good relations with brothers for support
in marital difficulties.
●​ Love Marriage and Economic Relief: For the poor, self-arranged or "love marriages"
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costs. This is also seen as a way to escape natal families where men are not fulfilling
support contracts (Lessinger).

Changing Matchmaking and Conjugality

Matchmaking practices are evolving, driven by factors like migration, urbanization, rising
education, and socio-economic differentiation.

●​ Evolution of Matchmakers: While most marriages are still arranged by parents using
extended family and acquaintances, new intermediaries include marriage bureaus, fairs,
newspaper advertisements (Majumdar 2009), and internet-based marriage websites.
●​ Changing Criteria: Traditional criteria like caste, language, region, and religion persist,
but with new emphasis on class indicators such as education, occupation, and income.
Newspaper and website profiles show gendered changes, with a growing emphasis on
women's physical attractiveness.
●​ Transnational Marriages: Globalization has led to growth in diasporic communities
desiring "traditional" marriages, using kinship networks, professional agents, and
anonymous internet sites to retain ties and stitch together fractured communities.
●​ Rise of Self-Choice/Love Marriages: Arranged marriage increasingly accommodates
the individual's role in spouse selection, involving a more complex process of matching
familial and individual goals. Self-arranged marriages are more frequent at the two
economic extremes: working and upper classes. These new freedoms, however, are not
always "unalloyed joy" for women, who may face suspicions from husbands or suitors if
relationships don't end in marriage.
●​ Re-negotiating Conjugality and Domestic Roles: While notions of love, romance, and
self-choice are prevalent, the internal workings of marital relationships are becoming a
focus. Conjugality is shaped by social and cultural expectations, which vary with descent
and inheritance rules. Women in matrilineal and bilateral groups often have rights to
property and return to their natal homes, providing support outside marriage. Even among
the Kolam tribe, infidelity is accepted despite desires for fidelity, easing insecurity and
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●​ Divergence from Dominant Models: The actual practice of conjugality often diverges
from dominant models projected by elites and media, which stress the co-resident,
nuclear family unit, male authority, and lifelong monogamy. Class is a critical factor;
while middle-class women may retain the "male breadwinner" value, they may not adhere
to it in practice, whereas for the poor, the idea of a providing husband is often denied.
●​ Love and Modernity: Love marriage and individualization are linked to democracy and
modernity, seen as choices based on personal satisfaction rather than family expectations.
However, economic independence often enables love marriages; otherwise, the burden of
conforming to norms falls on the bride. Even for gay individuals, the aspiration is for
conjugality within the institution of marriage, highlighting the enduring hegemony of its
legal and emotional models.

Activism, Legal Interventions, and Challenges

Marriage has long been a site for state intervention and social reform efforts, particularly
concerning gender.

●​ Colonial Influence and Legal Plurality: The British colonial state separated personal
from criminal and civil laws, resting on the assumption that personal law derived from
community and religious law. Victorian values influenced the administration of these
laws.
●​ Reform Movements and Contradictions: Nationalist and women's movements, along
with religious and caste associations, have agitated for legal reform or reinterpretation of
tradition, addressing issues like age of marriage, polygamy, dowry, and domestic
violence. Ideas of natural kinship and heterosexual marriage have often conflicted with
women's rights and gender equality concerns.
●​ Challenges at the End of Marriage: Social unease and activist mobilizations have
focused on issues at the end of marriage, such as widows' rights to property and
remarriage, and divorced women's rights to residence, maintenance, and guardianship.
The Shah Bano case in 1984 highlighted the close ties between marriage, identity, and
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laws, there's a commonality in the experiences of divorced and widowed women across
communities.
●​ Marital Violence: Discussions on dowry are tied to "bride burnings" and illuminate
marital violence. Studies often focus on the violence itself, inadvertently portraying it as
pathology rather than an issue embedded in the cultural and political economy of
marriage. "Honor killings," violent attempts to prevent self-choice or inter-caste
marriage, are also frequent in North India and Pakistan.
●​ Women's Agency and Economic Dependence: The power of marriage and the dread of
being outside it are deeply embedded in a gendered cultural and political economy. While
legal rights to residence and property can make a difference for women, a widespread
lack of secure property rights and cultural restrictions on women's paid employment
persist across regions. This economic dependence, combined with the sanctity of
marriage and stigma of widowhood/divorce, is central to the cultural politics of marriage.
●​ Ambiguity of Agency: Female agency in the intimate sphere often exhibits ambiguity
and inconsistency. Women may complain of abandonment but express readiness to return
to their husbands. Working-class Dalit women may leave unsatisfactory marriages but
face unstable informal remarriages. Middle-class women desire personal satisfaction
from paid work but admit it with hesitation. Choice is not merely self-choice or love
marriage but also the ability to say no to a match.

