Colegio de San Juan de Letran – Calamba
Calamba City
Religious Education Department
First Semester, AY 2019-2020
Final Paper in RELED 063
Contemporary Issues in Christian Marriage
Submitted to: Ms. Alicia M. Javier
Professor
Date: December 03, 2019
Submitted by: Group 1 (Faith) – 2BSA-1
NAMES CONTRIBUTION
1. Balagat, Rikki Shaine N. Municipal Registrar or Representative
2. Bautista, Janine Bernadette C. Married Couple (6 to 10 years)
3. Castro, Erika Mae C. Municipal Registrar or Representative
4. Gonzales, Keith P. Married Couple (21 to 40 years)
5. Luyun, Kristin Maye M. Married Couple (21 to 40 years)
6. Pondevida, Genevieve M. Parish Priest or Church
7. Punzalan, Ma. Angel F. Married Couple (11 to 20 years)
8. Visaya, Alyssa Fatima A. Married Couple (1 to 5 years)
A. Parish Priest/Assistant Parish Priest/Parish Secretary
1. Name of Parish Church
San Antonio de Padua Parish Church
2. Address of Parish Church
Lopez Avenue Brgy. Batong Malake, Los Baños, Laguna
3. Name of Parish Patron Saint
Saint Anthony of Padua
4. Name of Parish Secretary
Edith Monzon Silva – Community Relation Officer of the Parish
5. Requirement for Marriage
The legal requirement of the parish:
• Marrying parties should be a male and a female, at least 18 years old.
• If you or your partner is 25 years old or below, parental consent or advice
is needed.
• You and your partner must not be related by blood (up to 4th degree) and
should be free of legal impediments, such as being in a previous marriage
(unless annulled, widowed, or divorced).
After confirming that both of you are qualified to get married, proceed to the next
requirements:
a) Marriage license
The document must be valid and not expired. If you previously
married in a civil wedding, you must submit a registered marriage contract.
b) Baptismal and confirmation certificates (6 months validity)
Because marriage is one of the church sacraments, you and your
partner must submit proof that you have previously received the sacrament
of baptism. The copies that you’ll submit must be new and with an
annotation “For marriage purposes only.” Depending on the church, you
may be required to submit these upon application or 2 – 3 months before
your wedding date.
c) Latest Copy of PSA birth certificate and Certificate of No Record of
Marriage (CENOMAR)
The parish accept birth certificates as long as they are still within 6
months from the date of issuance.
d) Canonical interview
Request to the church coordinator to have the interview scheduled 1
to 2 months before your wedding. The parish will also send you a list of
questions before the interview to give you more time to prepare. During the
interview, the priest will explore your decision to get married by asking
questions about your family background, how long you have known each
other, and so forth.
e) Pre-Cana seminar
Because marriage is a lifelong commitment, this seminar is provided
to help couples learn more about each other, resolve any issues prior to
getting married, and gain insights about their future life together.
f) Marriage Banns
These are written wedding announcements that will be posted on the
bulletin boards of the couple’s respective parishes.
g) List of principal sponsors and entourage members
The copy of the wedding invitation along with the official list of
entourage members should be submitted to the parish church a week before
your wedding date. The parish do not have maximum number of principal
sponsors.
h) Wedding or marriage permit
Also known as Certificate of Freedom to Marry, this document may
only be required for those who are based abroad. While CENOMAR is
required before you can obtain a marriage license, the Certificate of
Freedom to Marry is a requirement of the church itself.
i) Confession
The parish require couples to attend confession days before the
wedding. Through this event, they will be forgiven of their sins and receive
the most out of the sacrament.
6. Procedures for Marriage Banns
After the canonical interview, the couples will be asked to submit copy of their ID
and 2 copies of their 2x2 picture. The parish will then prepare a letter requesting the
marriage banns. The couple. The banns will be posted in the parish for three
consecutive weeks, which explains why you need to complete the wedding
requirements at least a month before the event. Afterward, you can now retrieve the
letter from the parish office with a reply indicating that no impediments exist and that
the wedding can push through.
7. Marriage Fee and What It Includes
The table below summarizes the Marriage fees incorporated in San Antonio de
Padua Parish Church
Expenses Cost
Wedding documents (Marriage license,
CENOMAR, Birth certificate, P3000.00
Baptismal, etc.)
