by the F HIM Co.

LIKE THERAPY FOR THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN

IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH A NARCISSIST.
this journal belongs to

your name.

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 FUCK HIM.
I chose the title "Fuck Him" as a status symbol for the woman who is ready to
heal from the hurt and pain her narcissistic partner has caused. Fuck Him
says she is ready to shift the focus from that, to herself, making healing
inevitable for her.

While this may not be your typical journal, it is was done with intentions.
From the color scheme of black and white, to the words that are written, it is
created to feel like therapy, and ignite certain emotions in you that are
needed on your healing journey.

Journaling has been used for generations as a way to express how we feel in
a safe place and way. I used a journal for this specifically because all too
often when we are in relationships with narcissistic partners, we don't have
that safe space.

This journal has no dates. That means you can go to whatever page you like,
when you are ready. I did this because everyone's journey is different, and I
want you to fully embrace yours without conviction. Either way, by the end of
it all, you'll be saying

fuck him.
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 THE BITCH WHO WROTE THIS.
There's a reason I opted to say "FUCK HIM" instead of fuck him. The wrong man with
the wrong energy can take you to hell and back a few times. When I decided I no
longer wanted to make that trip in the name of "love" or the lack thereof, life
started to shift and change for me. Saying FUCK HIM is a proven theory that
WORKS. Every time I wasn't able or willing to say fuck him and focus on myself, I
was met with bare minimum and bullshit. I SUFFERED, and I do not mean that
figuratively. I was literally in a constant state of hell. Before you use this journal, you
should understand that this is not about all men. There are some men you should
FUCK, because they are giving you the very best energy, effort, and meet you with
nothing but princess treatment. You will if you have not already attract those type
of men once you are finished with this journal. This journal is for women who have
encountered the FUCK BOY. The dishonest, disloyal, and down right pathetic. This is
for them and the heaux who raised him to be frank. I don't know if you'll laugh while
completing this journey or downright cry, but I do know in order to escape this and
prevent yourself from going through the cycle again you have to be honest. Cheers
to this new life.

Kiara Lasha.
MY FAVORITE QUOTE:
"STRONG WOMEN SAY FORGET IT, BAD BITCHES SAY FUCK HIM."

(I totally made that shit up but it's a good one.)

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Key things to notate.

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There are 3 stages in a relationship with a narcissist, and chances are you
have experienced this exact same process. Knowing these 3 stages have
helped me recognize when someone new is showing narcissistic traits, and
possibly prevent going through the same trauma.

Love Bombing + Adoration.

The love bombing and adoration stage I'll admit will be some of the most
beautiful moments you have ever experienced. They will do everything right and
you'll often times feel like you have finally met the love of your life or your
prince charming. This stage is often short lived, but they give it their best shot.
This stage is their most calculated stage, and it is vital they do this to make the
rest work. Because most of us are looking for love and want to settle down, this
is extremely easy for them to do.

Devalue.
Once they have you all in love, the next plan sets in motion. This is the
devaluing stage. They start to make you feel like you are less than in this stage.
In this stage, they are often hunting for what is known as their new supply and
you start to see changes in them. There will be lots of sadness, grief, and
arguing in this stage. You then start to question what you have done or if you
are good enough. In this stage you will start chasing what you felt in stage 1
and will hold on for quite some time. This is what I call chasing the high.

Discard.
In this discard stage, they have most likely found their new supply and already
starting the love bombing process with her. They will either leave suddenly to
be with this person, or it will be an extension of the previous stage. In my
opinion, this stage is the most painful. This is when you start to realize, that the
high you were chasing in stage two never really existed, and may never come
back.

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 There are 4 emotions that will change the course of your life, and
you'll need those 4 emotions while using this journal.

The day you become disgusted, the day you

DISGUST- can say you have had enough, is the day
something new happens.

DECISION - The day you decide, is the day you can start to
experience true progress.

Having a TRUE desire for something is the only

DESIRE - way to actually obtain it. You have to want it
really bad.

