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Autobiography - Volume II
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Chapter One
AGE
I had just submitted my application form for the SSC Examination, when a four feet one inch cat-eyed Da Vinci Kalyani Pal, the Bangla
teacher, declared that I would not be able to take the exam. What was the reason? You are underage, you cannot take the exam at fourteen;
you have to be fifteen. But how was I supposed to acquire a whole year? Disappointed, I returned home and informed everyone that I
wouldnt be able to take the exam that year. Why not? I was underage. After much deliberation Ma said I have heard that many things
cant be done because one is too old for them, you cant join the University or you cant get jobs. Maybe so, but for the SSC the reverse is
true. If you are underage, sit at home and grow old. Come back to take the exam when you are fifteen. Towards dusk, Ma read the Esha
Namaz and read two parts of the special sixth prayer known as the Nafal Namaz as well, bowing her head at the darbar of Allah. She
informed the Almighty, in tears, that her daughter was not being able to take her exams. However, she was sure that if Allah chose, He
could deliver her daughter from this terrible eligibility problem; enable her to not only take the exam but also to pass successfully.
I do not know to what extent Allah came to my rescue, but Baba certainly did. He went to my school the very next day and scratching out
the year 1962 from the SSC form, he wrote 1961. He told me that from now on I had better glue myself to the study desk and chair. I was to
stop all gossip and mischief and concentrate fully on my studies so that I passed my SSC exam in the First Division with four Distinctions.
If I didnt, he would throw me out of the house he had said without mincing words.
My age had been increased by a year. A child, I would be taking the exam with elders. I was overjoyed. Pricking my balloon of joy Dada
said, Who said you were born in 1961?
Baba did.
Rubbish. Baba had lowered your age.
That means I was actually born in 1961?
Not 1961, you were born in 1960. I remember seeing the parade at the Circuit House on 14
th
August, Pakistans Independence Day. You
were born soon after.
Chhotda got up, and tightening the knot on his lungi and exposing his black gums, added, What are you saying Dada. How could she have
been born in 1960? She was born in 1959.
I was crushed. I went to Ma and demanded, Tell me my real date of birth, will you! Ma said, You were born on the twelfth day of
Rabi-ul-awal , the third month of the Muslim calendar , I dont recall the year.
All this Rabi-ul-awal doesnt work at school. Tell me the English year. The date.
Can one remember years and dates after so long? Ask your father. He might.
There were two birth dates, Dadas and Chhotdas, written on the first page of Babas Anatomy book. There was no trace of Yasmins and
my birth dates or years in any corner of any one of the twelve hundred pages of the book. In fact, they could not be found on any scrap of
paper in the house. Ma was born on Id, one of the Chhota Ids. Which year? That was not known. Till today, no one has had the courage to
question Baba about the date or year of his birth. Most worried, I was about to spend the entire day calculating anyone and everyones ages.
Get Mas age, by adding twelve years to Dadas age and get mine by subtracting ten, but Ma said Leave all this and study. Years flow by
like water. It seems just a few days ago that I tied my hair into banana shaped plaits and ran to school, and today my children are passing
their BAs and MAs.
Ma may not have been worried about anybodys age but I was. I asked any khala or mama from Nanibari visiting us at Aubokash whether
they knew the year of my birth. No one did. No one remembered. I confronted Nani when I visited her. Spitting a mouthful of paan juice
into a spittoon, she said Felu was born in the month of Shravan, you were born the same year in the month of Kartik.
Same year was which year?
Who keeps track of which year who was born! Kids have been born every year in this house. If there had been only one or two, one could
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have calculated years and dates.
I became obsessed with as insignificant a thing as the date of birth. The matter induced a mood of despondency amongst people both at
Aubokash and at Nanibari. Nani remembered that on the day that I was born, Koi fish spawn were cast into the pond in her house. Runu
khala remembered that Tutu mama had been running between his room and the toilet that day, and had slipped and fallen with a thud on the
stairs, but she couldnt recall which year that was. Hashem mama remembered picking up four golden frogs from the courtyard and
dropping them into the well, but he didnt have a clue about the date or the year.
I had never before felt this keen desire to know my year of birth. Baba had substituted 61 for 62, ensuring that I took the exams. No one
could complain about my being underage. I was happy. I could experience the joy of studying in right earnest. But my mind remained
occupied with the unknown age factor. It was as if my age was a person standing miles away from me. Someone whom I was always about
to meet, but never did, although the meeting was imperative. When I had enrolled at the Vidyamoyee School, I had asked Ma my age and
she had told me I was seven. Even when I was promoted to the new class and asked her, Ma still said I was seven. Why seven, I should be
eight! I had protested. Ma had inspected me from head to toe, slowly shaken her head from side to side and said, Eight would be too
much, you must be seven only. The next year she said eleven. Why eleven? Because it seemed I looked like eleven. I was growing tall like
a banana tree, so I had to be eleven, thought Ma. Even though I could never find out my age from Ma, I always held the belief that I could
from Baba. That was because the wisest person in the house was Baba. He was also more educated than anyone else. He was a storehouse
of knowledge. He was, after all, the head of the household. When he told me I was nine years old, he meant nine. However, Baba had also
not kept a record of my birthday - that much was very clear. If he had, then next to Dada and Chhotdas birth dates, my birthday would
have been mentioned there. It was not. This feeling of non-existence engulfed me the whole day long; it left me sitting mournfully in the
verandah; it made me ask Joris Ma, who was forever sweeping our courtyard, about her age. On hearing the question, Joris Ma
straightened her cramped waist and stood upright. It was the only time she would rest the entire day. It was the only time she could actually
call her own. After thinking for a while she lowered her eyes from the sky and gradually bent to sweep the courtyard again. Then she said
with a nod, Nineteen. The last light of the evening was lightly touching the courtyard. As it did, it touched Joris Mas dark body, too.
Ma came and sat on the verandah. Since I did not like Joris mothers answer about being nineteen, I asked Ma about her age.
She should be at least forty or forty-two, could even be forty-five, Ma said, looking askance at Joris Mas loose breasts hanging from her
limp body.
How old is Jori, Joris Ma?
To tell us Joris age her mother again straightened her waist and stood up. Ma scolded her. She said, Hurry up, sweep the courtyard and
then go and eat. Then scour the utensils, and put the rice for dinner on the stove.
We all had had our lunch. Only Joris Ma was left. She, alone, had to finish the cooking, feed everyone, scour the utensils, clean and mop
the house, and sweep the courtyard, before she could eat.
To think of Joris age, her mother needed to look up at the sky again. The reddish sky was filled with flocks of birds flying towards their
nests. Joris Ma had never been able to return to any nest with her daughter. After the birth of Jori, she had been bound to one house or
another - bound by work.
How old? Twelve! Khala, wont Jori be twelve years old?
Joris mother asked, looking at Ma helplessly.
How can you say twelve? She appears to be at least fourteen or fifteen.
Ma did not know when Jori was born. She had not seen her at birth. Joris mother had come to stay in this house along with Jori only two
years ago. Ma kept Joris mother for this house, and left Jori at Nanibari to run errands for Nani. Whatever Ma said about ages were all
conjectures. Ma guessed ages looking at the physical appearance of people. However, these conjectures were happily accepted by Joris
mother. From now on Joris mother knew her daughters age to be fourteen or fifteen, and her own to be forty or forty-two, or even
forty-five.
Joris Ma gathered the fallen leaves, branches and feathers in the courtyard and heaped them on the garbage pile near the pond. She then lit
a small oil lamp in the kitchen and sat down to eat rice and aubergine curry. Meanwhile Ma sat on the verandah, sorrowfully staring at the
coops of swans and hens running about. I sat with my legs spread out at her feet, listening to the whirring buzz about my head, of the
evening concert of dancing mosquitoes along with the sounds of ululation drifting in from Dolly Pals house. I watched how darkness
slowly fell from the sky onto our cleanly swept earthen courtyard, like water droplets dripping from the wet hair of a melancholy maiden.
Staring at the segun tree behind the tin shed, I asked Ma softly, How old is the segun tree, Ma?
Ma looked strangely at the tree and said, seems to be three hundred years old.
How Ma guessed the ages of all human beings and trees, I could not understand.
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Why dont people live for three hundred years, Ma?
Ma did not utter a word. Darkness had enveloped her as though bats wings had flapped and covered her face, which otherwise always had
the carefree appearance of sea gulls flying playfully over the waters.
Anxieties about age have continued to haunt me since then. I suddenly had the desire to celebrate my birthday according to the date written
on my SSC form. It helped that Baba was in a good mood. As soon as I asked, a cake, a basket of malaikari sweets, one packet of
chanachur, one pound of sweet biscuits and a dozen oranges arrived. In the evening I lit a candle on the cake. In the presence of whosoever
was at home and one single precious guest, Chandana, I blew out the candle. I cut the one-pound cake with the only knife that could be
found in the kitchen the long knife used for the Holy Sacrifice of cows. Who would offer the first piece of cake to me was a matter of hot
dispute between Geeta and Yasmin. Geeta finally won. Her desires and wishes, she being the daughter-in-law of the house, were given
more importance than Yasmins. Yasmin moved away from the cake, sporting a long face. Meanwhile, before the camera light could come
on, Geeta fixed a sweet smile on her face and offered me a piece, with her eye on the camera. My birthday was thus celebrated in the midst
of cake-cutting, clapping, camera clicks, biscuits soaked in the malaikari, and lips licking the white icing on the cake. In this house it was
the first time any birthday had been celebrated, and that, too, owing to my own enterprise. Chandana gave me three books of poems as a
present. Raja Jaye, Raja Ashei (The King goes, the King comes), Adiganta Nagna Paddhwani (Bare Footfalls Reaching up to the Horizon)
and Na Premik, Na Biplabi (Neither Lover nor Revolutionary). Dada gave me Rabindranaths Galpaguchho (Collection of Stories). This
was the first time in my life that I had received presents on my birthday. I couldnt take my hands, my eyes or my mind away from the
books. Much later that night, Ma said with a parched throat, You could have broken a piece of sweet and given it to Joris mother. She has
never eaten a sweet in her life. She could have tasted some, too. I suddenly realized that not just Joris mother even Ma had not got a share
of the birthday food. Ma of course said that she could do without it. If ever a biscuit or handful of chanachur was offered to Ma, she said I
really eat only rice. You all are kids, you eat. You all peck at rice like birds, so you need to eat other foods as well.
After my birthday celebrations, Yasmin became very keen to celebrate her own. She caught hold of Baba to find out the date and month of
her birth. Baba kept putting her off, but Yasmin doggedly persisted. After keeping her hanging for almost two months, Baba told her it was
the 9
th
of September. That was all she needed. Before the 9
th
of September could come, Yasmin sent Baba a long list, three kinds of fruit,
two kinds of sweet, along with chanachur and biscuits. She had already invited almost all the girls at school. When Baba saw the list he
said, What is a birthday? There is no need for having birthdays. Study hard and become a worthy individual. I do not want any
celebrations in my house. Ma cajoled Baba, in secret She wants to celebrate her birthday, let her! Girls are Lakshmis, it is not right to beat
and discipline them. They too have some desires. She is being childish, but indulge her for once. Ma would use the respectful address
aapni for some time and then switch to the more intimate tumi. The reasons for descending or ascending from the familiar tumi to the
formal aapni were so numerous, that by now neither Baba nor we were even startled by the change of terms. However, whether she used
tumi or aapni, in a light or serious tone, whether she cried or laughed, whatever way Ma voiced her desires, Baba gave them the least
importance. Ma knew this as well as Baba.
Forget all this meaningless fun and games. The daughter dances and I see the mother doing the same nothing but a dance of apes.
Ma did not get cowed down by Babas frowns. She continued to cajole him while massaging hot garlic oil into his cold-affected chest and
back. Once you marry off the girls, they go away to another home. Whatever dreams and desires they have, must be fulfilled in their
parents home itself. Even if the garlic oil softened Babas flesh, it certainly didnt seem to soften his heart. Yasmin was disappointed.
Nothing was being done to celebrate her birthday. However, surprising everyone that afternoon, Baba sent us all the items in Yasmins
list. The girl danced with delight. Arranging all the food in saucers, all dressed up, she sat staring at the black main gate all evening,
awaiting her guests. Since no one appeared, Yasmin had no alternative but to invite three of her neighbourhood gollachhut playmates when
the girls came to the grounds late in the evening, and feed them the birthday feast.
When Chhotda returned home at dusk, he was surprised to see the display of food. Hey, what is the occasion today?
Yasmin laughed shyly and said, Its my birthday.
Who said you were born on this day?
Baba said so. Once Baba had said something, it did not behove anyone to utter a word in contradiction; for everyone at home, whatever
Baba said, was the truth. There was after all no one more knowledgeable and intelligent than him.
Okay, understood. You needed a birth date, so you asked Baba for one, and he made up one.
Yasmin was stunned at Chhotdas audacity.
That day too, the one who did not get to share even a single piece of Yasmins cake was Ma. She had left the house in the afternoon to
return only at dusk. In her hand was a brown paper packet, inside which was a red coloured dress material for Yasmin. Ma was going to
stitch a frilled frock for Yasmin herself. Having no money, she had, without telling anyone, borrowed some from Hashem mama, and gone
to Gaurhari Cloth House and bought three yards of the material.
When I saw it, I leapt up shouting But it is not her birthday today!
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Who said it isnt her birthday?
Chhotda did.
So what! Ma scolded. Never mind if its not her birthday. The girl wanted to have a little fun, let her.
We never got clothes except on the occasion of Id. Baba gave us clothes only once a year and that was on Chhota Id. Before the next years
Chhota Id could come, our dresses would either tear or become small. If one requested Baba for new clothes he would snarl and say,
Dont you have two dresses, wear one and wash it when its dirty, and wear the other. There is no need to have more than two dresses.
Ma would increase the length of our short dresses with sari borders, or any other extra piece of cloth and mend the tears. School going girls
normally had two kinds of clothes, one to wear at home and the other to wear outside. If ever I wanted to keep my Id clothes for wearing
outside, and asked for clothes to wear at home, Baba said, Why do you have to go out? If you have to go out anywhere, that is to your
school. For that you have your school uniform. At school, girls were given the liberty to wear clothes other than their uniforms when a
cultural function was held or a picnic organized. The girls wore different dresses for different functions. Since I wore the same dress for
each and every occasion, one of my classmates asked me once, Dont you have any other clothes? I was so afflicted by shame that I ran
and hid myself behind a pillar for a very long time. Baba had never refused us our school uniforms. He personally took us to Gaurhari
Cloth House to buy the material and then went to the tailor shop at Ganginar Par. When the tailor took our measurements, he repeatedly
instructed the tailor to make the uniforms larger, so that they would last longer. Even at the shoe shops, Baba would say to the shopkeeper,
Make sure the shoes are a little bigger, so that they can be used for a longer time. I found that even the clothes and shoes larger in size,
shrank rather fast. Ma said, The clothes and shoes dont get smaller, you all outgrow them. As we kept growing physically, I used to be
scared that Baba would get angry. Later when Dada was studying at Dhaka University, he saved money from his monthly allowance and
bought Yasmin and me two silk dresses. Second hand foreign dresses bought from the pavements, landir maal, cheap stuff, but there was
no end to our happiness on being given even these.
Yasmin was delightedly jumping all over the house wrapped in the red cloth that Ma had bought for her. Ma sat in the dark verandah with
her hair hanging loose, and watched the bright red Yasmin, who appeared rather beautiful in the glow of the lighted room.
Chapter Two
WILD WIND
She came on transfer from Comilla and took admission in the new school in Mymensingh. We established eye contact the very day she
joined class. Her almost wholly shut eyes spoke volumes on that first day itself. Of course, on that day, she stuck close to her paternal or
maternal cousin sister Seema Dewan. She did the same on the second day also. She sat on my bench on the third day, and after that she did
not sit anywhere else. Chandanas complexion was like virgin paper, her nose was as if chiseled by stone. Half her eyes were concealed by
her eyelids. The other half twinkled directly at me and lighted up my heart. When her loose, long, thick hair freely tumbled down her back
like monsoon rain, it secretly soothed my entire body. Ever since Dilruba left, the seat next to me had remained unreserved. Before I knew
it, Chandana had taken over that place. Every day Chandanas sounds, smells, complexion and Dilrubas absence hovered over me like
shadows. Chandana was not the only girl newly admitted to the class. Flocks of girls from Vidyamoyee were coming in. They were the
same rebellious friends of mine. Yet the fragrance of our relationship in which I was totally submerged, remained fresh and unaffected.
The Residential Adarsha Balika Vidyayatan or Model Girls School stood in a deserted corner of the town. The number of girls here could
be counted on ones fingers. However, in the SSC exam, their results were better than the Vidyamoyee girls. Not only that, the first division
average in this school was higher than any other girls school. Hence, my father pushed me there in the seventh grade, just like other fathers
did. If not possible in the seventh or eighth, then ninthtenth graders were pushed into this school, and had to spend a long time in the
wilderness. As a student of the senior-most class, I was overjoyed at that time. I wrote CLASS X boldly on the covers of my books, more
prominently than even my own name.
While I was flying high with Chandana in her wild ways, my SSC exams hung over my head like Damocles sword, threatening to invade
my home and enter every nook and corner. Baba advised me to learn by heart and internalize each word on every page of every book. My
world was to be surrounded by nothing else but dark black letters. However, my desire to follow Babas advice would vanish as soon as
Baba left the house or the sound of his snores became audible. On the way to school the one-class senior boys of Edward School wearing
ironed clothes would be leaning over, with sweet smiles peeping from the corners of their eyes and mouths. After seeing them, my whole
day would be suffused with red, blue, green, yellow and every other colour in the world. On reaching school, my pre-occupation was more
with Mehbooba who walked to school from Natakghar Lane than with my studies. She gave me all the details about the boys, their names,
who stayed where, who was thinking of what etc. Mehbooba gathered all the information from her brothers, and the details she didnt get,
she guessed. Whenever Chandana opened her fist, love letters poured out like monsoon rain. She had begun to receive at least four or five
letters everyday. Why shouldnt she! Boys between eighteen and twenty-eight from Panditpara had lost sleep after seeing her. There was
small talk about the most beautiful girl in class, Mamata Banu all the time. It seems Imtiaz Tarafdar of the Baghmara Medical College
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hostel, was about to commit suicide by drowning out of love for Mamata.
Asma Ahmed, with her nose and chest both up in the air, was a good student who kept herself aloof from everyone. It seems even she had
exchanged glances with one of the good students from the Zilla School. Jehangir who lived in the house next to the school wall, was
always staring at Sara. Sara did not seem to dislike him either. Poppy and Nadira were always whispering to each other between classes.
Ashrafunnissa, a girl with a harelip, saw this and guessed that Nadira must have fallen in love with Poppys brother Baki. Which male
teacher peeped into which female teachers room, who collapsed with laughter at whose words, for whom were whos eyes shining like
stars these tidbits would reach our ears as well, wafting in with the breeze. Chandana was captivated by all these rumours and so was I.
She was overwhelmed with her own casual love affairs. Sitting in class, she would write page after page of love poetry about someones
melancholy eyes, eyes she had seen only that morning. For the bespectacled boy seen on the street named Lutfer, I too felt something. On
the way to and from school, two-three scraps of paper thrown by him caused my nights sleep to vanish. From the day the note with the
eyes tell the story of the heart - yours Lutfer written on it, flew out of my physics book and fell at Babas feet, instead of fall if you have
to on the gardeners shoulder, I had to go to school escorted by guards. Borodada , grandfather was given the responsibility of escorting
me to school in the morning, and taking me back home when school was over. After school, some girls took rickshaws home, some walked
and one or two had hunchbacked Volkswagen cars coming to pick them up. Even when everyone, even Mamata Banu (whose belligerent
mother always escorted her) had left, I had to wait till my long white-bearded, green lungi clad, black rubber-soled shoe wearing old Dada
appeared. It was uncomfortable to be standing alone like that at the gate after school hours. However, if by chance Borodada came early,
then, getting in to a rickshaw with him in front of everyone was equally embarrassing for me. I was sure, seeing Borodadas skullcap,
bearded face, rubber shoes and lungi clad body, everyone must have been suppressing their laughter and privately assessing what a rustic,
unpolished family I belonged to. I had neither the capability nor the courage to pretend that the bearded man was not related to me. That he
was actually rather a close relation was also something I could voluntarily never tell anyone. On finding no trace of scraps in my books for
a long time, Baba lifted the guard. The policing had also to be lifted because of Borodadas claims about fields full of mustard, sheds full of
cows, a granary full of grain, his own thatched hut, and also because it was time for him to return to his village of Madarinagar. If
Borodada spent too long in the town away from his village, he began to get confused in his head. Everyday he would carry his Jainamaz ,
prayer mat in his hand and ask someone or the other in which direction was the west. Whenever he asked me, I pointed out every direction
as the west, except the west itself. He, too, would happily spread his Jainamaz and, turning in that direction, would touch his thumbs to his
earlobes, and invoking Allahoo-Akbar would begin his namaz.
If Borodada was with me, I would sit in the rickshaw with my head bent in shame because of his appearance. When I raised my head, it
gave me the opportunity to furtively look at the boys standing on the road. A new plump boy standing next to Lutfer, wearing blue trousers
and a white shirt, set my heart aflutter again one day. One glance was enough to excite me. I kept feeling I was drowning in loves
bottomless waters. I kept feeling that the plump boy would be thinking of me. That he would be standing on the road at ten, when I would
go to school, only to get one glimpse of me. He did stand on the road the next day. When I saw him, I was sure there was no one more
handsome in the world than this roly-poly. I was amazed at how my whole life now seemed centred around him. How, if I didnt see his
smiling lips and eyes everyday, my life was futile.
Then suddenly one day the mind switched from these instant love affairs, without which I had thought I would surely die, to the books in
the library. My eagerness to finish reading as many books as were on the shelves gained the momentum of a hungry shark. Once the books
within our reach had been read, the ones beyond our reach were obtained by either standing on our toes, or using ladders, and were gobbled
up by Chandana and me. These books were kept under our textbooks, pillows, mattresses, in spite of the fact that our exams were looming
ahead. The home tutor Shamshul Huda, taught me physics, chemistry, biology, mathematics and all the seven kinds of sciences. He would
slap me almost every evening as a routine. But despite that, as soon as Shamshul Huda had disseminated scientific knowledge to me, had
his tea and biscuits and left the house, I would bend over those unwholesome books. Chandana was far ahead of me in this. Where I
finished two books, she finished seven. In the race to read books, I was always behind her. It was my belief that Mamata, the bookworm,
too could not keep up with Chandana. The library books were called outbooks by the girls at school. On wanting to know what outbook
meant I was told that any book outside the syllabus, was an outbook. Girls who read outbooks were not looked upon very favourably by
the quiet, serious-minded good students. Those who read outbooks were considered to be the kind who did not concentrate on their
studies. Their minds were restless. Most importantly, such girls were not good students and got marks resembling zeros in their exams. This
was the general idea current in the school. Why this was so, I was unable to fathom. Even after proving that I could read outbooks and
still do well in my exams, this idea was not dispelled. Our addiction to these other books created a different world for Chandana and me.
Now, personal love stories of students or teachers did not drift into our ears, they got stuck somewhere midway. The air around us was now
heavy with the tears of Parvati, the sound of Rajlakshmis bare feet, Charulatas loneliness and Bimalas dilemma.
It was not that the air was always heavy. Once in a while it cleared up with pure laughter, and became free from gloom. Such an
unblemished smile played often on our librarian Syeduzzamans lips. He taught Islamiat once in a while. For this subject the school had no
teacher. Whenever a teacher was free, he came to take Islamiat classes. Syeduzzamans unadulterated smiling stretched up to his ears in the
Islamiat class. His smile had value, because this class was less important than all other classes. Kalyani Pal taught us Bangla wearing a
Monalisa smile. Such a smile had use in the savouring of the essence of literature. Suraiyya Begum also exuded the scent of rajnigandhas
through her toothy smile. Could the scent of a flower be transmitted through a smile? Chandana said it could. Our Mathematics teacher
came to class with a grumpy face. Just as well. Encouraged by Syeduzzamans smile, even if we sat in the Islamiat class gazing
abstractedly at the sky, writing copies full of poetry, spending half-an-hour instead of five minutes in visiting the toilet or drinking water, it
did not make any difference. Syeduzzaman, too, spent more time on telling stories than teaching Islamiat. His tales were not totally
uninteresting either. However, he repeatedly told us that as a subject Islamiat was not entirely to be ignored, as it was a scoring subject. If
one could write the Surah Fateeha more or less correctly or give four names of the Asmani books, one could score ten out of ten. In case
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you lost marks in physics or chemistry, then you could depend on Islamiat to get first class marks without much hard work.
For the Mussalman girls in class there was Islamiat readings, for the Hindus, Sanatan Dharma teachings. In the whole school there was no
one to teach Hindu Religion either. Just because Kalyani Pal was a Hindu, she was constantly pushed into that class. She would tell her
students that instead of wasting time with religion, they should spend time with mathematics that will be more useful. The Hindu girls
therefore got a big holiday in their Religion class. They didnt waste any time on mathematics and went straight to the grounds to play, or
spent time in adda , gossip in the empty classrooms. Since Chandana was a Buddhist, she too should have left the class. When there was
no teacher for Hindu Religion, there was no question of there being a teacher for Buddhist Studies. But she remained motionless in the
Islamiat class, either deep in some storybook, or in poetry. Sitting next to her I could neither concentrate on Islamiat, nor open a
Niharranjan Gupta under Syeduzzamans nose. I would just scribble or compose verses.
Syeduzzaman fires a cannon
Loading a religious horse on his shoulder
He speaks whatever nonsense he can find
He not only has a cough, he even pants.
He also puts a cap on,
But does he really believe in the Quran, the Hadith?
Or is it all a put on?
Having ripped Syeduzzaman into shreds, I felt bad later. He was a thorough gentleman in shirt and trousers, whose pate had not been
adorned with any cap. Why had I slighted him so! Actually it was not about Syeduzzaman at all. I could have done this to anyone. A person
looking like a puny tangra fish could safely be converted into a wide-mouthed booal fish, especially with a little indulgence from
Chandana. When the Bangla teacher Suraiyya Begum would waddle along, Chandana and I would follow her like two ants. Chandana
would whisper Olo Suraiyya, picking flowers, turning your face.
I would add How much longer will you waddle, the day has almost gone.
Chandana, feigning a deep sigh would conclude, By the time you reach, you will be gone too.
We knew the teachers at the Residential Adarsha Balika Vidyayatan were not to be disregarded. Nevertheless, we indulged in limericks,
which rarely remained secret, private or unknown. Other schools would recruit BAs, but, if you wanted to teach at the Residential, you had
to be an MA, the qualification for University teaching. None of these Vidyayatan teachers were from this town. They came from very far,
mostly from Dhaka. The residences of the faculty members were all within the school premises. Each teacher had an independent house,
with grounds in front, and gardens at the back. When this school was built, residential facilities were not provided for the teaching faculty
alone; they extended to the students as well. Compulsory residence. It was the dream of the East Pakistan Governor Monayem Khan to
shape this school from top to bottom just like a Cadet College. His house was in Mymensingh, hence he had begun to build this residential
school here and named it Rabeya Memorial, in memory of his late wife. It was spread over 100 acres of land, with all fens and marshes
filled up. Then, of course, came the end of East Pakistan and the Governor had to go. In 1971, bomber aircrafts encircled the town and
caused most of the half built school building to collapse. Once the war was over, the landslip was removed and the remaining building was
repaired and white washed. The name, Rabeya Memorial, was changed to Residential Adarsha Balika Vidyayatan and the school was
re-started. The framework could be said to be the same, a residential system, but even though the faculty members were able to sustain the
residential mode, the student body could not. For a new country, it was not possible to implement such a massive project. However, what
was done was not insignificant either! Students were not compulsorily confined to the school boundary. The hostel remained at one corner
of the grounds in ghostly isolation. Only for a few girls coming from Khulna and Rajshahi were living arrangements made in the ground
floor of the Principal Wabaida Saads house. In spite of this the school was the towns most reputed and expensive school. The very best
teachers had been selected for jobs and the best students had been selected for admission. As a result, the style of this school was quite
different from other schools. Scholarships were given to the students of this school. Other schools had no such facility. For scholarships in
other schools, one had to depend on the results of board exams.
Even the auditorium in this school was worth a look, and so were the functions that were held there. This auditorium was not a hencoop
like in the other schools. It had dimensions of a cinema hall. At the press of a button, heavy velvet drapes moved from one end of the stage
to the other. The stage itself was a revolving one. The audience seating arrangements were extensive .The kind of plays, dance-dramas,
musical concerts and other functions that could be performed on this stage could not be bettered by any other school. If not every month, at
least every two months cultural functions were held, apart from the various festivals that were observed all the year round. If one solicited
enough, formidable teachers would come out of their shells and sing in amazingly tuneful musical voices. There was no need for bombs to
be thrown, requisite amounts of tickling could bring forth poetry from the innermost recesses of many, in fact even from that of the Maths
teacher. It wasnt as though apart from these concerts we spent our time listlessly. Suraiyya Begum teaching Bangla poetry, would very
often recite the poems she had composed. Suraiyya Begums heart may have been as soft as clay, but Jinnatoon Nahars was as hard as a
rock. She taught us English. Actually, I had never liked the English teachers. The teachers of English were as tough as the subject was
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difficult. I loved Bangla, so did Chandana. One day, as was our routine, we reached school in the morning and stood in class-wise rows in
the grounds. We completed our daily exercises, and sang our National Anthem Amar Sonar Bangla Aami Tomai Bhalobashi , my golden
Bangla I love you in front of the Bangladesh National Flag. Then we went to our classes. As soon as we entered our class room, our
Principal informed us that writer Kazi Motahar Hussain was visiting our school at that time and, if we wished to, we could meet him. Our
hearts trembled with excitement. Kazi Motahar Hussain was our Principals father. He wrote very well, played very well, as it was with
most intelligent people competent in every field of knowledge. He had fathered quite a few talented children. Except for this Wabaida
Saad, the others were all quite renowned. His son Kazi Anwar Hussain was a famous writer. Daughters Sanjeeda Khatoon and Faimida
Khatoon, were both celebrated Rabindrasangeet exponents. But, in going to meet this famous father of famous children, Chandana and I
got into a very embarrassing situation. At first we kept peeping through the door. Soon we opened the door softly with eighty-five percent
fear and fifteen percent courage, and entering his room, we saw him laughing, waving his white beard. His eyes were bright with curiosity.
We entered the room, saying in submissive tones that we had come to meet him. He listened to us, smiled sweetly, and switched on a radio
set kept on the table. The volume was very loud. The radio remained on for quite some time. Chandana and I kept exchanging astonished
looks. His white-haired and bearded face glowed and he continued smiling radiantly, with his ear glued to the radio. We again informed
him of the reason for our visit. This time he nodded his head, meaning that if not then, now at least he had understood why we had come.
Then immediately he left the room, not just the room he left the house and walked rapidly towards the school. Following him we found he
had, Oh Ma, gone straight to his daughter and was asking her, You called for me? Wabaida Saad was stunned. She had certainly not called
for her respected father. What was happening? The respected father was hard of hearing. How were we going to carry on a conversation
with him then! Wabaida Saad could not find any solution to our problem. We had no alternative but to silently hurl our reverences at this
dignified figure of a much venerated, respected and saluted man. It was the first time I had seen a living writer since I had grown up. I had
heard from Ma that when I was six months old, Rahat Khan, a writer friend of Baba, used to visit us. He would rock me in his arms, and
sing songs of his own composition. The songs were dedicated to Farida Akhtar, a school friend of Mas. The mendicant maid of my
dreams lives near a festering pond, but I sailed my barge and went and saw her... Rahat Khan was a master at Nasirabad College. If Ma
was asked how a master and a doctor became friends, her answer was, Both of them fell in love with the same woman. She was the
beautiful wife of a lawyer, whose house your father was assigned to administer, while he was a student. It seems Baba, too, had fallen in
love with Farida Akhtar. The fair, tall, pock-marked Farida was also my teacher when I was studying in that Rajbari School of my
childhood. Ma would say, Farida as a student was a back- bencher, I was a front-bencher. She was a much worse student than me. That
Farida now teaches at a school and I shove fuel into an oven. That is my fate! Even if others worried about Mas fate, Baba certainly
didnt. Ma had to look after the children, cook and feed everyone, and guard the house against thieves. How could anyone who had such a
great responsibility have the time to think about her fortunes!
Ma was not as keen as I was to hear stories of Rahat Khan. To a well-read girl, a writer was someone great someone who lived on a
different planet. That those who wrote books were human beings like us, that they too urinated and excreted, that their noses too, once in a
while, got stuffed with cold, that if they blew their noses thick yellow mucous would come out, was something I could not believe. I had
the same belief about film stars. They led beautiful, elegant lives, lived in a starry world, rode in shining cars and wore dazzling clothes.
They lolled on bolsters like kings and ate apples or grapes and they slept on beds as soft as cotton-wool. They did not exude any physical
smell, let alone that of sweat. From them emanated the scent of roses. They never made even a single mistake in their work, never spoke
untruths and never caused anybody pain. They were what could be called noble. I was as much a bookworm, as I was a cinema addict.
Chandana was the same. I would request and cajole Dada to take me to the cinema, and we would pick up Chandana on the way. After a lot
of trouble and effort on our part Dada would arrange once in a while, to show us a movie, but for my first chance to see a film magazine at
home, I owe thanks to Chhotda. Chhotda was a young man who could not concentrate on studies, who roamed all over town; a jack of all
trades, he was married rather prematurely. Every week he would return home late in the afternoon with a Chitrali in his hand to while away
his leisure hours. Chhotda had no wealth, but he had a heart. As soon as Chhotdas recreation was over, my curiosity would be set free.
What was written in that paper with pictures? I was the kind of girl who, whenever she saw printed words, would read them immediately.
On the way to school, in case there were no boys around, I would read anew all the signboards I had read a million times before. After
buying nuts, I would read what was written on the packet while eating the nuts. After eating tamarind pickle, I would lick the remnants and
even decipher what was barely readable in the oil-smudged paper. Why would a book worm like me allow a journal full of amusement lie
unread, because it was in pictures! It became a habit to look at Chhotdas Chitrali. The habit gradually descended to an addiction. Or grew
in to one, who knows! If Chhotda forgot to buy the magazine, then what! Saving the rickshaw fare to school, I would buy the magazine and
read it from cover to cover. Id go to sleep at night with all details at my fingertips regarding the houses, cars, meals of all the heroes and
heroines, along with news of their love affairs and separations. In my dreams, I would see one of the heroes meeting me on a starry night
on the banks of a moonlit lake with a soft breeze blowing. That hero would dance and sing for me as he swore that he could not live
without me, with the trees, skies, air, lake water, moonlight everything as his witness. Unless I had the magazine in my hand on Friday I
could not digest my food, at least Ma thought so. I was not worried about my digestion at all. However, if the magazine arrived while I was
eating, I would push my plate aside and get up. Or, I would be holding the magazine in one hand and eating with the other. The hand
holding the magazine was invariably faster than the hand eating food. Chitrali had the power to not only make me forget food it could even
make me forget my parents. This started when one of my articles was published in the Readers Page. I had just sent a piece, on why the
ethereal-voiced Sabeena was being ignored; given the sweetness of her voice, Runas voice was harsh in comparison and so on. That was
the first time ever any article of mine had been published in a magazine. Before sending the article, I had asked Chhotda whether Chitrali
would publish something I sent. Chhotda had said Stupid and pushed me away. Apparently, Chitrali got five thousand letters a day. Four
thousand nine hundred and ninety two were never opened, let alone read, they were thrown into the wastepaper basket. So if I sent a letter
it would go straight to that basket. Although Chhotda had extinguished with one puff, my chandelier of desire and had heaped sacks of
despair over my hopes, I had still secretly sent my article to the Chitrali address, testing my fate. Quite delightfully, it actually got
published the very next week, the photograph of Sabeena Yasmin and Runa Laila inserted. There was major excitement at home. I floated
in the currents of hip-hip-hurrahs. My name was printed in the magazine, an unbelievable event indeed! Chhotda, after remaining totally
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open-mouthed for sometime, finally stuttered Wow, y-your wr-writing has been pu-published! As though I had accomplished the
impossible! A victorious smile was stuck to my lips like red ants on a sugar-candy. I brandished the magazine innumerable times before
everyones eyes except for Babas; in fact even before Joris Mas eyes. Joris mother looked at the magazine with astonishment. But this
looks no different from thongar kagoj, paper packets, she said.
After this unbelievable event took place, another equally unbelievable event occurred. Next week, I found that several responses, both
favourable and unfavourable, to my article had also been published in Chitrali. My enthusiasm bubbled like boiling rice. I began sending
my articles not only to the Readers Page, but also to the Letters section. Those days a new magazine called Purbani modeled on Chitrali,
was making its appearance in the world of star-entertainment literature. I was not so heartless as to neglect Purbani. I just had to have both
Chitrali and Purbani every week. If either of them carried my articles, Chhotda would say with a thin smile on his lips, Yes, its been
published, and if it was not he would say, What happened, didnt they print your article? Chandana did not have to be pulled into this
world. Struck by glamour she entered the arena herself. More was written about me than I wrote myself. I was becoming like a member of
the group. It seemed the person who gave the replies to letters in Chitrali, known to everyone as Uttar (answer) da, dipped into a pot of
syrup while composing his replies. As I continued to write, this unseen Uttarda began to feel like my own Dada. After a small hair-pulling
battle between Yasmin and me over a pencil, I wrote to Uttarda to inform him of my unhappy state of mind. Even if I was full of good
spirits, I had to inform him first. Plucking a phrase from the Golpukur adda, Chhotda one day said, Twenty springs of my life have passed
by and not a crow has cawed let alone a cuckoo sing here. Cuckoo meaning the cultural luminaries, while crows stood for the smaller fry
in the cultural scene. I quickly picked up the phrase and sent it to Uttarda. He was so upset to hear it that he chased all the crows in Dhaka
towards Mymensingh. By doing this he was able to shoo away the cawing crows from around his vicinity and somewhat bless my
supposedly dry spring. Rubbish, how could I turn in to such an old woman at twenty! I knew it was only for fun! However, this was not a
forum for only fun. Plenty of serious matters were also discussed. Peoples pride and respect, sorrows and mourning, love and separation
and their crooked ways, and sometimes, even problems of life were solved on the pages of the magazine. The number of readers was so
widespread that in every city a Samiti named Chipachosh was formed for readers of Chitrali. In Mymensingh, Chhotda himself was the
helmsman of Chipachosh. He had to be. After all, if not a writer he was certainly a reader. His studies had gone to the dogs. He had nothing
to do, and it was possible only for him to spend twenty-four hours with Chipachosh. They even had a meeting, one day, in the Town Hall
grounds. In the dark green field, under the shade of the banyan tree, this evening get-together became quite lively. Underneath one of the
banyan trees, Chipachosh was being nurtured, built up, under the other, grown up girls and boys were carrying on with their former raw
childish games. The young had now grown old, but were not willing to lose their appellation of young. Roknuzzaman Khan of the
newspaper Ittefaq, just in case he got called Dadabhai by the young, had not only opened a forum for them in his paper, but also built up a
society for youth in various cities. There was no dearth of institutions, councils, committees, and associations in Mymensingh town. From
Chhotda, one got all the news of where in the town various discussions and literary meetings were being held, and where dance music and
dramas were being staged. When I heard of these my cup of desires would overflow. When Chhotda returned from the Chipachosh
meetings, I would ask again and again Who all came? What did they look like? Did anyone say anything? What did they say? Chhotda
would give me one name at a time, with an introduction. Swallowing the bitter pill of compliance to my request, he would recite a couple
of words or phrases spoken by others. Although Mymensinghs Padmaragmani, the main female attraction in the Chitrali forum, attended
meetings proudly, it had not been possible for Chandana and me to get permission to step on to that shaded, peaceful, cool grass in the
midst of a crowd of menfolk. Except for male relatives and male teachers, we had no opportunity to mix in the company or gatherings of
any other men, however much we wanted to go.
After my articles were published in Chitrali, quite a few letters came in my name to the Aubokash address, from various cities of the
country with requests for pen-friendship. This had never happened before. Till then, no letter had come for me from anyone outside our
relative circle. I was quite excited on getting these letters. Pen-friendship was quite a unique affair to know people far away only through
letters, and then to gradually get to know them almost as relatives and friends. Jewel from Dhaka, Sabbir from Sylhet, Shantanu from
Chhatagram I grabbed these invitations to become pen-friends immediately. That girls and boys could be excellent friends was a belief
that was gradually growing in my mind. What I had seen of relationships outside the family circle, were those of love. It had happened in
the lives of Chhotda and Dada, in the lives of Jhunu khala and Runu khala as well. Love had only one purpose marriage. Dada was
unable to marry his Sheila, Chhotda made sure he married his. I had not seen any other relationship between boys and girls beyond these
amongst the people known to me. They existed in novels or in the movie stories. They had no place in the world in which I lived. Yet, the
letters coming to me for the first time caused something different to happen. Letters from strange men, but not love letters. I was to be
married to no one, yet I got letters. Letters from pen-friends that came by post were read at home in a kind of group. Whoever received the
letter from the postman first, read it first. Then, while handing over the letter, they would speak of its contents to me. A letter came from
Jewel. Yasmin, while handing over the open envelope to me said, Jewel wants to know whose songs you like better, Hemantas or Manna
Des? Sabbir wrote pages and pages on religious matters. He even sent small religious texts as presents. When his letters came, Chhotda
would read them before I could. He would throw them at me and say, Go read, read the letter of the Munshi fellow. That letters were a
personal affair was something I had yet to realize. This pen-friendship infected Chandana later, as it did Dada. Dada suddenly began
pen-friendship with a girl called Sultana in Dhaka. Sultanas handwriting was amazingly beautiful. When her letters came, Dada would call
all of us to show us her handwriting. He would sit us down before him and would read out the letter. Later, stroking the top of the letter he
would say, This girl must be really beautiful to look at. Dada believed that anyone whose handwriting was so neat, whose language could
be so poetic in a letter, could not but be a paragon of beauty.
Chandana had begun to read another magazine, Bichitra, apart from Chitrali and Purbani. One of her articles had even been published in
the Readers Page. On hearing that women were to be recruited by the Police Force, Chandana gave a proposal for the uniform the women
police could wear. The Burkha. Remaining under the Burkha would be in accordance with religious requirements and at the same time the
activities of thieves and robbers could be observed through the eye-holes. No passerby would suspect she was a policewoman. Bichitra had
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published her article along with a Burkha-walis cartoon sketched next to it. I had to save four to six annas from the school rickshaw fare, to
buy Chitrali and Purbani. It wasnt always possible to have the money to buy Bichitra. I would perpetually beg for it from Dada. Dada
enjoyed seeing my outstretched hand, and once in a while, dropped some coins into it. With that, I would buy Bichitra like an addict. To
buy meant that I had to make Yasmin or Joris Ma stand at the black gate, or stand there myself in order to call a hawker as soon as one
appeared. If there was no hawker, I would send Yasmin to the Ganginar Par turn, and she would buy one. Since I was grown up I was not
allowed to walk alone on the streets. The prohibitory order had not been imposed on Yasmin, so at bad times I had to depend on her. It
wasnt just the expense of buying magazines, to write for the magazines and reply to the pen-friends was also expensive. If one gave
Chhotda the letters, even the money for postage stamps had to be counted out. In case Dadas mood was off, the option was to sell old
glass bottles and papers. Next to Aubokash, hawkers would call out all day and pass along the three roads that went in different
directions one towards Golpukur Par, another towards Durgabari and another towards Sherpukur Par. They would call out melodiously-
Sari and kapod-wala, badam-wala, chanachur-wala, aachar-wala, churi and pheeta-wala, ice-cream-wala, hawai-mithai-wala, ghee-wala,
murgi-wala, kabootar-wala, hans-wala, kotkoti-wala, muri-wala, glass-bottle-paper-wala. As soon as I would hear the hawker calling the
last glass-bottle-paper-wala, I would send whoever was at hand to catch the fellow. On his head would be a big basket. Before the basket
was lowered from the head, bargaining would be on. How much?
Newspaper three taka a ser, books and copies two taka.
What do you mean by three taka? If you will give four taka, tell us.
Four taka would be too much. You can take three and a half.
Are your weighing scales okay?
Sell only after you are satisfied.
Once the hawker lowered the basket and sat in the verandah, I would forget my fascination for the old magazines under the bedroom cot,
and get them out. I even hunted out old books and copies. After selling them, I would get about ten or fifteen taka. Even ten-fifteen taka
made me feel like a king. Chhotda too sold magazines, Ma sold old glass bottles after hoarding them, even torn scraps of paper found in the
courtyard while sweeping, were dusted and stored. The two paise Ma earned from broken glass and torn paper, she kept under the
mattresses, or tied in the corner of her sari aanchal. This she was able to put to use and stemmed at times Yasmin and Chhotdas extreme
penury. Chandana was never lashed by poverty. In spite of living in a rented green tin house in Panditpara, Chandana easily procured
money for magazines every week. Chandana may not have been able to go to the Town Hall premises full of men but she would manage to
do some amazing things without warning. She arrived one day at the crack of dawn riding on her younger brother, Sajus, cycle. On seeing
Chandana, my heart overflowed with joy. The rest of those at home scrambled out of bed and stared open-mouthed at her. How daring a
girl had to be to take a cycle out in the streets of the city, whether early in the morning or at deserted midnight! Making Chandana sit in the
inner room, Ma ran into the kitchen and heated rice, rotis and meat. Ma made her sit next to her and fed her. Chandana, of course, had to
run after stuffing herself. Before people came out she had to reach home. Chandana rode away on the cycle, with her hair blowing in the
mild breeze while I was left standing at the black gate staring at her in fascination. As if the girl on the cycle, her hair blowing in the wind,
was not Chandana at all, but me. I wished I dared to cycle around the whole city, like Chandana.
While I was in this frame of mind, almost every evening, after finishing his work, Shamshul Huda would come to tutor me. As soon as I
saw Hudas face anywhere near the black gate, I would start trembling. On a delightful evening I would have to do sums, delve into physics
and almost drown in the pond of chemistry. When Rabindranath Das came to teach Yasmin, I found it quite enjoyable. Rabindranath taught
Yasmin for fifteen minutes and chatted for forty-five minutes. He did not chat with just Yasmin, but with me too. He had a daughter,
Krishna and a son, Gautam, growing up in the Kaliganj village of Tangail. In exchange for meals and a place to stay, in Mymensingh
towns Chhoto Bazaar, he tutored Nirmal Basaks son Gobinda. He was himself the Principal of a primary school in the suburbs. With the
job of a principal and several tuitions in town, he very rarely got time to visit his native village. He was able to send money home and
spend some days there only once in a while. While in town, he continually thought of his wife and children. Often, he told us stories of his
children. As a consequence, we too came to know what Krishna looked like, what she liked to eat, do and wear; whether Gautam liked
football or cricket, what marks he had secured, in which subject of the exams, everything. Of course, if Baba returned home suddenly, I
would move away and Rabindranath Das too, alerted, would bury his head in the book. When Baba wanted to know how much gray matter
existed in Yasmins head, what Das Moshai would laughingly tell him was that the gray matter was more than normal, but the attention to
studies was less than normal. Baba would say, Spank her. Unless she is spanked, she will not learn. Baba personally took out the cane
from under the mattress and handed it over to Das Moshai. If he found my home tutor close at hand, he instructed him also to straighten me
out with a beating. Baba was of the opinion that unless children were whipped they did not become worthy individuals. Thanks to Babas
repeated instructions, Shamshul Huda never hesitated to beat me. He was a good teacher. He taught Mathematics at Vidyamoyee School.
At home he taught me the science subjects. For the rest of the subjects, there were two other tutors from Vidyamoyee, Gyanendramohan
Biswas and Pradeep Kumar Pal. Pradeep Kumar Pal had six instead of five fingers on his left hand. Whenever I sat before him to study, my
eyes would repeatedly stray from the books towards that extra finger. He even wrote poetry. Everyday after studies were over, he would
say, Listen to one of my poems and he would pull out pages of his poetry from the breast pocket of his shirt. However, he would always
leave abruptly, without asking how we liked or did not like his poetry. As a home tutor, if Gyanendramohan lasted out at Aubokash,
Pradeep Kumar did not. Baba was sure that any tutor, who did not deal me sufficient boxes and blows, was not a good one. Baba took as
little time to hire tutors as he did to fire them. When Yasmin failed in three subjects in Class Five and her promotion to Class Six was not
granted, Baba began to tutor her himself. On her return from school, Yasmin went straight to Arogya Bitaan, his pharmacy, with her books.
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There she sat and watched home tutors waiting endlessly for Baba to pay them. Baba would make them sit uselessly for two to three hours
and give them twenty to twenty-five taka in hand. No home tutor had been able to receive their monthly fifty taka from Baba at one go.
Baba always preferred to keep three to four months taka pending. This was very embarrassing; I would hang my head in shame. Baba was
always very arrogant. No amount of shame could put a chink in his shining armour. He had told me innumerable times, that if I did not pass
with five distinctions and brilliant marks he would throw me out of the house and that all my life, I would have to walk around the streets
with an empty begging bowl in my hands.
The SSC exams were close at hand, in fact they were literally at the tip of my nose, so to speak, and there was no option but to stay put in
the house. Out of twenty-four hours, I was at my study table for eighteen. Suddenly I became the most important person in the house. If I
went for a walk, everyone stood aside to give me space. If I went to the toilet, Ma would herself go and place a pitcher of water there for
me. No one had to be told to fill my bucket of water, before my bath it was always filled. Since I had to sit up at nights preparing for the
exams, special delicacies were cooked for me to eat. Ma was actually feeding me with her own hands. Every so often, Baba would return
home with fruits and would caress me. There was pin drop silence in the house day and night. The inhabitants in the house whispered
amongst themselves so that no sound disturbed my concentration. When the Puja songs started in the para, Baba personally went and told
the Chairman of the Puja Committee, that the songs had to be stopped any which way, as his daughter was taking her SSC exam.
Understanding the importance of the SSC exam, Dilip Bhowmik actually stopped the music. In case he had to play them, the mikes were
turned the other way. Next to my open books and copies on the table was also an open box of biscuits. I was to eat them whenever I felt
hungry while studying. Ma came and gave me hot milk twice a day, saying, Milk helps the brain to function and helps remember all that is
memorised. One of the girls of this house was taking the SSC exams, what could be bigger news, or of greater significance than that? As
the days drew closer, I got the feeling that the Angel of Death, Aajrail, was coming to seize me forcibly. My heart trembled. My body,
hands and legs shook. At two or three at night, Baba would awaken me and say, Splash some water in your eyes, and sit down to study. I
would do so and sit down. Baba would say, If the water does not work, apply mustard oil.
The first day was the Bangla exam. I had never felt afraid about Bangla ever before, but on the day of the exam I kept feeling I would not
pass. Every morning Ma gave me a fried egg to eat, saying it was good for me. But on an exam day, an egg was not allowed, because if one
ate an egg one scored an egg too. A banana, too, would not do. Not even a kochu. Getting a banana or kochu in the exams was the same as
getting a rasgolla. Although bananas, kochu and rasgolla were my favourite foods, I had to forego them while the exams were on. I was the
one having exams but Baba was more restless than me. The night before, he hadnt slept a wink. Seeing him, it felt as though Baba was
taking the exams. He repeatedly wanted to know if I had memorised the whole book or not. Radhasundari School was just a few minutes
walk from the house. I knew the way, but was not allowed to go alone. Baba himself would take me in a rickshaw to Radhasundari and
bring me back again when the exam was over. When Ma was tying my hair in the morning, Baba gave the thing, a paper. The paper had
to be folded and tied with a thread, and clipped to my hair. On the paper was written something in Arabic, someone had told Baba that if
the writing was kept on the head, then one could remember ones lessons. To make sure I didnt forget any details while writing my exams,
this paper had a prayer written on it for remembering what I had studied. I sprang aside. I did not have the disease of memory loss that I
needed to wear this prayer in my hair and sit for the exam! Ma would daily massage coconut oil into my head to keep it cool.
