Parenting Styles and Outcomes
Thought:
We know that the way children are
parented when they are young influences
the type of people they become. How?
Why?
A Kentucky father of a teenage boy says
his hardest job is getting his son to realize
that no is a complete answer.
Competencies / Objectives
The student will be able to:
• Identify parenting styles, including positive guidance
techniques that help children develop positive self-concepts,
self-management, and responsibility.
• Identify parenting types and styles.
• List ways to foster a child’s self-concept.
• Identify positive guidance techniques.
• Write an abstract and a personal analysis of a child guidance
articles.
• Apply positive guidance techniques to child-rearing
problems and/or case studies.
Match
1. Responsive to A. Hostile and
children's’ needs. antisocial
2. Indifferent to B. Poor self-control,
children, ignore difficulty with social
them interactions when
3. Reject their children teenagers.
4. Critical, derogatory, C. Compliant with
dissatisfied with parent’s wishes
their children. D. Happy and friendly
5. Warm, E. Dissatisfied with
understanding and themselves.
accepting.
Matching Key
1. Responsive to A. Hostile and
children's’ needs. antisocial
2. Indifferent to B. Poor self-control,
children, ignore difficulty with social
them interactions when
3. Reject their children teenagers.
4. Critical, derogatory, C. Compliant with
dissatisfied with parent’s wishes
their children. D. Happy and friendly
5. Warm, E. Dissatisfied with
understanding and themselves.
accepting.
Types of Parenting Styles and
Outcomes
Most parents can be classified into
three main types by the style in
which they guide their children. As
we discuss each, think about where
your own parents fits most
appropriately. Do each of your
parents use the same style? Do you
fit the outcome?
Authoritarian:
Limits without Freedom.
Definition:
Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute
control.
Misconduct is punished.
Affection and praise are rarely given.
Parents try to control children's behavior
and attitudes.
They value unquestioned obedience.
Children are told what to do, how to do it,
and where to do it, and when to do it.
Outcomes of Authoritarian Style
•Obedient Children from authoritarian
•Distrustful homes are so strictly
•Discontent controlled, either by
•Withdrawn punishment or guilt, that
they are often prevented
•Unhappy
from making a conscious
•Hostile choice about particular
•Not High Achievers behavior because they are
•Often Rebel overly concerned about
what their parents will do.
Permissive:
Freedom without limits.
Definition:
Parents allow their children to do their own
thing.
Little respect for order and routine.
Parents make few demands on children.
Impatience is hidden.
Discipline is lax
Parents are resources rather than standard
makers
Rarely punish
Non-controlling, non-demanding
Usually warm
Children walk all over the parents
Outcome of Permissive Parenting
•Aggressive Children from
•Least self-reliant permissive homes
•Least self- receive so little
controlled guidance that they
often become
•Least exploratory
uncertain and anxious
•Most unhappy about whether they
are doing the right
thing.
Democratic:
Freedom within limits.
Definition:
It’s the middle ground between the two above.
It stresses freedom along with rights of others and responsibilities of
all.
Parents set limits and enforce rules.
They are willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and questions.
It has both loves and limits.
Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of their
own decisions.
Parents exert firm control when necessary, but explain the reasoning
behind it.
Parents respect children’s interest, opinions, and unique personalities.
Parents are loving, consistent, and demanding.
Parents combine control with encouragement.
They have reasonable expectations and realistic standards.
Outcomes of Democratic Style
•Happy Children whose parents
•Mostly self-reliant expect them to perform
•Mostly self- well, to fulfill
controlled commitments, and to
participate actively in
•Content, friendly, family duties, as well as
generous family fun, learn how to
•Cooperative formulate goals. They also
•High-achiever experience the satisfaction
•Less likely to be that comes from meeting
seriously disruptive responsibilities and
or delinquent achieving success.
In groups of three or four have students
develop a case study or story that fits each
parenting style.
Have groups pass their stories to other
groups and have them read them to see if
they can identify the parenting style.
Activity: Fingerprints,
Activity: Fingerprints, page 168, More
Activities That Teach, Tom Jackson,
IBSN #0-9664633-3-1
Ways to foster a child's self-esteem.
Provide more
successes than Give lots of
failures for the encouragement.
child. Give them
freedom to fail
with acceptance.
Allow
Give independence.
unconditional
love.
Do not set
standards
unreasonably
high. Avoid
Eliminate the
negative. ridicule.
Ways to foster a child's self-esteem.
Be available. Be a good role
model.
Give your children
responsibility.
Help your child
Take their ideas, emotions develop talents.
and feelings seriously.
Set limits. Allow exploration and
encourage questions.
Assignment: Building Self-esteem
In each of the situations, what would you
say or do to build a child’s self-esteem?
Speaking Positively activity: Don’t --
Please Do
Show and Discuss the Positive Guidance
Techniques PowerPoint Presentation from
the Child Discipline and Guidance Lesson
Plan on UEN.
Assignment: What are some appropriate
solutions to the following situations?
Assignment: What are some appropriate solutions to the following
situations?
1. Tommy is throwing a ball in the living room and knocks over a lamp.
2. Nicole is throwing sand at the other kids in the sand pile.
3. Your three children are bickering in the backseat while you are driving
on the interstate.
4. Jerry, eating in a restaurant with you, creates a disturbance and
humiliates you by belching and giggling loudly.
5. Amy keeps forgetting to take her lunch money to school. You are
always having to remind her to do it or take it to her at school.
6. Jon won’t come in the house when you call him for dinner.
7. Heather takes her brother’s money from his piggybank and spends it.
8. Your teenager keeps the car out past the agreed time.
9. Jocelyn refuses to do her homework.
10. Craig leaves his dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in
the hamper where they are supposed to go.
I’m Hooked
Have students complete the I’m Hooked
Sheet (write down what you learned today
and how will you use this in your life).
Summary:
One of the most important things to
remember as a parent is to be yourself. You
can only use those methods with which you
feel comfortable. A child can spot a fake a
mile away. Children know if you mean
what you say or if it is just another threat.
Select the methods that you believe in, that
you feel comfortable with, and then be
consistent.
