Understanding the Sexual Self
Understanding the Sexual Self
This section tackles one of the most crucial aspects of human development, the sexual self. It
highlights biological and environmental factors that shape sexual
development. Being a complex and amazing structure, the human body is a
source of strength, beauty, and wonder. Like a well-designed machine, a
healthy body has parts whose parts function smoothly together. Like a
harmonious orchestra that musicians play together, they produce beautiful
music, a healthy body that has parts whose operations are in harmony with
others.
Introduction
● Sexual selfhood is defined as how one thinks about himself or herself as a sexual individual.
Human sexuality is a topic that just like beauty is culturally diverse. This should be understood in
varied ways.
1. Historical.
● In the Middle Ages (476-1450), bore witness to the strong influence of church particularly in
matters of sexuality. The church decreed that all sexual acts that do not lead to procreation were
considered evil. Women were labelled as either temptress (like Eve) or a woman of virtue (like
Virgin Mary).
● In the protestant reformation of the 16th century (1483-1546) Martin Luther, John Calvin and
other Protestant leaders initiated a movement against the Roman Catholic Church. Protestantism
believed that sexuality is a natural part of life and that priests should be able to marry and have
families. Martin Luther King and John Calvin believed that the reason for sexual intimacy was to
strengthen the physical and emotional bond between husbands and wives and not just procreation.
● By the 17th and 18th century, the Puritans, a group of people who were discontented with the
Church of England rallied for religious, moral and societal reformation. They had positive view
on marital sex and did not tolerate sex outside marriage. Premarital sex, therefore, was considered
immoral.
● In the Victorian Era (1837-1901), homosexuality and prostitution were rampant and considered to
be threats to social order. People in this era were not comfortable in discussing breast or buttocks,
they used other terms instead.
● Through the years and in the 20th century, interest in sexuality became more evident and accepted
in society. The separation of church and state reduced the influence the church had over sexual
mores. Also, the rise of feminism allowed for changes in employment, home life, and sexual
standards for women. Over time, cultural diversity and social norms offered varied views on what
today may be considered as sexually normal.
2. Biological.
● Knowing the structures and functions of the reproductive system is essential to the understanding
of sexuality. In the nervous system, it is the brain that initiates and organizes sexual behavior.
Through the process of sexual reproduction, the next generation of human beings are created by
the fusion of the egg cell and sperm cell. This will be discussed further in the next pages.
3. Sociobiological/Evolutionary.
● Although survival is the goal of the evolutionary perspective, physical attraction which ends in
sex does not mean that the attraction will be lasting. For what is really important in human sexual
relationships is the love, care, and responsibility each gender has for the other.
4. Psychological
● Rosenthal (2013) also explained that sexuality is not a mere physical response. Rather, it also
involves emotions, thoughts and beliefs.
● Sigmund Freud was one of the most prominent people to explain sexuality, through his theories.
According to him, human beings are faces with two forces – sex instinct and libido (pleasure) and
death or aggressive instinct (harm toward oneself or towards others).
● Sex instinct does not only pertain to the sexual act rather it could also mean anything that could
give pleasure to the person. Thus, human behavior is geared towards satisfying the sex instinct
and/or death instinct. A person’s libido or sexual energy is located in an area of the body at
different psychosexual stages. These areas of pleasure are called erogenous zones. These will be
discussed further in the following pages.
● Freud also regarded personality as composed of three structures: the id, the Ego and the
Superego. The id is the part which always seeks for pleasure and aggression. It follows the
pleasure principle because it wants the person to attain gratification immediately. It is
unconsciously saying “I want it now!”. The Superego is the person’s sense of morality; it follows
the moral principle whose role is to restrict demands of the id. It is developed when children are
taught the difference between right and wrong. The ego follows the analytical principle. It
analyses the need of the id and its consequences as dictated by the superego and thinks of ways to
satisfy the need in an acceptable manner.
5. Religious
● Judaism holds a positive and natural outlook toward marital sex which they consider as blessed
by God and pleasurable for both men and women. Sexual connection provides an opportunity for
spirituality and transcendence.
● In Islam, family is considered of utmost importance, and celibacy within marriage is prohibited.
Muslim men are allowed to have up to four wives but Muslim women can only have one
husband. Sex is permitted only within marriage and extramarital sex is penalized.
● According to Taoism, which originated in China, sex is not only natural and healthy, but a sacred
union necessary to people’s physical, mental, and spiritual being. The sexual union is a way to
balance male and female energy.
● In Hinduism, sexuality is seen as spiritual force, and the act of ritual lovemaking is a means of
both celebrating and transcending the physical
● For the Roman Catholic Church, marriage is purely for intercourse and procreation. Pope John
Paul II confirmed the idea that married couples should engage in intercourse only for the purpose
of procreation. They further believed that homosexual orientation, in itself is not sinful, but
homosexual acts are immoral and sinful. The use of birth control is strongly opposed but they
agree to natural family planning and prohibit abortion.
● From a purely physical standpoint, our bodies are made mainly of water. We are also made of
many minerals, including calcium, phosphorous, potassium, sulfur, sodium, chlorine,
magnesium, and iron. In order of size, the elements of the body are organized into cells,
tissues, and organs. Related organs are combined into systems, including the musculoskeletal,
cardiovascular, nervous, respiratory, gastrointestinal, endocrine, and reproductive systems
● There are two kinds of reproduction: asexual and sexual. Many biochemical events
must occur before an organism can reproduce either way.
1. Asexual reproduction
The simplest form of reproduction that literally means without sex. A single celled
animal grows to a certain stage or size and divides into two identical organisms. Multi-celled
asexual organisms have developed several unique reproductive strategies. For example, the
jellyfish reproduces by budding, a process where a new individual begins to grow (bud) from
the original organism and is eventually released as a small, free swimming organism.
2. Sexual reproduction
In organisms that reproduce sexually, there are males and females and reproduction
occurs when partners come together. This also involves reproductive cells, including a female
ovum (egg) and a male’s sperm.
● Network of organs and signaling molecules happened in the process of the human
reproductive system. In which, interaction and communication make it possible to the human
ability to produce and bear live offspring. It is distinguished from all other organ systems of
the human body by the fact that it is composed of two anatomically different organ plans, one
for the female and one for the male. It is also a slow-developing system, with the
reproductive organs obtaining full maturity at some point during adolescence, the transitional
phase of growth and development between childhood and adulthood.
● In both male and female embryos, the tissues that will form the structures of the internal
genitalia that are destined to develop in only one way, either as structures in the female
reproductive system or structures in the male reproductive system, but not both.
● Provided all organs are present, normally constructed, and functioning properly, the seven
essential features of human reproduction are:
1. Penis – a male sexual organ consisting of the internal root and external shaft and glans.
2. Root – the portion of the penis that extends internally into the pelvic cavity.
3. Shaft – the length of the penis between the glans and the body.
4. Glans – the head of the penis; richly endowed with nerve endings.
5. Cavernous bodies – the structures in the shaft of the penis that engorge with blood during sexual
arousal.
6. Foreskin – a covering of skin over the penile glans.
1. Vulva – encompasses all female external genital structures – the hairs, fold of skin, and the
urinary and vaginal openings.
a. Mons Veneris – a triangular mound over the pubic bone above the vulva.
b. Labia majora – the outer lips of the vulva.
c. Labia minora – the inner lips of the vulva, one on each side of the vaginal opening.
d. Prepuce – the foreskin or fold of skin over the clitoris.
e. Clitoris – a highly sensitive structure of the female external genitals, the only function of
which is sexual pleasure.
f. Shaft – the length of the clitoris between the glans and the body.
g. Glans – the head of the clitoris; richly endowed with nerve endings.
h. Cruca – the innermost tips of the cavernous bodies that connect to the pubic bones.
i. Vestibule – the area of the vulva inside the labia minora.
j. Urethra – the tube through which urine passes from the bladder to outside the body.
2. Internal Structure
a. Vagina – a stretchable canal in the female that opens at the vulva and extends about four
inches into the pelvis.
b. Rugae – the folds of tissue in the vagina.
c. Cervix – the small end of the uterus, located at the back of the vagina.
d. Uterus – a pear shaped organ inside the female pelvis, within which the fetus develops.
e. Fallopian tubes – two tubes in which the egg and sperm travel, extending from the sides of
the uterus.
f. Ovaries – female gonads that produce ova and sex hormones.
● These are the parts of the reproductive organs that are considered to be important. The
primary and secondary characteristics refer to specific physical differentiate males and
females in sexually dimorphic species – species having two forms that are determined by
their sex; that is, species in which males and females look different from each other. Primary
characteristics are there from birth (for example, penises and vaginas). Secondary sexual
characteristics emerge at puberty (such as low voices and beards in men, and high voices and
no facial hair in women). Samples includes:
● These secondary sexual characteristics are not used in reproduction, but are apparent in most
dimorphic species. Hormones secreted through the hypothalamus initiate the development of
classically male or female secondary sexual traits.
● With girls, the menstrual cycle begins, it may be irregular, with some monthly cycles
occurring without ovulation. Since 1840, menstruation has been beginning a few months
earlier every decade, possibly due to better nutrition or to the consumption of meat that
contains hormones. In general, girls gain less height and weight than boys do during their
teenage years.
● The list below shows some of these characteristic differences between human males and
females.
● The prepubertal uterus is tear-drop shaped, with the neck and isthmus accounting for up to two-
thirds of the uterine volume; then, with the production of estrogens, it becomes pear shaped, with
the uterine body increasing in length and thickness proportionately more than the cervix.
● The rising levels of plasma gonadotropins stimulate the ovary to produce increasing amounts of
estradiol. Estradiol is responsible for the development of secondary sexual characteristics, that is,
growth and development of the breasts and reproductive organs, fat redistribution (hips, breasts),
and bone maturation. The maturation of the ovary at adolescence correlates well with estradiol
secretion and the stages of puberty.
● During puberty, plasma estradiol levels fluctuate widely, probably reflecting successive waves of
follicular development that fail to reach the ovulatory stage. The uterine endometrium is affected
by these changes and undergoes cycles of proliferation and regression, until a point is reached
when substantial growth occurs so that withdrawal of estrogen results in the first menstruation
(menarche). Female secondary sexual characteristics include breast development, pubic and/or
axillary hair, and menses occur earlier than normal variations from the mean, the terms
premature.
P1 Prepubertal
Testicular length less than 2.5 cm
● Secondary sexual development in boys includes growth kinetics are enhanced from early puberty
on, this is on maximal velocity of attaining it only around 14 to 15 years of age. Testis increases
in size, mainly at the expense of the seminiferous tubules. Also the interstitial (leydig) cells
develop and ensure synthesis and secretion of testosterone. A testicular volume of 4ml or a
longitudinal diameter greater than or equal to 2.5 cm and a slight progressive increase in scrotal
folds and pigmentation constitute the first signs of puberty. The increase in testicular size
observed during pre puberty and puberty results essentially from the development of the
seminiferous tubules.
● The testicular volume increases throughout puberty up to Tanner stage P4 when a longitudinal
diameter of 5.0 + 0.5 cm or a volume of 17.6 + 4.0 ml is reached. A significant increase of plasma
testosterone is found only between Tanner pubertal stages P3 and P4. Dihydrotestosterone shows
a pattern similar to that of testosterone, and the proportion of dihydrotestosterone to testosterone
decreases gradually until adulthood, when dihydrotestosterone levels are approximately 10% of
those of testosterone.
● Remember, that at the start of puberty, changes that happen in the bodies of young males and
females are both secondary and primary sexual changes. Whereas, secondary sexual changes are
physical changes that distinguish males from females.
● Erogenous zones can be understood in a certain way we understand our body. These are areas of
the human body that have heightened sensitivity. The stimulation of these areas may result in the
foundation and production of sexual fantasies, sexual arousal, and orgasm. These are areas that
are more sensitive than others all over the body.
● Varieties of sexual excitement may be provoked that will classify the erogenous zones. Erogenous
zones vary from culture to culture and over time. Essentially, these parts have high concentration
of nerve endings, that the result is they are particularly sensitive to touch, pressure, or vibration.
1. Oral stage, the child erogenous zone is the mouth which receives gratification through
eating and sucking.
2. Anal stage, the erogenous zone is the anus in which sexual gratification is derived from
defecation
3. Phallic stage, erogenous zone is the genitals. Here the child experiences sexual attraction
towards the opposite sex parent. Oedipus complex (sexual attraction of the body child
toward the mother) and Electra complex (sexual attraction of the girl child towards the
father)
4. Latency stage, sexual impulses lie dormant as the child is occupied by social activities
such as going to school and playing.