Church fees (Priest, carpet, electricity,
P3000.00
choir, seminar)
Other church services Donation only, no compulsory amount
8. Requirement for Mixed Marriage
To obtain this document, the non-Catholic bride or groom must submit Letter of
Approval from the Pastor of the non-Catholic sect that not only approves the marriage
but also declares the person has never been married before. For foreigners, Legal
Capacity to be Married issued by the embassy and Dispensation of Approval from the
Parish Priest where the person currently resides is required.
9. Requirement for Mass Wedding
a.) Marriage license
b.) Mass
Nuptial Mass includes a gospel, homily, consecration, and communion,
with the selections of readings and psalms determining how long the Mass will be.
c.) Wedding vows
The exchange of rings follows the exchange of vows. The best man, who
usually has both rings, gives the bride's ring to the priest, who blesses it and gives
it to the bridegroom, who places it on the bride's finger.
d.) Unity candle or other unity accessory
A tradition that started in Christian wedding ceremonies, the unity candle is
a ritual now performed by people of many faiths.
e.) Final Payment of Marriage fees
10. Seminar for Marriage – Its Duration and Topics
The couple should attend a seminar every 2nd Saturday of the month, 8am-12nn
(once only). They are allowed to attend the seminar in another parish; Discovery or
Catholic Engaged Encounter are also accredited seminars provided a certificate of
attendance must be submitted. Topics may include parenting, sexuality, family
planning, among others.
11. Reasons for Postponement or Delay of One’s Marriage
The following are the probable reasons for postponement or delay of marriage often
encountered by San Antonio de Padua Parish Church:
• The Couple was not able to comply with the canonical and legal
requirements for marriage.
• The date preferred by the couples has already prior reservation by other
couples.
• There have been legal impediments in either one of the couples, like one of
them was already marriage before.
• There are persons opposing the marriage.
• One of the couple sudden had a change of mind about being married.
12. Ask the Person’s Signature
B. Municipal Registrar or Representative
1. Name of municipality
City Hall of Cabuyao
2. Address of municipality
Rosario Village Sala City of Cabuyao, Laguna
3. Name of Mayor/Vice Mayor/Municipal Registrar
a.) Hon. Atty. Rommel A. Gecolea - Mayor
b.) Hon. Leif Laiglon Opiña - Vice Mayor
c.) Marissa Salazar - Local Civil Registrar
4. Requirement for Marriage License Application
a.) PSA Birth Certificate.
b.) PSA Cenomar
c.) Community Tax Certificate Cedula
5. Procedures for Civil Wedding
• Step 1: Apply for your marriage license
• Step 2: Pay the necessary fees
• Step 3: Pick a date for your wedding
• Step 4: Inform and invite your two witnesses
6. Marriage Fee and what it includes
• The marriage fee cost Php 300.00
7. Requirement for Marriage with different nationality
a.) Certificate of Legal Capacity to Marry issued by the respective embassy here
in the Philippines. Although it may vary depending on your foreign spouse’s
country of origin, here are the following basic requirements for the Certificate
of Legal Capacity to Marry.
b.) Certificate of No Impediment (CNI) to be issued after booking an
appointment and taking an oath in the embassy.
c.) Original copy or certified true copy of birth certificate.
d.) Original copy or certified true copy of divorce decree absolute or
death certificate of deceased spouse, if applicable.
e.) A Moral Character Reference, which takes the form of a letter or certificate
from a person of authority, a social worker, health or education officer, or a
church minister who has direct personal knowledge of the prospective foreign
spouse’s character.
f.) Passport (original and photocopy).
g.) Latest Certificate of No Marriage (CENOMAR) or Certificate of Singleness
(original and photocopy) issued by PSA.
h.) If your foreign spouse is a former Filipino citizen (and a divorcee) or someone
who was previously married to a Filipino, he/she must obtain Judicial
Recognition of the absolute decree of divorce from the country where the
previous marriage was held.
8. Requirements for Mass Wedding
a.) PSA birth certificate
b.) PSA Cenomar
c.) Baptismal
9. Seminar for Marriage – its duration and topics
a.) Its duration is 1 hour
b.) Pre marriage counseling is every Monday 1:00 PM and the topic is Family
Planning
10. Reasons for postponements/delay of one’s marriage
a.) Incomplete requirements
b.) Lack of consent of parents
c.) Bigamos Marriage
11. Ask the person’s signature
C. Married couple for 1 to 5 years (Iya and Rolan Sevilla)
a. Beginning of the seed of their love.
