Introduction 3

Gender Roles: Biological Differences in Dating, Sex and Marriage 7

High Status Man: How to become the most desirable man in your town? 16

How to Approach Women: Alternatives That Don't Involve Fear, Guilt, or Shame 26
The High-Status Approach 30
The Storyteller Approach 34
The Impulsive Rule 37
When Women Want You To Approach Them 40
How to approach women on social media 42
How to make a woman approach you 44

Attract Women By Understanding and Leveraging the Subconscious 48

Body Language 50
Neuro-Linguistic Programming 52
Attractive male body language 53
Posture 54
The “Mouthguard Technique” 58
Sitting Down 60
Positive And Negative Body Language 63
Female Body Language 65
ABEST Method 69
Asking Questions 70
Body Language 72
Eye Contact 73
Personal Space 74
Touching 76
Framing 80

Making her Comfortable: Where the Relationship is won and lost 83

Mirroring 92
Pacing 94
Rapport 95
Showing Vulnerability 102
Moving Places 106
Bonding game 112
The Rule of Thumb 117

The Moment of Truth: From First Base to Hitting a Home Run. 119
Mistakes Men Do When Going For The Kiss 121
The Prince Charming Method 123
 Hand Squeeze Method 126
Qualifying 128
The Undeniable First Kiss 130
Hitting the home run 131
Hyper-Emotional State 133

Conclusion: You’re Now a Master in Sexual Attraction 136

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Introduction
I had always been in love with this girl.

But when I opened up my heart and told her, she told me she only saw me
as a good friend. This shattered my world all to pieces. It felt like the sky
had fallen on top of me and there was no hope left inside my body.

How can someone that I loved so much not see what we truly could have
become?

Like fireflies at night, how many moments did we miss just by turning away
from each other?

Nowadays, whenever people ask about the girl that broke my heart, all I do
is mumble incoherently because there's nothing worth saying anymore
after that one sentence uttered back then--a sentence which changed
everything forever.

Just like many men around the world, my quest to learn how to be more
attractive to women started when I got friend-zoned by a very close friend
of mine. It was such a surprise, at least for me.

I had wanted to show her how much she meant to me, but with every event
that we had together, I felt like she was slipping away.

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I would always tell myself "Next time! Next time!"

And then when the next opportunity came up again there would be a good
reason not to go. It's hard looking at your best friend and seeing them look
at you in such unfamiliarity.

It was a tough decision.

I finally decided to tell my best friend how I felt about her, and she rejected
me.

We had been friends for years, but it became clear that this friendship was
not going to be the same after our conversation. Now every time we would
hang out or talk on the phone, there would be a part of me wondering if she
was going to change her mind and suddenly profess her love for me too!

But then when we hung up, the next call or text from her would come in
with more excuses why she couldn't see me again or what's happening in
her life like nothing ever happened between us.

I was friend-zoned HARD!

(Nowadays, looking back, I am not surprised that I was friend-zoned.)

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But I tried to stick with it, believing she would eventually come around and
realize what a great guy I was.

I started feeling more self-conscious about my appearance, which only

made me feel worse because it seemed like everything just spiraled out of
control from there.

I'm a pretty average-looking person, so I never really had an issue with my

appearance before. But as time went on, it seemed like everywhere I looked
there was someone more attractive than me and the compliments just
didn't make up for it anymore.

I spent the next years of my life learning everything about attraction and the
female brain just to make her desire me sexually the same way I desired
her.

One day, I came out victorious. She finally did. And, although it didn't last
long, I'm very grateful for this journey. From popping pimples to wearing
cologne, from dressing better to talking more confidently; I tried every
approach known to man, and everything helped me become who I am
today.

Today, after being with a lot more women, I am on a different level now and
it all started when I let go of what I used to be. And that's why you're
reading this book. Along my journey, I've experienced firsthand what works,

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what doesn't work, and which approaches have the most influence on a
woman's brain.

So whether you have a special woman in your life that doesn't desire you
the same way or you just want to finally have more success with women
overall...

My mission with this program is to mold you into the attractive men you
were born to be; the man that all women fixate on; the type of man that can
get any girl's attention by simply taking charge of what it is that is being
communicated unconsciously to the opposite sex.

Biologically speaking there are many differences between men and women.
Men tend to be attracted by the physical appearance of women. While
women have an emotional connection with men that's based on their
mind’s eye; this means what he says or does will play into how she feels
about his attractiveness. In other words, women are more attracted to the
psychological features of a man.

This program is for you if: You're interested in finding a more long-term
relationship but also if you just want to meet different women and live a
fulfilling life knowing that you're the epitome of masculinity. We've got
everything from body language techniques to neuro linguistic programming,
hypnosis, and advanced psychology covered!

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Gender Roles: Biological Differences in
Dating, Sex and Marriage
The goal of the human species is simple.

1. Survive

2. Procreate

3. Learn and grow as a species

The way we do that, biologically speaking, is through sex and dating.

But what if you're single and don't know how to date? What if you have no
idea what women want in relationships? How can you be a good partner
when you've never been in one before? That's where this chapter comes in.

This chapter will teach men how to become more attractive by

understanding their biological differences from females as well as learning
how they can improve themselves mentally, physically and emotionally so
they are not only able to find love but also give it.

We'll talk about gender roles and how they have shifted over time. This is
crucial so you can understand why women feel attracted to a specific type
of man.

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Everything will make sense after reading this chapter. It will also help you
understand why some techniques discussed later in the book, work on an
unconscious level in the female brain. So stick with me.

At the most basic levels, gender roles are defined by two sexes. In other
words, we are different genders for a reason.

It's not a coincidence that there are men and women. And while it may be
tempting to think of them as equal or the same, that is far from the truth.

Each gender has its own unique characteristics that set us apart and make
us what we are today. But it's hard to admit these differences today mainly
due to feminism and gender equality.

Either way, women are biologically programmed to look for specific traits in
men such as resourcefulness, hardiness, and intelligence. Men are
biologically programmed to look for specific traits in women such as
beauty, sensuality and fertility. These differences affect our relationships in
ways we may not even realize.

Let me explain: the number goal in the human species is to reproduce and
have offspring.

Considering that, men are mostly unconsciously attracted to physical traits

in women because they show that the woman is healthy and can carry a

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baby for nine months, which means she's fertile enough in order to produce
offspring with him (the man) and carry their lineage.

The female brain has evolved over time so it will be more receptive when
men display personality traits such as being protective or having what we
call "good genes."

This way of thinking comes from our hunter-gatherer days where females
were looking out not only themselves but also their children who would
need protection against predators like bears while hunting food on an
unprotected territory outside villages during wintertime.

In modern society, males are still attracted by physical features in women

because this shows a woman is healthy enough for childbirth; whereas girls
look at personalities which indicate if he can provide safety. So if you want
to attract more women in modern society then you need to work on your
personality.

In summary: Women want someone to protect and provide for them.

And the best way to show you can do that is by working on your personality.
If you want more women in modern society, then improve the way that they
see and perceive who you are by working hard at improving in their
perception of what makes a man attractive.

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The best thing one could do if trying to attract someone would be focusing
solely upon developing an excellent personality. This should help increase
attraction from the opposite sex.

"The key is to focus on developing an excellent persona". This should help

increase attraction from the opposite sex, and if you're looking at a person
who doesn’t seem interested in what they see then move onto someone
else because there are plenty of fish out here!" (I..e., other potential
partners).

By now, it’s far to say that women are much more emotional and respond
much more to how they perceive you mentally, so the key to attract them is
to attract them on an unconscious level by showing them that you have the
psychological traits that they are biologically programmed to look for.

"The key for men: don’t get discouraged". As mentioned before women can
sense when we aren't being genuine so make sure that everything about
you matches your words; otherwise she'll know something isn't right which
won't do anything good either way!

It may take some time initially but don't get discouraged when looking into
the big picture because I'll show you how to communicate effortlessly
through the use of many body language, neuro-linguistic programming and
psychological techniques that have proven to work all throughout life.

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The male is what drives most of the action here while the female kind of
needs help getting going when it comes to starting an activity.

There are many reasons why this is true but we will focus on one specific
one here to help you understand how some women prefer a man who can
take charge versus a man who will wait for her while she takes it slow.

So if you want to attract women In modern society you need to understand

the rules of attraction if you want any hope of attracting a quality partner.

But knowing those rules is easier said than done because most men don't
know what women are attracted to nor how to make themselves more
attractive to them.

Now that we have covered the basics on gender roles, we can move on to
our next topic, which is testosterone. Chances are if you're reading this
book, then you probably have a decent amount of testosterone in your
body.

Testosterone is known as the male hormone because it makes men

muscular and strong in addition to being aggressive and assertive (among
other things).

Men usually are more concerned about survival over dating and love. While
women tend to be more concerned with love first and then survival later.
Which is why the dating culture today is so skewed towards men.

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Most people assume testosterone is the root of all evil, literally. But it can
be a good thing if you know how to use it.

Most men are content using testosterone for things such as sex only, which
leads to common sexual disorders like erectile dysfunction or premature
ejaculation.

But there are ways to use this powerful hormone for things other than sex
that will make you more attractive to women for dating purposes.

Testosterone is the hormone that helps men become physically and

emotionally stronger. It gives you things like confidence, assertiveness and
courage.

It makes men feel protective of their loved ones and it is what motivates us
to act when we need to. This explains why women look for “masculine” and
“alpha” men. Because they have more testosterone thus have higher
chances of protecting them. Please, note this all happens on an
unconscious level.

The good news are: you can pretend to have high levels of testosterone just
by the way you carry yourself. We’ll get there in a minute.

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You probably may be under the impression that women have a lot of control
over who they date and marry. In reality, men are far more selective than
women when it comes to choosing partners.

This is one myth about gender in relationships that's worth debunking since
it has been shown to make us feel powerless in our own lives when it
comes to relationships and marriage. What society has taught us about
how the sexes think, behave with one another, and respond romantically is
just a myth.

The truth is there are biological differences in dating, sex and marriage. A
lot of the determinants behind who men marry and who women marry are
based on biology, not personal choice.

Men are more selective when it comes to dating and choosing a life
partner. Women have the power to choose whether or not they have sex,
but they do not have the power to choose a man's disposition towards them
based on their behavior.

Women can be wildly impulsive when it comes to sexual encounters, but

this is not true for men. While women are able to have a lot of control over
whether or not they engage in sexual intercourse with a man, they don't
have the same amount of control over whether he will remain
monogamous after he has had sex with her.

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Evolutionary psychology research shows that men are more selective than
women when it comes to choosing a life partner.

Men across cultures seek younger, healthier and more fertile women for
marriage. Women across cultures seek older, wealthier and higher status
men for marriage.

Men and women's brains are wired differently when it comes to their mating
systems. The reason why men are far more selective than women is
because men used these unique traits to their advantage in the past.

Throughout human history, men's behavior towards women has been a

display of how much they wanted to mate with them.

Men who were high quality mates would have children with that woman
and pass on their higher intelligence, health and resources for her to raise
the next generation of these valuable traits into future generations.

Women who were able to identify and select these high quality men
typically had children with them, while women who mated with men of
lesser quality were left out of raising the next generation and became
irrelevant to the human survival process.

This is why women are more likely to marry a man because of his
resources and personality than his looks.

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Even though women may be attracted to a man for his looks, when it
comes to choosing one for a relationship, women are more concerned with
what kind of provider he is. In fact, she will overlook even the most
attractive men if she feels that he will not be a good provider for her and her
children.

Evolutionary psychologists say this demonstrates that our brains are still
wired for success in the marriage marketplace. When women choose a
man based on how successful he is, she is more likely to have children with
him, while women who choose men based on his looks have fewer
children.

If you’ve ever wondered what it is that attracts women to men, we’ve got
your answer. And while it might not be the answer you were expecting, don’t
worry – it might just be what you need to hear. The truth is that women are
biologically programmed to look for certain traits in men. Luckily, these
traits can be easily attained by anyone who wants them!

I call the type of men that all women want - the “high status” man.

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High Status Man: How to become the
most desirable man in your town?

This chapter is the foundation for the rest of the book. This is what you’re
trying to communicate with all the techniques you’re going to learn, so it
makes sense to first learn what it is all about.

I call it “High Status”, and not “Alpha Male” because there’s some
differences between both. Nowadays, the term “alpha male” is seen very
negatively by most people, mainly due to the fact that a lot of guys try to
pretend that they’re “alphas” coming off as very insecure, inauthentic and
aggressive.

That’s not what I want from you going forward. Please, really try to grasp
what’s being shared and make an effort to make them part of your
personality. Not only women will feel more attracted to you naturally, but
you will also have a new outlook on life.

A high status man is socially dominant, respected, and admired by other

males.

Personally, I love being a high status male — but it took a lot to get there. It
starts with your body language and moves on to your behaviour. Every man
needs to put in work to become an alpha male. It's way too easy for people

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not to call you out or dismiss you as insignificant when you're not exuding
that aura of dominance and self-confidence that comes with being a
high-status male.

Let's dig in.

1. Confidence and self-esteem

Confidence is a core trait of the high-status male. This applies to everything

from social groups, to getting women, to just being a guy generally. If you
are not confident around women or other men, you're going to have a very
hard time attracting them.

If you get nervous or anxious about talking to people or are too afraid to
approach the group of people that you want to become part of, then you
will not fulfil your potential as an alpha male. It can be scary at first but it's
a skill that can be learned and honed with practice.

Self-esteem is a bit different. It's what you believe about yourself as a man.
If you don't think you're worthy of the things that other men have, then you
won't be able to approach them and become friends with them. It will not
happen.

These skills are easily learned by introverts and extroverts alike, by guys
who are socially dominant or completely non-dominant, by men in their
twenties or guys in middle age. All of them need to get these skills in order

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to be able to build themselves up into the kind of man that they want to be
around women and other men.

Many people make the mistake of thinking that being more confident to be
alpha is something you cannot achieve on your own, but this is simply not
true. Confidence is an attitude. It's a mindset adopted by someone who
displays a high degree of self-belief and assurance in one's self, abilities,
and talents.

The first thing you need to do is a reality check. It's important to understand
your strengths and weaknesses and accept that you are not perfect. We all
make mistakes, and we all have flaws or shortcomings. And this is ok.