5. Genital stage, where the erogenous zone is again the genitals. At this time, the sexual
attraction is directed towards others, usually one of opposite sex.
● According to his theory, each stage of psychosexual development must be met successfully for
proper development; if we lack proper nurturing and parenting during a stage, we may become
stuck in, or fixated on, that stage. Freud’s psychosexual theory has been seriously criticized for
the past few decades and is
now considered largely
outdated. However, the
erogenous zones were
discussed in each of the
stages of psychosexual
development, that if not
outgrown will have
fixations for that certain
stage.
● Erogenous zones is
different from sexual
fetishes. According to
Freud, a fetish is an
inappropriate object (a
shoe for example) that is
substituted for a woman
and used for sexual
gratification. An
erogenous zone is a body
part (a foot, for instance)
that arouses sexual
curiosity and draws a
man's attention to the
whole female body.
Fetishism is an individual
personality disorder, while
erogenous zones are
sexual preferences shared
by most men at a given
time or place. Fetishes
belong to
the science of psychopathology while erogenous zones belong to the social world of costume
and fashion.
● The phrase erogenous zones was coined near the end of the nineteenth century and used in the
early twentieth century by some psychologists to describe how simple pressure to these parts of
the body could arouse complete orgasm in what were defined as hysterical persons (generally
understood to be women).
● The second general meaning of the phrase, to be dealt with at some length here, refers to a visual
phenomenon associated with clothing and body adornment. For cultural anthropologists,
erogenous zones are those areas of the female body which men find sexually arousing and which
women alter or adorn to attract the male eye.
● Because of this understanding, it can be noted that culture determines their unique fixation for
erogenous zones. Examples are Asian men prize the nape of the neck while Europeans are fixated
with waist. In defiance of common sense, the genitals rarely become erogenous zones.
● Human increases their likeness through body paint, cosmetics, mutilation or other procedures like
Western women paint their lips red, enhancing resemblance to the labia; Aristocratic Chinese
women bound their feet so it would be tiny, curled feet more closely resembled the vulva. More
societies alter their erogenous zones to make them more beautiful or prominent.
● One of the great qualities of a human being is its ability to be modified by experiences. This
process is known as learning and conditioning, which most of the aspects of human behavior,
even sexual behavior appear to be a product of it. Like the preferences people have of type of
individual as partners – tall, short, younger, or varieties of partners like heterosexual/homosexual.
The classification of behavior as normal or away from normal represents culture based rather than
scientifically explained.
● As part of the transition from childhood to adulthood, all adolescents experience sexual feelings.
Some act upon these feelings by having sexual intercourse; others don’t have intercourse but
engage in behaviors stopping short of penile/vaginal intercourse; some engage in anal intercourse
or oral sex (Remez, 2000); and others deny their sexual feelings by focusing intensely on non-
sexual pursuits.
● Other adolescents are able to have socially acceptable intercourse through early, sometimes pre-
arranged, marriages. Sexual behavior among adolescents is not new – what is new is the delay in
marriage that attends increasing educational attainment, and non-agricultural and increasingly
technological free market societies.
● Individuals become erotically aroused when they observe other individuals engaging in sexual
activity. The human sexual response can be understood through a cycle. This is also called the
sexual response cycle. It refers to the sequence of physical and emotional changes that occur as a
person becomes sexually aroused and participates in sexually stimulating activities.
● Advantages can be known if a person would know how their bodies respond during each cycle.
Men and women experience sexual arousal very differently, not only physiologically but
psychologically. For many women, the excitement phase has much more of an emotional
component. Women are motivated to have sexual responses by a need for emotional intimacy. It
is this motivation that causes them to react to sexual stimuli and thus enter the excitement phase.
● Master and Johnson categorized the human sexual response into four stages which they called the
Human Sexual Response Cycle (HSRC);
Stage Description
Excitement This is the body’s initial response to sexual arousal.
● Sexual response varies from person to person and sexual fulfillment can occur without the
completion of all phases described by Master and Johnson. Rosenthal (2013) has included the
stage of desire prior to excitement which is a drive or motivation to seek out sexual objects or to
engage in sexual activities.
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This section will provide understanding on the developing a sexual self-concept that
is an important developmental task of adolescence; however, little empirical
evidence describes this development, nor how these changes are related to
development in sexual behavior. Highlight of this part is the understanding of the
chemistry of love, lust and attachment; The Psychological aspect; the sexually
diverse behavior; Sexually Transmitted Disease (STIs) and Contraception.
● According to anthropologist Helen Fisher (2016) there are three stages of falling in love.
In each stage, a different set of brain chemicals run the show. These stages are lust,
attraction, and love.
1. Lust
● Through reproduction,
organisms pass on their
genes, and contribute to
the perpetuation of their
species. The hypothalamus
of the brain plays a big
role
in this, stimulating the production of the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen from the
testes and ovaries.
● While these chemicals are often stereotyped as being male and female, respectively, both play
a role in men and women. As it turns out, testosterone increases libido in just about everyone.
The effects are less pronounced with estrogen, but some women report being more sexually
motivated around the time they ovulate, when estrogen levels are highest.
2. Attraction
● In this stage, a person may begin to be obsessed about their object of affection and crave for
his presence. A person may don’t feel like sleeping or eating. People can certainly lust for
someone they are attracted to, and vice versa, one can happen without the other.
● .Attraction has brain pathways that controls “reward” behavior, which explains the first few
months of a relationship. Dopamine is the main player in the brain’s reward pathway. When it
is released, people feel good. In this case, these things spending time with loved ones with
high levels of dopamine and related hormones (norepinephrine) are released.
● Brain scans of people in love have actually shown that the primary “reward” centers of the
brain. Finally, attraction seems to lead to a reduction in serotonin, a hormone that is involved
in appetite and mood. In the end, everyone is capable of defining love for themselves. And,
for better or for worse, if it’s all hormones, maybe each of us can have “chemistry” with just
about anyone.
3. Attachment
● This stage involves wanting to make a more lasting commitment to your loved one. All the
goals are dedicated to the object of affection being a part of a person’s life. dopamine
decreases and attraction goes down.
● If things are going well, it gets replaced by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin, which
create the desire to bond, affiliate with, and nurture your partner. You want to cuddle and be
close and share your deepest secrets with her. You plan and dream together.
● Understanding the science of lust, attraction, and attachment can help a person develop more realistic
expectations of their relationships.
● Most romantic relationships begin with two individuals falling into love with each other. The singer
Robert Palmer compares love with an addiction. This was verified in a study in which 17 participants
who were madly in love were asked to go to the lab and bring a picture of their loved one.
Participants were placed in a brain scanner (fMRI functional magnetic resonance imaging) which
measures the
● Thus, early passionate love is not an emotion in and if itself. Rather, it is best characterized as a
“motivation or goal oriented state that leads to various specific emotions, such as euphoria aor
anxiety”. Unlike many emotions, love is not associated with any specific facial expression, and I am
focused on a single reward. The emotions associated with love – elation, anxiety, joy, fear – may
come and go. But motivation to be with the beloved – remains.
● Love can be characterized by concern for other’s well-being, a desire for physical presence and
emotional support. In a study of Tennov in 1979, though sex is an important component of romantic
love, 95% of women and 91% of male respondents did not agree with the statement that “the best
thing about love is sex”.
1. Eros (EH-ros). Love is based on a strong sexual and emotional component. This type of love
creates initial excitement of a new relationship. A romantic and passionate love which
emphasizes physical attraction and sexual desire. The Eros lover dreams of the ideal
characteristics of a partner and usually experiences love at first sight. The relationship, however,
seldom lasts forever because they tend to be quick to fall in and out of love.
2. Agape (AH-gah-pay). This is altruistic and selfless love. The person shows his love without
expecting to receive the same in return. He considers the wishes of his partner as more important
5. Mania. This is characterized by an intense feeling which may lead to obsessive and possessive
love towards the loved one. Manic lovers always check the partner’s whereabouts. They easily
get jealous and their experience of love is out of control. They are easily taken advantage of by
ludic lovers.
6. Pragma. This is a practical and business-like love. Pragmatic lovers may plan the best time to get
married, have children, and other future plans. Love is based on what is appropriate. It is not
intense nor out of control.
● The Triangular Theory of Love by Robert Sternberg, According to him, love is made up of three
components:
1. Intimacy. This includes the desire to give and receive emotional closeness, support, caring and
sharing.
2. Passion. This is the hot component of love which can be described as intensely romantic or
sexual desire for another person usually accompanied by physical attraction and physiological
arousal.
3. Commitment. This is the cold component of love. It is the decision to maintain the relationship
through good times and bad times.
● Sternberg also described several types of love based on the above components.
● The psychology of love shows that there are psychological theories that would explain why people
fall in love.
1. Behavioral Reinforcement Theory. When someone received a reward such as free ride or other
favors from another, a positive feeling may be experienced. The better the feeling associated
with the behavior of a person, the more likely it is for the behavior to be repeated.
2. Physiological Arousal Theory. This explains the most acceptable theories about emotions: the
bodies experience a physiological change first, then people assign an emotion to that physical
sensation. It is based on the interpretation of the brain. For instance, when a big spider falls in
front of an individual, the stress reaction would be: the person might gasp, the heart would
pound faster, and breathing would quicken. The brain would interpret an emotion associated
with this experience as the feeling of FEAR. In another situation, a girl who happens to see her
crush walking by will have the same experience as the person who encounters the spider (a
person might gasp, the heart and respiratory rate would elevate): the brain would have different
interpretation in the second case, a feeling of LOVE.
3. Evolutionary Theories. This explains that love arose due to some sociobiological need. Males
tend to look for young, healthy females mates to carry their offspring. Females prefer males who
have the resources to support them and their offspring.
● Based on social psychological data from Rosenthal (2013), the factors that would determine
with whom people fall in love are:
o Physical attractiveness (though beauty is in the eye of the beholder)
o Reciprocity (people tend to like an individual who also like them)
o Proximity (being around anytime physically or virtually)
o Similarities (same age, religion, education, race, physical attractiveness, intelligence,
and socio-economic class)
The diversity of sexual behavior: solitary, heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual and transsexual
the label deviant behavior. The term deviant should not be used as a moral judgment but
simply as indicating that such activity is not common in a particular society. Since human
societies differ in their sexual practices, what is deviant in one society may be normal in
another.
● Solitary behavior – A behavior with the intention of stimulating self that caused arousal
usually done in private. This behavior is more common to males. There is great individual
variation in frequency. Solitary behavior provides pleasure for self with emotional content
with sole control to the degree of pleasure.
● One of the necessary tasks of growing up is learning to cope with one’s sexual arousal and to
achieve some balance between suppression, which can be injurious, and free expression,
which can lead to social difficulties. There is great variation among individuals in the strength
of sex drive and responsiveness, so this necessary exercise of restraint is correspondingly
difficult or easy.
● On the other hand, Rosenthal (2013) defined sexual orientation as a person’s predisposition or
inclination regarding sexual behavior, emotional attachment or physical attraction to one or
both sexes.
● The phrase “sexual orientation” is preferred over “sexual preference” which implies a
conscious or deliberate choice of a sexual partner. The following are types of sexual
orientations:
a. Lesbian – is the term used to describe a woman whose sexual and romantic attraction
toward women.
b. Gay - is a man whose sexual and romantic attraction is towards other men.
3. Bisexual – is a person who may be sexually oriented to both men and women
4. Transsexual – these are people experience a gender identity that is inconsistent with, or
not culturally associated with, their assigned sex, and desire to permanently transition to
the gender with which they identify, usually seeking medical assistance.
5. Pansexual – is a new sexual orientation of persons who are sexually attracted to people
regardless of their sex or gender identity. The word “pan” is a Greek word for “all r
every”. Thus, they may also be called “gender blind” for they believe that gender and sex
are not determining factors for getting sexually attracted to both males and females
whereas pansexual is more fluid. Aside from men and women they may also be attracted
to transgender, transsexual, androgynous and other gender categories.
● Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) are also known as Sexually Transmitted Infections
(STI), together with venereal disease, these are infections that are commonly spread by sexual
intercourse. These are infections that are passed from one person to another through sexual
contact, blood transfusion, breastfeeding, and a certain amount of saliva.