Ma was tying two banana shaped plaits with my oily hair on my oily head. Now all that was left was to tie the threaded paper with a knot in
my hair. My eyes were spilling over with tears of shame, but still Baba caught hold of me and tied the small paper packet to my hair.
Chhotda was in splits on seeing me, so was Yasmin. Chhotda said, You cant possibly pass your SSC, but with the power of this amulet
you might.
Baba handed me not one or two but four new fountain pens and a new bottle of Pelican ink. In case, the ink in my pen finished while
writing, I was to fill up and continue to write. Although everyone had been catering to the moods of the examinee, no one listened to my
No regarding the amulet. That amulet surfaced like a Kholshey fish on my oily hair. Chandana also took her exams at Radhasundari
School. When the last bell rang, I found her standing in the verandah as soon as I came out. She had already submitted her papers. Without
asking any questions regarding the exams, she informed me that an article of hers had been published by Bichitra. Then immediately, her
eyes widened into saucers. Hey, what is this you have tied to your head?
Mother Earth, please swallow me up without further delay, I prayed fervently for only the second time in my life. But the Mother Earth
did not comply.
If I am to pass I would do so anyway, not because of any amulet, I said as soon as I returned home, pulling it off my hair with one stroke.
Ma objected, It will help you remember your lessons.
I can remember what I had learnt anyway, I said gritting my teeth and suppressing my sobs.
Baba rebuked me and said, You can remember because this is on your head, otherwise you wouldnt.
I stared in astonishment. I could not believe that this man who had faith in blessings, obeisance, amulets and charms was my father.
Everyday that talisman was put on my head. None of my rejections were heeded to. Full of shame, with my head bowed I had to go
everyday to the Radhasundari School. I had to be careful that the shame on my head did not get exposed. I had to keep touching my head
and try and hide my shame behind my hair. Every so often, my attention would stray for sure from my question paper, in fact, even from
my answer paper to climb up to my head. My head became a big burden for me. The shame of my head made me come home after my
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exams with my head bent. If I wanted to I could take it off, but I felt scared, too. Suppose my memory really failed me! What if on the day
of the Maths exam, I forgot something as simple as that five and seven added up to twelve! What if on the English exam day on beginning
to write an essay on the cow, I couldnt remember the first sentence, The cow is a domestic animal!
Chapter Three
TA TA THOI THOI DANCING AWAY
Chhotda re-entered Aubokash with his wife, just before my exams. This happened because of Ma. She had been inconsolable in her grief
over her son. When her appeals and requests to Baba failed, she sent Hashem mama to fetch Chhotda and his wife to the city, from some
shanty in a village in Islampur. However, reaching the town was no guarantee that he would get permission to enter Aubokash. Baba
straight away declared that they were not to even look towards Aubokash even in the distant future. Ma cajoled Nani, and a room next to
the well in Nanis courtyard, the room that used to be our dining room, was cleared out. A wooden cot was laid out for them. Once Chhotda
began to live there with his wife, Baba issued orders by which at least Yasmin and my visits to Nanibari had to stop. Ma, however,
regularly visited Chhotdas family. Obviously she never went empty-handed. For the welfare of her son, rice, daals, vegetables, whatever
she could collect from Aubokash, she carried with her. Whenever Baba was not at home, Chhotda dropped in at Aubokash. He, of course,
never dropped in without reason. He came only when he needed something. Ma would think of Babas cruelty and say, Is he a man or a
stone? But her untiring efforts softened Baba a bit one day and he agreed to allow Chhotda and his wife to enter Aubokash, but they were
to only stay in a small room in the corner. They were not allowed free access to the rest of house. Baba only agreed because he wanted to
see (since Chhotda was already married, although there was no justification for marriage at this age) if he could complete his studies and
earn his own keep. Ma arranged the small room that she occupied for them. To hang their clothes, she placed a clothes rack in front of the
door adjoining Dadas room that she kept shut. Chhotdas old cot was brought from Dadas room and placed in the small room. Chhotda
insisted that the dressing table be moved into his room. Nana had gifted Ma this dressing table along with the pots and bedspreads for her
wedding. Wooden flowers and leaves were carved around the mirror and at the bottom and they swung if the table was moved. It had two
small shelves on both sides and two drawers. This leonine four-legged table was dragged from Babas room by Ma herself and put in the
small room. She wiped the dusty mirror with her sari aanchal. Geeta would spend an hour before the table, getting ready, and would go out
with Chhotda almost every evening. I looked at them with longing eyes. If only I, too, could do the same!
Baba had sworn he would not look at Chhotda and his wife. However, within two days of their coming to stay at Aubokash permanently, he
called for me after having his morning bath. Clothed in his shirt, pant, shoes and tie, with a head full of curly hair, combed and doused in
mustard oil, he was sitting cross legged in the drawing room. When Baba called, it meant that wherever you were, whatever you may be
doing, you had to drop everything and rush to stand before him. As soon as I stood before Baba, he said, Call those two. Those two
were which two? I had the opportunity to ask that question, but didnt. Since Baba had given orders, I had to figure out which two in the
house were those two. Why only me, everyone at home had to know which two Baba could summon at this time. I figured out who
were those two. Entering Chhotdas room I said in hushed tones, Go, summons have come, not only for you but for both of you.
Chhotdas face turned pale in a second. He got out of bed in a hurry, tying the knot of his lungi.
He asked Geeta, a score of times to accompany him. She sat motionless on the bed, while agitatedly Chhotda moved back and forth
between the bed and the door. Nasreen, with a weird sound the second call came from the drawing room. This meant why those two
were taking so long! Finally, when the two mustered up enough courage to drag themselves up for the audience and stand before him, I
pressed my eyes, ears and nose to a crack in the door. Geeta bent down and touched Babas feet. For a Hindu girl, kadambusi, much like a
pranam, was nothing new. Baba coughed to clear his throat, although there was no such cough filling up his throat. Looking at Chhotda
with eyes as red as it was possible to make, he said, Have you thought about your life? You have got married so your studies have been
abandoned. You went to set up house in the village with a hundred taka job. What job was this, may I ask? A coolies work, right? What
else would you get but a coolies job with your education! You have dug your own grave. Has it hurt anyone else? Has anything happened
to me? Nothing has happened to me. It has to you. Even a madman understands himself, but you dont. If you ask a madman for his money,
will he give it? If you ask him for his food, will he give it? No, he wont.
Baba paused for a while. I dont know whether he was waiting for words of defense from the two embodiments. Then he said, Go and
take admission in Anandamohan. You have a third division in the intermediate, so your chances are dim, but go and try at least. When you
go, take money from my chambers. Baba now turned to Geeta, and screwing up his eyes and nose said, What were you thinking of when
you did this? You did not think even of your own future, did you? Geetas eyes were not visible as they were cast down, her hair
arrangement could not be seen because of her aanchal-covered head. Geetas mouth was a small one and in her small face the mouth looked
smaller. Baba paused again, cleared his throat in spite of the absence of cough, and said, Geeta, both my daughters have to study. Let me
not see you chatting with them. Have you understood? Geeta nodded her head to convey she had understood. Baba got up noisily and
loudly closed the door adjoining my room. Leaving orders that they were to use the inner verandah door only, he opened this door noisily
and left equally noisily. Chhotda had no option but to follow Babas orders. He secured admission in Bangla Honours at Anandamohan and
returned home. Hearing of this, Baba went around with a sarcastic smile on the corner of his mouth for a week saying, How many men
have succeeded studying Bangla? Bangla graduates are qualified, at the most to drive bullock carts, not much else. That was all he said.
Baba had seemingly given up hope, and did not drag Chhotda to get him admission in some science subject. Chhotda safely kept spending
his married life in Aubokash. Once in a while carrying a copy in his hand and a fountain pen in his pocket, he would go to college, and
return with a despondent face.
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In spite of Babas strict orders, Yasmins and my friendship with Geeta grew. When the elders were not at home, I was normally the one
who was the leader of the mischief makers, the King of Lanka. We would play in the grounds or climb up the terrace and survey the
world. The world meant the dozens of different people on the streets, the houses and courtyards of neighbours, the holy Tulsi corner ritual,
the evening incense, and the singing of kirtans with the accompanying music of the cymbals. It also meant watching the procession of
women, each clad in a single wrap of coloured sari and carrying bell metal pitchers, led by a hired band, heading towards the Brahmaputra.
It also included the performance of all household holy rituals with the muddy water of the Brahmaputra as though it was Ganga Jal, or
reading that which was not prescribed. Geeta not only occupied my kingdom, with one snap of her fingers, she outstripped me and usurped
my status as the ring-leader by clambering straight up the jack fruit tree. Sitting on its branches she would eat the jackfruit pods. From
below I would tie a cloth bag of salt and chilly powder to the end of a bamboo stick and hold it within her reach. She would jump onto
custard apple trees even on wood apple trees.
You wont be able to climb the banana tree, will you? I asked once. What do you mean wont be able to? Even in a sari she would
climb up the banana tree and go straight up to the topmost branch. Perched precariously, she would even eat the guavas which were within
her reach. The neighbours could see the new bride of the house perched on the tree from the streets. We were awestruck at Geetas antics.
We stuck to her like a tail. I had no knowledge of climbing trees, Geeta initiated me. She taught me many other things as well. When it
rained, it was our old habit to run around in the courtyard and grounds and get wet, climb up the stairs to the terrace and dance all around it.
Geeta was not satisfied with just running and dancing in the rain. Drenched like a wet crow, she would climb up the thatched roof of the hut
and sit there.
I was sitting in the verandah watching her and saw her fall. She had heard the sound of the black gate, and in her attempt to clamber down
she had fallen. What was worse, she fell on the broken brick laid courtyard. Having slipped on the wet roof, she had rolled down like a ripe
pumpkin torn from its stalk. Yasmin too was on top of the roof. Seeing Geeta fall she was not sure whether to laugh or cry. Geeta sat in the
courtyard, with a pale face and a wet crumpled sari. Meanwhile Ma had come and was hanging up her wet burkha on the clothes wire in the
verandah. She was shocked to see the bride of the house sitting on the macadam. She exclaimed, Afroza, what are you doing there?
Geeta said, No, Ma, Im doing nothing, Yasmin is up there on the roof, so I am sitting here and watching her.
Yasmin has climbed the roof?
Yes, see, there she is, sitting. I told her so many times not to climb, she will fall, but she didnt listen.
Yasmin came down from the top of the roof when Ma scolded her. Geeta, meanwhile went to the bathroom, changed her sari and came
back looking completely innocent. Ma cooked khichuri ,a concoction of rice and lentils, in the afternoon and poured some onto Geetas
plate. Heaving a sigh of relief she said, Since you are looking after the two girls, I can now peacefully go to Naumahal sometimes and
hear the Quran Hadith. Geeta said, Ma, you dont worry at all, Im looking after them. I will see that they do not get into any mischief.
Ma served Geeta three pieces of meat instead of two, with mango pickle on the side. Geeta said, Ma you have cooked delicious meat.
How do you make such tasty pickle? Ma served her more meat and pickle and carried on enthusiastically, I will teach you how to make
the pickle. Its very simple. Cut the mango into slices and soak them in a jar with mustard oil, a few pods of garlic, and a few dried chillies.
Once in a while you must put out the jars in the sun. Geeta stared wide-eyed and said, Really? Geeta seemed to fall from the skies in
surprise. Once Chhotdas childhood friend Khokon had come from Dhaka and was sitting in the drawing room. On being given the news,
Geeta widened her eyes and said, Khokon Bhai has come? When? How? Hai-hai, Kamaal is not there. Geetas surprise knew no bounds
as Khokon appeared to have arrived suddenly without warning. Yet, she went into the drawing room and smiling sweetly told Khokon,
Arrey, I was waiting for you only. Kamaal has left word for you to wait for him, he will be returning shortly.
Geeta not only looked like a small baby, she also sounded like one. A heavy burden of hair was on her head. Her nose was as sharp as a
parrots beak. Her lips were like Aphrodites, actually closer to home, her lips were more like split chillies. She had small teeth like mice
and a lean neck, like a crane. She had tiny hands, tiny feet and a petite body. No one called a dark girl beautiful, but we thought she was the
most beautiful girl in the world.
When the big drums heralding the Pujas began to beat, we whispered to our baby, The Pujas have started from today. Geeta fell from the
sky. Really? I didnt know! she said Clucking our tongues in sympathy, we felt that having married into a Mussalman household, she was
not being able to enjoy the Pujas. We could attend all the Pujas throughout the year, moving from one community celebration to another.
On Ashtami and Rath Melas, we could buy sugar candy toys and wheat crispies. However, since Geeta had converted from Hindu to
Mussalman, we felt very sad for her as she would no more be able to do so. Suddenly, Chhotda came running and said, Its late Geeta,
quickly, wear that sari of yours.
Which sari? Geeta asked in surprise.
The one I bought yesterday, that one.
The one you bought yesterday? Which one?
Arrey, your Puja sari!
What do you mean by Puja sari? What all you say!
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Having noted my presence with a slant of his eyes, he laughed in embarrassment and said, You know that blue sari you have, the one your
mother gave you, wear that one.
Say that then. Instead of saying that, why did you say that you had bought it? Where do you have money that you can buy anything! You
cant earn a penny and yet you talk big!
Hurry up, its getting late.
Late for what, where are you going?
We have an invitation at Babuas house, have you forgotten?
Dressing Geeta up like a fairy in blue, Chhotda left. These outings happened quite often. Visits to the houses of old friends, Chipachosh
members and new friends at the Golpukur Par adda sessions. But they didnt only spend time visiting friends homes. They attended
various functions also and enjoyed themselves at music concerts, dance recitals, theatre, and cinema. In fact, they didnt even miss jatras if
possible. Seeing all this I was filled with longing. Chhotda had sold his guitar. The reputation he had in town as a good guitarist was
disappearing like cotton wool in the wind, but it did not seem to bother him at all. He was living and eating in his fathers hotel with his
wife but that there was another life beyond, for which he should be looking frantically for a job
After the Pujas, Yasmin returned from school and gave me some news secretly. On Puja day one of her friends had seen Geeta entering her
parents home in Peonpara. Followed by Chhotda. I talked to Chhotda about the incident, and was cautioned that no one, not even the birds,
should get hold of this news. The birds did not get to know. The birds did not even get to know that very often when Baba went to the
bathroom in the morning, Chhotda would stealthily enter his room as if he had to fetch something he had left there. Or, as if he had some
very important matter to discuss with Baba; his face would have such a calm yet serious look. Meanwhile, from the pocket of the trouser
hanging on the rack, he would pick the change, whether ten taka or twenty. His hands did not shake to remove even fifty. Ma saw
everything, but pretended she hadnt. I trembled with fear at Chhotdas daring. To gauge what would be the outcome, if he got caught,
required the kind of courage which neither Yasmin nor I had.
The tree-climbing Geeta not only jumped on trees, she jumped under them too. In order to teach us dance, she would make Yasmin and me
get up from the study table and move around the whole house tapping ta ta thoi thoi, with our feet. If Yasmin and I did not believe that we
were soon to become great danseuses Geeta certainly did. As soon we heard Baba return, we left our dancing and ran helter-skelter to sit
at our study tables. The disturbance caused by our rushing around touched Babas body like the wind. Almost every night, before going to
bed, he would call me and ask in a cool voice, Have you eaten?
Clutching the drapes of the door, I would reply, Yes
Have you studied?
Yes
Have you played?
The answer yes was almost at the tip of my tongue. Swallowing in time I would use another word, No.
Have you gossiped?
No
Baba looked at me in astonishment. Why not?
Forget the other word, no word came to me at that moment.
Why havent you gossiped now that there is no dearth of friends in the house?
I began to twist the curtains on the door around my finger.
Baba said, Adda is a good thing. You dont have to study, or pass exams. Look at Chhotda, what a beautiful life he leads! He has to do the
useless job of studying no more.
I was now untwisting the drapes from around my finger.
When I leave home tomorrow, you will sit down to gossip, have you understood! Till I return, you will continue to gossip, have you
understood what I am saying?
Normally, when Baba made you understand something, you had to nod your head and say, Understood. But now I clearly realized it
would be very dangerous to say that.
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Baba feared that in Geetas company our studies would suffer badly. He had already got the door in my room adjoining Chhotdas locked.
So they were using the verandah door. However, the day Chhotdas friend Khokon spent the night, he slept on Chhotdas bed.
Consequently, Geeta had to sleep on mine. It was only a question of one night, nothing much. Though, it may have been nothing much to
us, it certainly was not so to Baba. He woke up late at night to drink some water, and was pacing from one room to another, when he
discovered Geeta in my bed. He screamed, shouted, threatened and roared and turned the silent night into a clamorous afternoon. Geeta was
compelled to spend the rest of the night on the same bed as Chhotda and Khokon.
Even though Baba tried his best to remove Geeta forcibly from our proximity, our attraction did not diminish, instead it grew. We would
ignore our studies and wait on her all day just to make her smile. If she asked for her shoes, or comb or water I would put it before her. If
she broke her glass, I would tell Ma it had broken because my hand had knocked it over. I saved her from many other misdemeanors as
well. One evening she called us all to the terrace and lit candles on the railings for Victory Day. She then walked on the railings like any
circus girl. She knew that if she slipped even a little, she would surely fall and crush her head, still she continued. In fact, she incited us to
do the same. Lying horizontal on the railing, she reached into her blouse and took out a packet of cigarettes, and a matchbox. She lit the
cigarette and took a puff, leaving us stunned. The people on the road saw her openmouthed. Geeta said, Let them look. I dont care! It is
my wish if I want to smoke. Who has anything to say? In our house no one smoked cigarettes. I had not even seen any male relatives do
so. In these circumstances, a woman, and that too a new bride, was now smoking in full view of the neighbours and passersby, lying openly
on the terrace railing. If this reached Babas ears, it would be horrifying. Just visualising what this unmitigated disaster would result in,
made my body turn cold. Geeta said, Arrey, nothing will happen. Come on, take a pull! My voice shook, as I replied Baba will kill me if
he comes to know! Geeta was least bothered about what would happen or not if Baba got to know. She taught me how to smoke. Inhaling
deep mouthfuls of smoke I would throw it out towards the smoky clouds covering the blue sky. My cold body would slowly turn lukewarm.
I felt an odd attraction towards things denied me. Where did you get the cigarettes from? I asked. Geeta just said, Got them, wearing
only a slight smile on the corner of her lips. She never said anymore than that. In this smoke of cigarettes and mystery, Geeta appeared like
Devidurga. I came down from the terrace, washed out my mouth to remove the smoke smell and I sat down with lips locked. It was not
only Geeta I saved from minor household incidents or accidents, I saved Chhotda as well. Chhotda, out of dire need, had completely
stopped going in the direction of Anandamohan College and had taken up a job as a journalist for a Bangla weekly called Darpan on a two
hundred taka salary. Even this did not meet his needs. Everyday, in a hungry nasal tone, he would ask me, Give me five taka. Come on
give me.
Dont have five taka.
Then give me four
Dont have four either
Okay, then give me three at least. If not three then two taka, if not two then one, if not even that, Chhotda did not even leave eight or four
annas. He swooped down to pick up anything he could. Secretly, he even removed medicines from Dadas medicine chest. Even though we
knew, we kept these incidents to ourselves. It was like allowing pinworms to eat up our stomachs. Dada went to the bathroom in the
morning. Since he normally finished his toilet, shaving and bath in one go it took him at least one hour. Chhotda could at this time, pick the
loose change from Dadas pocket without any fears. Taking money from Babas pocket entailed a big risk. Baba had his bath so swiftly, that
exactly when he would come out was never known. Moreover, Babas room directly faced the bathroom. In comparison, Dadas room was
some distance away, across the verandah and beyond another two rooms. Chhotdas needs were never satisfied. Under the wood apple tree,
where not even the fallen leaves would get to know, Chhotda would walk soundlessly towards the black gate. He would carefully open it
and leave, carrying either big paper packets or shopping bags full of medicines under a panjabi or a loose shirt. Initially, he said he needed
medicines. There was no end to his physical ailments. However, I questioned him when I saw him taking the medicines out of the house.
Where are you taking these medicines? Chhotdas melancholic answer was, Friends ask for them; they want vitamins.
Chhotda did not stick to vitamins for too long. Very soon he was removing medicines not only for cough and fever, but even stronger
medicines for very serious diseases. Why? Friends want. Why? They want medicines, some for cough or fever, and others for stomach
problems, even ulcers. But are friends sick throughout the year!
Do I have only one or two friends?
That was true, Chhotda had countless friends. The people who came home looking for Chhotda varied from journalists, poets, playwrights
to Chipachosh friends. From students, businessmen and executives to the unemployed - all kinds of friends came. Their ages and sizes
varied from ankle high to head high. Some even higher than the head by a couple of feet. I watched them from behind the drapes, watched
and wished that like Chhotda, I too could chat with them. That I had neither the courage nor the opportunity to do so was something I
realized very acutely.
You say your friends are always so sick, but they look quite healthy.
Its not just the friends. Their fathers and mothers too are sick. They have no dearth of relatives!
One day I confronted him. What do you really do with these medicines, Chhotda! Tell me truthfully!
Chhotda smiled mysteriously and said, Why what happened?
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Nothing, but first tell me what you do with them, otherwise I will tell Dada. My threat worked.
Chhotda said, I sell them.
Chhotdas words worked, too. I melted in sympathy. I would myself take out expensive medicines, two at a time, from Dadas chest and
hand them to Chhotda, so would Yasmin. As soon as Dada left, Chhotda would immediately enter the room and apart from medicines,
would look for any money Dada might have forgotten in his room. Finally, he would take a shirt from the clothes rack, wear it and leave
the room. Dada had innumerable shirts, so he never found out. By chance if they met face-to-face at the black gate or on the streets, Dadas
face would darken and he would ask, What Kamaal? Why are you wearing my shirt?
Chhotda would say, I have worn it, but dont worry I will take it off and keep it back.
Another day, Dada would ask Achcha, where is my blue Tetron shirt? With a vest on top of his trousers and socks on his feet, Dada
would go around asking the whole house about his shirt, looking here and there stupidly.
Who knows, Ma might have taken it for washing.
Arrey no. That was already washed and ironed.
Then I dont know.
And where is the white shirt, by the way? The one on which Sheila had embroidered flowers on the pocket?
Didnt you wear that yesterday?
Arrey no, yesterday I wore a red shirt.
Ask Ma, I dont know.
Dada would ask Ma. Ma wouldnt know either.
Wearing a crumpled garish red shirt, Dada would go out very unhappily. He was very busy. Being a representative of the Fisons Company,
he had to go to Tangail one day and to Netrakona the next, and after returning from Netrakona, again to Jamaalpur. Dadas fair face was
slowly getting burnt black as he went around in the sun. I felt sorry for Dada as well.
I told Chhotda, You get a lot of money selling the medicines. Then why do you take two or three taka from me as well?
What are you saying? I dont get so much money! These are doctors samples, dont you see not to be sold written on them? The
shopkeepers give less than half the price for these, Chhotda explained to me.
Ma too noticed Chhotda holding the medicine bag and disappearing very often under the wood apple tree. She asked Baba gently, Cant a
good job be arranged for Kamaal?
Babas tone was also soft. Yes, I can. I can arrange for him to work as a coolie.
What are you saying?
Why? A coolies job is a good one. Arent people living on a coolies income? Let him do it. Coolies do not need to study. You only have
to carry bags on your head. You do not need to know physics or chemistry.
Seeing that Babas tone was fast changing from gentle to angry, Ma moved away.
Geeta was always wearing new saris and going out with Chhotda. She had a lot of new cosmetics. Seeing all this, Ma told Chhotda, Well,
Kamaal. You do not even have a good pant or shirt. You wear Nomans shirts. You can buy a shirt and pant for yourself at least. Even in the
house you wear a torn lungi. Why do you punish yourself?
Is there any money that I can buy anything? Chhotda said with a glum face.
Why isnt there any money? Dont you work?
The money I get from work doesnt even pay for a rickshaw.
For your wife you seem to buy things alright.
For Geeta? I cant give Geeta anything. Whatever she has is her own. Her mother gives her.
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Listen Kamaal. We do not ask anything of you. You buy for your wife that is a good thing. If you dont give your wife, who will! What
Im saying is buy something for yourself, too. You dont even have a good pair of sandals. Buy one.
Give me the money, Ill buy, replied Chhotda.
Ma was silent for a long time. When she spoke, it was as if she had finally climbed out of a pool in which she had been swimming all by
herself in absolute silence.
If I had money, I would definitely give you. Who gives me any money? Ma sighed long and deep as she spoke. If I could read and write,
I would have at least been able to do a job. Would I have had to depend on anyone?
Thereafter, for two weeks Ma kept begging Baba for money. She went and bought Chhotda a lungi, two shirts and a pair of Bata sandals.
However, Chhotdas wants did not end. He continued to remove medicines both in the morning and evening.
Accha, has Sharaf been here? Dada asked with a crease between his two eyebrows.
What do I know, I have no idea.
He must have come.
How do you know he did?
Im finding my medicines short in count.
Is Sharaf mama taking them or what?
He is a big thief. He must be taking them.
In a cracked voice Ma said, Look Noman, dont accuse a person without knowing or hearing anything. Sharaf has not visited this house in
the last three months. What makes you call him a thief? What has he stolen?
You have no idea, Ma. He had taken fifty taka loan from me, saying he would return it the very next day. It is five months now and there is
no sign of him giving it back.
Ma went to the other room. She sat there alone. Through the window in this room the breeze blew very strongly. What conversation Ma
had with it, who knows. None of us understood Mas pain. Taking up Dadas cue, I said, Sharaf mama is really a thief. He came the other
day. I left him in the room just for a little while and went out. I returned to see my gold earrings missing. I had kept them on top of the
table.
Then those earrings of yours were taken by Sharaf only, Dada was sure.
Dada of course ultimately solved the mystery of his periodically disappearing medicines. If he ever entered Chhotdas room for some
reason, his eyes fell on the clothes rack. Picking up six or seven of his shirts, he would leave the room. Out on the verandah, he would
show them to Ma and say, I found these on raiding Kamaals room.
Seeing all this, Geeta told Chhotda, Cant you die? Why do you have to live this life! If you have the capacity, go buy some shirts. If you
cant buy them, then remain naked. On hearing this Chhotda exposed his black gums and laughed. Geeta said in a subdued tone, Go on!
Laugh! You have no self-respect. Everyone at home insults you but you learn nothing. Why have you brought me into this hell?
No one at home had the capacity to understand Geetas moods and temper. One moment she was dancing and laughing and the next she
was sitting with a long, gloomy face. Sometimes she locked the doors and stayed in bed the whole day in her room. At mealtimes Ma
would stand in front of the closed door and call, Oh, Afroza, Afroza! Get up. Arent you going to eat anything? If you dont eat youll feel
ill. Get up Afroza and have your food. Geeta Mitra alias Afroza Kamaal would make a bitter face and would wake up only after being
called several times. She would then eat and drink and go back to sleep. After a long time, Ma had got her younger son back. This child
who was weaned late, spoke late, a semi-lisping, semi baby and his wife were now being given food cooked personally by Ma. She not
only served them herself in their room but if possible fed them with her own hands as well. Ma put in every effort just to make her
half-Hindu half-Mussalman daughter-in-law happy. If she was happy, Ma felt Chhotda would also be happy. Either Ma tried really hard to
win Geetas heart over, because it was not possible to win anyone elses at home, or maybe by spoiling her Ma wanted Geeta to get used to
this household. After all, she was completely unused to Babas bullying and intimidation. On returning home, Chhotda would go straight to
his small room without so much as looking in any other direction. If I ever pushed open the half closed door, I would see Geeta lying down
facing the wall, while Chhotda would be petting her all over. Like a holy man in a trance, he would be chanting, Geeta, Geeta, Geeta! Oh
Geeta!
Chhotda was constantly handed lists. Geeta needed blouses, saris, lipsticks, rouge, powder etc. Chhotdas wan face looked even more so.
The skin of his lips was so dry they had started to chap. He never spoke to the people in the house unless required. He was completely
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oblivious to everything else.
Baba, on hearing of Chhotdas job, heaved a long sigh and said, To one who digs his own grave, what can anyone say? No, no one can
say anything. Chhotda had really dug his own grave rather deep. A journalist now, he would leave in the morning with a diary in his hand.
Returning in the afternoon, he would have lunch and go out again. He came home in the evening sometimes carrying a sari, or a blouse or
cosmetics for his wife. The minute he came home, Ma would go into the kitchen to get food. The days he returned only in the evening, Ma
would be waiting with the table laid out. Chhotda would emerge from his room with a drawn face to eat. No, not alone, he would be
holding Geeta around the waist and dragging her to join him at his meal. Geeta, while trying to untangle herself, would say, What is there
about my food! I can do without it. Yet, Geeta had not only eaten with us already, she had even taken a long nap. However, her face looked
so wan that Chhotda was made to think his beautiful wife was turning into a stick, deprived of food. Since Geeta would not eat, Chhotda
would not eat either. Ma would say, Since he is asking you to, why dont you eat once more with him Afroza?
No, no. I will not eat.
Chhotda would pull Geeta to the table and make her sit beside him. He would mix rice and vegetable and feed her. Geeta would take the
food in her mouth with her nose and mouth crinkled up, as if poison was being given to her. She would keep the poison in her mouth,
neither chewing nor swallowing it. Chhotda stroking her head and back would start saying, My precious, my jewel, eat a little. If you
dont eat, I wont either.
Geeta refused to swallow the morsel. Chhotda refused to eat. He got up. Ma almost ran up from the kitchen to the dining room, a bowl in
hand, a bowl full of meat. What happened? I just got you more vegetables. Why did you get up? Come on eat. You havent eaten the
whole day, Kamaal!
Chhotda would say with a small face, No, Ma. I have eaten outside.
Ma would sit sadly at the dining table with Chhotdas uneaten rice and vegetables in front of her.
Mas eyes were like deep pools with tiny currents on the surface.
Till just the other day, Ma had given Chhotda a bath in the courtyard, made him sit on a stool and scrubbed his back. Now, Chhotda had his
own bath. Ma would say very often, Whats wrong? Why is there so much dirt accumulating on your heels? Dont you scrub them?
Ruffling his hair, Ma would rub her fingers behind Chhotdas ears, shoulders and neck and say, Warts have developed. Ma wrinkled her
nose and spat in the courtyard. Chhotda looked neither at his ankles, nor at Ma. He only looked at Geeta. Why was Geetas face so glum?
Geetas face was not gloomy a little while ago. She had been playing ludo with Yasmin and eating egg-pudding. It seems she hadnt had
egg-pudding for a long time. On her complaint, Ma had quickly made it for her. After the pudding, she had wanted payesh made with date
jaggery. Ma had made even that for her. Ma had lit an earthen stove by blowing into it and had cooked on dry leaves in the absence of khori
,firewood. She had then served the meal on the table. Chhotda was sitting with Geeta on his lap, kissing her lips. He was kissing her and
saying, Why are you so glum? Whats happened? Geeta sighed very deeply and gave no reply. As soon as Chhotda came home, Geetas
smiling face would suddenly turn weepy. Her face looked as though she hadnt eaten the whole day, not even drunk water. The look on her
face suggested as though the people at home were always abusing her in unspeakable language. Whatever time Chhotda spent at home, he
spent it trying to make Geetas drawn face pliable and in trying to bring a smile on the weepy face. His days and nights were occupied
bending over Geeta. Ma noticed it. We saw it, too. Ma sighed heavily in secret. We were more fascinated with the love story being enacted
in our own home than with those in novels and cinema theatres. Never before had we ever seen any one embracing another in front of a
whole houseful of people. Touching lips to lips!
Yasmin and I would look at Geeta in amazement. Geeta took out ironed saris to wear at will. She wore high heels, she applied lipstick, she
wore a dot on her forehead and had a bath with scented Lux soap. Everything about her was different. We washed our hair first with local
Bangla soap, then with the bath soap. From our childhood, Ma had taught us to wash this way. If one used the bath soap to wash dirty hair,
then the soap would not last long, hence the economy. Baba sent mostly Bangla soap home. The scented bath soaps came only once in a
while. Ma had to economise in all things. Ma explained that Babas wealth was not for one household alone. He had to look after his
parents and siblings in the village and also his second wifes family in the town. Ma had to cook two kinds of meals one kind for all
members of the house and the other for herself and the domestic servants. In that other kind, except for stale daal, dried fish curry or
vegetables, if anything else was available, it was at the most the tiny kachki fish or tangra-putti curry. If fish or meat was cooked, it was
only for us. That meant Baba, we brothers and sisters, and the newly arrived Geeta.
We knew Geeta from before her marriage, she was not new to us, but her arrival as Kamaals wife made her appear different at Aubokash.
Covering her head before Baba, uncovering it before Ma, her unrestricted antics before us, her cheerless face before Chhotda, everything
about Geeta aroused Yasmin and my catlike curiosity. Of married life, what we had seen at the most was Ma and Babas. The relationship
between Baba and Ma was bound by accounts of oil, salt, rice and daals. I had never seen them close together or exchanging any sweet
words or going out. In fact, they didnt even sleep in the same room now, let alone the same bed. After Mas small room was arranged for
Chhotda and Geeta to stay, her existence became like that of a refugee. One day she would be in my room, on another she would make her
bed on the drawing room floor. Baba was the head of the household, Ma had to follow his orders, and run the house as he directed. That
was the norm. Used to this system, we noticed in shock, a couple before us, where the husband was constantly alert to the welfare of his
wife. This was very different from Baba, no doubt. Ma noticed what was happening, so did we. Yasmin and I were full of curiosity. Ma
wasnt. Ma soon realised that her baby boy, her lisping son had left his mothers lap and arms forever. In Chhotdas whole world and in his
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life, at that time, there was no one but Geeta. His whole world revolved round making Geeta happy, whatever it would take. To him now
his parents, brother and sisters were of no importance. Ma sat sadly alone on the verandah, sighing deeply once in a while saying, I do not
know when Kamaal comes home, when he leaves. He no longer calls me, nor does he call out to me Ma, Im going Ma Im back.
One day Geeta suddenly took the decision to move to Dhaka. It was not in our hands to change Geetas decision. Nor was it in Chhotdas.
The day she was leaving Aubokash with her luggage, holding onto the black gate, we looked with pitiful eyes at her departure. Geeta was
going to Amanullah Chaudhuris house in Dhaka. Amanullah Chaudhuris paternal house was in Mymensingh, near Geetas house. That
was how she knew them. Chaudhuris wife, Raheeja Khanum had started a dance school. Geeta was going to learn dance at the school. If
Raheeja gave her the opportunity, Geeta could become a great danseuse. Many dance students stayed at Chaudhuris house, and looked
after Chaudhuris children. Geeta would do the same. Leaving his wife in Dhaka, Chhotda returned to Mymensingh. The next week,
Chhotda was sent by Baba to Dhaka with money, with orders to get Geeta admission at the Dhaka University. Having got her admitted to
the Physics Course, Chhotda came back. Even though his own Bangla Honours studies had come to naught, it was Chhotdas dream to
make Geeta a learned lady. Chhotdas job was now to build his future here, get a good job, earn as much as possible and send it to Dhaka.
Whatever time he spent at home, was mostly occupied in writing long letters sitting in his own room. The kind of letters that he wrote
before marriage, the same thirty-two page letters were what he wrote now. Letters came from there also. Short letters, with lists attached.
Carrying the lists in his pocket, Chhotda would leave the house. He would buy all the things and bring them home wrapped in paper.
Shutting the doors and windows of his room, he would make large packets to send to Dhaka. Ma watched and wiped her tears in secret.
Look at Kamaal earning money, buying so many things for his wife. Not once has he said let me give Ma some taka to spend. Never has
he offered me even five taka. No one was affected by Mas deprivation. Ma was always alone, now she began to get more lonely. Sitting
in the dark verandah, the beads of her toshbihor , rosary remained still. In Mas hands they never moved.
Chhotda had friends all over town. If they came looking for Chhotda at home, he normally took them out with him. Once in a while only,
Chhotda sat with friends in the outside verandah room. He would tell Ma to serve tea. Ma would make tea and send Joris Ma to serve it.
The requirements for making tea were not always available at home. If sugar or milk were not there, either a cup of sugar or milk was
borrowed from M.A. Kahhars house. Even from as rich a mans house as M.A. Kahhar, people came to borrow sugar or milk, this
borrowing was to us a routine affair. With tea it was mandatory to offer either two toast biscuits or Nabisko biscuits. Biscuits were not
always there at home, so then one had to make do with only tea in our hospitality. One night, quite late at night actually, almost twelve-
thirty, when one of Chhotdas friends knocked on the door, he was about to go to sleep. I was awoken by the sound of knocking. Parting the
curtains in the drawing room, I saw moonlight kissing the smooth unmoving face of a boy whose doe eyes had a sweet smile in them.
Seeing just half of my face peeping out, the boy said, Arent you Nasreen! How grown up you have become! The boys shining eyes did
not move from my face. I shyly lowered mine.
You dont remember me? I am Zubayer.
I did not make any reply. Zubayer asked, Do you like songs? In a low voice I said, Yes, I do. I was still standing when Chhotda said,
Go inside, tell Ma to make two cups of tea. Ma was sleeping, I shook her awake saying, A friend of Chhotda has come. Give them two
cups of tea. Ma turned over and said, Tell Joris mother. Joris Ma was curled up like a dog on the floor. Waking her up, I said, Make
two cups of tea. Sleepy eyed, Joris Ma went into the kitchen and stuffing dry jackfruit leaves into the oven lit the fire for the tea-water.
The water boiled but where were the tea leaves, sugar, or even the milk! Ma knew where they were. I called Ma again, Get up and make
the tea, the water is boiling.
Ma again turned to sleep, Dont bother me so late at night, Im not feeling very well.
Ma did not get up. She asked if Baba had returned. When I told her that he hadnt, she said, Hes spending the night with that woman.
Giving up, I lay flat on my bed and stared helplessly at the beams. Zubayer was singing in a wonderful voice. On the threads of silence, the
melody of the song was floating into the room. A tune that did not awaken anyone yet did not let me sleep. I wished I could listen to the
songs the whole night, completely absorbed, sitting close to Zubayer, washed in the moonlight, oblivious of the whole world. At two
oclock at night, Zubayer left after singing, I will go away soon, but never let you forget me.
The next day Chhotda came home in the evening and lay down on the bed quietly.
Why are you lying down at this odd time?
I am not feeling well.
What happened?
Yesterday Zubayer who came, my friend I was meeting him after many years.
He is very good looking and sings beautifully as well.
Early this morning Zubayer committed suicide.
Something cold, I dont know what, moved out from within my breast and spread all over my body in moments. The girl with whom
Zubayer had been in love, had been forced by her father to marry someone else, Chhotda informed me in a thin voice. Last night, Zubayer
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had not spoken one word about that girl. He had said, on such a wonderful full moon night, he had not felt like being all alone in his room.
That is why he had come out. He was dying to sing songs. When Zubayer was singing, Chhotda was sitting beside him, dozing. Zubayer
had wanted to sing more songs, but Chhotda had told him to leave as he just couldnt stay awake anymore. Suicide and love are very
closely connected. Chhotda too had swallowed poison before his marriage. He survived only because he was removed to hospital in time
and the poison was pumped out from his stomach by a tube.
I was unable to sleep for quite a few nights after Zubayers suicide. I kept thinking that piercing through the night, a song was floating
towards me, I will go away soon, but will not let you forget me.
Chapter Four
TALES OF TINY SORROWS
Baba may not have liked anything about Ma, but he was very fond of one of her limericks. In a good mood, he would ask Ma to repeat it.
Ma would laugh and while swaying from side to side, would recite it:
One paisa of oil,
On what did it get spent?
On your beard and my feet
Some more on your sons physique.
The childrens weddings took place
Songs were sung for seven days
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Some pitiable women indoors went
And none of the oil was found to be left.
Ma had windswept rough hair with no oil or soap ever used on it. She tied the strands at the back with a string, if it was available. She
normally used old ribbons discarded by Yasmin and me, if not, then a string. After a bath too, she would tie her wet hair at the back of her
neck. As a result, her hair shed even more. Ma used to have very thick long tresses at one time, now no more. She lamented their loss, but
what remained, from lack of care kept falling, but she never looked back. When Ma told me to take care of my hair, I told her, What is the
point of taking care now? My hair is like yours, thin. I told her regretfully also about my small eyes. Yasmins eyes are so beautiful; shes
inherited Babas eyes. Mine are like yours. I commented on my nose as well, My nose is not sharp. How can it be? After all, Ive
inherited it from you. If I was a little fair in complexion, it was thanks to Baba, and any darkness was because of Ma. I gradually began to
seriously believe that whatever defects there were in my appearance, were inherited from Ma. Im lucky to have got Babas chin. There is
a dimple in the chin. The girls say because of this I look pretty. Because Ive got a little of Babas looks, at least I appear human. One day,
after looking for a long time at Ma, I asked, Ma, where is your neck?
What do you mean, where is your neck?
You dont have a neck. Your chin goes straight down to your chest. You dont even have shoulders. Thats why your blouse keeps slipping
off.
Opinions on my features and physique were not a new thing in the family. Ever since I became aware of things I would find different parts
of my body, eyes, nose, ears, lips, the lengthy details of my figure, my complexion etc. being examined, seriously discussed and compared
by relatives. If anyone came visiting too, the same thing happened. In case someone saw me after a long time, they would immediately say,
Good, this girl is growing really tall. She has got her fathers physique. Or, Whats wrong? Why is she turning so dark? Eyes, nose,
ears too were critically examined and opinions were expressed on which was good or which bad, which was like Babas or like Mas or
whether like anyone from Baba or Mas side of the family. Ma too would say, Yasmins hands and feet are like her paternal aunts. When
Jhunu khala came visiting from Dhaka, she looked at me and said, Ish, eyes just like Borobu, hair definitely Borobu. Ma, after listening
for a long time to our examination of physical defects and the complaints finally said, Yes, I am of course rotten. I am dark, ugly to look
at. You all are beautiful. Well then, stay that way.
When bath soaps came home, Ma kept them for the children. She never got any herself. If body odours started she would have a bath with
washing soap. Months would pass and Baba would not send coconut oil. There was no khori. Ma would light even the oven with dried
coconut leaves and branches. These did not light very well but Baba had clearly said, You have to put only coconut leaves and branches.
Coal is very expensive. Because khori costs so much, Ma had to gather the leaves falling from the trees and store them. Rashid, the
dab-wala ,tender-coconut seller would come and would scramble quickly up the coconut tree like a squirrel being chased. Tying ropes, he
would drop tender and ripe coconuts on the ground. After which he would clear the trees, free of charge. Rashids job was to buy our
coconuts and sell them at a profit in the markets. Rashid came every three or four months to our house to buy the coconuts. After he cleared
the trees and left, there would be piles of coconut leaves in the courtyard and fields. Ma would then sit with her iron cutter next to these
huge coconut branches, and take out one stick at a time and make up brooms to sweep the courtyard, clean the bathrooms and dust the
beds. The leaves and stems would then be collected together. If it rained, she would run back and forth to heap the coconut leaves and
branches, jackfruit leaves, mango leaves, jamun leaves drying in the courtyard, onto the kitchen verandah. Mas torn sari tore even more.
The old mattress on Mas bed had torn and hard cotton lumps had come out. The mattress was heavy on one side and light on the other. If
you lay down on it, you would think you were lying on the stones on the railway tracks. Ma had been talking of a new mattress for a long
time, but who was bothered about what Ma said! Mas mosquito net had big holes. To say ours didnt have holes would be wrong, they did
but they were tiny. Ma had mended the small holes in our nets. It was not possible to mend the ones in her own mattress. Everyday Mas
body would be covered with mosquito bites. Ma spoke of a new mosquito net for quite a few years, Baba did not bother. When the net
finally came, she hung that on our bed, and hung the old hole-ridden net on her own.
While cooking at home, if one day there was salt, then there were no onions. If there were onions then there was no turmeric. If there was
turmeric then there was no oil. Baba would angrily shout whenever he heard, Not there. Didnt I just buy oil day before, where did the
oil go?
It was used in cooking.
A whole bottle of oil finished in two days of cooking?
Not two days, the oil was purchased two weeks ago.
How could one bottle finish even in two weeks?
Do you know how much cooking is being done?
Stop the cooking. There is no need to cook anymore.
Im not worried about myself. What will the children eat?
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The children dont need to eat. They are not exactly overwhelming me with any great happiness. It is better not to have children than have
this kind.
Mas life did not attract me in any way, Babas did. Baba had a lot of power. If he wanted to, he could starve all of us. If he wished to, he
could also give us all the satisfaction of a well-fed stomach. If he desired, he could keep everyone on their toes with fear, or he could
himself speak and laugh and make everyone happy. Nothing was done in the house according to Mas wishes. Mas world was very small.
Apart from the torn saris, torn mosquito nets, torn blankets, lumpy mattresses and the blowing into an earthen stove, Mas life was also an
oilless-soapless existence. With this life, she sometimes ran to a Peers house. Sometimes to Nanibari. Apart from these two houses, Ma
had nowhere else to go. At home, the only regular visitor for Ma was Nana. When Nana visited towards afternoon, Ma would scrub him,
give him a bath and make him lie down after a meal. Whenever there was no fear of Baba coming home, Ma would make Nana sit for a
meal. Even if we saw Nana eating, Ma would get very embarrassed. Before saying anything else she would state, Im feeding Bajaan my
portion. Now, no one ever came from Peerbari. Whichever other house they might visit, they would not go to a kafirs house. If any mama
or khala came home, Baba would look at them sharply. That Baba did not like any of them visiting was clear, not only to Ma, but to us too.
If any relative of Ma visited, Baba would call aside the servants and find out whether Ma had given them anything or not. Whether she had
fed them, and if so, what did she serve, so on and so forth. The servants also understood that Mas relatives were unwelcome in this house.
Chhotku had got a job as Munshi in Peerbari. One day he came to Aubokash wearing a very long panjabi and skull cap. Baba had thrown
him out. When the people in Mas world began to get thrown out from this house, Ma became very lonely. She began to fill up her world
with animals and birds. Ma wanted to raise hens. Ma would relay her wishes to Baba everyday while massaging mustard oil into his body.
Baba, of course, did not call these desires, he called them nagging. Why? What will you do with hens? Hens will lay eggs, these eggs
the children will be able to eat. The eggs will hatch into chicks then they will grow.
Mas dream finally came true. As soon as Baba understood that it would be to his advantage if ten hens could be had from one, he bought
four hens for Ma. Ma made a coop for the hens with her own hands. In the morning, she would open the coop and personally feed them
tidbits. The hens walked all over the courtyard and dirtied it. Ma waited. One day the hens would lay eggs. Under Babas bed, spread out
on a jute cloth were kept onions and potatoes. Next to them, Ma placed a basket. In this basket lined with straw, a red hen roosted the whole
day. One day I saw one mother hen followed by many chicks walking all around the house, verandah and courtyard. The chicks looked so
pretty, you wanted to pick them up in your hands. Ma said, chicks didnt grow if you held them in your hands. Ma was overjoyed seeing the
chicks. But though Ma counted twelve chicks while putting them back in the coop, the next day two were missing. It was surmised that
while Ma was walking behind the hens in the courtyard, a cunning mongoose took the opportunity to catch and eat them. This mongoose
lived behind the tin shed in some hole. At sudden intervals, one could see it running.
Ma wanted to rear ducks as well. Baba snarled about the ducks too and said, Why ducks now? Ma took a long time to explain why the
ducks were needed. Baba rejected Mas proposal. Ma placed it before Nana. Nana bought two ducks and delivered them to our house. One
white duck and one brown swan. When the ducks came home, only two of the twelve chicks had survived. The others were lost to disease,
dogs and mongoose. The swan laid an egg. Ma made the red hen roost that egg. The egg hatched and a duckling emerged. The duck went
swimming in the waterhole. Behind the kitchen, just beyond the small wooden gate, on the boundary wall meant for the sweeper, was the
bathroom of Prafullas house on the left. On the right was a muddy water body covered with waterweeds. To call it a pond would be too
much, though a waterhole did not exactly describe it but it was one. A kind of waterhole, a fishless, dirty, muddy, snake and leech infested
hole. The ducklings walked alongside the chicks; they looked similar, both were yellow in colour as well. It was difficult to tell which were
ducklings and which were chicks. Mas ducks and hens did not last very long. The eggs had to be fried for people at home. As soon as the
chicks grew a little, Dada would say, The mongoose will eat them up anyway, it is better you use plenty of onions and roast a hen for me,
Ma. Ma cooked the hen and secretly wiped her tears. Whenever there were guests, someone would say, What can be served, there isnt
anything. Okay, let a hen be slaughtered. Ma would look dreamily at the hens playing and ask, How do you slaughter house reared
hens? Dada said, Say Allahoo-Akbar, slice the end of the neck and slaughter, Ma. Very simple. Mas pet hens were constantly used in
satisfying Dadas palate, in filling up our stomachs and in serving guests until none were left. Ma had never put a piece of either her pet
chicken or ducks into her own mouth. She would make roast potatoes and eat her meal. The duck and hencoop was empty before even a
month was over. Not just the ducks and hens, we constantly ate bottle-gourd, beans, pumpkin, cauliflower, cabbage, tomato and other
greens from Mas plants. Except for rice, daal, oil and salt in months and years, nothing major had to be bought from the market. Whatever
fruit Baba brought home, Ma would plant the seeds in the ground. From these planted seeds grew the dalim ,pomegranate, the fazli mango,
the star apple, the red guava, even the lychees. Suddenly, shaking herself out of her grief for the ducks and hens, Ma one day went and got
two kid-goats. Feeding them milk in bottles like human babies, Ma nurtured the kids till they were full grown goats. As soon as they grew
up, the two goats began to eat up Mas fruit trees right to the roots. Ma put barriers. The goats jumped over the barriers and extended their
overlordship. Ma desperately tried to save her trees on one hand and keep the goats happy on the other. The two goats were named Lata
,creeper and Paata ,leaf. Lata and Paata had a wonderful life eating up their namesakes wherever available. Ma cared for Lata and Paata so
much that she would bring them into her own room in case they got bitten by something while sleeping at night in the courtyard or
verandah. Mas room would be awash with the cries of the goat and their urine and faeces. I myself chose to climb up the jackfruit tree and
pluck leaves for Lata and Paata. If Lata ate jackfruit leaves, then Paata didnt. Her face would look very sad. Her name Paata got wiped out
when I began calling her Bairagi, the Stoic. Bairagi got lost one day. He was grazing in the field. Someone had opened the gate and had
come in, leaving it open. Seizing the opportunity, Bairagi left home, true to his name that meant a recluse. He had forsaken the bonds of
home and family. The whole colony was searched. He was to be found nowhere. Ma went looking in Akuas cowshed, where stray cows
and goats found on the streets were collected and kept. Not there. Ma cried her heart out, went to the Mazaar , shrine of the old Peer, across
the river and poured out money, lit a candle, and asked the blessings of the Peer, so that Bairagi would forget his renunciation and return
home. The Mazaar of the old Peer was an amazing one. It was on the banks of the Brahmaputra. A huge tomb built of stone, the grave was
almost as big as the open room it occupied and was covered in red cloth. Morning and evening there were crowds of vow-takers. I asked
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Ma who this old Peer was, what did he do, when did he pass away, why did people light candles and incense and make their wishes known
to him? Could this old Peer from the other world fulfill wishes and desires? If he could, how did he do it? Ma gave a very simple answer to
these difficult questions of mine. Of course, he can. Allah must have given him the power to do so. Otherwise, why should so many
people visit the Mazaar! Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, Christians all went. The Peer was a Mussalman but the crowd of Hindus was no
less than that of Muslims. However deep Mas belief was, the old Peer could not work the miracle. Bairagi never came back. Having lost
her companion, Lata grew very desolate as the days passed. Her filth lay scattered all over the verandah and this disgusted everyone at
home. But Ma never felt irritated. She cleaned the dirt with her own hands. She tied Lata in the courtyard, but was always scared that if she
found the gate open, like Bairagi, she too would accept worldly renunciation. Lata had the colour of a deer, if her horns were a little more
twisted and a little higher, she would have actually been mistaken for one, said Ma. I told Ma, Now dont start wishing to keep deer as
well. Ma let out a deep sigh and said, Would a deer be a creature who could accept being a pet! Mas beloved Lata, whom she had
brought up like a child, from a baby to a goat, also one day disappeared like Bairagi. Ma sat dropping tears over Latas bottle, rope, wooden
post and half eaten jackfruit leaves. Before Ma was completely over her grief, I found a red coloured cow in the house. Ma had brought her.