Some people are just better at some things than others, and we all have our
flaws. So don't beat yourself up about it.

Another important thing to do is to understand what you want from life. If

you're not sure what that is, ask yourself; why do I want to be more
confident as a man? Do you want to be the best man in the world? Do you
want to be a great husband and father? Do you want to make more money?

You might not know it, but there's a certain desire in your heart.

Once you have a general idea of what kind of guy you would like to be, then
the next step would be getting past your flaws. We're all human, and we all
make mistakes. We all err in either our positive or negative direction. We

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might make a friendship or relationship mistake, or even something as
serious as a relationship where we have promised to take care of someone
in times of need.

There is nothing wrong with feeling guilty for making a mistake, but if you
feel guilty every time you do something wrong, then you don't have any
quality of life. Guilt is only an emotion that motivates us to do better the
next time.

It's unhealthy to feel guilty over every little thing, but it's important to learn
from your mistakes. So how do you get past your guilt?

First of all, stop beating yourself up. You don't have to tell anyone about
your mistake, and you don't even have to tell yourself about it. Just make a
mental note to remember this lesson and move on.

There's no need to feel shame or embarrassment if you made a mistake. It

happens because we're human. We're not perfect. And if we try hard
enough, we'll do whatever it takes to avoid feeling embarrassed in the
future.

2. Build strong friendships with other men

A high-status male is well-liked by other men — not just women. You could
be the most confident man in the world, but if you are disliked by the men

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around you, then you won't be able to make connections with them or
establish yourself as one of their own.

Get involved in local groups and meetups and go out regularly with your
friends. See your friends more than just once a week or every month — have
brunch on Tuesday and dinner on Friday and attend parties that they host.
Become known as someone who is trustworthy, loyal, funny, and an
all-around good guy.

Cool? You're not there yet.

3. Practice your body language

One of the most obvious signs of a high-status male is his body language —
i.e., the way he holds himself in social situations and while walking around,
and even when standing still. Would you let a man walk by you who
slouches or slaps his knees on the ground? I think not!

If you're walking behind a guy who has taken two steps back and stands
with his feet wide apart, then he's likely an alpha male to me. We’ll have an
entire chapter dedicated only to body language.

4. Calm and relaxed.

To put it simply — don't appear nervous. If you're talking to someone and

shaking or jittering nervously, then it's going to be very off-putting. Instead,

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keep your feet flat on the ground and make sure that you aren't bouncing up
and down, or over-extending yourself (i.e., leaning toward someone too
much). Keep good posture!

Something else that comes with confidence is a calm tone of voice.

Remember: if you sound like you've got something to prove, then you
probably do; but if you're just speaking normally, then it will come off as
natural and easygoing.

5. Be optimistic

One of the things that attract women is being optimistic. If you are positive
every day, the whole world starts to look like it is in perspective. You attract
people who are also positive and optimistic. It becomes a contagious thing.

One of the things that women find attractive in men is when they can see
that he has an invisible shield around him. It’s a sense of power or control
without even saying anything or trying before words and actions have been
tried. With a low-pitched voice, they may sound more confident than with a
high-pitched voice, but this alone doesn't mean they will be considered
high-status males.

The aura of calmness that they emanate throughout the day is what
attracts women.

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High-status males are much more than just strong. But to be a high-status
male, you need to be able to be confident and not feel scared in front of
people. It isn't necessary for them to be huge or physically powerful, but
they do need a great sense of self-esteem.

You have to look at yourself in the mirror often and say "I don't feel ugly."
You should have an attitude where you always see what is good in yourself
and place it in front of everyone else as well.

6. Humble and respectful

Being high-status is also about being humble and respectful. You don't
need to prove you’re better than other men. If you're a high-status male,
people will respect you. You don't need to get into a confrontation with
anyone to show them how "high-status" you are. Developing empathy is a
part of being high-status too. You've got to put yourself in other people's
shoes and see things from their perspective. Women will notice everything
unconsciously, so if you're not paying attention to other people, they'll
notice it.

There's a big difference between being a high-status male and being an

ass. Being of high-status is about respect, empathy, and listening. It’s not
about playing games or trying to force your way into someone else's life.

You need to take the high road. You need to be respectful at all times and
you need to show that you care. Being high status doesn't make you a

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better man; it just means that you have the potential to be one of the best
men in the world if you put your mind to it and work at it every single day.

7. Ambitious and goal-oriented

If you want to be high-status you need to be ambitious and confident. It is

important that you act as alpha to your friends, girlfriend, and family. You
must be someone who always takes risks, someone who is not afraid to
show yourself in public or speak up. Lastly, you need to have charisma with
other people so they can notice your qualities easily.

To be a high-status male it is critical that you are a risk-taker with charisma

and self-confidence. It is easy to be a beta male and stay home and whine
all day, but that doesn't get you anywhere in life. If you want to be
high-status, then you must demonstrate a willingness to have adventure. If
you are only doing what everyone else is doing, then you will never
distinguish yourself from anyone else.

To be a high-status male it is important that you are ambitious and chase

after what you want. You must make it a point that you treat women like
princesses, you must always do things in style such as speaking up in
public or going out with friends on an adventure. Lastly, your family must
know how important they are and how much they matter to your life. It is
crucial that they know this by caring for them like royalty.

And last but not least…

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8. Be a man with values

If you’re looking for a way to distinguish yourself in today’s competitive

dating marketplace, it’s time to stop chasing after physical beauty alone.
Women have always been the more emotional sex and they want stability
and determination in their men. If you can show that you are a man of
value, that will make you stand out from the rest.

The key is showing your commitment to being a man of values by

displaying those qualities in your life every day: honesty, integrity, honor and
loyalty among them.

Being a man of value is crucial to be seen as high-status, but many men

struggle with this. They have no sense of what it means to be a man of
values. If you want women to see you as one, here is a quick guide to being
a man of value:

Be honest – it’s not just a mantra for honesty when it comes to dating;
honesty is an important quality that men of value display in all their
relationships.

If something isn’t right, speak up and make the situation right. Honesty
goes beyond the obvious things like not lying or exaggerating your
accomplishments but takes on more subtle issues like being tired at work

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or taking on too much at home. If you don’t want to work tired or have a
wife who takes care of the house, then be honest and say so.

Be loyal – loyalty is a man of value’s greatest virtue. It’s his next thought
when something isn’t right with his relationship with a woman. If things
aren’t right, he goes back to what is right and does whatever it takes to
make things right again. Being loyal involves taking on more responsibility
for other men, but you can never be too loyal.

Be trustworthy – a man of value doesn’t just keep his word, he

demonstrates it by doing what he says he’ll do. Keeping your word is a sign
that you are a man of value. If you don’t deliver on your promises, you aren’t
being loyal by men of value and women won’t trust you.

Be honorable – honor is the reason men commit their lives to protect their
countrymen. A man of honor does right by everyone, no matter what kind of
situation he finds himself in, and defends his friends when they are
wronged.

Now you know that the most important is to show them your personality
traits and that you have what it takes to provide and protect them. That you
are a genuine High-Status Man. Trust me: when you feel like one, women
will notice it too. Their intuition is very good.

So take this as a good chance to try and be the best version of yourself…
not only to attract more women but also to live a more fulfilling life.

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How to Approach Women: Alternatives
That Don't Involve Fear, Guilt, or Shame

I want to address the elephant in the room.

You're scared of approaching women, and you feel guilty about it. I know
because that was me not too long ago. I had a lot going for me and I still
felt like something was missing like there wasn't enough meaning in my
life. It turns out that what was missing were women! All of them!
Everywhere!

But as soon as I approached one (and got rejected), all these feelings
would come rushing back: fear, guilt, shame... The list goes on and on.

So when people say they don't approach women because they are afraid of
rejection or whatever other reason they make up, this is why - but this
doesn't have to be your story too.

Look, when I was younger, I would always get anxious when thinking about
approaching a woman. This feeling was so intense that it often made me
not want to go out and meet new people.

It wasn't until some years later that I really started breaking this habit, but
before then, there were many nights of drinking to help calm the nerves.

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I want to show you how I overcame my fear of rejection and the other
feelings that kept me from approaching women.

And then, if it's something for which there is a solution (like overcoming
shyness), we'll talk about what can be done in order not only overcome
those fears but also make your life better by meeting new people -
including women.

In the first part, we’ll go over how YOU can start approaching women. In the
second part, we’ll talk about how to make THEM approach you instead.

So, let's get started!

The first thing I want to talk about is fear of rejection and how it can be a
major obstacle for those who are shy or have low self-esteem - which
includes most people in the world. It doesn't matter if you're afraid that
she'll reject your advances or that she'll reject you as a person - the fear is
still there.

In fact, that has a name, and it’s something all men feel - it’s called
approach anxiety.

Why? Well, back in the hunter-gatherer’s era, the only way to get a woman
was to go up, talk to her - and if she said "no," there went your chance of
reproducing because all the other females in the tribe would know that you

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were rejected by another female - thus showing that you were not a
high-status man, as discussed previously. These days, that's not the case.

But still, approach anxiety for men plagues 90% of guys (and it's confusing).

Why? Well, in the #1 female-dominant culture in the world, most men face
this anxiety at least a few times a week - and it's often over 90% of guys'
lives.

Now, it's not hard to figure out why this is so common for men: You're
taking the risk to be rejected by a female - whom the mating odds are
stacked against you.

And what's more, in order to get over approach anxiety, you have to go up
and talk to a female in public - which, again, is counter-intuitive for most
men (and women) in this age of hook-up culture.

But guess what? No one cares if you're rejected or not! It's just you and her,
and most likely, no one will even notice that you're nervous about
approaching. Life goes on.

How do I always manage to approach women in public situations?

Because of the approach systems that I developed - which helps me

overcome my fear of rejection every time I'm going up to talk to any
woman. It's a systematic way of approaching women that seems like

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"putting on a pair of glasses" - once you've done it enough times, it
becomes second nature.

Another reason that approach anxiety men have is that they face a
double-edged sword - the double-edged sword of female choice. Women
have the choice to either accept your overtures or not.

The thing is: if a woman chooses not to accept your overture, there's no
way you can come off looking guilty or pathetic for having approached her
in public in the first place.

If a woman rejects you...that's all she did - rejected you. You move on with
your life - nobody else cares about it. She's not all that special.

And you’ll realize that it didn’t feel that bad. The anticipation and the anxiety
before the approach are always worse than actually being rejected.
Actually, you’ll feel more of a high-status man than ever before!

The dreaded "doormat" syndrome, which is where guys do nothing but put
up with being "rejected" by women...is a stupid mentality, and yet I've seen
many men with this mentality.

The doormat guy never approaches a woman in public - no matter how

attractive she is. So, as you can see, the doormat guy is out of the running
from the get-go - so if she rejects him or finds him uninteresting (which, by
definition, he is), then he's lost out on his chance with that girl forever. He

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becomes bitter from losing out on "his one chance at love" - but in reality, he
basically gave up a long time ago for whatever reason.

So not only that...if you're a guy with approach anxiety - you don't want to be
a doormat. You can go through life never being able to talk to women in
public, and end up bitter - or you can go through life talking to tons of
women, maybe get rejected by some, but you end up happy.

That's what happens when you take the risk of approaching women. And if
she rejects you...well, so what? No big deal. You move on and talk to
another one. It's just that simple.

But the big question: What can you do to start approaching women like a
boss? Well, I’ve got two different methods to share with you.

First, we’ll go with my favorite one. I call it the “High-Status Approach” and
it’s all about just approaching women directly. No excuses. This has helped
me become the man I am today. Here are the steps:

The High-Status Approach

1.) First, believe that you’re a man of high status. The first step is actually
realizing that most men that have the balls to approach women, are men of
high status. You know that, and women know that.

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You'll always look better in a woman's mind if you approach her than if you
stand far and just stare at her like a creep. So if you consider yourself high
status, you won’t let the opportunity of meeting such a cutie slip through
your fingers.

2.) Approach her and say the first thing that goes through your mind. No
need to think about it. No cheesy excuses. Because if you think about it…
why should you justify your approach? You don’t. You find her attractive,
you want to meet her - so you do.

And she’ll appreciate it because most women are not approached as often
as you think they are.

You can say something like:

“Hey! I’m Eric. What’s your name?”

“Hey, I just saw you and wouldn’t forgive myself if I didn’t come over to say hi.
You’re too cute. What’s your name?”

3) Build a connection by being friendly and open.

This step is basically telling the woman that you are kind, willing to be
friends with her, and that you want to make a connection with her. This can

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be done in a variety of ways such as asking how she is doing, what she
does for fun, what she does for a living etc.

You can also ask for her input on things you may wish to do or what places
are cool in your city or country. But the most important thing about this step
is that it is very simple. Just act as naturally as possible and look out for
cues from the woman on how to proceed next.

After you have built a connection, build rapport by sharing some private
information about yourself.

4) Establish a deeper connection by revealing personal information to her.

After you have built a connection, the next step is to get the woman
intrigued about you. For example, if she asks you what you do for fun, tell
her things that she may find interesting and that reveal your high status
such as "I like to play sports, travel places that are not crowded with
tourists, try new food, and sometimes I like to go out at night and dance".

These things may seem simple but women want to know more about your
personality and interests. If she asks you another question or gives a
response after your telling her this stuff then act interested in what she
says. When that happens proceed with the next step.

5) Ask her for her contact so you can meet again.

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Once you are in a situation where you are both interested in each other, ask
for her contact. This is also where you must act with confidence.

Even if she says no, she will appreciate that you have asked her and will be
more receptive to seeing you later; women like a man who has some
confidence behind him. The best part is that, over time, this will make you
truly high status.

Once you've developed your system, and gotten over the initial stage of the
"noise" that comes from your approach anxiety, it's like putting on a pair of
glasses - the "automaticity" stage.

Approach anxiety - for the most part - becomes history. And you'll be
making much better, more optimal decisions when it comes to women, and
that alone will boost your confidence to new heights.

Ok, so that’s one type of approach. The next one is not as high status, BUT
it’s infinitely better than just staring like a creep. I call it the “Storyteller
Approach”. Why? Well, because you’re going to tell her a story!

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The Storyteller Approach

It's a classic scenario: A guy wants to talk to a girl he has just met, but can't
find an opening. He doesn't want to come on too strong or seem like he is
stalkerish. So what does he do?