1. HIV/AIDS. HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus with AIDS stands for
Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome. Thus, HIV is a virus while AIDS is a condition
or syndrome. HIV can lead to infections that attack and destroy the CD4 (Tcells) of
the
immune system which is the body’s natural defense against such illness as tuberculosis,
pneumonia, and cancer.
o The antiretroviral
therapy (ART) is a combination
of medications that are used to
prevent HIV from replicating to
protect the body against the virus
and infection. However, ART is
not a cure. It helps those with
HIV positive to live longer and
happier and lowers the risk of
advancing the condition into
AIDS.
o In the statistics of Philippine Department of Health (DOH), in 2008), there is one (1)
newly diagnosed HIV case per day. In 2010, it increased to four (4) cases per day. In
2012, it became nine (9) per day. In 2014, it has blown to seventeen (17) cases per
day and in 2016, there are twenty-sex (26) reported daily cases of newly diagnosed
HIV.
o Most individuals have no or only minimal signs or symptoms. When signs do occur,
they typically appear as one or more blisters on or around the genitals or rectum. The
blisters break, leaving tender sores that may take two to four weeks to heal the first
time they occur. Typically, another outbreak can appear weeks or months after the
first, but it almost always is less severe and shorter.
o The virus remains in the body for life and the lesions may recur from time to time.
Severe or frequently recurrent genital herpes is treated with one of several antiviral
drugs that are available by prescription. These drugs help control the symptoms, but
do not eliminate the herpes virus from the body.
3. Genital Warts. Genital warts (also called venereal warts or Condylomata Acuminata) are
caused by the human papillomavirus, a virus related to the one that causes common skin
warts. Certain high-risk types of HPV can cause cervical cancer and other genital
cancers, but these are different from the types that cause genital warts.
o Genital warts usually first appear as small, hard painless bumps in the vaginal area or
around the anus. If untreated, they may grow and develop a fleshy, cauliflower-like
appearance.
o Most women who are infected have no symptoms. Even when a woman has
symptoms, they can be so non-specific as to be mistaken for a bladder or vaginal
infection. The most common symptoms of gonorrhea are a vaginal discharge or
vaginal bleeding between periods. Untreated cases can lead to serious complications,
including PID, ectopic pregnancy and infertility.
o Symptoms for males are discharge from the penis and burning sensations during
urination.
6. Chlamydia. This is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections, named for
Chlamydia trachomatis, an organism that spreads through sexual contact and infects the
genital organs of both sexes.
● There are a lot of reasons why people use contraceptives. Some purposes of birth control are
to prevent pregnancy, many women choose to use contraception because of certain health
advantages. For example, some hormonal birth control methods may help regulate your
period, reduce acne, and/or lower endometriosis-related pain.
● In general, with the exception of male and female sterilization, all methods that are
appropriate for healthy adults are also potentially appropriate for healthy, post-pubertal
adolescents. Once
● Once a decision is made for protection, sexually active individual should be presented with
options that, if used consistently and correctly, will prevent pregnancy and, depending upon
an individual’s circumstances, prevent sexually transmissible diseases. When selecting a
method, a person should consider the nature of their sexual relationship, sexual behaviors
engaged in, frequency of intercourse, risk of Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) or even
HIV, ability to comply with the use, ability to tolerate side effects, cost, convenience,
religious beliefs and other personal factors that may affect their decisions.
a. Oral Contraceptives (Pills) – These are daily oral contraceptives. Some contain estrogen and
progesterone; others are progestin only and are over 99% effective if used according to
instruction. Often reduces bleeding and period pain, and may help with premenstrual
symptoms. Missing pills, vomiting or severe diarrhea can make it less effective.
b. The Patch – It is a small patch you stick on the skin that releases estrogen and progestogen. It
stops ovulation. It can make
bleeds regular, lighter, and less
painful, however, may be seen
and can cause skin irritation.
d. Implants - A small, flexible rod put under the skin of the upper arm releases progestogen.
Works for 3 years but can be taken out sooner. It requires a small procedure to fit and remove
it.
e. Injectable - An injection of progestogen. Works for 8 or 13 weeks – you don’t have to think
about contraception during this time. Can’t be removed from the body so side effects may
continue while it works and for some time afterwards.
2. Barrier methods (methods that physically or chemically block the sperm from reaching an egg
and provide a barrier between direct skin to skin contacts)
a. Diaphragm - A flexible latex (rubber) or silicone device, used with spermicide, is put into the
vagina to cover the cervix. Can be put in any time before sex.
b. Cervical Caps – These are similar to the diaphragm, though they are generally always made
of silicone. They are put into the vagina to cover the cervix and are 92 to 96 percent effective
when used correctly.
c. Male and Female Condoms or spermicides - For Males: A very thin latex (rubber)
polyurethane (plastic) or synthetic sheath, put over the erect penis. For Females: Soft, thin
polyurethane sheath that loosely lines the vagina and covers the area just outside. Condoms
are the best way to help protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections
3. Behavioral Methods
a. Rhythm or Calendar Method – It is a way to determine a woman’s most fertile and interfile
times by charting the menstrual cycle. It is also known as natural family planning or fertility
awareness.
c. Outercourse – It is a sexual activity that does not include the insertion of the penis into the
vagina.
d. Withdrawal – it happens when a man removes his penis from vagina and ejaculate outside of
the woman’s body.
6. Emergency Contraception - It is a measure that protects against pregnancy after unprotected sex
has already occurred. It could be through IUD or higher dosage of pills.
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Arcega, A M., Cullar, D. S., Evangelista, L. D. & Falculan, L. M. (2018). Understanding the Self.
Malabon City: Mutya Publishing House Inc.
Gazzingan, L. B. et al. (2019). Understanding the Self. Muntinlupa City: Panday-Lahi Publishing House,
Inc.
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● Our possessions are a major contributor to and reflection of our identities. A variety of
evidence is presented supporting this simple and compelling premise. The Material self
suggest that the environment surroundings affects what we think we need versus to what we
really need. This also develops on thinking alone or thinking and deciding with other people
in terms of purchasing.
● Identities can be reflected on the possessions that people have. Some research are identified
and drawn upon in developing this concept which the concept is from consumer behavior. To
be able to identify this consumer behavior, people need to gain some understanding of the
meanings that consumer attach to possessions. People should first recognize that possessions,
intentionally or unintentionally, regard their possessions as parts of themselves.
● People are likely to purchase products that can relate to their personality. Material
possessions signify some aspects of one’s sense of self and identity.
● Possessions, tell a lot about their owners. Thus, one’s sense of self and identity is influential
on how an individual chooses to purchase his/her wants and how he/she makes economic
decisions that will address his/her personal and social needs
● The decisions that go into the purchase of items and certain services is dependent on a
number of factors, including financial constraints, availability of items and services, and the
influence of family and friends.
● However, the most important factor is determining whether these items and services fall under:
o Wants. Synonymous with luxuries. People buy them for reasons that do not warrant
necessity.
o Needs. These are importants for survival. Food, clothing, and shelter are basic needs
so people purchase them out of necessity.
● According to John Heskett, a British writer and lecturer on the economic, political, cultural
and human value of industrial design, design combines “need” and “desire” in the form of a
practical object that can also reflect the user’s identity and aspirations through its form and
decoration. For him, there is a significance and function behind everyday things. He explains
the effect of design in everyday life. This reflects the personal identity wherever the person is:
home, work, and restaurant or at a leisure place. This design really matters from the smallest
things like toothpick, spoon and fork, the kind and presentation of food that people eat up to
the bigger gadgets, equipment and cars.
● According to him, a sign has two elements: signifier which refers to its physical form and
signified, the mental concepts it refers to. Hence, objects are not just things but are reflections
of the wider lives of communication and individuals. Not surprisingly, the clothes one wears,
the car one drives and the furnishing of one’s home, are all expressions of one self, even
when they act as disguises rather than reflections.
● As Tuan (1998) argues, “Our Fragile sense of self needs support, and this we get by having
and possessing things because, to a large degree, we are what we have and possess”. This
premise regarded possessions is a part of self of a person that is not a new concept. This is
concluded by William James who laid the foundations for modern conceptions of help, he
said that “a man’s self is the sum total of all the he can call his, not only his body and his
psychic powers, but this clothes and his house, his wife and children, his ancestors and
friends, his reputation and works, his lands, and yacht and bank-account.
● All these things give him the same emotions. If they wax and prosper, he feels triumphant; if
they dwindle and die away, he feels cast down,-not necessarily in the same degree for each
thing, but in much the same way for all.” If people define possessions as things they call
theirs, James was saying that people are the sum of their possessions.
● Some of the evidence is found in the nature of self-perceptions, particularly found in the
diminished sense of self when possessions are unintentionally lost or stolen.
Anthropologically, the role of possessions are treated ritually and after death.
● In addition, the self-have areas that are not reviewed more on the relationship between
possessions and sense of self. Essentially, the having, doing, and being can be a focus on
understanding material self that is relevant to the question of how people define who they are.
● In addition, material self can be explained in understanding self-extension. That is, both good
and bad aspects of objects are seen to attach to people through their physical contact or
proximity. This can result in multiple levels of self. On the other hand, to give importance on
the number of categories of possessions that are commonly incorporated into the sense of
self. Categories may be collections, money, pets, other people, and body parts.
● The Theory of the meaning of material possession suggest that material goods can fulfil a
range of instrumental, social, symbolic and affective functions:
● Sartre suggests that there are three primary ways through which a person learns to regard an
object as part of self. One way is through appropriating or controlling an object for personal
use.
● This can be done through appropriate intangible or non ownable objects by overcoming,
conquering, or mastering them. . Similarly, it is only through learning to ride a first bicycle,
manipulating a new computer system, driving a first car, or successfully negotiating rapids in
a new kayak that these objects really become parts of the extended self. Sartre also sees
giving possessions to others as a means of extending self-a special form of control.
● A second way of having an object and incorporating it into self is by creating it; this view
echoes anthropological findings and Locke's (1690) political philosophy. Whether the thing
created is a material object or an abstract thought, the creator retains an identity in the object
for as long as it retains a mark or some other association with the person who brought it into
existence.
● This identity is codified through copyrights, patents, and scientific citations that preserve
associations between people and their mental creations. Sartre feels that buying an object is
merely another form of creating the object, and that even the latent buying power of money
contributes to a sense of self.
● The third way in which objects become a part of self is by knowing them. Whether the object
known is a person, place, or thing, Sartre maintains that the relationship in knowing the
object is inspired by a carnal and sexual desire to have the object.
2. Contamination
● Goffman (1971, pp. 44-47) suggests six modes of interpersonal contamination. An important
omission in this list of modes of interpersonal contamination is the acquisition of possessions
of another person that have been intimately associated with that person. The following are
some of the contamination a person may experience:
Violation of one's personal space
Touching and bodily contact;
Glancing, looking, and staring;
Noise pollution;
Talking to/addressing one
Bodily excreta. Corporeal excreta (spittle, snot, perspiration, food particles, blood,
semen, vomit, urine, and fecal matter-and stains of these); b. Odor (e.g., flatus,
tainted breath, body smells); c. Body heat (e.g., on toilet seats); d. Markings left by
the body (e.g., plate leavings-leftover food).
● As previously noted, some possessions are more central to self than are others. The
possessions central to self may be visualized in concentric layers around the core self, and
will differ over individuals, over time, and over cultures that create shared symbolic
meanings for different goods.
● However, there is another sense in which the individual has a hierarchical arrangement of
levels of self, because people exist not only as individuals, but also as collectivities. They
often define family, group, subculture, nation, and human selves through various
consumption objects.
● Boorstin (1973) suggests, one of the key ways of expressing and defining group membership
is through shared consumption symbols. Such symbols help identify group membership and
define the group self. Just as an individual may use personal possessions such as jewelry,
automobile, make-up, and clothing to help define an individual sense of self, a family is most
apt to use distinct family possessions to define a family self for its members.
● The first is that the house is a symbolic body for the family. Just as clothing alters the
individual's body, furnishings and decorations alter the family's body. The second important
point is that the expressive imagery of the house that is definitional of the family is only fully
acquired during consumption. At the point of acquisition, only a portion of the ultimate
meaning of these objects is present
● In considering the functions of extended self, discussion was directed toward the relative
roles that having, doing, and being play in people’s lives and identities. Developmental
evidence suggests that this identification with things begins quite early in life as the infant
learns to distinguish self from the environment and then from others who may envy a
person’s possessions.
● Emphasis on material possessions tends to decrease with age, but remains high throughout
life as people seek to express themselves through possessions and use material possessions to
seek happiness, remind themselves
of experiences,
accomplishments, and other
people in their lives, and even
create a sense of immortality
after death. The accumulation
of possessions provides a
sense of past and tells people
who they are, where they
came from and where they are
going.
● Consumers unconsciously (and sometimes consciously) know that their possessions are
intimately tied to their sense of the self. Product ownership and use help consumers define
and live out their identity. By implication, then, the current view construes a dichotomy
between what one is sans possessions and what one becomes due to or with possessions.
