Theories of Gender and Power Differences: A Discussion: Faculty of Languages and Linguistics University of Malaya
Theories of Gender and Power Differences: A Discussion: Faculty of Languages and Linguistics University of Malaya
DIFFERENCES: A DISCUSSION
Abstract
many circumstances, women and men have access to the same set of
linguistic and conversational devices, and tend to use them differently
but for the same purposes. Apparent differences in usage reflect differ
ences in status and in goals.
Introduction
Models of how conversation works aJe being continually developed and re
fined and feminist research has contribuled important insights to this field of
knowledge. Work in this area has provided useful overviews and critiques of
mainstream linguistics. Many of the assumptions made by non-feminist re
search into gendered language use have been questioned by feminists working
in this area. They have pointed out the androcentrism behind the aspects of
language use selected for investigation, the groups whose language use was
investigated, the methods of data collection used, and the explanation pro
posed for the differences found (see Coates and Cameron, 1989· 13-26). The
question raised in the work of Coates and Cameron and other feminist lin
guists, concerning the assumptions which have been made in linguistics, are
potentially a great contribution to the variety of research wilhin the field.
The different conversational styles adopted by the males and females in their
interaction with one another seem to have been largely ignored in communi
cation research. Work by feminist researchers dealing with issues on gender
differences began to appear in the mid-seventies. For instance in 1975, Kramer
called for more research on sex-preferential differences in language use. Kramer
states that there is a need to consider not only the possibility of differences in
grammatical, phonological, and semantic aspects, but also possible differ
ences in the verbal skills, instrumental use of language, and the relationship of
non-verbal uses to verbal behaviour. According to Kramer (1975 43),
Kramer's questions are ones that have interested feminist sociolinguists and
several attempts have also been made to answer these questions.
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What is Gender?
The term gender is referred to as "a culturally shaped group of attributes given
to the female or to the male" (Humm, 1989' 64). According to Humm, the
'cultural shaping' is an on going, lifelong process which means that basically
gellder is unstable and multiple or 'non-unitary' It takes place primarily through
different discourses such as the discourses of male superiority, and of gender
equity It is considered a changing product of a given context (e.g. public
discussion), and as playing a role in constituting the social practices of that
context.
Doing Gender
From binh, one gender or the other is known by dint of our genital organs and
from then on we enact this gender following role models and how we are
expected to behave. It is not a case of simply being male or female: we do
gender through gendered activity including everything we utter and the ways
we are trained to interact with others.
In the context of a hierarchical society that dictates male dominance and
female subordination, regardless of our individual intentions, the way we do
gender in interaction are specific, intricate and for the most part, 'invisible'
(Uchida, 1992; West and Zimmerman, 1987). W hen men and women speak
they are left with the net result of the effects of this hierarchy often without
knowing why - without knowing that they have been using pattens of com
munications that not only reflect but also serve to constitute patterns of domi
nation and subordination.
In the last 20 years, feminist sociolinguistic research has typically been con
cemed with whether, and how, women and men use language differently, and
whether these differences are symptomatic of women's subordinate social
status, or contribute to their subordination, or are merely markers of gender
difference, and are the result of different sub-cultural norms rather than asym
metrical power relations.
Linguist interested in how power is achieved and maintained through
discourse, and in evaluating and re-valuing women's conversational style, have
focused on certain features of conversation, and the differences in the use of
these features by men and women. Among the most interesting studied fea
tures are the following:
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The theories of gender and power differences include deficit, dominance, and
sub-cultural differences as proposed by researches in the field of language
and gender.
According tn Robin Lakoff, the style of language which was typically
used by women "submerges a women's personal identity, by denying her the
means to express herself strongly and encouraging expressions that suggest
triviality in subject matter and uncertainty about it" (Lakoff, 1975: 7). The
features that were characteristic of women's speech syle, and thus denied
women 'the means to express [themselves] strongly' and instead make them
sound 'trivial' and 'uncertain' were as follows.