Where did she come from, why did she come, Baba did not go into any of these questions. Maybe Baba had a weakness for cows since his
childhood. So he did not pass any strictures banning the cow from the house. This cow would one day give birth to a calf, give sers of milk
or once it grew up, it could be sold. Baba must have thought that way. Ma very enthusiastically began to bathe and feed the cow. She waved
away flies and even placed an old blanket on her back in case she got a cold. She did practically everything. She called the milkmaid,
Bhagirathis Ma, and arranged for a basket of grass to be delivered everyday. She herself made a strong wooden post for the cow. She
named the cow Jhumri. She could just not allow Jhumri to get lost. But, the days past and the grass in Bhagirathis mothers basket began to
diminish. Ma went crazy trying to gather food for Jhumri. Since the field was converted into a kitchen garden, there was very little grass
left. Jhumri was ultimately sent by Ma to Ghagdohore, to the house of Abdus Salaam, to be looked after. In the village fields, there was
plenty of grass. Along with the other cows in Salaams house, Jhumri too would roam around and eat to her hearts content and become
healthy. For Jhumris upkeep, Ma gave Salaam some money every month. She herself went to Ghagdohore to see her beloved and stroke
her flanks. Days passed. One day, Salaam confessed with a sad face, Your cow has been stolen. Ma was never able to keep anything;
everything was always getting lost. After the cow was stolen, Ma got involved with pigeons. First, she bought some ordinary pigeons from
the market. Ma after all, could not just get something because she wished to. For months she dreamt and cajoled Baba. When Baba refused,
she appealed to her own relatives. When she failed there too, she ultimately borrowed money. Returning a loan was also not an easy task
for her. Whatever coconuts grew on her trees had to be sold to Rashid for Ma to pay back the money. When the trees she had planted after
she came to this house bore fruit, Baba sold off her coconuts like he would the other fruits, and pocketed the money. After Ma started her
hencoop, she persisted day and night, before she succeeded in wresting the right to sell her own coconuts from Baba. The ordinary pigeons
flew away the very next day. Ma stared expectantly the whole day at the open sky with food in her hands. She imitated their sounds and
called to them many times. Not only that, she sat till late at night on the verandah in the hope that since birds normally return to their nests
at night, they would too. Suppose they had lost their way to the house they might find their way back by night. Ma was not one to give up
hope. They did not return. In the outer verandah there was the nest of a dove in a winged alcove. The verandah had turned white with
dove-droppings. I had wanted to shoo them away for a long time. But Ma had said, Doves bring peace to households, do not shoo them
away. One day, Dada finding one of them within reach, caught it and called Ma. The doves are troubling us too much Ma, roast this one
for me. Let me eat it. Ma snatched the dove from Dadas hands and let it fly away, saying, You should not eat doves. If you want Ill cook
other pigeons for you, but never eat these. If you hurt doves, household peace is lost forever. After the ordinary pigeons flew away, Ma
brought home a wonderful pair of pigeons. They looked as though they were wearing socks and crowns. It was impossible to get this breed
of pigeons. Ma had searched the whole district to find them. Ma had made a wooden cage for them under the kitchen roof. The cage had a
small door with a strip of wood in front of it, like a landing. A small bowl of food was kept on this landing, the two pigeons emerged from
their room chattering, bak-bakum and ate their food. Ma had tied the wings of this pair so that they could not fly too far away. Ma had no
desire to deprive them from flying. She only wanted them to eat out of her hands, sit on the trees and plants in the courtyard, and turn the
courtyard white while walking. They could fly, but not too far. Even if they did, they would find their way back home to their pigeon house
by dusk. The pigeons laid eggs, even hatched them too. But, the baby pigeons were taken off either by the mongoose or eaten by crows
after which these two sock-and-crown sporting pigeons of good breeding just kept sitting, till they got sick. Ma was unable to treat their
ailments. After the pigeons died, Baba said, Nobody stays with this ill-fated woman. They all go. That was true, nobody ever stayed with
Ma. All of them left her and went away. In the alcove in the verandah, the doves however, continued their chatter. When I saw them, like
Dada, I too felt like eating them. Baba did not send fish or meat for over a month. I was really sick of eating vegetables and dried fish. I
told Ma that we had no option but to cook the doves now. If the children wished to eat something, Ma would always try to procure it by
whatever means. I had wanted to eat guavas one day when they were not in season. But Ma had gone all the way to a little known ladys
house, out of town, having heard her trees gave fruit out of season. She had returned with some guavas for me, however, she certainly did
not encourage my desire to eat the doves. She by-passed my wishes, because there was no way she would allow the household peace to be
disturbed.
Everyone left Ma and went away. Ma sat alone with her torn sari, unruly hair and rough skin. She tossed from side to side on her lumpy
mattress and under her torn mosquito net. Mas lungs were full of cough. She would cough and spit out the phlegm on the floor of the room
itself. I felt nauseated. Ma had wanted someone for herself, if not human then at least an animal or a bird. The humans certainly did not
stay, but neither did the animals or the birds. From morning to night, Ma cooked for us, fed us, cleaned the house and washed the clothes.
We would eat, make merry and keep busy with our studies, games, music etc. but for Ma there was no one, there was nothing. That was
how it was. Ma was to do her duty. She did too. After finishing her household duties, Ma would sit alone and read the Darood ,invoking
Mohammads name, trying to put her mind to the teachings of the Quran. That Baba had really married Razia Begum, that it was not a
falsehood, was something she kept reiterating. On her way to and from the Peers house, it seems Ma had very often seen Baba on the road
to Naumahal. I believed that whatever Ma said against Baba, she made it up. No matter how distant a person Baba was and how much I
was cowed down by his power and personality, a kind of respect for Baba remained with me. This did not die even in the very worst of
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times when I bore his boxes, blows, slaps and took the whippings on my back. Even after hearing Mas complaints, we did not react. At
least I wasnt in the habit of believing what did not happen before my eyes. I never thought of Ma as anyone but a woman of mean
understanding and one who cried unnecessarily for every little thing. Ma couldnt possibly have any brains, otherwise why did she believe
in Allah Rasool! If she did, why did she sit alone with Aman kaka in the room and whisper under the pretext of giving him advice? Baba
stopped Aman kakas visits to this house. Aman kakas wife came one day and informed Ma that her husband was working in Gaffargaon
and had recently married a woman there. Ma replied in an unaffected voice, He is a man; he will. Ma apparently had no respect for any
man. Yet, as soon as Baba called, how Ma ran to him like a hen! Mas sitting around, lying around, walking about, running and going,
everything appeared extremely disgusting to me.
Everyone was busy at home. Baba was occupied with his patients and landed property in the village. Dada was busy with his job. Chhotda
was occupied with Geeta. Geeta after roaming around the Physics department for a few days, gave up her chance of becoming a physicist,
and had poured her whole body and soul into the art of dancing. She was going to Burma with the dance troupe. I was busy with my
studies. So was Yasmin. Ma was all alone. My dark, plain looking, poverty-stricken mother! In a way, we had got used to accepting this Ma
who had nothing. Ma, who if she had a petticoat, didnt have a sari, if she had a sari didnt have a blouse. All this, we got used to seeing.
Mas oilless-thin hair would fly in the breeze. Finding no ribbon, Ma would either remove the pyjama strings or tie her hair with jute
strings. We would see her and suppress our laughter. We had even got used to our own subdued mirth. At home, Ma was almost like a
clown. The one who laughed at Ma the most was Baba. After Dada got his job, he gave Ma a sari and a petticoat. But once he thought of
getting married himself, he got so busy collecting and making household goods, plus his own suits, clothes and shoes, that he forgot
sometimes that Mas last sari for Id had torn. Ma had gone to the slum behind Nanibari and converted her torn saris into kantha covers. As
soon as it turned cool, Ma would take them out and put one on each of our beds. We overslept in the warmth of Mas kanthas, while Ma
slept under her torn cotton exposed quilt that barely covered her body. She slept on a bed that rocked every time she turned sides. Ma
dreamt of an artistically embroidered kantha. She dreamt that after making it, she would be able to lightly cover up Baba with it one night
when it was cool, and surprise him! Baba of course, was not surprised at anything Ma did. Not when Ma cooked a wonderful khichuri, not
even when she oiled her hair, wore a nice sari, and came before him with a sweet smile on her paan-reddened lips. Not even if, on a
moonlit night, she sat at her window singing, Sleepy, sleepy moon, twinkling stars, this honeyed night, has not ever come in my life
before! Babas heart was not with Ma. Ma knew that; so did we. Tired, she would lie down sometimes, in between the back-breaking
household tasks. If Baba saw Ma lying down, he would scream and bring the house down. Baba was sure that if she lay down like this, the
household would go to rack and ruin. Thieves would come and rob everything in the house. The servants would play truant at their jobs.
They would steal the meat and fish and eat them up. The girls would leave their studies and gossip. On one of the days when Baba was
screaming at Ma for lying down, Ma got up and said, I have lost a lot of blood because of piles. I am exhausted.
Baba heard and said, What a drama over nothing.
Ma had softly asked Baba many times, Is there no treatment for piles?
Baba had said, No.
So much blood is lost. The stools are full of blood. Isnt it dangerous to lose so much blood?
In a grave voice, Baba replied, No.
Ma had been wearing torn slippers for quite some time. Baba was told about buying her a pair. Baba pretended not to have heard. If Ma had
to go somewhere, she wore either mine or Yasmins slippers. In the house, verandah and courtyard, she was of course barefoot. People at
home hardly ever noticed what Ma didnt have or what she needed. A wastrel and vagabond like Nana, however, noticed Mas slipper-less
life. One day, he came bringing a pair of white cloth slippers, which he had bought for Ma. Nana had no idea that women never wore such
shoes. But Ma was delighted with the pair. She showed everyone at home the shoes her Bajaan had brought for her. That day Ma made
payesh with more sugar for Nana, even though she knew he was forbidden sweets. Nana ate, passed his hands over his daughters head and
asked for blessings so that his daughter went to behesht, heaven. Nana described the food in heaven. The food you ate once in heaven, you
could continue eating for the next forty-thousand years. Even the belch would carry the aroma. Listening to Nanas description I was sure
Nana observed Namaz and Roza only to greedily sample all the good food in heaven.
The Naumahal Peers fame had spread so much that even the rickshaw-wala did not have to be told anymore. Earlier you had to ask him
to go behind the Naumahal Chandus shop. If you now said Naumahal Peers house, the rickshaw-wala knew where to go. Earlier, Ma
used to pay four annas. The rate increased to eight annas later and even went up to one taka. Ma never had so much money that she could
afford to make frequent trips to her parents or the Peers house. Very often she had to control her desire to go. The other day, I was ready
for school when she asked, Will you drop me at the corner of the rail tracks? Looking at her from head to toe, dressed in a single folded
sari, with a faded burkha on top, and Nanas gifted white cloth shoes, I wrinkled my nose and said, You can always take another
rickshaw!
I dont have the fare.
Then take the fare.
No one would give it to me.
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Then dont go today, leave it. Go another day.
Ma did not follow my advice. There was no difference between one day and another for Ma. I had no option but to take Ma along that day.
I had to pray with all my heart and soul that there would be no familiar person on the road. Let no one see me accompanying someone
wearing a faded burkha and sock-less white shoes. After crossing C. K. Ghose Street, Ma disembarked in front of the rail tracks. Most of
the route to the Peers house was yet to be covered. The rest of the two-mile journey, she was going to walk. As soon as I reached school,
Ashrafunnisa proudly told me, I saw you coming by rickshaw. I waved to you, but you did not respond.
I never saw you.
How could you have? You were staring at the ground. You looked like a coy family bride.
What rubbish!
At the Mahakali corner, my rickshaw crossed yours. You were accompanied by your maid.
I could hear the thud in my breast. It was at the tip of my tongue to say that, No that was not a maid, it was my mother but I gulped it
down silently. I dont know who sealed my lips tightly together. The whole day, I wanted to rectify Ashrafunnisas mistake, but couldnt.
On returning from school, Yasmin whispered a secret into my ears. Some girl had told her, Your Baba has married a second time.
What did you say?
Yasmin said, I told her my Baba had not married again, it was a lie.
I too whispered back, The other day, a girl in my class told me the same thing.
Ma was sitting unhappily in the verandah. Finding me nearby she said, Your Baba has married Chakladars wife
I said, What all you say, Ma!
Yes, everyone at Naumahal said so.
Who is everyone? How do they know?
Theyve seen.
What have they seen?
They have seen the woman living in the house at Naumahal and your Baba is constantly visiting that house.
That is not new; you have suspected this for a long time.
They have seen your Baba entering with their own eyes. They have even spoken to the woman. She herself has said she is married.
Nonsense!
If it is nonsense, then why does your Baba go to the house?
He can go. Does that mean marriage?
That visiting someones house did not amount to marriage, was an argument I tried to make Ma understand. Why did I do it? Was it so that
Ma would not feel bad, or was it my deep faith in Baba that he could not possibly have done something as shocking as this? Or was it
because, Babas two marriages were so shameful to me that I was desperately trying to refuse to bear this burden of shame. I really didnt
understand.
Ma said, I had gone to Akua. I met Sohelis mother. She said she saw your Baba and Chakladars wife going to the cinema. Your father
never takes me to the cinema!
Would you go to the cinema? You were supposed to be following Allahs path! Saying this, I moved away from Ma.
In spite of Mas grumbles about Razia Begum, she still gave full attention to her cooking. She fed her husband and children. If there was no
oil or onions, she cooked without them, her face unhappy. Serving the food, she would say, How can food taste good without oil or
onions! Eat it up somehow today, Ill see tomorrow if
The next day, the oil came but not the onions. With the onions, Baba had sent a bagful of rotten Koi fish from the market. As soon as she
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opened the bag, Ma detected the smell of the rotten fish. But her children were not to stay hungry because of the smell. She tore a handful
of leaves from the lemon tree and put it in the fish curry, hoping to suppress the rotten fish smell with the scent of the lemon leaves. Greens
could not hide the smell. Maybe the scent of lemon leaves would but the very presence of lemon leaves made me suspicious. I turned up
my nose as soon as I sat down to eat. Why have you put lemon leaves, Ma? The fish must have been rotten. A sliver of a smile appeared
for a second at the corner of Mas lips and immediately disappeared. Ma put an un-broken fish on my plate and said, The fish were alive.
Swear on Allah and say they were alive.
It is wrong to swear on Allah on every instance, Ma scolded mildly.
Dada ate one and took a second fish. I moved away my plate, saying, The fish is rotten, I will not eat it.
How can the fish be rotten?
Ma called Joris Ma from the kitchen, You tell her, werent the fish jumping when you were slicing them?
Joris Ma nodded her head and said, Yes, they were jumping.
Let them. I will not eat fish. If there is something else to eat then give it to me.
Dada explained to Ma, If the fish have turned a little rotten, just fry them. If fried, they dont smell anymore.
Nasreen has the nose of a vulture, Ma said.
When Baba returned that night and was changing from his pants into his lungi, Ma asked him, For whom are you saving this money?
For whom am I saving it? Meaning? I am feeding so many people, educating them. Cant you see with your eyes?
Im not speaking of myself. I can have even a meal of only daal. Im speaking of the children! Why do you send rotten fish? They come
back hungry from school and cant even eat their rice.
Was the fish rotten?
Wasnt it? The smell almost brought down the house.
Hmm...
There are no onions either for the last one month. Is there no money even to buy onions?
Didnt I just send onions a few days back? They finished?
A few days back? Ma took some time to count on her fingers, and replied, Today is Sunday, even on the Sunday before the last Sunday,
cooking was done without onions. The Tuesday before that, you sent onions.
Why do they finish so soon? Why dont you use them economically? Do you have any idea how much onions cost in the market? You
dont earn anything. If you did you would appreciate.
Ma heaved a long sigh. Was it that she was not earning because she didnt want to?
Whenever Babas medical shop assistant, Abdus Salaam came to deliver the shopping, Ma always called him aside and questioned him.
One evening, I found her sitting in the kitchen feeding Salaam fish and rice. Salaam, eat well, whatever you may eat in the morning, you
dont get any food after that!
Mas habit of feeding this or that person was nothing new. If any hungry beggars came home, she made them sit and fed them as well. Stale
vegetables, fermented old rice, dry chillies. They blissfully ate even these. If she heard a landowner had fallen on bad days and was being
forced to beg, she would add two pieces of freshly cooked meat too. Ma was a generous person. After Salaam had eaten and left with a
happy face, Ma called Dada and me and told us, Do you know why your father buys rotten fish and sends it? Why he doesnt get oil and
onions home?
Why, Ma? Dada asked.
In the manner of Detective Kiriti Ray revealing an ancient secret, Ma said, Because he has to send provisions to two places! How can he
manage so much! That woman sends her servant to the pharmacy and your father walks to the market himself, shops and sends provisions
to her house. He has married that woman. The womans younger son even comes and sits at the pharmacy. He pays for his education. He is
actually your fathers son. Not Chakladars
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I felt uncomfortable listening to Mas accusations. So did Dada. He said, I dont know what all you keep saying, and from where you hear
all this to scream about.
From whom do I hear? Okay, why dont you go? She stays in Naumahal. Go to the womans house and see. Find out if she has married
your father or not, whether he daily sends provisions or not?
Yes! Why not? I, of course, have nothing better to do but to go to that womans house! Dada moved away from Ma. So did I. Mas
complaints were all familiar to us, as were Mas sorrows and angers. Mas shouts and screams did not arouse any sympathy in us. If
anything, they aroused only nausea.
Ma sat all alone. There was no one at home to listen to her sorrows. She called Joris Ma and said, Look Joris Ma, I have no peace in this
household. My fate was sealed the day I stopped studying, that very day. Today if I was educated, would I be slaving in my own house?
The children are all worshippers of their father. They do not even care that I am their mother.
Joris Ma did not understand Mas sorrow. In comparison to her own, Mas sorrows were nothing. She had been married into a household
of three wives. She had been traumatised by the tortures of the co-wives. Her husband had tortured her no less. After Joris birth, he
stopped giving her food. Finally he beat her and kicked her out of the house. In this household, Ma was at least getting food. The co-wife
stayed in another house. Not in the same. To Joris Ma, Mas house seemed to be a lovely golden one.
At Mas words, Joris Ma would heave deep sighs. Im sure they were false.
Even in so much sorrow, Ma still decorated the house. She would rearrange the furniture. I liked this exercise of Mas. The rooms always
looked new. It felt as though a new life was starting. Not just the house, Ma beautified the courtyard and the field as well. She always
decorated them with greens and vegetables, fruit and flower trees. Every season had a different variety. For those trees that were leaning
over, a barrier of bamboo sticks was put up. The grass was weeded, the earth was dug up and put back all by Ma herself. Ma loved
vegetables and she insisted on reciting verses while feeding us. She always tried to give us fresh fruit and vegetables. Ma thought we would
happily dance and eat our greens if we heard her rhymes. Ma was also under the impression that like her, we too, had a special weakness
for vegetables planted with her own hands. The whole year around while serving vegetables she would say, Bottle-gourd from the plants,
beans, tomatoes from the plants, this from the plants, that from the plants.
One day at mealtime I caught Ma as soon as she said, Gourd from the plants.
What do you mean? Bottle-gourd is grown on plants only, as though gourds grow otherwise!
Ma said, These are grown on plants, not bought.
Are gourds that are bought grown below the ground?
Rubbish! Why should gourds grow underground?
That means they do grow on plants.
Of course!
Then why do you keep saying it? Even the gourd bought from the markets grows on plants.
Arrey, these are from the home garden.
Then say so. From the home garden. You cant even speak properly.
I am illiterate, I have not studied. You are educated. You can speak correctly, Ma said haltingly. Mas regrets about her lack of education
were lifelong. Just before my SSC exams, when I was bent over a table full of books and notebooks, Ma in a small voice said, If I could
have only taken the SSC privately.
I laughed, At this age you want to take the SSC?
So many people do.
During the disturbances, many people even older than me took the exam. The Government passed them all. That Chakladars wife cheated
in the exams during that time and qualified the SSC. Your father only made her take the exam.
That was true. After Independence in December 1971, the first SSC exam held had allowed anyone and everyone, any age, any
qualification to take the exam privately. There was mass-scale cheating. In that mass cheating, Razia Begum had sailed through.
Now you cant cheat, how will you pass?
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Why should I cheat?
Then how will you pass?
I will study and pass.
Suppressing a bellyful of laughter, I said, Will you remember what you learn?
Why not, I will.
You are always searching all over the house for keys which you are holding in your hands. How will you remember?
If youd just help me a little with maths, you will see I will qualify. Bangla and English are no problem. History and geography I will
learn by rote.
Mas eyes shone with dreams. The dreams remained in the eyes. With dreamy eyes she said, If I could take the exams I would surely pass.
I used to be the first girl in the class. I came first in every exam. Even when I got married, my school masters had told me, Dont give up
your studies, Idul.
Without any hesitation, I told Ma that she would never understand these difficult subjects; that those times of turmoil were no more there;
that one could not do just what one wanted today. Also, that she was too old. At this age if she took her SSC, people would laugh. Ma
sighed deeply. Her pride at having been the best student of her school at one time was now hidden under the embarrassment of old age. Ma
went and sat alone in another room. There, she talked by herself to the wind blowing through the room.
It reached Babas ears that Ma dreamt of taking her SSC exam. Baba laughed aloud. So did we. The whole of Aubokash rang then with the
sounds of laughter. Ma gradually began to shrink. Since the floor of this house was made of strong bricks, Mas dreams fell on it and broke
like glass. Ma finally satisfied her desire to study in another way. At Peerbari, girls learnt Arabic. There was no age restriction. A girl could
begin learning at any age. Ma came home from Peerbari with about three Arabic language books. Taking money from Nani, she bought big
register copies. On those copies she neatly wrote out the Arabic grammar according to the rules and regulations, just the way we had learnt
the English language, He plays, he is playing, he has played, he played, he was playing, he had played, he will play. Mas Arabic
handwriting was as beautiful as her Bangla.
What will you do with learning Arabic, Ma? I asked.
She smiled sweetly and said, I will be able to read Allahs teachings. I will be able to understand and read the Quran Hadith.
We had exams before us, but we did not study as much as Ma did. She sat up nights and studied. Ma had no letters to write, no gossip. Baba
noticed Mas studies. One day, as soon as he returned home, he called, All students, come here.
Yasmin and I went and stood before Baba. Baba scolded us, Where is the oldest student of the house?
I was stunned. I thought I was the oldest student of the house. Couldnt Baba see me? I stopped twisting the curtain in my fingers and came
before Babas eyes so he could see me clearly. Of course, unless you stood right before him, he did not consider it correct.
Looking at me, he said, Call the oldest student.
Im here only, I said.
Baba said, Are you taking your Ph. D.?
No.
Then go and call the one taking her Ph. D.
I still couldnt get who Baba was referring to. Yasmin was sharper than me in such things. She stood at the threshold and called, Ma, come
quickly. Baba is calling. Ma closed her books and copies and came before Baba. Holding the shopping list Ma had given in his hand, Baba
asked her, How did the salt finish?
Ma said quietly, In the cooking.
What great feast are you cooking that two and a half sers of salt finished in two days?
If you are so interested in knowing, sit in the kitchen and watch how it finishes.
Have you any idea of the price of salt?
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Ma made no reply.
Baba gritted his teeth and said, I will only buy salt next month. This month you all will have to eat without salt.
I can eat without salt, your children cant. They all need extra salt on their plates, saying so Ma went away. On the table in the verandah,
Mas books and copies were scattered, the pages fluttering in the breeze.
After returning at night, Baba called Joris Ma and in a low tone asked her, Accha, does Nomans mother remove onions, garlic, rice,
daals, oil etc.?
Who knows? I dont.
You havent seen her taking anything away?
There are so many things she takes.
What does she take?
How can I see what she puts in her bag? I am a servant, I do my work.
Does she take her bag and go out?
Of course, she does. Wherever she goes, she always carries one.
How big is her bag?
A bag is never small; it is always big.
On her return from Babas room, Ma asked Joris Ma, What did he call and ask you?
He wanted to know if you carried provisions to your parents house.
What did you say?
I said I didnt know all that.
Ma flared up. You dont know? Dont my parents have provisions? Has my father turned into a roadside beggar? Even now, the cooking at
my house is done in huge utensils. There is no dearth of food there. Our father may not have built a house, but he never deprived us of food
and clothing. He buys big Rahu fish, Bangash fish, Katla fish and brings them home. He does not send rotten fish. In fact, its the reverse. I
bring money home from my mother. He is making such untruthful allegations about me. Allahs wrath will fall on him. This wicked mans
pride will be destroyed.
Ma angrily muttered through half the night. Joris Ma sat cross legged on the floor and listened to her.
The next day, Baba went into the kitchen, opened the cupboard and checked what provisions were there. Detailed accounts of what had
been bought and when and when what had finished were taken by Baba. As the accounts did not match, Baba got a big lock and put it on
the kitchen cupboard. Now whenever anything was required, he would open the lock and give it out. Baba left with the keys in his pocket.
From the next day, before leaving home, he would call Ma, open the cupboard, tell her what to cook and measure out the required
provisions to her.
In the evening he did the same for the dinner. That is how it went along.
Ma remained alive like a mother. I hardly saw her. When I sat at the study table, Ma left a glass of hot milk, in the afternoon there was
sherbet. I saw the milk and sherbet, not Ma. Ma would come out of the toilet and collapse on the stairs, unable to stand because her head
was spinning. To the question, What is wrong? she would reply in a broken voice, The bleeding because of the piles is too much, I feel
weak. I never noticed Mas health or weakness. I only picked up the word piles.
What is piles, Ma?
A lump forms in the anal canal, and then if you are constipated, it bleeds.
What is the treatment?
I have asked your father so many times for some treatment. He never does tell me anything.
Hmm.
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That is why I say, have wood apple sherbet, vegetables in greater quantities. You dont want to eat them at all. How will your stools
remain soft if you do not eat vegetables! You too are constipated. If your stools remain soft, you do not get the Arsho disease.
What is Arsho?
Just another name for piles.
That means the signboards we see on the streets Here there is treatment for Arsho that means this disease?
Yes.
Ma slowly got up from the stairs and went to her room. She lay down on the bed with her face turned to the beams. She was very weak. I
sat in the next room and thought about the word Arsho, and kept wondering how such a dirty disease could have such a wonderful name!
That was Mas life. We were as used to seeing this life, as Ma was used to living it. One day on hearing the sound of the black gate I ran out
only to see Ma speaking to a stranger and then closing the gate.
I asked her who had come.
Someone came looking for Kamaal.
Who? What was his name?
I dont know. I didnt ask.
What did he say?
He asked me who I was. I said no one. I worked in this house.
Why did you say that?
This boy may have got shocked to hear I was Kamaals mother. I am wearing such a dirty torn sari.
I kept shut. Maybe Ma was right in telling a lie, I thought. Ma had saved Chhotdas reputation. If Ma had said she was Kamaals mother, I
feared that when the boy met Chhotda he would have said, I saw a maidservant in your house. She said she was your mother! The
audacity of maidservants is really increasing nowadays.
I could neither accept Ma nor reject her. Ma cooked for us, fed us even before we were hungry, saved us from Babas spankings saying,
Girls are the households Lakshmis, it is not correct to beat them. They are only there for a few days; they will go away to another home.
We survived because of Mas intervention no doubt, but the phrase will go away to another home inflamed me so much, that my anger
was more at my mild and mellow mother than at my ferocious father.
What does go away to another home mean?
You have to go away. Wont you have to, when you get married?
No, I dont have to.
How can that happen?
It happens. Of course, it does.
Does anyone live her whole life at her parents?
They do. I do. I will.
Whenever I heard the word marriage, my whole body rose in revolt.
Once a girl gets married, she becomes anothers, Ma. Girls are like guests in their fathers home. Love and take care of them as much as
you can. No one knows what is in their fate, happiness or sorrow!
Even though spoken in a soft tone, Mas words pierced me like poisonous arrows. First I am born then my roots spread, all these years I
live close to her, and it seems I belong to others. Whereas the boys who were always away, left the house after marriage, or were immersed
in dreams of getting married, were more hers than I was! For me, however cruel my Baba was, and ugly and illiterate my Ma, misbehaved
and garrulous my sister, I could not think of them as third persons. They were the people closest to me. Some strange person would come
along and become more close to me than them! Impossible! I purposely pushed Ma away, closed the door on her face with a bang.
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Ma give me my food, Ma where are my clothes, where for heavens sake is my bath soap, Ma. Even when I had no rickshaw fare, I took
rides relying on Ma to pay for them, when I reached home. Ma give me three taka, or Ma dear, I think I am getting a fever. This was
enough to make Ma touch my forehead, make me lie down, cover my shaking body with a warm quilt, call for Baba to come and check my
fever, and give me medicines. Apart from these minor matters, I did not think I required Ma for anything else in my life.
When Baba opened the black gate, I recognized the sound wherever I was in the house. If I had a doubt I looked out of the window to see if
it was him. If it was Baba, then I would run back to my place. The problem was that if he found us sitting before our books at two thirty in
the afternoon, he guessed we had only sat down on hearing him come. Then the opposite happened, before the words of wisdom, came the
curses. Of course, if it was before the exams, then whether two in the afternoon or night, we were to be only sitting there. Baba said, Put
glue on the chair and sit, stay awake and study. Baba came at two thirty. When he did, it was not just for me to be alert, but to alert
everyone else as well. As for me, I could afford to leave my study room to have a bath. Baba felt baths and meals in the afternoons were
permissible. Yasmin on the other hand might be sitting on the topmost branch of the mango tree, in the kitchen or on the terrace. These
things Baba would never allow. If he saw anything he did not like, there would be mayhem at home. Yasmin would definitely get a beating.
I too would not be spared. To avoid this I alerted all. In fact anyone who spotted him had the unwritten responsibility to call out as quickly
as possible, running in from one end to the other, so that wherever one was, one had the time to get back to places acceptable to Baba. For
instance, if the maid was resting in the veranda, she would enter the kitchen and begin to wash the utensils, or go to the tap to fill water or
do something else. Baba just could not stand anyone sitting or lying down. When the warning came, Yasmin left the crowns she was
making out of coconut leaves piled in the courtyard and ran into the room. No one had the time to find out who had heard the warning or
who hadnt. Before one knew where others had gone, one had to take a quick decision about oneself. One had to look after ones own
interest first, after all! After giving the warning, when I was walking towards the bathroom with my towel hanging from my shoulder, I
found Ma who had been eating, stop, run into the kitchen to keep her half eaten plate and wash her hands. I entered the bathroom, Yasmin
sat down to do sums and Ma took rice in the wicker tray to clean in preparation for the dinner. After coming out of the bathroom, I asked
Ma in a low voice, Has Baba gone?
He is lying down.
Werent you eating? What made you get up?
Ma, while removing the woodworms from the rice said, Your father has never been able to tolerate my eating.
You cant be alive if you dont eat! Doesnt Baba know that?
He does. However, he gets very irritated if he sees me eat before his eyes.
Just as we would stop playing out of fear of Baba, Ma would stop eating.
After feeding everyone, Ma would sit to eat in the kitchen very late, and whoever was around, maid or daughter, sat with her. This was a
sight I was used to. Even at other times, during functions and festivals too, Ma never sat to eat with her husband and children. Why this
was so, no one had asked so far. This was obviously not a question bothering anyones mind, hence, they hadnt. When we ate, Ma would
stand beside us and serve us. Thats what Ma did and that is what suited her as far as Baba knew and so did we. Ma cooked and served very
well, was what everyone believed.
Very often I returned home from school in the evening and ate something because I was hungry. Ma would then be eating her lunch,
mixing her rice. I would see a somewhat embarrassed smile at the corner of her mouth. She would take her plate elsewhere or wash her
hands saying she would eat later.
I would laugh and say, Why did you get up? Are you shy?
Ma gave no answer. Ma somehow never could eat except secretly, she never could. She really felt shy to eat in front of others. If Baba
came home of course, Ma did not even eat secretly. Baba had the habit of ferreting out details from every nook and corner. Therefore, no
secrets were possible. Even if Baba were lying down, you could not think of playing or chatting, because one could never guess when he
would get up, and roam the whole house pussy-footed. Consequently, if he was at home, even fast asleep, no one ventured to do anything
Baba might not approve of.
Baba would come home in the evenings without warning. On one such day no one heard the black gate opening, and hence, no warning
was called out either. Baba entered the kitchen to find Ma eating.
How much do you eat? Whole day there is only eating and eating. The fat in your body is increasing with your incessant eating.
Ma heard this, and putting her plate away, washed her hands.
I heard Baba, so did everyone else at home. To us, it was like Baba telling us when wed been dozing at our study tables late at night, How
can you feel so sleepy? Whole day you sleep. How much rest do your bodies require? One whack on the back and all this rest will vanish.
With Chhotda, discussions on art and literature were as engrossing as they were on politics.
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Accha Dada, why did Major Dalim, Rashid and Farookh have to leave the country after the coup?
Arrey, underneath that coup, another coup had taken place. Then Dalim and all had no power.
And Safiullah? He was the Chief of the Army Staff, why didnt they kill him? He was on the side of Mujib.
Mujib had phoned him at night, to send the army to Number Thirty-Two his residence. Safiullah called Zia. Early morning, Zia came and
said, No need to go to Number Thirty-Two. Safiullah could do nothing.
Safiullah had understood by then that Zia was not following his orders.
How could he not! Safiullah was then almost under house-arrest. No one was following the Army Chiefs orders.
Who made Zia the Army Chief? Mushtaq? Or did Zia make himself the Chief?
They all were in the conspiracy.
Khaled Musharraf, who put Zia into jail and took over the powers, was himself killed three days later by Colonel Taher. Then why did Zia
kill Colonel Taher? Colonel Taher had after all revolted for the benefit of Zia.
Taher had wanted to remove Khaled Musharraf and form a national government. He did not want Zia.
Colonel Taher was a Muktijoddha ,fighter in the Liberation Army. He even lost a leg in the war. Can a fighter injured in battle be hanged?
Achha, has any leader ever been hanged till today?
No. This was the first hanging of a Muktijoddha after the Independence of Bangladesh.
I cant really understand Major Dalims differences with Zia.
The law and order in the army had completely broken down then. Zia had imprisoned Safiullah in Bongo Bhavan, and declared himself
General. Some supported him, others went against him.
Did Dalim go against?
No. He sent Dalim abroad mainly because Zia had not wanted anyone who had been directly involved in the coup to be around him. Once
you got used to doing coups, you wanted to do them repeatedly.
So he removed the risk?
Yes, you can say that. Before going he had Dalim kill many in jail. Four leaders were killed. He also sent the others on excellent
assignments. Dalim was made Ambassador. Dalim was happy, and Zia got what he wanted.
Ma suddenly entered our discussion and said Dalim? Dalims are ripening on the tree, why dont you eat one!
I burst out laughing.
Arrey we are discussing politics, not the Dalim on the tree.
What about politics?
You wont understand.
All you have to do is make me understand.
Do you understand coup? Coup?
Coup? In the dark of night, when the Nations government is slaughtered, that is called coup isnt it?
Mas words irritated me so much, that I said Go now, Ma! You do not have the capacity to understand such discussions.
Ma went out. There were beggars sitting on the verandah. Sitting with them and sighing deeply, she listened to the details of their miserable
lives. She understood their talk, they understood hers. Someones house had been washed away by floods, anothers father left home and
never came back, someones husband had died, another was blind, or handicapped. Someones uterus had come out of the body. Ma gave
special attention to Dulus Ma, whose uterus had come out. Instead of a handful, Ma gave her a quarter kilo of rice. If she saw her hungry
face, she would come forward and say, Dulus Ma, have something to eat. That day too, while I was having a serious discussion about
politics in Chhotdas room, Ma was feeding Dulus mother. After eating the rice and vegetables given to her at the verandah, Dulus Ma
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raised her hands to bless Ma. Allah, give her as many years of life as there are hair on my head. Keep her happy, who has fed me. The one
who gave peace to my soul, give her the same peace, Allah. May she live always in peace and happiness with her sons and daughters!
Ma listened to Dulus Mas blessings with an utterly expressionless face.
Chapter Five
LEISURE
My joy new no bounds once the exams got over. I had unlimited time to do whatever I wished. Watch movies, read storybooks, recite
poetry, write verses. However, Baba ordered that no film magazines were to be read. All third rate magazines carrying pictures of film
heroes and heroines were banned at home. If one wanted to read, one had to read good journals. Only journals that helped to increase our
knowledge were allowed. So, what was the name of this good knowledge disseminating journal? I was very curious to know; at that point I
was not particularly critical of any thing. Given a chance, I could read the whole world. The journal of Babas choice was called Begum. It
started coming regularly to our house. In one day I read the magazine from cover to cover. I learnt how to cook different dishes, to style
hair, to grow fruits or flowers in the garden. There was also information about decorating rooms, childcare, even husband care. The next
week, the same sort of things appeared in Begum. I didnt read half of it, and less than half, in the third week. It is not that Begum remained
untouched subsequently. In fact our interest in it increased to the extent that the pages tore due to excessive handling. It was Dada who
made Begum popular. The minute he saw a copy with the hawkers, he swooped down on it and was the first to pick it up. Then he began
pouring over it. Not only did he do so himself, he made the entire household follow suit. It had even happened that five to six black heads
had spent a whole afternoon pouring over Begum. Even when the other heads moved away, Dadas remained. During the lazy evening,
right through the night, after all others were asleep, Dada poured over the pictures of groups of girls. Whoever wrote for Begum, whether
stories, poems, articles on human or plant care, had their photographs published on one page. To be able to see twenty to twenty five
photographs of girls at one go was not a matter of joke. Nothing else gave Dada the joy that Begum did. Every week he would choose a girl
from its pages. The very next week this girl was rejected and another chosen. Actually if in the next weeks edition he found some one
better than his last weeks choice, then things became complicated. Unable to decide whom to send a marriage proposal to, he would wait
for the next weeks copy, just in case he found someone even better. Once he chose a beautiful girl named Dilshad Noor, but on reading this
line in her poem The one who has gone is not returning. If he does, I will lay my head on his breast and sleep, Dada pouted and said
No, I cant marry this one.
Why not? I asked.
Cant you see shes waiting for some fellow!
Arrey this is only a poem.
So what if it is a poem!
If you write in a poem that you are flying in the sky, are you really doing so?
Even if I am not flying in the sky, I am in my mind. In poetry, you write what you feel.
So Dilshad was rejected. When he rejected anyone, Dada looked very despondent. As though the most difficult to capture bird had just
flown out of his hands. Of course, in Sultanas case Dada hadnt felt that way. Dadas pen friend Sultana, had sent him a photograph of
herself, sitting on a mora ,wicker stool, wearing a sari. Dada spent many sleepless nights with that photograph, before he decided that this
was the girl he wanted to marry. He had bought new clothes, a new perfume, and a pair of shoes. Spending two and half hours in the
morning, he bathed, dressed in his new clothes, poured half the bottle of perfume on himself and left for Dhaka. On hearing a knock on the
door at night, I found Dada standing outside, biting his lips. All of us surrounded him. What happened? Dada had still not removed his
teeth from his lips. When he did, he said in great relief, I have really had a great escape.
Why?
If there is anything really ugly in this world it is that woman.
What are you saying? She looked quite pretty in her photograph.
Oof! If only you had seen her. A dark, scar faced woman, frail and old. When she laughed, her protruding teeth came out like a rakshas
,witch . Her gums were as black as the underside of a pot. I had never seen a hag before, I have just seen one today.
Why, I saw she had long hair way below her hips!
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Hair? What use is long hair to me?
After a pause he said, I think she wore a wig for the photograph. One of her protruding front teeth was also false.
Dada had carried some presents for Sultana in gift wraps. They came back unopened. Not having eaten the whole day, Dada gobbled his
food, washed off the grime of his journey and took a long nap.
Casting aside his dreams of Sultana, Dada began concentrating on Begum from the next day again. I told the hawker of Begum to deliver
Chitrali, Purbani and Bichitra as well. However, now that I did not have school, there was no rickshaw fare to save from, there were not
even any papers at home to sell to the glassbottlepaperwala and earn a few coins. I was dying to read the magazines, but where was I to
find the money to buy them! Like people normally depend on Allah, I depended on Dada. Of course, Dada was not always sympathetic.
Dada was not only not worthy of being compared to the benevolent Allah, he was a reputed miser. Where the rickshaw fare was two taka,
he would put an eight anna coin in the rickshaw-walas hand and send him off with a rebuke. Not only did those at home hear Dada
screaming at the rickshaw-wala, so did the whole neighbourhood. This did not bother Dada. In his language, he had been paying eight
annas till yesterday.
Just the other day? Ma would say, That was five years ago.
To Dada, five years seemed just yesterday.
If Ma had money with her, she gave the rickshaw-wala four instead of two taka. In case the rickshaw-wala described his penury on the way,
then Ma would give him not only money, but on reaching home, she would choose a ripe and hardened coconut from the pile under the cot.
Giving it to him, she would say, Eat it with your children. Seeing the way Ma behaved, Dada remarked, Ma is a duplicate of Nana.
Whatever she has, she gives away to people.
Dada had certainly not inherited Mas nature. Dadas mind always told him that everyone in the world was out to cheat him. Hence, he too
tried various methods of doing the same. It was Dadas habit to bargain at the shops. Everyone did, but no one could beat Dada at it. I
would always be very embarrassed when I accompanied Dada to the shops. If asked for fifty, most people would try and bring it down to
thirty or forty. When Dada heard the price fifty, he would say, Will you give it for three? The shopkeeper would stare at him
open-mouthed. What on earth was the connection between fifty and three! Dada would then progress from three to three and half and
upward. The shopkeeper would finally agree to twenty or twenty-one. He agreed alright, but also told him off, I have seen many
customers, bhai, but never one like you. You have cheated me. Forget a profit I havent even got my cost price.
I did depend on Dada, but when his stinginess crossed all limits, I had no option but to follow in Chhotdas footsteps. Since Dada normally
took at least an hour in the bathroom, my trembling hand entered the pocket of his trousers hanging on the rack in his room. As soon as my
initiation in this skill was completed through Dada pockets, my hand began to enter Babas pockets as well. Now not only my hands, but
my heart too trembled. Even though the pickings were never more than five or ten taka, I had to hang my head in shame. I got no peace.
Later, this skill oppressed Yasmin as well. Dadas anger at Chhotda increased day by day. Before leaving home, Dada had now begun to
lock his medicine chest inside his cupboard. But it was not possible to lock ones room all the time. If Dada was at home the door was
always open. At such times, as soon as Dada was out of his room, Chhotda would send us to get medicines out of his chest. Since it might
be dangerous to bring the medicine out in our hands, we were ordered to pass them from under the door. The green wooden doors in Dada
and Chhotdas rooms had gaps enough to pass through capsules and tablets, if not bottles. Chhotdas single-minded Bahini ,workforce
constituted of Yasmin and me, showed exemplary courage in regularly conducting these operations. One day Dada came to know. He
closed the gap in the door with a plank bought to size from the woodshop. Not that there was any ebbing in the medicine flow even after
this. We became used to not only smuggling out capsules and tablets, but even medicine bottles under our loose clothes.
In gentlemans language, it could be called the war of the Haves against the Have-nots. In spite of all these, Dada was unable to build up
a snake and mongoose relationship with Chhotda. This was because of his bone-cracking malady. This malady conferred amazing
pleasure on Dada. The sound produced by bones grazing against each other created sweet musical tremors in his ears. Dada cracked every
bone he had in his body everyday. He produced sounds from every bone in his fingers by pulling the joints in all directions possible. He did
the same with all the toes. He then needed to crack all the bones in his spinal column. With one hand on one chin and the other on his
head, he would jerk the head first to the right, then to the left, and crack the bones in his neck. Dada could do this himself, but with
Chhotdas help the job was done even better. The minute he found Chhotda close by, he would lie upside down on the bed or floor. He
would then extremely solicitously keep calling out to Chhotda. Come on Kamaal, give me a pull, please. It seemed that if asked to touch
Chhotdas feet, he would be willing to do even that. Chhotda would hold the flesh above Dadas spine tightly, and jerk it upwards. Crack!
Beginning from the nape of his neck, he would crack every vertebrae right down till the buttocks. Once hed finished cracking the
vertebrae on Dadas spine, Chhotda would lie down in a similar fashion. Then Dada would do him the same favour.
With the object of remaining faithful to his plan of boycotting Chhotda, Dada one day called me to crack his back bones. I did not have the
same magic in my hands. Even using every ounce of strength in me to pull Dadas flesh upwards, I failed to move even a single bone. Go
girl, you cant do it; call Kamaal. Perforce, Chhotda came to administer medicines for Dadas malady. Not just on his own, Dada pounced
on other peoples bones as well. He could never figure out how people could survive without having their bones cracked. Once after
cracking the little fingers and toes of my hands and feet with excruciating pain, Dada had caught hold of my neck in order to crack those
bones. When he jerked my neck to the right, I screamed with pain and ran away from him. He ran behind me saying that the pain would
increase if he did not crack the other side as well. I certainly did not allow Dada to touch the other side. Apart from this bone-cracking
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malady, Dada suffered from another ailment, called flatulence, passing wind through the anus. This was so frightful that instead of
providing food for other peoples laughter, it developed into a cause for irritation. Ma said Nomans stomach condition has not improved
even today. Since his birth, he has suffered from stomach upsets. To gauge whether it was judicious to enter Dadas room or not, I had to
extend my nose first instead of my feet. His flatulence caused no end of trouble. Just when an adda would be getting interesting, thanks to
the terrible odour, except for Dada everyone else had to come away covering their noses and mouths. Dada would be reading from
Rabindranaths Golpoguchcho to which I would be intently listening. Just then, thanks to the same reason, I would have to leave, while
Dada was left alone with the book in his hand. If anyone beat even Dada in this, it was Borodada. Once on observing Dadas flatulence, he
had challenged him. Lets compete. If Dada blew down the room, Borodada blew down the house. The sounds and smells had thrown all
of us as far as possible. At one point, because of scarcity of gas in his stomach, Dada was unable to create any sounds in spite of his best
efforts. Borodada happily crowned himself King of Sounds. Dada became so desperate to win the challenge that he began to contract his
whole body, in a superhuman effort to produce at least one sound, however soft. Borodada warned him, Dont strain too much, you will
defecate. Definitely something unbecoming must have occurred that day, otherwise why had Dada retreated from the battlefield and run
towards the bathroom!
If one overlooked Dadas reprehensible habits, he was not a bad human being, or so I thought. Sometimes things would suddenly fall
through the cracks in his miserliness. In Babas stinginess there were no chinks, no chance of anything ever falling through. This time,
Dada bought Yasmin and me satin cloth and not landir maal to make our Id dresses. When Ma was making them for us, Dada had only one
request. Please make them in the same design Sheila had made earlier. Ma did exactly that. Like Sheila, Ma too made the same scalloped
design at the neckline. Dada was not satisfied. He thought Sheilas were better made. Clicking his tongue, Dada said, Its okay. But not
exactly like Sheilas. Since some of the satin cloth had remained unused, I took Dada with me and gave Chandana the rest of it, to make a
dress for herself. On returning from Chandanas house, Dada said Dont you have any normal friends apart from these Garo, Chakma,
Mog, Murang and Hajong people?
What do you mean by normal? Is Chandana abnormal?
Of course she is abnormal.
There is no one as normal as Chandana.
Chandana is not bad. If only she had had a sharp nose I could have married her. But...
But, what?
Shes a Chakma, a low caste Buddhist!
So what if shes a Chakma?
No way! Am I going to finally marry a Chakma? What will people say?
What people will say comes later, how did you presume that just because you want to, Chandana would marry you?
Dada laughed uproariously, as though I was cracking a joke.
In her whole life, will she ever get some one as eligible as me?
Yes, Chandana has better things to do than to marry you!
After remaining silent for a long time, Dada said, Your friend Dilruba was beautiful. Pretty girls dont remain available for very long.
They get married while they are still in school. Those girls who are studying IA, BA, MA, are the ugly unmarried ones.
If he was in a good mood, Dada bought presents for Yasmin and me, even apart from Id. Once he bought stone necklaces for us. He then
took us to the Chitrarupa Studio, with our necklaces around our necks. Making us stand on either side of him, he had a photograph taken of
our smiling faces. Chitrarupa Studio was on Durgabari Road. At anytime of the day, Dada would go there and tell Chittaranjan Das, Dada,
take such a picture of mine that it can be framed. Dada was a good friend of Chittaranjan. For many years he had been taking Dadas
pictures in various poses. They varied from pictures of him with a false telephone receiver at his ear, reading a magazine on a sofa besides a
big vase, with legs crossed, offering a false sweet picked up with a fork and spoon from a saucer to some one, smiling sweetly, to those
with his hand on the model of a tiger or a lion, the backdrop being either the false picture of a sea or a mountain. He had even dressed him
up like an intellectual and photographed him. He was made to wear panjabi and pyjama with a shawl, a pair of thick black-framed
spectacles on his nose, sitting on a wicker chair, with a copy of Rabindranaths Shesher Kabita in his hand. Chittaranjan Das arranged our
positions according to his wishes. I was made to stand on Dadas right with his hand on my shoulder. On Yasmins shoulder was Dadas
other hand. He gave detailed instructions about where Yasmin and I were to keep our hands, which way to turn our faces, how much to
smile and what kind of a smile whether with teeth exposed or suppressed. Bright arc lights fell on our faces. He put his eye to the camera
placed on a tall stand and saw how we looked, testing whether there were any faults or not. Coming forward, he moved our chins a little to
the left or right with his two fingers. In case there were any loose strands of hair on our foreheads, he gently moved them away. While
standing below these bright arc lights with a false smile fixed on my face, I began to sweat and the distressed look in my eyes was
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expressive of something similar to Deliver me, O Lord, from this torture. Chittaranjan Das had repeatedly told us that we had to hold our
smiles at all costs. After looking through the camera he left it again, to come and straighten the sleeve or frill on my dress, or to remove any
crease falling near my neck or chest. After all this, it took almost half an hour to take one photograph. However, whatever the time taken,
Dada found this photograph the best. Dada would frame his outstanding pictures and decorate with them the walls of his room. He would
examine his own photographs from all angles and distances and state, Say, why wouldnt the girls go mad? Have you seen my looks?
Dada was handsome, we all acknowledged, but the minute he took off his trousers and wore his lungi, his extremely repulsive nature was
revealed. Dada had a very big black mark on his right arm. He, of course, told us that in his childhood a python had walked over his arm
leaving the mark. For a long time thinking that the birth mark was a python mark, I used to recoil with fear. A birth mark was nothing
special, everyone had one kind or other. However, wearing his lungi, when he would start scratching himself between his thighs with his
legs apart, then Dada certainly did not look like a handsome man. If one saw what he did after this, it not only aroused nausea, it actually
made one vomit out everything in ones stomach. Rubbing off the dirt on his body, he would roll it into small black balls, and before
throwing them, he would sniff at them. Even meat particles stuck between his teeth would be made into balls and sniffed at.
Ma said, Noman, why do you sniff at these? We too reproached him about it. Sometimes he even asked us to sniff at his dirt balls. Once
when I asked for digestive tablets, he very seriously handed out three globules for me to swallow. They looked like pills, and I was about to
take them, when Yasmin came running in a frenzy, and said, Those are Dadas filth. I had to run to the bathroom to vomit.
Dada was in service. He was paid a handsome salary at the end of the month. He attended company meetings well-dressed in suits and
boots. He had even received awards as the companys best representative. Unfortunately, however high Dada rose in his career, his bad
habits remained unchanged. A small man with big, big airs. Our small wishes, if not immediately, were fulfilled by him at some time.
Almost every evening when from the terrace, I saw a boy dressed in a white shirt and brown trousers and felt attracted, I thought why cant
I wear the same kind of clothes! Baba had never been forthcoming in fulfilling our desires, Dada was the only one. I got Dada to buy me
white Tetron cloth and even brown cloth to make the trousers. Hearing my wish, Dada said, Not a pant, but you can make a pair of
pyjamas with this cloth. When Dada went with me to the tailor at the corner of Ganginar Par, I said pant, Dada said pyjamas.