● Consumer Identity is the pattern of consumption that describes the consumer. People may no
longer consume goods and services primarily because of its functional satisfaction. This
develops the consumer culture. Consumption has become increasingly more meaning-based:
brands are often used as symbolic resources for the construction and maintenance of identity.
● Brands and products are now being used by many consumers to express their identities.
People may construct their social identities through the consumption of commercial brands or
luxury commodities. This is one of the basic features of people in the modern era, a behavior
that leads to consumerism.
● To fully explicate that view and tease out the underlying theory, it is first necessary to dissect
this sans possessions' self. Decomposing the sans possessions' self would help us place
possessions in a better context—how possessions fit into the consumer's self. The sans
possession' view of self is populated in the consumer behavior literature by two visibly
different discourses.
● The first is a 'personal identity' view, wherein self is seen as a multi-faceted, multi-layered,
social and psychological being, reflecting, deeply and continually, on itself. This conception
has blossomed richly in the post-modem, interpretivist consumer research literature where it
is referred to as the core self.
● The self-narrative conception of identity offers a rich literary view against which products
and brands may be appraised for potential fit. But it calls for intensive high-skilled
ethnographic research. The self-image view lends itself to easy, quantitative measurement.
But as already argued, this view is anchored and embedded entirely in personality-like
dispositions and surface characteristics and ignores other content' —described below.
● This view serves, if at all, to appraise consumers' superficial images of self, and to deploy this
brand of research in self-image brand-image congruence models (e.g., Malhotra, 1981; Todd,
2001). However, brand choices, particularly those made to primarily enact and advance one's
self concept, often go beyond such superficial image' congruence.
● Purchase can be the consumer's self-concept or self-identity. This includes both sans
possessions' self and the extended self, and is often the object of introspection among most
consumers at one time or the other. Although the concept of 'I' can include virtually
everything a person ever come to own and live with, a systematic list would include six
components: (a) their bodies; (b) their values and character; (c) their success and competence,
(d) their social roles, (e) their traits, and, finally (f) their possessions.
● Not all products a person consumes become possessions. Some are clearly consumables, not
possessions. And not all products that qualify to be called possessions become part of the
extended self. Even so, products (consumables and durables alike) can relate to one's self-
concept without becoming part of the self-concept. This would be the case when products are
instrumental in furthering some component of the self-concept.
● If a person had to invest a lot of resources (money, time, energy) finding and selecting a
product then to psychologically justify that kind of investment, people tend to view that
product as part of their extended self. For this reason, more expensive purchases and hard to
find purchases, and purchases for which they saved for a long time are more likely to become
part of the extended self.
● Products thus can relate to one's self in two ways: (a) by being instrumental to enhancing
their self sans possessions,' and (b) by becoming a valued possession. As to the second role,
product possessions become part of self (actually extended self by six mechanisms described
above: by self-based choice, by investment in acquisition, by investment in use, by bonding
during use, as collections, and as memory markers.
● Not all product categories have a place in a person's sense of self. Such products are best sold
based on functional benefits; of course, these functional benefits can be displayed as
connected to higher level outcomes in relevant means-end-chains.
References:
Arcega, A M., Cullar, D. S., Evangelista, L. D. & Falculan, L. M. (2018). Understanding the Self.
Malabon City: Mutya Publishing House Inc.
Boorstin, D. J. (1973).The Americans: The democratic experience. New York: Random House.
Gazzingan, L. B. et al. (2019). Understanding the Self. Muntinlupa City: Panday-Lahi Publishing House,
Inc.
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This chapter discuss the different world religions, the beliefs of early
Filipinos on different gods and goddesses, superstitious beliefs, beliefs in faith
healer, soul and spirit and how those beliefs was changed since the Spanish and
American colonization. It also discuss the different rituals, ceremonies, the
practice of religion, magic and witchcraft and also finding and creating the
meaning of life.
● According to Giddens (2006), religion is a cultural system of commonly shared beliefs and
rituals that provide a sense of ultimate meaning by creating an idea of reality that is sacred, all-
encompassing and supernatural.
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● Statistics indicate Christianity as the world’s largest religion with a 33% population. It is
followed by Islam with a 21% population, Hinduism with a 14% population, Buddhism with 6%
population, Chinese Traditionalism at around 6% and Judaism at only about 0.22%.
● Philippines is the only Christian country in the South East Asia. Filipinos show their religiosity
through participating on different religious practices such as baptism, fiestas, “sinakulo,” prayer,
fellowship, communion, and other activities related to church.
● Before the Spanish colonization, Filipinos believed in animism, a belief that all objects have
spirits. They also believed in supernatural being. According to McClenon (1991), the concept of
supernatural has been shaped by the Western notion of nature and causality and it is culturally
specific.
● Filipinos praised the trees, plants, sun, moon, stars and other living and non-living things. They
also praised the spirit of their ancestors, which is called “cult of the dead.” They believed on the
immortality of the soul. An evidence of this is the Manunungul Jar where the remains of the dead
were kept. This image shows the belief of life after death by early Filipinos.
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● The memories of the dead are remained through carving their image using gold and stone. This
is called “larawan” or “likha” in Tagalog, “diwata” in Bisaya and “bul-ol” in Ifugao. They also
offered sacrifices and prayers for guidance, sympathy and beseech. Not all “anitos” are good,
there are few who are evil.
● The priestess which is also called as “baylan,” “babaylan,” or “katalona” does the ritual or
offering. Early Filipinos practiced polytheism, a belief in many gods, which was brought by the
early Chinese and Indian merchants. Some of their gods are Bathala, the Almighty God, Agni,
God of Fire, Mandarangan, God o War, Sidapa, God of Death, Lalahon, God of Harvest, and
Siginarugan, God of Hell. These beliefs are passed orally to the next generation.
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● However, there were some changes on the beliefs of the early Filipinos when the Spaniards
brought Christianity in the archipelago. The changes were not immediate because early beliefs
are
already practiced in the country. What the Spaniards did was, they adopted the Christianity in the
belief of Filipinos on animism. Monotheism was introduced by Spaniards, a belief in only God,
which has three personas, God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
● According to the Holy Bible, they already existed before the creation of the world. God the
Father sent his son, Jesus Christ to save humanity, which whoever believes in Him should not
perish but have an eternal life. When Jesus Christ died and rose after three days, the holy spirit
was left in humanity which serves as the conscience that guides the human beings in doing right
things and avoiding committing sins.
● Common Superstitions:
o If a person bites their tongue, it means somebody is thinking of them;
o A girl with shite spots on her fingernails is inconstant in love;
o It is bad to sweep the floor at six o’clock in the evening for it means driving away
good fortune and graces
o One should not open an umbrella while inside a house; a centipede is likely to fall from
the ceiling;
o If a pregnant woman sews her dress while wearing it, her baby will born without hole in
the rectum;
o Appearance of a comet foretells war
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● These superstition beliefs are passed by the early ancestors orally and still practiced by some of
the Filipinos in recent times. With the influence of Americans and science, the numbers of
Filipinos following superstitious beliefs were diminished.
● One of the influences of American colonization is the introduction of science in the day to day
lives of Filipinos especially on health and sanitation. Their influence taught the Filipinos that
believing in superstitious beliefs may be detrimental to health. Like do not throw the dusts
outside the house after sweeping the floor, because you may experience difficulty in money
matters.
● The term animism is one of the oldest beliefs which is taken from the Latin word Anima
meaning breath or soul. Animism is the belief that everything in nature – living things like trees,
plants, and even non-living rocks or streams – have their own spirit or divinity. Animism beliefs
are still present, accepted and never entirely disappeared.
● The soul according to the indigenous Filipinos is known as Kaluluwa, Ikararuwa or kararuwa. It
is taken from the root word duwa which means two. The soul has two parts – one is the physical
part, where it is connected to the body and its life, and other spiritual, where it exists on its own.
● For Ibanags, the soul is the principle of life in man. Body is the matter; soul is the form. As long
as the body and soul are one unit, man is alive.
● Death is the separation of the soul from the body. The body cannot stay alive without the soul.
But the soul can live without the body. Freed from the body, it ceases to experience thirst and
hunger, cold and heat. As spirit, the soul is the opposite of the body which is matter.
● The Dungan may leave the body voluntarily while the person is asleep according to BIsayans.
Among the ancient Filipinos, when the person is asleep they should not be awakened quickly in
order to give ample time for the Dungan to return to the body.
● While the Dungan is travelling outside of the body it should be free from accidents because there
is a possibility that it might be trapped in a jar or be poured out with liquid from a vessel. When
the soul has safety returned home to the body of its owner, they could then be awakened.
● It is for this reason that the Dungan needs protection and nurture. Soul-nature, the folks believe,
means the performance of age-old spirit rituals many of which are still followed in the local
provinces today. Examples of these are birth, illness and death rituals consisting of trances,
prayers, and animal sacrifices. An adult person with a healthy Dungan properly lodged in his
physical body will have bodily health and well-being, intelligence and good sense.
● This is evident in some villages which perform rituals to restore the state of affairs when the
balance is lost. Human nature are innumerable reasons for causing a shift in this balance. There
are equally innumerable rituals that can be done to correct the imbalance. This is the reason for
having a broad range of ritual practices in the Philippines (Obusan, 2015).
● Rituals have several functions. There are rituals to have a good harvest, ask for the guidance and
protection from their ancestors and unseen forces, to heal the sick, to bring good luck and to
conceive.
● Like in the case of Ifugao. They have rituals for marriage. If the two couples are planning to tie
the knot, they will ask guidance from their ancestors. The butcher opens the body of a sacrificial
pig and they examine if the internal organs of the pig are healthy or not. If it is healthy, they have
the approval to tie the knot this year, if not, they may try again in the following year. The
purpose of this ritual is to study the carcass for omens that guides them in their decision like
marriage.
● Dance and chants are a very essential part of their ritual. Rituals are usually accompanied by
dances. It is the higher symbolic form for the Filipino. It represents the distillation of collective
memory, affect, religious piety, humility, and purity of intention. Even a complex message can
be articulated or maybe understood through dance (Obusan 2015).
● Magos (1997), discussed the mara-it or dangerous zone of Panay Island. According to her,
Panaynon believes in spirit beings in the sea like siokoy (half-man, half fish sea monster) and
the mangingilaw (half man, half monkey man eating monster) forest which are very harmful.
They also believe that the earth and the universe has a layered structure with spirit beings live in
each layer.
● Lupan-on are spirits beings who live on land, the idalmunon are spirit beings who live
underneath the surface of the earth and the tubignon are spirit beings who live in water. These
folks remind them that the earth is sacred, inhabited by the spirit and thus dangerous. If
Panaynon uses the earth's resources with discourtesy or greed, they will make the spirits angry.
There are necessary fishing and farming rites to be performed regularly to gain the favor from
spirits such as daga (bloodletting) and the samba (communal fishing rite).
● People of Zambales also conduct a ritual in building their house. According to the official
website of the Provincial Government of Zambales, residents of this province perform rituals
before building a house. The ritual starts with choosing which day is specified in the Pilaton as a
good day to start the project.
● According to Ms. Cristeta Acebes, principal of Uyugan Elementary School (2012), “pilaton,”
refers to a list of dates, including the phases of the moon, that would ensure the success of any
major undertaking or activity of residents in the province. The second step is burying coins in the
first hole during laying of foundation. Fresh animal blood is allowed to be dropped in the same
place. On the day set to roof the house, relatives, neighbours and friends usually come to help.
Those who cannot perform actual construction work normally offer akhad (anything that can be
served or cooked as food) or tudung (drinks, usually wine) (Provincial Government of
Zambales).
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Religion
● Religion came from the
Latin word religio means
to respect or care for. It is
generally defined as;
“belief in, worship of, or
obedience to a
supernatural power or
powers considered to be
divine or to have control
of human destiny."
● According to Santrock
(2014), religion is an
organized set of beliefs,
practices, rituals and
symbols that increases an
individual’s connection to
a sacred or transcendent
other (God, higher power,
ultimate truth).
● It may also be referred to as an organized system of beliefs, ceremonies, rules used to worship
god. Another description for religion is, an interest, a belief, or an activity deemed to be of
utmost importance to a person or group.
● Religiousness is the degree by which one is affiliated with an organized religion in terms of the
person’s participation in the prescribed rituals and practices, connection with its beliefs and
involvement with its community of believers.
● The term “sacred” may signify a person, an object, a principle, or a concept that transcends the
self. The sacred can include a divine being or a divine object that is “set apart” and considered as
holy or beyond ordinary. The reference to what religion is, also refers to the dynamics of the
meaning attached to spirituality. It emerges as people relate to the developmental and existential
challenges of the search for the meaning of existence amidst the ambiguity of life.