You have to have this. The means to keep going

DETERMINATION- UNTIL you achieve the desired outcome. It will

get hard, it may be a challenge, but so fuckng
worth it.

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WHAT LIKELY TURNS PEOPLE INTO NARCISSIST.

The first things that helped me learn about narcissism is figuring out what

possibly made them this way. Now this is in no way done to excuse their

behavior, but gaining a foundation of understanding really does allow you to

dig deeper into your own healing and knowing that it is not your fault. Contrary

to popular belief, I learned that narcissist are often created in childhood, and

they become what we know them as today. Here are four things that could have

taken place to create your villain.

THEY WERE PRAISED FOR THEIR

1.
INTELLIGENCE.
- I believe this one causes the narcissist to think they can
outsmart anyone, which is a huge narc trait.

THEY WERE OVERVALUED AS A 2.

CHILD.

- basically told they were better or more special

than other children.

ONLY EXPERIENCED
3.
CONDITIONAL LOVE

- only praised when they did something good or

beneficial.

GIVEN NO VALIDATION AT ALL. 4.

- not only can receiving too much praise be a problem, but so can
the opposite. Not receiving any praise, adoration, or love at all.
Technically being neglected and deprived.
HE'LL NEVER
CHANGE, SO THE
QUICKER YOU SAY
FUCK HIM, THE
BETTER.
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 Chapter 1.

WTF.
This chapter is about learning the narcissist and it might just make you
say what the fuck! Learning the narcissist and being able to identify
what is taking place is the best way I have learned to disarm the narc.
When you know what to expect or what it is that you are
experiencing, you can prevent reacting or allowing it to harm you. As
always, be truthful and honest. That is the best way to recovery.
(Yes, you are in fucking recovery right now.) Let's Begin.

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Before we get started, what do you know about narcissist?

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 Narcissism is a personality trait many live with and only becomes evident
occasionally, while the narcissistic personality disorder is a formal mental health
condition with persistent symptoms that significantly impact the quality of life.
Where do you think this person falls on the spectrum?

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The first stage of dating a narcissist is the love bombing stage. Describe what the
beginning of the relationship was like with this person.

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The second stage of dating a narcissist is the devalue stage. Describe what this
stage was like with this person.

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The third stage of dating a narcissist is the discard stage. Describe what this
stage was like with this person.

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It is likely that you go through multiple cycles with the same narcissist, due to their
ability to hoover over their victims and returning. No judgement, how many times
has the cycle repeated itself. Why do you think that is?

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Narcissist typically feel as though they are smarter, better, or more important than
others in many ways. To exaggerate this, they will often lie about their
accomplishments, skills, or talents. Describe a time where this has been the case.

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 Narcissist often need extreme amounts of praise and attention. Describe a
moment where you needed to give this person your attention and what you believe
would happen if you didn't.

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Narcissists are highly manipulative and can sometimes use manipulation to get
what they want or to advance. Describe a time that this has happened.

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Along with manipulation they can often use cruelty or extortion in order for you to
do what they want or behave a certain way. Do you recall moments where this has
happened? Describe it here.

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Narcissists often have a lack of empathy. Describe a time where they could have
been empathetic but wasn't.

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Narcissists can be extremely jealous. Describe a moment or moments where this
person displayed jealousy.

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Which type of narcissist do you believe you were experiencing?
Overt: Arrogant, pretentious, aggressive.
Covet: Insecure, defensive, depressive, withdrawn.
(Keeping in mind, some of them have both traits, YUCK!)

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There is currently no cure for narcissism. Do you personally feel in this moment that
this person can change or become better. Why or why not?

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Relationships with narcissist can become very draining. What has your energy been
like within the last 30 days, or was like before you left the relationship?

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Narcissists often go between extremely loving and extremely hurtful. Has this been
a recent experience of yours? How does it make you feel mentally?

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Narcissists can make you feel as though everything in the relationship that is
wrong is your fault. Do you believe that? Why or why not?

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You will never be enough at all times in the eyes of the narcissist.
Write I AM ENOUGH as many times as you can on this page.