Lakoff was working on the principle that women's speech patterns are
= than men's, in that they confirm women's subordinate social status and
prevent women from being treated as equals. The deficit model accepts an
androcentric view of the world, holding men's conversational style as the
norm, and women's departure from it as a lack. In some ways, however, it
overlaps with bOlh 'dominance' and 'sub-cultural' models. It shares with the
'dominance' model the idea that women's speech style reproduces their lower
social status. However, in contrast with the 'dominance' model, and in com
mon with 'sub-cultural' model, it suggests that women's speech style is a
result of their gendered up-bringing, that is a function of feminitys, rather than
a consequence of asymmetrical power relations in every mixed-sex conversa
tion,
Although Lakoff's work was welcomed by feminists when it first ap
peared, her model of conversational differences has been criticised on several
grounds, and some of the criticisms will be discussed here because they indi
cate some of the important methodological developments of the last eighteen
years.
First, Lakoff stands in danger of making a circular argument, whereby
Ihe forms identified as typical of women's language are considered 'weak'
forms because they are used by women, and not because of any linguistic
criteria of whal 'weak' forms might be. The study by William O'Barr and
Bowman Atkins (1980) of the speech of witnesses in Carolina court cases
investigated whether gender and weakness or lack of power should be conflated
in this way. They revealed that many of the features that Lakoff had associ
ated with women's speech such as hesitation, hedging, and other indications
of self-doubt, were typical of insecure speakers or powerless speakers of
either sex. The features which Lakoff had associated with women's language
(hedging, hesitation) also occurred in the speech of inexperienced witnesses
(male and female) in court cases, while more experienced witnesses (female
and male) used these features less. Further studies that pursued the issue of
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derstand you, go on' For men, Maltz and Borker theorise, the same markers
mean I agree with you' As a result. in mixed-sex conversations. women
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wonder why men appear not to be listening to them, and men wonder why
women indicate they agree so often in their role of listener, and then perhaps
disagree with them later. The explanation offered for this pragmatic diver
gence is once again that we learn crucial aspects of conversational compe
tence in single-sex peer groups, and male and female peer groups have differ
ent conversational norms.
Other areas of cross-sex misunderstandings according to Maltz and
Borker are the meaning of questions, the rules for linking utterances to the
ones made by previous speakers, the significance of displays of verbal ag
gressiveness, the norms of topic shift, and attitudes towards advice giving. In
all these areas, Maltz and Borker suggest that women and men have different
expectations. One further example, from Coates' work, is the use of overlap
ping speech. She suggests that whereas women listeners overlap the speaker
to indicate support for the speaker's contribution, men may interpret overlap
as competition for the floor (Coates, 1994).
The 'sub-cultural' approach, however, has been criticised for its ten
dency to side-step the issue of power. Women's lesser social status is ignored
as a cause for the development of different peer group norms. The 'differ
ence' approach also ignores the effect of the different speech styles in mixed
conversation in both the public and private domains - that a verbally combat
ive style will dominate a conversational supportive style.
Achi Uchida has produced a valuable critique of the 'sub-cultural' ap
proach (Uchida, 1992). She faults it for being simplistic in its assumption that
women and men belong to different cultures, and for its distinction between
'culture' and 'power' She identifies as a weakness the assumption that "the
same-sex ruled will directly be carried over to mixed-sex interaction" (1992:
555). She points out that children are not normally segregated from members
of the other sex, however much time they spend in single-sex peer groups,
and thus that the 'cross-cultural' analogy is false, since the basis of cross
cultural miscommunication is explained in terms of lack of exposure to another's
culture (Ibid.: 556). She also criticises the difference approach because. she
argues, by ignoring the dimension of power, the difference approach has to
assume that parties on both sides will have an equal investment in adapting
their conversation styles to accommodate their interlocutor. This is clearly not
the case. It is women who are recommended to adapt their speech styles to
improve their relationships with their male counterparts as depicted, for ex
ample, in Tannen's You Just Don't Understand (1991) which targets women.