● Spiritual identity is the persistent sense of self that addresses ultimate questions about the
nature, purpose and meaning of life. It results in behavior that are consonant with the
individual’s core
Magic
● Magic is the power apparently
influencing the course of events by
using mysterious or supernatural
forces. It is the ability to use
supernatural forces to make
impossible things happen, such as
making people disappear or
controlling events in nature.
● A magician is usually a worker in the kind of magic that is on the whole public and good,
whereas a sorcerer is generally considered an evil figure, one who deals in matters that his or her
clients would rather keep secret and one whose work may be downright antisocial (Frankle and
Stein, 2005).
● A sorcerer is translated from the Greek word pharmakos, and carries with it the idea of medicine,
magic potion, drugs, and poison. A wizard is one who is thought to be acquired with the secrets
of the nonmaterial or unseen world while a necromancer is one who is “seeking unto the dead”.
It is a term that includes all forms of attempt to make contact with departed spirits.
● Balang is the Filipino term for a sorcerer. It is used to describe malignant sorcery or familiar
spirits (usually a swarm of destructive insects, specially carnivorous beetles). In the Philippines,
it swarms small invisible insects residing in bamboos that enter the body through open space
causing the intestine, stomach, lungs, and liver to swell during high tides and shrink during low
tides. Mambabarang is a person who practices this specific type of sorcery or witchcraft.
Binarang is the target (usually a person) of sorcery or witchcraft.
● Kulam is the Tagalog word for “voodoo” or “witchcraft”. It is one of the most well-known
aspects of Philippine folklore. The fear of kulam usually has an effect on how a person conducts
himself in the community and on how people treat each other in a community. A mangkukulam
is a person who uses black magic or spells on a victim. After the spell is cast, the victim will
experience a form of illness which cannot be cured by modern medicine, misfortunes to himself
and loved ones, inability to concentrate, lack of sleep, loss of appetite, freak accidents, and other
unexplained events.
● Most Filipinos aside from being a superstitious people believe in the mythical creatures of local
folklore which includes the aswang, manananggal, kapre, dwende, sirena, syokoy, engkanto,
sigbin, tikbalang, tianak and many others. According to local folklore such creatures inhabit dark
forest and unexplored regions of barrios in the provinces. Each region has their own mythical
creature which usually comes out in the night looking for food in the form: fresh blood, pregnant
mothers (they target the fetus), and human organs like the liver or for victims to take them into
the other world.
● Everybody is experiencing different challenges and problems in life. Some have common
problems, but some do not. Some have different strategies in solving the same problems. There
are some who are good at hiding their problems or sufferings. Some people may think their
problems are bigger than the problems of others. However, when they ask some people or have
an open forum, they will realize that they are wrong. There are other people who have bigger and
more difficult problems than them.
1. Life has meaning under all circumstances, even the most miserable ones.
● Every occurrence in one’s life has meaning. People tend to find the meaning of that occurrence
especially if it is a good incident or circumstances. However, they tend to ask themselves or God
for the occurrence of bad happenings in their lives. Sometimes, they ask themselves and God,
“why did it happen to them?” “why did it happen to their love ones, despite that they are good
people, they do not deserve to experience that such sufferings, but why them?” There are things
beyond the control of humanity, cannot explain by their minds and intelligence, but Almighty
God can. Individuals must realize that whatever circumstances they have, even if it is good or
not, they must find that life has meaning. Those circumstances have purpose and meaning in
their lives.
2. Our main motivation for living is our will to find meaning in life.
● People experience different sufferings in life in terms of relationship, love, studies, money, job,
etc. Finding meaning in life despite the sufferings should be the main motivation for living. An
example of this is, an individual who developed an inner hatred towards her family when she
knew that her mother tried many times to abort her due to poverty and her siblings bullied her
that she was an adopted child. She developed a thought that she is not part of the family and
even at the start, she is an unwanted child. This pushes her to be the black sheep of the family
and be involved in different vices. Time is a good healer. During her rebellious stage, she
realized that she was only destroying herself, it will not change the attitude and personality of
her family. She also realized that she only needs to accept her family as they are and forgive the
family members who caused her pain. Being a rebellious person will not make her family to
change. The change will start on one’s initiative and not by other people. Finally, she found the
meaning of her life. The feeling of rejection disappeared as times went by. She was alive when
she was still an unborn child because someday, she will serve as the light of other people living
in a dark life and will be an
inspiration to the youth. Those are her motivations for living. She is thankful to the Almighty
God for discovering the meaning of her life.
3. We have freedom to find meaning in what we do, and what we experience, or at least in the
stand we take when faced with a situation of unchangeable suffering.
● Problems and challenges are inevitable. These make individuals strong and hold their faith to
their God. These also make them to be flexible in a changing and dynamic society, to win in the
battle or to accept the defeat but with satisfactory adjustment. Everybody is entitled to have and
practice freedom in finding meaning in whatever they do or experience. They are not slaves to
anyone and are not manipulated by other people. Their actions should not be dictated by anyone,
rather, it is their will that will be done. It is the right of everybody to look for the meaning in
their lives when faced with a situation of unchangeable suffering. Situations with unchangeable
suffering may cause pain, but at the end of the day, individuals will find its purpose in their lives.
● According to Frankl, everybody can discover the meaning in their life in three different ways:
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3. By the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering and that everything can be taken
from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any
given set of circumstances
● Individuals will find meaning in their lives by having a positive attitude towards circumstances.
Failures in life, for example, is unavoidable suffering that gives pain to individuals. Facing those
failures in a positive way with a positive and right attitude will make individuals more mature,
more responsible, and think more ways to solve the problems. Having a positive attitude in
facing the problems will also help individuals to cope up with the problems like death of a love
one. It will make them cope up easily and move on with their lives without losing their cherished
memories.
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Arcega, A M., Cullar, D. S., Evangelista, L. D. & Falculan, L. M. (2018). Understanding the Self.
Malabon City: Mutya Publishing House Inc.
Gazzingan, L. B. et al. (2019). Understanding the Self. Muntinlupa City: Panday-Lahi Publishing House,
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2020 from [Link]
citizenship/rio's
As members of the society, people are naturally obligated to participate in a political system as
social citizens. Politics refers to the actions or activities concerned with achieving and using power
in a nation or society. It is also defined as the ways that power is shared in an organization and the
ways it is affected by personal relationships between people who work together.
As Aristotle stated, “man is, by nature, a political animal.” This is because man is a social being
and that people naturally drawn to various political involvements in order to satisfy their social
needs.
Politics as imbibed by man implies several things:
1. Politics is concerned with power. Power inequalities can be observed within societies. The one
who holds power holds influence.
2. Politics functions based on a particular social economic and cultural context. The nature of
politics and political systems is dependent on the culture of the state. Political claims made by
advocates are influenced by their geographical location and ideology.
3. The political is also personal. One’s personal choices reflect his/her personal politics; both are
indistinguishable.
4. Politics goes hand in hand with the society. Politics pervades the structure of society, and thus
influences inhabitants in their beliefs, ethics, and behavior.
However, the political self is not only shaped by one’s political affiliation or beliefs. One’s sense of
accountability should be manifested in promoting certain advocacies through healthy political
engagement. This is aligned with the concept of active citizenship.
ACTIVE CITIZENSHIP
Active citizenship refers to the structured forms of engagement with political processes and
everyday forms of participation in society. It is also defined as the process of sharing decisions
which affect one’s life and the life of a community in which one lives. Participation is the
fundamental right of citizenship.
Active citizenship is anchored on one’s cognitive and behavioral engagement to participate in
formal and informal political activities. Different people manifest different levels of active
citizenship; some they take a more active approach in making their voices heard.
Active citizenship is a practice of democracy. Democracy should not only be thought of as a
form of government. It is a communal system that allows volitional freedom of citizens to make
informed choices that allow them to be heard.
Active citizenship is a social construct. It fosters social relatedness and belongingness.
The most important goal of active citizenship is to instil change and influence society at large.
Active citizenship is also associated with the “sense of community.” People, including
adolescents, participate in communal activities because it gives a sense of belonging in a particular
group. Active citizenship may facilitate ethnic pride and provide a voice to the woes of their social
group.
For the younger generation, active citizenship can contribute to their social development.
Engaging in such activities can also enhance efficacy and competence of the younger generation,
as they are considered to be the “future leaders” of the society. The participation of the youth in
nation-building activities enhances their value orientation and fosters integrity, compassion, and
the sense of justice, which are crucial to the holistic development of a citizen of a nation.
Active citizenship helps an individual embrace his/her individuality through the choices he/she
makes and the behavior he/she manifests. The political self is a result of various personal and
environmental factors that impact the individual. The participation of the youth in political
discourse and social activities can result in cultural and political paradigm shifts that may be felt
even by future generations. Thus, the future begins now.
SOURCE: The Political Self: Developing Active Citizenshp. Steven C. Valerio's Blog. Accessed July 19, 2020.
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The brief primer on The Self in the Digital World was accessed July 27,
2020 from [Link]
self-uncovering-digital-citizenship
The millennial generation is known to be the generation of digital natives because millennials were
born in an era of rapid technological advancement. As a result, daily life is almost always
dependent on the functions of technology, especially the internet which provides people with a
venue of presenting their identified through social media platforms.
The advent of technology comes with a corresponding challenge: to ensure that technology is used
properly. This is the essence of digital citizenship, which refers to the norms of appropriate and
responsible behaviour towards technology use. Digital citizenship is anchored in 3 general
principles: respecting, educating, and protecting oneself and others. Digital citizenship serves the
purpose or regulating human behaviour in a highly-technological and digital world.
A major concern of living in the digital era is how technology shapes one’s sense of self and
identity. One concept that is related to the concept of the digital self is online disinhibition. It is
defined as the lack of restraint one feels when communicating online in comparison to
communicating in person.
Some individuals lose their inhibition in social interactions because there is an aspect of being
present only in the virtual, a sort of anonymity. Anonymity may serve as an option for individuals
who are naturally shy and introverted to express their thoughts, without threat to their self-esteem.
Nowadays, however, people are more inclined to show their own personalities via online channels.
The internet becomes a multi-media venue for showcasing personal traits, qualities, and even
experiences. The values and beliefs he/she upholds are also expressed in his/her online behavior.
Thus, technology, through the development of virtual spaces and communities accessible through
the internet, can be a basis of evaluating the consistency of the self.
The permeating nature of technology has also influenced various technological and online
behaviors people manifest. Within the concept of digital citizenship, there are 9 themes that cover
these behaviors:
The themes listed above emphasize the proliferation of technology in the world and how they are
used for specific purposes. Suffice it to say, technology is here to stay. There is a need to adapt to
the dynamic changes that technology entails.
Technology offers limitless opportunities; its presence is inevitable. However, technology need not
control the society and people’s lives. An individual must define himself/herself based solely on
his/her terms.
Source: The Digital Self: Uncovering Digital Citizenship. Steven C. Valerio's Blog. Accessed July 19,
2020. [Link]
Nowadays however, it isn’t merely tangible belongings that researchers consider as part of our extended
self. Our digital possessions such as photos, videos, statuses, texts, and emails are now seen to be
significantly important to shaping our digital self.
We want to meet the expectation of others: research shows over 50% of women would edit their
social media photos to look better and meet the expectations that the media and magazines have
set
We want to boost our self-esteem: people upload photos and statuses online that they feel will
receive ‘likes’ and positive feedback in which ultimately helps their egos
To feel a sense of belonging: Some of us want to fit in with the crowd and upload things that are
‘down with the trend’ - for instance, who notices the amount of people posting pictures of their
food increasing? It didn’t come from nowhere.
Bigger sense of freedom: Unlike real life, digital platforms allow us to express ourselves in any
way we want to without anyone there to physically judge us
Striving to be our ideal selves: Digital Apps, such as Facetune, that allow us to improve our
appearances on photos (through teeth whitening, skin smoothing and body shape editing) helps
consumers to express as their ‘ideal’ self online and inevitably feel better about themselves
In conclusion, the digital world has provided us with greater opportunities to express our identity in any
form we want to. But what we all need to remember is: how will we feel if we go so far to express
ourselves differently online that we forget what reality is, or worse, we end up resenting it?
In this section you are expected to develop your own self-care routine plan to demonstrate your
understanding of managing and caring for one’s self. This section focuses on learning to be a better
student, goal setting for success and taking charge of one’s health.
There is no doubt that being the better student is advantageous. The better
student you are, the more you will learn, and that knowledge will serve you
well throughout your life.