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Narcissist will often start looking for their new supply during the devalue stage and
discard you once the new supply has been secured. Have you experienced this?
How did it make you feel?

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Narcissists often use triangulation as a form of control. A common form of
triangulation is the narcissist creating a love triangle. What has been your
experience with this? How has it affected you?

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Highly narcissistic people hate seeing someone else happy.
Write down a time where you know this to be the case.

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Narcissistic people tend to be attracted to nurturing, caring, and happy women.
Describe some characteristics about yourself you believe the narcissist was
attracted to.

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 On the contrary, narcissist also prey on women who are in challenging
circumstances. Single parents, just recently had a bad break up, etc. Which one of
any or similar applied to you?

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Narcissists have the ability to make their victims seem as though they are going
insane or crazy. What have you learned so far that validates you are definitely
going through this and not crazy at all?

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Now that you have written down some of your thoughts, feelings, and experiences
revolving this relationship, how are you feeling right now?

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“You have to
learn to leave the
table when love’s
no longer being
served.”
Nina Simone
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 Chapter 2.

FUck HIm.
This is the chapter where you shift. Saying fuck him is not about
being angry with him but acknowledging why is it that you need to
move on and how it would benefit you in a positive way by doing so.
Leaving is never easy, however when you are with narcissistic or toxic
partners, it is necessary. A beautiful life is on the other side of it.

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How confident are you currently about leaving?
On a scale of 1-10.

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Why the fuck are you still with him? Be brutally honest.

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Describe your emotions when you think about leaving or the time that you left.

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It took me quite some time to leave the relationship. How long have you been or
were you in the relationship with the toxic partner.
Why do you believe it lasted as long as it did?

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What was something you were scared of losing that made you stay in a
relationship that was fucking with you mentally?

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Who would benefit if you left the relationship besides yourself?
How would they benefit?

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How would YOU benefit from leaving the relationship?

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What's the single most hardest part about leaving?

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Often times we leave the relationship emotionally before we do physically.
Have you left emotionally? What signs do you have to confirm this?

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He's really a bum. Name some bum qualities about him that makes
you say damn, I really should leave asap or help you stay away?

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Imagine your close friend is going through what you went through or going through.
What would you tell them?

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How was/is communication in this toxic relationship? What about that
communication would you change in your next relationship?

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 Write here your plan to leave the relationship physically.
(Refer back to this page when you become discouraged and unfocused.)

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Drop the names of your support system. Could be someone you could live with,
talk to, or even spend time with while going through the transition.

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Leaving is hard but beautiful. Name some things you will be leaving behind
that actually need to be fucking left.

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When you leave the relationship you also make room for new things. Name
some things that you will be able to have once gone.

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When I left the relationship, I was able to learn and set new boundaries.
What new boundaries will you have and enforce?

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Leaving the relationship allows you to work on personal development.
What things will you be working on?

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Once I was away from the relationship, I started having a lot more FUN. What are
some fun things you will do that you have not enjoyed in a while?

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Saying FUCK HIM has to involve NO CONTACT.
Name some challenges with this.

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Saying FUCK HIM has to involve NO CONTACT.
Name some benefits of this.

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There will be questions that will go unanswered, and you have to be ok with that. Name
some questions that you have, knowing you may never get the answer to them.

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There are some things the narcissist made you believe about yourself, that you will have
to shed once you leave them. What are those things?

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What behaviors bring you pain when you think about it? E.g. Cheating.
(Refer back to this page when you start to doubt leaving.)

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How did your ex bring out the nasty side of you? What were those qualities?

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How much more confident are you about leaving after this chapter?
On a scale of 1-10.

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 Message.
If you are still in the relationship, don't be discouraged or doubt your decision.
I know better than anyone how hard it is to actually leave. I was married to
him and my entire life, personality, home, and finances were wrapped into this
man so heavily I don't think I would have known who I was or what to do if I
had left any sooner. The old saying goes, you'll know when you are ready and
that can't be more true. This journal is here to encourage you to leave sooner
than later due to how it affects us mentally, emotionally, and even physically.
You have my love and grace. Now give it to yourself, make the plan, and

ACT.