The storyteller approach is one of the most effective ways for any man to
communicate with a woman without coming across as being creepy or
overbearing.

It's a way to connect with a woman without being too forward. Men who are
new to flirting and dating can benefit greatly from the storyteller approach,
but it is not always easy for some men to pull off.

The storyteller approach is all about telling stories that aren't designed to
lead up to a kiss or sex. Instead, they're about building comfort and trust
with your new female friend.

The storyteller approach makes it seems as if your goal isn't sex or dating,
but just getting to know her better. It gives you a way out should the
conversation take a turn for the awkward, because you don't feel like there
is any pressure to kiss her or tell her you want to date.

It makes it easier for her to open up to you and trust that you won't try to
take advantage of her.

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Is the storyteller approach right for everyone? No, not necessarily. Some
men will find that approach too indirect and too uncomfortable.

Women can also interpret these approaches in different ways, as well. You
need a good mix of assertiveness and confidence when using the indirect
approach to make sure that it is always effective in your favor, but never
pushy or aggressive.

The steps to strike up a conversation with a girl using the storyteller

approach are pretty simple.

1) You come up with a story or excuse to talk to her. First things first, you
need to have some kind of line prepared before approaching her. This is
your homework - coming up with witty and funny stories to tell her. It must
seem spontaneous and not an excuse to talk to her (if it seems like it, that
will make her perceive you as a low-status man).

2) You tell her the story or excuse and ask a few questions about it.

"Hey, could you recommend a good restaurant in town? I had this experience
once where I tried a random restaurant in a different town, and I found a
worm in the food!”

And then asking her what place she would suggest. You need to be able to
tell a story that is interesting enough that she will want to listen. You want

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this story to be something your friend or someone you know has told you
so that it doesn't seem like an original thought. You don't want it to sound
like a lie, but more of a scenario or trend that could happen.

Ideally, these stories should seem genuine and should make you look high
status and full of personality. Let me give you another example:

Let’s say you see a girl looking at books in your town’s library. You can
come up with something like:

“Hey, are you looking for your next book?” (she says yes or whatever)

“It’s just that I normally do my research first and look at reviews online. The
last time I made a decision on the spot, I immediately regretted it once I got
home. Now i feel like my life mission is to prevent other people from making
the same mistake!” (she laughs or says something random)

“Either way… what kind of book are you looking for? I might be able to help.”

Then you just keep talking to her and let the conversation flow. Now, as you
can see, something like this makes it look like it was destined for you to
meet somehow. Also, it shows her that you have standards and that you are
an intelligent man (P.S. Women love men that read!)

So, just prepared a few stories before going somewhere. There’s always a
chance to meet beautiful women regardless of where you’re at.

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3) You build some rapport and ask her for her contact just like in the
“High-Status Approach”.

Now, I’m going to let you in on two different techniques that I use all the
time. You should add them to your arsenal as well.

The first one, I call it the “Impulsive rule”.

The Impulsive Rule

For men who find themselves coming up with excuses not to approach a
woman, the impulsive rule might be just what they need.

The idea is that you should approach her immediately after seeing her. This
makes it easier because it forces you just to do it.

Here are the steps for the impulsive rule:

1) When you see a woman you want to talk to, start walking towards her.
You'll have some seconds before she gets away from you or enters into a
conversation with someone else.

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2) Say something. If you're too nervous to say anything, that's ok. Look her
in the eyes and smile. When you reach her, something will pop up. Either
one of the stories that you’ve practiced before or just a plain old direct
approach.

3) If she says, "Hi" back, then you can continue talking. If she ignores you or
starts talking to someone else, then politely walk away like nothing ever
happened. Don't worry – there are other women around who are looking for
some fun as well!

What is the impulsive rule good for? For starters, it gets you out of your
head and helps when you feel like getting stuck in your head.

When men get stuck in their heads they tend to talk themselves out of
approaching a woman because they're worried about what might happen or
what could go wrong. But if they just did it, they might be surprised at how
much goes right as well.

The Impulsive Rule also helps us stop being afraid of the unknown and get
out of our own heads. It gets us out there in the world to talk to women that
we would never otherwise approach.

It's a great way to help you stop thinking and start doing! How can you use
the impulsive rule? You can use it in any situation where you feel like
avoiding an interaction:

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You see someone you know across the room – Use it when you see an old
friend or co-worker. Approach them and introduce yourself.

You see a friend or colleague you don't want to talk to – Use it when your
least favorite co-worker or boss is taking a smoke break outside your
building. You can use it to open the door, and then decide if you want to
keep talking or not.

You see someone you'd like to meet – Use it when there's someone at work
you want to introduce yourself to, but after work, hours are too late and the
office is too busy for more formal meetings. Use it before leaving on a
business trip.

You see someone you'd like to date – Use it when spotting an attractive
woman at a bar or other social situation. Use it when you see an attractive
woman on the street. Use it when you're out and about.

You see a woman on the bus, subway, or train – Use it when you spot a
woman sitting alone that you'd like to sit next to. Approach her and strike
up a conversation. She might be more receptive than she originally seemed!

It's easy to be able to talk yourself out of doing something because of all
the reasons why it won't work out or why it might not be good for you. But if
you just get out there and do it, you'll find that it is a lot easier than you
thought.

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The Impulsive Rule helps by taking away the excuses not to approach
women. It sets a time limit so that you don't have time to talk yourself out
of doing something. It also gives you permission to approach a woman
without thinking about what her response will be or how she will respond
negatively.

The Impulsive Rule helps by being an ice breaker for your own nervousness
as well because it forces you to act in the present moment with her, instead
of worrying about what might happen in the future or worrying about what
could go wrong if she doesn't like you.

When Women Want You To Approach Them

Now, this next technique is a surefire way that tells you if a woman wants
you to approach you or not. And it's one that you'll love because it doesn't
require a lot of guesswork.

The first signal is that she's doing eye contact with you. And if she's looking
into your eyes for really long periods of time, then it's a clear sign that she
wants to talk to you.

The second signal is that she'll look at you and then away, and then back
again. And if she does these two things - it means she wants you to
approach her.

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But the third signal is actually one of the best ones because it means that
not only does she want you to approach her... but also that she's interested
in what you have to say.

So when a girl does eye contact with you and then looks down, it shows
that they're considering what they've seen in your eyes. And the more
they've seen, the longer they'll hold their gaze.

And what this does is that it triggers a reaction in her brain that she's
interested. And then she probably won't look down right away because she
wants to see more of it.

So when you see a woman looking at you, then looking down, and then
back at you again - you MUST approach her.

And you better approach her using the "High-Status Approach"!

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How to approach women on social media

Let's talk about striking up a conversation with a woman you don't know on
social media. Now, if you've got a moment and a selfie stick to spare, you
might be wondering how best to get that number. So what are the rules?

Well, first of all, don't try too hard — women will know if you're just trying to
"get some". They want somebody who is genuinely interested. Second of
all, strike up a conversation! You can't just say "hey", but it's not always as
hard as it seems. If the woman has posted something she finds interesting
(or funny!), then comment on that instead of being generic and asking for
their number.

As a guideline, you want to say something that has to do with what she is
posting or something interesting about her profile. Relevant comments are
always appreciated and leave you more room for some humor if you want
to go there. It's all in the delivery!

You might also think of some quip related to a current event that she is an
active participant in, which will impress her with your knowledge of her
interests and a great way to start the conversation.

Another great way to show up on her radar is to reply to her stories with
interesting comments. This works especially well if you do it from time to
time because it shows you’re not desperate and trying too hard to strike up

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a conversation. I’ve ended up meeting in person with dozens of women just
by casually replying to their stories 3 or 4 times before striking up a
conversation.

If she's not posting anything interesting (or amusing), try to think of a

common interest you have with her and reference that. A great way to start
the conversation! Starting off on common ground is the best basis for
developing a solid rapport, and it will make her feel like you're not just trying
to get something from her.

The last thing you want to do is send a generic message that is basically
just asking for their number. Women can smell dishonesty, so be upfront
about what you're trying to do and what your intentions are. If she's
interested in getting to know you better, she'll respond.

After saying something interesting and getting the ball rolling with her, you
want to ask her if she's down to meet you. Women have men texting them
every single day so you don't want to be one more getting lost in the
messaging app.

You say something like, "Do you want to meet? I'm much more entertaining
in person :)" Now the ball is in her court. If she responds "yes", then you're
golden! If not, then at least she's had some interaction with you and might
want to pursue things further later on.

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So don't be afraid to make a bold move and put yourself out there. If she's
interested, you'll have a lot of fun getting to know her better. And if not, no
hard feelings! At least you gave it a shot!

P.S. All of this applies to dating apps as well. You want to say witty and
interesting comments about herself and her interests.

But above everything else, please remember this: social media and dating
apps are all about numbers. So the more women you strike up a
conversation with, the higher your chances of success - because, after all,
you can’t show your high status through a screen as well as in person.

If you have the chance, you want to approach women IN PERSON and not
online.

How to make a woman approach you

It's every guy's dream to be approached by women instead of him having to

approach women. By default, men are biologically programmed to
approach women, and women have something called a filter mechanism to
filter out low status men. Women are very picky on who they will offer
relationships to because of the risk involved.

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But, from time to time, if you manage to show her that you are a high-status
man, then she might approach you first.

The biggest factor at play here is your body language. It is the single most
important factor to stand out to someone we haven't spoken with yet. We
will discuss this in-depth in the next chapter.

And the other way is through the social circle. This means, you shouldn't be
in a group - you should be by yourself - and she shouldn't be in a group, as
well. Women rarely approach a guy first, so if she's going to do it, she just
can't risk being rejected in front of her friends.

With that out of the way, if you ever find yourself alone near an attractive
woman that is also alone, let's take a look at how you can communicate
with her unconsciously that she can approach you safely. I call it the "I don't
bite Method":

1. Have open body language. A lot of people don't understand what the
term "open body language" means. I'm here to change that. Open body
language is when you have your arms and legs uncrossed and are
displaying comfortable facial expressions without hand signs that show
you are nervous or insecure.

2. Give her a reason to approach you. Ok, imagine you are in her situation -
you want to approach someone, you've probably never done it before, and
you have no clue what to say - how would you feel? Probably anxious... and

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you'd probably freeze in place. So "giving her a reason to approach you"
actually means, creating an easy opportunity for her to strike up a casual
conversation with you. More often than not, women opt for an indirect
approach.

Do you want an example? If you're at the library, pick up a book and start
reading it. It's easy for her to come to you and ask something about that
particular book or even books in general. Now, in this particular example,
it's important that you keep an open body language and a welcoming facial
expression.

3. Look at her from time to time, and when your eyes meet, smile slowly to
communicate subconsciously that you're approachable and a nice dude
overall. Repeat until she approaches.

Now, please, be aware that this might not happen. That sexy lady you've
been eyeing for the past 30 minutes might never come to you. They're just
not biologically programmed to do so.

BUT! If she's showing you interest by looking at you the way I taught you
earlier in this chapter, I'd definitely get my ass off the couch and approach
her myself. This is the best approach 97% of the time. Because it shows
you're high status, remember?

The only time I would not approach a woman first, was if I was genuinely
doing something more important. In the library example, if I really needed to

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finish reading that book for some reason, then I would keep reading and eye
her from time to time - if she approaches, fine; if she doesn't, it's ok as I
really had to finish the book either way.

As for social media, the best you can do is post interesting stuff that
communicates your high status. (I’ll discuss this in the next chapter). If
you’ve been following my advice and randomly replying to women’s stories
on social media, then by now, they are probably replying to your own stories
as well. So guess what? They’re approaching you!

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Attract Women By Understanding and
Leveraging the Subconscious

For the better part of my life, I struggled with women even though I was the
"perfect guy" model. Not physically, but in the sense that I treated them
nicely and had all the typical features women look for in a man.

But still, I wasn't having anywhere near the success I wanted. It took me a
while to realize what the problem was.

I started my journey of discovering everything about how the female brain

works and after many months, after trying most of the psychological
techniques known to man I finally started having some success.

It took me a while to get through it all because there was so much

information packed into so many different books and courses. But when I
finally saw the light, everything made perfect sense.

The subconscious mind of a woman loves intelligence and powerful body

language. Being intelligent and powerful with a strong body language is
more important than being rich, friendly, nice, funny, handsome, etc. All
these things are minor. When her subconscious mind feels that you're
intelligent and powerful, it can't resist you!

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If you want to attract girls, you must know this stuff. It's not hard to learn.
And since you're reading this now, I'm pretty sure that you want to learn
more about this stuff.

Besides, one of the most important steps to avoid ending up in the dreaded
friend zone is this one, so be sure you take your time and execute all these
crucial techniques that will help attract her.

The reason why too many men are stuck with a woman who only sees them
as a friend is that they didn’t get it right from day one. So start
implementing what you're about to learn now so that way when meeting
new women never again risk being sent into unrequited love limbo hell!

This chapter explains how powerful our unconscious minds can be on us

sometimes--especially for women who are constantly battling their own
thoughts versus making wise decisions based on facts or reasoning.

For example, some girls might find themselves drawn magnetically toward
guys without any good reason why; other times we might find ourselves
attracted to someone who is not a good match for us.

This chapter also discusses the importance of being aware that we are
constantly attracting people into our lives, and how it's
important--especially when dating or looking at potential partners in life-to
be mindful about what kind of person you're really drawn toward on an
unconscious level (and understanding what that happens).

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Because, if you think about it, our "intuition" and subconscious dictates
most things in our life. Even if you don't realize it. That's why you can attract
the type of woman you want - by hijacking her subconscious.

We're about to discuss body language and neurolinguistic programming

techniques for enhancing attraction in a potential partner. And don't worry,
because all of the techniques that we'll go over are adapted to the female
brain and have been proven to work time and time again.

Body Language

Why is body language so effective? Well, because humans begin to learn

how to read body language when they are children.

And it's a skill that we never really stop using. Over time, these skills mature
inside our subconscious mind. Which, as you know, it's much more
powerful than our conscious mind.

All our emotions are also in the subconscious mind, that's why when you
talk with your body, it's much easier to evoke emotions in women because
they will be listening with their subconscious - not with the weak, conscious
brain!

