INTRODUCTION spiritual depth and physical health.
Stressing your masculine or
feminine essence into a falsely balanced persona affects virtually every part of you.
Many people with true feminine essences manifest a whole range of disturbed
physiological symptoms as their feminine energy "dries up" due to running excess
masculine energy through their body, year after year, in order to fit into the masculine
style of work. And many people with masculine essences, seeking to fit in with the
feminine style of cooperation and energy flow, disconnect from their sense of life
purpose and inhibit their deep truth, afraid of the consequences of being authentic to
their own masculine core. Hence, the frequent complaints about too many ballbusters
and wimps. Furthermore, when you deny your true core you deny the possibility of true
and real love. Love is openness, through and through. And true spirituality is the
practice of love, the practice of openness. A person who denies their own essence and
hides their true desires is divided and unable to relax into the full openness of love. Their
spirit becomes cramped and kinked. Unable to feel the natural ease and unconstrained
power of their own core, they feel threatened and frightened. This fear is the texture of
their inability to open fully in love. Such a person is spiritually handicapped, obstructed
at heart, even though they may have achieved a safe relationship and a successful
career. So, as a culture, we have advanced in terms of personal freedom, sexual
equality, and social rights, but we have remained spiritually thwarted and afraid. For the
sake of individual autonomy and social fairness, with only good intentions in mind, we
have erroneously begun to deny, smooth out, and neutralize our masculine and
feminine differences. In doing so, people often end up denying their deepest core
desires, which are rooted in their true sexual essence. A lot of people today think they
have a balanced sexual essence, but in most cases they are actually suppressing the
natural desires which spring from their real masculine or feminine core. It is important
to admit what is real if you are going to really deal with your life. The Way of the Superior
Man focuses on many of these issues which we often sidestep or deny. For example, if
you truly have a balanced sexual essence, then you are just not that sexually distracted
by anyone. But if you are, for instance, a heterosexual man with a true masculine sexual
essence, then you will be more or less constantly sexually attracted to feminine women
you see all day, at the workplace and on the street. To married women as well as
teenage girls. As long as they shine the feminine light, you will feel the pull. How do you
turn this potential sexual problem into a spiritual gift? If you have a masculine sexual
essence then you would probably admit, if you were being brutally honest, that your
intimate relationship is just not as important to you as the "mission" in your life—but
you still want a full and energetic intimate relationship, perhaps quite badly. How do you
deal with this often misunderstood dilemma? To answer questions such as these as
clearly as possible, I have chosen to write this book as if speaking to the most common
case of a masculine sexual essence: a heterosexual man with a masculine sexual
essence. As I've said, there are many other possible arrangements of gender, essence,
and sexual preference. You could, for instance, be a heterosexual woman with a
masculine essence married to a man with a feminine essence, or a homosexual man
with a masculine essence married to a man with a feminine essence, and the principles
in this book would still apply to you. But I trust the reader to make the appropriate
adjustment in wording for his or her own unique case if it is different from this most
common one. I suppose the book could have been called, "The Way of the Superior
Person With a Masculine Essence," but the whole thing would become unwieldy if I tried
to unfold every possible permutation of