“Nagsimula ‘to sa trabaho naming, lagi kaming minamatch ng mga boss
naming, kasi bagay daw kami.”
b. Important events in their family which strengthened their bond of love.
“Noong kinasal kami.”
c. Events in their family which weakened their bond of love.
“Wala kami maisip. Wala kami pinagawayan na matindi mula pa nung bf
gf. Kasi number 1 rule namin nung umpisa pa lang kami ay “Bago mo gawin, isipin
mo muna paano kung ako ang gumawa non, matutuwa ka ba? Kung hindi, bakit
mo gagawin?” Feeling ko yan ang dahilan din bakit kami maayos na dalawa eh
hanggang di namin nalilimutan yan prinsipyo na yan.”
d. Events in their family which sustained their bond of love up to the present.
“Pinanganak unang baby namin, si Sebseb.”
e. Your present status/conditions as a family.
“We are happy as a family, adjusting to everyday changes specially now we
have an infant.”
f. Your advice to the young people nowadays who are thinking of getting married in
the future.
“Plan ahead of time, think of all the possible circumstances and be ready,
physically emotionally financially. Prepare for the marriage not for the wedding.
Be loyal, faithful, honest and understanding.”
g. Ask their Signatures
D. Married couple for 6 to 10 years (Ariston and Khristine Pasco Siman)
a. Beginning of the seed of their love.
“When the time I think 2004 nakita ko sya sa kanto ng aming zone. I'm
amaze "oy! Khristine ikaw na ba yan!" I said. "Pwede ba mahingi number mo?"
Classmate ko sya before, elementary pa kami. Then, I text her...”
b. Important events in their family which strengthened their bond of love.
“All events our families get together specifically Christmas and New Year
and most noong nakapag patayo kami nang sarili naming bahay”
c. Events in their family which weakened their bond of love.
“When the times na dumadaan talaga ang kahirapan. Sasabayan ng
karamdaman, but it’s not a reason to abandon our relationship. It is to test our
relationship. Siguro hindi ko naman pinapaabot ng overnight ang argue namin.”
d. Events in their family which sustained their bond of love up to the present.
“Our evidence is our daughter. Pinaka mahalaga sa buhay mag asawa ang
mga anak. And one of the secrets ng isang pamilya to sustain the relationship is
ang pag-uunawaan at walang sekreto sa isa't isa.”
e. Your present status/conditions as a family.
“Happy. Same noong nagstart pa lang kami until now ganun pa din. Buo at
laging positive to achieve our dreams together.”
f. Your advice to the young people nowadays who are thinking of getting married in
the future.
“I think, isa sa advice ko ay pag isipan muna ng 10x or even 100x bago
magpakasal. Para maging masaya, buo at walang pagtalunan sa bandang huli.”
g. Ask their Signatures
E. Married couple for 11 to 20 years (Ptr. Michael C. Punzalan)
a. Beginning of the seed of their love.
“High School classmate’s kami noon, kapatiran korin sya sa simbahan ditto
sa Church Of Christ kaya mas lalo kaming nagka kilala, mabait at masiyahin sya
kaya mas nahulog ako sa kanya pero hindi naging madali ang panliligaw ko sa
kanya dahil narin mahigpit ang parents nya pero pinag pursihigihan ko kaya
pumayag narin ang mga magulang nya, 1997 nung kinasal kami dito sa kapilya ng
Pagsanjan Laguna”
b. Important events in their family which strengthened their bond of love.
“Unang una na siguro bilang Ama ng mga anak namin at asawa nya
talagang iminulat kona ang kabutihan ng Panginoon para mas mapatibay ang
pamilya namin nandoon nayung sama sama mag simba, manalangin at mamasyal
hindi namin inaalis yon lalo sa araw ng linggo.”
c. Events in their family which weakened their bond of love.
“Pag talagang busy na kami hindi na namin masyadong nakakamusta yung
mga bata. at yung pag aaway mag asawa natural naman yun pero mas pinapabuti
naming ayusin kaagad.”
d. Events in their family which sustained their bond of love up to the present.