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“Whatever is bringing
you down, get rid of it.
Because you’ll find
that when you’re free,
your true self comes
out.”
— Tina Turner

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 Chapter 3.

FUCK IT.
In this chapter, the questions are geared towards your healing and
letting go. Even after I left my narcissistic partner, I struggled
emotionally and physically for one reason. I was holding onto the
pain with a death grip. This person was gone from me physically, but
the emotional pain was still present. I had to do some inner core
work. This chapter is all about you.

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 Now that your relationship has ended or you're more confident about
leaving, it is the perfect time to reinvent yourself. What parts of yourself
do you want to resurrect and improve, and what parts do you want to
get rid of?

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What is your love language, and how do you enjoy being shown love?

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I know I am worthy of........

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List 5 things you love about yourself. Don’t state vague attributes but
value-packed attributes.

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Staying in the past after a failed relationship only hurts you more. What steps
are you taking to move past your relationship and look into the future?

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 By any means are you avoiding facing the process of letting go? Why? Write
that shit down and refer back to this page when you are unfocused on healing.

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Do you need closure? Why or why not?

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Sometimes it's hard to speak up about the unfair treatment you experienced.
Act as if you are actually talking to a great friend right now. Tell me about it.

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As a free person, have you learned to understand your emotions and healthily
express them? If not, what do you think can help you achieve this?

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Do you have someone that understands your healing process and is helping
you along the way? Why or why not?

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Do you think people pass on trauma to others or that parents pass on trauma
to their children? Why or why not?

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Did you or your ex ever showcase signs of unhealed trauma during your
relationship? What were they?

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Did you ever hope that you and your partner were going to be together for a
long time, or did you see the impending doom early? Explain.

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Create a bucket list of things you want to do. Do that shit and come this page
to check each one off as it is done.

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If you were confident, self-aware, and sure of yourself, would you have dated
this person from the beginning? Why or why not?

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What is something you’ve learned about your mental health that you’ve had a
hard time coming to terms with?

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Have you tried or looked for external means of healing? What external means
did you look for or try?

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Who are you authentically?

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There is a version of you that exist without the pain. Describe her.

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Starting from today, how can you get rid of all the bullshit in your life?

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Have you ever not trusted your gut? How did that turn out?

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How do you want people to think about you, or see you?

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Do you feel frustrated that you aren’t healing as fast as you want, or think you
should? Explain.

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Besides smashing things around, how can you healthily express your emotions?
(And just so you know, I support smashing shit too.)

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It is time to focus on yourself. Make a list of the short-term goals you want to
achieve.

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Make a list of 5 long-term goals you want to achieve and what that would
mean in your life.

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Write about your feelings of anger. Make a list of everyone you are angry with
and why. Then say fuck them.

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 Write a letter to the person you are most angry with. Look through it,
understand why you are angry, and how you can reconcile this anger and get
rid of it.

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What does self-love truly mean to you?

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Did your past relationship change your narrative about love? Are you still open
to love?

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Do you think you have equipped yourself to be better at spotting red flags in
people or relationships, or do you think that concept doesn’t concern you?

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Throw all bullshit aside and be real with yourself. Are you afraid of love?
Explain.

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What’s the best medication for a broken heart in your opinion?

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What challenges have you faced squarely, and came out victorious? How did
this boost your self-esteem and confidence?

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How can you love yourself more? Emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually?

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I am worthy of happiness because.....

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Would your past/younger self be proud of the person you are today? Why or
why not? If not, what can we do today that will change that?

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Make your moving on from a toxic relationship checklist. It should contain
things that you want to do to improve your physical and mental health.

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Do you think a little getaway will be beneficial to you? Where would you go
and what would you do?

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Do you think your ex took something away from you permanently?

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In what ways have your experience impacted your thought process and
actions?

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Are you ever going to forgive your ex? How can you forgive him and move
forward to other important aspects of your life?

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What is your definition of healing?

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Do you believe healing is accessible to you currently? Why or why not?