Although all the models have their critics, they have all contributed to
wards improving aUf understanding of how conversation works, forms of
gender difference. the maintenance of these differences, and the value set on
different styles by society The deficit, dominance and sub-cultural models
are not necessarily mutually exclusive. The concepts of 'deficit' and 'differ-
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ence' can only emerge as a result of the patriarchal power explicitly recognised
in the 'dominance' theory, since it is a patriarchy which creates and maintains
gender differences at all levels. There seems to be general agreement amongst
many linguists working in this area that none of these theories offers a totally
satisfactory explanation, either singly or in combination, of gender differences
in conversational styles. One aspect of difference theory that has been criticised
is that women and men are frequently implicity regarded as internally homog
enous groups. Differences between individual women, and the differences
between individual men, are not taken into account often enough. Neither is
sufficient account taken of other social formations, such as ethnicity, class,
and sexuality, which affect the power dynamics of interactions. Furthermore,
styles which are 'normal' for groups of white, middle class, well-educated,
women and men, for example, may be very unusual for other social groups,
and thus generalisations made on the basis of the behaviour of one group of
people may be totally invalid.
Coates (1986: 161) asserts the importance of both the difference and the
dominance explanations of the differences observed in women's and men's
conversational styles. She suggests that to explain patterns of mixed-sex in
leraction, a model needs to recognise patriarchal power at work. However,
she is dissatisfied with attempts to explain women's behaviour in Single-sex
interaction as a function of their subordinate social status. In the context of
all-women groups, Coates argued that a model of sub-cultural difference is
necessary She contends that under these conditions, women's language has
features which are identifiable as a style, distinct from the style used b y men
in the single-six interaction. She states that:
men's talk.
Coates claims that it is possible to talk of 'women's style' and 'men's style' In
the context of single-sex groups, Women's speech behaviour and men's speech
behaviour are characterised by different linguistic features. Women's speech
in single-sex groups has a relatively high frequency of linguistic features that
are supportive of other group members, and minimise conflict. Men's speech
in single-sex groups has a relatively high frequency of features which estab-
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lish hierarchies within the group, are information-oriented rather than socially
oriented, and can be described as competitive in function.
Coates' position on this issue has shifted from her early gender and
language work. In her 1986 edition of Women, Men Gnd Language, she sub
scribes to the model of sub-cultural differences based primarily on different
gender traits being encouraged in children. "It is surely desirable that, as speak
ers, we all have access to as wide a range of styles as possible. The ideal,
androgynous speaker would be able to switch from assel1iveness to tentative·
ness as circumstances required, and would be as good at listening as speak
ing," (Coates, 1986: preface). This suggests that differences between male
and female speakers are just a matter of stylistic choice. Only a slight
acknowledgement is made in this preface to the relative positions of women
and men in the social hierarchy. "Linguistic differences are merely a rellection
of social differences. And as long as society views men and women as differ
ent and - unequal - then differences in the language of men and women will
persist," (Coates, Ibid).
Coates has recently changed her stand, on the following: 1) the extent to
which power is a variable in style of speech; 2) the extent to which dominance
is achieved through speech styles; and 3) the extent to which the inequality is
produced and maintained in language use, rather than language use merely
rellecting social inequality. The 1986 edition of Coates' Women, Men and
Language reads, "... while not directly responsible for their underachievement,
the way girls use language is a contributory factor to their disadvantaged
position," (Coates, 1986: 160). The 1993 revision, however, reads "[tJhe dif
ferential usage of interactional resources by teachers, girls and boys inside the
classroom is a key element in sustaining male dominance," (Coates, 1993:
202). Coates' recent work reveals a conviction that gender differences in
language use are an important factor in producing gender-related inequalities.
distinction to describe the way certain linguistic forms function. The use of
the positive term co-operative to describe features of discussions is preferred
by linguists adopting the 'difference' rather than the 'dominance' explanation
for gender differences in conversation. The same features have previously
been described as 'tentative' and 'powerless', because of their association
with the speech of women rather than because of the inherent linguistic func
tions. The sub-cultural approach aims to move away from androcentric evalu
ations of the speech features associated with women, and thus the term co
operative indicates the social value of forms previously described as 'unas
sertive' .
Conclusion
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