“Pagka talagang nahihirapan na kaming magka intindihan siguro nag
kakasamaan talaga ng loob pero sinisiguro naman nagging hindi nayon mag
tatagal at talagang ipina panalanin na talaga naming lahat sa Panginoon.”
e. Your present status/conditions as a family.
“Bilang isang Pastor lubos akong nag papasalamat dahil hindi kami
pinabayaan ng Panginoon at patuloy parin ang pag suporta nya sa pamilya na
meron kami ngayon.”
f. Your advice to the young people nowadays who are thinking of getting married in
the future.
“Para sakin okay lang kahit matagalan para mas sure hahaha’’ pero gayon
nga advice kolang sa mga taong gusto ng mag Pamilya, kung ramdam na nila na
pinag kaloob ito ng Panginoon nawa’y I treasure na ito kumbaga, lagi lang
tandaan na ang tamang tao ay ipag kakaloob ng Panginoon sa Tamang Panahon
at huwag mag papadala sa galit tampo o sama ng loob para maging dahilan ng
malalang away.”
g. Ask their Signatures
F. Married couple for 21 to 40 years (Ric and Evelyn Luyun)
a. Beginning of the seed of their love.
“We worked in one company, so we see each other regularly. Once we get
to know each other well, he courted me and the relationship bloomed until became
a couple and married for 21 years of now.”
b. Important events in their family which strengthened their bond of love.
“The important events in our family are the celebration of anniversaries,
birthday and other special occasions in which we celebrate it in a very meaningful
way, so as to keep the love alive always, and of course, going to church every
Sunday together with the whole family.”
c. Events in their family which weakened their bond of love.
“When there are instances that we are not in speaking terms due to busy
schedules, misunderstandings, lack of time and communication.”
d. Events in their family which sustained their bond of love up to the present.
“We have to keep our trust, respect and understand each other in order to
sustained our love. And above all, we ask the Lord our God to be the center of our
relationship.”
e. Your present status/conditions as a family.
“Fortunately, with the guidance of the Lord, we had a good and harmonious
relationship in our family. Thank God for this kind of love and blessings.”
f. Your advice to the young people nowadays who are thinking of getting married in
the future.
“My advice for them, is that they should be very careful enough and think
so many times before getting married. They must know each other well before they
intend to get married because not all, are fortunate enough to have a happy
life/marriage.”
g. Ask their Signatures
REFLECTION PAPER
Balagat, Rikki Shaine N.
My realization in life is that no matter how many trials that the couple face, the good things
or memories will still stand out in their relationship and all the flaws of each person will be
improved because of the learning that they have after the trials that they have encountered. In this
case, I have learned that if you really love the person, you will still love him not only at his best,
but also at his worst. These family that we’ve interviewed showed that the problems that they have
encountered cannot break the relationship or the strong bond that they have and as long as long as
each of them are improving with their weaknesses, their relationship will still remain and they will
become stronger and closer as time goes by. I also want this to happen to me and my future partner
because this will really help in our married life. This will also benefit the children that I will have
in the future. Making decisions about marriage is really important because it will affect my life in
the future and I should ask God if he is really the right one for me and if the relationship can last
a lifetime then make sure that I am really prepared to enter the new stage of life because it is not
easy then I should know the personality and the wholeness of my spouse because if I do that after
marriage, once I saw some things that I could not tolerate to my spouse, it is already too late
because many people will be affected. I have also realized many things and it changed my
perspective about marriage. All the things that I have learned will add up to my plans and
expectations about the life that I will enter in the next seven to ten years. The lessons that I have
learned in this interview are important to me because it somehow changed my perspective on some
things about how I visualize my future married life. I will never forget all the lessons that I have
learned and the realizations that I had. This interview really helped me in determining what I really
want in the future.
Bautista, Janine Bernadette C.
Ang pag-aasawa ay isang mahabang proseso. Marami ang kailangan isaalang-alang bago
pumasok sa pang habang buhay na relasyon. Ayon nga sa kasabihan ng mga matatanda “ang pag-
aasawa ay hindi katulad ng mainit na kanin na kapag isinubo mo at napaso ka ay puwede mong
iluwa.” Ito ay isa sa napakahalagang yugto sa buhay ng isang babae at isang lalaki. Kaya't ito ay
dapat pag-isipang mabuti at paghandaan.