Learning is simply what the brain does. Whether you are studying Math, refining your dance
moves, remembering a conversation with a dear friend, or reading the lecture notes, it’s all about
learning.
Learning is a physical process in which new knowledge is represented by new brain cell
connections. The strength and formation of these connections are facilitated by chemicals in the
brain called growth factors.
Brain is an enormous network of neurons. Each tiny neuron is a pretty complicated little machine.
Each neuron connects with many other neurons. It “listens” for electrical and chemical signals
from other neurons and fires its own signal, an action potential, when it receives enough input
from the
neurons that connect to it. The action potential gets “heard” by other neurons and influences their
firing as well. Put together billions and billions of these neurons into a network; wire up some of
the inputs to senses like vision, touch, and hearing; wire up some of the outputs to muscles… and
you get an amazingly complex system capable of thought, learning, memory, and emotion
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are- taking-place-in-our-brains-when-we-learn-new-things/#2f6543a951f9).
The article below presents evidence based explanation on how the brain learns.
The brain acts as a dense network of fiber pathways consisting of approximately 100 billion (10 10)
neurons. The brain consists of three principle parts – stem, cerebellum and cerebrum – as shown in
Figure 1 below. Of the three, the cerebrum is most important in learning, since this is where higher-
ordered functions like memory and reasoning occur. Each area of the cerebrum specializes in a
function – sight, hearing, speech, touch, short-term memory, long-term memory, language and
reasoning abilities are the most important for learning.
So how does learning happen? Through a network of neurons, sensory information is transmitted by
synapses (see Figure 2) along the neural pathway and stored temporarily in short-term memory, a
volatile region of the brain that acts like a receiving center for the flood of sensory information we
encounter in our daily lives.
Once processed in short-term memory, our brain’s neural pathways carry these memories to the
structural core, where they are compared with existing memories and stored in
our long-term memory, the vast repository of everything we have ever experienced in our lives. This
process occurs in an instant, but it is not always perfect. In fact, as information races across billions
of neurons’ axons, which transmit signals to the next neuron via synapse, some degradation is
common. That’s why many of our memories are incomplete or include false portions that we make up
to fill holes in the real memory.
Neuroscientists have long believed that learning and memory formation are made by the strengthening
and weakening of connections among brain cells. Recently, researchers at the
University of California Irvine’s Center for the Neurobiology of Learning and Memory proved it. In
experiments with mice, they were able to isolate and observe the actions of the brain while learning a
new task. Researchers found that when two neurons frequently interact, they form a bond that allows
them to transmit more easily and accurately. This leads to more complete memories and easier recall.
Conversely, when two neurons rarely interacted, the transmission was often incomplete, leading to
either a faulty memory or no memory at all.
As an example of this, consider your daily commute. You don’t really need to think consciously about
how to get to work, because it is a trip you have taken so many times that the memory of how to
navigate is ingrained. The neurons that control this memory have communicated so often, they have
formed a tight bond, like a group of old friends.
Contrast your daily commute with the experience of driving to a location you have never visited. To
make this trip, your brain has to work much harder. You need to get directions,
write them down or print them and then pay extra attention to road signs along the way. In this case, the
neurons involved in navigating to this new destination have not shared synapses frequently before and
so they communicate incompletely or inefficiently. This requires forming new connections within the
brain, which results in greater conscious effort and attention on our part.
This research has important implications for learning, especially regarding how we acquire new
knowledge, store it in memory and retrieve it when needed. When learning new things, memory and
recall are strengthened by frequency and recency. The more we practice and rehearse something new
and the more recently we have practiced, the easier it is for our brain to transmit these experiences
efficiently and store them for ready access later. This process is called fluency.
Another recent study at the Martinos Center for Biomedical Imaging, Department of Radiology,
Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School found that the structural core of the
brain receives sensory information from different regions and then assembles bits of data into a complete
picture that becomes a memory of an event. This memory is strengthened by multiple sensory inputs.
For example, if we both see and hear something, we are more likely to remember it than if we only hear
it.
If we experience an emotional reaction to something – fear, anger, laughter or love – that emotion
becomes part of the memory and strengthens it dramatically. In recalling memories, subjects who had
experienced an emotional reaction were far more likely to remember the event and with higher accuracy
than those who simply witnessed an event without any emotional attachment. That explains why highly
emotional events
– birth, marriage, divorce and death – become unforgettable.
What does this neuroscience research suggest about learning? We need to ensure that learning engages
all the senses and taps the emotional side of the brain, through methods like humor, storytelling, group
activities and games. Emphasis on the rational and logical alone does not produce powerful memories.
A third recent discovery at the University of Michigan’s Biopsychology Program confirmed that the
brain behaves selectively about how it processes experiences that enter through our five
senses. The brain is programmed to pay special attention to any experience that is novel or unusual. It
does this by making comparisons between the new information brought through the senses and
existing information stored in our brain’s long-term memory. When the brain finds a match, it will
quickly eliminate the new memory as redundant.
When new information contradicts what’s already stored in memory, however, our brains go into
overdrive, working hard to explain the discrepancy. If the new information proves useful to us, it
becomes a permanent memory that can be retrieved later. If this new information does not seem useful
or if we do not trust its source, we are likely to forget it or even reject it altogether, preferring to stick
with the information we already possess.
Since learning inherently requires acquisition of new information, our brains’ propensity to focus on
the novel and forget the redundant makes it a natural learning ally. In fact, our brains are hard wired to
learn, from the moment we are born. Our native curiosity is driven by our brain’s inherent search for the
unusual in our environment.
On the other hand, past memories can be an impediment to future learning that contradicts previous
information. As we age and gain more experience, we tend to rely too much on our past knowledge.
We may miss or even reject novel information that does not agree with previous memories. Recent
brain research is unlocking many of the mysteries of learning. Learning professionals should stay
abreast of these developments and derive learning methods based upon the way the brain learns
naturally.
The table below summarizes the three recent research findings and their implications for training.
Source: Ford, Donald J. How the Brain Learns. Accessed July 27, 2020 from
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Source: Arcega, A M., Cullar, D. S., Evangelista, L. D. & Falculan, L. M. (2018). Understanding the Self.
Malabon City: Mutya Publishing House Inc.
The brain serves as the control unit of the body. Human beings’ physiological, behavioral and cognitive
functions depend on it. The brain can perform many forms of complex and covert behaviors like thinking
and other higher order functions like metacognition.
Metacognition is often defined as “thinking about your own thinking.” In 1979, it was termed by
American developmental psychologist John H. Flavell. Cognition means thinking while Meta means
beyond so the phrase means beyond thinking. It is a person’s awareness of ones thoughts and one’s ability
to control it. Metacognition is a higher order thinking which control the cognitive process involved in the
learning process.
Metacognition consists of two components: the knowledge and regulation (Lai, 2011; Flavell, 1979). The
learner’s awareness of one’s ability to understand and learn concepts, and knowledge about one’s learning
strategies is called metacognitive knowledge while the learner’s ability to observe one’s method of
thinking, planning, evaluate the effectiveness of the own learning strategies and identifying the outcomes
is called metacognitive regulation.
Metacognitive knowledge has three types. First, the declarative knowledge (person knowledge) is the
understanding of ones capacities. It is one’s subjective assessment. For example Albert is aware that he
has above average mathematical ability and Diane assessed her knowledge in arts as excellent. Second is
the procedural knowledge (task knowledge) it is the person’s awareness of one’s knowledge and
assessment whether a task is easy or difficult. For example, Albert thinks that painting is a difficult task
while Diane considers the task as easy and stress-free. Last is the strategy knowledge (conditional
knowledge) is the person’s ability to use strategies to acquire information, learn new skills or understand
concepts. It also refers to one’s ability to cope or adapt other strategies to different situations. For
example, Diane would like to learn more about algebra and considered lecture as ineffective, so she tried
other methods like answering online algebra tests and participation in group studies.
Metacognitive regulation on the other hand is a person’s ability to monitor and assess their knowledge.
Monitoring involves observing one’s knowledge and assess whether one did well or not. A person may
also evaluate the outcome or output of one’s knowledge and distinguish whether such outcome is what the
person expected and whether it can be improved.
Metacognition has an important role in acquiring knowledge or skill therefore it is important to teach
learners metacognitive control. Metacognitive strategies can be taught and learned gradually. Teaching
students self-evaluation skills help facilitate learning. Below are some metacognitive study strategies that
students may use to learning effectively.
Being aware of one’s traits and capacity leads to a better understanding of ourselves. Assessment tools
help a person identify these traits.
Source: Arcega, A M., Cullar, D. S., Evangelista, L. D. & Falculan, L. M. (2018). Understanding the Self.
Malabon City: Mutya Publishing House Inc.
Students who are conscious of their strengths and weaknesses, and can induce themselves to undertake
and improve their learning are self- regulated learners. The ability to manage ones learning is definitely
an advantage for individuals.
Zimmerman (2001) and colleagues claimed that when students become engaged, they take greater
responsibility for their learning and their academic performance improves. The self-regulated learning
(SRL) model uses a continuing sequence of planning, practice and evaluation.
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101 Class) and/or GED 101 group chat via FB messenger.
A goal is the desired outcome anticipated by a person or organization. It may be a long term vision or a
short term outcome which can be achieved through careful planning, execution and evaluation. Goal
setting establishes a standard or objective to serve as target of one’s actions. It is involved in all the self-
regulation
/metacognitive process. Whereas forefront is to goal setting; as performance control is to goal directed
action; as self-reflection is to evaluation of goal progress.
Goals help us to concentrate our energy, arrange strategies, consciously having a purpose-centered life,
and provide us a sense of accomplishment. Locke (1969) said that working toward a goal is also a major
source of motivation and improves performance and that clear goals and appropriate feedback motivates a
person. Based on reviews, 90% of laboratory and field studies on the effects of goal setting on
performance showed that specific and challenging goals led to higher performance. Goals influence
performance by directing attention, mobilizing effort, increasing determination, and encouraging plan
development. Burton (1983) claimed that people who use goal setting effectively suffer less from stress
and anxiety, concentrate better, perform better, confident and are satisfied.
Locke (2002) claimed that a person’s uppermost moral goal is the attainment of one's own happiness and
even coined the phrase 'pursuit of happiness,' in his book An Essay Concerning Human Understanding. In
setting goals for life and happiness, Locke’s writings focus on building the best qualities in life. In the
person level it focuses in positive personal traits (e.g. capacity for love, courage, interpersonal skill) while
group level focuses on civic virtues and actions leading to enhanced social responsibility (e.g. work ethic,
altruism, responsibility).
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One of the most effective ways to stay motivated is to set goals for yourself.
However, the type and quality of goals you set affects how well they will work.
Imagine you are 30 pounds overweight and want to drop some extra weight. When setting your goal, you
have several options. You could say, “I want to lose weight within the next year. I will go on a diet to lose
the weight.” This goal is pretty vague and poorly defined; you haven’t specified how much weight you
want to lose or what concrete steps you will take to lose it.
Alternatively, you could say, “I want to lose two pounds a week for the next four months. I will exercise
for at least 30 minutes, five days per week. I will also change my diet to include three servings of fruits
and vegetables as well as whole-grain products. I will also limit myself to eating out just one day per
week.” This goal is much more specific and includes actionable steps.
The simple act of setting an effective goal gives you a better chance of realizing that goal. In fact, listed
below are several principles crucial to setting effective goals.
1. Clarity. A clear, measurable goal is more achievable than one that is poorly defined. In other
words, be specific! The most effective goals have a specific timeline for completion.
2. Challenge. The goal must have a decent level of difficulty in order to motivate you to strive
toward the goal.
3. Commitment. Put deliberate effort into meeting this goal. Share your goal with someone else in
order to increase your accountability to meet that goal.
4. Feedback. Set up a method to receive information on your progress toward a goal. If losing 30
pounds in four months turns out to be too hard, it is better to adjust the difficulty of your goal
mid- way through the timeline than to give up entirely.
5. Task complexity. If a goal is especially complex, make sure you give yourself enough time to
overcome the learning curve involved in completing the task. In other words, if a goal is really
tough, make sure you give yourself some padding to give you the best chance at succeeding.
Setting a goal is a great way to encourage achievement and stay motivated. However, many of us set
goals that are ineffective at pushing us to do our best. When you are helping your youthling with a project
or trying to improve an aspect of your daily life, think carefully about the goals you set. Ensure that each
goal accounts for some or all of the principles above: clarity, challenge, commitment, and feedback.
Work with your youthling to set goals that are appropriate and achievable given her abilities. Begin by
letting her set her own goal. Perhaps she wants to get 100% on her next Math test. This goal meets the
criteria of being clear, challenging, and is something she has committed to. Talk together about whether
that is an attainable goal. If she routinely gets C’s on math assignments, achieving a perfect score might
be a poor goal. Next, set a clear action plan for achieving the goal. Consider the complexity of the task
and how much time will be needed to be successful.
