Have your every felt that you don't have your own private space at home or online?

Some thing even you

don’t have any power to make judgments, as a teen some people are in puberty maybe face this problem. As

a teen I want to stand up say that teen should have private space.

Why Teen should need private space this is the question that most parents will think about, actually

according to the scientific research it say that when people get into teen their psychological changes, teen

will be different from before. We change our mind and thinkings in the period we develop from before, we

become more mature and more responsible for ourself, but some of our parent does let go of us, raise you

hand if you parent think you still a baby that cannot do anything? Ok same as my parents even I know I to

protect myself online and offline and also know what is good or bad for me but they still don't understand the

important giving me private space. Now I will lead to the two key word of teen private space.

The two key word of giving teen on private space will be trust and respect , what is the definition of private

and trust? According to the dictionary the explanation of private is belonging to or for the use of one

particular person or group of people only at here will be one person. For respect is due regard for the

feelings, wishes, or rights of others. Looking at the definition about the key word here came the problem do

the parents understand them? By they acting I don't think they know what is them here is example that what

they did.

Giving teen private space show trust to them is so important in the stage it was important just like eating

food every day, but some of the parent didn't notice it was important. In China there is an app called

EverSunshine in Chinese it was called 阳光守护. The parent can look into there kids phone delete anything

that they think was bad for the children for example friends teacher and more, even they can lock the kids

phone in the same time if they want. This showing lack of respect to the teens and they will not trust you.
Some of teen will put camera in there child's room and look at them when they wanted, other parents will not

knock on the door asking before they come [Link] is basic show you does not respect them or trust them, if

they will trust you they will automatically tell you what happen in school and online what they have face or

something bad happen. I think some of us face these problem for example in school, I will not name who

was it but she face the problem that I have talk before her mother look at her phone and doesn't knock on the

door coming into the room, at first she don't know how to stop her mother and talk with her mon about the

situation of private space. When she try to talk about the private space but her mom also say “ you are a child

you don't need private space, I can help you if you need help I am your mother I can help you to look and

judge what is good or bad for you.” And more kinds of word. But one time she start to look at her mom

phone and her mom tell her to stop this is the time that her mom realise her feeling about looking into her

phone. A better way to develop the trust you can talk with your parents about leaving space for you that you

will all agree and will have a better environment for you.

The second key point of having private space is respect. When we are older we have lot of thing that maybe

you don’t want to share with your parents, also me I don't want to share too. Maybe something happen

horrible that you don't want to tell your family, at this point I think will be fine that we don't need to tell

everything to our family or friends we have right to choose what we want to tell because we have right to do

that. Here is the story about me, when I was grade 5 I don't really like to share my daily at school with my

family because I don't know they will understand what I am talking about also I have lot of gossip and secret

from my friend, so this is point I have write dairy but at the start I have use Chinese to write my dairy but

after few month I have felt something strange happened my mother noticed some of secret, and one day I

have find out in her photo she have the picture of my dairy and also my WeChat message between my

friends, I was shocked at that moment because I don’t think my private has been respect by my close people

in family, I have deleted the picture she have take and she find out talk with me about it. The reason that she
take photo is take want to know me more, but using a wrong way. I have a fight with her and it last for one

month because I don't tell her my life, after one month I cannot wait I have talk with my mom about my

feeling and she reflected on her way if it right or not, but I that point I have talked about respect between me

and her because I have alway keep her space if she doesn't want me to know or take care same as me I want

to keep to myself because of different reason. After the talk my mon have leave me space to explore and

have free time talking with my friends.

What effect will happen on if your don’t give teen private space? It can have cause lot negative effect on

them when they are older. First maybe they will not be confident than before like our people in there same

age, because they have close up their heart and thinkings and also they don't know if their action will be right

or wrong. Second is that they will not respect other people. When they are teen because of family does

respect their privacy when they grow up they slowly will have a think about “not privacy” they don’t know

where is the area between people, it can harm their social with people and also relationship between people.

Last is that maybe your child grow up don't want to make friend or deep relationship between you, because

the trust has lost when they are young. They don't trust you by way you act when they are small they cannot

relay on you. They will be afraid that what you will do to them when they are older, in the relationship

between people many they cannot be calm at the point or don’t trust what they say. In this perspective teen

should have private space when they needed.

I know growing up in a teen we need to face lot of problem and we need your mom and dad to help but some

of time leaving a private space for teens will be a better choose for calming down or having bad days let

them to do something that want will be a choose. We all know that our parent want us to be happy and take

care of us but some time giving private space will be a good choose for teens growing up!