There is no simple linear trend towards the democratization of marriage in South Asia, despite
some increasing self-choice and divorce rates. While interpolations of marriage and gender
relations may be shifting, traditional forms and languages are invoked, and the institutional
hierarchies of marriage adapt to modernity.

Research on non-marriage, the never-married, and alternative intimacies is limited, but studies on
widows and divorce highlight the continuing hegemony of marriage as a pre-condition for social
citizenship, especially for women. The centrality of marriage to life strategies, mobility, and
healing in South Asia is evident across various aspects, including spousal selection, parental
authority, conjugality, and domestic ideals. Globalisation, including migration,
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marriage. The directions of change are complex and non-unilinear, requiring further exploration
into the diversity of practices and ideologies, and space for alternative models.

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Q. How ‘intimacy’ as a conceptual tool can sharpen our understanding

of self, subjectivities and social integration and social change at large?

Lynn Jamieson in her article, offers a compelling argument for the analytical potential of
'intimacy' as a conceptual tool. By meticulously defining intimacy and practices of intimacy,
clarifying its relationship to conceptual relatives, and illustrating its implications across diverse
cultural and historical contexts, Jamieson demonstrates how this concept can profoundly sharpen
our understanding of the self, subjectivities, and social integration at large, critically avoiding
Euro-North-American ethnocentrism and methodological nationalism.

At its core, Jamieson defines intimacy as the quality of close connection between people and
the dynamic process of building this quality. While acknowledging the term's varied everyday
uses, the article posits that intimate relationships are a type of personal relationship that are
subjectively experienced and often socially recognized as close. This closeness can manifest
emotionally, cognitively, or physically, though physical or sexual contact alone does not
guarantee intimacy. Importantly, Jamieson broadens the definition beyond mere deep knowing,
suggesting that knowing is but one of many practices that can create intimacy. The concept of
‘practices of intimacy’ is introduced as an extension of David Morgan's ‘family practices,’
referring to actions that enable, generate and sustain a subjective sense of closeness and
being attuned and special to each other. These practices, such as giving, sharing, spending
time, knowing, practically caring, feeling of attachment, and expressing affection, are not
exclusively about intimacy, but each tends to produce it. For instance, spending time together
implies an election to do so and privileged access to each other's time, including undivided or
quality time.

Jamieson emphasizes that the performing or receiving of practical acts of care, often downplayed
in academic discussions favoring self-disclosure, remains a potent practice of intimacy, where its
absence can undermine other expressions. Practices of intimacy can be both innovative and
habitual, shaped by legal, economic, and cultural conditions, and can even serve to
reproduce conventional arrangements. The fuzziness of the concept arises from its reliance on
practices that are not exclusive to intimacy, leading to overlaps with related concepts like trust,

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empathy, and respect. Research also suggests that elements of practices can be transposable,
meaning one practice can stand in for others, as seen in couples where expressions of love
compensate for inequalities in practical care. This detailed deconstruction of intimacy into its
component practices allows for a granular analysis of how relationships are constructed and
sustained, offering a flexible framework to understand social life beyond rigid categories.

The article further sharpens our understanding by clarifying intimacy's conceptual relatives, such
as love, family, and friendship. While intimacy complements categories like family and friends,
its subjective experience may or may not map precisely onto formal rules of relatedness. An
expectation of love and intimacy is deeply embedded in the ‘friends and family’ concept within
Euro-North American cultures.

Jamieson highlights that love and intimacy are conceptually close, often interchanged in
everyday language. However, love is more frequently conceptualized as an emotion, an
attribute of a person, and can exist without reciprocity or even a relationship with the loved
person. In contrast, intimacy always refers to some form of interpersonal connection,
typically a durable and mutually acknowledged pattern of interaction. Expressing love is a
practice of intimacy, but for such declarations to be authentic, they often need to operate in
concert with other practices. The crucial distinction is illustrated by relationships with
professional carers or sex workers, where practices of intimacy can occur without love, explicitly
marked as professional or commercial, though this boundary is often blurred or problematic.