Do girls wear pants? Pants are for boys.
What is the problem if girls wear them?
There is a problem. People will stare.
Why should they? Is there something wrong in this?
Yes, there is.
Eventually, Dada felt sorry to disappoint me, and asked the tailor, Can something like a pant be made for her?
The tailor laughed and said, A ladys pant can be made.
How is a ladys pant made?
There would be no pocket, no open fly at the centre, the slit would be on the left side with a zip, no cloth hooks around the waist for a belt -
this was a ladys pant. Well, something is better than nothing, so I had accepted eagerly. Since it was impossible to order a shirt for me, I
had to settle for a dress. However, I made a tiny request. Could my dress sleeves be turned up like a shirt, on the outer side and not on the
inner side? The tailor took my measurements with a long measuring tape. While doing so his hands repeatedly touched my breasts.
Embarrassment made me stiff. But I told myself that it was impossible to take measurements otherwise. The day the ladys pant and the
dress were ready, I was not just delighted, I was absolutely over the moon with joy. But as soon as I wore it, there was chaos. Baba saw me
and couldnt believe his own eyes. Angrily he asked, What is this you are wearing?
I said, Pants.
Why are you wearing pants?
I did not reply.
Why are you wearing these obscene clothes? Dont you have any shame? Take them off immediately. If I see you wearing these clothes
ever again, I will flog you till there is no flesh left on your body.
I had to shed my pants and wear pyjamas. It is not that I didnt wear those pants ever again. I did, only of course, when I knew Baba was
not within a miles distance.
Dadas presents now began to cross the limit of clothes and jewellery and progressed to paint. Not paint for colouring pictures, but paint to
make up our faces. He bought a makeup kit for me. I had not asked for it; he had bought it of his own wish. I had no experience of using a
makeup box. No idea of what to use and how. Then Chhotda came to my rescue. He made me sit on a chair like a statue and coloured my
face, eyes, eyelashes, cheeks, chin and lips. He dressed up Yasmin as well. I began to think of it as a magic box. How wonderfully it
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transformed my appearance. I began to look like the film stars, Kabari, Babita and Shabana. When Chandana came home, she too was
made to sit and was made up. When Chhotda was applying pink powder from the box on to Chandanas cheeks, Ma said, Chandana is fair,
does she need any powder?
Dada did not just give Yasmin and me presents, he gave presents to Ma, too. Ma hid her tears in her soiled saris so that no one could see
them. Even if they could be seen, we had got so used to them that we were never shocked. In fact we would possibly notice more if she
were to wear a new sari. If she wore a pretty sari there would be a storm of questions and comments. Bah! What a lovely sari! Where did
you get it from? Who gave it to you? Some times however, we did take notice even though our eyes were so used to her blouse-less,
petticoat-less saris and the fact that tears were not such a great disaster for her. In case we suggested, Ask Dada for a sari, Ma would
reply, How much more is Noman to give? Hes already giving you all. The man, whos actually supposed to give, is living comfortably.
He has forgotten his responsibilities. He doesnt ever think of buying anything for anyone. Ma obviously wanted that Baba should give
her something, not Dada. Ma waited like the Chatak bird waits for the first drops of rain. She waited hopefully for Baba to think of her, to
do something for her, however small, however insignificant. Baba never noticed anyones hopes or desires, especially not Mas. It
appeared that now Baba was not keen to give us even our rationed Id clothes. That we were getting them from Dada, he of course knew.
Not only would he not give us anything, he even called Dada and rebuked him. He reminded him not to indulge us too much, because if he
over indulged us, we would go to the dogs.
I dont think Dada really remembered this advice. The very next day after Babas scolding he came to me and said, Hey, want to go for a
picnic? Since I was always waiting for an opportunity to leave the house, I jumped at the offer. My afternoon and night sleep just
evaporated with this proposal.
This picnic was not to be in the forest of Madhupur, but in the capital Dhaka. This was my chance to go to Dhaka with Dada. The Fisons
company people were going to picnic at Dhakas Savar. They could take their families with them. Dada was unmarried. He had two sisters
and a brother. He had parents. The parents could not be taken, as a picnic would not suit them. Chhotda was too old for the picnic, and
Yasmin too young. I was the only one who fitted the bill exactly. So now I could begin to choose my clothes. Not that I had much to choose
from. I washed and ironed the one or two things I had, apart from my school uniform, and got ready. The iron was actually a sheet of iron
with a handle. Heating the iron sheet on the oven, I lifted it with a thick double folded towel, and pressed it over my clothes. I carried my
clothes, and the makeup kit given by Dada with me. Traveling to Dhaka by train! What could be cause for greater enjoyment in life! The
entire journey I looked out of the window, with all the dust and wind blowing in my face. I watched the trees and plants, rivers and streams,
paddy and jute fields, buildings and homes, markets and shops passing me by, all the way to Dhaka. We had to put up at Boromamas house
in Dhaka. His house was no more at Lalmatiya; it was now at Dhanmondi. He had bought a plot and built small rooms. In them were tiny
children. Because of lack of space in Boromamas house, Dada spent the night in one of the company bosses houses. I had to share a cot
with Jhunu khala and Boromamas children. We were packed like sardines. Dada came in the morning to take me. Wearing my ironed
clothes, I was putting on my makeup. Shubhra and Shipra, Boromamas two daughters were looking at me as if they had seen a ghost.
They had never seen anyone applying makeup before. Jhunu khala was continually shielding me from them, saying, Elders have to apply
makeup, you all have not yet reached the age to dress up, go away. Jhunu khala tried her best to shield me from Boromami as well. She
feared that if Boromami were to see all these cosmetics, she would drive Boromama crazy, till he bought her a similar box. We traveled to
Savar by bus and unloaded the big picnic utensils, crockery etc in a big field. The cooking, the eating and the playing were all done. A
singer named Niaz Muhammed was hired to sing. In his habitual manner with outsiders, Dada carried on, speaking his version of chaste
Bangla. This always happened to Dada when speaking to people in Dhaka, who spoke in chaste Bangla. While speaking, he was so anxious
to disguise his regional Mymensingh dialect, that his pronunciation of raw turned into rhaw and he sounded quite weird. At the picnic
Dada introduced me to all the important executives in the company, saying, My younger sister, Nasreen. She has just taken her SSC
exams. Seeing me cowering silently after the introductions, Dada laughed and said, Hey, what is there to feel shy about! Come here.
Come meet my boss, offer your salaams to him. On returning from Savar to Dhaka, Dada screwed up his nose, saying only one thing,
You over did the makeup on your face. It seems I was looking like a clown.
Jhunu khala had passed out of Eden College and was now studying Bangla at Dhaka University. The day after the picnic, she took me to
the University. All the time I was there, I looked around me in amazement. Jhunu khala even took me to one of her classes. In the class, the
male students sat on the right side, the females on the left. I was from a girls school, and this was an unbelievable experience for me.
Nilima Ibrahim came to take the class. I had heard of her, and even read her articles. Nilima Ibrahim had not noticed that there was a much
younger girl sitting shyly in class. I did not understand a word of her lecture. However, I came out of the class and whispered my desire
into Jhunu khalas ears, saying, When I grow up, I want to study Bangla Literature at Dhaka University. I said it because on seeing the
wonderful environment of the University, I was beginning to think that if there was a heaven on earth then it was here. With the dream of
studying some day at Dhaka University in my mind, I returned to Mymensingh from Dhaka by train. On coming home, I gave Chandana a
perfect description of the way the girls and boys of Dhaka University walked together side by side, laughed, talked and sang. How no one
looked back at them repeatedly, winked, made obscene comments, or threw stones. There were even circles of boys and girls, sitting
together on the grass in the fields and chatting. There was no specific dress code for anyone. People wore whatever they liked, red or green
dresses, some even saris. It was like a dream world. A dream that swam in the depths of Chandanas eyes as well. Apart from our own
brothers, father and some very close relatives, we had never mixed with anyone else. For us, the outside world was a very vast one. Other
men for us were both fascinating and frightening. After reading so many novels and watching countless movies, if Chandana and I dreamt
of any men, they were always handsome, good looking ones. However, I had got to read my novels at a great cost. Dada one day threw out
the hawker who came to deliver the Chitrali. He tore the magazines into shreds and threw them out of the window. When he categorically
told us that in future we were to stop reading these worthless magazines, I walked out of the house. I walked out without knowing where
to go. I did not even have the money to take a rickshaw to Nanibari. In novels so many penniless heroines walked out too, and within a few
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yards they would find deserted sea-shores, deep forests or remote melancholy mountains. Nothing untoward happened, instead amazing
incidents occurred. The heroine would sometimes actually meet the hero, or a very wealthy and benevolent person would adopt her as his
daughter. In others she would walk alone besides a river or sea, share her thoughts silently with the flowers in a garden in full bloom, chase
a colourful butterfly or just lean against a tree and sing a song of joy or sorrow. In case something unfortunate happened, then the heroine
was always rescued by some courageous person, who would then proceed to become her brother or friend for life. With both fear and
daring suppressed in her heart, this particular novel-reading and cinema-viewing girl kept walking along. Knowing that along the river, the
paws of men would be present, she still walked in the direction of the park. This road led towards a garden area, which had been named
Ladies Park by the people. Since men, women and children had very few places in town to go to in the evening, they normally came here.
They sat on the benches munching nuts and chanachur. They walked around in the breeze and returned home. When I walked out in the
afternoon hoping to find some privacy, I reached the park and sat down on an empty bench, under the shade of a tree. Before me I could see
tiny waves rising in the breeze flowing over the waters of the Brahmaputra, the trees mildly dropping leaves occasionally into the river. I
sat there like that purposely, hoping to look at the beauties of nature, for as long as I wished. Though characters in story books could stay
for as long as they wished, I could not. Lungi clad boys began to gather around me in ones and twos. I was looking at the river, at two boats
that were plying. The boat men were singing a Bhatiali ,country song synchronizing the beat of the music to the strokes of their oars. My
eyes moved to the other bank of the river. What lovely catkins were blooming everywhere! However this gang of boys did not give me a
chance to concentrate on any of this. Splitting with a knife, the heart of silence and isolation surrounding me, one asked the other, Have
the girls breasts developed?
Another came in front, giggled and said, Yes, they have.
How do you know? Have you touched them?
The gang of boys burst into loud laughter.
Is she willing?
How much does she want?
She doesnt say?
Why doesnt she? Is she dumb?
All the limbs of my body were shaking. My throat was drying up. What if they were now to hit me on my breasts, just as a boy had done
once before on these very shores of the Brahmaputra. I moved away and sat on another bench. Seeing this, the boys got even more
impassioned. They created an uproar and came crowding near this bench as well.
Hey, whats your name? Where do you live?
Hey, girl, do you have a father?
I didnt answer any of the questions. One of the lungi-clad boys threw a stone at me. It came and hit my back. Another boy came close to
me and poked my feet with his. From the back, another one poked me. As though I was some strange creature who had fallen out of the
skies, all of them were poking me to see how I would react. Not responding to either the stone or the pokes, I turned to the lapping waters
of the Brahmaputra once again. I held on strongly to a thread of belief which gave me the hope that if I did not reply or throw back a stone,
they would eventually go away. However, this tight thread of hope slowly began to unravel. My eyes desperately searched for some one
who looked respectable, who could rescue me from this vengeful gang of boys. No one was entering the park. All the gentlemen had gone
to the other side. There was no one on this bank. No one. Only me and these boys. The distant boatmen, too, could not see how these
beastly boys had surrounded me like vultures. I reckoned that they were younger than me in age. Since childhood I had heard that one did
not misbehave with elders. Yet, these boys were misbehaving with me without a care in the world! Their misbehaviour progressed from a
poke to a push on my back. This push shocked me into turning around and screaming, I am sitting here, what is it you all? Run away.
The boys began to giggle and smirk.
Shes finally spoken. She can speak then, she can speak
One of them lifted his lungi and started to dance before me. On seeing him another joined in the dance. The rest were laughing and
clapping their hands. One of them came at me with his two claw paws directed at my breasts. I pushed away those paws with both my
hands. The paws advanced again. I kept whimpering, then groaning. My dress was being pulled by two boys. They were widening their
eyes, displaying their teeth, showing their tongues. They were playing with me. Having fun. All they needed was to pull my dress off. Why
only the dress, why not even the pyjamas! In this deserted park, no one would see what was happening on this side. Suddenly I saw two
people entering the park, and some life came back to my limbs. The two men wearing shirts and trousers were coming towards this crowd.
The two gentlemen were coming. Seeing them the boys moved back. The lifted lungi dance also stopped. In the hope of being rescued
from this atrocious scene, I moved towards the men. But one of the two men asked the boys, not me, Whats happened?
This girl is sitting alone in the park.
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Alone?
The other man asked with a serious face, What is she doing alone?
Thats what we are asking. She doesnt say.
Why doesnt she?
The two men stood in front of me. They did not look at my face, but at my breasts. They laughed coarsely. My sixth sense told me they
were not my saviours. My sixth sense told me, run. I couldnt make out in which direction to run. This dilemma was causing someone to
come at me with hands and teeth out, and another to let fly a raucous laugh. The laugh was causing the river to tremble. I began to feel they
were going to tear me apart. Eat me up. Bite me. Chew me. The dusk was falling. The egg-yolk-like sun was sinking in the Brahmaputra
spreading its colours in the water. The coarsely laughing man was zipping and unzipping himself repeatedly. I shut my eyes, covered my
breast with my two hands and bending my knees sat down pressing my head against them. Twisting myself into a coil I became almost like
a little ball. Stones rained down on me. I shielded myself with my own body. I realised that the two men had left me at the mercy of this
gang of boys. They now had the permission to do whatever they wanted to. Suddenly I screamed with fear from inside the coil. My screams
made the boys shout with laughter. Without warning, I got up from the coil and ran breathlessly towards the Circuit House grounds. The
boys followed, laughing, all the way. Whatever I did speak, scream, run everything was a source of fun for them. When people saw a
monkey in the zoo, eating a banana with its own hands, they laughed, finding it funny. All the monkeys antics were amusing to watch. I
could not think of myself as a human being. I felt like an animal which was there for mans amusement. The boys had merrily lifted their
lungis, shown their penis and danced before me. They had thrown stones at me, poked me and molested me. Not once had they thought I
would call them wicked, or punish them when I got the opportunity. No, nothing bothered them at all. I ran without knowing my
destination. I saw some people walking near the park, but I did not feel like approaching any of them, I could not trust any one. Walking
towards this agitated, directionless, breathless, crazy sight of me, was a white shirt and brown trousers! A dry twig before a girl drowning
in bottomless waters. This was the same white shirt and brown pant whom I watched every evening from the terrace. The same one I went
up to the terrace to see so often. White Shirt stopped me. He shooed away the gang of boys and coming closer smiled sweetly saying,
When did you come here?
I didnt say anything. White Shirt walked ahead talking. I followed panting and silent.
Why were you running? Did those boys do something to you?
No reply.
Did they say something to you?
Again, no reply.
I was too ashamed to tell him what the boys had done and said. As though the blame for all their exploits was mine, and so was the shame.
The boys had done wrong, but it was as though it was my fault that they had.
Reaching close to Ishaan Chakraborty Road, White Shirt said, You will go home, wont you?
I shook my head from side to side.
Then where will you go?
My head shook again. A nowhere or I dont know kind of reply.
Following White Shirt I happily went to their house, not exactly their house, their land lords house, not even the house really but its
terrace. Sitting on the terrace and enjoying the breeze was White Shirts elder brother and his friend. As soon we reached the terrace, the
brother and friend quickly went down.
What will you eat?
I shook my head, I didnt want anything.
Except for nodding my head, I was unable to utter even one word in answer to White Shirts questions. White Shirt called out to his
younger brother from the terrace, threw down some money and ordered him to get One Seven-Up. The younger brother ran to get the
Seven-Up, while White Shirt in the darkness of the terrace tried to put both his arms around me like Razzaq embraced Kabari in the movie.
Such an invitation should have excited my desire to melt into the embrace as well. But I noticed that my body remained as stiff as wood.
The wood leapt away and stood. The Seven-Up came, stood by itself, I was unable to touch it. When I had watched White Shirt from the
terrace of Aubokash, walking from Golpukur Par to the corner of Sherpukur Par and disappearing, I had thought Id fallen in love with him.
It wasnt as if my heart had not beaten excitedly. But this matter of rushing like Razzaq to embrace me, appeared so artificial to me, that
deep down in my bones I understood that just by wanting to be Kabari, I couldnt be, by wanting to be Babita, I couldnt be. Life was not
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entirely like the novels and the movies. If that was so, then I would have enjoyed that embrace. Or I would have, with great strength, been
able to uproot the teeth of that gang of boys and those two pant-shirt clad, uncouth men. I could not.
I had walked out in the afternoon. Now it was dark. I did not have the power to imagine what punishment awaited me at home. In that
house, White Shirt said, Let me take you home. As I had nowhere to go, I came down from the terrace and started walking listlessly.
Keeping Miriam School on my right, and Sudhir Das statue shop on the left, past the crossing at Golpukur Par, I walked towards my
house. With disappointment and fear as my props I had followed White Shirt all the way to the black gate of Aubokash. Eventually, I had
entered the house like a lifeless, inanimate object. People at home looked at me as though they didnt recognize me. No one knew my
identity. Why I had come, from where, no one had any idea. When they got used to seeing me, there were a thousand questions to face.
Where were you till now, whom did you go to, what is in your mind, tell me, how did you gather so much courage, and so on. I stood
silent, soundless and motionless. That I had immersed my youth and beauty somewhere and returned home, was what both Dada and Ma
thought. Maybe thats why without hesitation they continued to beat up this silent, stationary girl, without justification. I lay down my
numb body and bore every thing. So far at least I had managed to escape the attack of those urchins, and actually saved myself from White
Shirts embrace, but what I was unable to escape was Dada and Mas unholy practices. My nausea kept increasing because of all these
experiences.
If I stood on the terrace, a boy younger than me standing on the verandah of his house would lift his lungi and show his penis. I had to turn
my eyes away. I had to move away from the terrace railings. These eyes wanted to see something else, something beautiful and elegant.
These evenings on the terrace, out of the damp rooms, enjoying the fresh air, watching the world on my own, were very happy times for
me. For me the wide world was confined to only that much. All my freedom was here. When the cool and calm evening breeze began to
bid farewell to the burning heat of the afternoon, it was the time to stand on the terrace and imbibe the refreshing air, in ones body. Not just
in the body, I imbibed it in my soul as well. But, now, realizing that I was not safe even on the terrace, caused me gradually to shrink. Was
I at fault for making that good boy lift his lungi? I searched desperately for my faults. My own existence kept mocking me. I myself felt
ashamed of myself, to myself. I was very embarrassed when a marriage proposal came from the house opposite our black gate. Next to
Swapans house was a Mussalman house, where an ugly lungi-vest clad boy would stand. He sent his proposal to our house through the
hands of Abdul Baris wife, who belonged to Jaglupara. The Mritunjay School Master, Abdul Baris balloon faced, freckle cheeked wife
came home once in a while. She would chat about routine household and cooking matters and go away. On hearing of the marriage
proposal from her mouth I trembled with fear and burnt with anger. Ma of course did not say anything insulting to her. With a disapproving
face and gloomy expression she said, The girls father wants to educate her further. He will get very angry if he hears of a marriage
proposal now. Even after hearing Mas answer, Abdul Baris wife called me aside secretly. Taking a crumpled letter out of her blouse, she
pulled out my hand and tucked the letter in it, before leaving in a confused hurry. I opened and read the letter in the bathroom. There were
two pages crammed with I love you type of words. For the first time, I tore a letter written to me into bits, and threw it into the filth in the
toilet. After throwing it, without informing any one of the letter, I sat alone, hidden from every one.
On seeing my growing body Baba collected an odhna from Ma, and hung it over my shoulders, telling me, Wear it this way, you will look
nice. Babas words were so intensely insulting that they tied me up in knots. My shame over my developing breasts was so acute that I
buried my head in my pillow and cried all night. I felt ashamed to wear this extra cloth to cover my breast. To me, this was the proof that
something was hidden behind it, something soft, something modest, something one couldnt talk about. That was why it had to be covered,
because what was there, was very obscene, something growing uncontrollably, and definitely not to be seen. So that I wouldnt have to
wear an odhna, and no obscene part of my body was visible, I walked with my back hunched up. It became a habit. Ma boxed me on my
back saying, Walk straight, wear your odhna. If you wear it, you can walk straight. If you hunch your back from now on, later your
backbone will never straighten up. Even then I didnt feel like straightening up and covering myself with an odhna. I found the article
increasingly awkward. Whether I wore it or not, people knew I had grown up. By the time girls had taken their SSC, Ma said they were not
only married, they sometimes even had children. Hearing this, a sharp thorn pierced my breast. My breast trembled. I did not want to grow
up. Marriage appeared to me not only something fearful and troublesome, but also obscene. Maybe it happened to others, but may it never
happen to me. I threw away the odhna Baba had covered me with. I had grown up, yet I was afraid to make people understand this fact.
After my exams, I had dreamt of getting a break from my school books. When I returned from the Dhaka picnic, my dream was completely
uprooted. Baba had told me to read all my old books over again. Every college had an entrance exam, each very difficult. If I didnt qualify,
that would be the end of my education for ever. I would have to spend the rest of my unbearable life with the title of illiterate. Therefore, I
had to sit with the same old books all over again. What I had to do between my studies also Baba knew. For my leisure hours he had
already assigned Begum.
The day the SSC results were declared, Rabindranath Das came rushing to Aubokash and enthusiastically sounded the victory bugle. I had
passed in the First Division. On getting the news, when I was jumping all over the house with joy, Baba arrived with the exam results in his
hand. I was quite sure he was going to call for me and hug me saying, Ma-Ma. He would bring baskets of rasgolla, malaikari, kalojaam,
chum-chum and feed every one at home. When he called me, I went before him with my face brimming over with happiness. Just when I
was physically ready to feel Babas embrace, and mentally prepared to accept his elation, slapping me hard on my cheeks, he said You
have got a Third Division. Arent you ashamed ?
Third Division? My stupefied face corrected Baba, But I have got a First Division.
While raining continuous blows on my head and face, Baba said Have you got a Star? No, you havent. How many Letters have you got?
A First Division without a Letter means you have just about made it, and that means getting a Third Division. From the Adarsha Balika
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Vidyayatan, only three girls had passed in the First Division. No one was Star-spangled or had secured Letters. So what? Girls from
Vidyamoyee had, from the Zilla School they had! Baba caught me by the ears and dragging me all the way, pushed me towards my study
table. Gritting his teeth, he said, Those who got Stars ate rice, didnt you? I kept Masters to tutor you, not for you to get a Third Division,
haramzadi! I sat still with a book open before me, salty tears fell in drops on the letters in the book.
Late at night when everyone was asleep, I walked stealthily around the house looking for rat-poison. My developing body coupled with my
strange existence and my useless brain everything made me feel so small, that I wanted to become smaller and smaller, so tiny in fact that
I would not even be visible. I could not find the rat-poison. What I did find was a dusty rat-trap in one corner of the room.
Chapter Six
MY VERY OWN LITTLE BIRD NAMED CHANDANA
Every year I was given a scholarship at the Residential, right from the seventh grade onwards. But I was not allowed to keep a single taka
of it for myself. Baba counted every penny and took it all. Ma said, Your Baba is keeping it aside for your future. He will give it back to
you when you grow up. I believed what Ma said. In a way I felt content that all the money with Baba was actually mine. I dreamt of being
able to buy books enough to fill a whole room when I grew up. Yasmin, after failing twice in the fifth grade, had actually done something
surprising. Baba had made her take the School Board scholarship exam, and she not only did well, she even got the scholarship. Now if
Baba wanted to call for Yasmin, he would say, Where, where is that scholarship winning student! I had not been able to take the fifth
grade scholarship exam, and though I had taken the eighth grade one, I was not fated to be successful. It was because of my failure that
Baba made it a point to call Yasmin scholarship winning student in my presence. Not just that, Baba compared me very often to the
worms found in dirty sewers. Repeatedly called a worm, I soon began to think of myself as one. When I did not get a star-spangled First
Class, I again began to think of myself as a dirty worm. Chandana had passed in the Second Class. She was not at all worried about this.
Most of the students had done the same. I was, however, very sure that if I, too, had secured a Second Class, Baba would have whipped me
till I was covered in blood and thrown me out of the house. I was saved because that disaster had not taken place. Having secured a First
Class, I would get a scholarship in college and I would study for free. Baba was very fond of scholarships. If he was pleased, I would at
least be free of some of the pressure of having to perform. If even this had not happened, I would have had to face Babas snarls at every
juncture. Not that I was not facing them now. Anyway, I was positive the frequency would have been much more had I not got the
scholarship.
There was no need to take entrance exams for admission. The college admitted me on the basis of my SSC results. I regretted having
wasted so much precious time studying my old school books even after my exam. My time had flown by, literally gone with the wind.
Would such a leisurely time ever come back! Maybe, there would be other times, but the vacation after ones SSC exam would never
return.
I had wanted to join Anandamohan College. Boys studied there, too. However, even if others allowed their girls to study, sitting close to
boys in class, Baba certainly was not one of them. In spite of the fact that Anandamohan had a much better reputation than Muminunissa,
Baba forcibly admitted me there just because it was exclusively for girls. He seemed to rest in peace only after he had literally denied a
hen, so to speak, permission to enter the duck pen, and had pushed it into the hen coop along with the other hens. The reason I wasnt as
unhappy about joining this college as I should have been, was Chandana. Her father too had forcibly admitted her to Muminunissa College.
Having Chandana for company meant that let alone curse my fate at not being able to see hundred boys a day, I did not even have the
chance to sit alone for a couple of hours in a black mood. Anandamohan remained a mysterious seventh heaven somewhere beyond the
skies. Temporarily leaving it on a pedestal, Chandana and I got busy creating other dreams for ourselves. Muminunissa College was
situated on huge grounds in the western corner of the city. Classes were held in a long tin shed, very much like those in the village school
houses. On one side was a new brick building. The science students had their classes there. Classes were not all held in one room as in
school. One had to run to different rooms for different classes. I liked this system. In school one sat in one classroom and remained there
the whole day. There was another system I liked in College. Even if you attended no class and sat in the grounds or dipped your feet in the
water in the pond and chatted with your friends, no one would pull you by the hair and drag you to class. Nor would you be made to stand
on one leg, holding your ears as a punishment in front of a classroom full of girls. Roll calls were taken in every class, not like school,
where one roll call in the class meant you sat there from ten in the morning till five in the evening. I was charmed with most of the new
college rules, but disliked the one that prevented us from leaving college as we pleased. Needless to say Chandana disliked it even more.
Much before joining college she had said many times, Do you know the greatest thing about studying in a college? If you want to attend
class, you do, if you dont, you neednt. Whenever we wish, we can leave college. All we have to do is return home by the time the college
gets over. The idea had not enamoured me any less. However, once we had joined college, the sight of the six feet tall, black as snake skin,
hairless, toothless Gagan set my spleen trembling in shock. Ki re Baba, why a guard? School gates had guards for the school children.
Where was the justification for a guard at the college gate where big girls quite capable of looking after themselves, came to study!
Chandana was of the same opinion. We came to college at ten in the morning. For two hours we had no classes. Chandana said, Lets go
out. We did not decide where we would go. Outside. Beyond this boundary wall. Just as we were anxious to get away from the confines of
our homes, so we were keen to go beyond the bounds of the college building. However, lets go was easier said than done. Every time we
reached the gate Gagan caught us and pushed us back into the college. For two hours we had nothing to do. That may have been the case.
But no way could we take one step out. No way, there was no way. We tried to justify ourselves to Gagan. We were not small anymore; we
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had grown up. We would not get lost, nor could a kidnapper stuff us into a sack and take us away. But Gagan like the sky he was named
after, remained ablaze, not even a hint of rain clouds anywhere. Gagan hurled our dreams into the gutter. The rules in Girls Colleges were
that once you were inside the premises, the gates closed, and would only open in the evening when the last bell was rung. After years of
being confined within the ten-to-five school routine, if one was unable to spread ones wings even in college, then what was the point of
going there! The girls and boys of Anandamohan College entered and left the premises as they pleased. The girls of Muminunissa, because
they were girls, even though they were grown up, were not thought of as such. Hence, they were again subjected to the ten-to-five routine,
again the uniform, white pyjama, white tunic, red odhna. We had left school and joined college. We had changed buildings, changed
masters, even books, but our routines remained the same. We had to spend our time disconsolately roaming within the boundaries of the
college.
Chandana hated the odhna as much as I did. Very often we appeared in college without wearing it. On seeing the wide-eyed shock of
students and teachers, we realised that by removing this absolutely mandatory piece of clothing, we had upset them all. However, none of
us were of the kind to be affected by the feelings of others. Once college started, from the knowledge we gathered about our teachers, we
realised that the one class we could not afford to miss was that of our Maths teacher Debnath Chakraborty even if the world were to turn
upside down. The rest, we could miss unless there was something really important. The Bangla teacher Abdul Hakim mispronounced most
of the words. In his class we could exchange little notes, draw Hakims picture, round haircut, glasses hanging from his nose. There was no
reason to be interested in the poems in the textbooks as our minds were already infused with poetry. Srimati Sumita Naha also taught
Bangla. When she explained the poetry and prose, except for those sitting in the first row, it was impossible for anyone else to hear her
voice. She seemed to keep her voice close to the ground as if she wanted to protect it. Perhaps she feared that if she raised her voice too
high, it might just crash and fall on the ground! She was a well known Rabindrasangeet exponent. Her husband Alokmoy Naha was also an
artist. An artist and a politician. He stood for elections and won. He was a good politician, but that was not the reason he won. He won
because he was a good singer. The Chemistry teachers nose was always wrinkled up, as though every possible thing in this world was
stinking. She taught us in a nasal tone. Whether or not her students understood what she was saying, she continued to teach. As soon as the
bell rang, she would leave immediately, her nose still crinkled up. One day Chandana and I were suddenly sent out of her class as
punishment for being unable to suppress our laughter. We were, of course, thrilled at this opportunity to leave the class. Chandana and I
tried to gauge in which girls hearts a warm breeze blew whenever our Physics teacher entered the class with his crooked smile. The
Biology class created some waves. One had to catch frogs and lay them on their backs in trays of wax. Their chests and stomachs had to be
cut open to show their digestive systems. On thick white paper we had to draw pictures of various creatures. Drawing meant it was my day
to reign as Queen. The whole day I would elaborately sketch pictures with HB, B, 3B and other types of pencils, as though I had joined an
art school. Seeing this Baba would say, Leave all this worthless exercise and learn your texts by heart. To Baba, drawing pictures in
Biology was also worthless. A frog had to be taken to college, so a race after a frog would begin all round the courtyard. The frog ran and
we ran after it. Yasmin, Ma and I. Finally, I carried a golden frog in a paper packet to college. The frog which had been ambushed while
sitting in the corner of a room had its limbs ultimately stretched out and pinned down by me. I even cut it open to expose its digestive
system, but my pity for the frog made me so sad that until Chandana came and shook me, I did not feel normal. Once I did, I left the room.
The less time spent within the suffocating environment of the classrooms the better for us. I left the biology laboratory. We wanted to
spread our wings. Within us was born a strong desire to break our bonds. However, as we were unable to cross the limits of the college
boundary, we were forced to sit under a red cotton Simul tree in the extreme corner of the compound. In a futile attempt to quench our
thirst for milk with whey, we read each others poetry. All the students in the college stared at us unblinkingly. It seemed we were
different, not really normal. At that time Chandana was in the process of falling in love with a boy she saw on her way to college.
Hearing her story of falling, falling, I too felt like creating some waves in the dull routine of my life. But there was no one close at hand
to create a ripple. I had no falling, falling story. My life was only full of the empty silences of the afternoon and the hot dusty winds of the
summer. I felt like a destitute. One day I got Yasmin to secretly give White Shirt a note asking him to meet me near the college gate at ten.
He was the same White Shirt who made my heart beat faster when I used to see him from the terrace. The next day, instead of entering
college I picked up the waiting White Shirt and went straight to Muktagaccha. This method of taking a rickshaw on a long trip to
Muktagaccha was something I had learnt from Chhotda. He used to do the same with Geeta. However, all the way I only looked at the
villages, the farmers ploughing the land and the emaciated cows sitting on the edges of the road. At the famous Gopal Sweet Shop, I bought
two of their popular mondas, and rode back to the college gate on the same rickshaw. On the way White Shirt had asked some casual
questions which I had been able to answer only in the negative or positive, nothing more. There was no doubt that I got a great thrill out of
engineering this episode, and was considered very daring when I described the whole incident to Chandana in detail. But I noticed that for
White Shirt I did not feel anything. I did not even want to run away with him again somewhere and enjoy the weather.
In the meantime something awful happened. Baba had engaged Debnath Chakraborty to teach me at home. Students thronged to his house
to study, and a Pandit like Debnath Chakraborty had actually agreed to come home and tutor me. This was no ordinary matter; it was an
extraordinary privilege! However, I noticed a big danger in this arrangement. In the classroom he had to see my pretty face, not just see, but
every question he had to ask was directed at me, and he expected the correct answers from no one else but me. Naturally I was unable to do
so. Therefore, in every class he showered slaps, boxes, the duster and everything else at my head. When he appeared at Aubokash in the
evening, my body turned numb. With a figure like a round potato, wearing the perennial blue shirt and black pants, carrying a fat black pen
in his shirt pocket, black rubber shoes on his feet, hair parted and combed, a mouth full of paan, a swaying gait, the man could have been
any Kalimuddin-Salimuddin walking along the road. But no, he was Debnath Chakraborty with a big head full of complicated scientific
knowledge. Without his tutoring it was not possible for any student to do well in the exams. Thanks to Debnath Pandit, every evening of
mine was ruined. If I made any mistake in Maths or in the laws of Physics, he would immediately tear my books and copies and throw
them on the ground. Yasmin hovered close by to pick these up and put them back on the table. With my head the target, a continuous
stream of powerful beatings, boxes and slaps rained down on it. People at home watched my pitiful condition from behind the drapes. One
day, Ma stricken with compassion, sent a branch broken from the jackfruit tree with Yasmin, so that it could be used on my back. She was
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keen that the beatings fall on my back alone, not on my head. The way he beats her on the head, one day she wont have one at all! Ma
was really worried regarding my head. When Debnath Pandits temper rose, however, he rarely noticed the branch of the jackfruit tree. The
branch stayed where it was, and as before his beatings again rained down continuously on my head, and he resumed tearing my books and
throwing them down. Not just my evening, Debnath Pandit managed to make my whole life utterly miserable.
****
In this unbearable existence, there was no dearth of other tensions. When the magazine Bichitra started a section called Personal
Announcements, Chandana and I decided we would write for it. For one word the charges were eight annas, for four, two takas. It was not
possible for me to manage more than two or three takas. Saving my rickshaw fare for college, on the way back home, we stopped at the
Post Office and wrote our notices on money order forms and sent them. We had finally got a formidable opportunity to write what we
pleased, beyond the usual movie talk in cine magazines, and the hackneyed monotony of nation-times-society discussions in Bichitra. We
were two individuals extremely impatient to do as we pleased. Seeing Poet Rafiq Azads personal notice One poem for one kiss, our
enthusiasm began leaping like a kangaroo. Chandana and I together wrote, We are one soul, one life. I wrote, I am an unmanageable
turbulence. Chandana wrote, I am the greatest. Just like the reaction in Chitrali, if I wrote one, twenty others wrote about me, some for
and some against. Hardly two or three words used to create a statement, like throwing a stone into a still pond, and creating ripples. Sitting
on the edges, Chandana and I both enjoyed the experience of watching the waves. Ours was a sheltered existence. We had barriers and wire
meshes all around us. There were prohibitions at every step, denials at every stage. We acquired the strength and courage to disobey these
restrictions through words. Our words were pronounced with such pride and arrogance that anybody who read them assumed we were two
haughty, immodest, headstrong, disdainful, fierce young women who did not accept restrictions and cared two hoots for customs, rules and
regulations. Whereas, the reality was the absolute opposite; this unrestricted free life was only the life of our dreams. Many even thought,
we were the two names behind which a man was hiding, that Taslima and Chandana were not two different individuals at all. Like ants in
winter, whatever money we gathered and saved in two and four annas from one rickshaw fare, from our glassbottlepaperwala, from the
pockets of our fathers and brothers with or without their knowledge was perpetually swallowed up in the fast-flowing stream of our
personal announcements.
Chandana and I had never spoken in pure Bangla; we had always used the Mymensingh rural dialect. Chandana was much more of an
expert at this than I was. Initially I used to laugh at Chandana but gradually I fell into the trap of this language myself. Between us, the
competition was about who could use the maximum number of regional terms. I lost to Chandana repeatedly. People going through schools
and colleges tried to overcome their provincialism as much as possible. Chandana had come from the hilly regions of Rangamati in
Chattagram. At home she spoke the Chakma dialect. However, outside her home very few people knew the level of pure Bangla that she
used, just as even people born and brought up here could not match her mastery of the tone and rhythm of the local dialect. Chandana
enthralled me no doubt, but she surprised me as well. Whenever I spoke to Chandana it was in rural Mymensingh dialect, even letters were
exchanged in the same language. I had always known that whatever language people used while speaking, they always wrote letters in pure
Bangla. However, Chandana had never followed this norm. In whatever language she spoke to a person, she wrote letters to that person in
the same language. Before coming to Chattagram, she lived in Comilla. She wrote to her friend there, in Comilla dialect. Before Comilla,
she had been in Chattagram, she wrote to a friend there in the local dialect. After meeting me, she gave up all other friends and gave me her
exclusive attention. In my life, too, apart from Chandana all other friends had begun to fade away. I had no hand in this. Chandanas
individuality, novelty, rarity overwhelmed me, at all times I felt awed by her. After SSC and before joining college our chances of meeting
were very few for similar reasons. Just as I had to sit at home, Chandana had to sit at home, too. There was no question of visiting friends
whenever we wished. Going out meant visiting Nanibari. I had given up visiting Peerbari ages ago, or going to functions with Chhotda with
a reluctant consent from Ma, or watching movies with Dada. As far as movies were concerned I could only go to matinee shows, so that
Baba did not get to know. As soon as the show would get over, Dada, Yasmin and I would hurry home and sit with faces which appeared as
though we had never known what cinema was all about. I had taken Chandana sometimes with me to the movies, but even that was under
Dadas supervision. After seeing Alamgir Kabirs film Seemana Periye (Beyond the Limits), the dialogues of Bulbul Ahmed were always
on our lips. Enacting the part of a moronic stammering man on a remote island, Bulbul had told Jayshree, Wha-what havent I done for
you, I have he-held you-you close to my hea-heart, carried you on my ba-back! This dialogue of Bulbul, Chandana and I knew by heart.
Chandana started it. She had a battle with her younger brother Saju once. Soon after being beaten up by him, a very aggrieved Chandana
described the whole incident to me saying Wha-what have I no-not done for him, I have he-held him clo-close to my hea-heart, my
sto-stomach, my he-head, my shou-shoulders. Chandana never bore a grudge against her brothers even when she was hurt by them in
fights. But one hurt she bore all her life. When Molina Chakma had given birth to a girl child, Subroto Chakma had come into the labour
room with a big chopper to kill his own daughter because he did not like girls. Thanks to the intervention of family members in the labour
room, Chandanas life was saved no doubt. Molina Chakma having subsequently given birth to two male offsprings, Subroto Chakmas
anger with Chandana had abated somewhat, but Chandana had never been able to forgive her father. Even now, like a nightmare the scene
stubbornly remained day and night in her mind.
Chhotda brought the news that Chipachosh was having a function. The one and only Bulbul Ahmed was coming from Dhaka! The same
Bulbul Ahmed of Seemana Periye and Surjo Kanya (Daughter of the Sun) fame. Chandana could not go to the function; she did not get
permission from home. It was not easy to go out with Chhotda. Chhotda was a boy who had gone astray. No one was willing to let me run
wild with him. However, I still got permission. Ma had a partiality for film heroes and heroines, however spiritual she might have been. I
was bursting with excitement. I would actually be seeing a film hero in person. Chhotda said, Dont forget to carry your autograph book.
I had no such thing called an autograph book. On the way, Chhotda bought me a notebook with red-blue-green pages. Bulbul Ahmed was
sitting at a table corner, and pressing around the edge of that table were people sitting and standing. He was talking to everyone very
naturally, as though he had known them all his life. He was cheerfully answering everyones queries. When the time came to take his
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autograph, my heart was pounding; what should I say to him? I like your acting very much. Obviously I liked his acting, otherwise why
would I want his autograph! When he asked my name before signing, I pronounced it very softly. He wanted to know the full name! After I
told him, he burst out laughing, and overwhelmed me by saying, You are Taslima Nasreen? Why should you want my autograph! I should
be taking yours! Hey, you are more famous than I am! I hid my face behind Chhotda. Prior to this meeting I would never have believed
that film stars were like ordinary people, that they too laughed, cried, abused, were abused, that they also needed to answer the calls of
nature, they too caught cold, or felt feverish. However, after seeing Bulbul Ahmed at close quarters I changed my views. I had not even a
tiny doubt that Razzaq, Kabari, Azim, Sujata, Jaffar, Babita, Alamgir, Shabana and all the rest were human beings just like us.
Chandana suddenly, abandoning her casual love affairs with neighbourhood boys who threw notes or wrote letters, became absorbed with
Jaffar Iqbal. Jaffar Iqbal was the most handsome hero in the world of films. Many things were written about the love affairs of hero Jaffar
Iqbal and heroine Babita in the film magazines. We never bothered about such things. It was a question of good looks. There was such a
bankruptcy of handsome men about us, that we both knew we had no option but Jaffar. One day, Chhotda went to Dhaka to chat with Jaffar
Iqbal on behalf of Chipachosh. Chandana and I fell all over him in our eagerness to hear all the details from the beginning to the end.
Hearing everything added more fuel to the fire of our eagerness. Taking Jaffar Iqbals No. 5 Nayapaltan address from Chhotda, I wrote him
a letter. A reply came from Jaffar Iqbal on the second day. On very nice writing paper with Jaff inscribed on it, was a short letter addressed
to a friend whose name was mis-spelt. The evening was spent in a state which was completely out of self-possession. Next morning I
picked up Chandana on the way to college as usual, but the whole day was filled with nothing but Jaffar. No reading, no writing, nothing
else. The wrong spellings in the letter we forgave for the moment, but only because they were Jaffar Iqbals. Those who sent mis-spelt
letters requesting pen-friendship, we very categorically rejected. I incited Chandana to write to Jaffar. A few days later, a letter from Jaffar
came to her as well. The next day, without waiting to meet me in college, she almost flew to Aubokash with his letter in her hands. Our
dreams of Jaffar made time fly like floating Simul cotton, for both of us. After seeing two English films with Chhotda, Chandana reacted
more than I did. She bought a pair of high-heeled shoes, stuck Jaffars picture on it, wrote, I love you on top of it and came merrily to
college. Not just that, copying a design from a foreign fashion magazine, she got a long skirt stitched. Wearing it with a big hat on her head,
she moved about, causing everyone to stare at her as though leave aside this city, she couldnt possibly belong to this world. I too bought
the same kind of fabric in the same colour and made a skirt. I had no concept of fashion before. Chandana was the one to sow the first seed.
In the meantime, my old-fashioned father did something which simultaneously dismayed and enthralled us. He brought home a telephone.
The phone was locked, so no one could call anyone from home. The main reason for installing the phone was to make sure that everyone
was doing their work at home well, and were at the places they were required to be, while Baba was at Arogya Bitaan. The happiest person
when the phone was installed at home was Chhotda. Using a twisted wire he would unlock the telephone and call Geeta every night in
Dhaka. Sensing this Baba put the locked telephone into the drawer of his Secretariat table, and locked the drawer. The solution to this
problem did not occur to anyone, but to Chhotda himself. He merrily removed the desktop, took out the telephone, used the wire again,
opened the lock and continued his calls to Geeta. On this side, delighted with the arrival of the telephone I distributed our number to all and
sundry. Then came that evening, when Jaffar Iqbal personally called me on the phone. Chhotda took the call and handed the phone to me. I
had never spoken to anyone before on the telephone. After saying hello, no sound emerged from my throat. I began to drown in a chilled
silence. Desperately I searched for words. At least one or two. The more I searched, the more they eluded me. From the other end, Jaffar
after talking to himself for sometime, put down the phone thinking there was no one at this end. The phone rang again, I ran to the other
room saying, If Jaffar Iqbal calls, dont give me the phone. The next night the same thing happened. The phone kept ringing. Chhotda
picked it up, told me that Jaffar Iqbal had called again. But what was I supposed to do! I just could not utter the familiar tumi. In my letters
I used tumi, but in response to his voice not even a bomb could have induced me to address him in the same way. After debating for over an
hour about hello, tumi, how are you, I am fine etc., I finally got ready to answer the phone. When it rang, I picked it up only to hear Babas
voice saying, How did you pick up the phone? It was locked up in the drawer! I could not imagine what the outcome of picking up this
phone was going to be. All I knew was that it robbed me of my speech, my own mother-tongue Bangla. Chhotda courageously picked up
the next phone, which was Jaffar Iqbals. Giving me the receiver, he said in a subdued tone, Say hello. Come on. I said, Hello. To the
question how are you? I was able to reply Im fine, and to the query, Have you received my letter? I was able to say, Yes, but from
my side not a single question was asked, because this would then involve my having to address him as tumi. To the question Where are
you studying? I replied, At the University, since I didnt want to be thought a plait-swinging young girl. When I spoke I was not really
in this world, not standing next to a table whose cover had been removed, or holding a phone whose lock had been secretly opened with a
wire. Mistaking the light of the lamppost outside filtering through the red and blue glass of the windows and falling on my body, for the
delightful moonlight, I was mentally walking hand in hand with Jaffar Iqbal on a deserted sea shore. But the very next thing he said
shocked me. No. You do not study at the University. I know that. Returning to earth with a bang, I asked, How do you know? Without
answering the question, he replied in a grave voice, One should not lie to a friend.
*****
The shame of having lied devoured me. Putting the phone down, I went and hid my face under the quilt on my bed. Later, as soon as I met
Chandana I sighed deeply and told her about the embarrassing incident. Ive ruined it. Trying to appear older in age, I went and told a lie.
Jaffar Iqbal knew that Chandana was my friend. If one was a liar, then the other could be one too! After sitting desolately for a long time;
Chandana suddenly shook off her sorrow and said, You spoke only the truth, dont we study at the University? We do. In our minds.
When Baba removed the telephone from the drawer, and walked out of the house with it under his arms the very next day, I kind of heaved
a sigh of relief. The torn phone cable kept hanging for a long time. Chhotda bought an old telephone, from where, only he knew. He tried
connecting it to the torn cable and tested it only to get no sound. Meanwhile out of shame I did not reply to Jaffars letter. Chandana
continued to receive letters from him. His letters had now gone beyond friendship and were hinting at love. So were Chandanas. I was the
listener for both sides. This role suited me. I also realised that I did not have the capacity to accept any other role.
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Chhotda was again organising a function for Chipachosh. Shahnaz Rahmutullah, the renowned singer, and her brother, our one and only
excellently beloved Jaffar Iqbal were coming from Dhaka. The function was to be held in the Town Hall, on Saturday evening. Chandana
and I sat under the Simul tree at college, oscillating between whether to go or not to go and see Jaffar Iqbal. I wavered throughout Saturday,
and finally never went to the evening function. That lie made me shrink. Chandana, after saying she would, also ultimately did not go. At
the end of the function, at Jaffar Iqbals ardent insistence, Chhotda took him to Chandanas green tin house. Over tea and biscuits there,
Jaffar spoke to Chandana. For as long as he was there, Chandana remained with her head bowed down. Some yes, some nos and some
embarrassed smiles were all she had recourse to. She was hundred per cent sure that after returning to Dhaka Jaffar would never again write
letters to her. But Jaffars very next letter was steeped in the language of love. This deep love finally developed into a marriage proposal.
Chandana could fall in love, but marriage was a no-no. It was pleasant to watch a dark wild sea from its shores, but Chandana did not
possess the daring required to leap into it.
Chandana had squashed quite a few lovers meanwhile. She had abused their neighbour, Magistrate Akhtar Hossain as an old bull, had
spat out in disgust on seeing Antu, the boy who sang, walking bare-chested on the terrace, and had rejected Sandipan Chakma, the paying
guest in their house for a few months, on seeing him eat. Chandana could not bear to see bare-chested men or those chewing food.
Romance disappeared in fright from her mind. She had even said on and off, Do you know when it is that people always look awful?
When? When they eat. There is an orifice called mouth in our body, people stuff all kinds of things into it, rubbing their two sets of
teeth on them in the most obscene manner Chhi! The one I love should not eat in front of me, not undress before me or go to the toilet in
my presence. Bas, thats the simple equation. During the vacation, Chandana once went to visit Rangamati. The Raja of the Chakmas,
Debashish Ray was then looking for a bride. At a family function he was amazed to see Chandana. Where would he ever get such an
eligible bride! Where else in Rangamati was there anyone as beautiful and intelligent as her! He wanted Chandana. Wanted means wanted.
Debashish Ray was a friend of one of Chandanas paternal cousins. Through him, Debashish sought an opportunity to meet and speak to
Chandana. Subroto Chakma was over the moon with joy. His daughter was about to become a Rani. At her cousins request Chandana went
to meet Debashish at the banks of a big pond. In its clear water, flocks of white swan were swimming with their smooth necks held high.
Sitting on the grass nearby, when Debashish like a lover had extended his sweaty hands towards her and had just begun to speak words of
love in a serious voice, Chandana had burst into laughter. Returning home she told her enthusiastic cousin that Debashish may be a Raja
and what not, but he certainly did not know how to make love. Marriage would not work out with him. Subroto Chakma, initially in a soft
tone, then in a strong voice told Chandana to accept Debashishs marriage proposal. She did not agree. Beatings did not work either.
Chandana was totally against marriage. She could not even imagine a bare-bodied man sharing a bed with her. Then he would do things,
make her do things, which even if other girls were agreeable to, Chandana certainly wasnt. Merrily rejecting the royal proposal, Chandana
came back to Mymensingh when the vacations finished. She anyway disliked any blunt nosed Chakma man, however great a Raja he might
be. Chandanas ability to quickly fall in love like this and as quickly reject the lovers was very fascinating to me. I had no one to reject, and
I did not fall in love with anyone either.
At Chhotdas request Chandana wrote a letter to his childhood friend. Gradually Hassan Mansoor Khokon grew to be Chandanas number
one pen friend. As the name Khokon was associated with being a mamas boy, Chandana rejected it, and chose to address him as Hassan.
She regularly listened to the song Na Sajni, I know she will not come, and added the name Sajni, meaning ladylove, at the end of her
name. She did not like the name Chandana, and certainly did not care for the title Chakma at all. However, as they were her own names she
could not drop them. Even if anyone was called witch, she had to retain the name as her own. Chandana read Hassans marvelous letters,
and after writing Sajni Hassan on paper, moved around to see how good it looked. Jaffar Iqbal had been handsome no doubt, but his letters
were full of wrong spellings and faulty language. This could be forgiven a couple of times, not everyday. Chandana got involved with
Hassan. Just as Hassan wrote poems about forests and seas, about getting lost one day on some unknown island, Chandana too wrote of her
perfectly beautiful dreams that were like feathers floating sorrowfully in the colourful sky. What Chandana wrote to Hassan, or even what
Hassan wrote to Chandana was all read out to me. There was not even a single little thing that was secret between Chandana and me. I
couldnt believe that Chandana was really keen to meet, in reality, any of the people she wrote to. She liked to play with words and dreams;
she played. I told Chandana that my heart fluttered when I saw Hassans crooked smile. I even told her that Hassan was very handsome. In
fact in my childhood I had thought that there was no one in the world more handsome than Hassan. Chandana listened very carefully to
what I was saying, and while doing so she mentally began walking in some faraway forest holding Hassans hand. The same Hassan,
almost half-mad with reading Chandanas letters, one day arrived in Mymensingh from Dhaka to see her. But how was he going to see her?
