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Esther Perel
Esther Perel (born 1958) is a Belgian psychotherapist of
Polish-Jewish descent who has explored the tension between
Esther Perel
the need for security (love, belonging and closeness) and the
need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure and distance) in
human relationships.[1]
Perel promoted the concept of Erotic Intelligence in her book
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (2006),
which has been translated into 24 languages.[2] After
publishing the book, she became an international advisor on Born 1958 (age 61–62)
sex and relationships.[3] She gave a TED talk in February 2013 Antwerp, Belgium
entitled The secret to desire in a long-term relationship,[4] and
another in March 2015 entitled Rethinking infidelity ... a talk Nationality Belgian
for anyone who has ever loved.[5] Alma mater Hebrew University
of Jerusalem
Perel is the host of the podcast Where Should We Begin?,
which is based inside her therapist's office as she sees Known for concept Erotic
anonymous couples in search of insight into topics such as intelligence and
infidelity, sexlessness and grief. book (2006)
Spouse(s) Jack Saul
In 2016, Perel was added to Oprah Winfrey's Supersoul 100 list
of visionaries and influential leaders. Scientific career
Fields Psychotherapy
Institutions New York
Contents University
Professional career Columbia
University
Personal life
Website estherperel.com (h
Podcasts
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Recognition
References
Sources
External links
Professional career
Perel is Jewish, the daughter of two Polish-born Holocaust survivors. She was raised in Antwerp
and attended the Hebrew University of Jerusalem in Israel.[6][7] She grew up amongst Holocaust
survivors in Antwerp, Belgium and noted two groups around her: "those who didn't die, and those
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who came back to life". Her observation was that "those who didn't die were people who lived
tethered to the ground, afraid, untrusting. The world was dangerous, and pleasure was not an
option. You cannot play, take risks, or be creative when you don't have a minimum of safety,
because you need a level of unself-consciousness to be able to experience excitement and pleasure.
Those who came back to life were those who understood eroticism as an antidote to death."[8]
Perel subsequently trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy before finding a professional home in
family systems theory. She initially worked as a cross-cultural psychotherapist with couples and
families.
Perel has worked as an actress and has run a clothing boutique
in Antwerp.[7]
Personal life
Perel is married to Jack Saul, Assistant Professor of Clinical
Population and Family Health at Columbia University
Mailman School of Public Health, with whom she has two
sons.[9]
Podcasts
Perel is the host of two podcasts: Where Should We Begin? and
How's Work? Perel in Boston in 2017
Where Should We Begin? brings the listeners inside
Perel's therapist's office as she sees anonymous couples in search of insight on everything
from infidelity to sexlessness to grief. The unique format combines live recordings of the
therapy session, with Perel's reflections on what she heard, and what techniques she tried.
[10][11] The New York Times writes: "it feels more like an unraveling mystery story than a
relationship advice show."[12] The couples include both heterosexual and same-sex couples.
The first episode aired on Audible in May 2017, and became publicly available on iTunes on
October 9, 2017.[13] Three seasons have been released as of December 2019. Where Should
We Begin? received a 2018 Gracie Award.[14]
How's Work? is Perel's second podcast. It follows a format similar to the couples therapy
session in Where Should We Begin? — but this time the couple seeking Perel's advice are
cofounders or colleagues, navigating the challenges that play out in work relationships[15][16].
HuffPost describes each episode as a "one-time therapy session between Perel and various
co-founders, members of family businesses and partners with a thriving operation but
deteriorating relations on the job."[17] As described in one review: "The podcast aims to shine
light on the things that form us as individuals and how those things relate to life in the
workplace. Because, honestly, a lot of people hold their careers and workplace relationships as
dearly and tightly as they do their romantic relationships."[18] How's Work? is created by Gimlet
Media, and available exclusively on Spotify[19]. The show first aired in November 2019[20].
Publications
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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (2006)
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (2017)
Recognition
2016: Named to Oprah Winfrey's Supersoul 100 list of visionaries and influential leaders.[21]
References
1. Perel, Esther. "Erotic Intelligence: Reconciling Sensuality and Domesticity" (https://web.archive.
org/web/20141021042018/http://www.estherperel.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/networker_
perel.pdf) (PDF). The Psychotherapy Networker, May/Jun 2003. Archived from the original (htt
p://www.estherperel.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/networker_perel.pdf) (PDF) on 21
October 2014. Retrieved 20 July 2014.