Anthropologists have leveraged the universality of practices of intimacy to challenge

ethnocentric assumptions, such as the idea that love is exclusively a 'Western' practice. Even
when cultural differences are observed, fundamental similarities often emerge; for instance,
among the Lahu people of Southwest China, intimacy is manifested in harmonious familial and
social responsibilities, a form distinct from Western emotional attachment, yet still a powerful
expression of closeness. This analysis extends to arranged marriages (ex- Makassar people),
where rituals kick-start practices of intimacy, demonstrating that intense closeness can develop
irrespective of initial mutual attraction. The universality of friendship as a form of intimacy is
more contested, with some Western views positing it as the purest form of freely chosen
intimacy, while other cultures may not share this ideal. Nevertheless, friendship involving

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affection is found globally. This comprehensive mapping of intimacy's conceptual terrain allows
for a more globally applicable and less culturally biased understanding of human connection.

The analytical utility of intimacy truly shines in its capacity to illuminate the formation of the
self and subjectivities, as well as broader processes of social integration. Early 20th century
sociological accounts, rooted in symbolic interactionism, phenomenology, functionalism, and
psychoanalysis, placed close personal relationships at the center of constructing selves and social
worlds. Jamieson notes that Giddens restated the importance of intimates, particularly
parent-child relationships, in fostering ‘ontological security’—a subjective confidence in the
self's continuity and world order, crucial for individuals to collectively sustain social order.
Bourdieu's concept of 'habitus', the predispositions that shape an individual's comfort or
unease in social settings, also owes a debt to these traditions, with emotionally close others
playing a major role in its formation.

Some recent theoretical writing, particularly drawing from Michel Foucault's philosophy,
minimizes the role of intimates, arguing that individual selves are more profoundly shaped by
power, knowledge, and discourse. This view conceptualizes the self as inhabited by an inner
psychology that animates and explains our conduct and strives for self-realization as a
‘regulatory regime’ linked to the emergence of psychology and its deployment by states.

The article then critically examines the impact of globalization and digital interconnectivity
on subjectivities. The Foucauldian emphasis on mediated and imagined relationships aligns with
an age of global media. Concepts like Benedict Anderson's ‘imagined community’ and
Calhoun's ‘imaginary solidarities’ highlight how connections with unseen and unknown others
can provide social integration and shape personal identities. The ‘networked individualism’
proposed by Wellman and colleagues suggests a shift from traditional loyalties to more fluid
and dispersed social networks. Similarly, scholars like Illouz and Bauman have suggested that
mass media, by fostering self-obsessed individualism, can detrimentally affect the capacities to
sustain intimacy.

Jamieson, however, asserts that global media and circulating stereotypes of intimacy do not
necessarily erase the significance of intimacy with embodied, living others. While discourse
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interaction between media messages and personal experience is widely acknowledged. The
article posits an iterative two-way interaction: mediated discourse becomes incorporated
into the self, but this internal conversation interacts with the internalized legacy of
conversations with embodied and loved others. In media-saturated contexts, the legacy of
mass media discourse is always present in personal interactions, influencing how intimates
perceive themselves and act in their relationships. While global forces and discourse influence
subjectivity, the fundamental role of intimate, embodied relationships in shaping the self remains
critical, requiring a theory of self/identity development that accounts for both local and global
systems.

Furthermore, intimacy as a conceptual tool provides crucial insights into social integration and
change, particularly concerning parental authority and gender relations. In Western and
Asian contexts, a shift from traditional disciplinary parental authority to more intimate and
indulgent parent-child relationships has been observed. In Asia, concerns arise that globalization
and Western values undermine collective values. However, empirical research reveals a
reaffirmation of collective values through an intergenerational contract of reciprocal care.
The intensification of spending on children is rationalized as affection and a strategic
nurturing of gratitude, demonstrating how practices of intimacy can be consciously
calculated to ensure continuity of care across generations.

In Western contexts, Giddens's idea of parents and children becoming ‘as-if equals’ through
intimacy has been contested; parental power persists, with conversations with children
serving as both intimacy and surveillance. This highlights how practices of intimacy can be
enmeshed in the reproduction of generational power.