The moment she heard that Hassan had come to see her, Chandana retired like a snail into her shell. A soft, colourful feather from the
cloudy sky fell loudly on the senseless dry earth and broke Chandanas absorption. The harsh reality made Chandana turn pale and wan. At
Chhotdas urging I begged this apathetic, lifeless and wan individual to meet Hassan at least once. When she agreed, Chhotda took both of
us to the Mymensingh Exhibition along with Geeta. Geeta, had now settled down in Mymensingh on her return from Burma and Korea.
The main reason for going to the fair was to get Hassan and Chandana to meet each other informally. Hassan was waiting for us at the
Exhibition. The Exhibition meant street-plays, circus, motorcycle races inside a dry well, shops and stalls, dazzling lights and a gambling
game called Housie. Walking slowly around the grounds, Geeta suddenly wanted to play Housie. Chhotda was ever ready to satisfy Geetas
desires. He entered the Housie game with the whole group. There were no women there, only us. After winning seventy-five takas at
Housie, Geeta danced in joy and excitement. Quite a substantial portion of the seventy-five takas was spent eating meat and paranthas, rotis
fried in oil. Once Hasan saw Chandana, he was unable to take his eyes off her. Chandana, however, after glancing at him once, did not look
at him again. To Hassans one or two questions, she had answered in the negative or the affirmative. Are you well? Yes. Physically well?
Yes. Mentally well? Yes. Are your studies getting along well? No. Do you want to buy anything? No. Have you ever been to Savar? No.
Judging from Chandanas shy smiles, everyone assumed that she had really liked Hassan. Girls appeared shy like her especially if they
were head-over-heels in love. Chandana had held my hand throughout. Quite often I had felt the pressure of her hand on mine. I had
interpreted these to mean, Look, look at how beautiful Hassans two eyes are! Look at his smile, can anyone smile so pleasantly! He is
walking with his hands in his pocket, what a wonderful manner of walking! Aah; I am dying! That night I did not get the opportunity to
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see Chandanas excitement in the midst of the crowd and the dust. The next day I was eager to hear her excited words and phrases.
I had already told you how handsome Hassan was, did you see!
Chandana laughed loudly.
Come on. Tell me quickly.
What do you want me to say?
Tell me how you liked Hassan.
Dhoor, he was rotten! The fellow had a paunch.
Hassan was rejected. I too looked closely at Hassan, the fellow really had a paunch. Chandana opened my eyes for me, opened my mind for
me. I clearly understood that Chandana and I both liked everyone, and yet didnt like them. We wanted to fall in love, and yet didnt want
to. We knew all about love, we had read about it, seen it, but somehow its existence in our own lives was acceptable, yet not really so. We
swung between liking and not liking, Chandana and I.
Even though we bunked class, we had not been able to hoodwink Gagan, the guard. So we discovered a thorny bush at the end of the
college grounds and one day, even though we got badly scratched, we escaped from under it into the streets. We had got out but where
could we go? The afternoon was in a daze, deserted and burning in the rays of the sun. Chandana suggested going to the park. My heart
trembled at the thought of the park. Suppose I was confronted again by those gangs of boys! Chandana caught my hand and pulled me
ahead. Her touch was enough to make me more restless, lively and activated. Floating for the moment on the wings of Chandanas daring, I
temporarily forgot the gangs of boys and went to that same Ladies Park. We spread ourselves under a fig tree, and were bathed in the cool
of the waters of the Brahmaputra. Calling a dinghy boat, Chandana made the boatman sit idle, while she herself plied the oars making
lapping noises, which sounded more like a song in Raag Dhrupad, than the sound of oars on water. I dipped my feet in the waters, and
watched the play of the clouds and the sun in the sky. Just watching and floating we didnt realize when the evening shadows began to fall.
The multi-coloured twilight was not only in the sky, it covered us all over as well. I, too, wanted to row a boat like Chandana, I wanted to
float about in the water, I wished my whole life could be spent rocking to the music, reaching nowhere, to no shore, I wished my life could
be spent eternally floating in this way. I wished I could suddenly spread my wings, and fly like a bird all over the sky. Go close to all those
colours, and gradually get absorbed in them. Chandana, do you ever want to become a bird? I wanted to ask Chandana. She, too, must
want to become a bird; her wishes were just like mine. I still felt that what Chandana desired, a lot of it she managed to achieve, surprising
everyone. She might actually be able, one day, to fly really close to the colours of the sunset. We did not feel like leaving the waters of the
Brahmaputra. But we had to. Even if we were to be exiled somewhere, we both thought that that would be like truly immersing our bodies
in a sea of happiness.
In the college premises, Chandana and I gradually became isolated in our different world. Not that we didnt want to meddle sometimes in
the gossip of other girls. Once there was no class. Sitting in the midst of a group of gossiping girls, I heard about when which girl was
getting married, which boy was coming to see which girl and when, the boys name, address, what he did etc. Both Chandana and I had
smiles peeping out of the corners of our mouths. None of the girls liked our smiles. One of them wanted to know why we were grinning.
We are laughing because you are talking about this disgusting subject.
Disgusting subject? Some girls eyes had reached their foreheads; others near their noses, and some girls eyes had bulged out of their
sockets. It was as though Chandana and I could not possibly be human; we must be some strange creatures from another planet.
Irritated, one of them asked, Why should it be disgusting?
Of course, it is disgusting, said Chandana.
You are behaving as though you will never get married.
We never will. I can be married only if I want to! I said.
Chandana said, Phoo! Am I mad to get married! No one but mad and stupid people get married.
We will never get married. On hearing this declaration of ours, the girls wanted to know what was the reasoning behind our decision.
Is there any reason for getting married, if there is, then what is it?
To have a household. There is need for a family.
What is the need for domestic life? Do people not survive without it?
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There will be children.
What happens if you dont have them?
Who will feed you? Give you money?
I will complete my studies and work. I will earn money. I will stay alone. Eat and drink. Roam around. Enjoy myself. Do whatever I
please.
Is that possible?
Why not? Of course, it is. You only have to wish to do so.
We moved away. We could make out that many eyes were staring unblinkingly at our backs. Taking my hand in hers, Chandana walking
towards the Simul tree, said, Dont look back. We walked along together like this, holding hands with our arms around each others
waists and shoulders, without looking backwards. This was nothing new in the college grounds. Friends spent time talking to each other in
this way. However, the girls said that the slight slant of our necks indicated an invisible pride and arrogance.
To Chandana and me, poetry became more important than romance. Everyday we wrote poems, or we wrote stories. Whatever I might
write, in comparison to Chandanas, mine appeared very ordinary. If she created a beautiful red flowering Krishnachura Gulmohar tree,
mine appeared like a wilting, flowerless plant. I was so enchanted by her beauty, her aura, her essence and her extraordinary originality,
that if ever a trace of jealousy was born in my mind, it disappeared in seconds. Chandana and I could never become Chipachosh members;
we could never even go to any societies or meetings; we were not for such things. Ours was a different world. We were involved in the
endless, unworried, solitary and pure game of words. We did not take our words to demonstrations and shout slogans, nor did we know
how to play the game of politics. During that period of poetic abundance, one day Chhotda brought home Shafiqul Islam. Shafiqul wore
thick lenses. His head was bigger than his body, and it was covered with tough, wiry hair. He looked as though he had not taken a bath in
two years, nor changed his clothes. This garrulous man was constantly talking in the regional tune and tone. As soon as he saw me he said,
Whats up, you have become very famous! I publish a little magazine. Write a poem, will you? In one evening I complied with his
request, and wrote a new poem called Free Bird. It went a bit in this way Open the window, I want to go, I want to fly all over the sky.
Maybe I was inspired by hearing Ma, who whenever she sat on the verandah would suddenly break into the song, I am a free, flying
goose, I spread my wings in the far away blue sky. Two weeks later when Shafiquls poetry magazine came out, my poem was published
in it. Padmarag Mani had also written a poem in it. Padmarag Mani came to visit Chhotda and Geeta at Aubokash once in a while. From a
distance I had exchanged glances, subdued smiles and even a couple of words with this eye-catching beauty. Once my poem was published
in Shafiquls magazine, other such poetry magazines began to float in. Rush in and even crawl towards me. Chhotda came home with
numerous small magazines after meeting various poets in town. Frequently he demanded, Write a poem for Banglaar Darpan. I wrote, it
got published. Tell Chandu Mastaan to write a poem. Chandana too kept giving Chhotda poems, and they too got published. Since the
day Chandana had arrived at Aubokash early morning on a cycle, Chhotda had named her Chandu Mastaan, the hell cat. Chandana was
not displeased. Chhotda was told by the Dainik Jahaan also, to get me as well as Chandana to write poetry for them. Entering the material
world of poetry, those were my first uncertain steps. So were they Chandanas. Our poetry notebooks were overflowing with words.
Chitrali and Purbani began to fade away. We neither wrote for them nor bought them. We hardly remembered sending personal
announcements to Bichitra. If the topic came up, Chandana would say, There are dangers in advertisements. A printing error could change
a 24 year old heroine into a 42 year old harlot. So advertisements were out. If we had to send something, we would send poems, either to
the Sunday or Searchlights literary page.
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At the end of the first year at college, there was to be a promotion exam to the second year. Debnath Pandit came home to tutor, rained
boxes and slaps on my head and back, to his hearts content, and went away. Chandana did not have this Debnath Pandit problem. She was
happy. Chandana had always been unconcerned about things like studies. I, too, would have been, but could not be, thanks to Baba. I was
forced to study in the English medium because Baba wanted me to. Chhotda had studied in this medium and some of his books were lying
around at home. I dusted them and arranged them on my table. Before the exams Debnath Babu informed Baba, She should study in
Bangla only, she would be unable to cope with the English medium. Bangla books were brought and the English removed. I had to rush
through the books, as the exams were round the corner. I didnt know why, but just before the exams, Debnath Pandit would appear at all
odd hours his hair ruffled, the ink from the fountain pen in his pocket soaking almost half his shirt and give me a few questions to write,
saying, Study these answers really well. Bas, after learning these answers very well, when I went to take my exams I mostly found only
these questions in my papers. The exams got over, the results were declared. I had come first. I became famous in college. The Principal
called me to her room and said, You are the pride of this college. Continue to work hard we want really good results in the final exams.
Baba was not really happy, though, on getting the news. He noticed that many letters addressed to me were coming home. He asked Dada,
Who are the people writing to Nasreen?
Penfriends.
Penfriend means what?
In a disinterested tone Dada replied, Friendship through letters.
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What does that mean?
Dada did not reply.
What do they write in these letters? Baba was very astonished.
Who knows, I have no idea.
What do you mean you dont know?
She doesnt show me the letters.
Why doesnt she? What is there in these letters?
Dada was quiet.
Whom does she write to?
I dont know.
Dont we need to know to whom this girl is writing, what she is writing, why she is writing?
Theres nothing much. It is just normal friendship!
Dada tried to cool Babas growing temper, but it didnt work. Babas voice grew steadily louder.
What is the meaning of normal friendship?
Dada stared dumbly at the white wall.
Are they women or men? Whom is she writing to?
Both.
You mean she is making friends with men?
Getting no reply from Dada, he huffed and puffed saying, Does she want to get married?
Dada said, No, not marriage.
Then what?
Just like that.
Meaning what? Just like what?
She just writes casually.
Why does she write casually? What is the need?
No, there is no need.
If there is no need, then why does she write?
I dont know.
Why dont you?
Baba went on questioning Dada his eyes red, swollen and ready to gobble Dada up. To escape from the torture of this questioning, Dada
excused himself by saying he needed to go to the toilet, and went and sat there. Baba repeatedly took off his glasses, and wore them; kept
walking from one end of the verandah to the other and rummaged amongst the books on my table. Every book, every copy. Under the table,
every fallen piece of paper there. Even under the bedsheets, pillows and mattresses. He was looking for something.
After this incident all my letters stopped coming. They were now going to the Notun Bazar address of Arogya Bitaan. Baba had wangled
the postman into doing this. I was sure of this the day Chhotda informed me that he found many letters addressed to me at Aubokash, all
opened, in Babas drawer at Arogya Bitaan. As soon as Baba had left for the Bazaar, Chhotda had made this discovery. There was only one
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thing that I had felt at that time, that this was wrong. Baba, being Baba, did not think that there was anything wrong in this. But why should
the postman do this? That I would get no help from anyone if I complained, I was sure. So I wrote a letter. In the Readers Page of Bichitra,
the letter was published the very next week. Letters for Aubokash, Amlapara were being delivered at 69, Rambabu Road. The dishonesty of
the Postal Department was crossing all limits etc Two days after the letter was published, an official of the Postal Department came
looking for me at Aubokash. In a long bound register he had come to lodge my complaint. However, once he arrived, he expressed his own
complaint instead. His complaint was about my complaint. My letters were not going to some unknown villian, but to my own father. The
owner of Aubokash and of Arogya Bitaan was the same individual. Therefore, according to instructions, the owners letters could go from
one address to the other. In answer to this I said, But the letters are not addressed to my father, they are addressed to me. I had not told the
postmaster to deliver my letters to Arogya Bitaan instead of Aubokash.
Wherever they are delivered, he is your father after all.
In a soft voice I corrected him, Yes, he is my father. He is not me. My father and I are not the same, we are different. The official went
away. The problem remained unsolved. Chhotda helped me out of this situation by allowing me to use his friends stationery shop address.
I informed my penfriends of my new address. Chhotda faithfully acted as my postman. I was very friendly with him. We read the Id Edition
of Bichitra, stories, and novels together, that is, I read them aloud and Chhotda listened. Most of the story books were also read in this way.
Some of these Chhotda did not like, and these I read by myself. The stories of the wicked forest elf of my childhood were forgotten. I had
given up reading Niharranjan Gupta, Phalguni Mukhopadhyay, Nimai Bhattacharya, Bimal Mitra, Jarasondho ages ago. I had nothing left
of Saratchandra to read. I had even had enough of Rabindranath and Nazrul. Michael, even Jibanananda had been consumed. From Shakti,
Sunil, Shamshur Rahman, Al Mahmud to the recent Nirmalendu Goons books, whatever had been published, I had read. I wanted
something different. On the way back home from college, I stopped at the bookshops at the corner of Ganginar Par, and searched for books.
Prose, poetry, essays, all kinds of books attracted me. But I didnt have enough money to buy books. Chhotda rescued me from even this
misery. One evening he took me to the Public Library. As soon as I entered it, a wonderful peace and calm embraced me. From the floor to
the ceiling of the room, were bookshelves. There were books all around. In the centre there were study tables; there was pin-drop silence;
one or two people were studying seriously. Purposely, I spent the whole day in this clean, neat and peaceful temple-like room. If only all
the books in the library could be carried home and read today itself! That very day I became a member and carried home as many books as
I could hold in my two hands. The books kept passing from my hands to Chandanas and back to mine. Once wed gone through Sayyed
Waliullah, Saikat Usman, Hassan Ajijul Haq, it was Satinath Bhaduri, Naren Mitra and Jagdish Gupta. We returned books and got more.
We hungrily read all the books, as though very soon we had to take an important exam on the books in the Public Library.
****
The exams were approaching. In refined terms the Higher Secondary, in colloquial, Intermediate and in bookish Bangla Uchcho
Madhyamik exams. Instead of three days, now Debnath Pandit was coming home five days a week. He didnt come to teach me actually,
only to beat me into a worthy person. Like Babas, Debnath Pandits eyes strayed to the small bits of paper. One day a half-finished letter to
a penfriend fell out of my Maths book. Before I could pick up the fallen letter, Debnath Pandit grabbed it, read it from top to bottom, and
put it into his breast pocket. What was this! He was behaving just like Baba. Was he now going to break the firewood in the courtyard on
my back, because of this letter! Every so often he felt his breast pocket, and seemed to feel a kind of joy in ascertaining that the half
finished letter still existed, and instead of flying away somewhere, was still inside his pocket. It was the kind of joy that inflamed one, that
made the hair on ones body stand on end, and settle down, that made the head throb and not do so at the same time. Debnath Pandit was
unable to teach. He kept shifting from left to right, from back to front. His mind was restless. I finished the sums he had given me; there
were no mistakes. Suddenly he clutched the Physics book with all his ten fingers as though the book had wings and would fly away if he
loosened his hold. Turning the pages, he began to ask me the most difficult questions. I dont know with whose blessings, but even these I
was able to answer correctly. With Chemistry, too, my fate was the same. After that, he suddenly pushed away the Maths, Physics and
Chemistry books with both hands and without any reason gave me one great blow on my head, on the right side of my forehead. Why! No,
there was no reason for it. He said, Why arent you doing the sums I gave you to solve yesterday!
I have done them.
If you have done them, then why cant you show them? Where is your mind?
This was the golden opportunity to punish me for the half-finished letter. I held the Maths copy before him. Even after doing so I got a
sudden blow on my back. My lungs felt the impact.
How many times do I have to tell you to leave a margin when doing sums?
This was first time he had mentioned a margin. Whatever. Then he came to the actual topic.
Who have you written the letter to?
Which letter?
This time a slap landed smack on my cheek.
As though you dont know which letter? This one!
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He took out the half-finished letter from his breast pocket.
Who is Jewel? Where does she stay? What does she do?
She stays in Dhaka. I dont know what she does.
You dont know? Are you fooling me?
How could I fool Debnath Pandit? I didnt have that kind of courage. Debnath Pandit sat before me with his huge body, massive physique,
arms like the trunks of a banana tree, and fingers like hard, solid bananas. I tried, on the other hand, to lie at his feet like a dying blade of
grass, as lifeless as I could possibly be. Tearing the letter into bits, he threw the pieces on my face and left the room breathing fumes of
anger. I sat alone, amidst Debnath Pandits beatings, Babas scolding, Mas nagging, Chhotdas sorrow, Geetas pride and Dadas bossing. I
buried my face in books. The exams were approaching. I knew that, but that did not prevent me from looking at Chhotdas friends who
visited our house. There was Jyotirmoy Duttas son Babua Dutta. There was Tafsir Ahmed, son of the editor of Takbir, so handsome one
couldnt take ones eyes off him. Another reputed lady-killer was Sohan, the D. C.s son, who lived in the saheb quarters. Whoever I saw, I
not only fell in love with mentally, I even heard his personal thoughts in my own mind, Where will I get a pitcher, girl where will I get a
rope, you are the deep river, and I am the one who is drowning. Yet not one of them bothered to give me even a second glance, and I
began to feel like the ugliest girl in the world.
Just like Chitrali and Purbani stopped coming, letters from penfriends also began to peter out. I only replied to some really good, poetic
letters written in neat handwriting. A final year student of the Technical University, Kamrul Hassan Salim, wrote amazingly beautiful
letters, as though he was writing of dreams from another world. I selected Salims letters and kept writing to him from across the seas
which I had never seen. We were like two people alone in another world, facing each other, and talking about our dreams. In this dream
world there were no people, no houses, only skies and seas. On the seashores were only multi-coloured flowers, butterflies, and in the skies
were all the seven colours of the rainbow, soft cotton wool clouds and long tailed birds. It could have carried on this way. But one day,
suddenly, near the college gate a tall young man came and stood before me. My hair was soaked in oil, tightly plaited, and I must definitely
have been looking like a ghoul. Of the two boys standing before me, one was Salim. As soon as he came and introduced himself, I almost
leapt away and quickly took a rickshaw home, my heart thumping. Salim left for Dhaka that day and wrote back. He had come to meet a
friend at Mymensingh, and wanted to meet me once. That was why he had come with his friends and waited at the college gate for me. He
had returned, disappointed at my not having talked to him. Of course, I can meet you, this girl bold with words proudly replied. Come
and meet me. But where? That was a definite problem. There was a restaurant on Station Road, called Tajmahal, where the poets of the
city met. It was true, no woman went there alone. I informed Salim, that I would meet him there. Chhotda had taken Geeta and me to that
restaurant one evening. Because there were women with Chhotda, we were given a table behind a curtain. Whenever women came,
this was the norm, go far away, out of sight. The people at Tajmahal kept peeping at us. As soon as Salim got my letter, he wrote back
telling me on which day, and what time he was coming to Mymensingh. The day I was to meet him, I dressed up and left the house on the
pretext of attending Chandanas birthday. Salim was standing at the entrance of Tajmahal. Controlling the palpitations in my heart with all
my might, I entered the restaurant, and had to sit behind the curtains. Although I sat opposite Salim, drinking tea, I was unable to look him
in the eye. To his questions I was almost speechless, able to utter no more than yes, hmm, no and a couple of impersonal words. I was only
voluble in my silence. Although I used the personal tumi in my letters, I realised I found it impossible to call him tumi to his face. I sat
there only till the tea lasted. As soon as the tea was over, I became restless. We had drunk the tea, now what, except to leave what else
could happen! The word Bye kept coming to the tip of my tongue and receding. In one of my letters I had used the word Ahalya.
Maybe for this reason, Salim asked me, What does the word Ahalya mean?
I did not reply.
He laughed and said, Naked.
Instantly the word that was coming and going from my tongue finally came out. I said, Bye and left without demur. Salim was left
behind, sitting in a state of shock.
That very day Chhotda came back with the news. It seems you went to the Tajmahal?
Who told you?
It seems you were sitting and chatting with some fellow? The whole city has come to know. You are really crossing all limits now.
That I had crossed limits I understood very clearly. But this girl who had managed to do so also felt herself to be extremely dumb and
stupid. How come she was unable to speak to Salim! By leaving the restaurant without any warning, what was she trying to prove? Was she
trying to say that she was not a bad girl, that, she didnt chat with boys! She was from a highly placed gentlemans family, a good girl, who
avoided the company of boys! She had to meet Salim only because he had come all the way from Dhaka, otherwise she would never have
gone to such lengths! Whats this! It seemed hearing the word naked had revolted her physically! The next day she sent a letter with two
takas in an envelope to Salim I am really sorry, I forgot to pay for the tea. I am sending you the money. This was possibly to give him
the message that she was not a sponger! Otherwise, two takas was not such a big amount that if Salim paid for it from his own pocket, he
would have become destitute, therefore she just had to send him the amount by post from Mymensingh to Dhaka!
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Since he met me, Salims letters surprisingly became more passionate. There were more waves in the sea. I was moving backwards,
because his lips had not appeared like lips to me but had appeared if not like a whole, atleast half a tandoori roti. I gradually reduced my
letters to Salim, and one day Salim, too, stopped writing to me. No letters, none at all. After a very long time, suddenly I received a letter
from Switzerland written by Salim. It said if I ever got a chance, I should visit Zurich. It seemed it was one of the most extraordinary cities
of the world. The name Zurich reminded me of our International Ludo game. If you came to Zurich, you had to visit the hospital, and
unless you got the number five on the dice, you could not get out. Invariably my counter would reach Zurich, and wait endlessly for the
dice to roll a Number Five. I had almost stopped writing to many others, not just Salim. Of course, before I stopped writing, I always had
thought the person on the other side must be a prince, must be the most handsome and talented individual. At that time I had only a handful
of penfriends left, and I had not developed any relationship with them beyond friendship. No one had shown an inclination to leap across
Mymensingh on the pretext of seeing me. Writing one of those ordinary how-are-you? Im-well letters to one of them, I had fallen asleep
on Babas bed. I had finished my studies at night, and my dinner, and had been writing the letter lying down with a pillow under my chest.
Hearing the sound of Babas footsteps, I had sleepily left Babas bed and thrown myself on mine. The letter remained lying on Babas bed.
In the middle of the night, Baba pulled me out of my sleep and threw me down on the floor. He then proceeded to take off his shoes and
beat me up. Why was he doing so, what was my misdeed, he did not bother to tell me. I was unable to gauge why Baba had turned so mad.
My inarticulate words, What have I done, what has happened? were lost under Babas angry roar. He became a complete monster. He
caught my hair in his fist, and threw me into space. Then flew the hard Bata shoes and rained blows on my back, shoulders, head, chest and
face. Baba did beat us, but he had never woken up a sleeping girl and beaten her up like this in the middle of the night. Ma had tried to
restrain Baba, but was pushed and thrown far away, before he grabbed me again. He only stopped when the strength left his own limbs. Ma
picked me up from the floor, saying, If only the man had some judgement! He doesnt even know that if you hit on the head, it can get
damaged. Instead of beating you like this, why doesnt he kill and finish off at one go! Then all the problems will be solved. She took me
to the bed. The whole night she sat beside me applying fomentations on my wounds with swabs heated under an iron. My eyes turned
stony. There was no trace of sleep left in them, nor was there a single teardrop. I figured out that my letter lying on the bed had instigated
all this. Baba may have flogged the skin off my back, even broken all my bones, but he could not wipe out my belief that friendship was
possible between boys and girls, that apart from family and love relationships, merely friendly ties were also possible, just like they were
possible between two girls and two boys.
My address was now no more Chhotdas friends stationery shop, but Post Box Number 6. Suspecting that his own letters were being
removed from the stationery shop, Chhotda had taken a box in the Post Office. We both had now begun to use that. I had an invitation to
contribute to the Personal Advertisement Column of Bichitra, from the Section Editor. The request delighted me, but did not arouse any
desire to embark on the path of advertisements. Even if I had forgotten this world, the people of the advertisement world could not forget
me. I was no more, but I lived in the advertisement page. In the New Year titles, a name was given to my lost self. Some called me scented
rose, others Not a rose, but its thorns. Hate and love. Both sentiments kept me afloat, even though I did not know anyone of the writers
personally. Even when reminiscing, there were some who could not resist mentioning my name. Plenty of letters came to my address. Most
of the letters offered friendship. Some blind admirers had also appeared. Shahin, junior to me by a year, waited for me everyday with a
flower in her hand. With the flowers there were letters, she thought of me as a Devi, Goddess. The girl was rather shy. With lowered eyes
and face, she would come before me, with a warm heart and a frigid body, I would remain speechless. The girl had no idea that her Devi
was even more diffident than she was herself! From Chattagram, a millionaire called Pahari Kumar wrote letters in very neat rounded
handwriting, on scented, blue-tinted paper. Chandana was at Aubokash, the day the postman delivered Pahari Kumars gift parcel. We were
sitting and chatting in the fields, when the packet brought our conversation to a halt. As this was a packet, and had to be hand-delivered and
signed for as received by me, so the peon had not gone to Arogya Bitaan, but come home. Inside the big packet, was a smaller one, and
only after a few more small packets within, the final one revealed the gift. As soon as it was out, Chandana jumped a foot away and
screamed, Throw it.
Why should I throw it? Whats happened?
Throw it. Throw it. Throw it right now. That bastard dog, hes sent something rotten, throw it.
Not knowing what I was supposed to throw, I sat perplexed. Curiosity was consuming me to such an extent that, even though I didnt want
to, my hands wanted to go towards the present. Chandanas hand plunged and removed my hand from the article. The present fell from my
hand, on to my lap, and then face forward on to the ground.
What is it?
My ignorant eyes moved from the ground, to Chandana, and at Chandanas nausea.
Cant you make out what it is?
No, I cant. What is it?
This is a panty. Quickly, go and throw it away.
I ran to the garbage pile and threw the gift along with the wrapping into it. Nausea was creeping up in me as well. Chandana actually
brought up her rising nausea at the corner of the field. This had happened to Chandana before. About porno magazines like Desire &
Woman, too she said, I read them once, I vomitted in disgust. I washed my hands with Bangla Soap and then with Lux soap. While eating
Saala I was scared some of it might get into my stomach. Those hands never picked up those filthy things anymore. The world we dreamt
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of was a world where nakedness did not exist. To Chandana, a mans physique was something very ugly. Yet she believed deeply in love.
Chandana had begun talking of Platonic Love. I asked her, Now, whats that? This was love and romance, in which there was no
wickedness or filth. My two eyes looked fascinatedly at Chandanas two shining ones.
Chapter Seven
SHENJUTI EVENING LAMP
Chandana suddenly left me after taking the Higher Secondary Exam. She left me all on my own. She didnt really leave me; she was forced
to go to Comilla by her father Subroto Chakma the man who was husband to her glum-faced mother Molina the man who had been
satisfied when his craving for male offspring had been fulfilled with the birth of two sons, after Chandana. Before leaving for Comilla,
Dada had taken Chandana and me to the Dhaka Board to pick up our certificates. We had to go in the morning and return in the evening. In
the afternoon, while taking us to lunch at the Chinese Restaurant Tai Tung in the Motijheel, Dada said, What, Chandana, why dont you
keep your eyes and ears open?
Why, what is it that we havent seen or heard?
Arent you going to look out for a pretty girl for me? Youve been studying in college for two years!
We were so busy looking at the boys, we had no time. When were we to look at the girls? Chandana laughed. Excepting the men in her
family, Chandana was the most free with my elder brothers. Thinking of the Raja of Chakma, Dada sadly clucked his tongue and said, You
made a great mistake, and will have to repent it in future. You didnt give a Raja any importance!
Chandana laughed loudly.
Dadas sorrow did not end there. When we visited Rangamati, we could have stayed as the Rajas guests! Thanks to you we have lost this
opportunity.
Chandana laughed again.
Who knows which Fakir beggar is written in your fate! Dada said.
Telling us about Rangamati, she talked more about Cherag Ali rather than Debashish. There was a Daroga, a sub-inspector of police, by
this illuminating name, which meant lamp. Cherag Ali said that his light glowed during both day and night. After some time, Chandana
became serious and said that recently, Cherag Ali was glowing a little less as he had lost his job. Although it was a short sojourn, Chandana
and I enjoyed ourselves, being able to get away from the familiar environment of Mymensingh. Before Chandana left for Comilla I had
told her, Dont go. If you go, how will I survive? Chandana had the same query, but neither of us had the answer to this question.
Chandana had even told Subroto Chakma that she would not leave Mymensingh, she would stay at Aubokash with me, and continue her
studies. He had not agreed. Chandanas half-closed eyes were red on the day she was leaving. She whispered in my ear, You watch, I will
run away one day and come back to you. The two of us will live together all our lives. From Comilla she wrote two to three letters a day.
She wrote long and lengthy letters, describing each and every event of every day, every disaster. She penned her feelings, her loneliness
and the emptiness of each day. How, whenever she looked at the red blooms of the Krishnachura tree, it reminded her of me. Reminded her
of the life she had left behind her, every word, every sound, every bud and every flower. She wanted to regain her past life. I did not feel
that Chandana had left forever. To me she had left only to return. We would meet again and once again rock in our cradle of happiness.
Sitting once more in the stern of the boat, I would look at the colours of the sky, while with lapping sounds Chandana would row far away,
way beyond the horizon. It would be a world where there would be no sin, viciousness, jealously, hatred, cruelty, meanness, where there
was no wrong, no discrimination, no disease, no sorrow, no death. Here we would live with beauty, imbibing the scent of purity, and love
would never leave our side. Suffering from depression, Chandana would write, I am not feeling happy, as though I am above everything
that is worldly. Liking, loving, all these words seem very old to me. I am unable to make you understand. I keep feeling I am not myself. I
have been sad the whole day. When a little touch causes the mahogany leaves to fall peacefully like a shower of tiny flowers, I wish I could
rest my head on the back of some jean-jacket, and go for a Honda ride somewhere far away. I know, and how cruelly I know, though I have
never spoken of it to anybody, that for me these are only empty dreams. Hurt me! Unless I have tears in my eyes I dont stay well. Never!
Actually I cannot even tell you what has happened to me. Then they will know; everyone will get to know. I am just restless, I am dying of
anxiety, yet do you know, you will never know the whole story, never. You who are my own, so close to me, so close to my heart, I wont
be able to tell even you. Poor heart! This heart is my biggest enemy. Just when everything is going well, just at that moment I change. This
thing, called heart, betrays me. I am not well, not at all, I want to scream, I am continually being torn apart by a kind of jealousy and envy,
and yet I cannot make anyone understand. I cant understand against whom I feel this envy, why this rivalry. Is it that I want to be
vociferous against myself? Do I not love myself anymore? Who knows suppose some blue eyed Greek youth, some Apollo had spoken
to me of love! Everything is turning topsy-turvy within me. I do not feel joy in anything anymore. I remember Sadananda in Ashami
Hajir (Here Stands the Accused) who groaned in some unspeakable torture. I think that I, too, am crying in some equally unspeakable pain.
I cant bear this mundane life anymore. Will you be able to uplift me on to some enchanting plain? My heart cries, who have you left
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behind, dearest heart, that your life is over and you have not gained peace as yet! Can you understand what I am saying? Can you? I want
you close to me. I only want you how long since I have seen you. Let us leave this world and all its emotional ties behind, and roam
around with the ektara, monochord of a Baul, the Hindu devotional singer. You will be the Vaishnavi. Both of us will pick tung-tang sounds
on the ektara, and sing songs like The bird tosses restlessly, it cant tear its chains or break open its cage, it dies tossing restlessly within.
Or Eyes are called mirrors, one day they will be lost, what I saw with my burnt eyes, will be what is left behind.
Apart from writing long letters to Chandana, there was only one thing I did sitting in the corner of the room, in the verandah, on the grass
in the field, under the early morning flowering Sheuli, horsinghars, in the shade of the Segun tree. I wrote poetry. From various towns of
the country, poetry journals came to my address. From many districts of West Bengal too, small poetry periodicals came. These were like a
chain, one led to another, resulting in the whole thing spreading. I sent my poems to small poetry journals and even to weekly magazines.
Somewhere or the other, the poems got published now and then. One day a pebble dropped into the pool of my thoughts. Having no idea
from where it came or how it came I sat motionless next to the pond. The tiny waves in the pond gradually grew bigger, till they lashed my
feet, and my body got wet with the spray. I still sat motionless. I looked benumbed, but within me a wish was peeping out like a bud. If I
tried, I could publish a poetry magazine myself. Could I not? I could. My mind told me, I could. The sound of ululation from Dolly Pals
house roused me. It was growing dark all around. What name would I give the journal? What name? I did not have to think for two or three
days. My heart said, Shenjuti! Yes, Shenjuti it would be. The Evening Lamp. As soon as I asked Chandana, she sent me her poem. Even
though school was over, my Bangla teacher Surraiyya Begum regularly wrote letters to me. I got her to write a new poem. Through
Chhotda I got poems written by poets in the city. Under the dominance of my desire and the influence of my happiness, I prepared the
manuscript of Shenjuti. On the last page, I put some bits of news about literature, writers, from where some small literary magazine was
being published and by whom; was it good or bad, if so why bad or why good, and all that. Dada said, Print one of my poems. From his
poetry notebook I chose the best poem. Give my news also. Write that the Paata Magazine editor, Faizul Kabir Nomans first poetry book
Parapar, Crossings would soon be published. I wrote that, too. Dada was pleased. But the time was approaching to bell the cat who was
going to pay, who was going to go to the press, who would get Shenjuti printed! Dada had not even begun writing any book called
Parapar. But maybe because I had still put in the news as per his request, he told me, Okay, I will pay for the printing of Shenjuti. After
all, I know all the people at the press, because of the printing of Paata. My jingle kept ringing in Dadas ear, Oh Dada, Oh Dada, you
said you would get it printed, do so.
Be patient, be patient.
How much more patience should I have?
You must have more. Much more.
How many days?
Another few!
I was unable to keep my patience. I became more and more restless everyday. Finally I handed over the manuscript to Chhotda. After
giving Shenjuti to a printing press in Chhotabazar, I kept at Chhotdas tail, When will it be printed?
It is going to take some time.
How long?
It will be printed next month.
Oof, so long!
You think the press has nothing else to do?
Will you take me to the press one day?
Why do you want to go? I will get it printed and bring it.
This wish to go to the printing press was nipped in the bud by Dada, Why should you go to the press?
I want to see how the printing is done.
Girls do not go to the press.
Why not?
They dont.
Is there any reason?
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Girls should not go to the press.
Why not? What happens if they do?
There are problems.
What problems? People will stare?
Maybe not, but they will laugh.
Why should they laugh? What is there to laugh at? I am editing the magazine, why shouldnt I go to the press?
Editing can be done even at home. You dont have to run to the press like a man.
Dada was unable to dampen my enthusiasm. I went to the press with Chhotda. Somehow I managed it. Black were the tables laid out
dividing the room into columns. Sitting at them, were people picking out each type-set letter from its case and placing it on an iron sheet.
For every word, however small, one had to reach out several times to pick each letter. How did they know in which place which letter was,
how did their hands move so fast! I felt like spending the whole day at the press, watching how letters were joined together to form words.
The printing machine was noisily printing beedi paper, incense stick covers, box covers for ointments, wedding cards and political posters.
Seeing the manuscript of Shenjuti, the owner of the press, Hare Krishna Saha gave a smile, sensing a different kind of task. His smile was
different, too. He said he would print it soon. Every format would cost two hundred taka. Not just that, more money was required to buy the
paper. I went home and began selling all the paper whether whole or in pieces. Old Chitralis and Purbanis were put in the sun and dried in
order to shake off the termites. Setting aside my weakness for old Sunday Sandhanis and Bichitras, I sold them all to the
glassbottlepaperwala in order to collect money. I even managed to get some money out of the knot tied at the corner of Mas sari aanchal.
From here and there I managed some more. Guarding this money like a miser, I took Chhotda with me, chose paper from a shop next to
Hare Krishna Sahas press, and delivered the paper to him. After this Chhotda bought the proofs home, and showed me how to proof-read.
Since he himself worked for a newspaper, he knew. I relied on Dada for the money required to print the magazine. Though I did not get the
money at one go, I did get installments.
The day 500 yellow coloured Shenjutis came home printed I imbibed their beauty, essence and aroma. Sitting on the bed, I began to fold
the pages, pin them together and keep them aside. I quickly pushed them under the bed on hearing the sound of Babas entry into the house.
Babas eyes could see under the bed as well. According to Yasmin, Babas eyes were like a vultures; no one could possibly hide anything
from him. He knew what was going on in the house, even when he was not there. It was impossible to guess who were acting as Babas
informers and when. He called Ma and asked her, What is going on, what is the girl doing neglecting her studies?
In a disinterested tone, Ma said, I dont know what poetry magazine she has printed.
What is a poetry magazine?
She writes poetry, prints a magazine.
What will she get out of a poetry magazine? Havent I told her to study? Who will pass her in the medical entrance exams? Will she pass
with poems?
Ma had to bear the brunt, mostly.
Where did she get the money? Babas curiosity was brimming over.
Ma told him dryly, Noman gave it to her.
Why did Noman give her?
She asked him. He gave her.
Do you have to give just because you are asked?
It was his younger sisters wish, so he gave it.
What does Noman get out of it?
Does everyone look for profit? She writes poetry because she likes to. Noman too used to publish a poetry magazine. Now Nasreen has
taken it up.
I work days and nights to feed them. Is my hard work for them to waste their time in all these useless activities?
Ma said, Why do you ask me? Ask your daughter.
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Baba never came to ask me anything. He caught hold of Dada, Why are you inciting her, just because shes gone crazy, do you have to
turn mad too?
Dada mumbled, I have not incited her.
Why did you give her the money?
I didnt give her much.
But you did. If you hadnt given her the money, could she have done all this?
Dada swelled with pride and said, No.
By writing poetry what do you get in life? Do you achieve anything?
No.
Then why does she write?
Just like that.
Does poetry give you food?
No, it doesnt give you food.
Do you get clothes?
No, you dont.
Does it give a home?
No.
Does it provide electricity?
No.
Dada continued to answer softly with his head bent.
You have seen the life of the people on the rounds of the city. Have you found anyone who built a home by writing poetry?
No.
Do gentlemen waste their time in useless work?
No.
Does anyone except for the mad, write poetry?
Dada did not give any answer to this one. Baba asked him the same question twice over. He still made no reply. Leaving the silent Dada,
Baba walked out, making snapping noises with his shoes.
Baba kept his mouth sealed as far as I was concerned. He would speak to everyone, but not to me. When Baba did not speak it also meant
whatever money he was giving would be stopped. I did not even have to go to college now, so I would not need rickshaw fare. In a way I
was relieved that I would not have to face Babas red eyed, snarling teeth, abuses and orders to sit down and study for a while. This was
Babas habit to stop talking suddenly, without warning. This would go on for many, many days. Except for the domestic help, he had
stopped talking to almost everyone in the house by turns. When talk resumed, he himself initiated the process. He locked and unlocked his
mouth at will; the key remained in his breast pocket. Very often we found it difficult to figure out for what reason he had stopped talking to
a particular person. The reason for not talking to me this time was Shenjuti. Not even a week had passed since hed locked his mouth, when
he began writing letters addressed to me. Without opening his mouth, he put his words into letters and began to send them to me blending
the polite and refined with the colloquial. The letter bearer was an employee of Arogya Bitaan, Salaam. Ma called him by his full name.
Salaam was one of the ninety names of Allah. It was incorrect to call anyone directly as Allah, hence, if one added Abdus, or Abdul, then
the name came to mean Allahs servant. Since man was in any case a servant of Allah, Ma, therefore, called him Abdus Salaam, i.e. Allahs
servant. Ma had a neighbourhood brother called Quddoos. Everyone called him Quddoos, Ma called him Abdul Quddoos. After Abdus
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Salaam handed me the letters, Ma made me read out every one of them to her. I read loudly, so that not just Ma, but everyone at home
could hear me. The letter was of ten to twelve pages. It began with a description of the advantages of obeying a fathers orders and
restrictions, and ended with complete disappointment and desolation. In between there flowed a stream of moral advice. The final signing
off was the usual, your unfortunate father! I read the letter alright, but did not bother to pour over the books required to be studied for the
entrance exams. I didnt do so because I didnt want to. Even though I did not spend any time on the kind of study Baba wanted me to do, I
did spend my days and nights on a different kind of reading and writing.
Just a few days after copies of Shenjuti were sent to various poets and little magazines, plenty of letters poured in. With the letters came
poems. They had to be read, corrected and set aside to be printed in the next issue. I had made Shenjuti a trimonthly. But I wished I could
print it the very next day. It was unbearable to wait for three long months. There were so many letters that Baba told Ma in my hearing,
Hasnt she stopped writing here and there to her penfriends as yet? The penfriendships here and there stopped alright, but the poetry
writing here and there did not. It continued. One day he carefully removed a copy of Shenjuti which was lying on the table in the verandah.
After eating lunch, he read every poem in Shenjuti, while lying on his bed in the afternoon. After reading it, he put it into his pocket and
went out. What was about to happen was something I was unable to gauge. At night, he called Ma, made her sit next to him and read out
one of the poems from Shenjuti, and told her, Look, here the poet is saying that paper is earth, the pen is the shovel, and writing poetry is
to dig your own grave. The poet has spoken the truth, dont you think? The poets dig their own graves. That is something a poet himself
has said.
Baba did not get any rejoinder to his letters. He came home with a dark face, and left in the same way. My tall, fair, curly haired filmstar,
Uttam Kumar like Baba, kept within himself, Lord knows how many scoldings and abuses, all waiting to burst forth. After all, silence was
also one of his many moral lessons. Since I was not weakening in spite of his attacking letters, what he did next was quite unique. He
pasted a paper onto his door, on which he had written,
I am no more able to bear so much wrong
Was this what was written in my fate, all along,
My children have all gone to the dogs
Secretly I weep as I die drop by drop.
After reading Babas poem, I used some rice starch to stick a paper on the red glass of his red and blue windows. On the paper was written,
What is wrong that I all of a sudden have done?
My days and nights are spent
Sitting at Aubokash, going nowhere
I do not even take a step beyond the doorway.
When Baba returned home, I remained curled up in my room. Keeping my ears open for the reaction did not help. Baba came home
silently, and as silently left. After his departure, when I went to check on the state of the paper on the window, I found another paper posted
next to mine, on which was written:
Staying at home doesnt always make one virtuous
The man here gets to know, which is obvious
The happenings at Aubokash always reach his ear
That wishfully a life is being destroyed without fear.
Penfriendship has never lead to success
And illiteracy only causes lifes pillars
To shake and undergo stress.
After reading Babas missive, I wrote again in big, big letters. While writing Yasmins head would just not move away from mine.
I know that, as though I dont.
However, one thing I do not condone.
That beating is the only way to mould
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Do fathers feel great pleasure?
When daughters weep and tears roll!
Baba returned by dusk and spent an hour in his room without calling anyone. After asking Ma for a glass of water, and whether any
groceries were required at home or not, he left again. I sat in my room cowering in fear. My heart was thumping. Ultimately how explosive
would this cannonade of public poetry prove to be, who knew! As soon as Baba left, I came out of my coil of fear.
Baba had this time pasted his poem, on the purple glass of the window.
The core of a fathers heart hurts when daughters weep
The bond between them only a father knows how deep
Today he is present, may not be so tomorrow
Hence on his daughter his wish is to generously bestow,
Education and culture and to guide her onto the path of truth
A path universally approved.
What else, would a father bless his daughters with, forsooth.
*****
This dialogue encouraged me tremendously. Everyone at home came to the window to read the poems pasted on the glass. Leaving Dadas
gifted diary in which I wrote poems, I got completely involved in this game of poetry on the window.
Is there no truth in Tagore?
Would anyone succeed in dismissing Nazrul of yore?
And Sukanta? Absolutely outstanding;
Does poetry follow the path of lies?
If so, then I will give an undertaking
That path, I will not tread,
I will not increase anyones dread.
As insignificant and trivial a person
As I
Only knows
That for jewels I do not die.
My evening lamp should be lit,
That is my most urgent desire.
As soon as one window was covered, the poems were being pasted on the next. Reading this one, Ma said, Cut out as trivial and
insignificant a person as I.
If I cut it out, what can I fill it with?
Write as extremely intelligent a person as I.
The words were not cut, because Babas footsteps could be heard. Baba nowadays came home rather frequently. Apart from calls of nature,
even to drink a glass of water he came across all the way from Notun Bazar to Amlapara. The purpose, of course, was poetry. It sometimes
even happened that within half an hour of writing a poem, he returned without any rhyme or reason. He checked whether anything new had
been pasted on the doors and windows of his room. Without any need, he would pass by my room, and glance in to see if I was there or not.
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We never came face to face; he avoided that and so did I. During these periods of mutual silence, this system of avoiding even the sight of
each other was taught to us by Baba only.
Rabindranath wrote poetry without a thought.
Zamindars lives could after all be spent doing nought.
Does poetry really behove a student life?
This unfortunate struggles rather hard for children and wife.
Does he get the fruits of his strife?
Do any of them at all think of their father?
I do not see any such respect or honour.
How much I urge them to become worthy persons.
Yet there is still no awareness or perceptions.
Time waits for no one.
There will be none to stand by you, when fathers gone.
In student life, there is nothing called leisure
Repeatedly I have pointed this out, as I do even now in greater measure.
Neglect will only ruin your life.
Seeing this, the pain will be no ones but mine.
*****
Baba took quite sometime to write this verse. From Salaam, we got the news that Baba now took pen and paper to Arogya Bitaan, and sat
scratching his head. Patients kept sitting in the waiting room. He would be scratching, writing, throwing and re-writing. Later, after telling
his patients to wait for a little more time, he would make a round of the house. The round was to basically paste a poem on the window.
Reading this poem Ma snorted, Hmm! What tough time does he have running this household? In seven days, he shops once. For that
womans house, fish and meat are bought everyday. Its not that he doesnt earn a good sum. What does he give you all? Has he ever
fulfilled any of your desires?
Inspired by Ma I wrote,
How much do you spend on us really!
Half the time we seem to go hungry.
For Id we get clothes, sometimes not even this,
The thoughts in our minds never come to our lips.
All around us girls talk so much
In our house alone, in dread, we live as such.
Hope however still lurks in our hearts,
Babas love will surely someday wash away our sad thoughts
We will then be able to rise so high,
Maybe even touch the sky
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To the other side of the horizon,
We will one day fly.
Reading the poem Ma said, Why have you written about flying away? Dada read it loudly and said, Nicely written. After this, Baba
wrote nothing more. That there was a lot of difference between the world of poetry and the world of reality, was brought home to me one
day by Babas screaming call for me, Nasreen. As always, I stood before Baba with head and eyes both lowered. He, too, as usual snarled
at me and said, What do you think youre doing?
I was silent.
Can you spend your life chatting the whole day?
No reply.
Cant you understand that a donkey like you can never pass the medical?
No reply.
You write poems? Do you think you alone can write poetry? Everyone can. Ask the maid Malleka; she too can write.
From the donkey a sound emerged, But Malleka doesnt know how to write.
So what, she can speak cant she? Did not Lalan Fakir recite poetry orally? Did not Hachhon Raja?
No reply.
I am giving you my last warning. If you dont get admission into Medical College, your meals at home will be stopped. Have you found
out when the Dhaka University entrance exams will commence?
No reply.
The architecture entrance exams are next month. You will have to go to Dhaka to take the exams. Sit down and practice your maths
immediately. If you dont pass your exams, try and visualise for yourself what is in your fate.
Silently digesting Babas advice, I left his room with my head still bent. However, I didnt sit down to Maths, but to celebrate. Celebrate the
joy of going to Dhaka by train.
Jhikir jhikir Mymensingh, in Dhaka I will dance and sing.
In Dhaka I will dance and sing, jhikir jhikir Mymensingh.
Baba had himself asked me to take the architecture exam. What more could I have possibly asked for? If I talked about studying Bangla at
Dhaka University, I might lose this opportunity of going to Dhaka altogether. Baba would never have agreed to send me for the architecture
entrance exam, if MA Kahhars precious son Farhad had not told him that architecture was a good subject. Farhad had been sitting for
many years in the final year at the Technical University. Just before the exams, he would invariably start vomitting. Every year, doctors
came and gave him medicines before the exams. He took the exams, but had never passed. So what, his opinion still mattered. Architecture
was a good subject, not just good, Farhad had emphasised that it was even better than medicine. His reasoning was that no one but a doctor
would marry a lady doctor, so this was the problem of women studying medicine. What ever argument Farhad might have given, it would
not have been accepted by Baba. He could never believe that any subject in the world was better than medicine, be it for a girl or boy, or
even a dog, cat, worm or insect. Gesticulating with his hands and feet, Farhad had told Dada, Arrey Mia, Mister, you can even work from
your home. You dont even have to go out. Suppose you design a rich mans house, a Government building or even figure out a new design
for the Parliament House, you get a crore sitting at home. You need not work for the rest of the year, if you so choose. Architecture is a
good subject, was something even Chhotda said. Arrey, isnt our Rafique studying the subject there! Rafique was studying the subject,
hence it must be good; if he hadnt, maybe the subject wouldnt have been so good. Just because Chhotdas friend was studying
architecture, he smiled displaying his black gums to such an extent that one would have thought everything, i.e., the A to Z of architecture
was at his finger-tips. One had to attend classes for seven days before joining. The classes were taken by final year students. His friend
could give me even free coaching. What was necessary now for admission into architecture was proficiency in Maths. On my table were
piles of little magazines. I realised I would not be able to find my Maths books. Possibly all my Maths notebooks too were no more at
home. They had been sold by the ser, in order to buy the paper for Shenjuti.
I informed Chandana that I was soon to become an architect. Chandana was taking the Dhaka University entrance exam, but she would be
studying Bangla Literature. We would be together in Dhaka, two birds who would break their chains and fly about freely in the air. We
would look at life with both eyes, run on our own two [Link] dreams seemed within our reach . Our wings seemed to be alight with
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For Shenjutis second issue, Chandana had sent a poem called Youth, the Name of an Enchanting River.
In the boundless waters around me,
Play a number of handsome youth.
A storm rises in Draupadis breast
Resulting in an endless animated frenzy,
In which they are plundered and ruined utterly
Obviously Chandana while sitting by the window, had been looking not only at the red blossoms of the Krishnachura, and the falling
Mahogany leaves, but also at handsome young men. She had even gone and met one of them without really thinking things out in her mind.
She had given a very graphic description of that meeting, that exchange of glances, that fluttering of the heart. The handsome boy had
wanted to hold hands, but Chandana had carefully removed hers. She had only liked the exchange of glances, and this much had been
enough to keep her wrapped up in a strange rapture for the rest of the day and night. I thought there was nothing as beautiful in this world
as love. I listened to tales of love with complete absorption. In my imagination a Prince would come flying on the back of the King of
Birds. It is now the time for me to love, I too can let flow a flood of love, if I so wish I kept writing poems like this, as well.
