A Married State

By Katherine Philips
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Detailed Analysis
Lines 1-2
A married state affords but little ease
The best of husbands are so hard to please.
The opening lines of A Married State by Katherine Philips reveals a rather negative outtake on
marriage. While the majority of young girls dream about their wedding day, few think about the
realities of what marriage really means. Many poems were written about love. They contain
romanticized notions of marriage. These opening lines contradict the theory that marriage is
happily ever after. In fact, right away the speaker lets the readers know that it is not easy being
married. She claims that being a married woman “affords but little ease”. She also makes the
proclamation that even the best of husbands cannot make marriage easy, for they “are so hard to
please”. It becomes clear at this point in A Married State that the speaker believes that her job in
marriage is the please her husband, and she clearly believes that he is hard to please.

Lines 3-4
This in wives’ careful faces you may spell
Though they dissemble their misfortunes well.
With these lines, the speaker reveals that this unfortunate circumstance is one that is a well-kept
secret. She suggests that new wives hide their disappointment, and hide it well. She also suggests
that marriage is in fact a “misfortune”. However, she also implies that the discontent can be seen
on the faces of wives. If only people would look more closely, they would see that the faces of
wives are “careful”. The speaker does not reveal exactly what she means by the use of the word
“careful” to describe the faces of the wives, but readers can gather from the context of A Married
State, that the wives are very careful never to let the disappointment show on their faces.

Lines 5-6
A virgin state is crowned with much content;
It’s always happy as it’s innocent.
In these lines, the speaker contrasts the state of marriage with the state of a virgin. In Phillips’s
time, a respectable young lady was either a virgin, or she was married. Thus, the speaker in this
poem assumes as much and proclaims that virgin girls experience more satisfaction than that of
their married counterparts.
Lines 7-8
No blustering husbands to create your fears;
No pangs of childbirth to extort your tears;
With these lines, the speaker explains her reasons for making such a claim as she made in lines
five and six. She explains that “blustering husbands” actually “create…fears” in their wives. She
also goes on to explain the “pangs of childbirth”. The speaker does not mention childbirth as
miraculous and joyful as many women do. Rather, she presents the other side of this experience
and paints a picture of a woman in the pangs of childbirth, crying tears of pain. The use of the
word “your” in line eight allows the reader to step into this position. A Married State, in fact,
seems to be written for the sake of virgins who pine for marriage. Here, the speaker explains that
they will live in fear of their husbands, and will have to experience the pain of childbirth which
will “extort [their] tears”. She does not mention any of the joys of childbirth or marriage. Perhaps
this is because she has not experienced joy in either marriage or childbirth, or perhaps this is
because she believes that virgins have heard enough about the joys and not enough about the
pain and the fear. For whatever reason, the speaker leaves out any trace of joy in marriage or
childbirth and focuses on the physical and emotional pain that both bring about.

Lines 9-10
No children’s cries for to offend your ears;
Few worldly crosses to distract your prayers:
In these lines, the speaker continues to describe marriage and the result of marriage: motherhood.
She does not speak of the joy that her children bring to her. Rather, she tells those young virgins
that if they remain single, they will never have to hear “children’s cries to offend [their] ears”.
Then, the speaker references the Bible in her pleas with virgins to remain single. She claims that
without a husband, there are “few worldly crosses to distract your prayers”. This inadvertently
corresponds to 1 Corinthians 7:8 which says, “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is
good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should
marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” It would seem that the speaker is only
able to understand the truth of those words when it is too late.

Lines 11-12
Thus are you freed from all the cares that do
Attend on matrimony and a husband too.
In these lines, the speaker continues on the theme of the freedom that comes with the single life.
She explains that an unmarried woman is “freed from all the cares that do attend on matrimony
and a husband too”. Thus, rather than viewing marriage as something to be sought after, the
speaker views it as something to be given up in favor of the freedom offered by the single life.

Lines 13-14
Therefore Madam, be advised by me
Turn, turn apostate to love’s levity,
Until this point in A Married State, the speaker has pointed out all of the difficulties of marriage,
but she had not outrightly advised against it. Therefore, the reader could still wonder whether the
speaker would shift tone and begin to expound upon the blessings of marriage. She does not. In
these lines, she explicitly advises her single counterparts against marrying. She blatantly asks
them to “turn apostate to love’s levity”, which means to turn against the idea that love is a
frivolous or light matter. She asks the single women in her audience to renounce love and to give
up the idea of marriage in favor of the single life of a virgin.

Lines 15-16
Suppress wild nature if she dare rebel.
There’s no such thing as leading apes in hell.
With these closing lines, the speaker leaves the reader wondering what her exact meaning really
is. It is clear that she calls her single counterparts to suppress any sexual feeling that may arise
within them. She calls sexual desire “wild nature” and pleads with virgins to suppress her “if she
dare rebel”. The last line of A Married State is vague. Reader’s wonder what the “apes” refer to
and why it matters that there is no “leading [them] in hell”. It is possible the speaker views
marriage as leading her husband, and then claims that there is no marriage in hell, and so there
will be no need to lead her husband there. It is also possible that “ape” refers to the wild sexual
desire she referred to in line fifteen. In this case, the last line would mean that there is no sex in
hell.
It is interesting that she uses the term “hell” rather than “heaven” for it would seem that both
would make her point. After all, the Bible does say that there is no marriage of man and wife in
heaven. It is also implied that there is no sexual intercourse in heaven. Therefore, it is possible
that the speaker intends to proclaim not only her contempt for marriage but also her lack of belief
in God. She must conclude that this will result in her going to hell, if there is such a place.
Therefore, she ends her poem by stating that her single counterparts should refrain from
marrying because it will only cause discontent on earth, and because there is no marriage in hell,
the place she believes she will be going if there is such a thing as an afterlife.