Similarly, intimacy can reproduce class inequalities. Annette Lareau’s article on unequal
childhoods notes how the class based cultural logic of child rearing often reproduces inequality
by cultivating certain behaviours in children. This demonstrates how seemingly personal,
intimate interactions within families can transmit class-specific values and dispositions,
reinforcing social stratification.

Regarding gender inequality, while the anthropological literature suggests an increasing global
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less clear. The shift from family based on social obligation to one based on chosen, authentic
love is viewed as a globalizing model, a claim to being modern. Yet, local and national gender
differences persist and can be re-institutionalized as well as subverted through practices of
intimacy.

For instance, the intense mother-child intimacy, particularly for mothers from disadvantaged
backgrounds, can come at the cost of their own sexual intimacy or personal fulfillment. For
migrant mothers, expressions of love might compensate for geographical distance, indicating
how intimacy can be sustained from a distance through ‘recognised suffering’.

Jamieson illustrates how the ‘modernity’ of intimacy can make otherwise inadequate
relationships palatable; women facing societal pressures, such as Taiwanese women whose
husbands take second wives after migration for jobs- find solace in new forms of intimacy,
including online forums or traditional refocusing on children or religion.

Young British-Pakistani women are often under close supervision by the family; this practice
coexists with educational support and marriages are arranged with extended kin from Pakistan to
subvert conventional male control, placing men as trailing spouses.

These examples demonstrate how the lens of intimacy reveals the complex interplay between
personal relationships and broader power structures, illuminating both resistance and
perpetuation of inequalities. In conclusion, Lynn Jamieson's article powerfully argues for the
analytical value of 'intimacy' as a conceptual tool for understanding self, subjectivities, and social
integration.

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Q. What is the sociological relevance of feminist insights into the family?

The sociological relevance of feminist insights into the family is profound and transformative,
challenging deeply entrenched traditional perspectives and paving the way for a more nuanced
and critical understanding of this fundamental social institution. Renate Bridenthal, in her article
'The Family: The View From a Room of Her Own,' meticulously outlines how feminist
scholarship has not only enriched academic debate but also fundamentally reshaped the questions
asked about the family, the methods used to study it, and the very concepts through which it is
understood.

Traditionally, the family has been viewed as a 'haven in a heartless world,' an institution expected
to provide togetherness and a stable foundation for individuals. Public discourse and even
objective observations of reality are often measured against these high expectations, leading to
alarmist questions like 'Is the family falling apart?' when perceived deviations occur. The formal
academic study of the family, as Bridenthal notes, emerged in 19th-century Europe precisely
when rapid industrialization seemed to be disintegrating family structures and unraveling the
social fabric. At this time, the family became a 'problem' requiring study for a 'solution,' often
driven by a concern for social stability and the reproduction of a smoothly functioning society.

Early studies, such as those by Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels, observed the dissolution of
working-class families under industrial capitalism, rooting family change in larger societal
transformations. Others, like Frédéric Le Play, sought an 'ideal family form' with stability as the
main criterion, often settling on the multi-generational, patriarchal 'stem family' as most
desirable, contrasting it with the 'vulnerable, unstable, modern family'. These early approaches,
while analytical, were often politically motivated and aimed at imposing or finding a norm,
largely defined by the middle-class bourgeois family, even when it was not numerically
representative.

The sociological relevance of feminist insights begins with a direct challenge to these traditional,
often male-centric and norm-imposing, perspectives. By the turn of the 20th century, the
burgeoning women's movement recognized that the 'woman question' was inextricably linked to
the place of women within the family. This perspective allowed for a closer examination of
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Post-World War II, as the locus of family studies shifted to the U.S., sociologists like William
Ogburn and Talcott Parsons viewed the family as a small social group focused on emotional
needs, with members assuming specialized, gendered functions: the father taking an
'instrumental-rational' role and the mother an 'affective-emotional' one. This model, still rooted in
a middle-class norm, considered variations as 'deviant or pathological'.

Feminist scholarship critically interrogated these assumptions by demanding a fundamental shift

in perspective: viewing women as individuals within the family rather than mere components or
anchors. This simple yet radical shift means perceiving women as people involved in familial
and non-familial activities, much as men have routinely been perceived. From this new vantage
point, everything about the family looks different: the activities of other family members, their
relationships, the distribution of goods and power, the struggles over both, the socialization
processes that reproduce gender-specific behavior, and the interaction of family members (not
just the family unit) with non-familial social groups. The core sociological question posed by
feminists became not 'what do women do for the family?'—an older, established question—but
'what does the family do for women?'. This reorientation makes women, previously often
objectified as simply serving the family, the subject of inquiry, allowing for a multidimensional
view that corrects earlier efforts.