Una na rito ay ang pagpili ng magiging kabiyak. Dapat kilalanin mabuti ang kapareha,
siguraduhin na siya ay may mabuting ugali, karakter, values at higit sa lahat may pananampalataya
sa Diyos. Ang sumunod ay ang paghahanda. Dapat ihanda ang sarili sa buhay na papasukin, sa
pisikal, mental, emosyonal, at espiritwal. Kapag handa na ang bawat isa, maaari na itong sundan
ng paghahanda sa kasal. Isaayos ang mga hinihingi ng simbahan at gobyerno para sa legalidad ng
kasal. Ang kasal ay marapat lamang na paghandaan dahil ito ay isang beses lang mangyari at ito
ang seremonya na magbubuklod sa dalawang taong nagmamahalan. Ito ang simula ng bagong
yugto ng kanilang buhay bilang mag-asawa.
Ang buhay may asawa ay maaaring matagumpay o maaari din naman bigo. Walang
kasiguraduhan sa mga maaaring mangyari. Kaya't napakahalaga na umpisa pa lang ay tama na ang
napiling magiging kabiyak. Tamang tao na makakasama sa habang buhay, sa hirap at ginhawa,
sa sakit man o kalusugan, at mamahalin sa habangbuhay.
Castro, Erika Mae C.
Ang aking natutunan sa aming pakikipanayam ay mayroon talagang pag hahanda hinde
lang ang mga damit na susuotin, pagkain na kakainin sa kasal at iba pa. Ang magkasintahan ay
magdadaan muna sa pag sesermon o panayam tungkol sa “family planning” dahil kung
magpapakasal lang ang isang magkasintahan na walang ideya o plano sa susunod na mangyayare
at ano ang kailangan nilang gawin ay pwedeng magkaroon ng hinde pagkakaintindihan na umabot
sa hiwalayan, dahil ang alam lang naman ng karamihan ay dapat maingat ka sa pag pili sa iyong
magiging asawa, pero kaya matagal ang pag hahanda nito dahil, inihahanda lamang ang mag asawa
sa panibago nilang tatahakin ngunit mayroon pa din na mga magkasintahan na sumusubok kahit
walang kasiguraduhan. Kaya siguro inihahanda ito hinde lang ng magkasintahan pati na din ang
simbahan, munisipyo at pamilya ng dalawang taong ikakasal dahil hinde tayo pwede sumubok ng
sumubok dahil alam na nga natin na walang diborsyo dito sa ating bansa kasi ito ay may basbas
ng ating Panginoon na dapat ang kasal ay hinde lang binabasta basta ng kahit na sino. Kaya ang
daming kailangan na papeles, panayam ng pari sa magkasintahan, at pamilya dahil isa ito sa mga
importante at malaking pagbabago na mangyayare sa buhay natin. Hinde lang pera at panahon ng
pag hahanda sa kasal ang masasayang natin kung hinde ito ipag iigi ang kasal, kung hinde ang
buong buhay natin. Maganda ang dinulot nitong panayam sa aking buhay dahil kaming mga
estudyante ay mararanasan din ito sa susunod na panahon, mabuti ito sa amin sa mga tuntunin ng
pagpili at pag antay sa tamang tao at tamang oras. Hinde man pa sa amin ngayon ang pagkakaroon
ng asawa ngunit maitataglay naman ito naming mga estudyante ang aktibidad na ito, mahalagang
bigyang pansin ang mga detalye sa nangyareng panayam kahit ang mga maliliit na detalye upang
tayo ay magabayan sa ating magiging desisyon.
Gonzales, Keith P.
The things that I have learned from this interview are first, you should accept your partner
wholeheartedly. His/her personality, strengths and weaknesses and even his/her flaws. By doing
this, the relationship of the couple can last longer because you will know your partner well, may
correct if he/she committed something wrong and identify your partner’s mood. I learned that in
the future, I should accept and be more patient with my partner because if we both did not do this,
we will always end up fighting. I would also make sure that if I enter in a relationship, I should
start accepting my partner to prepare for the future. Second, I learned that the length of the getting
to know or courting stage is not that important in determining whether the relationship will last or
not. Although they have experienced some fights and other obstacles that challenged their
relationship, they still managed to stay together not just because they love each other and really
treasure their relationship, but also for the sake of their children.