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This means you can use this knowledge in your favor when attracting
women. By now, you've probably heard that only 8% of what we
communicate is through words. The other 90% is through the way we use
our bodies to talk. Understanding and mastering body language can help
you achieve your goals, win people over, and get the success you deserve.

Body language refers to the non-verbal signals we give off through facial
expressions, gestures, posture, tone of voice, and eye contact. These
signals are often more important than the words we say.

It's easy to underestimate how much information body language sends and
how it affects our relationships. Often we judge a book by its cover without
opening it or realizing what goes on inside.

This is because body language can tell us so much about a person before
we even meet them- their moods, feelings, emotions, and intentions.

The importance of body language cannot be underestimated in our society

where communication is key to success but so many of us have
miscommunication problems. This has a negative impact on our
relationships, friendships, dating, and business skills.

So stay tuned because I'm going to give you a masterclass on body

language. First, we'll go over what is attractive male body language so that
you can start using it in your favor.

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Then, we'll go over the female body language and which behaviors are
indicators of interest and disinterest. Last but not least, we'll look at some
individual techniques you can easily plug and play to create uncontrollable
desire in the female brain.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Now let’s talk about neuro-linguistic programming, also known as NLP. NLP
is a great way to make an impression on someone.

Think of it as social engineering: you want your target's guard down, and
then change their opinions or thoughts by using words that are more
appealing than what they were expecting. You can use this technique in
everyday situations just as easily as for the ladies!

Neuro-linguistic programming is often used as a form of persuasion. It can

be designed in order to influence people's behavior or change their
thoughts and feelings. This technique is now being applied with great
success across many different industries but what about social situations?

The model of neuro-linguistic programming focuses on the processes of

perception, cognition, and behavior. Neuro-linguistic programming looks at
how perception influences cognition, which in turn influences behavior.

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It combines a number of different techniques for persuasion and
self-improvement. These techniques include hypnosis, neuro-linguistic
programming, behavioral science, behavioral engineering, and transactional
analysis. So can you see its potential when it comes to influencing the
female mind?

But don’t worry, while most techniques were not created with that in mind,
I’ve gone through most of them and adapted them - giving them my own
twist. And that’s what we’re going to learn in this chapter as well.

Over the next few pages, I won’t classify what you’re going to learn as being
“body language techniques”, “NLP techniques” or “hypnosis techniques”
because more often than not, they overlap each other and each model
borrows techniques from the others.

What matters here is that all of the techniques you’re about to learn work,
and that’s what we are looking for.

Attractive male body language

Let's start with attractive male body language. This is usually what women
are looking for. The most attractive male body language includes things like
confident, strong, or dominant stances. When a man stands or walks with
his shoulders back and his head up high (which projects an air of

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confidence), he's doing this for the woman in front of him and any other
woman that might be observing him from afar.

A man doesn't have to be physically attractive to have these traits. It all

comes down to being well-spoken and acting as a leader around women.

The key is learning how women perceive attractiveness differently than

men do and knowing how you come across when it comes time to talk with
a woman face-to-face.

It's also known that body language has the power to influence your
subconscious brain. This means that when you adopt confident body
language, your body will send positive signals to your brain thus making
you genuinely more confident. So the main trick here is: fake it until you
make it!

Posture

Let's start with your posture:

Stand or walk with your shoulders back and your head up high. This is one
of the most important things to practice if you want to be more attractive to
women.

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Stand up straight, but don't overdo it! You don't want to appear like a soldier
at attention. But for optimal attractiveness, it's a good idea to stand with
your back against the wall when you can so that you can check that your
posture is perfect.

The next thing to think about when developing attractive male body
language is: How do I use my hands?

Make sure your hands are relaxed, open, visible (no fists or tight gripping),
and next to your body. You don't want to appear threatening. You just want
to send the message that you're a confident person who will not resort to
violence or intimidation.

But how exactly do you communicate that in a nonverbal way without

literally showing that? By letting your hands be visible and loose.

You can also use your head, neck, and shoulders when sending messages
to women. For example: Look them in the eyes while delivering a speech or
holding their attention with an interesting story.

You can also ask them something while looking into their eyes (this is true
for any conversation). Women find this attractive because it makes them
seem more confident and engaging.

When you stand or walk with your shoulders back and your head up high, it
also sends the message that you're not someone to mess with. This comes

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across as masculine body language, but women do not find it threatening
like men often tend to in Western cultures. This body language is
considered very high status because when a man possesses this kind of
body language he's considered stronger and more dominant.

Remember to do eye contact with people while talking with them. Women
find this attractive because they tend to interpret eye contact as meaning
you're interested in them when you make it. But be careful not to use too
much eye contact or else your subliminal signals may come across as
intimidating.

When you're walking or standing with a confident posture, you'll also notice
that you have more space around you and other people might give up some
space to let you pass by them. This is yet another thing that will make
women feel comfortable around you and want to stay longer in
conversation.

Slowing down your movements and staying in control is also considered

very attractive to women.

This is because it creates a more calm, relaxed vibe. Women are more
stimulated by small, subtle movements than men are. When you're moving
slowly and purposefully it's an impressive body language that women will
connect with on a subconscious level, thus making you more attractive to
them.

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Here are the 3 steps I like to use:

1. Lift your chin and do eye contact with people.

2. Pull your shoulders back and show your chest.

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 3. Slow down your movements. Move slowly. If you’re standing, stand
with your feet shoulder-width.

You can start practicing this in front of your mirror to get a feel for it, but get
used to this posture and use it as often as you can until it becomes natural.
It’s truly a game-changer!

Now, I’ve got a FANTASTIC technique to teach you that will help you not
only nailing this posture right every single time but also make sure you’re
using it throughout the day. I call it the “mouthguard technique”.

The “Mouthguard Technique”

Imagine you’re going inside your room just like usual. But, this time, there’s
a mouthguard hanging at the level of your mouth, attached to a string

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attached to the top of the door frame. If this sounds confusing, here’s a
picture illustrating what I mean.

Now, imagine that every time you go inside your room, you bite on the
mouthguard and keep walking. According to physics, what happens if you
do this?

If you keep walking with the mouthguard inside your mouth while it is still
attached to the door frame…

1- Your chin will lift up automatically.

2- Your shoulders will be pulled backward and your chest will come
forward.

And VOILÁ! That’s the posture we’re looking for. All you need to do is
imagine that there’s this mouth guard in every single door frame you go
through every day.

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If you do it, you’ll adopt this posture every time you go to the office, to the
classroom, or to the café. And this is the best way to make a killer entrance!
Women can’t help but notice you.

Now let’s talk about your body language when sitting down.

Sitting Down

These are the steps to have confident body language when sitting down in
a bar or at a restaurant. But, overall, the most important thing is to look
comfortable.

1. Sit up straight in your chair and keep your back straight. NEVER SLOUCH!
That’s the worst you can do.

2. Keep your weight on the front of the seat and not on the back, you want
to look open to new ideas and people when occupying space to show
confidence.

3. Avoid crossing your arms in front of yourself as it gives off an aggressive

vibe signaling that you are closed off to others or feeling defensive about
conversation topics

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4. Avoid fidgeting with your hands and feet to show that you are confident,
calm, and collected.

5. Make eye contact with others but don't stare at them.

6. Smiling is always a good idea, it tells the other person that you are
approachable and friendly.

7. If you come across as using positive body language when sitting down,
you'll communicate confidence to those around you which in turn will boost
your own confidence level.

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8. TAKE UP SPACE! A high-status man isn’t afraid to spread his arms, legs
and take as much space as possible.

Actually, you should keep this “take up space” one with you at all times.
Have a look at some images and tell me they don’t look high status. (You
can’t, because they look high status as f*ck!)

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Now that we've gone through what attractive body language looks like, let's
look at what positive and negative body language is.

You need to know it in order to adapt and show either one or another when
interacting with a woman. Positive and negative body language is
dependent on the direction you're facing. Here is a simple explanation of
positive and negative body language.

Positive And Negative Body Language

Positive: Facing the person or people you desire to impress, whether they're
single or in a group (men and women). This tells them that they have your
attention and that you're open to communication.

The trick is: you can't show positive body language to a woman at all times.

She must earn it, or else she'll assume you're too easy and too interested in
her right off the bat. The best approach is giving her positive body language
when you approach her or at the start of the interaction, and then
immediately take it away so she doesn't assume you're too easy.

Negative: Facing away from the person or people you desire to impress.
This includes turning your body sideways (as if you're about to leave) and

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shifting your body weight over the leg that's furthest away from the person
or group of people.

Again, the key is not to use negative body language for long periods of time
when you want to have a more romantic encounter with a woman. If you do,
then she'll label you as someone who's not serious about her.

It's important to remember that just like with positive body language, it's not
always necessary to use it when trying to impress someone. You can also
use it as a means of protection from someone else who is sending out
negative signals.

So what you must aim for is a mix of positive and negative body language.
You should start showing her positive body language by facing her with
your whole body and leaning in, putting your weight on the front of your
feet.

Then, you switch to negative body language by pointing your feet to another
direction, as if you were about to leave. If she's interested in you, then she'll
pick that subconscious cue and invest more in the interaction so you don't
leave her hanging.

As you start noticing that she is invested in the interaction and interested in
you, you gradually face her again with your whole body as a way to reward
her for good behavior. This is extremely powerful but you shouldn't overdo

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it. With time, it comes naturally. From time to time, you can also lean in to
show her you're really paying attention to her.

Female Body Language

Too often men focus on the wrong things, leading to a lot of missed
opportunities. It is also common for men to think that women are
interested in them when, in fact, that couldn't be further from the truth - and
I know that because it happened to me very often!

But, after reading this chapter, you'll be able to spot when a woman is truly
interested in you. These kinds of signals can't be faked, so if you spot a
couple, you better not mess it up.

There are many ways that women show interest in men without actually
saying it out loud. In fact, there are tons of different actions and behaviors
that can help you figure out if she’s interested or not.

Luckily for you, we have compiled all these signals into one place so you
don't miss any opportunity with women who want to escalate things with
you. Please, understand that one signal alone might not mean much.

Your job is to be on the lookout for all these signals. The more you spot, the
bigger her romantic interest in you.

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Female romantic interest can be displayed in a number of ways, which are
part, or all of the following: facial signals, body language, and behaviour.

Facial signals include things like a woman looking into your eyes (for more
than 1-2 seconds); she'll smile at you more; she'll have somewhat dilated
pupils; she may tilt her head when talking to you (as if paying more
attention to you).

Body language includes things like a woman touching you; she may lean to
your side; she may touch you in public and make a play for it (borrowing).

Behaviour - the woman will initiate the relationship, so that she may be
seen by both parties as to the more desirable of the two.

Here are some of the most common signs that a woman is romantically
interested in you:

She plays with her hair and touches it when she's talking to you. This is a
way of being flirtatious.

When she is sitting near you, she leans towards you with an open body
position and/or rests her head on your shoulder.

When talking to the other person, she keeps looking back at you to see
what's going on.

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She shows her neck and tilts her head when talking to you. This is a signal
of submission and it's a very big one.

She makes a decision and then looks at you/asks if you would like it, or she
asks what your opinion is.

She touches the back of your hand as a signal of interest.

She holds hands with a romantic interest in order to convey her interest.

She laughs at your jokes. It doesn't matter if the joke is funny or not, just so
long as it makes her laugh and smile a little bit more than usual then this
means there might be something going on with how much interest in being
friends versus romantic interests they have for someone else.

She finds opportunities to touch you. This is a signal that the woman might
be interested in more than just being friends, and she is trying to give more
indication of her interest (and possibly intention).

Even if just subtly, you should pay special attention to this. Normally, it
happens if she’s really romantically invested in you OR if you have a great
relationship already. So pay close attention to see if you spot more of the
other signals.

She tries to keep the conversation alive when you stop talking.

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She asks you questions about yourself. This is a sign that she's interested
in getting to know more than just your name.

She gives you compliments.

She stares at you for a while and doesn’t look away when you look at her.

She points her feet at you. As you know, this is positive body language and
she’s telling you subconsciously that she wants you to talk to her. This is
especially useful if you’re in a group. Always notice where women’s feet are
pointing to. You might pick up some cues about who’s interested in who.
It’s a very fun game to play.

She touches you back when you touch her. This is also a very big one.
There’s a factor of reciprocity that we humans have. We feel compelled to
give back in most situations, so if you’re touching her, and she touches you
back - that’s a big one.

She doesn’t step back when you lean in or enter her personal space.

Now that you know what female indicators of interest look like, it's time to
start paying attention so you don't miss any of them. Because, sometimes,
women get bored of trying to show you how much they care for you, and if
you don't make your move in time, they'll just move on to another man.

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You lose your chance and are placed in the dreadful friend zone. And this
happens often, so don't miss out next time. Don’t worry, you’ll learn how to
make your move flawlessly in no time.

ABEST Method

I’m now going to teach you my “ABEST Method” which is responsible for
80% of my success with women - believe it or not. Why? Because it’s super
simple to remember and leverages the most results when it comes to
subconsciously hijacking the female brain.

I created it many years ago when I was still learning body language, NLP,
and primal attraction. I was reading everything I could get my hands on, and
instead of actually helping me improve… I was becoming too overwhelmed.
There were just too many techniques to remember - and most of them were
making me look silly or weren’t really that effective.

So I decided to come up with something that was easy to remember,

extremely powerful, and completely under-the-radar. And I did.

I call it the “ABEST Method”, and you should start using it as soon as you
meet a new woman. This is how it works: it is an acronym and each letter
stands for a technique you must apply. You must carve these deep into
your mind, and repeat them MANY time throughout your day.

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Eventually, they become automatic and you’ll start doing them every time
you feel like attracting a girl. That’s how I did it, and that’s how you’ll do it
too.

Ask questions
Body language
Eye contact
personal Space
Touch

So what you do is, repeat these in your mind many times throughout your
day. Especially when you’re about to have an interaction with a woman. You
repeat this internally, and you’ll know exactly how to behave (after reading
the explanation I’m about to give you).

Asking Questions

This one will help you keep the conversation going with little to no effort at
all. The mindset you must adopt is insatiable curiosity. Look at the woman
you’re talking with as if she’s the most interesting person on planet earth.

Do you know what I mean? You must develop this innate curiosity. Think to
yourself “I want to know everything about this person” because, if you do, it

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will show. She’ll be able to see that you pay attention to her and that you
find her interesting.