The sociological relevance of feminist insights is profoundly evident in their impact on research
methodology. The inclusion of gender perspectives has refined the 'sociology of knowledge'.
Feminist scholars have begun to include female informants in surveys of both their own and
other cultures, a crucial shift from previous practices where their male colleagues often relied
mainly on male informants.

Furthermore, feminist research weighs the subjective experiences of power relations against
objective measures of relative power, and individually factors out women's contributions to and
consumption within the family economy. This methodological rigor brings previously ignored
experiences and economic realities into the academic discourse, thus enriching the data and
analyses available to sociologists.

Beyond methodology, feminist insights have critically re-evaluated key concepts central to
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1.​ Distinguishing Households from Families: A major challenge to the reified concept of
'the family' comes from scholars like Rayna Rapp. Rapp argues against treating 'the
family' as a biological given or a singular 'thing,' which often confuses discussions about
its norms, deviations, structures, and functions. Instead, Rapp proposes a crucial
sociological distinction between 'households' and 'families'. Households are the concrete
units where people pool resources, perform tasks, and effectively reproduce society,
particularly class-stratified society. 'Family,' in Rapp's view, is a more abstract concept, a
social definition or ideology about who should be living together within households. This
distinction is sociologically powerful because it explains the great variety of family
forms. For example, peasant families differ from those of urban wage earners or the
aristocracy because their respective households demand different kinds of social
participation. This sociological insight moves beyond prescriptive notions of what a
family 'is' to an analytical understanding of how 'family' operates as a social construct
shaped by material conditions and class structures.​

2.​ Deconstructing Mothering and Motherhood: Another apparent universal challenge by

feminist thinking is the activity of mothering. While seemingly rooted in biology
(childbearing and lactation), feminist scholarship has revealed motherhood as historically
and geographically variable. The prevailing Western form of raising children is
historically specific to advanced capitalist society, which paradoxically idealizes
motherhood while simultaneously isolating and marginalizing the actual act of
mothering. This mystification arose with industrialization, separating home and work into
distinct private and public spheres, with women and children relegated to the former,
often ruled by men from the latter. The social construct of 'motherhood' prolonged
infancy and assigned universal qualities like nurturance and self-sacrifice to women. The
increasing participation of married women and mothers in the labor force has revealed
this construct to be a 'double burden' of paid and unpaid work, eroding the notion of
'motherhood' as a full-time, 'natural vocation'. Feminists have responded by questioning
the entire concept, demonstrating that other forms of parenting exist, appropriate to
different material conditions, such as shared child-rearing with kin or non-kin in
non-Western or preindustrial societies. This analysis liberates women from being solely

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defined by their reproductive capacities, enabling their broader participation in society

without guilt.​

3.​ The Concept of Social Reproduction: Expanding on the critique of traditional family
studies, Bridenthal suggests the broader concept of 'social reproduction,' which
transcends the family unit to include other socializing agencies like schools, health
services, work relations, and the media. This concept allows sociologists to analyze not
only how reproduction occurs (different modes) but also what is being reproduced: how
gender-specific behavior is re-created, how individuals are daily reproduced through
services like housework, and the affective experience of women in households. This
provides a more holistic view of how society perpetuates itself, integrating the family
within a larger matrix of social institutions.​

4.​ The Social Construction of Gender: Feminist thinkers have also contributed to the
sociological understanding of gender as distinct from biological sex. Challenging
Freudian theories that implied 'anatomy was destiny,' scholars like Gayle Rubin, Nancy
Chodorow, and Dorothy Dinnerstein have analyzed the immense social effort involved in
creating and enforcing gender distinctions. They critique the patriarchal assumptions
embedded in psychological theories that consign adult females to permanent immaturity
or pathology, while scholars like Jessica Benjamin and Juliet Mitchell suggest that the
patriarchal family, while historically significant, may be becoming obsolete. This
provides a critical sociological lens for examining how gender roles and power dynamics
are not natural but socially constructed and enforced within the family and wider society.​