In the end, her goal might read something like this: “I want to get 100% on my next Math test. I will
perform 5 algebra problems every night for the next two weeks. My mom will give me feedback on
whether I am getting the problems correct and how to fix my mistakes.” This clear, achievable goal
provides motivation and a specific plan for receiving feedback. Even if she does not reach 100% on her
test, goal-setting theory states that she will perform much better than had she made a non-specific, easy
goal.
It’s one thing to know about goal setting, and how it can help you, but another entirely to know how to
actually set goals and stick with them. Goal setting tools are a great way to help you set goals, keep track
of, and stay focused on what you’re trying to achieve.
A handwritten diary or journal tracking your goals and smaller daily achievements
Using your mobile phone to set daily reminders or countdown apps for when you want to achieve
certain things by
Motivational notes and posters set around your home or work desk as friendly reminders
Telling friends and family what you’re working towards so they can offer support
Visualization activities including meditation, positive affirmations, and mindfulness
Regular meetings/reviews with your line manager at work to keep you accountable (if your goals
are work related)
Joining groups or meet-ups with individuals trying to achieve the same goals (such as weight loss,
or athletic groups/fitness classes)
Working with a peer coach or mentor to help motivate you to stay on track
Utilizing goal setting software tools and apps to help keep you on track (Milestone Planner and
Goal Scapeto name a few)
Which tool is right for you will depend on what you’re specific goals are, how long you want to take to
achieve them, and whether it is an individual or group goal.
Have you thought about what you want to be doing in five years' time? Are you clear about what your
main objective at work is at the moment? Do you know what you want to have achieved by the end of
today?
If you want to succeed, you need to set goals. Without goals you lack focus and direction. Goal setting not
only allows you to take control of your life's direction; it also provides you a benchmark for determining
whether you are actually succeeding. Think about it: having a million dollars in the bank is only proof of
success if one of your goals is to amass riches. If your goal is to practice acts of charity, then keeping the
money for yourself is suddenly contrary to how you would define success.
To accomplish your goals, however, you need to know how to set them. You can't simply say, "I want"
and expect it to happen. Goal setting is a process that starts with careful consideration of what you want to
achieve, and ends with a lot of hard work to actually do it. In between, there are some very well-defined
steps that transcend the specifics of each goal. Knowing these steps will allow you to formulate goals that
you can accomplish.
Set goals that relate to the high priorities in your life. Without this type of focus, you can end up with far
too many goals, leaving you too little time to devote to each one. Goal achievement requires commitment,
so to maximize the likelihood of success, you need to feel a sense of urgency and have an "I must do this"
attitude. When you don't have this, you risk putting off what you need to do to make the goal a reality.
This in turn leaves you feeling disappointed and frustrated with yourself, both of which are de-motivating.
And you can end up in a very destructive "I can't do anything or be successful at anything" frame of mind.
Tip:
To make sure that your goal is motivating, write down why it's valuable and important to you. Ask
yourself, "If I were to share my goal with others, what would I tell them to convince them it was a
worthwhile goal?" You can use this motivating value statement to help you if you start to doubt yourself
or lose confidence in your ability to actually make the goal happen.
You have probably heard of SMART goals already. But do you always apply the rule? The simple fact is
that for goals to be powerful, they should be designed to be SMART. There are many variations of what
SMART stands for, but the essence is this – goals should be:
Specific.
Measurable.
Attainable.
Relevant.
Time Bound.
However, resist the urge to set goals that are too easy. Accomplishing a goal that you didn't have to work
hard for can be anticlimactic at best, and can also make you fear setting future goals that carry a risk of
non- achievement. By setting realistic yet challenging goals, you hit the balance you need. These are the
types of goals that require you to "raise the bar" and they bring the greatest personal satisfaction.
The physical act of writing down a goal makes it real and tangible. You have no excuse for forgetting
about it. As you write, use the word "will" instead of "would like to" or "might." For example, "I will
reduce my operating expenses by 10 percent this year," not "I would like to reduce my operating expenses
by 10 percent this year." The first goal statement has power and you can "see" yourself reducing
expenses, the second lacks passion and gives you an excuse if you get side tracked.
Tip 1:
Frame your goal statement positively. If you want to improve your retention rates say, "I will hold on to
all existing employees for the next quarter" rather than "I will reduce employee turnover." The first one is
motivating; the second one still has a get-out clause "allowing" you to succeed even if some employees
leave.
Tip 2:
If you use a To-Do List , make yourself a To-Do List template that has your goals at the top of it. If you
use an Action Program , then your goals should be at the top of your Project Catalog.
Post your goals in visible places to remind yourself every day of what it is you intend to do. Put them on
your walls, desk, computer monitor, bathroom mirror or refrigerator as a constant reminder.
This step is often missed in the process of goal setting. You get so focused on the outcome that you forget
to plan all of the steps that are needed along the way. By writing out the individual steps, and then
crossing each one off as you complete it, you'll realize that you are making progress towards your
ultimate goal. This is especially important if your goal is big and demanding, or long-term.
Remember, goal setting is an ongoing activity, not just a means to an end. Build in reminders to keep
yourself on track, and make regular time-slots available to review your goals. Your end destination may
remain quite similar over the long term, but the action plan you set for yourself along the way can change
significantly. Make sure the relevance, value, and necessity remain high.
Key Points
Goal setting is much more than simply saying you want something to happen. Unless you clearly define
exactly what you want and understand why you want it the first place, your odds of success are
considerably reduced. By following the Five Golden Rules of Goal Setting you can set goals with
confidence and enjoy the satisfaction that comes along with knowing you achieved what you set out to do.
Think about what is your best possible future self might look like. Set your
goals using the pre-built Goal Setting Sheet. In completing the worksheet you
will have
a simple and easy to use guide for setting your goal and creating your plan of action.
WHO asserts that physical and mental well-being is a human right, enabling a
life without limitation or restriction. Taking charge of one’s health starts with
living a healthy lifestyle, managing stress, and taking care of one’s self and
wellness.
A healthy lifestyle is a way of living that lowers the risk of being seriously ill or dying early. Not all
diseases are preventable, but a large proportion of deaths, particularly those from coronary heart disease
and lung cancer, can be avoided. Scientific studies have identified certain types of behaviour that
contribute to the development of non-communicable diseases and early death. Health is not only just
about avoiding disease. It is also about physical, mental and social wellbeing. When a healthy lifestyle is
adopted, a more positive role model is provided to other people in the family, particularly children
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A general rule of thumb is to moderate your workload and avoid taking on too much. Learning from the
article Healthy Lifestyles for College Students can ensure you find and maintain a good balance in your
academic life.
If the management tips do not help, seek advice from the University’s Office of Guidance and Counseling
or other professionals.
2. LEARN TO SAY NO
College life usually means easy access to tasty foods, from the candy in the vending machines to the
doughnuts in the bakery across the street. If you’re now living on your own, you might feel emboldened
to partake of delicious treats at any hour. Learning when to say no is a good skill that will help you keep
the extra pounds off. Avoid eating when you’re not actually hungry, and stick to light snacks when you
need a little treat. Try to avoid eating too much late at night as well; this can cause heartburn and weight
gain.
5. UP ON HEALTHY FOODS
Filling up your plate with healthy foods, including vegetables and fruits, can help you avoid eating too
much unhealthy junk food. Aim to build a colorful plate with a variety of fresh foods for each meal. A
simple meal of grilled chicken, brown rice and roasted vegetables will keep you full and be easy on your
waistline. If you want to indulge in the occasional calorie-rich meal, such as pizza, pair it with a nutritious
salad with a light dressing.
While you’re in college, maintaining your healthy habits may be a challenge. Including a little extra time
each day so that you can take care of your physical health is a good way to reduce stress and become
healthier.
6. STOP PROCRASTINATING
College students face tons of essays, courseworks and science papers during their years of study. And it’s
not a big deal when these works are just in the ordinary flow. But when it comes to a 90-page senior
thesis, you have to spend at least 1 year on it. This is where procrastination finds and catches you. A way
too big project presupposes planning an explicit strategy. Almost every student decides to start in the
middle of a year in order to meet the deadline. What happens next? Months pass by and dust covers your
thesis.
Then you invent another strategy – to start two months before the deadline. But two months turn into one,
which turns into several weeks. So one sunny morning you come out of the oblivion with two days until
the deadline without a word written. What a challenge, to produce 90 pages in 48 days. You don’t sleep,
eat or relax, struggling to be in time. Yes, you will get your mark, but results are nearly always frustrating.
How to avoid this Procrastination Monster? You’ll need to get rid of all the leisure temptations that
prevent you from completing tasks. But let’s face the truth: students are not so responsible. It is
impossible to kill procrastinations, all of us are subjected to it. But you can optimize your work for the
sake of your career. Consider your calendar, mind the whole process and don’t let anything ruin your
study goals.
B. MANAGING STRESS
Managing stress in its early stages can help
make the most of the university experience
and opportunities for students.
Managing Stress
Accessed July 29, 2020 from [Link]
Many students find that they need to develop new skills in order to balance academic demands with a
healthy lifestyle. Fortunately, the University of Michigan offers many resources to help students develop
these skills. Many students find that they can reduce their level of academic stress by improving skills
such as time management, stress management, and relaxation.
Stress is anything that alters your natural balance. When stress is present, your body and your mind must
attend to it in order to maintain balance. Your body reacts to stress by releasing hormones that help you
cope with the situation. That in turn takes energy away from the other functions of your brain, like
concentrating, or taking action. There are two different sources of stress: external triggers, like
transitioning to college or your parents getting a divorce, and internal triggers, like placing high
expectations on yourself.
Stress is a part of everyday life. There are many instances when stress can be helpful. A fire alarm is
intended to cause the stress that alerts you to avoid danger. The stress created by a deadline to finish a
paper can motivate you to finish the assignment on time. But when experienced in excess, stress has the
opposite effect. It can harm our emotional and physical health, and limit our ability to function at home,
in school, and within our relationships. The good news is that, since we are responsible for bringing about
much of our own stress, we can also do much to manage stress by learning and practicing specific stress-
reduction strategies.
Difficulty concentrating
Increased worrying
Trouble completing assignments on time
Not going to class
Short temper or increased agitation
Tension
Headaches
Tight muscles
Changes in eating habits (e.g., “stress eating”)
Changes in sleeping habits
People with mental illness are more likely to notice that their specific symptoms re-emerge or grow worse
during stressful times. In many cases, stress can act as the “spark” that ignites a mental health episode.
But this does not mean that every time you are busy or face a difficult challenge you will have a mental
health episode. Not everyone responds the same way to potentially stressful circumstances. For example,
during final exams many students feel very overwhelmed and anxious, while others are able to keep their
stress under control. If you, like many others, struggle with managing stress during difficult times, there
are some helpful tips on this page that can help.
Practice time management skills to manage your academic schedule, social activities, and making
time for yourself.
Set and implement specific goals for yourself that will improve your mood and help you reduce
stress. Start by filling out a goal-setting worksheet.
Avoid procrastination. Procrastination can create more mental and physical stress. If you have
trouble staying on task, consider downloading apps that will help keep you off things that are
distracting. To learn more about procrastination, click here.
Exercise regularly. Physical activity can help you burn off the energy generated by stress.
Practice good sleep habits to ensure that you are well-rested. Sleep deprivation can cause many
physical and mental problems and can increase stress.
Relaxation Techniques
Research has shown that relaxation techniques are an effective way to reduce not only stress but many of
the symptoms associated with mental illnesses. Try one or more of the following techniques for relaxing
your mind and body and reducing the physical and psychological tension associated with stress. Take the
time to experiment with these techniques to find out which ones work best for you.
Breathing Exercise: Place one hand on your abdomen right beneath your rib cage. Inhale
slowly through your nose, drawing a deep breath into your lungs. Your chest should move only
slightly, while your stomach rises, pushing your hand up. As you exhale, just let yourself go
and imagine your entire body becoming loose and limp. It should take you twice as long to
exhale as it does to inhale. Practice three times per day for two to three minutes. For more
information and resources on this technique, click here.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Pay a “mental visit” to your muscles, stopping at each area
of the body from head to toe (or toe to head), paying attention to individual areas where
tension exists. As you pause at each area, tense and relax each muscle, trying to release
unnecessary tension. Spend a few more minutes on those areas that seem to be holding the
most tension. For more information and resources on this technique, click here.