And, as soon as you adopt this mentality, you’ll start making better
questions. Don’t think that you’re showing too much interest or that you’re
being boring - you’re not.

As long as you actually contribute to the conversation as well with some

comments, you’re good to go. Just use common sense and don’t turn a
casual conversation into an interview.

Why does this work so well? Because the #1 women’s favorite topic is
always the same. Themselves. Actually, this is EVERYONE’S favorite topic.

We all love talking about ourselves, especially if someone’s paying us

attention and asking us questions about our lives. We love it. Have you ever
met someone that had a genuine interest in what you had to say and kept
asking you questions?

You start talking about everything for hours, and while the guy barely says
anything about himself, when you part ways, you think to yourself: “That
dude was cool. Hope I ever get to meet him again.”

All he did was ask questions and show some interest in what you had to
say. That’s it. Every time I meet someone new, the first thing I do is ask
some broad general questions until I can identify what are that person’s

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specific interests, then I start asking things about those interests. Works
like a charm.

Let’s say I just met a woman that looks super fit. I start by asking if she
practices any sport. If she says she plays Volleyball, then I instantly adopt
the mindset “volleyball is the coolest thing ever” and I start asking her
questions about it. And that’s it.

You must also develop what’s called “active listening”. Because, if you
listen to every word that escapes her lips, then the next questions will come
naturally to you. And while she talks about something, she’ll probably hint at
other aspects of her life, and you can use those to ask other questions and
dive into other topics later on.

You can also save these questions to restart the conversation if you ever go
through some “awkward silences”.

Body Language

Alright, we’ve discussed body language earlier in this chapter. Both your
body language and women’s body language. So this acronym is for you to
remember that you need to carry yourself with perfect posture at ALL
TIMES (you never know who’s watching).

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It also helps you remember the many female indicators of interest that you
must spot when talking to a woman. So this one is actually two things: it
helps you become more aware of your own body language, and it reminds
you of the importance of women’s body language.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is one of the easiest, most powerful ways to pay attention to
someone. To make someone feel heard, understood, and validated. The
simple fact of maintaining eye contact with a woman for a couple more
seconds than usual makes your relationship stronger.

In the hunter-gatherer era, our ancestors used eye contact all the time to
evaluate someone. That’s why it’s still so important these days. Holding eye
contact with someone creates intimacy and develops your relationship.
This has been proven by science countless times.

But there’s also a middle ground. You shouldn’t just stare forever. Look
sideways from time to time, but always try to hold your gaze one to two
seconds longer than what feels comfortable.

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Personal Space

Proxemics is very important when it comes to attraction. There are 4

distinct zones, which are intimate space, personal space, social space, and
public space. Everybody has a different level of personal preference with
proxemics zones. Intimate space is when you're in close proximity to
somebody else or when you're in their face because they don't like to be
touched.

Personal is the zone right next to somebody's body that gets violated as
soon as they start going into their intimate zone. Social range refers to the
area of conversational distance and goes from within arm span to standing
at a slight distance of about 1 meter or 3 feet away from them.

But we're here to talk about personal space. The personal space, aka
"personal bubble" is the zone around your body that you consider to be safe
for you. This space is violated when somebody gets close to you.

So there are 4 zones for attraction.

The personal space is huge if you want to get intimate with somebody
and/or make them feel at ease around you, which means that they feel
comfortable around you. If this zone is violated, it's a big turn-off because
they don't feel safe around you and they want to get away from your

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presence. Most people feel tension and anxiety when their personal space
is violated by someone they don't know very well.

In the book "The Art of Seduction", Robert Greene talks about how
seduction is all about getting to somebody's personal space. It makes them
feel at ease and comfortable around you because you've gotten to their
zone. This also increases the odds of a woman having sex with you
because she'll feel more comfortable and safe around you.

That said, entering someone's personal space is a strong indicator of

familiarity and intimacy. Women are used to having only those they trust
the most inside their personal space.

That's why playing with proxemics is so important. You can use it

strategically to raise the sexual tension at the right time and to increase the
sexual chemistry between you both. So get closer to her when you have the
chance.

As soon as you start feeling some comfort and bonding between you two,
you must start entering her personal space.

At first, she might become slightly uncomfortable because that raises

some tension. However, if she's attracted to you, that tension becomes
sexual tension - which is what you're looking for. It will also show her that
you're a high-status man that isn't afraid to make a move.

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Another positive aspect is that she'll get used to having you really close to
her and subconsciously, her brain will look at you as someone with whom it
can share some intimacy.

Touching

Touching is one of the most important things you can do. And you must
start as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the worse it gets. And this is
no seven-headed hydra, in fact, the longer you do it the more natural it
becomes. But you must do it.

Touching creates sexual attraction and intimacy. Surprisingly, most men are
afraid of touching women. So the simple fact of touching her shows that
you’re a high-status man. Besides, it creates a physical connection - which
is really important if you ever want to take her to bed.

If you don’t touch her, she won't get the message that you want to have
sexual or romantic intimacy with her. And if you don’t touch her, you will
have a hard time building sexual desire in her.

Women are very sensitive to touch. She can tell how strong your desire is
even with just a touch or two. If she’s not attracted to you, she won't show
any interest in dating or taking your womanizing further down the road.

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When you can make her feel good about herself, she will start thinking
about sex more often and getting horny without any prompting from you.
You can use this to your advantage by making things happen on your terms
rather than hers.

This leads us to the next point - touching makes her feel good.

And women feel good when they get that adrenaline rush. So she’s more
likely to agree with whatever you say or do. And if you can make a woman
feel good about herself, she will be more receptive to you and be naturally
more attracted to you.

It’s true that most women react positively when you touch them. It helps
build sexual attraction and opens the door for sex at some point, whether
it’s just making out or going straight for a full-on hookup later on in the
night.

And the more you touch her, the more comfortable she will feel around you,
which leads to her letting it all hang out. It’s a virtuous cycle.

It also sets up a sexual vibe between you two. And the way she perceives
you affects all her behavior. So if she perceives your relationship as having
a sexual vibe, she will behave more sexually with you.

However, there are two things that you must do to make touching work for
you when it comes to hooking up with women:

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Don’t touch her too much. Touch her at the right time and in the right
context.

We’ll go into greater detail about how and when in a bit. But let me start by
telling you this: every time you touch a woman, she's going to get excited
and respond positively - unless of course she's not attracted to you at all
(which is unlikely).

You might touch her a little too much, to the point where she thinks it’s
weird and doesn't feel that good about herself because of it. On the other
hand, if you don't touch her enough for too long, your masculinity will be
questioned and this can be a problem when you're trying to date or get
intimate with her later on.

The trick here is escalating your touch accordingly. By doing so, she’ll never
feel uncomfortable and she’ll never understand what you’re trying to do (at
least consciously). There are 3 levels of touch. You start with level 1 and
move onto level 3 - where, at that point, your sexual tension should be
extremely high.

Level 1 - Hands and arms

- Handshake
- Shoulder touch
- Subtle touch in her arm while you’re talking

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 - High fives when she agrees with you (or any other situation
- Hand holding
- Lightly bumping into her while you’re walking

You can get creative here and just touch her in her hand and arms when you
have the opportunity.

Level 2 - Legs and torso

- Rest your leg on hers while you’re sitting

- Rub your abdomen on hers while talking
- Touch her in her back when you have the opportunity
- Hugging
- Lead her somewhere with your hand around her
- Hold her torso with your hand while talking
- Putting your hand in her thigh

Level 3 - Face and neck

- Removing her hair from her face

- Resting your face next to hers while talking (ideal if you’re in a
crowded place)
- Touching her necklace
- Caressing her cheeks
- Putting her head in your shoulder
- Smelling her neck

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 - Running your fingers across her face while looking in her eyes
- Running your fingers in her hair

You get the point. So these are the levels you must know. Gradually move
up the scale to boost your sexual tension and to easily hit that home run
later on. (You know what I mean, you player!).

So this is the ABEST Method, and as I said, you should repeat this acronym
throughout your day until it becomes automatic. It’s a game-changer.

Framing

I'm now going to teach you a technique called "framing" and how you can
use it to make women try to win you over instead of you trying to win them
over. By framing the girl as the one who’s trying to get laid, she will feel an
urge to prove that she is desirable.

Ironically, to accomplish this goal, she must actively chase you which is
exactly what you were accusing her of doing. However, framing the girl as
the sexual aggressor can change the power dynamic in your favor while
also incentivizing her to start pursuing you more actively.

Some guys think that this technique is a bit mean or manipulative because
it implies that the girl wants to have sex with you just for validation. But I

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honestly don’t think framing a girl does any harm – in fact, it can be
extremely beneficial if you want to get more girls and not just the same
girls over and over again.

If you play your cards right, she will be so preoccupied with proving to you
(and herself) that she is desirable, that she won’t even care about her own
motives.

So how do you frame the girl as being the one trying to take you to bed? It’s
simple. Essentially, you are preaching to her your own confidence and
making her (and yourself) believe that she is trying to convince you that she
is sexy.

Here are a few examples:

“I must be really cool if a girl like you is trying to sleep with me.”

“You must really like me to come to talk to me.”

"I'm not sleeping with you tonight. No chance, girl."

"Are my lips that sexy? You keep looking at them."

This sounds crazy but just go with it because the more you play into your
own power, the more she will do so as well. This is part of seduction – a

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constant state of tension where both people feel that they are pursuing
each other and not vice versa.

If this happens, you will be able to relax around her and start having more
fun instead of having a big burden on your shoulders – trying to convince
her that she wants you and not vice versa.

Even if you don’t think the girl is trying to seduce you, it doesn’t matter.
What matters is that you play into how she might feel. It’s like a magic trick
where the magician makes you believe something that isn’t real but once
you see him do it, it becomes reality – even though your eyes weren’t
deceived in the first place.

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Making her Comfortable: Where the
Relationship is won and lost

Although you have now shown interest in one another, you still have to feel
like you know each other. You have to invest in comfort building because
comfort is actually what gets you the girl - the relationship is won in
comfort. If you fail to build comfort, you don't move on to the next step.

In fact, you will have had all of your work for nothing. Even if you do
succeed in building comfort, it's still not over - only 50% of the work is done
at this point. Now that you and the girl are comfortable with each other as
friends, what comes next is an important step towards a relationship.

If she hasn't realized by now that you 2 can have a great, natural
conversation together, this is the time to do so. in the future, when she's
deciding whether to return your phone call, you don't want her thinking "all
we did up until this point was talk about pets and the weather" If she's
thinking that, she's not going to be interested in spending more time with
you.

The same idea applies to the first date: no matter how great it was, if it just
consisted of talking about non-essentials, it probably didn't set a good tone
for a second date.

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This is the big reason most phone numbers are fake and why most women
stop replying to you and giving you attention.

It's not that they don't like you and it's not that they suddenly can't afford the
energy to focus on a conversation for an hour, it's more that they grew
accustomed to the shallow conversations you two had previously. Deep
conversation is a huge attraction point.

Not only that, but she must feel like the connection between you two was
real and genuine, no matter what you talked about.

When you're talking, you should show her that she's the only girl to talk to.
Any time a girl is talking to a guy, it's because she wants attention from him
in some way. Just as if she were talking to the most beautiful girl in the
room, she is trying super hard not to look like an idiot (a big ego check).

Your goal as a guy is not to have her look like an idiot, it's instead for you
and her to look like perfect gentlemen.

When you're with her and trying too hard, however - even if it's building
comfort - this means that your attempts are coming off fake or forced. If
you're just tripping over yourself trying to make her happy and you're
thinking "man oh man, I hope this girl likes me," that leaves a bad taste in
the girl's mouth.

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If she feels like you're a great guy, but she's never seen any effort from you
before (you did nothing more than try to impress her), then there is no way
for her to know if this was all an act. She must feel like you were putting in
as much energy as she was putting in.

If she has the impression that your time with her is always fun and exciting,
then she can think "wow, he really puts 110% into everything I'm doing. And
he believes that I'm a great and special girl."

It is better for her to feel like you're putting in all the energy for both of you
to have a fun time together, rather than the impression that you are putting
in all the energy for her and doing nothing but spending time with her.

This is because when she leaves, she will never forget how much effort you
put into trying to make her happy - especially if your attempts are always
successful.

The purpose of comfort building isn't just to spend more time with the girl
and enjoy each other's company, it's also to get her comfortable giving you
compliments or picking up on physical contact (which could lead
anywhere) by starting off slow. If you guys are starting off touching, it's a
good sign.

If she starts to flirt with you or play with you and you do the same back,
things can get really good when you progress towards an actual romantic

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situation. At this point though, it is still vital that comfort building continues,
even if it takes longer.

Girls like getting compliments from guys - a lot - but we don't often hear this
from our parents or other boys our age. Girls often don't give compliments
because we're taught by society that men are the ones who are supposed
to make us feel good and that looking for compliments is a sign of
weakness or "being clingy.

Girls will act more chatty when they aren't comfortable with you. This is a
good thing. If she's not comfortable talking to you, then she will be less
likely to want to talk about her life or express her feelings.

Once you become more comfortable together, however, things change.

What gives when the two of you are both comfortable?

Your conversations get deeper and more intimate. It's at this point that
playful flirting and compliments can be really fun and natural when hearing
an "awwwww" from someone you care about happens naturally without
thinking twice about it.

If you expect to have a natural conversation with a girl, you need to ensure
that she's comfortable talking to you. This is the purpose of comfort
building. The best way to get her comfortable is by being a great guy who
makes her feel good. There are three ways to make her comfortable:

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Be a gentleman and treat her with respect. Like I said earlier, be a
gentleman by having an effortless conversation and listening when she
speaks.

There's no reason why your voice should tense up in an uncomfortable way

in front of her or start getting shaky when you're trying too hard. Think of it
like this, she is already feeling really good because you are trying to get her
comfortable with you. Why make it harder for her?

You're trying to make yourself look great by having a positive impression on

the girl - even if you're not trying. You can't be afraid of looking awkward or
nervous if she's noticing. Some guys spend too much time trying to avoid
looking nervous and end up making themselves look worse than they were
before.

Just have fun, and don't worry about that. Women love confidence and
confidence comes from inner strength; it is a state of mind that comes
from inside, not something that you must try to fake.

