Name: Phoebe Myka S.
Lorico
Section: HUMSS101-B
Oral Communication
Why is emotional independence a must for an individual?
Feelings are like a roller coaster ride. It gets high and it gets low. I used to think that relying and
depending on someone or something will make me feel, ease. And I'll grow and develop better if
that's the case. I really used to think of it, and settling in that circumstance will be helpful. But
based on my experience, it will not. Letting go and walking away from things that will not bring
you good, the state of feeling lonely, being alone, and leaving your comfort zone could be seen
as a sign of weakness and will cause big wrath. People, do you agree with it? Because, if I am
the one being asked, I do not. Come to think of reality, not everyone we are with will stay until
the end, and it's not just that now they give time and care, they will consistently show it and give
it to us.
There are so many instances that we are longing for something, or someone. Like we need life
and love advice such as: decision making, adulting life, worrying what the future holds, health
advice, personal and private matters, relationship advice, and when we are in our darkest times.
Now, what about you suddenly needed it and the people you thought you could count on were
not there? Especially the one you always run into? Can you pass it through? Who will be the one
who will have a hard time? Who will be the one who will not feel better because they are used to
depending, wherein, it's fine, but most of the time we can't and should not, cause we are not
everyone's responsibility. Our fellow man is also only a human, they also get tired and also face
silent battles too, and sometimes, there are times that people don't have a social battery to engage
in conversation. This is also where small conflicts, thinking, and doubts come in, "they are so
unfair, do they still love me? Do they still care about me?" And those thoughts are not good. Is it
right to blame other people when they are not available for you? What if they are doing
something more important? Those thoughts are unhealthy, because each of you or should I say
us? Goes through things that nobody knows about.
That is why emotional independence is extremely important, because we are not the
responsibility of others. It’s not always their responsibility to mend or fix us. The act and having
a capability that your inner resilience lets you know you can meet and solve any difficulties you
face is a heroic manner. It will help you not to feel any heavy feelings if you face something bad.
Seeing and knowing that yourselves can carry your own burdens, build up a greater
understanding, can balance your positive and negative thinking, being able to create and find
your own happiness without someone/something, self-validations and self-confidence, and lastly
not having a hard time to cope up in difficult situations is really a harmonious thing. Imagine
yourselves holding this kind of strong power is a very bright thing. You guys can be the happiest
version of you, and be anyone's role model. Saying this in front of many people as well as
sharing my experience, and telling that I am like this as a person leaves me with many
realizations. We may not have the same stances and perspectives but I surely think this could
really be an eye-opener to everyone.
Surely, it’s not that easy to deal with, it feels empty sometimes, but, it’s all about how you deal
with it and how you see a good in it. We all get hurt and we also hurt one another. But this
should not be a hindrance for you to become better. Remember that at the end of the day, you
only have yourselves and you are the only one who can answer all the questions you have. It is
beyond doubt that change is scary, but so is staying the same. Enough on depending, it's time for
you to flourish and unleash every piece of yourself. To end, I was always letting someone down
so I decided, it would not be me anymore, hoping you people choose and do the same. Thank
you!