From this interview, I also learned something about how couples live their lives before and
after marriage, treasure both the good and bad memories, and what to expect when I reach this
certain stage in life. I have also gained new information about their love story since they became
more detailed that time compared to the times. I became more interested with how married couples
live before and end up being together, how they live their lives after getting married and how they
see their future with their “the one”. Moreover, married couples is the most interesting for me
because I can learn something from their experiences such as how they handle their ups and downs,
gain more knowledge about how they manage to continue with their partners and change my
expectations for my future partner and married life from satisfactory to better since what I will
hear from the married couple will surely influence me on how I would view this stage of life. I
have realized that no matter how many trials that the couple face, the good things or memories will
still stand out in their relationship and all the flaws of each person will be improved because of the
learning that they have after the trials that they have encountered. In this case, I have learned that
you really love the person if you still love him not only at his best, but also at his worst. Mr. and
Mrs. Luyun showed that the problems that they have encountered cannot break the relationship or
the strong bond that they have and as long as long as each of them are improving with their
weaknesses, their relationship will still remain and they will become stronger and closer as time
goes by. I also want this to happen to me and my future partner because this will really help in our
married life. This will also benefit the children that I will have in the future.
Moreover, I am the kind of person who wants to feel that I am loved. If he really loves me,
he will still see the goodness in me and will treasure the good memories more than remembering
the bad memories that we will have. In this case, I have learned that you really love the person if
you still love him not only at his best, but also at his worst. I realized many things and it changed
my perspective about marriage. Better expectations for my future and all the things that I have
learned add up to my plans and expectations about the life that I will enter in the next seven to ten
years. Making decisions about marriage is really important because it will affect your life in the
future. I already know this even before but after hearing this from Mr. and Mrs. Luyun, I said to
myself that I should really be careful in choosing who to marry, when to marry, if I am ready or
not, what to expect and other things that are related to marriage. The lessons that I have learned in
this interview are important to me because it somehow changed my perspective on some things
about how I visualize my future married life. It also became special since it came from my partner
parents and they are one of the great couples to look up to and I want my future marriage to be like
them; not totally but almost. I will never forget all the lessons that I have learned and the
realizations that I had.
Luyun, Kristin Maye C.
After interviewing a married couple, I realized the importance of “getting to know” stage
of the couple before they get married. The “kilig” in the relationship is not always there before the
couple learns to grow with each other; it is also not a basis of the love of the couple for each other.
One should learn that what your boyfriend/girlfriend does when you are still together, he/she might
still do it when you are already married. If he/she nurtures you with love and affection and helps
you grow as a person, then that is probably a good sign for you – but if he/she is toxic to you and
does not learn the importance of love and being with you, then it is a sign for you to think again if
you can live in the future with him/her. Other married couples fails their relationship because
probably they have seen the “stop signs” during in their earlier years but still pushed through. One
should also learn that in choosing someone to be your other half, he/she must fear God for when
someone fears God, he/she values other person and everything follows. Not all married life is as
perfect as what we have seen in movies and fairytales. I have learned that one should not rely on
their partner that much because he/she was supposed to be a partner and better half, meaning half
of you, not completely the whole of you. In preparation for the married life, one should learn to
think many times before marrying your partner; marry them because you want to build a family a
new life with and not because of money, fame or any other earthly things that can loose anytime
and any moment you are not expecting for.
If ever I will be married in few years time, I can apply everything I have learned in this
paper/interview. My standards in finding my better half strengthen because I learned that married
life is one tough life, you get to control the family for I will be a mother and a wife at the same
time.
Pondevida, Genevieve M.
It has not been a secret that wedding preparations demands a lot of time, money, and effort.
It can be lot of work; hours are spent planning. But upon conduct this interview, I’ve realized that
although most of the focus during an engagement period is spent preparing for “the day,” couples
should think beyond that. Beyond the wedding-day details, I believed that they needed to prepare
for something much more important than just the day. They must prepare for their marriage —
their lifetime together. Although the wedding day is special, the entire event is over in a few short
hours. Then the marriage covenant that was made will be lived out as a result of that special day.
It’s far too easy to get so engulfed in wedding details that you lose sight of the lifetime you will
be spending together. And for the couples to better prepare for this lifelong event, they should of
course, have a clear understanding of God’s purpose of marriage. That is why I think that it was
really essential for them to attend the Pre cana seminar, that they must take it more than just for
attendance but for them to be fully equipped towards their new and everlasting journey as partners.
