How to Be Feminine

Do you want to enhance your feminine side? If you really want to

embrace your inner lady, then you have to adopt the mindset of a more
traditional woman and know how to cultivate grace, politeness, and
capability. If you want to know how to be feminine, just follow these
steps

Method 1 of 3: Looking Feminine

1
Wear the correct clothes for your body shape and size - ones
which are pretty and modest. Start to wear skirts instead of
pants or jeans - nothing works better at defining you as a girl who
cherishes her femininity. A skirt looks cute paired with a blouse,
belt and flats. Don't wear them too short, the right length is just
above the knee so you look demure and nice. Don't fall for the
'girly' trap of wearing pink or baby blue, you'll look great in black or
navy blue or perhaps maroon. Nothing really beats a classic pencil
skirt while a pleated skirt can be both cute and comfortable. If
you've been wearing jeans for years, wearing a skirt will be a
revelation; it will make you feel classy and feminine, especially when
you're out with friends who are all wearing jeans, or if you're the
only girl at work wearing a skirt.
◦ Dresses (fit & flare dresses with a belt) are sweet too.
◦ Always wear hosiery rather than bare legs. Go for the classic
sheer look and avoid any patterns. Tan or nearly black are
great colours to choose. Your skirt will help you enjoy the
feeling of having your legs on display - so never wear opaque.
◦ Wear flat shoes if you don't like heels. The key is to choose
something simple and classy
◦ Avoid the "just rolled out of bed" look. Don't wear anything
that hides your shape. Whatever you wear, people should be
able to tell you've put some time and effort into putting your
look together.
2
Wear a little makeup. This step is not necessary, but it will help
make you look a little more feminine. Red and pink lipstick and
neutral eyeshadows will help to create a feminine look. But
remember, you do not need makeup. Wear it only if you want to. If
you're not comfortable with makeup, then so be it.
◦ If you're really opposed to makeup, make sure your lips are
moist by wearing lip balm whenever you can.
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Accessorize. In addition to your clothes and makeup, you should
spend some time finding the perfect accessories to go with your
wardrobe. You don't need to get a box full of accessories -- just a
few key items can help tie your look together and can make you look
more feminine. Here are some items to consider as you work on your
more feminine look:
◦ A pretty silk scarf
◦ Pearl earrings or other studs
◦ A cute headband
◦ A ribbon hair barrette
◦ Some thin silver bracelets
◦ Rings that are cute but not too chunky or flashy
4. Love every inch of your body. The body is what makes you
female, so how can you be feminine if you don't embrace your
female form? A woman's body naturally has a higher body fat
percentage than that of a man, so don't dismiss your curves. On the
other hand, part of loving your body is taking care of it, so don't
dismiss your cholesterol levels, either. Fortunately, you don't have
to look like a catwalk model in order to be reasonably healthy.
◦ Loving every inch of your body doesn't mean flaunting your
body or showing it off every chance you get. It just means
loving how you look and being comfortable in your own skin.
◦ Don't think that you can't work out because it's not lady-like.
Taking a yoga class, a dance class, or running or swimming will
get you more in touch with your feminine side and will make
you love your body even more.
5. Devote some time to grooming. Though you don't have to take a
two-hour shower every day or spend an hour doing your hair, you
should make sure that you always look, feel, and smell clean and
that you've devoted enough time to keeping up a clean and ladylike
appearance. Showing up somewhere after working out without
showering is not very feminine; make sure that you exude
cleanliness and poise and look relatively put together wherever you
go.
◦ Never look like you rushed to get your look together in time or
put on makeup or comb your hair in front of your friends
because you didn't have time to do it before.
6. Wear perfume or scented lotion. If you want to look like a lady, then
you have to smell like a lady. Consider putting a dab of perfume on
your neck, or rubbing some scented lotion on your neck or arms.
Remember to only use a light touch -- you don't want to overwhelm
anyone with too-strong perfume.
Method 2 of 3: Acting like a Lady

