Session 1:
Introduction to Parenting by Domains
At Home Practice
Please enter the birthdate in the space provided below (yyyy/mm/dddd) of the oldest child
in the age range of 4-8 years old that you will be focusing on for this homework.
2018 10 27
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1. Make a list of your parenting goals.
Here are some points to help you come up with these goals:
○ What are qualities or traits that you think are especially important for your child
to have?
○ What values are important to you, that you hope to teach your child?
○ What kind of person do you want your child to grow up to be? With what values?
What habits?
Goal 1 Grow into a joyful and confident child who believes in her intelligence, kindness,
beauty, and the love that surrounds her.
Goal 2 Develop strong math skills, cultivate a love for reading, enjoy dancing, and
become fluent in three languages.
Goal 3 Be a loving, responsible, and supportive big sister in our family.
Goal 4 Have a strong and unwavering faith in God, trusting in Him through all of life's
challenges.
Goal 5 Grow into a strong woman who has the resilience to overcome obstacles, yet
knows it's okay to cry and always has a home to lean on with me.
2. Keep parenting domains in mind and take note of when you notice situations that fit
into one of the domains.
Domain (Guided Learning,
Situation Modeling, Control, Protection,
and/or Reciprocity)
One way I protect my child is by talking with her before bedtime about her day at Protection
school. I reassure her that no matter what happens, she should never be afraid to tell
me. If someone treats her badly, I encourage her to speak up and let the teacher know.
One of the areas where I set the most control is screen time. I Control
consistently allow my child to watch TV only on weekends, and only
after she has finished her meal or cleaned her room.
When my child asks for treats—especially close to mealtime—I Reciprocity
encourage her to finish her meal and some fruit first. Most of the time,
she either forgets about the treat or feels too full to eat much of it.
3. Think back to a time or times when you used one or more of the core skills with
your child. Did it make a difference?
Core Skill Difference? Yes? No?
There was a time when I yelled at my child, and she cried,
telling me that she felt I didn’t love her. It reminded me of how I
Yes, she understands that no matter what she does, right or wrong, she
felt as a child when my mother would get angry and ignore me. is always loved. Sometimes, when she makes a mistake, she says sorry
In that moment, I held her and reassured her that, no matter
what she did or how upset I was, I would always love her. and asks me, 'Even though I did that, you still love me, right, Mom?'
I’m very strict about when treats are allowed. By consistently allowing
treats only after meals, my daughter understands that she can’t have
them beforehand. Now, when she wants candy, she asks, 'Can I
Yes, consistency is very important. It makes the rules more
have this candy after dinner, and after I finish my fruit?' She knows
what is expected of her and even reminds her younger brother.
effective.
One of my tactics for sharing control with my child is allowing her
to choose from options I’ve already selected. For example, after Yes, kids love feeling powerful and having the right to
a meal, I might ask if she wants an apple, pear, or banana. Of
course, I never ask if she wants fruit at all. Giving her the power make decisions. This tactic works most of the time.
to choose makes her more willing to eat the fruit she picks.
I know my daughter wants to be a good role model for her
younger brother. So, when there’s something in the meal she This method not only works well with my daughter, but it also
doesn’t like, I tell her to eat it to show him how she’s a good kid
who can eat everything, so he can learn from her. She’s
encourages my son to eat healthy foods because he wants to 'win'
usually happy to eat it when she knows her brother is watching. in the competition.
Sometimes I feel like I'm failing at teaching my children to The negative thoughts only make things worse. Now, I try to remind myself to
keep the house tidy. I'm not sure how some of my friends
manage to keep their homes neat, even with young children. keep the kitchen and living room tidy, so my children can learn from me. I know
This thought sometimes leads me to yell at the kids when I I’m also a bit of a messy person, but I’m working on setting a better example.
see a messy room, but it doesn’t really help them improve.
4. Make a list of your child’s basic strengths and admirable qualities.
- Excellent in math and language skills.
- Passionate about reading books and playing educational games on her tablet, especially those
focused on languages and math.
- Eager to be a good role model and a loving big sister to her younger brother.
- Great at adapting to new environments.
- Confident in her intelligence and appearance.
Do you have any questions or comments for us?
Not for now.