Another preparation that couples should not forget is to set aside time for their selves to be together
before they eventually become husband and wife. Although wedding planning can be fun, it is
better if they would take time as a couple to stay connected. I believe it’s essential that they share
many experiences together in order to know if this is really the person they desire to spend the rest
of their life with. And lastly, after knowing the hardships in preparing for marriage, I think one of
the key components of creating a healthy marriage is having the support of those close to
you. Ultimately, as a person, we get to decide who we spend the rest of our lives with, but it’s
helpful to have a strong community of believers standing by us.
Punzalan, Ma. Angel F.
Para saakin mabilis lang makahanap ng gusto mo maging asawa pero hindi madaling
makahanap ng Matinong asawa o asawang alam mong magiging katuwang mo sa buhay sa hirap
man nga o sa ginhawa, naintindihan korin base san na interview ko si Pastor Michael na okay lang
kahit matagalan ang pag aasawa kase nandon narin yung kikilalanin mo yung taong kinakasama
mo o kalaguyo mo kung talagang nakikitaan mo na mamahalin ka at magiging pamilya mo
hangang dulo.
Base narin sa estado ng pamilya ko mas naliliwanagan ako na hindi talaga madaling bumuo
ng isang pamilya una naron ung laging pag aaway at hindi masyadong pagkakaintindihan kaya
nagiging rason ng matinding tampuhan. Lahat naman tayo may ideal guy siguro saakin ipag sasa
Diyos kona kung sino ba talaga yung taong ilalaan nya sakin pero gayon paman pipiliin ko parin
yung taong talagang tatangapin ako ang ugali ko pati narin ang pamilya ko.
Sisiguruhin kong wala akong itatago sa kaniya para hindi narin sya mahirapang intindihin
at makilala ako kasi naniniwala rin ako na kung makikilala niya ako sa kung ano at sino tatalaga
ako at ang pamilya ko mas magiging madali yung relasyon naming dalawa naniniwala parin ako
na Mabuti ang Diyos at ipag kakaloob nya ang tamang tao para saakin sa itinakda niyang panahon.
Visaya, Alyssa Fatima A.
Napakadaling sabihin, pagplanuhan, at isipin ang salitang pagpapakasal ngunit, isa ito sa
pinakamahirap na biyayang dapat na panindigan. Hindi biro ang pagpapakasal dahil maraming
proseso ang dapat isaalang alang at ayusin upang magkaroon ng matiwasay na pagdiriwang.
Marahil, oo, sa iba, ang pagpapakasal ay wala lamang, isang handaan, salu-salo at kung ano pa
man. Pero, sa aming asignaturang RELED, natutunan ko na ang kasal ay biyayang bigay ng Poong
Maykapal. Isa itong blessing sa bawat isa, kumbaga, na dapat natin bigyan pansin at pahalagahan
sa buong makakaya.
Natutunan ko sa aking nakapanayam na ang pagkakaroon ng panghabambuhay na
makakapares mo sa hirap at ginhawa ay hindi basta basta nakikita lamang. Itinatadhana ito ng
Diyos sa bawat isa, at ibinibigay sa tamang oras. Hindi madali ang paghahanap sa “one true love”,
pero sa tulong ng Diyos, ibibigay niya ang taong magmamahal sa atin panghabambuhay at
magpakailanman. Akin ding natutunan na wala sa tagal, panahon at kung ano pa man ang
pagmamahalan dahil kahit kailan, atin itong nararamdaman. Ngunit, hindi lamang saya at
makukulay na ganap ang isang kasal, isa itong mahabang byahe na punong puno ng iba’t ibang
pagsubok. Dito mararanasan at masusuri ang tiwala at tibay ng relasyon.
Ika nga ng aking nakapanayam, “Prepare for the marriage not for the wedding.” dahil
hindi ito panandaliang okasyon kundi, panghabambuhay na pagsasama ng mag-asawa at ng
mabubuong pamilya. Kung kaya’t isa sa mga pinaka importanteng aspeto ng pagpapakasal ay ang
masuri na paghahanap ng kabiyak at kapareho mo sa hirap at ginhawa na ibibigay ng Panginoon.