7. Be graceful. In most societies, women are thought to be more

naturally graceful than men. There are always exceptions, of
course, and it is totally up to you whether you choose gracefulness
to be an expression of your femininity. Generally, however, many
women feel more feminine when they make smooth movements,
rather than jerky, powerful ones. And, of course, consider the
context. You might want to be fierce on the volleyball court or
shooting range, and svelte at a bar or in the bedroom. There's no
rule saying you have to be graceful (or feminine) all the time.
◦ To be graceful, wear cute shoes that are comfortable for you
to walk in so you don't trip or walk in a way that looks
unnatural. If you want to master heels but don't quite know
how to walk in them, practice at home or in front of a mirror
before you bring your new look out in to the world.
8. Learn to dance. Dancing is an extension of your body, and
through dance you can find ways to emphasize your femininity. Belly
dancing, for example, accentuates the natural curves of a woman's
form. A partner dance, like salsa or the waltz, can also help you feel
more feminine because such dances are built upon the traditional
differences between men and women - the man guides, while the
woman follows and makes more fluid, extravagant movements.
9. Be playful. Let's ditch the whole idea that being feminine means
being perfect and ethereal. For those times when grace is lacking
and you fall flat on your face in the middle of a room, the true test
of your femininity is your ability to laugh it off! Because think about
it: taking life too seriously isn't very feminine in most people's
books, and it's not very healthy overall. So smile a lot, flirt, tease,
and play. Have fun! Ultimately, being feminine is about feeling at
ease with yourself, and you can't feel at ease if you're too stiff,
somber, and serious, so be the opposite: lighthearted and playful.
◦ Flirting is a part of being a woman. Don't think that you're not
allowed to flirt just because you're trying to be feminine.
10. Be confident. This is another important step to looking feminine,
bright, healthy, and confident. Anyone can agree that learning
to love yourself is important. Having confidence will not only
make you look more feminine mentally and physically, it will
help you to be more independent and outstanding. Never give
up on yourself, ever.
◦ Part of being confident means mastering the body language of
a confident person. Walk with your head high, smile, and look
straight ahead of you, not down at the floor.
◦ Being confident doesn't mean being arrogant. You don't have
to brag about your accomplishments to make people see how
confident you are.
11. Walk in a more feminine way. If you want to have a more feminine
walk, then you should work on walking more with your hips than your
shoulders, taking lighter steps instead of stomping, and taking your
time to move from place to place. To be truly feminine, you should
be gliding gracefully on your way, not look like you're rushing off to
your next location. If you have to rush, try to look composed as you
take quicker short steps to reach your destination.
12. Be a good caretaker. If you want to be feminine, then you
have to know how to take care of someone -- whether your
boyfriend has gotten sick, your dog has gotten injured, or your best
friend just needs a shoulder to cry on. Be prepared to serve
chicken soup, take a person's temperature, or just know how to tell
a person to lie down and make him or her feel more comfortable and
cared for. A feminine woman doesn't do nothing if she's around a
person who clearly needs her help, and she should spring into action
when someone needs to be nurtured.
◦ This doesn't mean that you should focus your energies to
taking care of other people. It just means that when the time
to be a caretaker comes, you should be prepared.
13. Have admirable manners. If you want to be feminine, then you
have to have good table manners and good manners when you go out
into your everyday life. This means not eating with your elbows on
the table, greeting a person kindly even if you're having a bad day,
not slouching or sneezing into your hands instead of a tissue, and
generally acting in a way that can serve as a model for others. Here
are some other things to consider as you refine your manners:
◦ If you're eating dinner in a group setting, make sure you say,
"Please pass the chicken," instead of reaching over yourself
and invading another person's personal space.
◦ Find a nice way to give negative feedback. Instead of saying,
"Will you shut up already?" say, "Would you mind lowering your
voice?"
◦ Avoid burping in public. Once you reach a certain age, burping
in public is not funny anymore. If it happens by accident, just
say "Excuse me," or "Pardon me," but don't try to do this if
you want to impress your friends or make your guy friends
laugh. This is simply not ladylike behavior.
◦ Avoid rolling your eyes or generally being rude when someone
is saying something you don't really want to hear.
Method 3 of 3: Using the Right Words

14. Talk like a lady. To be feminine, you can't curse like a sailor,
yell to get what you want, or talk so loudly that any person in the
building can hear you. Part of being feminine is knowing how to get
across exactly what you want to say while being graceful, poised,
delicate, and considerate. Speak more softly, slow down your words,
and express your thoughts as eloquently as possible. Say, "It's a
little chilly today," instead of "I'm freezing my butt off!" to sound
more feminine as you share your ideas.
◦ You don't have to change the way you think or all of the things
that you talk about to be feminine -- you just have to consider
the way you say them.
 15. Give sincere compliments. You don't have to give people
fake compliments to be feminine. However, you should be able
to find something kind or complimentary to say, and to make a
person feel special and important by pointing out something
that he or she is doing well. You can say something as simple
as, "I love your dress. It matches your eyes perfectly" or
"You're so great at piano. How long have you been playing?"
Take a sincere interest in a person and find a small way to
show that you're paying attention.
◦ You don't have to go overboard. Just give a compliment
whenever the mood strikes you.
16. Avoid bragging. If you want to be feminine, then you should avoid
bragging about your accomplishments, talking about how amazing
you look, or generally showing off. A truly feminine person is
confident enough in her looks and abilities to be modest and to let
other people figure out how amazing she is. You don't have to be so
humble that you can't take a compliment or never talk about your
achievements, but avoid doing anything that may come off as
bragging or making you seem a little full of yourself.
◦ A truly feminine person doesn't need to show off for the
compliments to come.
18. Be polite. A feminine girl isn't rude, off-putting, or generally
mean to anyone around her. Even if you're hanging around someone
you don't like very much, you should avoid being openly combative or
hostile. Instead, smile, be polite, and limit your contact with this
person as much as you can. A feminine woman also says "Please," and
"Thank you" whenever it's necessary.
◦ Being polite also means talking about polite topics. Don't talk
about anything overly vulgar, curse too much, or just bring up
inappropriate topics in mixed company.
19. Be compassionate. A feminine woman feels compassion for
other people, knows how to sympathize with people, and says the
right thing when she's trying to help someone. Know how to say
things like, "I'm so sorry you're feeling that way," "I can't imagine
how hard that is for you," or "Please let me know if there's anything
I can do." A feminine woman knows how to recognize when someone
is feeling upset, whether it's a dear friend or a small child, and
knows how to make that person feel better.
◦ While you're saying comforting words, you should also behave
in a comforting manner. Don't be afraid to put your arm
around the person or to use your body language to show how
sympathetic you are if it's appropriate.
Tips
• Femininity is strong and always has been. Show the world how
strong you can be while being feminine!
• Everyone has a masculine and feminine side. You can be feminine in
one way, such as you like getting your nails done or doing makeup,
but masculine in another because you like playing or watching
sports. But most people are more one than the other.
• Always wear your hair down or pinned up.
• It's okay to be girly, embrace it!
Warnings
• These tips are for Westernized cultures mostly. There are other
cultures around the world that acknowledge more than two genders.
• What is considered feminine and masculine varies from place to
place. Some cultures even have a "third" gender.