Skills

Session 1: Stress Management

Session 1: Stress Management
Session 2: Self-awareness — Strength
Session 2: Self-awareness — Strength and Weakness
and Weakness Analysis
Session 3: Self-motivation
Analysis Session 4:Self-regulation — Goal Setting
Session 5:Self-regulation — Time Management
Session 3: Self-motivation
Session 4:Self-regulation — Goal Setting
Session 5:Self-regulation — Time Management
● Self Management Skills are those skills that help a person to control his thoughts,
wants, feelings and actions.
● It allows you to maximize your productivity and performance in various fields of
your career.
● When we talk about employability, Self-management skills help you to manage a
good career path.
● It helps you to overcome in many bad situations.
 Following are some of the skills you must
master to succeed in life:
● Self-awareness: Ask for honest feedback. Gather insights on your personality
and work-specific proficiencies. Think about your daily interactions and how you
handled situations well or could have handled them differently.
● Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your tasks is very important. Taking
ownership is the step towards self-development. For example, if you have been
assigned a task by a teacher; ensure you take complete ownership. Even if
● Self-awareness: Ask for honest feedback. Gather insights on your personality and work-specific proficiencies. Think about your daily

you are unable to complete the task on time, you must report it and then correct it.
interactions and how you handled situations well or could have handled them differently.

● Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your tasks is very important. Taking ownership is the step towards self-development. For
example, if you have been assigned a task by a teacher; ensure you take complete ownership. Even if you are unable to complete the
task on time, you must report it and then correct it.

● Time Management: Prioritize the things you have to do. Remove waste and
● Time Management: Prioritize the things you have to do. Remove waste and redundancy from work. Make a time table and follow it
diligently.

redundancy from work. Make a time table and follow it diligently.

● Adaptability: Stay current with best practices and read up on new information always. Prepare yourself for new changes, so that you
can transition seamlessly.

● Adaptability: Stay current with best practices and read up on new information
always. Prepare yourself for new changes, so that you can transition seamlessly.
 Stress Management
● What is Stress?
● Stress can be defined as our emotional, mental, physical and social
reaction to any perceived demands or threats. These demands or
threats are called stressors. Stressors are the reason for stress.
● For example,
○ you are too close to the exams but feel unprepared.
○ you are experiencing a loss of someone close in the family.
○ you are worried about what people would think of you if you don’t
dress well or cannot speak confidently
 Stress Management

● Managing stress is about making a plan to be able to cope effectively with daily
pressures. The ultimate goal is to strike a balance between life, work,
relationships, relaxation, and fun. By doing this, you are able to deal with daily
stress triggers and meet these challenges head-on.

● Always keep in mind the ABC of stress management

● A: Adversity or the stressful event
● B: Beliefs or the way you respond to the event
● C: Consequences or actions and outcomes of the event
 Management Techniques
● Here are a few simple stress management techniques.
● Time management: Proper time management is one of the most effective
stress-relieving techniques.
● Physical exercise and fresh air: A healthy lifestyle is essential for students.
Stress is generally lower in people who maintain a healthy routine. Doing
yoga, meditation and deep breathing exercises help in proper blood
circulation and relaxes the body. Even taking a walk or playing in the park will
help you get a lot of fresh oxygen, which will help you become more active.
● Healthy diet: Having a healthy diet will also help you reduce stress. Eating a
balanced diet, such as Dal, Roti, vegetables and fruits will give you the
strength to do your daily work efficiently.
● Positivity: Focussing on negative aspects of life will add more stress.
Instead, learn to look at the good things and stay positive. For example,
instead of feeling upset over scoring less in a test, try to maintain a
positive attitude and look at ways to improve the next time.
● Sleep: We should get a good night’s sleep for at least 7 hours so that
your brain and body gets recharged to function better the next day.
● Holidays with family and friends: Going to a relative’s place, such as your
grandparents’ house or a new place during your summer vacations can
help you break from the normal routine and come back afresh
● Taking Nature Walks: Taking nature walks in a pristine environment of a
national park or a sanctuary or a trail in the country side / village, brings
us a sense of calmness by allowing our over-stimulated minds a chance
to relax and helps us to relax
 Ability to Work Independently
● If you can become a calm and relaxed person, you will have the ability to work
independently, which means.
● 1. becoming self-aware, self-monitoring, and self-correcting.
● 2. knowing what you need to do.
● 3. taking the initiative rather than being told what to do.
● 4. recognising your mistakes and not blaming others.
● 5. having the ability and the will to learn continuously.
 Emotional Intelligence
● Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage
one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.
○ Emotional awareness : the ability to identify and name
one’s own emotions.
○ Harnessing emotions : the ability to harness and apply
emotions to tasks like thinking and problem solving.
○ Managing emotions : the ability to regulate one’s own
emotions when necessary and help others to do the
same.
● Some steps to manage emotional intelligence are as given
below.
○ Understand your emotions: Observe your behaviour
and note the things you need to work on. You can then
work on the things you need to improve.
○ Rationalise: Do not take decisions abruptly; be rational
in your thinking.
○ Practise: Do meditation and yoga to keep yourself calm.
 Self-awareness — Strength and Weakness
Analysis
● Techniques for Identifying your Strengths and Weaknesses
Finding Strengths (or abilities)
● Think of anything that you are always successful at.
● Think about what others like in you.
● Take out time and think about what you do well.
Finding Weaknesses
● Point out the areas where you struggle and the things you find difficult to do.
● Look at the feedback others usually give you.
● Be open to feedback and accept your weaknesses without feeling low about it.
Take it as an area of improvement.
 Difference between Interests and
Abilities (Strengths)

● Interests
1. Things that you like to do in your free time that make you happy. An acquired or
natural capacity
2. Things you are curious about or would do even if no one asked you to do it.
3. Things you want to learn or would like to do in the future
● Ability
1. An acquired or natural capacity
[Link] you to perform a particular job or task with considerable proficiency.
 Self-motivation
● Self-motivation is simply the force within you that drives you to do things.
Self-motivation is what pushes us to achieve our goals, feel happy and
improve our quality of life. In other words, it is our ability to do the things that
need to be done without someone or something influencing us.

● Qualities of Self-motivated People

● 1. Know what they want from life
2. Are focussed
3. Know what is important
4. Are dedicated to fulfill their dreams
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● Stay loyal to your goals
● Stay loyal to your goals
 Self-regulation — Goal
Setting
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○ Measureable : A measureable goal answers the questions “How
much?”, “How many?” and “How do I know that I have achieved
results?

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○ Measurable goal: “I want to have 5 times more money than what I have
today in my hand at the end of this year.”
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Self-regulation — Time Management
● Time Management and Its Importance
● Time management is the thinking skill that helps you to
✔ complete tasks on time.
✔ make a daily timetable.
✔ make a good guess at how long it will take you to do something.
✔ submit homework and assignments on time.
✔ not waste time during the day.
● Four Steps for Effective Time Management Organise
● [Link]: We plan our day to- day activities.
● 2. Prioritise: We make a to-do list that has all our activities and we rank
them in the order of importance.
● 3. Control: We have a control over our activities and time.
● 4. Track: We identify and note where we have spent our time.