Tell her about yourself. When a woman feels comfortable with you, she will
want to know more about you. She will ask questions to get to know your
passions, goals, strengths, and weaknesses. For this reason, it's important
for a guy to share his hobbies and interests with a girl he likes.

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If she senses that you are being selfish (i.e., trying not to tell her about
yourself), she may start to doubt your intentions and begin disliking you or
feeling uncomfortable around you for no reason at all!

Women love men who are independent and self-sufficient because they
don't have to worry whether or not the man will be there when they need
him the most.

On the other hand, the type of guy that depends too much on his woman by
wanting her to take care of him or make his decisions for him makes a
woman feel uncomfortable because she feels like he has no self-respect.

She feels like he's a man without any passion and doesn't know who he is;
she may even begin to resent him.

Create a good mood in the group. Talking about yourself is very important
in making her feel comfortable with you, but there are other things you can
do to help create an excellent mood in your conversation as well.

Pay attention to your body language and voice tone. Try not to smile if
you're not feeling happy. A lot of times, a guy will smile too much because
he is really feeling happy toward his woman. This can make her feel
uncomfortable because she assumes that he is only pretending to be
happy.

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If you find yourself uneasy around a girl, take a few moments to check out
how you are acting and then change your attitude accordingly before she
senses any tension between the two of you (i.e., it's not her fault). If you're
nervous in her presence, take a few deep breaths and relax your mind.

Then look into her eyes and smile. If you find it difficult to relax around a
girl, realize that she will understand that something is wrong if you don't act
naturally around her.

When talking to an attractive girl, it is quite likely that she will have different
standards than the average girl would have when it comes to dating.

Girls tend to be pickier than men are about the types of people they date, so
don't be afraid to express your feelings boldly when talking to a woman you
are interested in.

Now they will have a slight advantage. They will more easily be the ones to
be given a half-hour to present their case. They will be seen as more
credible than their accusers."

It's important to keep in mind that comfort building is a necessary step

towards a relationship, but once you get there, the conversation has no
limit. You can talk about everything you like and feel free to be more open
and honest with each other than with others.

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Of course, one of the first things a girl will notice when you're talking is
whether or not she feels comfortable around you. Just remember that the
good feelings she feels are much more important than how long the
conversation lasts.

If she isn't feeling comfortable around you yet, however, make sure to take
your time until things change before moving forward to step 2: socializing
(this could take months!).

if you feel like she isn't going to open up to you, it's better for the two of you
to separate for a while so that she can be more comfortable around you
when you meet again. You won't get rejected if you don't take another step
because there is still another important part before jumping in: Socializing!
she needs to see how fun and confident you are with other people.

If she doesn't know that, then she won't want anything to do with you.

Just as comfort building is a necessary step towards a relationship,

socializing is another important step towards dating. It's important to get
her to know you and feel comfortable with you in order to move further
forward.

There are several steps that lead up to the next step, socializing, and the
first one is comfort building. If she isn't comfortable with you yet, don't ask
her out yet. Wait until she is more comfortable with you.

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This process shouldn't take too long if it's done correctly: comfort building
should last about an hour or two depending on how much you guys talk and
how open she is talking to you. Usually, she will feel comfortable around
you after meeting once or twice.

When people don't have any chemistry with one another, they typically can't
focus on a conversation for more than an hour. If you guys have a great
time together and see each other again a couple of times, you can try to
make the next step towards dating by asking her out.

All in all, however, it doesn't matter how well your conversations go or how
many dates you get if you aren't bringing it together - the most important
part of attraction is finding someone who makes you feel good and happy
inside.

Other than that, let's go back to comfort building and see how to make it
really work.

If you are constantly trying to impress a girl, she will feel uncomfortable
around you. I should know - that's how I get all of my girls! If you want her to
feel comfortable with you, then she must sense that everything comes
naturally.

It is vital to gain your personal confidence back before talking to girls so

they can see that your personality is really the "natural" one and not
something you're forcing upon them.

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One of the best ways to make someone more comfortable with you and to
build rapport is by mirroring and pacing their movements.

Mirroring

If you pay attention to what a girl is doing and mirror her gestures and
actions, you can tell that she feels more comfortable around you. By doing
this, you are showing her that she wasn't just imagining it - you really are
the same way as she was when you first met.

To mirror her actions, match her body language by keeping an open posture
and showing that you're listening. You know when you're really giving
someone the attention they want when you mirror their expressions and
keep a smile on your face.

Keep up eye contact. girls are turned off by guys who look like their eyes
are somewhere else. If she notices that you're not paying attention when
she's trying to talk to you or that your eyes are wandering off somewhere
else, it's natural for her to assume that you're not a good guy or that you're
lying about something. It also makes her paranoid as hell, because she
doesn't know what you're thinking and feeling.

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The more clearly a girl feels like you understand her, the more comfortable
she'll feel around you. A woman who feels understood by a guy will open up
and allow him into her life. A woman who feels misunderstood by a guy will
shut down and become disinterested in him.

By mirroring her actions, she'll subconsciously feel more comfortable

around you. You can use this technique for many different things, including:

1. Mirror her body language (sitting or standing in the same posture as her,
or leaning in the same way) to indicate that you are paying attention and
that you feel at ease.

Mirroring shows a person that there is a connection between you and them;
it allows you to form a bond with another person without actually saying
anything. By simply sitting or standing in the same posture as she does,
you're showing that she isn't alone when talking to you. A woman will
subconsciously know that the two of you are on the same page and that no
matter what happens, she'll be able to rely on your support.

But you should be careful when mirroring someone. If you mirror

someone's words and actions too much, you may come across as a phony
or a wannabe. It's important to be careful and conscious of what you're
doing so that you don't come off as fake.

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Pacing

Pacing is a powerful technique for making someone feel comfortable and

it's based on the same principle as mirroring body language:

You're not trying to fake anything! Well, actually you are, but that's part of
the game. Women are just as guilty of mirroring body language and keeping
conversations upbeat in order to get along with others.

If you want to build rapport with a girl, then you should be leading the
conversation in a good direction. You should feel like it's being led by both
of you together. Talk about things that are interesting to her, and remember
her name so that she can feel like she is special to you.

If you're afraid that you'll come across as a phony or try to force yourself
into the conversation, then do your best to associate with people who are
naturally open and friendly in general.

You'll be more comfortable around people like that because they will make
you feel more comfortable.

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Rapport

When a girl has a good rapport with other people, she will feel less nervous
around them and feel more confident about talking to them.

There are two types of rapport: positive rapport and negative rapport.
Positive rapport happens when two people get along well and have an easy
time laughing together, without feeling like there's anything wrong with a
relationship.

Negative rapport happens when two people don't get along very well and
have a hard time laughing together, but there's still a connection because
they've formed a mutual bond.

You can learn the difference between good rapport and bad rapport by
looking at your relationship with your friends.

When you hang out with them, do you feel positive or negative towards
them? If you feel positive, it's probably good to build on that. If you don't
feel any connection, then you shouldn't bother trying to build rapport with
her if she's not going to like it.

Think about which words are the best ones to use when talking about
yourself, and avoid using words that may make her uncomfortable or afraid

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of you. If a girl feels uncomfortable talking to you, she may start to feel
unsafe and run away.

* What are some words you should never say?

* What are some words that you can use to make her feel comfortable
around you?

Remember: the best words to use when talking about yourself are the ones
that make others feel as comfortable as possible.

Don't ever lie or exaggerate who you really are. If she knows what's on your
mind, then she'll be able to imagine what it would be like to date you and
will eventually decide whether or not she agrees with your ideas or not.

A lot of guys get so into their own heads when talking to a girl that they
forget that she has a life of her own to go along with it. She'll be able to
relax around you if she feels like you're not scaring her.

Pacing is another technique you should learn about if you want to build
comfort when talking to a girl or around other people. It's based on the
same principle as mirroring:

Pacing is another very useful technique that will help you to build rapport
with girls and people in general.

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The goal of pacing is to understand, accept and be able to empathize with
the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of other people. You can use this
technique when you're talking about yourself or her - it will help her to relate
better with the things you say.

When she's talking about something she really loves, you should respond
with enthusiasm and excitement by "pacing" her - saying things like "yeah"
or making faces that represent how excited you are for her.

If she's having a bad day, you should respond with "yeah" and say things like
"that sucks." When she talks about something interesting, you can use
waiting time to show that you're also interested in the conversation.

The main thing to focus on when building rapport is to always be aware of

what others are thinking and how they feel:

When someone is talking about something that's important or special to

them, they want someone who will understand them completely and who
will be able to share the same feelings as them.

They don't just want someone who will agree with everything that they say:
"You really know how I am feeling. You're a great listener. I have a lot in
common with you. You're just like me.

If you try to agree with a person too much, they'll notice that you're trying to
fake it, and will probably stop trusting you.

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If she's talking about something that she really cares about, then you
should present yourself as someone who will be able to understand her and
accept what she has to say: "I think I know how that feels. I've had similar
problems in the past and this is definitely the best way for me to deal with
them. I totally agree with you."

You can also use mirroring when you're talking about yourself so that she
can see that you're a trustworthy person: "I've never had a problem like that
before. But when I was in high school, I was in really bad shape because of
something completely different..."

Now it's time to talk about something very important - the words you use
when talking to people. The words that you use are incredibly powerful and
can change the outcome of any situation.

When speaking to her, try not to be too straightforward - ask questions and
talk about specific things instead.

* How can you use non-verbal communication to build rapport?

* What are some things that you should never do?

* What are some things that you can do to make her feel comfortable
around you?

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If she starts talking about something and then stops, compliment her on
whatever she was talking about.

If she's talking about a happy situation, then show a good reaction by

saying things like "that's so amazing," "tell me more." If she's upset, don't
ask too many questions - just wait for her to continue. "That's terrible! Tell
me what happened."

If she's upset, you can ask her why she's upset. Then listen carefully to what
she has to say and feel her out.

If it seems like something is bothering her or if she has something else

going on that you can relate to, then let her know that you know how it feels
and how you've been in a similar situation before. "Yeah, I don't really have
any good friends right now either."

It's natural for girls to be afraid of other guys who are trying to get close to
them. You want to calm her down and make her feel safe by letting her
know that you wouldn't hurt her.

It's okay to ask questions if she doesn't seem like she's ready to talk about
it yet. "I'm sorry I made you feel uncomfortable, but I just want you to calm
down and open up. You don't have to tell me anything if you don't want to."

If she asks you something that's personal, then try and be honest with her
by answering the question as straightforwardly as possible:

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After she tells you something personal, listen carefully to what she has to
say. Don't force yourself to agree with her or say what you think she wants
to hear.

If you want to be 100% honest, try and focus on what she said and then
relate it to your life: "I'm sorry that happened to you. I know how it feels
when people can't accept who you are as a person."

Communication works both ways, so if she's listening carefully then you

should listen closely as well. She'll feel a lot safer around you if she
understands where you're coming from in your words and actions.

If you want to build rapport with a woman, then you should be able to see
what she's going through and relate it to your own life as well. If you're
interested in her, then try and let her know that you have realistic
expectations about a relationship. "It's great to meet someone who isn't
phony." When you talk about yourself, focus on your good points but don't
lie.

If she sees that a guy is confident and comfortable around her, then she'll
feel more confident around him. A woman who feels safe with a guy will
open up more and be able to share more of her thoughts and emotions.
She'll be able to get a better sense of who you are over time.

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Do not even try to talk about your ex-girlfriends, past relationships, or about
your emotions.

Women do not want to hear that kind of stuff because they will immediately
think that you'll end up doing the same thing with them. They don't want to
spend time with someone who can't think about anything else other than
their ex-girlfriends or what happened in the past.

* What are some good topics to talk about?

* What are some bad topics to talk about?

You can always push through and try to get close to a girl if she wants you
to. If you really like her, then don't be afraid of the awkwardness because it's
a part of life. If you're comfortable with someone and feel like talking, then
just go for it.

True communication involves taking risks that may sometimes end up

being embarrassing or awkward. It's better to be honest about your feelings
than to try and hide them. You'll be able to understand more about her
personality if you take the chance by being open with your emotions and
feelings whenever you're around her.

Don't try and avoid being polite or loyal to people in your everyday life. If she
thinks that you're always putting yourself above others, then she'll assume
that you're always going to be that way - especially when it comes to her. If

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you treat everyone with respect, then she'll think that you'd do the same
thing for her as well.

If there's a girl who likes you and wants to get close to you, then don't be
afraid of taking risks.

You can push the relationship forward by taking one step at a time - getting
closer together, going out more often, doing things together that force both
of you into a natural conversation. This is the best way to start building
rapport with a girl because it helps her to see more of who you really are.

Showing Vulnerability

Another great way to build comfort with someone is by showing

vulnerability. Show her that you're not afraid to show her who you really are.
That way, she'll feel more comfortable around you and will be able to open
up more and share more of herself with you.

The best way to show vulnerability is through honesty. Girls want to feel
safe and trusting around guys, so they want to know that you're always
honest with them. They don't want to be scared of being betrayed or lied to.

If you can show them that you can be open and honest, then she'll likely feel
more comfortable around you.

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A lot of guys don't talk about themselves because they're too afraid or
they're trying to hide who they really are from someone else.

But in real life, nobody's perfect - it's impossible for people not to lie or fake
things at some point during their lives. If she believes that you're always
going to be honest with her, then it'll make her feel a lot more comfortable
around you. This is something that will always be of great quality because
it's universal.

The concept of vulnerability has been widely studied when it comes to

seduction. The more honest we are about our flaws, the more people will
think we are perfect. The more comfortable we are in our own skin by not
being perfect, the more people will think we are perfect.

There are two main ways to show vulnerability: emotionally and socially.

Emotional vulnerability has to do with sharing our insecurities and fears. If

we're honest about what we feel and go through, then it will make other
people feel safe around us.

Some guys feel like they're weak if they show their emotions, but I've found
that it has worked in my favor almost every time I've done so. The key is to
not let others see you as weak. Be strong about your emotions but
vulnerable at the same time.

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Socially vulnerable means letting others see you as flawed in some way. If
you have a big nose, don't wear a lot of cologne, if you're a virgin or if you're
insecure about something else, then let her see that side of you.

Don't be afraid to talk about the gym and ask for advice - girls will think it's
really cool that guys do those things.