2. Perel, Esther (2006). Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Harper.
ISBN 978-0060753634.
3. "Unorthodox advice for rescuing a marriage" (https://www.economist.com/news/books-and-arts
/21730135-eli-finkel-counsels-lowering-expectations-hard-times-esther-perel-advises-grapplin
g). The Economist. 12 October 2017.
4. Perel, Esther. "The secret to desire in a long-term relationship" (http://www.ted.com/talks/esther
_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship). TEDSalon NY2013. TED.
Retrieved 22 January 2016.
5. Perel, Esther. "Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved" (http://www.ted.co
m/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved). TED
2015. TED. Retrieved 27 August 2015.
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7. [2] (https://www.nytimes.com/2014/01/26/fashion/Sex-Esther-Perel-Couples-Therapy.html?_r=
0) nytimes.com
8. A-Fest by Mindvalley (2017-11-26), In Search Of Erotic Intelligence | Esther Perel (https://www.
youtube.com/watch?v=tO0xgj3kEuI), retrieved 2018-06-24
9. Dominus, Susan. "The Sexual Healer: The Couples Therapy Expert Esther Perel Takes On Sex
and Sexuality" (https://www.nytimes.com/2014/01/26/fashion/Sex-Esther-Perel-Couples-Therap
y.html). Fashion & Style. New York Times. Retrieved 20 July 2014.
10. Sawyer, Miranda (Oct 29, 2017). "The Week in Radio Podcasts: Where Should We Begin" (http
s://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2017/oct/29/the-week-in-radio-podcasts-where-should-w
e-being-5-live-daily-womans-hour). The Guardian (UK). Retrieved Dec 31, 2018.
11. Schwartz, Alexandra (May 31, 2017). "Esther Perel Lets Us Listen in On Couple's Secrets" (htt
ps://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/esther-perel-lets-us-listen-in-on-couples-sec
rets). The New Yorker. Retrieved Dec 31, 2018.
12. Hess, Amanda (Aug 1, 2017). "The Art of the Taboo Podcast Interview" (https://www.nytimes.c
om/2017/08/01/arts/the-art-of-the-taboo-podcast-interview.html). The New York Times.
Retrieved Dec 31, 2018.
13. "Where Should We Begin? Podcast - on iTunes" (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/where-sh
ould-we-begin-with-esther-perel/id1237931798?mt=2). Retrieved Dec 31, 2018.
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Dec 31, 2018.
15. "How's Work Podcast" (https://howswork.estherperel.com/about). EstherPerel.com.
16. MacLellan, Lila (Oct 30, 2019). "Esther Perel, renowned couples therapist, is starting a podcast
about work" (https://qz.com/work/1738391/couples-therapist-esther-perel-has-a-new-podcast-h
ows-work/). Quartz. Retrieved Jan 26, 2020.
17. Torres, Monica (Nov 11, 2019). "For Esther Perel, Work Is Personal ― And The Topic Of Her
Brand-New Podcast" (https://www.huffpost.com/entry/esther-perel-hows-work-podcast-intervie
w_l_5dc43ea4e4b03ddc02f0ed8c). HuffPost. Retrieved Jan 26, 2020.
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t-review/). Podcast Maniac. December 3, 2019. Retrieved Jan 26, 2020.
19. "How's Work? with Esther Perel" (https://gimletmedia.com/shows/hows-work). Gimlet.
Retrieved 2020-01-26.
20. "How's Work? with Esther Perel - Esther Perel Global Media & Gimlet" (https://open.spotify.com
/show/0P13JasQfVZ1RiDCMZMYNU). Spotify. Retrieved 2020-01-26.
21. "Meet the SuperSoul100: The World's Biggest Trailblazers in One Room" (http://www.oprah.co
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Retrieved 5 Jul 2018.
Sources
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intimacy_b_2949580.html)
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External links
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Esther Perel (https://www.ted.com/speakers/esther_perel) at TED
"The secret to desire in a long-term relationship" (TEDSalon NY2013) (http://www.ted.com/t
alks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship)
"Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved" (TED 2015) (http://www.ted.c
om/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved)
Articles at Huffington Post (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/esther-perel/)
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