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Looking back, what example of self-love were you able to witness?

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Do you believe healing is required in order for you to move forward?
Why or why not?

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Write a letter to your inner child. Be kind to her.

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Write a letter to your current self. Be honest with her.

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Write a letter to your future self. Inspire her.

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If you could say one thing that would help you make a decision to let go at
this very moment in time, what would it be?

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I forgive myself for.

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 Chapter 4.

Level the fuck Up.

Yes, you read that correctly. This is the get your shit together
chapter. This is where the questions become more of the tough love
you need. You have to be brutally honest with yourself as always,
and then take notes. I want to say I love you before we get started,
you may hate me later. Smooches!

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 ways to level up

Your Mental.

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How do you currently perceive the things that happen to you in life.
The good, bad, and ugly?

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How do you feel about the bad decisions you have made in your life?

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How open are you to change, transition and ambiguity?

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Say a new love interest came into your life. How receptive would you to be to
being taught something new from this person? Why or why not?

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How quick are you to judge others? Explain.

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How quick are you to judge yourself? Explain.

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True or False. The good outweighs the bad. Why do you feel this way?

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True or false. The past doesn't last forever. Why do you feel this way?

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Change the way you talk to yourself. Instead of negative self talk, write down
some positive talk here.

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 Mental toughness. Mental toughness gives you the confidence needed to
keep pushing forward despite the competitive situation. On a scale of 1-10,
how mentally tough are you?

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 There are 4 C's to mental toughness.
Control, Commitment, Challenge and Confidence.
How do you feel about your ability to execute in these areas?

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 ways to level up

Your Emotional.

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 Study Break.
Let's talk about emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence, a noun, is the
capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle
interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

There are 4 domains of emotional intelligence.

Self-Awareness - the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions,

thoughts, or emotions do or don't align with your internal standards. This is
what most people lack in order to be able to successfully hold themselves
accountable. Being self-aware is truly a flex and important for growth.

Self-Management - You're able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors,

manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on
commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances. This is extremely
important because there will always be situations tied to emotions, sad, angry,
hurt, and even good ones like happy. Being able to respond in ways that
benefit and not hurt you in the moment is needed.

Social Awareness - Social awareness focuses on recognizing and

understanding others' feelings. It is just as important as recognizing and
understanding your own feelings.

Relationship Management - The final area you need to develop as part of

your emotional intelligence and raising your EQ is that of relationship
management. This is the ability to be aware of the emotions of those people
your interact with and along with your own emotions build a strong working
relationship.

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 SELF AWARENESS ASSESSMENT
Read the prompts below and think about the first thing that
comes to mind. Fill your answers out in the blank boxes.

I am a woman who

LOVES

WANTS TO

IS DRIVEN BY

IS INSPIRED BY

HAS A HABIT OF

IS HAPPIEST WHEN

BELIEVES IN

WOULD GIVE

WILL ONE DAY

HAS THE GOAL OF

WHO NOTICES

IS AFRAID OF

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Where are you currently in terms of self-awareness?
What can you do to improve this?

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Where are you currently in terms of self-management?
What can you do to improve this?

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Where are you currently in terms of social awareness?
What can you do to improve this?

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Where are you currently in terms of relationship management?
What can you do to improve this?

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Something someone said resonated with me and I'd never forget it.
"A woman who can control her emotions is a powerful woman."
What does that statement mean to you?

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How are you feeling at this very moment emotionally?

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 level up your

Physical.

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Describe yourself physically in terms of health.

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Write down some health goals that you have.

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Reminder: The greatest form of self-love is discipline.
What does that statement mean to you?

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When it comes to becoming healthier physically, you need to constantly look
at your body as your temple and deserving of the best.
What are some ways you can show yourself this?

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Would you say that how you look is how you feel currently?
Explain.

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Research what you would need in order to be your healthy self.
Write down what you find here and stick to it.

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Your physical self is one of a personal journey and only you know what you
would like to achieve. The point of this mini section is to get you to start
thinking along the lines of becoming your best self. You can do it.
Love, Kiara.