Letting others know who you really are inside is one of the best things you
can do because it helps girls to understand your personality and why other
people like being around you.

All this all comes down to one thing: being authentic and letting your
personality shine through.

Everybody loves authentic people because they know they're real and not a
wannabe pretending to be someone else. Girls are the same way - they like
guys who are being themselves and not trying to pretend that they're
somebody else. They want guys who will be comfortable around them and
will have fun with them.

There's a famous saying about how the key to seduction is "being yourself."

This is true for virtually all situations. Guys tell me all the time that it's hard
for them to get a girl because their friends think they're faking things or
being someone else, but this is just the nature of normal human behavior.

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Human beings are always going to judge other people based on their
actions. If you want people to accept you, then you have to do things that
are genuine and real. You can't keep fantasizing about being somebody
else. The goal is to be REAL.

And this is something that will come with time. When you start having more
success with women, you'll slowly start to break free from the "persona"
you've probably created. And I know that it might sound counterintuitive
teaching you so many techniques, and telling you "to fake it until you make
it" but stick with me.

With time, the high-status body language will become part of you without
changing your personality a single bit. The single techniques that you can
use with women are just that - techniques. They won't change your
personality one bit as well.

So the point I'm trying to get across is that personality-wise, you should
never fake being someone you're not just to attract a woman.

Stay true to yourself, because they love it when men stand their ground and
let their personality shine through.

For example, I'm a very expressive guy and I have crazy high ADHD which
makes me very impulsive. I'm also somewhat "crazy" and say random stuff
all the time. However, I let that shine through when I'm talking to a girl.

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I let them see my weird facial expressions, my impulsivity and I tell them
the crazy stuff I feel like saying. And they like it. They like it because they
know I'm not faking anything.

They know that the man they have in front of them is not afraid to show
who he truly is (also helps to set me as a high-status man). You need to
learn how to get comfortable with the fact that you're who you are.

This is also true when it comes to your emotions. You should never fake
emotions. Being yourself and letting other people see that you're
comfortable with who you are will bring out elements of your personality
and will help them like you more.

When they see your genuine personality, they'll feel safe around you which
will lead them to open up more and tell more about themselves as well.

When I talk about "being yourself", this means being real with yourself, not
acting like someone else just because someone else might be right or
popular right now.

Moving Places

Another way to establish comfort with a girl is by moving her to a different

location. Subconsciously, her brain justifies the fact that she's moving

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somewhere else with you by believing it must be because you are important
and because she trusts you.

So if you want to take a girl into a different location, make sure the
transition is smooth. Don't make her feel like she has no options, and try to
make her feel like it was her idea by asking for her opinion while making
small talk.

For example, let's say you're walking with a girl on the street, and you see
this awesome-looking park nearby.

You have the option of either going there or going somewhere else. If you
want to go to that park, then ask for her opinion: "What do you think about
going to that park? It's pretty cool looking. We could go there and chill for a
second if you're not too tired."

If she feels like she has options, then she won't feel cornered into going
there with you.

When it comes to moving girls to a different location, ask them questions

about where they want to go. You could say: "Where do you want to go
now? Where do you want to see?" Then, when they tell you their idea, agree
with them even if it's not your idea. Then say something like: "Yeah that
sounds fun! Let's go!" That way, it will be easier for the girl to accept
whatever decision you both make.

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Now I don't want you to take this tip too far.

Don't make her feel like she has no other option but to go with you. If she
feels like she's forced into making a decision, then she'll know that you're
trying to manipulate her for your own gain.

Once you've established some comfort with a girl, then things will become
easier (because now she'll be more comfortable around you). You don't
have to be perfect in your approach at first.

If you continue to move things forward in terms of conversation and

moving towards a new location together, then things will become more
natural for you both. You'll be able to take the relationship further and have
more fun together.

The truth is that most guys go too far with their approach right from the
beginning. They try to kiss her, hug her or kiss her before she's ready for it
and this ruins the whole vibe you were trying to establish. You should
always respect a girl's boundaries and respect their decisions by accepting
them as they are.

If you're not ready for a kiss at first, don't force things. Don't push your way
in and make stupid jokes that she'll be uncomfortable with, just let things
happen naturally, step by step if you want to speed things up a bit.

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The main mistake that a lot of guys make with their approach is that they
have no idea what to do when she says "no." This is the complete opposite
of what you should do. You should always know in advance how to deal
with any situation that may come up. And in this case, it's when a girl says
"no".

Every time I go out, I'm always prepared for if a girl rejects me. I'm always
prepared for if she asks me to leave, or tells me to go away. I always come
up with different lines to help me get out of these situations if I need them.

And most of the time, I don't need them because I have a good feeling
about how to approach her. But you never know how things are going to
end up, so you should always be prepared for the worst and hope for the
best.

One thing that's really helped me in getting through rejection is being

confident about who I am and what my intentions are.

Before going into an interaction with a girl, remind yourself of why you're
doing this in the first place and what you want from it. Don't be afraid of
rejection because if she rejects you, it doesn't mean that you're going to
lose a girlfriend. It just means that she's not the right one for you.

This is something that will help you get through any situation and will help
other guys as well. If you can do this, then rejection won't bother you so
much and it'll become less of a problem in your life.

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If we go back to the parks example, maybe she wants to go somewhere
else and now has other plans for the night or wants to go meet her friends
because she doesn't want something "to happen" with a total stranger
(because I'm sure most girls have had this one happening).

In this case, it's best to let her go, but you can still approach the situation in
a cool and confident way. You could say: "Well I just wanted to check out
that park, but I don't want to hold you up if you have other plans-" (I like
saying "have other plans" because it sounds innocent and doesn't make it
sound like I'm trying to control her).

And then say something else.

You can even say: "(nervous) Oh yeah, I should head off now too since I
have plans with my friends…" If she says something along the lines of "Oh
well that's good," then move on. Don't press her and ask for an answer.

So if she wants to go somewhere else, then let her go, then keep the
conversation going where it was before you started talking about the park.
If she's coming towards you and heading up to say something, then just say
"oh well I guess I'll see you later" and walk away.

This way, when girls are rejecting you, it doesn't really feel like rejection or
pressure because they're not forcing themselves or holding you back by

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asking questions. When they do want to talk with you, merely respond in a
cool manner and move on to another topic.

But let's use another example.

Let's say you just met a girl outside of a bar. You approached her and you
started talking right away. She's into you. But she's with her girlfriends
which might "cockblock" your advances.

Your friends are also nearby and being loud. What's the best you can do
you? You move her to another location where you two can be alone.

You can ask something like "Hey, there's an awesome karaoke bar just
across the street. Want to go check it out? You look like you can sing, girl!"
If you ask her in a cool and confident way, she'll be more likely to say "yes".

If she doesn't want to go, then you can say something like: "Oh well that's
alright! Let me know if you have a better idea." Then ask her another
question about herself or keep the conversation going where it was before.

You should always try to move locations with a girl whenever you can. This
will make them feel more comfortable around you and give you the
opportunity to establish better comfort with them.

However, I don't want to move them too far away because you might end up
losing her if it gets too dark or dangerous for her to walk back home by

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herself. As long as she's close enough that she could take a taxi or wait for
someone, then you're good to go.

Bonding game

Now I'm going to teach you a game that you can use to create more rapport
with a woman. I call it the “Bonding Game”. It's easy, you basically take
turns asking questions to each other. This is a fantastic opportunity to get
to know her on a more intimate level.

"But, Eric, which questions should I ask!?" I can hear you from over here.
Don't worry, I've got your back. There's actually a very comprehensive list of
questions that were developed by a psychologist that is proven to make
people feel more comfortable and relaxed with each other.

These questions only take about 45 minutes to discuss—and they almost

always make two people feel better about each other and want to see each
other again, according to social psychology researcher Arthur Aron of the
Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University in New York.

This means that you're going to make a good impression on her just by
talking to her, which is attractive to women.

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The more questions you ask and the more personal they are, the greater
psychological bonding you'll have with her (which will make it much easier
to see her again).

To use the bonding game, you start by asking a question that you know
she'll be able to answer. You want to start small and work your way up from
there (just like everything else in this book). For example, if she says "I love
singing!", then you could respond with: "Oh really?! Me too! Sing me a song!"

At first, she may be nervous or feel shy to sing in front of you. But by saying
this, you're letting her know that you have similar interests and that it's ok
for her to sing for you because it's something that the two of you have in
common.

Each of you should take a turn answering each question. Here they are, in
order:

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner
guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to
say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

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5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body
of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what
would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail
as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what
would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the
future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? Why
haven't you done it?

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15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change
anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of

your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was
happier than most other people's?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "we are both in this
room feeling..."

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26. Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could
share..."

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please
share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them. Be honest this time, saying
things that you might not say to someone you've just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with
anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't
you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving
your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save
any one item. What would it be? Why?

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35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most
disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or
she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you
seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

The Rule of Thumb

Another thing you should take into consideration is the time you spend
building comfort with a woman.

As a rule of thumb, I aim for at least 5 hours spent in person with every
woman I meet before trying to take her to bed. That's because the longer
you spend with her, the more comfortable she is when it comes time to
take her to bed.

So if you're having a really awesome conversation with a woman whom

you've just met, just wait until the time is right for you two to hit it off and
then take her home. If you feel like you haven't built enough comfort, just
wait for the next time you see her.

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This will be much easier than trying to take her home too soon and then not
scoring right at the last minute. You know what I'm talking about (that
terrible "blue balls" feeling!).

Keep in mind that these five hours can be spent anywhere from the coffee
shop, to the bar, to your own home. It doesn't really matter where you spend
them.

Hell, you could even spend all of them right when you meet her! Essentially,
you should spend them before taking her to bed. You can easily start
making out one hour after meeting and then spend the remaining four
hours kissing and getting to know each other.

When you take a woman home, make sure it's clean and that she won't be
distracted by anything disturbing in your surroundings.

If she's wearing high heels and she sees a bunch of construction tools and
other weird stuff that you haven't cleaned up yet, then she might get
uncomfortable and want to leave immediately (or at least be distracted by
this). Keep everything swept out or hidden.

Don't spoil the mood by having a lot of clutter around your place. Also, keep
your bathroom clean as well. Women hate going to guy's houses if their
bathrooms are dirty because they don't want to go pee in a toilet that
doesn't look clean or smells like urine.

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The Moment of Truth: From First Base to
Hitting a Home Run.

If you've been doing what I taught you so far, then you've established
attraction and built some comfort with a woman. So what's missing?
Taking her to bed.

In this chapter, I'm going to teach you how to kiss a woman without fearing
rejection, and even how to make her kiss you instead. But, the core of this
chapter will be the next steps after making out - escalating sexually until
you end up in bed.

Please, keep in mind that the first kiss can come much earlier than this. You
can kiss her within 10 minutes of meeting her if you feel like it. Or you can
kiss her on the same night that you take her to bed. That doesn't matter.
What matters is that you must establish comfort and build up enough
attraction in order to score romantically. You can't skip any of these two.

If you skip attraction and build comfort, then she'll send you straight to the
friend zone. You don't want that. If you skip comfort and build attraction,
then she'll resist you and you won't sleep with her. Do you understand this?
Great.

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Now, I'll teach you kissing techniques in this specific chapter just for the
sake of keeping the book organized. But, as I've said, you can kiss her much
earlier in your relationship. Keep that in mind.

I understand that, for most men, going for the first kiss can be very
daunting. It can actually be depressing to think about, given how many men
are afraid of rejection when it comes to kissing women.

But here's the thing: rejection is just a part of life.

Shyness is a part of life. Rejection is just an effect of shyness and being

hard on yourself. So you must take it as a necessary effect from your past.
When you were a kid, thousands of girls rejected you anyway; there's no
need to be in denial, let alone become depressed and feel sad about it later
on...

You've probably never even experienced rejection. And you won't, if you just
keep up the good mental conditioning and learn the right techniques. When
you're faced with rejection, it's because your skills aren't good enough yet.

You simply must come from a place of confidence to make yourself look
better. And that confidence is essential for attitude and sex appeal - which
is the very core of attraction itself (more on that later). You can't make
yourself look better by being sad about it... This is a necessary part of life,
so sooner or later it will happen to you and you'll most likely learn how to
deal with it.

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I'll teach you how to deal with it, so don't be shy. Just be confident.

I have a hypothesis that most men become shy because they've been
cursed in the past... This is just my guess, but I imagine it has something to
do with their childhood experiences.

If I'm right, then this would be your chance to overcome your past and make
yourself look better. And you can do it by learning how to kiss a woman
without fearing rejection and even making her kiss you instead.

The purpose of this chapter is to teach you how to go in for a kiss without
being rejected. In order to do that, I'm going to tell you the most common
mistakes men make when going for a kiss. I'll also give you an approach
that will work in pretty much any situation, even if you're not attracted to the
woman.

Mistakes Men Do When Going For The Kiss

So, here we go:

The first mistake is thinking too deeply about whether she wants it or not.
This is something most men do, and it's very destructive because their
focus shifts from acting naturally and acting with confidence to being

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concerned about what they should be doing and trying too hard when they
don't even know what they're doing...

The second mistake is taking her too literally. You must stop thinking and
make a move. If you don't, then she will figure out that you're just trying too
hard and you're probably going to get rejected.

The third mistake is being too hesitant about going in for the first kiss.
Some men think that the best approach is to wait for her to initiate it...
Surprisingly, this practice is often quite effective, but it's not the best way to
go in for a kiss: we can all wait; there's no need to try too hard.

Women aren't mind-readers; they can clearly tell when they are being
ignored and they will show their unwanted feelings on their faces.

The fourth mistake is being too afraid of being rejected. If you're too afraid,
then she won't initiate the kiss with you, and once again you'll be too timid
to chase. If she doesn't want to kiss you, then it's because she doesn't want
it. Not because you're acting in a specific way.

The fifth mistake is rushing things; if you rush things, then she'll think that
you didn't take the time to get to know her first. And if that happens, then
your chances of getting rejected will skyrocket...

When going in for a kiss, make sure to do so with confidence and good
timing. And it's important to be relaxed and act naturally. You don't have to

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put on such a show that you're trying too hard; just be yourself and make a
move when the time is right.