Visual (Guided) Imagery: Imagine tension flowing out of your body from top to
bottom. Visualize tension draining down your shoulders and arms and out through your
fingertips into the air, down your thighs and legs, and out through the soles of your feet into the
ground. It’s also helpful to take a mental “vacation,” imagining yourself in a pleasant, relaxing
place such as on the beach or in the woods. This can be a place where you’ve been or a place
you’d like to be. Take time to imagine the specific details of what you see, hear and feel in this
place. For more information and resources on this technique, click here.
MINDFULNESS
Mindfulness: Mindfulness is about noticing our thoughts, feelings or bodily sensations without
judgment. It’s a helpful tool in managing stress for those with a mental illness.
➢ Being Mindful of Everyday Activities. As a student, your life and your mind are often so busy that
you forget to take notice of the everyday occurrences that keep your senses ‘awake’. For example, as you
walk across the Diag, you may be lost in thought while drinking a latte. You may not be aware of how
you arrived at your destination or of the steam of the latte as you take a sip. Rather than allowing yourself
to miss the moment, pause, take a breath and notice what you are experiencing. Your experiences may be
pleasant and worth savoring. But even if they are unpleasant, you will be better able to cope if you face
your experiences directly and strive to live “in the moment.”
The goal of mindfulness meditation is not to change your thoughts in any way, but simply to notice them
and as best you can, continuously returning to your breath. Learning mindfulness meditation is similar to
learning any new skill. There are an abundance of website and apps for guided meditations. Keep it
simple. Be patient and kind with yourself. Do not expect that you will be able to “empty” your mind of
thoughts and enter a state of deep relaxation. Try starting with ten minutes each day, setting a timer to see
what happens. Remember that each moment is a new opportunity to begin. With practice, meditation can
allow you to develop clarity in your thoughts and feelings, decrease your negative thoughts, and promote
a sense of peacefulness and centeredness.
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When asked the question: “Do you take care of yourself?” most of us will answer “yes” — we’d even
think, “What kind of question is this? Of course, I care about myself.”
When asked, “In what ways do you take care of yourself?” — well, that’s where the tricky part begins.
WHAT IS SELF-CARE?
Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and
physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook. Good
self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It’s also key to a good relationship with oneself
and others.
Knowing what self-care is not might be even more important. It is not something that we force ourselves
to do, or something we don’t enjoy doing. As Agnes Wainman explained, self-care is “something that
refuels us, rather than takes from us.”
Self-care isn’t a selfish act either. It is not only about considering our needs; it is rather about knowing
what we need to do in order to take care of ourselves, being subsequently, able to take care of others as
well. That is, if I don’t take enough care of myself, I won’t be in the place to give to my loved ones either.
1. Stick to the basics. Over time you will find your own rhythm and routine. You will be able to
implement more and identify more particular forms of self-care that work for you.
2. Self-care needs to be something you actively plan, rather than something that just happens. It is an
active choice and you must treat it as such. Add certain activities to your calendar, announce your
plans to others in order to increase your commitment, and actively look for opportunities to practice
self-care.
3. What I often emphasize to my clients is that keeping a conscious mind is what counts. In other words
if you don’t see something as self-care or don’t do something in order to take care of yourself, it
won’t work as such. Be aware of what you do, why you do it, how it feels, and what the outcomes are.
Although self-care means different things to different people, there’s a basic checklist that can be
followed by all of us:
Create a “no” list, with things you know you don’t like or you no longer want to do. Examples might
include: Not checking emails at night, not attending gatherings you don’t like, not answering your
phone during lunch/dinner.
Promote a nutritious, healthy diet.
Get enough sleep. Adults usually need 7-8 hours of sleep each night.
Exercise. In contrast to what many people think, exercise is as good for our emotional health as it is
for our physical health. It increases serotonin levels, leading to improved mood and energy. In line
with the self-care conditions, what’s important is that you choose a form of exercise that you like!
Follow-up with medical care. It is not unusual to put off check-ups or visits to the doctor.
Use relaxation exercises and/or practice meditation. You can do these exercises at any time of the day.
Spend enough time with your loved ones.
Do at least one relaxing activity every day, whether it’s taking a walk or spending 30 minutes
unwinding.
Do at least one pleasurable activity every day; from going to the cinema, to cooking or meeting with
friends.
Look for opportunities to laugh!
This brief primer on SELF-CARE AND WELLNESS is accessed July 28, 2020 from
[Link]
SELF-CARE
Self-care is a vital part of maintaining good health and a vibrant life. I
Self-care is a way of living that incorporates behaviors that help you to be refreshed,
replenish your personal motivation, and grow as a person.
WELLNESS
Wellness is an interactive process of becoming aware of and practicing healthy choices to create a
more successful and balanced lifestyle.
Wellness is:
A direction in which by its nature, moves us toward a more proactive, responsible and
healthier existence.
The integration of the body, mind, and spirit.
The loving acceptance of ourselves today and the exciting free search for who we choose
to become tomorrow.
Choice living; a compilation of the daily decisions we make that lead us to that person we
choose to become.
Wellness is the framework that you can use to organize, understand, and balance your
own growth and development. Everything you do, every decision you make, every
thought you think, and every attitude and belief you hold fits into this framework
made up of the following six basic concepts:
1. Social Wellness involves developing friendships, healthy sexual behaviors, and the
ability to interact comfortably with others. Social wellness is important for
maintaining harmony in personal and community environments. The social
dimension encourages contributing to the common welfare of your community. It
emphasizes the coexistence of you, society, and the environment along with the
pursuit of harmony in your life. As you become socially well, your impact on
society and nature becomes more apparent. Throughout your journey, you’ll seek
out ways to preserve balance around you. You actively seek ways to enhance
relationships through better communication and encouraging a healthy living
environment. You will learn it is better to live in harmony than in conflict.
2. Intellectual Wellness involves the strong desire to learn from challenges and
experiences. Intellectual wellness is important for encouraging ongoing intellectual
growth and experiencing creative yet stimulating mental activities that will provide
you with the foundation to discover, process, and evaluate information effectively. An
intellectually well person uses the available resources, in and out of the classroom, to
expand their knowledge and skills for the betterment of society.
As you grow, you will continually seek issues relating to problem solving, creative
thinking and learning. You will actively seek the opportunity to expand and challenge
your mind through creative endeavors. Your natural instinct to remain abreast of
current issues will surface and become satisfied through reading books, magazines
and newspapers and pursuing other interests.
3. Spiritual Wellness involves the willingness to seek meaning and purpose in human
existence; regardless of your religious beliefs. Spiritual wellness is important for
allowing you to be open to diverse multi-cultural beliefs and backgrounds because of
your comfort level with yourself and with your belief structure. Spiritual wellness
coincides with the exploration of the meaning of life. It seeks the development of a
deep appreciation of all life and natural forces in existence.
The question "Who am I and why do I exist?" is the starting point of your journey
into spiritual wellness. Through your journey, you will observe and appreciate the
beauty of your surroundings and begin to learn the value of things you cannot
understand. As you grow spiritually, you seek a harmony between your emotions
allowing for avoidance of emotional peaks and valleys. You continually allow your
actions to be guided by your beliefs and values.
4. Emotional Wellness involves having the ability to acknowledge and accept a wide
range of feelings in oneself as well as in others. Emotional wellness is important in
order to be able to freely express and manage one's own feelings, to develop positive
self- esteem in order to arrive at personal decisions based upon the integration of
one's attitudes and behaviors. Emotional wellness centers on the acceptance of your
emotions and feelings. Included is the ability to realistically evaluate your limitations
and effectively cope with stress. An emotionally well individual maintains healthy
and satisfying relationships with others.
On the path to emotional wellness, your acceptance and awareness of a wide range of
feelings in yourself and others becomes more apparent. The ability to manage,
understand and express your emotions will be enhanced leading to the development
of relationships based on mutual commitment, trust, and respect.
5. Physical Wellness involves regular physical activities, proper nutrition and health
care, such as exercise or sports, and personal hygiene. Cardiovascular strength and
endurance, muscular strength and endurance, and flexibility are all also part of
physical wellness. Physical wellness is important because activities leading to high
levels of wellness, including nutritional knowledge, exercise, and appropriate use of
the medical system are encouraged while detrimental activities, including the
consumption of drugs and excessive alcohol are discouraged.
Throughout your journey to physical wellness, you will strive to spend more attention
to building flexibility, cardiovascular, and muscular abilities. The relationship
between sound nutritional practices and your health becomes more apparent and
appreciated. You will understand your body’s warning signs and take responsibility
by appropriately adjusting your lifestyle.
Source: Self Care and Wellness: Taking Care of Yourself So You Can Be Your Best. Accessed July 28,
2020 from [Link]
As a clinician, I often refer to self- care as a huge part of what’s missing in the life of someone who’s
busy and stressed. So what is self -care? Self -care in essence is the mindful taking of time to pay
attention to you, not in a narcissistic way, but in a way that ensures that you are being cared for by you.
And I’m often asked, what does that look like, and how do you take care of yourself in order to
avoid burnout or compassion fatigue? Quitting your job or taking six months off to decompress is seldom
an option for most people. What concerns me is that all too often, I see strong, successful professionals
succumb to illness and get really, really sick and only then do they manage to get the much needed break
to catch their breath or slow down and change direction. I think there's a better way, and incorporating self
care every day helps to serve as an armor to protect the energy that we need in order to survive and
thrive. Self- care goes a long way in managing stress and living your best life.
Here are 10 ways to exercise self-care and take better care of you.
1. Self- care means knowing who you are and your limits. Self -care means recognizing when
you are doing more than you are used to handling and trying to figure out what can be done to
slow down.
2. Self -care means getting the sleep you need and knowing how to rest. Are you getting
enough sleep for you? Do you know how much sleep you require everyday and are you sleeping
at least that much? Making a serious effort to make that happen as well as knowing how to rest
your body and your mind are essential.
3. Self- care means making sure that you're well fed. Does what you eat provide the energy
you need to function? Do you take time to eat meals at work and do you take time to have snacks
when your body requires intermittent food during the work day? Self -care means integrating
favorite healthy foods into your everyday eating routines and planning ahead to make sure you
have adequate nutrition throughout your day.
4. Self -care means finding a way to decompress throughout your day, not just when you leave
work. What is it you do to rest your mind during and after a work day? What helps you tune out
the noise? Most people tell me they don’t have the luxury of taking breaks during their work day,
but trying to integrate mini breaks throughout the day helps refresh your mind and body. For
example, try stretching or taking a brief walk even if it's only a few feet away, getting yourself a
drink of water, talking to a friend, getting in touch with a loved one even if it's just a text, or
purposely looking at photos that have special meaning. The brain needs those pauses.
5. Self- care means giving some thought to changing a difficult work situation. We know best
what we need and what we can deal with. Is there anything that can be done to make your work
somewhat less stressful? Think about whether changes can be made to your work environment.
Are you okay with where you sit and do your work? Are you working unsustainable hours and is
there some end in sight? It might be a matter of approaching a supervisor with things that you
think may make your work more pleasant, such as changing where you sit or changing
whether you take an earlier lunch or later start time.
Sometimes supervisors are not even aware of the reality of what the worker experiences in a work
day. A frank conversation delineating the things that are most stressful might precipitate the
process of improving your working conditions. People see the world through their own lenses and
supervisors have their own problems and a sometimes a simple conversation can provide the
insight they needed to rethink how things are done.
6. Self -care means taking time to get to know you better. Self-care means learning to
recognize your own temperament and trying to prepare for your personal limits. For example, do
you have the trait of "high sensitivity? (Aron 1996) "Highly Sensitives" or "HSP's" are
particularly bothered and affected by over-stimulation. Identifying your temperament and your
triggers and planning accordingly might help lessen inevitable stress. That might be as simple as
grabbing some almonds before a meeting that usually cuts into your lunch hour so you're not
ridiculously hungry or rethinking fabulous but uncomfortable shoes.
7. Self- care means identifying what you enjoy doing and what's fun for you and make a
serious effort to integrate it into your day or, at the very least, your week. Make it a habit to
plan something to look forward to everyday and that doesn't have to be complicated. It can be as
simple as planning to read a good book at night or planning to have dinner with someone whose
company you enjoy.
8. Self- care means knowing how to decompress after a day's work. That might mean walking
home from work to clear your head, driving in silence or listening to music to help transition from
work to home.
9. Self-care means feeding your spiritual self. That might take the form of meditating, praying,
and communing with nature by a walk in a park, observing a sunset or sunrise, attending a
religious service, practicing gratitude, reading or listening to something inspirational.
10. And finally, self- care means taking time to love yourself and appreciating that there's only
one you and you're the expert on that.
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