5.​ Elevating the Status of Housework: Perhaps one of the most significant feminist
contributions, sociologically, has been to elevate the 'lowly subject' of housework to a
new level of theoretical analysis. Previously considered too 'trivial' by most male
scholars, feminists have raised critical questions about its economic value within the
larger economy, the social meaning of its changing technology, its relationship to other
family work like childcare, its psychological effect on the homemaker and its role as a
reserve pool for paid labor and as a market for commodities. Feminist research has

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strikingly revealed that technological advancements like microwave ovens and vacuum
cleaners, while 'labor-easing,' have not been 'labor-saving'. Instead, they have bonded
housewives more firmly to increasingly stringent hygienic and aesthetic standards,
demanding 'gleaming surfaces' and allowing more women to perform their own
housework. Furthermore, childcare often competes with housework for time and goals,
leading to the sociological observation that a neat home and a happy child can be
contradictory. This analytical rigor has demystified the home as a workplace and shed
light on why the 'happy homemaker' might be prone to depression, alcoholism, and drug
abuse.​

Finally, feminist sociological insights have courageously 'unmasked' the family, moving beyond
its idealized greeting-card image to reveal it as a locale of intense intimacy that is not always of
the loving kind. This sociological x-ray has exposed widespread instances of incest, rape,
battering, and 'murder of the soul,' revealing the family's oppressive relations alongside its more
clichéd supportive ones. The family, from a feminist perspective, is understood as a political
arena where individuals compete, form alliances, and struggle over unequal distributions of
resources, control over women's reproductive capacities, life-affecting decisions like migration,
and the apportionment of space and leisure. This leads to the profound sociological realization
that 'family harmony exists, but it is an achievement, not an omnipresent, given, natural
condition'. This perspective, by acknowledging power dynamics and struggles within the family,
offers a far more realistic and complex understanding of its internal workings and its relationship
to broader societal structures.

In conclusion, the sociological relevance of feminist insights into the family, as articulated by
Renate Bridenthal, is multifaceted and enduring.

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Q. Outline the role of economic factors in the historic evolution of family.

In his seminal work, A Treatise on the Family, Gary Stanley Becker posits a revolutionary
perspective on the evolution of human societies, asserting that rational economic choices,
fundamentally driven by self-interest, underpin the vast majority of human behavior, extending
far beyond conventional purchasing and investment decisions to encompass intimate aspects of
family life. Becker challenges the notion that the family remained static prior to recent decades,
highlighting its radical transformation from primitive and peasant societies to its modern Western
form. His economic approach conceptualizes the family as a 'sort of factory,' engaged in the
production of essential goods and services such as meals, shelter, and childcare. By applying
theories of production to household behavior, Becker was able to formulate predictions
concerning critical family dynamics, including family size, divorce rates, and the evolving role
of women in the workforce.

Becker's central premise provides a robust lens through which to understand both the long-term
evolution and contemporary developments of the family. The economic approach, though
speculative and broadly sketched, effectively portrays the principal drivers behind these
transformations. A significant portion of this evolutionary journey involves the family's
adaptation to, and interaction with, prevailing economic environments, particularly concerning
the management of uncertainty, the transfer of knowledge, and the allocation of resources and
labor.

In traditional societies, as exemplified by primitive and peasant communities, economic life

was characterized by pervasive uncertainty and severely limited information. These societies
grappled with substantial ignorance of the material world, fostering an environment where
phenomena like witchcraft, superstition, and sorcery thrived. The harsh economic realities
included alarmingly high rates of child mortality, with many children dying before the age of ten,
and frequent widowhood occurring before the tenth year of marriage. Agricultural endeavors
were precarious, with harvests vulnerable to destruction by bad weather and pests, while herds
and prey faced threats from predators and diseases. Even routine transactions were fraught with
uncertainty regarding the quality of goods and the integrity of buyers and sellers. As noted by an
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maldistributed, inefficiently communicated and intensely valued,' making the 'search for
information one lacks and the protection of information one has' a primary concern.

Economically and socially, traditional societies tended to be static and stationary, experiencing
little cumulative change in techniques used for farming, hunting, fishing, or other activities.
While individual families might experience fluctuations due to luck, ability, or extended periods
of plagues and unusual weather, the overall societal structure remained largely unaltered. Given
the absence of formal insurance programs, these societies developed various informal
mechanisms to cope with uncertainty and ignorance. For instance, individuals experiencing a
good harvest, catch, or kill were strongly encouraged, and even required, to share their good
fortune with others. A crude, albeit costly, method of mitigating fluctuations in crop income,
common in peasant societies, involved the use of open fields with physically scattered plots of
land, serving as the best available protection against the vagaries of weather and pests.