We're all different, so we can leave all kinds of clues if we know how to read
them - women use their bodies and faces to communicate with men, so
they're the best clues. Just pay attention to them and learn how they work
before you go in for a kiss...

The Prince Charming Method

Actually, here's my technique to kiss women WITHOUT risking rejection. If

you do this right, it's impossible to be rejected. I call it the "Prince Charming
Method" because you'll look like one. Straight out the movies, just like their
wildest fantasies!

1) Ok, so the first step is always being on the lookout for her indicators of
interest that we've discussed earlier. Is she showing you multiple ones?

Good, that's the first step. Maybe she's been showing you her neck, twirling
her hair while making eye contact, and even touching you very often. That's
what we want.

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(P.S. some women are more confident than others, so their way of showing
interest varies a lot. The less not-so-confident women will still show
interest but in more subtle ways).

2) By now, you've probably been using my "ABEST Method" to attract her

subconsciously. Good. Because that will play a big role now. If you've been
touching her at every chance and she's touching you back, then you can
start getting closer to her and entering her personal space.

It's simple, just keep talking to her - but each time, your body is closer to
hers. It should make you uncomfortable the first few times, then it becomes
natural. Keep doing it. By entering her personal space, your sexual tension
will rise. And that's a good thing. Check how she behaves.

Is she stepping back or letting you in her personal space? If she's letting
you in, there's a good chance the kiss will happen. Keep talking to her while
getting closer.

3) Now that you're inside her personal space, start doing intense eye
contact while talking to her. The sexual tension will rise even higher. You
will feel it, she will feel it.

At this very moment, you'll be standing real close in front of each other. You
will both feel a magnetic pull towards each other's mouth. The kiss will
happen naturally. You can even show her you're high status by grabbing her

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waist, and pulling her to you while staring into her eyes. This is very manly
and she won't be able to resist it.

BOOM! It's done. This strategy works especially well because you'll know if
she wants to be kissed by you without risking rejection.

It's simple: as you're getting closer to her, if she isn't ready, then the sexual
tension will make her step back. If she steps back, you continue using the
other "ABEST Method" techniques to make her more attracted to you.

You keep stepping into her personal space and evaluating whether or not
she's ready. The moment you feel she doesn't step back, and she keeps
staring at your eyes while you close in on her - you should kiss her.

That's a HUGE indicator she desires you sexually. You can't miss that
opportunity or else you risk being placed in the friendzone.

Let me give you two different examples. The first one is on a night out.

You’ve been talking to this girl for the past 20 minutes, and now you’re
dancing to that reggaeton tune. Since you’re grabbing onto each other,
you’re in her personal space. The kiss should come easily while dancing. All
you need to do is, while you’re dancing, you start breathing onto her neck in
a slow sexy way to get her excited.

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Then, since your faces are right in front of each other, use the eye
triangulation technique and look into her eyes and her mouth. She will feel
the sexual tension and the magnetic pull will make you two kiss. Voilá!

Second example: you went out with this girl to grab a drink. You’ve been
talking for a while and you ask her if she wants to go for a walk. She
accepts. You stop by a viewpoint with a great view or by the beach.
Whatever. But something with a view would be nice.

As you keep talking, you start getting closer to her and testing how she
reacts. If she doesn’t step back and keeps looking at you, then you can kiss
her. Voilá!

Hand Squeeze Method

Now I'll give you two more techniques you can use to test a woman's
interest in you.

The first one is the "hand squeeze method", which I've mentioned before. To
test her interest using this method, simply reach out your hand and hold
her's. If she squeezes back then she likes you.

Simple, right? Subconsciously, she squeezes back because of reciprocity.

It's no big secret, really. What Is reciprocity, you ask?

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Reciprocity is a term used to describe how people treat and act towards
one another based on their mutual interests.

It's a subconscious phenomenon that occurs when the two parties involved
are interested in each other. When you hold hands with someone and they
squeeze back, you both reflexively send a message to your respective
minds that subconsciously say:

"This person might be interested in me, and I'm also interested in her so I'll
squeeze back." It's really simple.

If you're a little unsure of yourself, or if you don't want to embarrass the girl
by trying other methods, then you can still use this one.

The second one I'll show you now is called "the shake hands method". It's a
powerful method of testing a woman's interest in you.

You take her hand and shake it with all the confidence and presence that
only comes from being confident in yourself. You must be relaxed and you
have to be smiling.

Then, at the end of the handshake, you detect whether or not she still holds
on to your hand. If she does hold on, then that's a sign of interest. If she
doesn't hold on any longer when you shake her hand, then it's probably
because she's interested in someone else.

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Qualifying

Another way to test her interest is by making her qualify herself for you by
asking her qualifying questions.

You can ask her something like: "What have you got going on for you
besides your looks?" If she starts making an effort to impress you by telling
you about her accomplishments, attractive personality traits, etc. then it's a
sign of interest.

If she responds by saying something like: "What's there to talk about when
it comes to me?" or "You already know all that, don't you?" then she's
probably not interested. I like this one a lot because it also shows her you're
a high-status man, and that you have more women in your life - that's why
you're qualifying her.

You're picky and you need to make sure she's worth your time.

Attention! As with everything in life, use common sense here. You shouldn't
just make a decision based on one behavior. You should always interpret
each of her behaviors as a word in a sentence.

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And, as you know, a word alone has no meaning. You must couple together
some "words" in order to form a sentence, and only then make a decision.

Let me give you an example: you see a woman standing by the bus stop
with her arms crossed in front of her chest.

You think to yourself "Well, that's a closed body language position so she
probably doesn't want to be approached by anyone." That might not be
correct. You have to consider that the weather is freezing cold and she's
just probably cold.

So that behavior is only one word, and to make any conclusions you have to
watch other behaviors from her to conclude whether or not she wants to be
approached.

So, to use the above techniques effectively, you must look at them as single
"words" that will help you put a sentence together.

If she's been giving you a lot of positive body language and has shown you
a lot of interest, then you can use one of these techniques as the "cherry on
top of the cake" to make sure she's really into you.

If, for some reason, you don’t feel like using this technique, don’t worry.
Eric’s got your back. Now I’m going to teach you another technique that is
even safer. This is literally rejection-proof, and she might even lean in to
kiss you first!

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The Undeniable First Kiss

I call it the “Undeniable First Kiss”. This is how it works:

First, make sure you’re alone and in a place where you can make out
comfortably. Then, while she’s talking and making eye contact, you ask her
“Do you want to kiss me?”

A) If she says yes, she’ll probably kiss you. (If she doesn’t, you kiss her
instead)

B) If she says something like “Maybe”, “I don’t know”, “Why?” or

something along those lines, it means she wants to kiss you but is
shy about it. Basically, everything that isn’t a straight “No” means she
wants to kiss you but is shy about it. So what do you do? You say
“Let’s see” and you lean in to kiss her.

C) If she gives you a flat-out “NO”, you reply with something like “Good, it
seemed like you did.”

Pretty straightforward, right? Using this technique it’s almost impossible to

be rejected. But, please, remember to use common sense and apply
everything you’ve learned so far. You’re only supposed to use this technique

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after she’s shown you a lot of interest. I can’t do everything for you. (Yet! I
will, soon… stay tuned.)

Hitting the home run

If you’ve been doing everything I taught you so far, then you’re pretty damn
close to hitting that home run and taking her to bed. This is where
everything culminates.

There are two uber-important factors that must have been done by now:
enough comfort between you both; touch escalation.

If one of these is missing - then your job will be much harder.

Lack of comfort will make her resist you a lot and have that “buyer’s
remorse” which will make it harder to have a relationship with her. Lack of
touch will make the escalation to sex super difficult.

Almost impossible, I’d say. Touch is one of the most important things you
must do, and you MUST start early. You have to get her used to your touch
right off the bat.

Why? Picture this: You meet this awesome woman, you think she’s your
soulmate and that feeling is reciprocated. That’s great. You could talk

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forever about every kind of subject and you genuinely laugh at each other’s
jokes. You start to build some comfort with her.

Everything’s happening just as it should. So on your 3rd date, you decide to

invite her over to your home. As she’s enjoying your company, she accepts.
That’s great. Now, you’re both sitting on your sofa.

What now? Damn! You just realized you have this opportunity right in front
of you but you can’t escalate past that point. You don’t feel comfortable
getting closer and touching her - mainly because you haven’t touched her
up until this point.

You start becoming nervous not knowing what to do. She starts feeling it
and becoming uncomfortable as well.

So what really happened in this hypothetical situation? (Though it happens

more often than you think).

Well, since you hadn't touched her up until this point, neither of you is
comfortable with it. Your relationship is not physical thus making it super
hard to escalate to sex.

Remember rule #1: start touching her as soon as possible and at every
opportunity.

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In an ideal situation, you’ve built enough comfort and touch before trying to
hit the home run. But, there’s still one last obstacle you need to know how
to overcome. So, in this ideal situation, you’re both used to each other’s
touch and you have an awesome night.

You sit on the sofa, you put your arm around her, and start making out.
Everything’s going according to plan. But as soon as you try to start making
sexual advances, she takes your hand out of her pants and says “We can’t
do this” or “I’m not ready”.

GODAMMIT!

I’m pretty sure this has happened to you before. And it can happen while
you’re trying to take off her bra, her pants, panties, fingering, oral sex, etc. It
can happen at any point. And you must be prepared to fight it like a true
ninja.

There’s one secret to overcoming this every single time.

Hyper-Emotional State

Pay special attention to what I’m about to tell you. The secret is… putting
her in a hyper-emotional state. “What do you mean, Eric?” Well, let me
explain.

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When women say something like that, we call it resistance. They’re
resisting your advances. But it’s not because she wants to consciously
resist. She wants to have sex as much - if not more - than you.

The problem is that their brain is hardwired to have this filtering

mechanism, as I’ve taught you, and women must be super careful with
whom they sleep with because the stakes are high.

So her brain starts screaming at her “STOP! STOP!” thus making her
verbalize those worries as well. But here’s the trick: by putting her in a
hyper-emotional state, her emotions take over her logical brain - weakening
it to the point where she can’t hear it anymore.

She’ll just go with the flow as you possess her like she wants to be
possessed.

To put her in this hyper-emotional state, you need to build more sexual
tension and desire. When you start making out, you need to spend extra
time turning her on before advancing. You can try breathing slowly in her
neck. You can whisper something in her ear.

You can run your fingers through her body. You can rub your knee between
her legs (this is an advanced technique because it’s almost as fingering but
with very low resistance from her). You get the point. The first step is
getting her wetter than Niagara Falls.

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Then, when you start escalating and making her advances if she still resits
and verbalizes her worries, what you must do is SUPER SIMPLE. You must
help her turn off her own brain.

Because she wants to turn it off and just enjoy the moment. Let’s say she
starts saying “We can’t do this” and tries to take your hand out of her
panties. All you need to do is… AGREE WITH HER. I know this might sound
counterintuitive, but it’s actually very simple. If you start repeating her like
“You’re right, we can’t do this…” you’re calming her brain.

You’re telling it what it wants to hear. The difference is: you won’t stop
doing what you’re doing. You’ll keep advancing and doing your thing. All you
need to do is keep fingering her and repeating what she says. Eventually,
her brain will turn off and she’ll just surrender to you. And… that’s it, dude!
You made it. You hit that sweet home run.

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Conclusion: You’re Now a Master in
Sexual Attraction

I hope you enjoyed reading about some of the different techniques and
skills men can try out in order to become more confident, more high status,
and ultimately have more success with women. I would like to end this
book with a few personal thoughts on confidence and how it has changed
my life.

Confidence is a very special word that not many people define in the same
way, but I've come to realize that confidence is what you make of it.
Confidence is an intrinsic equation for each individual that requires
constant tweaking and refinement over time.

Most people have a tendency to think that confidence is all about having a
positive outlook and never giving up. While this is true to some extent,
confidence is also about taking action, and doing what it takes for you to
win.

In your career, family relationships, and personal life - If you play with
confidence, and plan your every move with confidence, then success will
become inevitable.

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There is this great saying: "Success comes from taking action. If you want
success… take action now". This is where the rubber meets the road.

You can't be overly hesitant or sit doing nothing until things start to happen.

Instead, you need to be confident enough in yourself to take action - even

when you don't have a clear plan of action. I've been there many times; we
all have.

We have one of those days when you just feel lost and don't know what's
going on with your life.

At this point, confidence is not about being positive and upbeat, but more
about taking action and doing the things that we know will make us feel
better.

Remember: It's the people who take action and get moving towards their
goals who end up building the confidence they need to fulfill their dreams.

However, this action is not always easy. For many people, it may require
going against their parents, society, or even the people they love most. It
requires breaking with what others believe and practicing self-sacrifice in
order to get the success and happiness we want.

Think about these moments when you felt lost - adversity is what wakes us
up and makes us realize that our life matters. It's a gift from the universe

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that only comes around once in a lifetime; we need to take full advantage of
it, or we'll be kicking ourselves for years to come.

I've had many experiences where I was in a malaise - a 'blissful stupor'

where I felt like everything was going fine, enjoyments came easy and I
didn't have to be anything but happy all the time. And then suddenly, one
day things start falling apart.

All of sudden, I become uncertain about my future, my life has turned sour,
and I start questioning why life is so hard. The worst part of it is that this
happens at the most unlikely of times - when we least expect it, with little
warning or preparation for it.

Until the point things start to fall apart, we are always the last ones to know
it's happening. Fear is a sneaky enemy that hides in the shadows of our
minds and strikes when we least expect it.

When you feel this happening, take a moment to re-examine your reality.

Are you doing something productive? If not, then why not? Is there
something more important that you should be doing right now? Is this
some kind of test that requires us to go through difficult times in order to
succeed in life?

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It's hard waiting for answers - and I don't always have them right away - but
I have learned over time that trying and failing is better than doing nothing
at all.

Trying, failing, and doing something about it is the formula for success.
Trying is what keeps us grounded, keeps us in check, and allows us to grow
through adversity.

Taking action when things are not going well for you - that's how you end up
becoming a winner. That's how you turn your dreams into reality. As difficult
as it may be, take action NOW - before it gets any harder!

Try new things that will help you grow and remember: sometimes we need
to take some steps back in order to make progress forward…

That said, I really hope you apply everything I taught you because I'm sure it
will help you have more success not only with women but in life as a whole.

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