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 Chapter 4, Part 2.

Level the fuck Up.

This section is about how I leveled up and got the bag! In my
situation, obtaining my own really helped me start my healing
journey, and successfully get away from the trauma I was
experiencing. I will leave space in the back for notes and your ideas.

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 Wealth Affirmations.
In this section you will write down each wealth affirmation as many
times as you can on the page. In order to see it you muse believe.

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I attract money easily.

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I am worthy of the wealth i desire.

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I spend money on only things i need and love.

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I give and receive money greatly.

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I have a positive relationship with money.

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I am the master of my wealth.

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I can manage massive amounts of money.

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I am debt free.
(I really love this one so I made it bold.)

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I radiate prosperity, money, and wealth.

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Money is my servant.
(this one too.)

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I met my narcissist in the later part of 2015, right when the Thanksgiving and Christmas
season started. I had just got out of a bad relationship, and while I was already on a
healing journey from that situation, I was still quite vulnerable. I wish I could tell you
there were absolutely no red flags, but the truth is, I was voluntarily color blind if you
know what I mean. What started off as something positive (a faint line), ended up
being the worst relationship of my life. After a few years my self-esteem was non-
existent, I had gained over 50 pounds, no longer seen someone beautiful when I
looked in the mirror, broke, and chain-smoking cigarettes. Then, I married him. You'd
think the previous paired with excessive cheating, homelessness, lying, and other forms
of abuse would be enough, but nope, I married the man. My mind was completely his. I
say all of that to say, I know exactly how it feels to be in a relationship with a
narcissist, and how badly you want to escape but it's hard to. It was not until I started
to shift my focus, attend therapy, and focus on making my own money was I able to
move to another city in a luxury apartment with my son. I knew he needed a happy
mother, not a perfect one, so I was off to making money and changes. Here is what I
did.

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 I started a business.

Now before I get into exactly how this process went, yes, you can get a job too. That is
much quicker to start earning revenue, however I was not in the mental space to
maintain employment in all honesty. Let's be honest, employers hardly give a damn
about you, much less your need for a mental health day or week. If you have the time
and resources to gain employment, I would say get TWO.

I started this business in 2019 and worked on the brand until it became what it did in
2021. When I first met my narc, I was on my spiritual journey, and when I hit rock
bottom, I started to re walk the path that I had strayed from in order to be ok. I started
with creating ritual baths for me and my son using bath salts, flowers, herbs, and
essential oils according to what we needed at the time. I had a beautiful and
undeniable passion and connection with flowers ever since I could remember, so it
made sense that I felt so at peace bathing in them. Whenever the disrespect or abuse
would happen, I would head to my local community co-op, grab some raw materials,
and then I would take a long bath. It was like magic.

One day while sitting on the sofa a light bulb went off. How many women were
experiencing the same thing? How many women needed peace? How many could
make their bathrooms their only sanctuary. From there, I created a company selling my
one-of-a-kind bath soaks to help other women tap into their spiritual journey and heal.
Took me some time to build the company, but one viral TikTok video in 2021 changed
my life for the better. And then I was gone.

If you are thinking about starting a business, I suggest you take the following
questionnaire on the next page in order to see what direction you should go in for your
best chance at success.

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 What business should you start

Questionnaire.

What is it that you love to do?

What would someone pay you $5 dollars to do right now without question?

If you did either of the 2 above, what problem(s) would it solve?

Which of the first 2 could you do, without getting paid for?

Whatever you have written down, I would explore this as a business idea. I have
learned that answering those questions and starting a business in those areas are the
most rewarding and there is more opportunity for longevity.

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 Other revenue ideas.

Become a notary
Become a Freelancer
Learn a new trade
Write a book + sell it
Create a journal + sell it
Create Digital Products
Graphic Designer

The purpose of this list is to help you create EASY streams of income. Most you can do
at home, using completely free sites. Don't look at this list of things you can't currently
do, but things that you can learn and execute.

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6 powerful quotes
from women that
helped me heal.