Critically, the family—or more accurately, the kinship group—assumed paramount importance in
traditional societies largely due to its economic function as a protective mechanism against
uncertainty. The prevalence of gifts in many primitive societies primarily served to assist kin,
and individuals facing distress could reliably depend on their relatives for aid. The kinship group
functioned as a reasonably effective 'insurance company'. Its relatively small size, even when
extended, allowed members to effectively monitor one another, thereby preventing 'moral
hazards' such as laziness or carelessness, and generally discouraging members from exploiting
the protection afforded by their kin. Furthermore, the close proximity and shared living
arrangements of kin ensured that the characteristics and behavior of members were well-known
and easily observable.

Within these family 'insurance companies,' altruism played a significant economic role. Altruism
is considerably more prevalent within families than in other organizational structures. Becker's
'Rotten Kid Theorem' illustrates that even self-interested family members are incentivized to
incorporate the interests of altruistic members into their behavior. This is because selfish actions
would ultimately harm the selfish member by reducing the time and resources that altruistic
members would otherwise allocate to them. This concept of family insurance also reconciles
seemingly disparate views on scattered land plots, suggesting that plots scattered due to partible

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inheritances simultaneously reduce fluctuations in family income, thereby diminishing income

fluctuations for individual members through the mechanism of family insurance.

Beyond insurance, traditional families also served as crucial economic institutions for knowledge
transfer and occupational training. Older people commanded significant esteem in traditional
societies because they had accumulated knowledge exceptionally valuable to younger
generations within stationary environments. This knowledge was primarily transmitted through
the family via inherited culture, passed down to children, nephews, and other younger relatives.
Specialized skills and knowledge possessed by the elderly concerning their jobs, land, and other
assets were more readily conveyed to younger people with similar family backgrounds. This
inherent continuity meant that younger members often pursued the same occupations and tilled
the same land as their parents and other relatives, benefiting from the specific knowledge
acquired from their elders.

Indeed, families in traditional societies functioned as 'small specialised schools' that trained
individuals for particular occupations, land management, or specific firms. They also took on the
responsibility of certifying the qualifications of their 'graduates' in situations where qualifications
were not easily verifiable through other means. This importance of family 'schools' explains why
peasant farms often remained within the same family for numerous generations and why families
specialized in producing specific types of workers, such as soldiers, clergymen, merchants,
farmers, or servants. Often, families possessed the rights to produce graduates for specified
occupations and were held accountable for poorly prepared or dishonest individuals. A major
implication of this system, according to Becker, is that caste and feudal systems were not merely
about wealth redistribution to upper-class families; rather, these systems relied on families to
train and certify their members for particular occupations, especially since more effective
methods for occupational distribution were unavailable. Families held accountable for their
members' performance would guide, and if necessary, compel members into activities where they
could best contribute to the family's overall reputation and opportunities.

Marriages in traditional societies were among the most economically significant events, leading
families to exercise considerable control over the choice of mates. Families sought to avoid
affiliations with 'dishonorable and badly managed families' that might frequently seek help or

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damage their own reputation. Conversely, two families might forge alliances through multiple
marriages, a practice seen in the 'connubium' of primitive societies. Marriage among cousins and
other kin was common in some societies, partly because it reduced the risk of an undesirable
affiliation by keeping marital ties within the extended family. Under these circumstances,
marriage for love was generally not sanctioned unless it also served the family's economic and
reputational interests. While concubines might be loved and discreet affairs overlooked, families
had too much at stake in their members' marriages to permit love to undermine family objectives.
Even in cases of unhappy marriages, the families involved would often discourage divorce if the
union continued to provide benefits to them. The deep importance of kin in traditional societies
is further evidenced by the emphasis on kinship and descent, and by the many distinct terms for
different types of kin even in primitive languages. Family names, if they existed, were carefully
preserved as valuable assets or 'trademarks,' and ancestors were highly respected, often
worshipped, for their accomplishments, with families typically not tolerating criticism of them.
The intense economic interdependence meant that the privacy of members was often 'invaded'.
Unmarried individuals were chaperoned to prevent unwanted pregnancies, married women were
secluded in some Islamic societies to prevent affairs, and contacts with other families were
controlled to prevent behaviors that could harm the family's reputation or increase its obligations.
The behavior of each member directly affected the well-being of the entire kinship group.