Rudra Muhammed Shahidullah, one of Dhakas up and coming poets had sent a poem for Shenjuti. Removing the Bangla nasal signs from
one of his words, I kept his peom You Copper-metalled Shepherd aside, to be published in the next edition of the magazine.
Pipes do not play again and again, they play just once
Copper-metalled shepherd
Krishna, why dont you sound your pipe even once?
Your loneliness and grace resound around you. Your lost illusions
Hover about you day and night, like inaccessible strains
Yet your pipe remarkably still silent remains.
With his poem Rudra had sent a letter, a letter written in red ink. He was keen to be introduced to the Editor of Shenjuti. He wanted to
address her as tumi, because he thoroughly disliked the formal address apni. He wanted to know why Shenjuti was yellow in colour. The
answer was simple the light of the evening lamp was yellow coloured, hence yellow. The next letter effortlessly addressed me as tumi, as
though he was someone very close to me! Since the capacity to make people close through letters was part of my character, I was not
surprised.
Poems for Shenjuti were coming from the cities, towns, villages, market-places, roads, lanes, nooks and corners of two districts. From
Kolkata, Abhijeet Ghose, Nirmal Basak, Chaitali Chattopadhyay, Jibon Sarkar and many others were sending poems. I printed them, not
looking at the names but the poems. If the poem was good, even if the poet was new, or belonged to some remote village, I did not bother. I
noticed that all around spellings of words were changing. The spoken word was being brought into the written language. Many alphabet
and rolling vowels were being dropped by poets like Rudra. Even punctuation marks were changing, in some cases adapting the English
ones. Although I found these changes strange, I welcomed them in Shenjuti. After all, language was no decrepit pond that would remain
unmoving. In Shenjutis Tidbits column, I gave news of other little magazines, their addresses as well, so that anyone reading Shenjuti
would also be able to contact atleast 20-25 other little magazines. Not just news of little magazines, but also of where poetry meets were
being held, who was writing and how. Whose book and which book was appearing soon. Shenjutis publicity was that Any unadulterated
poetry lover was unquestionably a claimant of Shenjuti. Shenjutis bright glow would wipe out all the darkness in the world of poetry.
Shenjuti was eternally true and beautiful. For Shenjuti one had to pay only four quarter taka coins. Not that anyone was really paying those
4 quarters to buy Shenjuti. This magazine with no advertisements was being published out of my personal funds, and I was sending copies
to everyone who wrote poetry or published poetry journals. Sending copies also made quite a hole in my pocket. Read poetry, buy poetry
magazines and poetry books, this was the request I was making to the ordinary public through Shenjuti. I could not rest till I had converted
the whole world into a world of poetry. I had really got addicted to poetry. It was my companion all day and all night.
At home, all alone I sit down to worship poetry, offering flowers and sandalwood paste with my hands
Unaccountably I spend the whole day vainly sitting idle.
At the door ungrateful words wink and laugh at me insultingly
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In the silvery moonlight, words of critics and vilifiers await their opportunity.
Reading Abhijeets long poems written in blank verse, I seemed to have moved far away from metrical measures and versification
measures, on a stream of timelessness.
Rudra had sent his recently published book of poems called Upodruto Upokool (Troubled Shores). I read the poems in the book aloud, and
called Yasmin to read them as well. The air at Aubokash rang with the words of Rudras poems and was infused with the scent of his
poetry. On our lips was poetry. In our hearts was poetry.
I still smell dead bodies in the air.
Even today I see the naked dance of death on this earth.
In my dreamy sleep I still hear the pitiful cries of outraged women.
Has this country forgotten the nightmare and the bloodshed?
In the air was the smell of carcasses.
On the earth were stains of blood.
Those who tied their fates and hearts to this blood-soaked soil,
And found in the wounds of their ragged lives a forbidden dwelling place,
Today their love for this dark cage, keeps them awake in the cave of night.
The flag of nationhood has once more been grabbed by the old vultures
Those who were covered in bloody shrouds and eaten by dogs and vultures,
Were my brothers, my mother and my beloved father.
Freedom is the dear one whom I have won, after losing all others.
Freedom is the invaluable harvest bought with the blood of my beloved people.
My raped sisters sari is now my blood-soaked national flag.
Rudras poems made me sit up. Made me stand up. Made me pace up and down the verandah. Such honest words, strong and forceful
statements, could not but attract me. Rudras poems were the kind which had to be read aloud, recited before a room full of people, out in
the grounds, in a public meeting. Poetry recitation was not something new for me. Dada was taught by Ma in his childhood, and when I
grew up I was trained by Dada. I had now started instructing Yasmin. Yasmin had put her name down for the school recitation competition.
Not only the school, but the Mymensingh District Literary and Cultural Festival was also on, and she had entered her name in the recitation
event there as well. On the slated days she went and recited and came home with all of three prizes. From the hands of the Mymensingh
District Magistrate she was given bulky volumes of the Rabindra-Rachnabali, Gitobitaan, collections of Nazrul and Tagore. She even
began singing songs from the pages of Gitobitaan all by herself. She had a wonderful voice, and hearing it I always said, She should have
a harmonium. There were no musical instruments at home. Dadas fiddle was lying broken, and Chhotda had sold his guitar to buy Geeta
a sari. Baba did not like songs and music. To ask him to buy a harmonium for Yasmin was to invite two slaps on the cheek. Yasmins
dreams of singing had to blow away with the wind as of then. It was better to recite poems, to read poetry; at least no instruments were
required.
When my head was full of Shenjuti, and my heart full of poetry, Dada took me to Dhaka to take the architecture entrance exams. I was
taken to the hostel room of Chhotdas friend Rafique in the Technical University. He was to help me with the entrance exam questions,
even if they were only slight hints about the kind of questions to be expected. Rafique laughed gloomily and said, Your exam is tomorrow;
what can I show you today? Still he made me sit down, gave me a pencil and paper and asked me to draw a simple straight line with one
stroke, so also a circle. After I had done so, he said, Draw a picture of this room. After I did that too, he said, You have a fairly good
hand. With that good hand, I took the exam, drawing whatever I was asked to draw. However, I could not solve any of the ten sums asked.
How could I possibly have, after all, instead of practicing my Math, I had practiced my poetry. It was a two hour exam, but after an hour I
came out of the examination hall telling Dada in a lifeless tone, that I was not going to pass. After a few days the list of students who had
qualified for the viva, was hung up next to the Technical University office. Surprisingly, I got to know that my name figured in the list. I
would have to go to Dhaka to take the viva voce, so our suitcases were packed. But Baba put an end to our trip by saying, You dont have
to go to Dhaka.
Why, why was there no need to go to Dhaka? If I didnt go to Dhaka, I would be unable to take the viva, and if I didnt I would not get
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admission in the architecture course! I was stunned, and sat before Babas unmoving, fixed statue, with a mountain of questions in my
mind.
Baba said in a grave tone, You do not have to study architecture.
The architectural masonry of my own dreams came crashing down all of a sudden. With a heart full of cracks, I sat extremely depressed.
I did not have to study architecture, because I had to study medicine. My name had appeared in the list of those who had qualified the
medical entrance.
Chapter Eight
The Company of Loneliness
What Baba brought into force at home, did not always remain in force for years to come. The strings were in his hands, he could loosen or
tighten them as and when he wished. One fine day he suddenly dropped some of the strict rules he had made. Seeing no more letters from
penfriends arriving for me, he at least did not try to wangle the new postman to take away my letters. The new postman was again
delivering letters home as before. The practice of doling out groceries from the locked kitchen cupboard also ebbed. It was not always
possible for him to come from Notun Bazar in time for every meal to be cooked. The cupboard now remained open. Ma, as before, was
once again submerged in the sea of domesticity. When Joris Ma left, Ma had brought Malleka from the slums behind Nanibari. Malleka
left even before the month got over. After looking for two days here and there, and not finding anyone, Ma caught hold of Halima, a street
beggar from the neighbourhood. Halima, along with her mother, was eventually installed in the house. Out on some errand, Halima
encountered some glassbottlepaperwala. That wala had said he would marry her, and her happiness knew no bounds. Ma gave Halima a
colourful sari and a new lungi for the paperwala son-in-law. The married Halima left the house very proudly. Halimas Ma remained alone
in our house, coughing away, the whole day long. It became difficult for her to do all the housework singlehanded. She frequently had
fever. The day clots of blood appeared with her cough Ma personally took her to the hospital and got her admitted. Before two weeks were
over, Halima came back to Aubokash. What happened? My husband did not give me any food.
Halima went back to scouring utensils, washing clothes and mopping the floor. Every so often she would say, He troubled me so much I
could not even sleep at night. We were eager to know what kind of troubling she meant.
He would cry out glass-bottle-paper in his sleep. Since he spent the whole day calling out glass-bottle-paper, in his sleep, too, he
thought the night was day.
This Halima, within a few days, accepted another marriage proposal from some other wala she met on the streets and left Aubokash.
We got used to the constant comings and goings of these drifting poor. No one ever discussed who was coming or going, why he was going
or where to. If there were some maids, Ma got some respite otherwise she had a tough time. The whole problem was Mas. Whether there
was help or not, we never suffered any discomforts. We remained unaffected. Mas eagerness to find help was always more than ours. Once
a man, wearing a hitched up lungi and a torn vest had come into our grounds. I suspected him to be a dacoit at the very first sight. If he
wasnt a dacoit then why was he carrying a da or chopper in his hand?
What do you want? I shouted standing at the window.
Can I do any work for you?
What work?
Cleaning and cutting with my da.
I ran to give Ma the news, A dacoit has come. Says he does work with his da. You know what that means! He kills people with his da.
Ma was grinding some spices. She said, Tell him to wait.
I didnt turn that way at all after that. Ma left her grinding and opened the door to go into the grounds. Quite happily she brought the man
inside the house, and got him to clean the jungle behind the tinshed. She then not only gave him a plateful of rice with daal to eat, but also
a piece of fish. Ma had no fears at all. Inspite of so many robberies in the house, Ma still did not think anyone was a thief. Ma heard about
dacoities but still never thought anyone was a dacoit. When the man was wolfing down the meal, Ma said, What Mia, dont you have any
daughters? Say around 12-13 years of age? Ma was afraid of employing any young girls. That is why when she asked for a girl, she never
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wanted to cross the age group of 12 or 13. If she was to consider an older woman, then she should not be less than 40.
The man said, Apa, eldersister, I have only one son, no daughter.
How old is your son?
The man could not give the age. Placing his left hand on his waist, he showed He is as tall as my waist.
Put him to work. What do you say? He can at least run errands.
The man was so taken with Mas behaviour that he brought his son, Nazrul, over the very next day. Nazrul would stay and be given meals.
His father too could come and see his son, whenever he was working with his da in the neighbourhood. Whenever the man came, Ma gave
him food to eat. The man would take a look at his son and leave in a happy frame of mind. Nazrul stayed for as long as two years in this
house. After which he ran away one day. When two months had passed, Nazrul was persuaded to return to us by his father. Once he had
finished all his chores at night, he would come inside the room and act like the Raja in a Jatra, an open air opera. He acted alone. We were
his audience, his listeners. Once in a while he would hold our hands and make us stand before him to act as his Rani. So what if she had no
dialogues. Kire Nazrul, what will you become when you grow up? Will you take part in Jatras? Nazruls eyes would be shining as he
answered, Yes. Initially Nazrul did not know how to cook. He couldnt even wash the clothes. Later he learnt everything. When he grew
as tall as his fathers chest, he was taken to work with the da, by his Baba. The day he left, Ma collected whatever money she had tied in
her sari aanchal, and any change kept under her mattress, amounting to about 12 taka, and gave it to Nazruls father. When she had no help
in the house, Ma went to the slum behind Nanibari. If she found no one there, she went to the banks of the Brahmaputra. Poor people dwelt
there in their shanties on the embankment built with broken barriers and thatch roofs. If not in one home, one always found someone to
work in another. If even that didnt work, Ma would get beggars coming to the house to do some work, give them lunch, and put more rice
in their bowls. If all failed and there was just no one to be found, then Baba would send for someone from his ancestral village, Nandail, to
manage the mandatory chores. Mostly they were Babas own relatives. They were not very distant either, quite close actually. His own
sisters daughter. Babas two younger sisters had been married to farmers in Nandail itself. During illnesses, the sisters came to this house,
to their doctor brother, and went home taking their medicines. The sons of the sisters had grown up and would now come by themselves.
They would come for monetary and other assistance. They would stay and eat for two days in this house. Baba would call them and after
questioning them on the state of the estates owned by them, would disburse both advice and funds. The sisters came with a marriageable
daughter. They had found an eligible groom, but the boy wanted a job. He was not interested in working on the farm in the village. The
brides rich Mama stayed in the town. If that Mama could get him a job, he would marry her, otherwise not. Baba looked here and there for
a job and found him one. However, if a daughter brought a complaint to Baba that her husband was beating her, Baba said, let him. Let the
husband beat her, if he gave her a little daal and rice to eat from his earning, she should keep quiet and continue to look after her husbands
household. This was the advice she was sent home with. When a husband gave Talaq to his wife, and married for a second time, Baba was
out to take away the husbands job. Baba gave his niece Sufis husband a job of binding books at the Cadet College. A bonny baby girl was
born to Sufi. Soon after, the husband beat Sufi, threw her out of the house and married again. Sufi came, fell at Babas feet and cried. Baba
said, Go and work in your co-wifes house, and stay alive. Sufi stayed in the co-wifes house for a long time. Finally, because the
husband stopped feeding her, she returned to her parents home. With her pretty baby daughter, this extra-troublesome burden continued
to stay in her parents house, her lips permanently sealed. She was brought one day to town. People thought Sufi was the maid. No one at
home even corrected this notion, that she was not the maid. Sometimes we also forgot that Sufi was our own cousin, Babas own niece.
That was because Sufi worked in the house just like a maid. Whatever clothes were given to the maid, on Id were given to Sufi as well.
Whatever leftovers she got to eat, Sufi got the same.
After the harvest, when family members visited from Nandail, they would always bring pittha, rice cakes, with them, mera pittha, Dada
pounced on it whenever he saw it. This mera pittha one could slice and fry, and eat with jaggery. Sometimes, they bought the horned
catfish or Magur, swimming in big vessels of water. Ma was happy whenever anyone brought something. After cooking and while serving
the fish, she would say, The fish were very fresh; must be from the pond. If anyone brought chilli pitthas, Dada alone ate half of them,
sitting on the chair in the inside verandah swinging his feet. Babas elder sister was quite well-off. In the Kashirampur village of Nandail,
she lived amidst plenty of landed property. Her children were all educated. The second son of his eldest sister, Rashid, studied in a college
in town. He studied in college, living in our house. Many of Babas relatives had stayed at Aubokash while studying. Baba was more keen
to educate his fraternal nephews than his sisters sons. There was an endless stream of visitors either seeking jobs, or ill, or for studying
purposes. Whoever came got a place in the tinshed. There was a spacious sleeping arrangement made there for villagers to come and stay
when in town. On Mas shoulders lay the responsibility of cooking, serving and feeding her husband and children, along with all members
of Babas extended family. Ma never shirked this responsibility, or did a shoddy job of it. Even uninvited visitors from the village who
arrived home late in the afternoon, were served meat and fish by Ma, however small the portion. Ma was like a magician. She would cook
one chicken, and was able to feed everyone at home twice a day. Even on the next morning, I would see some meat had been kept aside to
be eaten with the Rotis. Beef was cheap, so Baba very often bought it and sent it home. Whenever I ate it, slivers of meat got stuck between
my teeth, and the whole day was spent poking between my teeth to extricate them. Ma kept aside bones for me. Big bones with less meat,
these pieces I could still manage. Chicken was more expensive. It was tasty as well. However tasty the chicken and keen the desire to eat it,
no one had been able to make me behead one. Many times it happened that Ma was busy, and no shop assistant was forthcoming to behead
the chicken, the Dadas were missing, so Ma would tell me to do the beheading. In the courtyard I had to hold up the skin of the chickens
neck, say Allahoo-Akbar and cut it till the blood spurted out. I had taken the da many times. I had even picked up the chicken by the skin
of its neck. I had brought the da close to its neck. But I had never been able to perform the act. It had never been possible for me to behead
a live chicken. Seeing a beheaded chicken leaping all over the courtyard in pain, the pain inside my chest too leapt up in a similar fashion.
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Dada felt no pain in watching. Dada seemed to enjoy the torment of the chicken. I had told Ma often, That chicken had to give its life for
us to enjoy a good meal! Ma said, Allah has made them to be mans food. If you sacrifice them in Allahs name, there is no sin. Ma had
said there is no sin, but when it was proposed that the big white farm chicken, named Jhumjhumi by her, which had walked around the
courtyard for four months, should be killed, because it bit people, she said, A pet chicken should not be killed. Ultimately though, the
chicken was beheaded. Ma not only did not taste a single piece of meat, dressed as she was with a burkha covering her clothes, she left the
house to go to Nanibari. She left before she had to see the piteous spectacle of Jhumjhumi leaping in torment about the bloodied courtyard.
At Nanibari she ate a satisfying meal of rice and greens. She kept thinking that Jhumjhumi must be cursing her.
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After staying in Dhaka, and visiting Burma and Korea, Geeta may have been someone whom we looked at with amazement, but Ma never
forgot that she was her daughter-in-law. Ma had thought that if not much, by handing over some household responsibilities to the daughter-
in-law atleast, she would get some rest. Mas hopes were in vain. Geeta did not even step anywhere close to the kitchen. Geetas splendour
was now much greater than ever before. Her high heeled shoes sounded much louder now when she walked. She had cut her hair shoulder
length. She had plucked her eyebrows completely, and with a black collyrium-pencil had instead drawn two bows in their place. Her facial
makeup was also much more elaborate than before. She stylishly applied red and pink lipstick, and coloured eye-shadow, matching her
saris. She wore prettier and more colourful saris than before. She went on outings more often. Like before, Yasmin and I, continued to
observe Geeta a little amazed, somewhat entranced, slightly hurt, with some understanding and some lack of it as well.
Chhotda had fixed three lights on top of Mas dressing table. Under the bright lights Geeta looked fair in the mirror. When she stood all
dressed up, she was the splitting image of the Durga idol decorating the Golpukur Par idol-making shop of Sudhir Das. The only difference
was that one was ten cubits or a forearm tall and the other two. Whenever Geeta got the chance, she told us stories of Dhaka. Stories of
Rahija Khanums three children. Soon we were well versed in the characters and habits of all the children. When we heard her stories of
Burma and Korea, we began feeling these countries were just in the next lane after Amlapara. As before, Ma cooked and fed the whole
household. Afroza get up, eat something, was a line I heard Ma calling out every so often. Since Baba had given up hope of Chhotda ever
taking up something academic again in his life, he had instructed him to sit at Arogya Bitaan. He would get 250 taka as pay. Chhotda
jumped at this offer of a job. Since he took up this job, his attacks on Dadas medicines almost came to an end. He passed his days in a light
mood. He spent his evening, pleasantly chatting with his friends at the Golpukur Par adda. As soon as the sound of the black gate
announced Chhotdas departure Geeta would run to the small gate used by the sweepers under the Sabri banana tree, and peep through a
hole in it, standing with her plump pitcher-shaped buttocks aslant. Through that hole was visible the house directly opposite where Dolly
Pal stayed. Geeta watched to see whether Chhotda ever glanced in that direction even mistakenly. Dolly Pal, married and a mother now,
was back at her parents home following a Talaq. Chhotda never looked at Dolly Pal anymore but the Burma-Korea returned Geetas
suspicions were still not dispelled. Everything that Geeta did, including her running under the Sabri tree to watch Chhotda out of curiosity,
made us curious as well. We were quick to pick up the words uttered by Geeta. Most of the language Geeta used to abuse the servants was
the kind we had never heard before, nor did we understand its meaning. When Amena was slow to bring the water she had ordered, Geeta
would say, That woman has not brought the water. What is she doing? Has her bigar got roused or what! Yasmin immediately began
using the word bigar here and there, without knowing its meaning.
In this house there was no lack of love for Geeta. At Id, Dada bought Geeta a silk sari, for Ma there was a cotton one. Ma preferred brown
or red coloured saris, but Dada bought white saris with borders for her. According to Dada, Ma looked like a mother, only in white saris.
Whatever sari was bought for Ma, she always gave it to Yasmin and me, to wear first. Once we had worn them, not just worn but really
used them to our hearts content, did Ma wear them. Ma was deprived of many things, but she was not aware of them. After wearing even
the white sari, if after two days someone came crying from the village with a tale of woe, she would give it to her. Ma heard many new
stories about Razia Begum from Geeta. Geetas lame aunt was a great friend of Razia Begum. This aunt called Henna was the same one
who at one time used to tutor Yasmin and me. Razia Begum had become the Matron of an orphanage in Notun Bazar. Geetas Henna Masi
too worked in the same orphanage. The more Ma heard about Razia Begum, the more she got mad at her. This mad Ma would sit with a
face full of bitterness when Baba entered the house. If Baba vented his anger, she did too. One day, Baba took out his whip from under the
mattress, beat this angry Ma till she was soaked in blood, and left her fallen in the courtyard. Like a beheaded chicken, Ma tossed about
tormentedly, crying out for mercy. Blood spouted from all over her body and the crows on the trees started cawing noisily and rousing
themselves flew away to another area. The sight was inhuman, so we did not want to see it, and instead Yasmin and I sat with our door
closed. None of us had the strength or the courage to snatch the whip from Babas hands. We remained turned to stone. Five minutes after
Baba left the house, Chhotda returned. Seeing Ma fallen in the courtyard and groaning, he ran out of the house immediately. Straight to
Arogya Bitaan. Picking up the wooden three-cornered name plate with Doctor written on it from the table, he fell on Baba screaming Why
did you beat my mother? I will kill you today. All the people in Notun Bazar gathered there on hearing his screams. Some people caught
Chhotda and held him back. Very little happened there. Only Babas forehead had swollen up slightly on one side. Nothing more. Chhotda
had hoped for blood, but even though his wish was not fulfilled, he had to quieten down.
At home, extricating herself from the mud and slush in the courtyard, in an amazingly quiet voice, Ma said, Lets go Afroza. Take me
where I need to go. Wearing a burkha over her blood-stained sari, Ma left with Geeta. She actually went to the courts, signed the Talaq
papers and returned home. Caressing Yasmin and my heads she said, Stay well. People do lose their mothers dont they? Think I have
died. Your father is there, and your brothers. They will take care of you. Work hard at your studies. With these words she put whatever
little belongings she had into a little packet and left for Nanibari. Before Ma left, Baba had become quite friendly with Geeta. Baba would
call Geeta aside and get all the household news from her. This was Babas eternal habit. He always had one spy appointed in the hope of
getting all the secret news at home. Normally the servants acted as good spies for Baba. This time of course the spy was of a much higher
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status than of a servant. She was possessed of great intelligence as well.
That Ma was not there was something I did not feel the day she left. I had even suffered from a kind of secret delight in the notion that with
Ma gone, I would have even more freedom to make noise at home. After a few days, not just in my bones, I felt her absence right down to
my very bone marrow. I realised that there was no one to scrub my body and give me a bath, no one to spoon-feed me, no one to tie my
hair. If the clothes got dirty, no one cared. Whether I ate or not, no one bothered to find out. In the evening there was no one to recite a
string of limericks. Ma would know I was hungry before I knew it myself. She would always be anxious to feed me. Now, whether I was
hungry or not, it made no difference to anyone. After Ma left, Baba had sent for his younger brother Motins wife from Nandail, to look
after the household. She was grossly fat and had a jet-black complexion. Motin had married her when he was working for BDR in
Rajshahi. When he had visited us with his wife, we had suppressed grins on seeing her. She looks just like a maidservant! No one went
near this maid, but Ma happily exchanged her joys and sorrows with Motins wife, as though she were a very old friend of Mas. Seeing
us stifle our giggles Ma had said, She worked in a Mess. So what? Shes a very simple person. Whether simple people were
maidservants or fakirs on the streets, Ma liked them. Motins wife cooked and fed us all. But who could possibly replace Ma! Who else
would be anxious and worried about us as Ma! Serving us with greens like Kalmi Shaak she would recite, Kalmi creeper, Kalmi creeper,
when the waters dry up, where will you be? Ill remain, I will. Beneath the soil. Just let it rain, Ill pop up youll see. There was no end to
Mas limericks. She was able to easily recite any limerick she may have read when she was a child. She knew so many that sometimes I
used to think I should write them all down, just in case she ever forgot them! Ma must have forgotten her limericks by now; after all, she
didnt have to feed anyone anymore while reciting them. If she was in a happy mood she could repeat the dialogues of films like Deedar,
Shobar Uporey, Harano Sur, Sagarika, Baiju Bawra, Deep Jele Jai, by heart. Breaking the still silence of the night, she would sing in a
golden voice, The moon is still awake in the sky, but I have come to know you are close by! Now day and night, the still silence of the
night reigned in the house.
Yasmin came back from school and shouted, Wheres my lunch? Motins wife said, Theres none. No lunch, what do you mean? It
has never happened that I have returned home from school and got no food. That was true, it had really never happened. Lunch had
always been served by Ma as soon as we returned from school. Yasmin shouted the house down. Coming to the conclusion that Motins
wife was not being able to manage, Baba handed over the complete responsibility to Geeta. The altercation that Baba had had with Chhotda
was wiped out automatically. It was as though a two, three or four cornered wooden object had never hit Babas forehead. The orders Geeta
gave were carried out by Motins wife and Amena obediently. The days carried on in this fashion. The days may have gone on as usual, but
Yasmin and I could not feel the same. Geeta ran around with us on the terrace, started a dance school in the house, took us to see films, but
somehow something seemed to be missing. As soon as he returned, Baba would call Geeta to his room. We guessed he asked her all the
details about the household and his children. He would have also been checking to see whether anyone was causing any problems.
Geeta would undoubtedly assure Baba that she was running everything flawlessly, that everything was well arranged and in good order.
Even though it was banned, I told Yasmin one evening, Lets go to Nanibari and see Ma. Yasmin jumped at the suggestion. Disregarding
our fears, when we reached Nanibari in a rickshaw, Ma came running. She hugged us and wept aloud.
Why are your faces all drawn? Havent you eaten?
We nodded our heads, Weve eaten.
Ma made us sit close to her and asked us all the minute details of what we had eaten, who cooked, who cared for our clothes and who made
our beds. She personally fed us fish and rice and wiped our mouths with her sari aanchal. She carefully combed and plaited our unoiled and
knotted tresses. Taking us aside she asked us whether Baba said anything about her. I shook my head. Baba had said nothing. I hid the fact
that Baba constantly told us, There is no irritating woman in the house, now you must eat your own food, study by yourselves, understand
things on your own. Ma said she was fine, Nana had bought her a sari, she had no lack of food here, and everyone was very fond of her.
Ma repeatedly told us that in these last few days, both Yasmin and I had lost a lot of weight. Mas streaming tears wet her cheeks and
soaked her chest.
Do you feel sad without me? Do you cry Ma, Ma for me?
Yasmin and I exchanged glances. If we said, We dont, Ma would be hurt. So we didnt. Ma held our silent selves to her breast and said,
No, dont cry, if you feel like crying chat with Geeta, or play Name, place, flower, fruit. Dont cry any more.
We nodded our heads. Okay.
Ma probed us with questions.
Hows the cooking?
Not good.
Why not? Motins wife is not a bad cook.
She puts too much chilli
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Tell her not to put so much.
I found a hair in my greens.
Tell her to wash the Shaak well.
Okay.
Ma, wont you ever go back again? I asked trying to hide the pain in my voice.
Nani was poking her teeth with a toothpick. After spitting out, she said, Why should she go? Grow up yourselves. Then stay with your
mother. Idun will not go to that house ever again.
Ma said, Noman has money. If he takes a separate house, then I can stay.
After staring for a long time at the courtyard disconsolately, Ma spoke again, Youll see Ma; he will bring that Razia Begum home this
time.
Does your father say anything? Does he say anything about bringing Razia Begum home or anything to that effect?
I shook my head, No.
Does your father eat at home?
He does.
Does he like the food?
I dont know.
Doesnt he say anything?
No.
Ma sat ashen-faced. Her eyes had dark shadows under them, her cheeks were stained with tears. She just sat like that. When we left, she
stood next to the pond at the back like a faded rose, whose petals would disintegrate as soon as it was touched.
Since Geeta was running the household, it was expected that she would see to it that the maids and servants did not shirk their jobs, that the
scouring of the utensils, washing of clothes, mopping of floors etc. was continuously done by her orders, whether the fish was to be cooked
with potol, a kitchen vegetable, or shaak, or the daal was to be thin or thick, how many measures of rice was to be cooked etc., would be
decided by her. While Geeta was playing boss and was in Babas good books, one day her younger brother, named Shishir Mitra, pet name
Tullu, came to meet his sister. After that he came quite frequently. Geeta would call him into her room, give him things to eat and chat with
him in whispers. Yasmin and I kept Tullus visits a secret. Geeta had now become a Mussalman after marriage, so it was an unwritten law
in our house that no contact with any Hindu household could be maintained by her. When Geeta took Chhotda with her to visit her parental
home, it too was kept secret.
Dada visited Nanibari to meet Ma, partook of Nanis fabulous cooking, and returned home with his lips reddened with betel juice from the
paan he had taken from her betel-leaf case. Chhotda, too, took his wife to visit his friends, dropped in at his in-laws place in Peonpara and
met Ma at Nanibari on the way back. To both, I said Why dont you bring Ma back?
None of them made any reply. Neither Dada, nor Chhotda. They were quite happy. Aubokash without Ma did not appear to be unbearable
to them as it was to us.
Dada had bought a motorcycle, a red coloured 100 CC Honda. He had bought it but didnt know how to ride it. Kept in the verandah room,
the Honda was cleaned by him twice a day. All the time he was at home, he would sit on his Honda, start the engine making weird noises
and would go a couple of feet forward and backward within the room. He would admire himself constantly in the Hondas driving mirror.
This was the first time any engine-propelled vehicle had come home. Once, Baba had had the sudden desire to buy Zulfikar Akandas old
car. Akanda Lodge was adjacent to M A Kahhars house. Baba had even given an advance of 50,000 taka. At that time we all had begun
mentally driving that white Volkswagon. However, having found some fault in the engine, Baba did not finally buy the car. He did not even
get back the advance; it seems one couldnt. On the purchase of the Honda, Baba began to supervise the arrangements for it as well. The
verandah door was to be kept shut at all times, so that no one could steal the motorcycle. At night he personally began to lock the door from
inside. This red Honda bought with so much enthusiasm, which had yet to enter the roads, was picked up by Chhotda, who asked me to ride
pillion. Chhotda, too had never ridden a motorcycle ever before. He had learnt to drive Babas hospital jeep in Ishwarganj. That was all he
knew. The Honda stalled 30 times within a half-mile distance. People on the roads stopped 30 times to watch us. A girl had got onto a
Honda; that was what they were staring at. In this town, if a woman sat on a Honda, it became a topic of jest or curiosity. Yet in this town,
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Nitu rode her own bike. Nitu, a student of Vidyamoyee school, took her sister Mitu to school everyday, riding pillion on her bike. She was
the wonder of the town. Sometimes I wished I could be Nitu, and ride my bike in the streets of the town, without caring for anyone. When
Yasmin talked of Nitu and Mitu, I listened to her fascinated.
Dada finally learnt to ride the Honda, and began to use the bike for office work in the town and in the cities outside the town as well. One
day he gave me a ride on the Honda saying, Come, Ill show you the mountains. Unexpected pleasure broke the windows, rushed into my
world and flooded it. As soon as we reached the shores of the Brahmaputra, dark clouds began to race across the sky, as though they were
burning the sun to ashes, and causing black fumes to emerge from the burnt sun. It began to rain. We were in a crowded passenger boat in
the downpour, Dadas Honda, Dada, me and my fear of death. Even though I was sure I was about to lose my life this morning in a sinking
boat, I still did not give up my wish to see mountains for the first time. Once we reached Shambhuganj, and crossed the noisy bus-station,
the Honda raced away towards deserted areas. My hair and dress were blowing in the breeze. It was as though this was not Dada and I, but
two butterflies flying away. As far as the eye could see, there was no habitation, only marshland, swamps and paddy fields. I was singing
songs in my croaky voice with full-throated ease and reciting poems by heart. Dada was telling stories real and imaginary from the vast
storehouse within him. When we were kids, Dada used to tell us lots of stories. How many stories could one person possibly know! If Dada
began telling us old stories we would get irritated. We used to press him for new ones. One day he called us saying he had a very long story
to tell us. It was a new one. After our meals, we got under the quilts, creating the atmosphere for story telling, all ready to listen. Dada
began, In the village of Achinpur lived a wood-cutter by the name of Allauddin. One afternoon after eating a hearty meal, he wore a new
lungi, hung a thin towel from his shoulders and left his house. There was a vast field; nothing could be seen anywhere. Allauddin was
walking across that field. He kept walking and walking.
Then?
Then what?
What happened next? Where did he go?
He hasnt reached anywhere as yet. He is still walking
I was keen to know whether Allauddin had reached some river bank or some banyan tree. But I never got to know, as Dada that night
would not tell us anything more than Allauddins walking. As soon as I woke up the next day, I asked Dada, What happened after that?
Where did Allauddin go? Dada said, Hes still walking.
Still walking?
Yes, still walking?
Where will he go?
That you will learn later. Let him go first.
After a week had passed, Dada still said, Hes still on his way. When he would reach, where he would reach, what would happen after
that, Dada told us nothing. He wouldnt even start another new story. Obviously, he was still telling us one. Even after a month, Dada said
Allauddin was still going. Yasmin and I were deeply worried. What do you think? What will happen to Allauddin finally? Yasmin was of
the belief that Allauddin would die of hunger enroute. What Dada thought, he never disclosed. Dadas Allauddin never reached his
destination. We, too, never heard any more stories from Dada. Right now, I wished our journey, too, would never end. After Tarakanda
Phulpur, we crossed some un-tarred, tarred and broken roads till we came to the Kangsa River. This river had a very strong current. It
appeared as if the banks on either side would disintegrate any moment and be swallowed by the river. Two boats had one deck, on which
buses and trucks were loaded, and the river was crossed by tugging ropes. While we crossed the river, Dada explained what high tides, low
tides, and punting poles were all about. He made me understand the relationship between the river and the life of a boat. Once we crossed
the river, we raced at even greater speed. We passed by paddy fields, jute fields, roads covered with paddy laid out to dry, birds coming and
pecking at them, peoples homes, courtyards, fields all the way till we crossed Halwa Ghat, and went further into the hinterlands. Here the
paddy fields were sown and harvested by Garo women. Watching them walking with their babies tied on their backs, we reached a
beautiful hospital at Joyram-Kurai. An Australian had built this hospital for the Garos. Dada spoke to the Australian Doctor, Neal Palkar.
He gave him the medicines. I was standing on the verandah of the hospital looking at the mountains. On the other side of the mountains
was India. From Bangladesh clouds were floating towards India, birds were flying from that side to this. I asked Dada, If I cross the
mountains and go to the other side! Dada said, No, you cant go; that is another country. Leaning on the side of the mountains, was the
other country, India. I felt I could hear Indias heart beat, I could hear her breathe. India was so close, so very close; I wanted to whisper
something into her ears. I wanted to say Why did we part ways? Are you not part of us? On the way back from the mountains, Dada
stopped and talked to many people. He stopped at two pharmacies. We were given tea and sweets. Although we had not eaten the whole
day, we had no pangs of hunger. One of the men at the pharmacy took me to meet his family living in the house behind. I talked at ease
with the wife, and even took their baby on my lap and asked its name. Once we were out of there, Dada said, Bah, you have certainly
improved. You dont normally speak to people. I saw you talking today.
I laughed and said, I was reading a few pages of Dale Carnegie in the morning. May be thats the reason.
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Dada roared with laughter. We floated again in the air.
At one time, I asked Dada, Achcha Dada, you seem to treat everyone so well, talk so pleasantly to all, whether it is to that Nishibabu, that
hat on head, stethoscope hanging around the neck quack doctor who cycles along the muddy paths, the chemist Najmul or with that doctor
who has spent his life time in that hospital in a forest bereft of any human habitation have you learnt Dale Carnegie by heart?
Dada laughed and replied, Dale Carnegie actually came to meet me. After observing my life, he went back and wrote his instructive
treatise.
The shacks by the wayside sold tea in tiny cups. To quench his thirst for tea, whenever Dada would stop at the shacks, he would say, Dont
drink tea, tea wears away your insides. Havent you seen the stains that remain, in empty tea cups? However much you try, those stains just
never go. Your heart will waste away just like that if you drink tea. Like the tea cup your heart too is getting ruined. It is becoming hideous.
One day it will turn into a sieve.
Ma mixed ginger in black tea, and that tasted far better than the tea served in village bazaars, full of milk and stale-smelling. Yet I happily
drank this tea served in the shacks. Of course I drank it only because I was away from home. The outside attracted me. The village fields
full of yellow mustard flowers and the village markets full of various shacks selling wares, were very enjoyable to look at. My fears of
dying in a boat capsize disappeared as I watched the stunningly beautiful colours of the sky, while crossing the Brahmaputra. When we
reached home, we were covered entirely with dust, to the extent that if we tried to speak our teeth could feel the dust particles in our
mouths. The hair was all knotted with the dust. I was looking, according to Yasmin, like a ghost. Whether I looked like a ghost or a witch,
this trip had given me immense pleasure. Almost till midnight, Dada was rebuked by Baba, I thought atleast you had some sense in your
head. You took this girl out on the motorcycle. What are people going to say?
Lying in my bed at night, and looking at the beams, I told Yasmin, Suppose I am a mountain, and half my body is India, the other half
Bangladesh. My right hand cannot go to the left, and my left hand cannot come to the right. But if you are a bird, you can fly across. A bird
has more freedom than a man.
Baba got to know that we had gone to Nanibari. Baba called me and said, Your legs have grown too long. Next time I hear you left the
house, I will break your shins. Babas threats did not work. I kept visiting Nanibari. I told Ma. Ma, come home. Nani said Your saying
means nothing. Send Noman or Kamaal. Send your father. If your father comes to take her, she might go. Drawn-faced and dried-lipped
Ma said, Why will their father come? Even seeing his daughters suffering does not make him say anything. If he brings Razia Begum
home, no one else but these two girls will bear the brunt!
On the way to and fro from Nanibari I saw a printing press in the name of Aziz Printers. Halting the rickshaw, I got down and asked them
the unit cost of printing a dummy-sized, 23 x 18 format. After which I took money from Dada, bought paper, and gave it to the printers. I
then sat in the press myself to proof-read the second issue of Shenjuti. Muhammed Aziz was the name of the owner of the press. Dada
knew him, and went once in a while personally to check Shenjutis progress. One day, after paying up the rest of the printing cost, Dada
brought Shenjuti home. This time Shenjuti was on white paper. Taking a copy in his hand, Dada said, Na, the printing is not good. From
next time onwards get it printed at Jaman. Jaman is the best printing press. Paata was printed at Jaman only. When Dada remembered his
one time journal Paata, his eyes shone with happiness. The literary magazine called Paata that Dada and his friends published was really
very beautiful. Paatas stationery was printed on lovely transparent paper. Their letters, application forms for membership, even receipts for
membership fees all carried a design in its transparency. Dada had even now preserved the Paata stationery as memorabilia. Once in a
while he would pull it out, dust it and caressing it with his hands would say, Youll see, we will publish Paata again one day. Of the three
who published Paata, one was Sheilas brother. Since Dada fell in love with Sheila, her brother Chikan Farhad had stopped seeing Dada.
The other, Mehboob, had gone mad and was now chained up in a mental hospital. Dada could publish, why one, even ten magazines if he
so wanted, but he could never again use the name Paata. Paata was not Dadas property alone. Dada was only the joint editor; the actual
editor was Farhad. Dada used to say, What did Farhad do? I was the one who did all the work! He may have got satisfaction by saying
that, but he never got the right to name another magazine Paata. Dada wanted to publish a magazine called Paata once more. When Farhad
heard this he informed Dada that he would file a case against him.
When I was immersed in Shenjuti a horrifying incident occurred at home. Yasmin had grown a small pair of wings on her back. Growing
the wings was not horrifying, what occurred because of the wings, was horrifying. Yasmins wanted to fly not in order to cross the
Bangladesh-India border, but only to secretly cross the boundaries delineated around her existence. A good-looking neighbourhood lad
called Badal, of the same age as Yasmin, used to stand on the road when Yasmin went to school. One day he plucked up courage to come
forward and talk to her. To avoid being spotted talking on the road, Badal asked Yasmin to meet him the next day in the Botanical Gardens.
Yasmin was so keen to break out of the restrictions imposed on her that as soon as school was over, she got on a rickshaw and went straight
to the gardens. Badal had gone there with an uncle of his. The uncle, Badal and Yasmin went around the garden, admiring the plants,
appreciating the variety of flowers blooming all around, watching the river, unaware that a neighbourhood boy had seen them and had run
to inform Baba. Baba went without wasting a moment to the gardens and brought them back. Catching Badal by his hair, Baba brought him
home, tied his hands and feet with a strong rope, and whipped him the whole afternoon in the verandah room. Badals wails had the whole
neighbourhood trembling, but Baba did not care. He pushed the half-dead Badal out from the house and straight into the hands of the
police. He filed a case of girl kidnapping against Badal that very day. The police tied a rope around Badals waist and look him away. When
his son returned from jail, Badals father, Samiran Dutta, left the neighbourhood. Not just Badal, Baba had whipped Yasmin too, behind
close doors. Not an inch of her body was spared from black and blue bruises. A raging fever started, and clumps of hair began to fall from
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her head. After this incident, very often Yasmin would come home from school, and sit around disconsolately. Her classmates had begun to
say, It seems you were running away with some boy? Mymensingh appeared to be a very vast town. But when people picked up juicy
pieces of gossip like, Rajab Alis younger daughter had run away with a boy, and laughed about it and it came to my ears. I realized how
small the town was really and how narrow the peoples minds were. If Baba had not made such a huge issue out of the incident, Yasmin
would have come home from the garden. If she had been asked, Why are you late from school? she might have answered, I had gone to
Rinkus house. Rinku was her friend, so visiting Rinku after school was not such a great offence. That day Yasmins curiosity about Badal
was not as much as her interest in seeing the gardens. Once she had seen the gardens, her desire would have been satisfied, and she would
have kept her joy at having secretly broken her bonds to herself. No one would have looked with hatred at Yasmin accusing her of having
run away with a boy. She would not have thought herself such a great sinner, and not have tried to hide herself desperately from the eyes
of others.
Geeta had given Tullu something in a sack. A very tiny piece of news. But it reached Babas ears. Baba was in his room stamping his feet.
A whisper could be heard. What is she giving him?
Dont know, may be rice, said Amena.
How many days has Tullu come?
Many days.
What does he do when he comes?
Sits and chats.
With whom?
With his sister.
When Baba thought deeply about something, he would take off his spectacles with one jerk. He would sit with his head bent. In moments
his eyes would turn red. He would pace up and down the verandah. His hands at the back. Sometimes at his waist. Once in a while he
would pull back his head full of black curly hair. He would sit on a chair, then move it noisily and get up. He would then sit down again.
Whenever we saw Baba like this, the only thing all of us at home could do was to wait, because we knew very soon an explosion would
take place. This time, however, the explosion did not occur. In a quiet voice he called Dada into his room and told him, Go and get your
mother back.
When we went to fetch mother back, Ma did not look shocked, as though she was expecting this to happen. On Mas wan face, a smile
appeared. Ma could never hide her joys. Her happiness shone like dust grains from her eyes, lips and cheeks.
***
Baba looked askance at Mas presence in Aubokash. He did not say a word. But Ma never forgot to arrange Babas meals on the table. The
way Baba wanted the household to be run, she now ran it even more efficiently. The floors in the house shone, the courtyard sparkled.
Babas room was bright and arranged in an orderly way. The clothes-stand had washed clothes, neatly folded. The sheets on the bed were
clean. Before Baba came home, his bed was made, with the mosquito net hung in readiness. Our hair was tied up, with ribbons in
flower-knots at the ends. We got our food before we felt hungry, and water as soon as we asked. We got coconut water, without asking.
Wood-apple sherbet, half-ripe guavas, ripe mangoes, blackberry mix, pomegranate pips were put into our hands and brought to our mouths.
Mas presence gave us all endless comfort.
Chapter Nine
Learning Medicine
That year, no medical college entrance exam was held. Admissions were done on merit basis, according to the results of the SSC and
intermediate exams. Anyone having more than 1200 marks in both exams was eligible. I had more than 1200 marks in both my exams.
However, since I had less than 1300-1400 marks, I did not get Mymensingh, my first choice. Instead I was being sent to Sylhet Medical. In
a second, Baba went into action. I was made to sign several application forms. He told Dada to get ready. Dada took me along, and we
boarded a late night train. The train stopped at Akhaira station in the morning. We had to change trains there for Sylhet. At the station I got
lost amidst the crowd of Paaniwalas, Beediwalas, Badamwalas, Jhalmuriwalas, Bananawalas, Biscuitwalas. Dada pulled me out and made
me sit in a waiting room meant for women. I sat surrounded by women, some in burkha, and some without, a few ta-ta, aa-aa, howling
kids, apart from fces, urine and vomit. In their midst, sat I, a gentlemans daughter, wearing ironed clothes. The train which left Akhaira
station for Sylhet had people boarding it in a continuous stream. They pushed against each other in the rush. Lungi-clad people, pyjama,
pant clad, people with naked feet, or, with shoes, hatted and hatless with suitcases, trunks and sacks together in the crowd. Because I
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was a woman, I was given a seat. As my brother, Dada too got a place next to me so that my body did not come into contact with any other
mans. People with tickets for third class sitting in this second class compartment, did not try to get seats. They rested their bottoms on the
floor, some with seats before them, others facing the hot loo wind coming through the open doors. In the corner a group of cowering
women huddled in a heap, sporting pins on their noses, and bolts on their lips. With their tickets in their pockets, the second class male
travelers were talking loudly. Even though I was listening intently, I could not decipher a word of what they were saying.
O Dada, what language are they speaking?
The Sylhet dialect is beyond any non-Sylhet to decipher, said Dada. After which he casually haggled over the price, before he bought a
packet of peanuts which he proceeded to eat with a pinch of spicy powder and a lot of concentration. Despite the heat, the crowd and the
cacophony, I was delighted that I was going to a new town. Dada pointed through the window at a field some distance away saying, Can
you see that field. On the other side of this field is India. I wished I could run across the field and see what India looked like, what the
Indian sky looked like. The train passed close to the mountains and their falls showered their water over it. It moved alongside the tea
gardens, passing through deep dark forests. I put my hands out of the windows and overhanging branches and leaves touched my fingers as
we passed.
The minute I stepped into a new city, fountains of joy filled my heart. This was not Mymensingh; it was another town, it had another name.
In order to convince myself I repeatedly read the signboards. Station Road, Sylhet. Old Bazaar, Sylhet. Dargah Road, Sylhet. Dada had
been here before, so he was aware of how to go about things. Here, the rickshaw-walas had to be addressed as drivers. They got angry if
you called them rickshaw-walas. Climbing on to a squarish rickshaw, we entered the city. We ate a terribly hot chilli meal at a small
restaurant and went to sleep in a hotel. This was the first time in my life that I had stayed overnight at a hotel. Dada slept soundly in a
torpor. From the next room or verandah, the grating sounds of talk and laughter were causing my hands and feet to recoil into my stomach.
I was sure the people would very soon break through the door and enter my room, chop me into pieces, tear me into shreds and eat me, and
ruin me completely. I kept calling Dada in trembling tones, low tones, high tones and weeping tones. Nothing woke Dada from his sleep.
With one leap I reached Dadas bed and shook him awake. Sleepily asking, What happened? he turned over and went back to sleep. With
a fluttering heart I curled up in one corner of Dadas bed, and couldnt sleep all night. When the streaks of light began to enter the room at
dawn, and the grating sounds from outside had subsided, my heart stopped fluttering.
Were you scared at night? Dada asked.
Yes.
Arrey dhoor! What is there to be scared of?
In the morning after taking admission in the Medical College and submitting the transfer certificate, we boarded the train again. The whole
night we passed through deep dark forests, and I felt eerie sensations in my body all night long.
When we came back from Sylhet, Baba bought white Tetron cloth and ordered two aprons to be stitched for me. I would have to wear
aprons to college. To the college in my own town, my fathers college, not the college which took two days to reach, but the one just after
the rail-crossing at Ganginar Par, past my old residential school after the Chorpara turn, that college. If the rickshaw-wala was young it
would take 15 minutes, if old 25. The Sylhet chapter was closed, it was now Mymensingh. According to orders I wore the apron to college,
under it I wore my dress and pyjamas, no need to trouble to wear the odhna, no one bothered to know whether it was there under the apron
or not. This circumstance gave me great joy. There were no restrictions of the odhna. Anyone, boy or girl, whatever clothes they wore, had
to wear the white apron over it. The apron had collars like a coat, pockets, and a belt at the waist I felt thrilled when I wore it. At college
all the faces were unknown. Mostly they were from Dhaka and stayed in the Hostel. Only a handful of others and I were from this town. I
was someone who had only studied in girls schools and colleges. I was not used to seeing young men. But here, whether in class, in the
corridors, grounds, or staircases, I had to walk before slanted eyes, smiling eyes, bent eyes or wide open eyes, and it frightened me.
Uneasiness kept me tightly bound. The classroom, to which the new students were taken for the first time, had Dissection Room written on
its door in white ink. A stink made me wrinkle up my nose and eyes, as soon as I entered the room. My intestines began to churn and spit
accumulated in my mouth. In an effort to stifle my nausea, I held my breath, but there was a limit to how long one can keep from breathing.
As soon as I let go, the smell struck my nose, and from my nose traveled to my stomach, back and legs, right up to my toes. Dead bodies
were lying on tables, and around them were standing white-apron-clad boys and girls. Not just standing, they were actually bending over
them and sniffing as though corpses had the scent of magnolias. These bodies, at one time had laughed, cried, loved someone, even
screamed when pricked by a needle, and yet now that they were being cut and torn, and their chest muscles were being parted to lift out
their hearts, they could not feel anything at all. A sensation of cold death began to flow down my spine and spread to all parts of my body.
One day we, too, would die one by one and, like these bodies, become totally insensate objects. Abandoning my group, I left the room and
death physically accompanied me. I walked in the corridors and death walked with me. I sat under the eucalyptus tree outside and death sat
beside me.
On the second day the whole class was divided into four groups. The head, the chest, the limbs and the abdomen. I was given the abdomen, or may be the
abdomen got me. Bas, now cut up the corpses and learn all about the abdomen, whatever was in the lower belly, place it on a tray. Choose an empty corner, the
Cunningham book was available, one would read, one would listen, another understand, one would question, one had to support and another raise objections.
This group study may have suited others, but it certainly did not suit me. The hostellers had chosen their permanent companions for study, I had no one
permanent or temporary. I was alone. I came alone from home by rickshaw, after class I went home alone, and studied by myself. Baba had bought me some
huge books, which had big coloured illustrations in them. When I turned the pages to look, Yasmin stared wide-eyed at them. When I studied, sixty percent did
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not enter my head, another fifteen percent entered my head but came out promptly, and the other 25 percent did not come anywhere close to me.
Anatomy Book pleased Ma the most. Ma knew the names of all these books earlier itself. When Baba was studying she used to arrange these books on the table,
and hand them over when he asked. In Babas time, the books were not so big in length and breadth. In my time they had begun to resemble heavy rocks and
the trunks of trees. When I was bent over my books, whether I was studying or not, Ma would silently leave lemon sherbet, or fried puffed rice,
ginger tea on my table. At home I was getting an abundance of love and care. Before I left for college, Ma would comb my hair, iron my clothes and apron and
place my sandals close to my feet. But as soon as I reached college, my state became pitiful. I could not answer a question, nor do the dissection. The girls from
Dhaka, living together in the hostel, had made friends amongst themselves. They walked in groups, laughed in groups, and answered heaps of questions asked
by the master all together. I was rescued from this pathetic state by a bespectacled, sunken-cheeked, oily-haired boy called Sujit Kumar Apu. He said, Come
on, lets study together; my house is close to yours. What do you say, should I come over in the evening? With Apu, I began studying the abdomen. The very
first day we had to study the genitals. I had to sit with Cunninghams book wide-open at the shameless illustration of the genitals, while Apu described in detail
which nerves under which muscles traveled till where and which route the arteries took to finally reach their destination. Ma brought tea and biscuits for us.