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"You're healing and that terrifies them. They
have never seen a woman who can break
several times and put herself back together
using nothing but self love."

-Woman unknown.

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Does that quote resonate with you? Explain.

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"Everybody has losses – it's unavoidable in
life. Sharing our pain is very healing."

-Isabel Allende

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Does that quote resonate with you? Explain.

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"God, make me so uncomfortable that I do
the very thing that I fear.”

-Ruby Dee

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Does that quote resonate with you? Explain.

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“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly,
but rarely admit the changes it has gone
through to achieve that beauty.”

-Maya Angelo

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Does that quote resonate with you? Explain.

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 "I'm convinced that we women possess a
special indestructible strength that allows
us to not only get down, but to get up, to
get through, and to get over."

-Janet Jackson

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Does that quote resonate with you? Explain.

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 "You can't just sit there and wait for
people to give you that golden dream.
You’ve got to get out there and make it
happen for yourself."

-Diana Ross

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Does that quote resonate with you? Explain.

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 SAVINGS TRACKER
YEAR OF SAVING FOR AMOUNT NEEDED

MONTH WEEK 1 WEEK 2 WEEK 3 WEEK 4 TOTAL

JANUARY

FEBRUARY

MARCH

APRIL

MAY

JUNE

JULY

AUGUST

SEPTEMBER

OCTOBER

NOVEMBER

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 YES. / NO

CHECKLIST
As you read each question, simply check “yes" if you agree or "No" if you disagree
with the statement.

Do you believe that once you become confident and YES NO

01 love yourself, things get better?

Do you currently have doubts that would prevent you YES NO

02 from starting the self-love journey.

YES NO
03 Do you believe a broken heart can be completely fixed?

Do you know and understand the power of a changed YES NO

04 mind?

Do you still give a fuck about what people think of you YES NO
05 after using this journal?

Is there something you still have to do before you begin YES NO

06 this journey?

YES NO
07 Are you happier after using this journal?

YES NO
08 Do you believe you are going to overcome this?

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 5 STEPS TO SELF LOVE.

STEP ONE
Come to peace with your insecurities by
01 choosing to admire them. They are your
beautiful little differences.

STEP TWO
Forgive yourself. Entirely and truly.
02

STEP THREE
Create a list of your core values. Then make
03 sure all decisions align with them.

STEP FOUR
Adapt a growth mindset and become
04 dedicated to growing. it is one of the
ultimate forms of self-love.

STEP FIVE
Practice REMOVAL. Be ok with removing
05 things or people that don't serve you.

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 WHAT'S REALLY IMPORTANT?
Rank the top 10 most important things in your life and estimate how much time you
spend on them weekly.

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 WHEEL OF LIFE.
The wheel of life is a great tool that helps you better understand what you can
do to make your life more balanced. Think about the 8 life categories below, and
rate them from 1 - 10.

LG ROWTH HEAL
SONA TH
PER
CE

FRIEN
FINAN

DS
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
RELAT
ER
CARE

SHIP ION
S

LITY UA EATIO
RECR
SPIRIT N

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 FUCCK GOALS
When setting goals, make sure it follows the FUCCK structure. Use the questions
below to create your goals.

FINALLY

F What are you finally ready

to change.

UNDERSTAND

U What do you now understand

needs to happen?

CARE

C How do you plan to care for

yourself moving forward?

CONTROL

C How do you plan on controlling

your emotions now?

KISS YOUR ASS

K Who can kiss your ass now

that you are ready to move
on?

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find your peace Maze Challenge
Can you help yourself find peace?
You have 5 minutes to find the correct path

PEACE.

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 FINAL NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR.
You want to know what the real goal of this was? That by the end your mind
would not be on him. I know that it's a journey and a process, one that I admire
and cherish although it's hard, but to master placing your focus on good is truly
a skill we must all have. I know that you are strong, you are capable, and you
are deserving of a life of peace, happiness, wealth, and health. May this
journal be the start of that and so much more. Love + Light. Kiara.

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F HIM CO.
F HIM.

FUCK HIM co.