The advent of modern societies brought about a dynamic economic environment that profoundly
reshaped the family. Markets began to facilitate trade and production, and technologies, incomes,
and opportunities evolved rapidly. Consequently, the knowledge accumulated by older members
became significantly less useful to younger generations than it had been in static traditional
societies, as the young faced a vastly different economic milieu. The 'small family schools' that
once prepared members for specific traditional activities became inefficient compared to larger
public schools drawing students from many families, which taught general knowledge adaptable
to new environments. The certification of qualifications, once provided by families, is now
supplied by schools and formal examinations.

Economically, modern societies offer alternative, more efficient mechanisms for functions
previously handled by the family. Family insurance, through gifts and loans to members in
distress, became less necessary. Individuals gained the capacity to 'self-insure' by borrowing

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capital from the market during difficult times or saving during prosperous periods. Furthermore,
market-based insurance, drawing on the collective experience of thousands of families, provided
far more effective protection against risks like fire, death, old age, ill health, and other hazards
than any single family could.

Consequently, kinship diminished in importance in modern societies because market insurance

replaced kin insurance, market schools replaced kin schools, and examinations and formal
contracts supplanted family certification. This shift had profound social and individual
implications. Kin became less concerned with monitoring and controlling members, and
crucially, they also became less capable of doing so as members dispersed geographically to
pursue their best opportunities. Elder members and ancestors received less respect and attention;
they were less likely to be defended against criticism and more likely to be publicly criticized or
discussed privately, perhaps even in a psychiatrist's office.

The reduced economic importance of the extended family translated into greater freedom and
privacy of action for members, particularly for those in middle-class and upper-class families, a
level of autonomy previously available only to the poor in traditional societies. The evolution of
marriage choice reflects this shift: children gained the right to reject spouses chosen by parents,
then the right to choose subject to parental veto, and eventually, the right to choose with minimal
parental opposition. This transformation occurred because 'personal rather than family,
compatibility' became the primary criterion for marriage. Modern societies thus present a
seemingly paradoxical combination of numerous 'love-marriages' coexisting with high rates of
divorce, both outcomes reflecting a greater emphasis on individual choice and compatibility over
familial economic alliances.

In terms of fertility and investment in children, modern societies exhibit a distinct pattern:
parents have fewer children but invest significantly more time, money, and energy into each
child. In traditional societies, a substantial portion of the investment in children was made by
grandparents, aunts, and other kin due to their collective interest in the children's well-being and
behavior. As a result of this sizable commitment, modern parents are often more profoundly
affected by the death of a child and generally exhibit greater concern for the welfare of each
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behavior towards parents who have invested heavily in them, as the welfare of children whose
parents make substantial investments is closely tied to the welfare of those parents.
Economically, this intense investment strengthens the bond within the nuclear family, making
them more affectionate and closer in modern societies, whereas in traditional societies, cousins
and more distant kin typically maintained closer relationships.

In conclusion, Gary Becker's economic approach offers a compelling and comprehensive

framework for understanding the historical evolution of the family. By conceptualizing the
family as a unit that makes rational economic choices and adapts to changing market conditions,
Becker reveals how pervasive uncertainty and limited information in traditional societies
necessitated the family's role as a primary economic safety net, an 'insurance company,' a
specialized educational institution, and a certifier of occupational qualifications. Marriage, in this
context, was fundamentally an economic and reputational alliance, subject to strict familial
control. The transition to modern societies, driven by dynamic economic environments and the
rise of robust market institutions for insurance, education, and occupational certification,
fundamentally altered the family's economic functions. This shift reduced the economic
importance of extended kinship networks, granting individuals greater freedom, privacy, and
autonomy, leading to the rise of love-marriages and higher divorce rates, and a reorientation of
investment towards fewer, highly valued children within a more affectionate nuclear family.
Becker's work thus powerfully demonstrates that the profound transformations in family
structure and behavior are not merely social phenomena but are deeply intertwined with, and
often driven by, underlying economic factors and rational decision-making in response to
changing opportunities and constraints.

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