Verbal and Nonverbal Communication
LEARNING OBJECTIVES
Discuss verbal communication and its role in business
Discuss nonverbal communication and its role in business
Verbal Communication
Verbal communication is perhaps the most obvious and understood mode of
communication, and it is certainly a powerful tool in your communication toolbox. Put
simply, verbal communication is the sharing of information between two individuals
using words.
Spoken versus Written Communication
While we typically focus on speech while talking about verbal communication, it’s
important to remember that writing is also a form of verbal communication. After all,
writing uses words too!
Imagine for a moment that you’re a college student who is struggling with material in a
class. Rather than simply giving up, you decide that you’re going to ask your instructor
for the guidance you need to make it through the end of the semester. Now, you have a
few choices for using verbal communication to do this. You might choose to call your
instructor, if they’ve provided contact information, or talk to them in person after class or
during office hours. You may take a different approach and send them an email. You
can probably identify your own list of pros and cons for each of these approaches. But
really, what’s the difference between writing and talking in these situations? Let’s look at
four of the major differences between the two:
1. Formal versus Informal: We generally use spoken
communication informally while we use written communication formally.
2. Synchronous versus Asynchronous: Synchronous communication
is communication that takes place in real time, such as a conversation with a
friend. In contrast, asynchronous communication is communication that is not
immediate and occurs over longer periods of time, such as letters, email, or even
text messages.
3. Recorded versus Unrecorded: Written communication is generally archived and
recorded for later retrieval while spoken communication is generally not recorded.
Benefits of Spoken Communication
Spoken communication can be a conversation, a meeting, or even a speech. Spoken
communication is powerful in that it allows for input from every part of the social
communication model. You encode your thoughts into the spoken word and look to your
audience to decode and take the message in. You can ask for feedback directly to
confirm understanding of your message.
In a world where we do most of our talking by email and text, spoken communication is
a breath of fresh air. Leverage the power of spoken communication to create
relationships—you can establish a rapport and a sense of trust with your audience when
you speak with them. Spoken communication allows you to bond on a more emotional
level with your listeners.
Spoken communication also makes it easier to ensure understanding by addressing
objections and clearing up misunderstandings: you can adjust your message as you
communicate it, based on the feedback you’re getting from your audience. Spoken
communication allows you to walk away from a conversation with a higher degree of
certainty that your message was received.
PRACTICE QUESTIONS
Verbal communication is a powerful tool, and it’s made even more powerful when paired
with listening and nonverbal communication.
Nonverbal Communication
We’ve already employed a little bit of nonverbal communication with the active listening
skills we’ve previously discussed: nodding, facial expressions, leaning toward the
speaker to show interest—all of those are forms of nonverbal communication. Body
language can reinforce your spoken message or it can contradict it entirely.
There’s a myth that says that when you speak, only 35 percent of your communication
is verbal and 65 percent of it is nonverbal. That’s not entirely true because so much
depends on the context and situation. It is, however, absolutely true that nonverbal
communication can make or break your message.
Here are some types of nonverbal communication and the effects they can have on the
success of your communication:
Facial expressions: Your teenage cousin we referred to at the beginning of this
section might have told you he was happy, but his apathetic facial expression may
have communicated different information. Facial expressions—happy, sad, angry
—help you convey your message. Be aware of your facial expression when you
talk and particularly when you listen, which is when it’s easy to forget.
Gestures: When you speak, a gesture can make your message stronger. Pointing
out something you want your listener to look at more closely is an example of
nonverbal communication that makes your message understood. Motioning
warmly toward a coworker who deserves special recognition, making a fist to
show frustration or anger, such gestures help further engage your audience when
you speak.
Proximity: How close you are to your audience when you speak sends a
nonverbal message. If your size is imposing and you leave a very small distance
between you and your listener, it’s likely your nonverbal communication will be a
bit threatening. On the other hand, giving someone too much space is an awkward
nonverbal communication that might confuse your listener.
Touch: Shaking an audience member’s hand, putting your hand on his shoulder:
these are nonverbal cues that can affect the success of your message. Touch
communicates affection, but it also communicates power. You can think about
what kind of messages a job applicant may send through a weak handshake
versus a firm one after having a job interview.
Eye contact: Making and maintaining eye contact with an audience when you’re
verbally communicating or listening communicates to the other party that you’re
interested and engaged in the conversation. Good eye contact often conveys the
trait of honesty to the other party.
Appearance: Your clothing, hair, and jewelry are also a part of nonverbal
communication. If you put a dachshund pin on your lapel each morning (because
you have a pet dachshund), that says something about you as a person. Similarly,
the quality and condition of your clothing, how it fits, if it’s appropriate for the
season—all of these things speak nonverbally about you as a communicator.
Nonverbal communication reveals a lot about you as a communicator and how you
relate to other people. It pays to be aware of the elements of your nonverbal
communication so you can maximize the impact of your message.
PRACTICE QUESTIONS