After returning home at night, Baba would rest his body in the easy-chair, and call, Lets see what you are studying. Bring your book! I held open
Cunninghams genitals illustration before Baba. This was what I was studying, this was what was being taught in class. Baba though embarrassed, covered it up
well by taking shelter under the English language. After telling me a few things in English about genitals, he immediately changed the topic. Almost everyday
after college, Apu came to study. As soon as he got involved in the minute details of the sexual organs, I would stop him and ask him about other things.
Achcha, how would it be if we brought out a literary journal in college? I would ask Apus uncle. Pranab Saha was a noted limerick-writer in the town. Apu
himself wrote verses. Hearing the proposal, Apu would get very enthusiastic. Bas, writing a The End to my group studies I got busy with literary studies. I had
seen a wall-magazine composed of poems, stories and limericks hanging in college. To begin with, let me start a wall-magazine atleast! Just like I concentrated
on my studies before an exam, I put my full attention to Krishanu, Fire. But who was going to hang it up in college? Apu was so grateful that I had taken one of
his limericks, that instead of reaching college at eight, he was there by 7.30 am and hung up Krishanu on the wall. Students passing the corridor stopped in front
of the magazine and read the articles. I watched them from a distance. The cultural week had commenced in college. The wall-magazine was also going to
compete. I told Apu to collect articles from our classmates. Very slowly a few articles came to hand. Whether poems, limericks, stories or essays I had to
polish them up to some standard before publication. Removing whatever change there was in Babas pocket I bought paper, pen and brushes and sat down to
create another wall-magazine Amrita, Ambrosia. I worked the whole night, with the Amrita papers spread all over the drawing room floor. At that time I could
do anything I wanted. After all I was a medical student; so what if I also liked to write poetry and such-like. All this frivolity would fade away one day.
I got over many things, but not my childishness. Apu was going home to Netrakona by train. Since train journeys attracted me like a
magnet, I tried to get some of my casual girl friends to join me on a trip to Netrakona with Apu. Apu promised he would return in the
evening. Leaving the road on the left that went towards home, we went right, to the station from college. The coal-driven train started on its
journey emitting black smoke and a jhikir-jhikir sound. I was very happy while the train was moving. Whenever it stopped, I felt sad, and
put my neck out of the window to look at the engine and pray earnestly for jhikir-jhikir. After reaching Netrakona, we ate at Apus house,
and then toured the towns grounds, finally reaching the station to catch the train back to Mymensingh. There were trains coming in every
minute, but they were all going towards Mohanganj, not towards Mymensingh. Dusk descended and the darkness from the sky fell on my
chest like a stone. I lost the courage to imagine the scene that would take place at home. Seeing the hostellers completely unconcerned, I
wished I had their luck. I wished I, too, could lead a life free of home and angry red-eyes. The train finally came. It hardly moved at any
speed, ultimately reaching Mymensingh at ten oclock at night.
I spent the whole journey trying to make up excuses to give at home, but none of them sounded plausible enough. Throughout the way the
moisture in my mouth, throat and stomach gradually sank towards my lower belly. Since I was the only one with a problem, the others
came forward to find a solution. Apu would escort me home, saying he had taken me and some others to visit Netrakona so the fault was
his! This solution did not sound good to me. Finally, I took all of the girls with me, saying they too were with me. I had not gone alone for
fun with a man, but had gone on a kind of picnic with a whole group of girls. This senseless train had got us all late, thankfully Apu was
with us Ma understood. That time I got away. Luckily, Baba had not returned home. Even if he had, may be he wouldnt have exploded,
because that night he had got news of his mothers death. Babas Ma, my Dadi. Dadi visited us once in a while at Aubokash when she
accompanied Borodada. Dadi was dark, but beautiful. She had very sharp features. Ma believed that this Dadi was not Babas own mother.
Baba and his elder sister were children of this Dadis elder sister. I had asked Borodada, Dadi and Borophupi about this secret several
times, but had never got an answer. Even if she wasnt his own mother, Baba was very fond of her. He sent her saris, medicines for her
ailments and when she was bed-ridden he went personally to Madarinagar to see her. Baba decided to go to his village home for Dadis
obsequies, to be performed on the fortieth day after her demise. With dancing eyes he asked Yasmin and me, Ki, want to go to the
countryside? At this hint of an invitation we leapt with joy. Yasmin and I had never been to the village home. Dada and Chhotda had gone
during the war. Carrying Dadas camera in my hands, we left with Baba for the village early in the morning. After the strenuous travel by
boat, bus, rickshaw, and in the end walking, we ultimately reached the house. Somehow, we never felt the strain at all. What could be
greater fun than to be able to go out of doors! Seeing any new place, village or town, was something I liked. My joy at visiting Nandails
Madarinagar was no less than my joy at visiting Dhaka. In the afternoon people in great numbers came for lunch the poor people of the
village, and all Babas poor relatives. Everyone was made to sit in the courtyard, and served on plantain leaves. Baba personally served
everyone. I look pictures of Baba in all kinds of poses. All the villagers, children, women and men collected in the house to see us. To them
anyone visiting from town was a bundle of surprises! The house was made of bamboo, with a thatched roof and mud floors. Around
Borodadas room had been built Imam Ali, Riazuddin and Abdul Motins rooms. They were all living together with their wives and
children and were reasonably well off. In Borodadas room was a big chest. He slept on a bed laid out on top of the chest. The whole day he
sat and wove nets to catch fish. His eyesight was failing. But he never thought of going for treatment to the town and staying at Aubokash.
Nowadays one could just not cajole him into going to town at all. At this age he had no wish to leave his ancestral home and go anywhere.
Baba showed us all the green paddy fields stretching right till the horizon. He had bought them all himself. So much land, so many cows,
such a large granary full to overflowing at home, yet no one led a fancy lifestyle. They wore the cheap blue lungis available at the local
Madarinagar Bazaar. They slept on cots in huts and ate roasted egg-plant and a thin daal with their rice, they sat smoking their hookahs on
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the verandah, as though all the worries of the solar system were hovering a foot above them, causing their faces to be etched with irritation.
The wives were also clad in coarse cotton saris. A fifteen year old looked twenty-five, a twenty-five old looked fifty. Yet the people of this
house were thought of as wealthy by all other houses. They had never spent their wealth on themselves. All their wealth was saved to buy
more land and was spent in their fixation with cases each brought against the other. For this house, Baba was a God. Whoever amongst
them had turned into a Raja of the Yakshas like Kubera, and had only guarded the wealth he could not use, had done so with Babas wealth.
Everyone followed Babas orders, and did whatever he told them to do. Whose son would go to school, for whose daughter a groom had to
be found, Baba decided everything. He also paid the school fees and the wedding expenses. He told Riazuddin that he would put his son
through school in town, once he had finished at the village school. Anyone coming to study in town meant they had to stay in the tin shed
in the courtyard of Aubokash. Riazuddins eldest son Shiraz, while staying at Aubokash and studying in the town school, had one day in the
blistering heat of a desolate afternoon, stripped Yasmin, then only about 9 or 10 years old, naked. Jhunu khala who was visiting, had been
walking near the tin shed. Peeping in, she had seen the naked sight. As soon as Baba got the news, he returned home, broke whatever
fire-wood was in the courtyard on the backs of Shiraz and Yasmin, and threw Shiraz out of the house on that very day. Shiraz rented
another room in the town, passed school, and soon got admission in college. At Dadis obsequies, Shiraz had come to this house, but even
after so many years since the incident, he did not have the courage to come before Baba. Dadi was buried next to the house itself. Planting
a sapling at the head of the tombstone, Dada returned to town with both of us by evening. On the way, he unabashedly described the
unbearable poverty of his childhood. He asked us to try and understand his achievement in having worked his way from such a humble
birth and upbringing to his present status and wealth. He told us that we should also always look upwards, we should progress higher by
studying and working, so that we really became worthy human beings. We should not waste our time in luxuries, comforts and indolence.
In college the Students League, Students Union, Jashod National Socialistic Students League, Students Group etc., political parties, were
bringing artistes from Dhaka and organising fabulous new colourful music concerts, to entertain us. Each group was busy competing to
hold functions more splendid than the others. One group brought Khursheed Alam, the other Firdaus Wahid. Not just musical concerts,
political leaders were also brought from Dhaka to deliver long political speeches. Mahmudur Rahman Manna came for the Jashod function
and spoke continuously for two hours. I listened engrossed. Whichever leader of whichever party spoke, I was fascinated. When we had
such good leaders, I thought why did the country have to remain in the hands of a military dictator like Zia-ur-Rehman? Yet when I heard
the student group speeches, I thought the country was on the right track; that there was no way it could go any better. As soon as the
colourful music festival was over, the college was hit by election fever. The Chhatra Sansad elections. Various kinds of people asked for
votes. I had to nod at all of them and promise to vote for them. The candidates even started coming home. It seems if they came home to
request, it was like a confirmation. Whether for votes or for any other reasons, young people were constantly coming to look for me. This
was a completely new experience for me. The first year classes were going on in a dilatory fashion, so I took this opportunity to prepare the
third issue of Shenjuti for publication. I spent more time at Jaman Printers than in college. This Shenjuti was bulkier than the others. What
was special about this issue was that the words Lady Editor, Taslima Nasreen, normally printed on the first page, were relegated to the end
of the last page in small print. Instead of Lady Editor there was printed Editor. After reading Shenjuti from beginning to end, Dada
finally stopped in shock, There are still some typographical errors. Instead of Lady Editor, they have printed Editor.
I laughed and said, That is not an error. I have done this purposely.
What are you saying? Are you a man?
Why should I be a man?
Dont you believe in genders?
Yes, I do.
There is something called masculine gender and feminine gender, you know that?
I do. But I do not like this Lady Editor, Lady Publisher etc. etc. Both men and women can be editors. Some words have incorporated some
unjustified gender distinctions which I do not want to use. I want to call who writes poetry a poet, not a Lady Poet or Poetess.
Dada threw away Shenjuti saying, People will call you crazy.
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As soon as I got to know my classmates, I barely exchanged two words with them, before I proposed that we set up a literary society, called
Shatabdi Chakra Centenary Circle. I even told the girls whom I knew only casually. The bookworms were not keen to join, but those who
were not bitten by the book bug at all, jumped up enthusiastically. Bas, collect donations, just jumping will get no work done. I proposed
that a small committee be formed, which could get down to proper work. Since Amrita had got the second prize, I was very keen that from
Centenary a poetry journal like Shenjuti be published. As soon as an idea arose in my mind, I plunged into action. Of course all my
plunging was silently done. Whoever could write in pure Bangla I would find them and say, Write a poem. I dont know how to, Baba!
they would say. Arrey, you can. Life is a poem! You are living life, so why cant you write about it! After strictly editing the poems that
came in, I published a small poetry journal. I went myself to Leefa Printers at C. K. Ghose Road and got it printed. Leefa was Chhotdas
friends press. Leefa kept its rates low, but did the job alright. I named the journal Roadh, Sun. I went to the press in the Sun, saw the proof,
and came back home soaked in the Sun. After Roadh, next came Apus desire. Bringing a two page long limerick, he said it wouldnt be a
bad idea if a journal of verses could be brought out by Centenary. That, too, will happen; after all, what have limericks done that they
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should be omitted! Jhan-Jhan was the name of the journal of verses, which also was published within a few days. However, I had to cut
Apus limerick to half a page. I did not have the money to print a journal which included such long verses. I spent all my scholarship
money on Centenary. The members were very irregular in paying their fees. I had barely got over my enthusiasm for polishing immature
poetry into proper verses and publishing them, when a new interest brimmed over, theatre. Chhotda was then spending most of the nights
and half his days with a drama group. Mymensingh theatre was enacting new plays every so often in the town. Chhotda took me to see the
rehearsals once in a while. Just when the theatre bug was giving birth to a hundred others in my head, Partho, my classmate, one day like
open sesame, revealed the contents of his trunk. Out of it came a play written by Samaresh Basu called Aborto, Whirlpool. This was not
something that college students could stage; real actors were required. Bringing the manuscript home, I handed it to Chhotda telling him to
tell the theatre to enact it. By that time I had already read Aborto. While reading I had visualised different members of the Theatre
Company in the roles of the male and female characters. In my imagination, the curtains were being drawn on a gigantic stage in the
indistinct light of twilight. From out of a room came Geeta. Geeta would best suit the role of Mangalas mother. She was calling anxiously,
Mangala, Mangala. The theatre group eagerly took up the play and began rehearsals. Almost every evening at rehearsals in the theatre
hall whenever I said, Ooh, no youre not doing it well, go back a little, scratch your head while speaking, because now Mangalas father is
confused. Achcha you will have to incorporate the regional accent a little more into your dialogue. Of course, completely immersed in
the play, anyone would have thought, I must be the Director of the play. One day, Farid Ahmed Dulal, who directed most of the plays, said,
From what I can see, you seem to be doing all the directing, so what do you say, why not become the Director officially?
Me?
Yes. You.
Hiding my face in shame, I said, Are you mad! I have no experience of theatre at all. This is my first ever.
I didnt think one could learn theatre direction by watching a few plays on television, or making Chhotda take me to see some at the
Mymensingh theatre hall or reading some in books. But when the responsibility really fell on me to direct the play, Chhotda told Partho to
come as well. Partho took up the task with great enthusiasm. Almost every night, rehearsals were held in the broken old Mymensingh
theatre hall. It was a story about a poor family in the village. Geeta was cast as the heroine. Of course this was not Geetas first role as
heroine on stage. Earlier with various dance groups she had performed as Nakshi Kanthar Meye, Chandalika and Chitrangada. The new
singing star Sohan who had joined Mymensingh theatre had been cast in the role of the hero. A little boy was found to play the part of
Mangala. There was tremendous enthusiasm in each one of them; they were bubbling with earnestness and inspiration, and if required, they
were even prepared to rehearse any time, night or day. After rehearsals at night, Partho sometimes went back to the hostel or spent the night
at Aubokash. The day Abortos first show opened at the townhall, I was stunned to see the sets. The person, who had been given the task of
creating the sets, had done an eye-catching job. An actual mud shanty, with actual trees planted in real earth and authentic fishing nets
adorned the stage. The show was on for three nights. People bought tickets and came to see the play, and surprisingly the 300 capacity hall
actually filled up in a matter of minutes. The whole huge affair happened as though in the twinkling of an eye. The theatre group of
Mymensingh was quite well-known, and their best and most successful play was Aborto. On the posters printed for Aborto were the names
of its two directors, Ishita Hossain Partho and Taslima Nasreen.
The play could have been staged for a long time in this way, but Geeta got a call from Dhaka. There was to be a dance concert on
television, so Rahija Khanum had called her to perform. There was a shortage of girls at the Bulbul Academy, so Rahija Khanum had
immediately asked Geeta to come from wherever she may be. Geeta danced all over Dhaka. Whenever her dances were telecast, the whole
household sat down to watch the program. Ma did not abuse her anymore as a dancing-woman. Geetas life was full of mystery. In a
moment she could empty out her life, in the next she could fill and renew it. On stage, Geetas acting was amazing. Lord only knew
whether on the stage of life, too, it was all an act. A lot of her life was hidden inside Geetas trunk. Various things were kept in it, many
things necessary to keep secret. When she left the house, she locked her trunk and went. I was very keen to see what all was kept in it. Till
then I did not have anything which needed to be kept secret. Everything was open, spread out for all to see. I wished I too had a secret,
something only I knew. Before Chhotda had fallen in love with Geeta or married her, I had been to their house. Actually it was to visit
Henna Mashi, the Mashi who tutored us. I had seen Geetas trunk then, it was kept next to the pillow, on the narrow cot in which she slept.
After the wedding, from her parental home, if nothing else she had brought her precious trunk at least. Finding the trunk unlocked one day,
I discovered a whole pile of things in it. Chhotdas 30-40 paged letters, small pieces of jewellery, a coin purse, and what caught my eye
most were the cotton wool covered brassieres. I had crossed seventeen years of age, but I had never tried on this one garment. Ma always
hid her own brassieres, under her saris or petticoats. She never hung them out to dry in the courtyard. Behind the tinshed, where even dogs
and cats did not venture, she spread them out in the sun and brought them in dried, as though they were some terribly forbidden articles. I
called Yasmin aside, so that no one would either hear or see us. Using whatever knowledge I had about the forbidden article at my disposal,
I said, Just go to Ganginar Par, and buy me one of these things. Take a rickshaw both ways. After giving her the money, I sat in the
verandah awaiting her return, so that as soon as she came I could whisk the article out of sight before anyone could notice. That evening I
wore the brassiere bought by Yasmin, and sat quietly. Just as there is fun in acquiring forbidden things, there is fear too. I didnt want
anyone to come near me, to detect that I was wearing something new that day. But I was then so friendly with Chhotda, that as soon as he
returned home he would call for me enthusiastically. I had to invariably read some story book, and he would listen while eating, and
resting, lounging almost half asleep. I was that day sitting in a huddle, repeatedly pulling my dress up at the shoulders, so that no tell-tale
strap of the forbidden garment peeped out under any circumstances. Chhotda came in and giving me a whack on my back said, Whats
happened to you? Why are you sitting all by yourself?
The whack on the back brought on all the trouble that it could possibly bring. Chhotda laughed uproariously and said, Kire, it seems you
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are wearing a brassiere!
At the top of his voice, Chhotda informed the whole household, Nasreen is wearing a brassiere.
Within fifteen minutes of my wearing it, everyone at home came to know what I was wearing. I pushed myself against the table as my head
bent lower and lower over my books. The sorrow of having my secret revealed caused the pages in my books to get soaked. Ma came and
said while caressing my head, Why didnt you tell me you wanted to wear a brassiere? I could have bought one in your size for you.
My face, head and ears flushed with embarrassment. Once normalcy returned after the brassiere incident, Ma told me that she had worn one
for the first time, two years after her wedding. Baba had become so incensed that he had thrown it away and angrily stated, You wear
fancy garments that wicked women wear! Is there no end to your desires? Wearing a brassiere was being fanciful and fashionable, many
obviously thought so. Women in the villages spent their entire lives totally ignorant of what was called a brassiere. Baba was a village boy;
he was not used to seeing any extra accessories under ones clothes.
There was one thing in college that attracted me like the forbidden fruit of heaven mentioned in the Quran. That was the college canteen. I
was very keen to sit and talk while drinking tea, like all the other boys. Even though I wanted to, I myself was very often a stumbling block
in the fulfillment of my wish. An editor of the Neighbourhood, also a writer of wonderful poetry, Haroon Rashid, whose poetry I was a
great admirer of, was waiting at the canteen for me. He had come from Dhaka to Mymensingh to meet me, but I did not have the courage to
enter the canteen, or to face some unbearable beauty. While I stood hesitating, a sweet-faced boy left the canteen in front of me, and the
opportunity to daringly call him from behind and stop him had also slipped from my hands and smashed into pieces. These incapacities
were being inwardly nourished by me alone. I couldnt think of myself as anything but a useless cowardly woman. I knew that the boys
mainly went to the canteen, either happily bunking class, or in the break between two classes, or if a class was not held for some reason. If
the girls got a break, they either went and relaxed for sometime in the hostel or went in groups to secluded places to spread out their heavy
books and study. Girls very rarely went to the canteen. If they did, they were only seniors with their boyfriends, or in a group. I wanted to
be able to go to the canteen too. Like the boys I, too, wanted to be able to go at any time to the canteen and call for tea. As soon as it came
I, too, wanted to enjoy the cup of tea in complete relaxation with my feet resting one on top of the other. Since I could not manage to fulfil
my wish, I looked around for a companion. Whichever girl I asked in class, slipped away. Finally Halida agreed. A beautiful girl, with
melancholy eyes, belonging to a house in Dhakas Indira Road, she spoke pure Bangla. As soon as I entered the canteen with her, I saw
pairs of male-eyes devouring us. A first year student I had walked boldly into a male meeting place. Gauging our courage, they began
speaking in loud tones, as though their every word would shake each pore of our bodies. That was the beginning. Later, after I became
friends with Habibullah, the canteen almost became my home. Habibullah, too, belonged to Dhaka. A year senior to me, he had secretly
watched me for a long time. Then one day, blocking my way he said he wanted to be my friend. If you want to be a friend, you will have to
be one who is on completely informal tu, tui terms. The very next day I addressed Habibullah as tui. Although he was stunned,
according to the agreement, he too had to call me tui. After this Habibullah stuck to me like glue. I found him waiting for me before
entering a class and as soon as I left one.
Whats up, dont you have a class?
I do.
Go to class, then.
Dhoot, Im not feeling like it. I wont attend class.
What will you do?
Lets go have tea.
But I have class.
Hai Sirs class, isnt it? You dont have to attend that one.
What are you saying?
Arrey, come on now.
As it is I was always ready to dance, and here was the beater of the drum offering his services. We went and sat in the canteen. In the
canteen there would be supplies of tea and shingara, a savoury snack made with flour and a filling of potatoes. Habibullahs friends would
come. Beginning from anatomy the adda would end up with politics. We walked around the college premises proudly and confidently.
Whether I was between classes, or bunking some unimportant class, wherever I went, there was Habibullah. He even began to come home
in the evenings. If Baba came home, Habibullah would stand up and greet him Salaamaleikum, Sir. Baba would go into the inner rooms
with a serious face. Inside he questioned Ma and got the reply that the boy was my friend. Being a Professor of the College this was one
place Baba got stuck. He could hardly shoo away any college student.
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The sports season had begun in college. I had given my name for Carrom and Chess, and happily began to play. I lost in Carrom, not that
there was any reason to win, considering the last time I had played was way back in Nanibari! In chess, I beat a keen chess player, a
champion of last year, and progressed steadily. Ultimately, a game I should have won, I gave up out of sheer impatience, and became the
Runners-up. I found even the gallery classes unbearable. I didnt understand 80 percent of what the professors were saying or wanting to
say. The practice of exiting the class was quite common here, something I had never seen before in school or college. One left the class
after giving proxy or through the back door because the class was not to their liking. I too began to get out. Till then girls sat in the front
rows with their bottoms glued to their seats. They gulped down every word their professors uttered. It seems only naughty boys left class.
So I fell into that category, only not a boy, but a girl! The freedom of leaving class was also something I began to enjoy. In Muminunissa
College, Gagan Darwan didnt let us out before five oclock in the evening. Thankfully, here that stifling cage did not exist, whatever else
there might have been. If I wanted to go to class, I did. If I didnt, I didnt. There was no such system that one had to enter college by 8 am
or 9 am. Once I got the hang of this system in the Medical College, I sometimes left for college in the afternoon. Ma would be surprised,
Where are you going at this time?
To college.
What college do you have at this time?
I have class.
Your college commenced at eight in the morning.
Yes, it did. But so what! The class at eight I didnt attend.
What will you do going to college now?
Ill be attending the 1.30 p.m. class.
You cant go wherever you want, at anytime you choose.
Your experience is only till school, you wont understand all this. I really liked the system. Go to class when you want, if you dont, give
proxy and come out. The word proxy was used much more in college. One may not attend classes, but without a certain percentage of
attendance, one couldnt take the exams. Friends gave false attendance. In every class, when the names were being called out, all you had
to do was say, Yes, Sir. It didnt matter at all who was saying it. Whether Toffajoler was answering for Mojammel, or vice versa, who
was there to actually find out! By bending ones head and saying, Yes, Sir, one present friend in a way saved another absent one. This
present when absent, would be saved by the earlier absent, who would now save the present absent.
I was busy with the fourth issue of Shenjuti. Letters, poems, literary magazines, books etc. came in from Kolkata. Nirmal Basak had sent
the Toy of Time, Abhijit Ghoses Lonely Man appeared before us. Their poetry journal Sainiker Diary, Indrani we received regularly.
Poems had been sent by Mohini Mohan Gangopadhyay, Kshitish Santra, Chitrabhanu Sarkar, Shanti Ray, Biplab Bhattacharya, Birendra
Kumar Deb and Pranab Mukhopadhyaya. From various parts of Bangladesh, poetry came in continuously. I arranged all the contributions
by Alamgir Reza Chaudhury, Ahmad Aziz, Khalid Ahsan, Jahangir Firoze, Minar Mansoor, Mohan Pathan, Rabindranath Adhikari,
Ramesh Ray, Haroon Rashid, Sajjad Hossain and many others. Chandanas poem was called Hearty Rifle. I had named mine My Heart is
Oppressed by the Privations of the Bourgeoisie. Everyday ten or twelve literary magazines in both Banglas arrived. I saved them for
tidbits of news. Ten pages were used for these tidbits. I informed Chhotda that for the fourth issue of Shenjuti, we would need
advertisements. It was to be published as a book, with what could be called greater body. Chhotda managed to procure two
advertisements from Peoples Tailors and Tip-Top Confectionery. From Bengal Enterprise, Dhan arranged for us to use their zinc logo as an
advertisement on the last page. It would be in the form of a book that was clear, but who would do the jacket cover? To design it, I asked
Chhotda to find an artist. At Golpukur Par, Pulak Ray, the brother of Terracotta artist Alok Ray, was known to come for adda. From him
Chhotda came to know that Alok Ray was not in town. So there was no alternative but to wait for his return, as Chhotda did not know of
any other artist. As a consequence, I myself sketched a womans face and sent Chhotda to make a block out of it. After that there were
reminders, Come on, why is it taking so long, go get it. I just couldnt stand any kind of delay. I wished I could do everything that very
day itself. This wanting to do things right away was in Ma as well. Ma got a yard of white tetron to make caps for the boys of the house,
just before Id. She had cut out cloth for two caps, but when she wanted to cut the cloth for the third, Ma couldnt find the scissors. She
couldnt find them even after she had looked around her and in all the other rooms. She finally took up her kitchen chopper, boti, and cut
the cloth with it instead. Chhotda said I had no patience. The people at Jaman Printers, too, said the same thing. I, however, did not think I
was short on patience, instead I thought the people were rather laid back and inefficient. For work that could be done in five minutes, they
took over five days. I didnt like sitting around. I didnt even like spending too much time writing poetry. If I took time, I kept feeling the
poem was tying me up in chains. I felt claustrophobic. After I finished one poem, I liked to start a new one. I did not like spending days and
nights over one either. I was unable to rewrite and polish too much somehow. What I had written, was final. I had seen the patience of one
person that was Boromamas father-in-law. A short fair person, he looked like a Sanyasi, hermit, who had just emerged from some
Himalayan cave. After his wifes demise, he had written a poem called Pangs of Separation, and given it for publishing to Dadas Paata
journal. In the 341 worded poem, 286 were either conjuncted letters or words with ro, jo, or re in them. He had taken a whole year to write
this poem. After Dada had published it in Paata, he brought the same poem a little revised for printing in the second issue. When even this
revised poem was published in the second issue, he still continued to pester Dada morning and night to publish yet another revision of the
same poem in the third issue. A time came when no sooner did Dada see Boromamas father-in-laws sweet face at the black gate,
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than he would disappear into the bathroom for atleast an hour.
After class I mostly went back to Jaman Printers rather than home. Jaman Printers were located next to a clear lake opposite the Rajbari
School. The house next to the printing press had a high wall around it. Khurshid Khans house. Man, Dhan and Jan were Khurshid Khans
sons. Dhans elder brother Man was there during Dadas Paata days. Later the responsibility had shifted into Dhans hands. Dhan was an
impossibly amiable and witty man. He wore very clean, elegant clothes. Whenever I entered the press, he called me to his room and made
me sit down. He offered me tea. He chatted about all kinds of things. Khurshid Khan was East Pakistans Governor Monayem Khans
younger brother, Muslim League by lineage. Yet no one looking at Dhan would be able to make out that he was a bearer of the familys
political affiliations. There was no topic which he could not discuss profusely. I was mainly a listener. Dhan would say once in a while,
How is it that you are a literary person, yet not a word can be heard from you? I avoid mixing with many poets and writers, because they
are so talkative. Retaining a slight smile on my lips, I continued to listen to Dhans discussions on anything and everything, till I could
collect whatever portion of Shenjuti had been printed, and return home. After proofreading I would return with it the next day. I began to
make friends with the workers in the printing press. When I entered the press, I noticed that there was a look of peace and calm on their
faces. Hello Apa, how are you? the workers covered in ink, would ask me every time. Even if Dhan was not there, they made me sit
down and brought tea for me. I watched the men working at close quarters, learnt how the machines worked and tried my hand at the job.
The workers laughed at my antics. The ink stained my body as well. The printing press was now no more a place which I did not
understand. The day Shenjuti was printed I went to make the payment to Dhan before loading the big packets on the rickshaw. He said, I
think you must be having excess money. Go, go. I wont starve if I dont take this negligible amount. The fourth issue of Shenjuti was
printed with a white cover, and green pages. Whatever cover paper was saved, I made into writing pads for Shenjuti. On the right hand top
corner was printed. Taslima Nasreen, Aubokash, 18, T. N. Ray Road, Amlapara Residential Area, Mymensingh. No resident added
Residential Area to the tail of Amlapara; this was totally Dadas creation. Dhakas posh localities like Dhanmundi were called Residential
Areas. There were no shops or markets in Amlapara, only homes, so why shouldnt it be called a Residential Area? There was undoubtedly
some logic in the argument.
As soon as Shenjuti had been distributed in all directions, I again became restless. How could one not do anything! I called the members of
the Shatabdi Chakra, and proposed that we organise a function, a welcome to the newcomers. A fresh batch of students were joining
college, we would welcome them. What would we do in the function? We would have everything dance, song, poetry, theatre. Work was
divided amongst the members, some were to decorate the stage, others to rent a mike, get invitation cards printed and distributed. Everyone
got down to work, with a lot of enthusiasm. Anupam Mahmood Tipu, who advertised in the personal columns, wrote for the
cinemagazines, had a sweet smile, excellent handwriting and was a good artist as well, took charge of the stage decoration. I caught hold
of a classmate of mine from Muminunissa, Ujwala Saha, who kept in touch with singing, to render the opening song. The rehearsals for the
function began, some were acting in a play, or reciting poetry, elocuting, or singing. The President of the Chhatra Sansad (Students Union)
called me and said that no groups could welcome the newcomers before them. It was not very difficult to frighten a small group like ours!
After exchanging a few argumentative statements, I retreated and allowed the Chhatra Sansad to go ahead. The second freshers welcome
was the responsibility of Shatabdi. I got the invitations for the function printed. Haroon Ahmed, Professor of Anatomy was asked to chair
the function. He was more than ready to do so. It seems he too wrote poetry, and was keen to read out one of his poems at the function. I
had heard that Nirmalendu Goon now stayed in our town. His wife, Neera Lahiri, was a year senior to me, and they had rented a house
close to college. After hunting everywhere in Shewratola we found Goons house. The rooms were flooded with rainwater. With his feet up
on a chair, he was sitting on the verandah with a small transistor pressed to his ears, listening to the cricket commentary. The room was full
of water. After handing him the invitation card, and requesting him to read his poetry at the Shatabdi function, we came away. Whilst
Nirmalendu Goon was there, there was no need to import any poet from Dhaka. For a play, I caught hold of Chhotdas friend Farid Ahmad
Dulal. He promised to prepare a one act play for the show. I was restless about the outcome would anyone actually turn up to see the
function? But many spectators arrived, and the function was held. Some said it was excellent, and some said that the poetry readings could
have been reduced and the play should have been enacted midway, rather than at the end. Others were very excited, when was the next
Shatabdi function going to take place? I didnt know when, I was then whirling in a wild wind. Like autumnal clouds my hearts sky, too,
was entirely covered with the tune of Ujwalas song, A stream of happiness is flowing through the world.
Geeta wrote from Dhaka asking Chhotda to come to Dhaka. It seems there was a job interview somewhere for him. Chhotda went to Dhaka
immediately, and returned to Aubokash after seven days. He had secured the job, thanks to Amanullah Chaudhury. If he hadnt pressurised
the top brass of Biman, this job wouldnt have happened. There could be no one as great as Amanullah Chaudhury, was a statement
which now kept popping out from Chhotdas mouth like popcorn. To become a steward with Bangladesh Biman, he would go to Dhaka for
training. He planned to rent a house and stay there itself. It was farewell to Aubokash, Baba-Ma, brothers and sisters. Chhotdas voice did
not tremble to say bye-bye, but the very word farewell made my head throb and my heart felt as though a hundred horses were riding over
it. Every time I heard the word I found myself in a scene. A desert, where for miles not a soul could be seen, the only person was me, all by
myself. I wanted only a mouthful of water, the shade of one tree, the sight of just one person, but was getting nothing. But the smile on
Chhotdas face remained. Tirelessly he continued to describe the importance of a steward.
Ma informed Baba, Kamaal has got a job.
How could he have got a job? He is illiterate, said Baba.
Education is not in his fate. He got married very young. Now he wants to run a household. You tried your utmost, but he just couldnt
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What kind of a job is it, may I know? Baba was curious.
Crew for Biman. It seems its a very good job, he will be able to go abroad as well.
Oh my sad fate, Baba said with a deep sigh, I tried to put one son through medical college, he didnt qualify. He went to do his masters
at the University, but returned home without taking his exams. Another son got a star in his SSC, but left studies and now has taken up the
job of feeding people. People in the plane will shit, urinate and vomit and my son will clean it all up. Was this the job for which I hired five
tutors to teach him? Was this the job he secured a star in his SSC for? Good, people will ask Dr. Rajab Ali, what do your two sons do I
will have to say, one son roams around, the other flies around.
Just when I was on the friendliest terms with Chhotda, he was leaving. Chandana, too, had left just when she alone was the one and only
unparalleled being in my world. I remained alone where I was; everyone else kept coming and going. Chhotda promised to come often to
Mymensingh, and take me to visit Dhaka frequently. Although I knew that now I had the opportunity to visit Dhaka, my heart did not stop
feeling depressed. I may not have screamed and cried like Ma, but I did cry secretly. My close relationship with Chhotda was because of
literature. Dadas knowledge of literature was limited to Rabindranath and Nazrul. In the field of literature, theatre and music, Chhotdas
moving around constantly and may be some other factors had given him much more varied literary knowledge. Hence his company had
given me more joy. We had read huge thick volumes together. I had read and Chhotda had listened, or Chhotda had read and I had listened.
I was losing not only my audience but also my reader. I was losing the opportunity of accompanying Chhotda to cultural and literary
functions. I noticed that Chhotda had no pangs of loss. In fact, there was the joy of receiving. He was about to get a job in Dhaka, a good
job, a well-to-do household, an independent one. After living long years with uncertainty, he was now about to get complete, flawless
certainty.
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Like Habibullah, another person blocked my path one day, but not with the intention of friendship; the purpose was different. Within the
college grounds, in a Shyamganj accent he informed me that he was Shafiqul Islams brother, and that, like his brother, he too wrote poetry.
He was standing for election to the new Chhatra Sansad, and wanted me to do so as well.
Me?
Yes. You.
I am not in politics.
There will be no question of politics. You will be standing for the post of literary member, with the responsibilities of editing the college
magazine, organising functions and such things. You are qualified to do so.
But you have to canvass for votes! I cant do all that.
You wont have to ask for votes. You will win anyway. I can tell you with conviction, that our whole panel will get elected.
I wont have to canvass, sure?
No, not at all.
Okay then.
From the compound I took a rickshaw with the intention of going home. Following me all the way in flashes, was Helims smile spreading
from ear to ear, white teeth in a black face.
The next day Habibullah caught me in a vice, face dreadfully dark. Whats up, I never knew you were a BNP activist!
I, a BNP worker? Who said?
Everyone is saying so.
Who is everyone?
Dont you know who everyone is? Arent you standing for elections from the BNP? Yes or no?
So thats it! Yes, I am, but I am representing no party.
Is there any party worse than BNP? Students pick government parties so that they can reap advantages from it.
What advantages?
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Passing their exams, what else? Habibullah took off his apron, hung it around his neck and said, Go, and withdraw your name today
itself. If you must stand, stand from the Jashod.
Habibullah himself was a member of Jashod, Chhatra League. His very close friend Tahmid, also Jashod, a good be-spectacled boy, came
running. It seems he had told Habibullah that even though I belonged to no party, if I stood from Jashod, why literary member, I could
stand for literary editor. They were willing to bend the rules for me. So, instead of making me a member as junior students were normally
made, they were ready to be generous enough to make me the editor. Tahmid showed me a list of Jashod members. He said, These are all
students who have secured academic positions. And Anees Rafique of BNP have spent 4-5 years in the same class. If one was a member
of Jashod at that time, it meant you were superior. Even in the Chhatra League I found a whole crowd of failures. Good students were
either Jashod Chhatra League or Union members, or were not members of any party at all.
I searched out Helim that very day and told him, Please cancel my name, I will not stand for election.
Why, what has happened?
I dont understand anything of politics. The boys are saying I am representing the BNP.
Arrey, silly girl, the kids of Jashod are turning your head. You are not a member of BNP. But you are standing from BNP, because this
time they are going to win. You are standing in the interest of the college, not the party. Cant you understand this simple fact? Now if you
contest from the Chhatra League or Jashod, there is no question of your winning.
I kept quiet. I couldnt raise my voice. I understood very clearly that if I were to throw back a big No, Helim would be very disappointed,
and I felt very uncomfortable at the thought of distressing anyone. I looked at myself from Helims point of view.
Also, all the leaflets have been printed. Now it will be impossible to cancel anything. It will become a scandal.
I remained silent. Rafique Chaudhury and Aneesur Rahman, two prominent leaders of the Chhatradal came home and very sweetly made
me understand that my contesting the elections did not mean entering politics; it meant promoting the college literary activities.
The season for fresh elections began. The college walls were plastered with posters. There were blazing speeches on the dais, leaflets
scattered all over the benches in classrooms, at short intervals various contestants from different parties were to be seen meeting people in
classes, corridors, in the canteen, laughing and speaking, asking for votes. I felt I should vote for every contestant, from every party. The
president of the Chhatradal Aneesur Rahman offered me a cup of tea, and after giving me a huge smile, said, Come along, lets go out on
election publicity.
Impossible.
Rafique Chaudhury said, You are a party girl, you cant afford to be so shy!
I was a party girl! Others, too, said the same thing. This reputation got attached to me. On the day of the elections, I went to college, and
voted for all those I thought were deserving for the various posts from the Chhatra Union, Chhatra League and Jashod, and returned home.
The next day I got the news that the Chhatra Dal, meaning Anees-Rafique groups entire panel, had won. Last year the Chhatra League had
won, this time Chhatra Dal. Now what was to be done? We had to go to Dhaka to meet the President of the Nation.
I had been feeling dull. The thought of going to Dhaka brought me back to life. We went in a group to Dhaka by bus. The group was also to
come back in the same bus. I was all a tremble with sharp excitement at going to Dhaka, and to meet Rudra. After meeting Zia-ur-Rahman,
Helim escorted me to Chhotdas house at night. Chhotda lived in a single storeyed yellow house on Azam Road in Muhammadpur. He had
rented it jointly with Faqrul mama. After studying graphic arts in Dhaka, Faqrul mama had taken up a minor job. Seeing Chhotdas house
and family life I felt happy but also felt sad. I was sad, because Chhotda now stayed so far away from Aubokash. I felt happy that
Chhotdas dream had finally come true, the dream of getting a good job. Chhotda was very enthusiastic about his job. He was sure there
was no job like his. He could go abroad at any time, and the pay too was plentiful. The next day he took me to a dentist who it seems was a
friend of Chhotdas. Like Chhotda had friends in every nook and corner of Mymensingh, he had them in Dhaka, too. The friend extracted
my teeth giving me a lot of pain. Chhotda was always very alert about teeth. He had got his first geometry box in the senior class in school.
He would use the compass in it to extract hidden pieces of meat from between my teeth, saying, If you dont clean your teeth, they will all
fall. I felt Chhotdas extra care about teeth had inspired the dentist to extract even my good tooth. It is better not to have teeth than have
rotten ones, he would say crinkling his nose. Pressing cotton wool into the roots of my extracted teeth, I returned home. I was in Dhaka,
yet would not be able to meet Rudra the pain I suffered because of this far exceeded the pain of the tooth extraction.
After returning to Mymensingh from Dhaka, I shouted at the top of my voice to all at home, I have shaken hands with Zia-ur-Rahman. His
grip was so strong, the bones in my hand were about to crack!
Hes an Army man! So he is physically very strong, said Ma.
Mas disinterested face remained fixed before my eyes, as did her unconcerned words. I thought, he certainly had more strength. It was this
extra strength he had exercised in order to come to power. Secretly the dissatisfaction with Zia had been growing in the Biman Bahini.
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Guessing that at any moment a coup could take place, thousands of Biman Bahini people had been killed without trial. He had rehabilitated
many enemies of peace who had been hiding in holes. He had made a traitor like Shah Aziz the Prime Minister. Religious politics had been
banned in this country. Now, that ban had been lifted. The snakes were now coming out of their holes waiting to bite as they had done in
1971, siding with the Pakistan forces and killing lakhs and lakhs of Bengalis. Treating the constitution as their patriarchal property, they
took over as circumcisers themselves, and converted the constitution to an Islamic one. As when the Quran is read, you have to start with
the name of Allah, Bismillahir Rahman Irrahim, so too the name of Allah had been placed at the beginning of the constitution. Even if
the people of Hindu, Buddhist, Christian and all other faiths had been beaten up with shoes, there could not have been, I felt, a greater
insult to them. Secularism had been blown away from the constitution with one puff. There was no doubt he had more strength. I went and
washed my hand in the bathroom with soap. Let it go away, let this one black touch be wiped off my hand for ever.
Rudra came to Mymensingh to meet me and said, I dont understand you at all, it seems you contested the elections from the BNP? Why
didnt you tell me earlier?
I didnt.
Why not?
Do I have to tell you everything?
Dont you have to?
No.
Okay, do as you please. You have lost all respect and honour!
Hardly had all the noise of the elections subsided, when classes resumed in full tempo. I had ascended from the lower abdomen to the
chest. On one side I had to cut up dead bodies. On the other I had to study everything about the heart soaking in formalin on a tray. After
dissecting the dead, when I returned home and sat down to a meal, my hands still carried the smell. Even if I used up a whole bar of soap to
wash my hands, the smell did not go. I had gradually learnt to live with the smell. One day, when I had almost finished my meal, I spotted a
piece of dead flesh at the corner of my hand. I had forgotten to wash my hands before eating. The day I carried a heart home in my pocket,
everyone at home looked at it with noses and mouths covered, but wide-eyed. I happily placed the heart on the table, and opening the
Cunningham book, began to study. I even showed them all which was the atrium, the ventricle, from where the blood came in, from the top
to the bottom, then from there it went upwards and to all parts of the body. Mas eyes shone with great delight.
Well, now my Ma has become a doctor, what do I have to worry about anymore, my treatment will now be done by my own daughter,
Ma said.
Dada asked, Is this heart a mans heart or a womans?
I dont know.
It looks small. It must be a womans.
Who told you womens hearts were small?
Wont it be a little different?
No, it wont be different.
Yasmin standing at a safe distance from the heart said, Bubu, is this what is called the soul?
May be it is known as the soul. But this is the heart, not the soul. The work of the heart is to pump blood and supply it to the whole body.
Then which is the soul?
The soul is the mind. Suppose I like someone, my nervous system will get the news first. The head is the abode of all the nerves, not the
chest. The throbbing sound that can be heard in the heart is because the nerves in the brain are disturbed.
Yasmin looked with unbelieving eyes at the organ, the heart.
With Habibullah I shed all inhibitions and spent hours talking about any subject. By developing an easy and free relationship, I was happy
that I had been able to prove that boys and girls could be friends, and not only through letters. Habibullahs unrestricted comings and
goings at Aubokash had gradually become a common sight. Whenever Ma thought of relieving herself of worries, by hinting at this
relationship developing into marriage, I would break her empty dream by saying, Habibullah is my friend, just a friend, nothing more. Our
friendship is like the one between Chandana and me, do you understand! I dont think my reply made Ma very happy. Habibullah was
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good-looking, very polite and well-behaved, both of us were about to qualify as doctors, there could not be a more ideal match. Even if Ma
didnt say so in as many words to me, she definitely muttered them to all others at home. If even a hint of any of these words reached my
ears, I scolded her and told her to shut up. I was sure our relationship was pure friendship. So was Habibullah. Traveling with him on the
same rickshaw did not cause me any flutters. It was like traveling with Dada, Yasmin or even Chandana. Habibullah knew that a
relationship was developing between me and Rudra. At every opportunity, I would recite Rudras poetry to him. But one day Habibullah
stunned me by coming home and starting to address me as tumi. It seems he did not like the more casual tui! Any amount of asking why
he didnt like it, did not elicit any reply, only a bashful laugh. I was not able to interpret the laugh at all. The laugh not only made me
uneasy, it also frightened me. I got up from before him, and lay down in the darkened bedroom, hugging my sorrow to myself. Habibullah
continued to sit on the sofa in the drawing room, and writing a long letter he handed it to Yasmin. Yasmin switched on the lights, and left
the letter for me to read. Written in English, the essence of the letter was that our wonderful friendship could disappear at any time, but if
we could give it a permanent status, then there was no question of it getting lost. He had thought over it himself, had even questioned
himself several times, and the only answer he had got was that he loved me. Couldnt I take this relationship beyond just friendship? I read
the letter and recoiled with the pain of a broken dream. Insult and shame began to tear me to pieces. Pulling myself away from that sorrow,
I followed my growing anger step by step, finally walking into the drawing room. Tearing the letter into shreds, I threw the pieces at
Habibullahs face, and screamed, Leave this house immediately. Let me never see your face ever again.
Habibullah, a polite, gentle, handsome, budding doctor, a diamond amongst jewels, stood for a long time, before leaving. Later he tried to
tell me many things in college, but I never gave him an opportunity. He even knocked at my door several times but I did not open it.
Abu Hassan Shahriyar, who had made quite a name for himself as a limerick writer, was my classmate at Medical College. I had, however,
never spoken to him. One day he left a chunk of dead flesh in my apron pocket unknown to me. With it was a chit of paper, on it was
written a limerick. I was very annoyed at Shahriyars behaviour. I could not believe that anyone could be so wicked in the world of
literature. A few days later, this same wicked boy got so fed up of dissecting the dead that he left his medical studies, and went away to
Dhaka. However wicked the boy may have been I became convinced that it was possible to leave medicine and go elsewhere. However,
while Baba was alive, this would be impossible for me; this was something I knew very well. The dream of studying Bangla at Dhaka
University that Chandana had had, did not get fulfilled because of Subroto Chakma. When she was collecting all the necessary documents
for admission to Dhaka University, she found she hadnt picked up her SSC mark sheet. I had collected the mark sheet from the Residential
Adarsha Balika Vidyayatan, recently converted to Mymensingh Girls Cadet College, and sent it to her. Just when it appeared that if not this
month, then definitely by the next month her admission would be complete, Subroto Chakma got her admitted to Chattagram Medical
College on a tribal quota, to fulfil his own dreams. Chandana wrote from Chattagram that she did not like dissecting the dead. She was also
seriously thinking of someone handsome, left behind in Comilla. That handsome person was writing regularly to Chandana, the letters were
the I will not be able to live without you variety. Fed up with the smell of the dead, Chandana took an overnight decision to leave
Chattagram for Comilla in search of the aroma of the living. One day she suddenly wrote from Comilla informing me that she had married
the will not be able to live. If I had heard instead that Chandana was dead, I think I would have found the news more believable. Whoever
else it might suit to marry, it certainly did not suit Chandana. I didnt think there could be any news worse than this in the world. The
horrendous hairy hand of loneliness gripped my throat in such a vice that I found my breath gradually stopping. I ran to the terrace and hid
myself away from everyone. I had had a skyful of dreams along with Chandana. How could I see the whole world collapsing over those
dreams? On the pile of rubble I stood empty handed, all alone, so alone that suddenly I could not even feel my own existence. Even when
darkness and dew drops showered down on my head, I still felt nothing. After a month had passed, a letter came from Chandanas father
Dr. Subroto Chakma. It was addressed to me only. It said that for the way Chandana had insulted him, he would definitely take his revenge,
somehow, anyhow. He atleast had no desire to allow Chandana to continue to live on this earth. After remaining stiff with fear for two days,
I wrote to Subroto Chakma to forgive Chandana, accepting that she had done wrong, and one day would surely realise her mistake. Subroto
Chakma did not reply. But after a month I again, received a letter from him. He had invited me to Rangamati, for Chandanas funeral
obsequies. He actually observed his own daughters obsequies. A daughter who had abandoned her faith could not be acknowledged by
him. A Buddhist girl, she had run away, and married a Mussalman boy. Such a daughter was dead for him as far as he was concerned.
Hearing this frightening decision of Subroto Chakma, I felt really sympathetic towards Chandana. I wished I could with all my own
strength wrest her from the clutches of that handsome villain, and bring her back to safety. My heart told me Chandana was not well. She
was suffering, crying. I too did not like spending the whole day pouring over thick books amidst the stench of dead bodies and the pungent
smell of formalin. It did not take long for my reputation as a bad student to spread in the college. Utterly embarrassed, I went to college,
and came back. One day, the Principal of the college, the tall, fair, smiling Moffaqurul Islam, called me into his room. Swallowing his smile
and extinguishing the shine in his eyes, he took out a typed letter from an envelope. I recognized the letter. I had got a copy of this letter a
few days ago.
You are Dr. Rajab Alis daughter, arent you?
No words emerged from my throat. I nodded my head.
Looking at my voiceless throat and eyes lowered in fear and shame, Moffaqurul Islam making his own tone sound as harsh as possible,
said, Is your brothers name Noman?
I nodded my head.
Is your other brothers name Kamaal?
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I again nodded my head.
Is Kamaals wifes name Geeta?
Again the head.
Your younger sisters name is Yasmin?
The head.
Moffaqurul also nodded his head. It meant he had tested the truth of the letter he was holding in his hand. Moffaqurul Islam had no idea
that I had already read the letter. A crazy man called Abdur Rahman Chisti had sent me a copy of this letter himself. This man used to send
me copious letters. He had been a pen friend for a few days. In those copious sheafs of his letter, there used to be everything beginning
from fairy tales to difficult essays on the worlds trade policies. Most of it I never got down to reading. When suddenly the same man
offered his love one day, I stopped writing to him. After that came this threat. If I did not respond, he would harm me in this manner. He
would directly write to the Principal of Mymensingh Medical College that everyones character in my family was stinking. My father had
slept with Geeta, my sister slept around here and there. I of course was another one. I had slept with Chisti, why only Chisti, I had slept
with all his friends as well. My two brothers, too, were in the same boat. They pounced on a girl as soon as they saw one. Etcetra etcetra.
Only stories of sleeping around. Moffaqurul Islam, I guessed, had believed every word of the letter.
Heaving a deep sigh, I said, This is a baseless letter. I know about it. A man named Chisti has written it. I did not agree to his proposal, so
he is taking his revenge.
Ridicule was writ large on the face of the respected Principal. A crooked smile played on his lips.
You think you are very smart, dont you? he asked.
I did not answer.
Do you think I understand nothing?
I still did not answer.
I will not keep an undesirable girl like you in this college. I will give you a transfer certificate very soon.
I now got thoroughly shaken up. The Principals room, the Principal and the letter all started swaying before me. My simple honesty had
not been accepted by the Principal. What he had accepted was a mischievious rumour mongering letter, a letter which did not bear the
name of the writer, and on which there was no signature. The writer of the letter was a person the Principal did not know. But this unknown
persons words were considered the truth by the Principal, not the words of the girl he knew. Coming out of the Principals room I noticed I
could not speak to anyone, I could not hide the pain in my tearful eyes. Without attending the rest of the classes, I went straight home. I lay
down on my bed with my face to the wall. When Yasmin came I told her the whole incident. Moffaqurul Islams daughter Sharmeen,
studied in Yasmins class at Vidyamoyee School. It was very easy to get the names of all members of her household from Sharmeen. It was
even easier to write a letter, to paint each character black and to post the letter to the address of the Principal, Mymensingh Medical
College. By this, he would atleast learn what is meant by a rumour mongering anonymous letter. Not just my hands, but my mind as well
was impatient to teach him a lesson. But once Id collected the names, I was unable to write the letter. I did not feel inclined to write.
Muttering the words a dog has done a dogs job, it has bitten the feet I tore up the letter I had sat down to write.
Although I went to college, I could not concentrate in class. If while walking down the corridor I encountered Moffaqurul Islam, I passed
him as though no one was there, and it was vacant space. Normally, if any Professor came before one, one had to raise ones hand in
Salaam. I had never liked this rule. I avoided it in any case. Because I avoided it, my reputation as a discourteous student spread. As I
didnt even bother about this bad reputation, I was known as a comic, laughable creature. It seems one had to Salaam if one wanted to pass
ones exams; that was what was being whispered about. I kept my nose, ears, face and mind far away from these whisperings. I attended all
the important classes, and left college straightaway. On the way back, , I bought books on politics, society, literature from the bookshops. In
the evening along with Yasmin, I went visiting here and there. I attended good discussion sessions at the Public Library. There was always
something going on. When there was nowhere to go, I went to Padmarag Manis house and talked about poetry. Or to Natakghar lane
where my old school friend Mehboobas house was. Sitting on a cool mat in the sunny courtyard, we would drink tea and eat muri, while
talking about lifes simple and uncomplicated facts. Otherwise we went to Nanibari, to the long-left-behind world on the other side of the
railway line. We spent time in that solitary secret world with the small baby sparrows, old torn kites, blue balloons and the weed-covered
pond and bead necklaces and came back. Ma would say, The way you two girls just go out by yourselves, what will people say?
Let them say what they please.
You all think yourselves very daring.
We are not doing anything wrong.
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If your father comes to know, he will break your legs and make you sit at home.
Saying Let him break them, we moved away from in front of Ma. I found Mas nagging extremely irritating.
***
Chandana no more wrote as frequently as before. What she wrote was all about her in-laws house. Unlike the way she did earlier,
Chandana spoke of dreams no more. She did not write poetry either. She had changed a lot.
Some casual friends from school came visiting to chat, to eat. These girls from Dhaka who had left their homes and family atmosphere far
behind, and were staying in hostels, were seeking to find a close peaceful abode, and food which tasted like their mothers cooking. Time
began to fly with these friends.
Again poetry got me involved. The intoxication of getting Shenjuti printed began to glow brightly. Upturning a sack full of skeletal bones
over my innumerable literary magazines, poetry notebooks and Shenjuti manuscripts, Baba declared, As far as I can see, you will not be
able to qualify as a Doctor even in ten years.
Chapter Ten
Viewing the Bride-to-Be
When he started working, Dada began to slowly change the dcor of Aubokash. Removing the cane sofa-set from the drawing-room, he
placed a wooden set with soft mattresses. He also installed a four-legged television set in the drawing room. He got a huge bedstead made
of segun, teak wood, with a most novel headboard, displaying a man and woman lying naked under a grape tree. On the two sides of the
headboard were minutely carved drawers. When each piece of furniture arrived in the house, we would look at it from a distance and up
close, touching and without touching. He brought a dressing table with a mirror as well; that too was huge, with all kinds of carvings. A
lion-legged ten-seater dining table arrived. So did a gigantic crockery cupboard with a glass front. Thanks to the arrival of so many heavy
pieces of furniture, there was no place left to walk in the rooms. Dada very proudly informed us that all the furniture was made of teak
wood and designed by him. Whoever came home looked at Dadas furniture in amazement. They had never seen such furniture anywhere
else. Drawing the design himself, Dada got another green coloured steel almirah made. His greatest delight was that such a piece could not
be found in any other house. That was true, there couldnt.
Dada converted the room opposite the drawing room into his office. He placed in it a table with drawers; and arranged all the Fison
Company papers and medicine bags on top of it.
The whole purpose of getting all this furniture made was that Dada was to get married. A bride would come, and find a fully furnished
home, in fact a ready household. He had bought expensive china ware and arranged it in the cupboard, and the key remained in his
pocket.
Relatives went around looking at Dadas decorated room and left saying, Noman now has everything. Now all he needs is a wife.
****
Dada had been looking for a girl to marry for quite a few years. Girls were shown to him, but he did not like any. Various families sent
proposals, and proposals were sent to many others. He would take along either a relative or friend to see the bride-to-be. Every time before
leaving he went through elaborate preparations. He spent an hour bathing, using up a whole bar of soap. After his bath, while singing a
song completely out of tune, he applied Ponds cream and powder on his face, and olive oil on his feet and hands. Then apart from all the
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nooks and corners of his body, he generously sprayed perfume all over his chest, back and whatever parts of the body were reachable by his
hands. Normally Dada was very stingy with his perfumes. At home only Dada had a storehouse of perfumes. Sometimes before going
somewhere, if I asked, Dada will you give me a little scent? First he would say, There isnt any. If I grumbled, he would ask several
questions about where I was going and why. If he liked the answer, he would take out a perfume bottle from the secret hiding place in his
room and say, This is Earthmatic, or This one is Intimate, Made in France. Dada had to mention the Made in. Then after pouring out
hardly a drop he would say, Ish, quite a bit poured out!
I couldnt even see what you poured!
Arrey, in that drop itself, 200 taka was spent.
When Dada was not at home, I searched for the bottle of perfume in his secret place inside his shoes. I never found it. He had kept it in a
new hiding place. Just like a mother cat picked up its kittens by the scruff of their necks and shifted them from place to place, Dada, too,
kept changing the hideouts of his perfume bottles. Anyway, he took ages over dressing up. He stood striking various poses in front of the
mirror and looking at his reflection. He asked us, Ki, arent I looking handsome! With one voice we said, Of course. There was no
doubt that Dada was handsome. He had thick black hair, a sharp nose, big eyes, and long eyelashes; even in height and breadth he was an
extremely good-looking man. Wearing polished shoes and a suit even in summer, Dada would leave the house to see a prospective bride
with a bright smile on his face, and every time he would return with a gloomy face. Every time the gold ring in his pocket remained there
itself; it was never given to any one.
Ki Dada, how was the girl? I would ask.
Dada would wrinkle up his nose and say, Arrey Dhoor!
Everytime, he would make everyone sit in the drawing room of the house while he described the flaws in the girls he had gone to see.
***
Baba once sent Dada to see the daughter of one of his acquaintances. Dada went and saw her. On his return home, Baba sat down with
Dada and asked, Did you like the girl?
Dada immediately wrinkled up whatever it was possible to wrinkle up on his face and said, No.
How come? The girl was educated!
Yes, educated.
She had passed her B.A.
Yes, she had.
Wasnt she fair to look at?
Yes, she was fair.
Wasnt her hair long?
Yes.
The girl wasnt short!
No, not short.
Her fathers an advocate.
Yes.
He was the President of the Bar Council for a long time.
Yes.
He had two houses in the town!
Yes.
Good lineage.
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Yes.
The girls uncles all have good jobs. One is the manager of Sonali Bank.
Yes.
One of her cousin brothers stays in London.
Yes.
Which of her guardians were there?
The girls brother and father were there.
The elder brother or the younger one?
The elder.
The elder brother just got married a few days ago, to some very rich mans daughter. The brides father was a District Judge.
Yes.
Their house must be quite nicely done up.
Yes. They had expensive sofas etc. in the drawing room.
They do have a television surely!
Yes.
What did they offer you to eat?
They served three kinds of sweet and tea.
What was the girls conversation like? Her manners and behaviour?
Quite good.
Ladylike surely!
Yes, ladylike.
A docile and quiet girl?
Yes.
Then why didnt you like her?
Everything was fine, but
But what?
Her lips
Lips meaning?
Her lower lip was not flat, it was raised. I hate the sight of girls who have lips that pucker up.
Hmm.
***
The search began for a flat-lipped girl for Dada. News of a girl came. She lived in Tangail, but her sisters house was in Mymensingh, in
our locality itself. The girl was brought from Tangail to her sisters place. The date was fixed to view the bride-to-be. Dada dressed up as
usual and took me and Yasmin with him to that house. The girls sister opened the door and made us sit inside. She even mouthed a few
pleasantries, like, Youve just joined medical, havent you?
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Whats your name?
Yasmin! My niece is also called Yasmin.
My daughter studies at Vidyamoyee School. Today she has gone to her Mamas house.
Nowadays it has really become very warm, and during these warm nights the electricity too has been going off!
Achcha, what would you like to have, tea or something cold?
In the midst of this inconsequential chatter, the event of consequence took place. With a tray of tea and biscuits, Dano entered the room.
Three pairs of eyes were directed unblinkingly at her. Dano laughed shyly, and sat down in a chair. Tea was being drunk, and along with it
the meaningless banter continued.
The Bindubashini College in Tangail is not like it used to be; it had a great reputation at one time.
The chum-chum made by Porabari has become smaller in size, yet more expensive!
Dano is a very efficient girl. When she visits me, she takes over all the work. Tidying up the house, cooking, she does everything. She is
interested in gardening as well. She stitches her own clothes, doesnt give them to a tailor.
Do you know Qader Siddiquis house in Tangail? Very close to it is Nath Babus house; I go there once a month.
As soon as we had smilingly taken leave from that house, I asked, Ki, did you like her?
Two pairs of eyes were observing Dadas nose, eyes and lips.
She had beautiful eyes, said Yasmin.
Her lips were definitely flat, I added.
Dadas nose now crinkled up, Too flat.
People at home were informed that because Danos lips were too flat, Dada had not liked her.
After a few months the news came that Dano had been married to the famous Tangail Muktijoddha, freedom fighter, Qader Siddiqui.
On hearing this, I told Dada, Ish, look what you missed, you should really have married her!
Dada said, Luckily, I didnt. She must have been already in love with Qader Siddiqui.
*****
In any case, the news of any beautiful girls marriage made Dada depressed. He kept lamenting aha, aha, as though some wonderful
long-tailed bird had just flown out of his reach in a jiffy. After Dilrubas wedding, Dada in an almost tearful voice had said, The girl was
an absolutely true copy of Sheila.
What do you mean by was! She still is Sheilas true copy.
She is married now! So what if she is still
Hmm.
Didnt she have a sister? Lata! Lata too was a beauty.
She wasnt, she still is a beauty.
Achcha, cant we send Lata a proposal?
But she is much younger than you.
Actually, that is true.
I have also heard that someone is in love with Lata.
Then forget it!
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Dada had seen every beautiful girl in Mymensingh by turns. They were either studying in college, or had passed there IA/BA. Yet he had
not liked any of them. This time Jhunu khala said, Come, Ill show you a girl in Dhaka. She is beautiful and has just joined Dhaka
University.
She lives in Comilla and her father is a College Professor Jhunu khala brought more news.
The girl is very devoted to me, she is constantly calling me, Jhunu apa, Jhunu apa. She stays in the room next to me, in Rokeya Hall,
Jhunu khala said with a forced smile.
Tell me whether she is pretty, was Dadas question.
Very pretty.
Dadas legs swung from left to right at great speed. Her lips are flat I hope!
Yes, flat.
Not too flat again I trust?
No, not too flat.
It was decided that in an icecream shop in Dhakas New Market, Lovely and one of her friends would sit, and Dada could see her from a
distance. If Dada liked her, then matters could be carried forward. Dada went to Dhaka, and after walking around New Market reached the
icecream shop at the appropriate time, and saw the girl. Telling Jhunu khala, I think shes squint-eyed, he returned to Mymensingh.
In all the towns around Mymensingh, Tangail, Jamalpur, Netrakona, everywhere Dada had gone to see girls. He had come back with a
gloomy face. The next was Sylhet! He was going to Sylhet to see a girl. The proposal had come from a colleague of Dadas. I obstinately
insisted on going to Sylhet, too. My obstinacy worked. Dada took me along with him, when he left for Sylhet. Throughout the train journey
he kept saying, Girls from Sylhet are usually very beautiful.
I said, The girl does appear beautiful in the photograph.
Yes, she does appear to be so. But all flaws cannot be always detected in a photograph.
***
We spent the night at the Fisons Company Supervisor, Munir Ahmeds house on Sylhets Dargah Road. It was a huge, beautiful house with
a garden. As soon as we entered the house, I became restless. Dada, lets go and see the town.
Dada was not at all in the mood to do so then. He kept taking the girls photo out of his breast pocket and putting it under a bright light. He
showed me the photograph as well, saying, What do you think, just look carefully once more!
I have already seen it so many times! I said.
See it again. If you look again something or the other will be found.
Dhoot! Did we come to Sylhet just to sit in a house! Come on, lets go out for a little while atleast!
Your patience is really limited Nasreen, said Dada in disgust. We have journeyed so far. My body is covered with dust. Ill have to have
a bath.
What will happen if you dont have a bath? Have one when you return.
Her nose seems quite okay, what do you say! Dadas eyes were on the photograph.
I sat at the window and looked at whatever little of the outside was visible. If only I could go out alone in the city! I could have taken a
rickshaw and gone around seeing everything by myself!
The next day we went to see the girl. The father of the girl was a Police Officer, and the girl was a graduate.
Everything was good, really fair complexioned girl, but her front two teeth were a little raised. Rejecting the girl, Dada took me along
to see the Mazaar of Shahjalal. I was not interested in seeing any Mazaar. I would have preferred to take a hooded rickshaw and enjoyed
going around the city and getting to know its character and behaviour much more.
Thousands of people thronged the Mazaar. There were many standing on the shores of the lake feeding the black fish. Coming up to catch
the food in their mouths, the fish would then dive back into the water! Bah! Dada said, Do you know why people feed these fish? If you
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do, it seems you get a special passport to Heaven. Hazrat Shahjalal personally persuades Allah and makes efforts to ensure Behesht,
Heaven for the feeders.
Afterwards Dada gave me his shoes to hold, saying, Stand here with my shoes, while I go and see the inside of the Mazaar. Shahjalals
tombstone is there.
Take me as well.
No, women cannot go there.
Dada went up alone to the tomb at the higher level. I stood and stared at it amazed thinking, if women went there how did it cause
problems, and for whom!
While returning to Mymensingh by train, I told Dada, So you didnt like this Sylhet girl either.
Dada said, Sylhet girls are normally very pretty.
Then why didnt you like her?
I did.
But you said she had buck teeth.
Arrey, not the toothy one!
Then who did you like?
Munirs brothers wife.
What are you saying?
Did you see her lips? Those were the kind of lips I wanted.
Will you marry her then? I asked with my eyebrows raised upto my forehead.
How can I marry her? She is already married!
Dada looked despondently out of the window for a long time and suddenly said, Did you see the black beauty spot on top of her lips?
On top of whose lips?
Munirbhais wifes lips.
You had come to see the police officers daughter. Talk about her beauty spots. She had one on her cheek.
I didnt even see the spot on her cheek. Actually one shouldnt look too long at women with buck teeth. The eyes really get strained.
***
Dadas preferences worked even in the matter of names. Once, a proposal was sent to a girl because Dada had found out that her name was
Nilanjana. He was absolutely dying to see Nilanjana.
This girl has to be beautiful.
How do you know that?
How can someone who has such a lovely name be possibly ugly!
Of course after seeing Nilanjana, Dada only said Chhi, Chhi the whole day. Dada rejected a beautiful girl as soon as he heard her name
was Majeda, so going to see her was far from possible. His opinion I feel nausea as soon as I hear the name Majeda. Girls wth such
names have no business to be beautiful.
All of us at home had almost given up hopes of Dadas marriage. Only one person had not given up hope, and that was Dada himself. He
seriously believed that very soon he would marry the most beautiful girl in the country.
This belief of his allowed him to continue to spend his life happily and enthusiastically. He had bought a music cassette player. The earlier
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one, Made in Russia, which he had won as a second prize in the Udayan Competition, was kept in Babas room. One night, when Baba
was not home, and the door was locked from outside as he was wont to do, a thief broke the iron grill on the window and stole it along with
another big one Made in Germany, which Chhotda had given for repairs and brought back without any. Boro mama had asked Dada to
participate in the Udayan Competition. He had, in a way, even told him the questions and answers to be asked in the competition. He had
told Dada to be very sure not to tell anyone at the function that Boro mama was related to him. The first prize was a trip to Moscow, the
second a cassette recorder, the third a camera. No one knows how far Boro mamas influence worked, but Dada was thrilled to get the
second prize. With great joy he returned home with the recorder and after buying a whole load of music cassettes, began to listen to them.
Till then even Dada was someone who had not progressed beyond Hemanta, Manna, Sandhya, Satinath and others. After the robbery, the
house was without music for a long time. After buying the new machine, Dada bought many cassettes of his choice from Dhaka. This time
there was Firoza Begums Nazrulgeet. Falling in love with Firoza, he devoted himself to her songs. Increasing the volume of the recorder,
he would call us close, and singing completely out of tune along with Firoza, he would intermittently cry Aha! Aha! in his excitement.
Explaining Firozas love for Kamal Dasgupta he sang, Is this your last offering, the pain of separation look how long she is drawing out
the tune in the words. The day Kamal Dasgupta died, Firoza sang this song sitting before his coffin. Listening to the song, Dadas eyes
would become wet.
This attraction to music dissipated a little when he hired a machine called a VCR from Amritos shop. Amrito had started a new Video shop
at Golpukur Par. He was a very handsome boy. He was almost on the brink of marrying Jyotirmoy Duttas beautiful daughter. A bright
green light of success was shining on Amritos business. Very often for a night or two, Dada would hire the VCR and watch all the Hindi
movies available in the market. When initially two or three VCRs had come to Mymensingh, there had been great excitement. High priced
tickets were sold and movies were shown whole night in darkened stairways and closed houses. Chhotda had once taken me to one of his
friends house to see movies on the VCR. However, it wasnt my cup of tea. I had returned home before the movie was over. That was my
initiation into VCR-viewing. Later when the hiring of the VCR and watching movies reached a pinnacle of excitement, Dada actually
bought one of his own. After which he not only sat up whole nights and days watching movies, he began to swallow them whole. Initially, I
too sat before it. I was amazed. Who left Dharmendra a horse in the middle of a field? Just a moment before there wasnt any! Why did
Hema Malini suddenly leap up and start singing a song? Did anyone sing songs while dancing on the streets? My remarks buzzed around
like a fly, hovering over the other viewers who remained absorbed. Unreal action movies were not to my taste at all. But Dada, whatever
kind of movie it was, sat before the screen with his backside glued to the seat. However, I selectively watched movies which had no
violence, no unbelievable storyline, and no laughable unrealities. Amitabh-Rekha became my favourites. Even more than them I began to
like Shabana Azmi, Smita Patil and Naseerudin Shah. Showing contempt at my taste, Dada said, Dont get those dark moralistic films
anymore. We are looking at slum life everyday, we dont need to see it on the screen as well.
After watching any directors, any actors, any picture, Dada one day got caught like a Putti fish, in the net of one movie. The name of the
film was Mughal-e-Azam. He went almost mad in his love for the film. The movie would play non-stop. He began reciting the dialogues by
heart all around the house. He showed the movie to everyone at home more than once. From Nanibari, Nani, Hashem mama, Parul mami,
infact even Tutu mama and Sharaf mama were called in to see the movie. Hashem mama was a great fan of old films. Given half a chance
he would go around singing Hindi and Urdu songs of films seen in his youth. Dada had failed to pull and push Fajli khala into watching the
film. Fajli khala did not look at the television as it would be a gunah, a sin to do so. If Ma got a film, she forgot about gunah. It was
impossible for her to resist the temptation to see Mughal-e-Azam, so she had temporarily buried Allah and His orders and directives under
her pillow and had come to see the film.
After which she had read her Ashar or Eshar namaaz followed by raising her hands in supplication to Allah, imploring that she be forgiven
for her gunah. Ma was sure that Allah was very benevolent, and forgave all devotees who were sorry for their sins.
Whenever a guest came to the house, instead of tea and biscuits, Dada would show his hospitality by screening Mughal-e-Azam.
Chapter Eleven
Lukewarm Life
Even after we had given our hearts to each other, I had not met Rudra. Our introduction happened through letters, as did our
love; everything was in our letters. Our exchange of hearts had happened in the course of a play of words. Rudra informed me
that his birthday was on the 29
th
of Ashwin (mid-Sept mid-Oct.).
Tell me what you want on your birthday. I will give you whatever you want.
Will it be possible for you to give me what I do want?
Why shouldnt it?
I know it wont be.
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Why dont you ask and see?
Rudra informed me that what he would ask for would be difficult, painful and something hard to accomplish!
The very next letter carried the question, Will you truly be able to give what I want?
Shrugging my shoulders, I had replied, Bah, why cant I? When I have said I will, I truly will. Pride, in the shape of a tiny
sparrow, seemed to have flown off my shoulder and settled down on the tip of my nose.
Suppose I ask for you?
What is so great about that? Amidst these trifling amorous bickerings I had said, Okay go along, here I am personally giving
myself.
I loved Rudra for his words, for his poems in Upodruto Upokul Troubled Shores, for the syllables in his letters. I did not know
the man behind them. I had never seen him, but had imagined someone wonderful and handsome. A man who could never
speak an untruth, who could never behave wrongly with others, a generous, humble, lively man who had heretofore never
looked at any girl, a man with a hundred sterling qualities. When Rudra intimated that he was coming to Mymensingh to see
me, I had to drink glasses of cold water, because my throat and chest felt parched. Where were we to meet? Masoods house,
perhaps, was the best choice. Masood also wrote poetry. He was actually a singer. He was in Chhotdas vast circle of young and
old friends. Rudra had met him in Dhaka, at the Chitrashashi adda. Rudra was going to stay in his house in Sanky Para. I had to
go there at eleven in the morning. I started looking at my watch from seven in the morning. The closer the hands of the watch
got to 11 oclock, the more frequent and rapid became the beat of my heart.
Looking more modern than I was, I sported a pair of fancy goggles. I was wearing a pyjama-dress with no odhna as usual.
Except for the red college uniform odhna, I didnt have any at home, because like Chandana, I had objections to the odhna.
Even after I crossed the age for wearing odhnas; I stayed at home without one, and went out as well. Telling Ma I was going
to Nanibari, this long haired, lustrous girl, with no fat or muscle proceeded towards the small tin house on the field with a lake,
towards Masoods house. The little heart of this little girl, from a little house, and a little room, suddenly stopped beating when
a bearded, long-haired, lungi clad youth came and said he was Rudra. My first sight of my lover was in a lungi! At that time
Rudra looked like someone who could be a brother-in-law of Riazzuddin come from the village. I lowered my eyes though
already hidden behind dark glasses.
Take off your goggles. I cant see your eyes.
These were the first words from someone with whom I had exchanged my heart in innumerable written words, sitting before me
for the first time face to face.
Rudras deep voice startled me. I took off my goggles, but looked only at the furniture in Masoods room.
Silence.
How come you arent saying anything?
I rubbed my toes against my slippers. There was nothing to look at in the corner of the nail of my left hand, but I continued to
look fixedly at it, as though if I didnt look after it at this very moment, the nail would rot and disintegrate. Even though I was
not looking at Rudra, I clearly knew that he was looking at me, at my hair, eyes, nose, chin, everything. Into a room full of
discomfort, Masood entered with tea and biscuits. I spent the time taken to drink the tea looking at my cup, at the faded sofa
hand rest, at the dolls in the showcase and at times at Masood, and finally stood up.
Whats wrong, why are you so restless? asked Rudra, again in that deep tone.
My eyes were directed then at the window. The leaves on the trees were dozing under the strong rays of the sun. So was the
pond. As soon as the water insects alighted on it, the waters danced to a mild ripple.
Rudra stood up and came slowly towards me. Glancing at his body, I realised he was shorter than me by two spans. When Dada
quarreled with his short friend, Jahangir, he would brag frequently, Short people are enemies of Khoda! Rudra was short
without a doubt and to add to it his face was covered with a beard and moustache. I abhorred the sight of a moustache, and even
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more so a beard.
I moved away, I dont know whether from fear or shame.
Rudra said, Why do you need to leave immediately?
Silence.
You speak a lot in your letters. Why arent you speaking now?
Silence.
Ish, what a problem this is! Are you dumb or something?
The dumb girl crossed the fields of Masoods house and went away almost brushing against the water insects and the water in
the pond.
Before leaving, to the question at the door, You are coming tomorrow, arent you? she replied with only a nod indicating she
would.
I went the next day as well. That day, too, I did not look up at him. My whole body, from my hair to the nails of my feet, was
enveloped in bashfulness. I kept telling myself, Speak, girl, speak, he is your beloved. You know everything about him, you
have read and memorised his complete Upodruto Upokul; now say at least a few words. I couldnt.
Rudra left. He wrote from Dhaka, that he had never met a girl like me. So very shy.
The shy girl replied with a twelve page letter. This is what happens to me, you ask me to write, there would be no one as
garrulous as me. Come close, and I would recoil in such a way that you would think the letter writer must be someone else! I,
too, sometimes felt that I the writer and I the living woman, brought up within the boundaries of Nanibari and Aubokash were
two separate individuals. One spread her wings and flew in the sky, while the other was chained physically and mentally to this
earthly world, in darkness and confined to a closed room.
Rudra came to Mymensingh twice after this. He had really got along well with a couple of Masoods friends. So his time in this
town passed quite pleasantly. However, whenever I met him I remained in the same state. So many meetings had not calmed the
thudding of my heart. I could chat non-stop with friends and brothers but when my lover came before me, my hands and feet
turned cold. There was a lock on my mouth, whose keys were lost.
Rudra was coming, but where were we to meet, where could the two of us sit and talk! Masoods elder brothers had voiced their
objections, so that house was out. If we walked around the streets of town, some one known to us would see us, and inform
Baba in moments, utter ruin! Where to go then? We went to my school friends Nadira and Mahboobas house. They gave us tea
and biscuits, but whispered that their family members wanted to know who the man was. Even then, for girls of my age to visit
anyones house with a lover was considered indecent, after all, romance itself was considered in bad taste then! When a girl
grew up, her parents found a groom for her, and made her sit on the wedding stool. The girl had to shut her mouth and happily
accept an unknown, unheard of man as her husband, and go to live in her in-laws place it was not that girls did not romance
outside this system, but only secretly, so secretly that even the birds could never get to know. I had no reservations in letting the
birds know, in fact not even in letting a couple of friends know. I had let Chandana know every detail, and had told Rudra
everything about Chandana. I had earnestly requested both of them to write to each other as well. They corresponded regularly.
Most of my letters to Rudra were about Chandana. Rudra understood how close to my soul Chandana remained. Sometimes
with hurt pride he would say, Only Chandana, Chandana, Chandana. You need only one friend. I dont think you need me also
in your life! Not finding a place to meet Rudra one day, I took him to Nanibari. Nani made tea and served us, and suppressing
a smile told Rudra, If you want this girl, you will first have to establish yourself, understood! I lowered my face in shame.
Still, what was possible in Nanibari was out of the question at Aubokash. With Rudra I could think of going to many houses,
even to Nanibari, but never to Aubokash. Therefore, we sat in parks, or in the Botanical Gardens, sat in the shade of the trees,
and talked. The Botanical Gardens were slightly out of town, near the Agricultural University area. There we sat on the grass,
looking at the dried up waters of the Brahmaputra, a couple of boats carrying sand sailed passed. I sat looking at them while
mouthing yes or no kinds of words, in reply to the innumerable questions that Rudra asked. People coming to walk in the
gardens looked at us with wondering eyes.
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After joining Medical College, a standard place was found the college canteen. On the first day I took Habibullah with me to
meet Rudra in the canteen. Habibullah was a friend, and because it was my deep belief that boys and girls could be friends just
like boys and boys, girls and girls, and that there was no difference between Habibullah and Chandana, I was able to speak a
few words to Habibullah in Rudras presence. Other words emerged while searching in my cup for the mixed colours of tea,
milk and sugar, like when Rudra asked if my class was over.
Yes.
Any more classes?
Yes.
Do you have to attend?
Yes.
Yes, means what? Cant you miss them?
Yes.
I sat with Rudra bunking my classes. The campus emptied out in the afternoon, the canteen closed. Our love talk continued in
the lawns, in the grounds, or sitting on the stairs in college, somewhat in this way,
Do you get my letters regularly?
Yes.
You must write to me daily, understand?
Okay.
Are you writing poetry?
Just a little bit.
Try and write in iambic metre.
Iambic metre would be in sixes, right?
Yes. In the end you can add a couplet. Six, six and two.
I can understand versification with the number of letters in a line. I find versification with stressed and unstressed sounds
difficult
You will learn it better, the more you write. Initially, begin with letter number versification.
Eight, four and six?
You can do that, or even eight-four-two, six-four-two. Actually the minute you do six-four-two the iambic metre automatically
emerges
The poems in Upodruto Upokul are mostly in letter number versification, arent they?
Thats true.
I keep writing and counting the letters, I find it really troublesome
What is so troublesome? The poetical metre is in the sound, keep your ears alert
Sometimes I feel I cant write this kind of poetry.
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Of course you can, just keep writing. Bring your poetry notebook tomorrow, let me have a look!
I havent written any good poems, Ill show it to you later.
Just bring it, will you! Listen to what I say. Achha, one thing
What?
Why dont you ever address me?
In what way?
Neither do you call me Rudra, nor do you say tumi.
I do.
When do you do so?
In my letters.
That is in letters. Life is not only in letters. Why dont you address me directly?
Shame spread like a burning flame all over my face. Every time before meeting Rudra, I would either stand before the mirror or
mentally rehearse saying Rudra tumi, Rudra tumi. I even tried, Rudra what will you eat, Rudra will you leave today itself,
and other such sentences, using tumi, but as soon as I came before him, on the actual stage, my rehearsals were to no avail and
my performance fell flat. In spite of heartfelt efforts, I was just unable to free myself from the chains of my impersonal voice.
Why do you appear to be so far away? You dont let me touch you at all. How many times I have asked you to let me hold
your hand. You dont let me. What are you so scared of? Am I a tiger or bear or what?
I knew Rudra was no tiger or bear. He was a bright young man of the seventies. The seventies was the decade of war, death and
break-up. The decade of the seventies was a decade of poetry. In the poems one could smell the corpses, hear the screams and
protests. Rudra had evoked this decade brilliantly in his poetry. When he talked of his life in Dhaka, I listened enraptured. I was
very keen to see this life of his. I wished, I too, could take out processions in the city with people injured in police firing, print
leaflets voicing protest and stick them all over the city walls. I wished I too, like Rudra, could sit in the Chitrashashi grounds
and listen to Lucky Akhands songs while sipping cups of tea, or get involved enthusiastically in literary discussions within the
Dhaka University compound all evening, while munching Jhal-muri. I wanted to watch Salim Al Dins theatre being staged at
the Mahila Samity. Every other day there were poetry functions, I wished I could attend them and listen to the poems. Rudra
seemed to be nurturing my budding poetic talent by removing the weeds around it and watering it as required or it could be said
that he lit into a flame what was like gun powder smouldering within me. A great desire to lead an unknown, unseen existence
filled my mind. Every day I had to leave early in the evening with my desires unfulfilled, return home, give an account for my
late return and tell lies, that after class I was in the girls hostel. When I lied, my voice trembled and my eyes were either
lowered to the ground or to my books. Later I had got to see Rudras life in Dhaka as well. An unaccounted for, carefree,
unrestrained, reckless life. In the University ground, within the T.S.C compound, while smoking cigarettes and sipping tea I
saw the variety of people Rudra was always talking to. He talked politics, literature and laughed loudly. He had introduced me
to his friends. They were either poets or story writers, or singers or heroes. I was still the shy, reed-like slim, fine haired girl
who was unable to speak to strangers. I watched Rudras life, amazement choking my throat. A wonderful free life, answerable
to no one regarding his movements, actions and whereabouts. In Dhaka, my time for meeting Rudra was always limited. Jhunu
khala set me free only for an hour or an hour and a half. She did that purposely because she knew I was going to meet Rudra.
Jhunu khala unhesitatingly told me her love story, and I too began to freely tell her mine. She did not act like an overbearing
guardian in this matter. Ages ago, Jhunu khala had left Boro mamas house and migrated to live at Rokeya Hall, the University
Womens Hostel. She had passed out from the University, and she was having a love affair with one of the employees of the
University office, Motiur Rahman, who belonged to Barisal. When she went to meet her Barisal man, she took me along with
her. Sitting on the lawns of the Suhrawarrdy Gardens, she regaled him with stories about her home and relatives. Listening to
her I found this familiar Jhunu khala not so familiar any more. Anyone would think Jhunu khalas relatives were some
formidable individuals. She, it appeared, had no relatives below the status of millionaires and billionaires. Sitting close to her I
looked at the shining eyes of the man from Barisal. I liked everything about Jhunu khala. She went wherever she pleased all by
herself. She went home to Mymensingh during holidays all on her own. She appeared intelligent at all times. Only when she
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met her man from Barisal she appeared to me to be very stupid. She completely turned into a little girl. If I was stupid, she
seemed worse than me, in fact a bigger fool. Once, while travelling from Dhaka to Mymensingh by train, she met a story-writer
called Smritimoy Bandopadhyay. After one meeting, she arrived at Aubokash with him. Tea and biscuits were served to the
guest. In front of Smritimoy, Jhunu khala behaved in a silly manner. On her face there was a shy simpering smile as though
Smritimoy was an old lover of hers. When she came to Mymensingh, Jhunu khala would spend the whole day at Aubokash with
us and return home only in the evening. To humour my requests, she would seek Mas permission and take me to Dhaka for a
day or two. Of course before my desires could be quenched, she would drop me back in Mas care. There were never any real
objections to my going with Jhunu khala. After all she was the highest degree-holding woman in the University, even Baba
talked to her without disrespect.
Even if my love for Rudra was not evident in face-to-face encounters, it grew significantly through our letters. It was his wish
that I write to him everyday. He too wrote everyday. In case my letter did not reach on even one day, Rudra would write in great
anxiety, What has happened to you, are you forgetting me? No, I could not forget Rudra. What I couldnt make him
understand was that to write to him I needed some privacy. With the house full of people, it was very difficult to do so. Rudra
feared that Baba would very soon force me into marriage. I let him know clearly that, that was one thing my father would never
do. He might murder me and throw me into the waters of the Brahmaputra, but before I passed my medical exams, he would
not allow any words about my marriage to be uttered by anyone. Rudra spent his days in disbelief, apprehension and agitation.
Spending a lot of time in Mongla and Mithekhali, he returned to Dhaka, and then came to Mymensingh for a day or two. Like
before, we sat facing each other with silence as our companion. Piercing the silence with a needle, Rudra said one day, Lets
get married.
Married?
Yes, married.
I began to laugh. I felt as though I had just heard some crazy proposal like, Lets go to Mars, or lets drown in the sea! I
couldnt help but laugh. Rudra frowned and said, What is there to laugh about!
I cant help it.
What makes you laugh?
It just happens.
Arent we supposed to get married sometime?
Why is the question of marriage arising?
Why shouldnt it?
Are you mad?
Why should I be mad?
Only mad people keep talking of marriage!
Dont talk rubbish.
Is this rubbish?
Yes, it is.
Rudra sat depressed. Depression was crawling towards me as well. I picked at my nails for a long time, and stared at the pages
of my book without any reason, for even longer. There was an uncomprehending grief in my voice.
Baba will kill me.
Let us both go and meet Baba, said Rudra in a serious tone. My loud laugh pierced through the gravity of his voice.
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How can you laugh?
I again felt like laughing. Certain scenes could possibly be conjured up in ones mind with great difficulty, but this scene of
Rudra and I standing before Baba, saying we wanted to marry and were seeking his permission or something to that effect
was a scene impossible for me to even imagine. Distractedly I tore at the grass.
What are you laughing about, will you please tell me! Arent you ever going to think of getting married?
Why get married right now? Let me pass my medical exams first. Then well see, was my melancholic answer. The words
were without regret, cool.
That would be very late, Rudras voice was steeped in anxiety.
So what if its late?
Rudra could not stand delays. He wanted to do things straightaway. He was already dreaming of marrying and setting up house.
Looking up at Rudra, I felt, I didnt know this man at all. He was someone very distant. He was like a spoilt, irritating
overgrown kid. Take your exams, pass your M.A., only after that does the question of marriage arise, what is the big hurry
now!, I informed him by letter. Rudra replied that taking or not taking the exams was of no consequence to him. He had no
eagerness for such meaningless degrees.
He may have considered them meaningless, but I knew, my family members would want to see degrees. In fact, I didnt believe
that even a M.A. qualified boy would be considered suitable for me. Then to top everything, Rudra was a poet. Poets went
hungry. That they were also very bohemian was Babas strong belief. Rudra said he was a poet, and that was his identity. As he
would never seek a job, so there was no justification for him to pass University exams.
No, but
But, what?
I was petrified of Baba. It was impossible to make Rudra understand of what metal Babas heart was made.
Baba was Associate Professor in the Department of Jurisprudence of Mymensingh Medical College. As there were no other
professors, he was the Head of this Department. Almost everyday I went to college with Baba by rickshaw. Half the way he
generously gave advice, Make sure you pass your Medical at one go. Study with that goal in mind. It was lucky that Baba
wasnt saying he would throw me out of the house in case I didnt pass with distinctions and stars. Once you got into Medical,
some day you would pass out as a doctor, this was his belief. Hence he looked quite relaxed. In fact just passing the Medical
exams was a matter of luck. Even good students sometimes were unable to achieve this feat. Questions on complicated subjects
like anatomy and physiology which were difficult to comprehend and study, were so clearly and simply answered by Baba, that
they were easily understood. There was no question whose answer he did not know. Even then he stayed up nights to study. The
day he had to take class, he would study till 2 oclock the previous night, before going to bed. At one time he was the Anatomy
teacher at Lytton Medical School. That Lytton school closed down years ago, it was now no more a school, but a college, next
to the big hospital, with a big campus, and most of the great teachers there, according to Baba, had been his students. There was
a kind of happiness in knowing that more than I was known myself, I was known for being Rajab Ali Sirs daughter, at least in
college. Baba, who continuously helped me to unravel the complicated study of medicine, gradually came to feel very close to
me. This was a new Baba. As soon as he came home, he called me close. He made me join him for meals and chatted with me
while eating. He wanted to know if I had learnt something new that day. If I said I hadnt, he didnt even get annoyed, instead
with great eagerness he would propose a topic for discussion. Suppose it was the liver, I would let slip that, I dont understand
anything of the liver. He would laugh, make me sit next to him, pull my hand and place it on his chest, and in a mixture of
Bangla and English, he would tell me how the liver looked, where it was located, what its functions were, what were the
diseases connected to it and how these diseases had to be treated. Everything was explained like a story to me. That I was
unhesitatingly telling him I knew nothing about the liver did not make him snarl even once, and ask me, Why dont you know?
Learn the whole book by heart, from cover to cover. I had never before seen this kind of Baba, who was not worried about my
studies any more. He never again demanded that he should see me only at my study table. If I indulged in adda or spent hours
sleeping, Baba got angry no more. Babas attention was now focused on Yasmin. The responsibility of waking her from sleep,
making her sit down and study, chasing her away from games, making her listen to the words of sages, threatening her with
being thrown out of the house unless she got starry marks was being carried out tirelessly by Baba. Seeing that Baba was now
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unconcerned about me, I chose and bought a guitar from Haripada Malliks musical instruments shop, and began to pick up
tung-tang notes on it. The dream of being able to play a song on the guitar made my heart beat tung-tang throughout the day.
Shahadat Khan Hilu had a very good reputation as a guitar player. Not just as a guitar player, Hilu was known to everyone in
town. In the cultural arena Hilu was always center stage. There was no end of people who were willing to accept him as their
guru. He was Masoods guru. After he met Rudra, he became like a guru to Rudra as well. Rudra had once come to
Mymensingh with a tall new storywriter called Mohammed Ali Minar. Minar, too, became a disciple of Hilu. Such was the
charisma of the man. It seems Hilu had been close to Chhotda and Geeta, and was even Dadas friend. One day I went to Akua,
not far from Nanibari, to his huge house with a pond, to request him to teach me to play the guitar. I had heard he never taught
anyone, and Geeta even told me he couldnt stand the sight of women. When Hilu agreed to teach me, I wasnt able to gauge
immediately what a privilege this was going to be. The joy of making the impossible possible was the kind of joy I felt. It was
as though I had been given a jar full of gold coins, and the snake that was normally wrapped around the neck of the jar appeared
to have gone to seek the scent of the Kamini flower. Hilu came to teach thrice a week in the evenings. Like all other home
tutors, he too was served tea and biscuits. Ma knew Hilu. His elder brother was Hashem mamas friend. Ma made payesh, rice
pudding for Hilu, with more sugar. Hilu taught me the chords of the guitar, partook of the tea and payesh made by Ma and left.
One evening, Dada came face to face with Hilu. As soon as he saw him, Dadas face turned pale, but he nevertheless fixed a
cheerless smile on that pale face for the rest of the time. As soon as Hilu left, Dada removed the smile from his pale face, and
asked Why have you asked Hilu to teach you the guitar?
So what is wrong in that?
He did not say what was wrong but made disapproving sounds with his tongue.
When the month was over, I went to give Hilu an envelope with two hundred taka in it as an honorarium.
He asked, What is this?
Money.
Why money?
There was no reason for Hilu not to understand the reason for the money. With a crooked smile on his lips, he said, Are you
paying me for teaching you to play the guitar?
I kept quiet. Hilu did not take the money. In spite of hundreds of requests, he didnt. Hilu was a rich mans son. I knew he did
not need money. But to study for free made me very uncomfortable. My embarrassment remained, along with great respect for
Hilu who was abandoning his evening programmes and taking time out to teach me. In the midst of this sense of respect one
day came Baba. Seeing Hilu sitting in the drawing room teaching me to play the guitar shocked him so much, it was as though
he had seen a ghost. On seeing Baba, Hilu stood up and offered his Salaam. The response he got was eyes spewing hatred.
Going into the inner room, Baba called me in a voice which could have blasted the house down. My trembling heart and I went
and stood before him.
Why has Hilu come?
He teaches me to play the guitar.
Ill take your arse for guitar learning, Haramzadi. Throw the fellow out this minute. A scoundrel has come to my house. How
dare he?
Hilu must have heard Babas words. I could neither breathe in nor out. No, this could not be happening; Baba was not saying
anything; Hilu was not standing flabbergasted in that room. Nothing but the strains of Raag Malkash were entering his ears. I
tried desperately to convince myself that no untoward incident was happening in the house, that this was only a nightmare. In a
room full of darkness, I stood rooted to the ground and my head seemed to float away from me like a gas balloon into the sky,
to disappear behind the clouds. My body, I noticed, became incapable of moving. It was dead like yellow grass buried under the
weight of stones, it felt cold and slimy like the toadstools which grow on them. Baba insulted Hilu that night and drove him out
of the house. After throwing him out, he moved about violently all over the house.
Who doesnt know Hilu? He is a well-known goonda of the town. Aayee Noman, Noman, screaming for Dada to come close,
he continued panting, Did you know Hilu was coming to this house?
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Dada nodded his head, implying both yes and no.
Besides this blazing fire Ma came and stood offering a palmful of water, Hilu did not come to this house to do anything like a
goonda!
Baba did not even bother to hear Mas opinion. The fire continued to blaze, while the water from Mas palms fell onto the
ground wetting it. The whole night, from my two eyes fixed on the beams supporting the ceiling, spewed hatred and anger
towards Baba. Ma came and sat beside me on the bed sighing deeply.
Your father has such arrogance! What does he have so much self-conceit about, I do not fathom! People will curse him. If you
treat people unjustly, why will people not curse you? They definitely will.
My guitar lessons came to an end for the rest of my life. The instrument lay in one corner of the room. With the passing of time
it gradually became the dwelling place of dust and cobwebs. Many times I had thought of going to Hilu and begging
forgiveness with folded hands, but I felt hesitant to stand before such a great person with such a small face.
Soon after this incident, Mitu arrived. A wave of beautifying the house began. The house was decorated from top to bottom.
Mitu was the daughter of Dadas Companys top boss. She was to join Mymensingh Medical College, and stay in our house till
hostel arrangements could be made for her. The day Mitu arrived with her parents in a car, this girl with her acne covered
cheeks, pearly laugh, curly hair and fair-skin made friends with everyone in the house. Even though I was a year senior to her in
college, she unhesitatingly addressed me as tumi, and even told Yasmin not to bother with apni, but to call her tumi. Pulao
and meat was cooked, and the best room, which was Dadas, had been arranged for her to stay. Mitu was an active, bouncy,
lively, bright girl, who within an hour had told us a whole load of stories. Mitus mother did the same, as though they had
known us for ages. I was unable to tell stories so neatly as Mitu could. While relating a story I would get all confused.
Surrendering myself to silence, I just watched and listened. I could not speak English as fluently as Mitu did. I was also unable
to learn the art of making people my very own, so easily. After leaving Mitu with us, her parents went back to Dhaka. Mitu
joined college. Everyone at home seemed to be at her service twenty four hours of the day. People were ready to serve her with
whatever she wanted at whatever time. If Mitu was to have a bath, someone would run to see if there was water in the
bathroom, if not then two buckets of water would be filled up and kept ready for her. She was handed the best towel and soap in
the house. If Mitu was to eat, then the best plate was given to her, and the best pieces of meat and fish were served to her. When
Mitu wanted to watch television, the best place on the sofa was reserved for her. If she had to sleep, someone ran to dust the bed
and arrange the mosquito net. While she was sleeping, no one was to make any sound in the house. Even Baba was roped into
serving Mitu. He sent unending supplies of fish and meat home, so that they could be cooked for Mitu. This English speaking,
shirt-pant clad girl, who watched only English films on television every night, read English novels and listened to English
songs in her free time, was like any girl living at home, yet she was also very much an outsider. However intimate she was with
us, there remained a distinct difference between her and us. I could never make friends with rich girls. I could never understand
what I should say to them. When they talked of fashion, foreign travel and foreign cultures I sat listening like a complete
ignorant blockhead. Even at school, I could never become friendly with the bespectacled rich girl, Asma Ahmed, who talked
and walked in a superior fashion. Yet, I had been to her house, and she had very often taken my poetry copy to read, and had
even praised my poetry as being very good. When Munni used to come once in a while to visit us with her mother, Ma would
sit down happily to talk to her mother. Since Munni was my classmate, I should have gone and talked with her, but I could
never make out what I should say to her. After saying, How are you? I could find no other words to say to her. After passing
her SSC in the third division, Munni was married to a lotus on a dunghill. The flower was some illiterate, impoverished village
farmers engineer son. Munni came to visit even with her husband. After barely peeping into the drawing room I had pushed
Yasmin and Ma forward to meet them. Yasmin and Ma were not very good at routine conversations, but could manage
somehow with great difficulty. I was the one who just couldnt. Yet, this was the Munni with whom I had gone to school, a
stones throw away from home, daily in a rickshaw. I had just been promoted from the fourth standard to the fifth, and my
excitement at going to a new class had yet not left me. Baba had bought the new books for me. I had covered the books with
coloured paper. I had already finished reading both the Bangla prose and poetry texts. The double-lined Bangla copy, the
four-lined English, and blank paged Maths copy had already been arranged by me on my desk. Before 9.30 am, I was ready in
my school uniform, having eaten boiled rice with ghee, clarified butter and sugar, and having packed a small black suitcase
with my books and copies. One could actually walk to school. Just after the Saraswati Temple at the corner, if one walked down
Sher Pukur Par, in front of Manoranjan Dhars house was the main road across the red boundary wall of the Vidyamoyee
School. However, I did not get permission to walk to school from home. Everyone was very sure that if I walked I would break
my limbs under some cars or cows. Every morning, Baba handed out four annas with which I left Aubokash or went three
houses away and stood on the verandah of MA Kahhars house. On seeing me in the room inside, Munni the fat, fair, rich mans
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daughter, who got zero in studies, would wear a stiffly-ironed uniform and a pair of expensive shoes. Munnis mother wore a
pleated sari, and had a bunch of keys suspended at the end of her aanchal. When she walked, the keys knocked against each
other making ting-ting sounds. On seeing me, Munnis mother smiling with betel-juice stained teeth, would say So, girl, how
is your mother? I would nod and say she was well. My mother was well, sitting in the kitchen verandah, trying to light the
earthen stove by stuffing dried coconut leaves, puffing and blowing into it. Covered in smoke was Ma and smoke covered was
her soiled, dirty sari. Mas aanchal had no bunch of keys suspended from it. The bunch of keys was with Baba. If any door or
cupboard had to be locked in the house, Baba did so. Once in a while he locked up the store as well and the key remained in his
pocket. No one in Aubokash had the courage to touch that pocket. There was a vast difference between Ma and Munnis mother.
Munnis mothers body was covered with gold ornaments, her hair was tied up in a bun and she wore slippers with coloured
straps. Mas feet were muddy and bare, her hair hung loose, her face was smoky, her lips dry. There was a vast difference
between Munni and me as well. Munni looked like a doll, all shining. I was certainly not like her, yet we sat together in the
same rickshaw and went to school. I paid the rickshaw fare to school, Munni paid the return fare. Every day, Munnis mother
opened the cupboard in her bedroom with the big key tied to her aanchal. With another key, she opened the drawer in the
cupboard, from which drawer she took out a golden coloured box. Inside this box, was another one, from which she would take
out four annas and give to Munni. On the way to school Munni talked non-stop. I only listened to her. Almost every evening,
when she came with her younger brother Paplu to play in the courtyard of our house, her hair tied in two plaits with red ribbons,
even then she was the only one who talked, I just listened.
That same Munnis beaming mothers toes one day began to grow red. The redness increased and began to spread upwards
from the tips of her toes. When Baba was unable to treat the redness with any kind of medicine, he one day actually amputated
the big toe. Munnis toeless mother gradually recovered her health, and again began to visit her neighbours and friends to
gossip in the evenings. After a few months, the tips of her toes again began to grow red. The redness again spread. It spread
right up her legs. Baba said she had skin cancer, and only if her legs were wholly amputated could the cancer be checked. No
one in her house agreed to this. Baba went routinely to see Munnis mother. Ma too went to see her. She personally heated up
water, and soaking Munnis mothers feet in the water, would sigh deeply and sit and show her dreams of getting well again.
Towards the end, Munnis Mas body began to give off a horrible smell, and she was made to lie under a mosquito net. Bottles
of attar were poured, but were unable to remove the stench. Her own family members did not want to enter her room. Yet Ma,
an outsider, went inside the stinking room, stroked her body, and wiping her tears with her sari aanchal said, Allah will make
you well, keep your faith in Allah. Ma felt sympathy for everyone. Just as Ma could go to the slums, and stroke the bodies of
the dirty slum women, she could also go to rich men houses and soothe the bodies of their wives. Ma had requested me many
times, Lets go and see Munnis mother, poor woman is suffering so much. I would refuse. Ma would go alone. Ma could do
so, I couldnt. Diffidence, fear and shame would just accost me and penetrate my very bones. Ma had stopped worrying about
what people would think of her soiled clothes, soiled body or soiled life itself. After visiting Munnis mother, Ma said, What if
shes a rich mans wife, she is sick, and because her body is stinking, no one goes close to her. They have kept servants, only
they go near. Ma was of the view that there was no limit to the woes of women, whether they were poor or rich mens wives.
Ma was considered a rich mans wife by those slum dwellers who came begging. Ma would correct them. Being a rich mans
wife and being a rich man are two very different things. My husband may be a rich man, but I am a poor woman. I have no
money of my own. Ma sometimes said, If I worked in someones house and even earned five taka, that at least would be my
earnings. Does anyone even give me five taka? The maids in the house have a better fate then mine. Whatever Ma might have
gained by becoming a rich mans wife, she had lost a great deal more. She had been deprived of many opportunities. She had
looked around for sewing jobs, but never got any. Since she was not educated, no one gave Ma any big jobs. And she was not
given any small jobs because she was a rich mans wife. Ma never got any work to do except her household tasks. Yasmin
was about to take her SSC exams. Ma caught Yasmin as well. Will you arrange for me to take my SSC exams privately? If you
just teach me a little bit of Maths, I will definitely pass. Ma examined Yasmins books. Very carefully she turned the pages,
some of them she was even able to read without stumbling. She said, This is not so very difficult! Hearing Mas desire to take
the SSC exams, evoked not just suppressed laughter amongst all at home, everyone actually laughed out aloud, including even
Amena.
Meanwhile Jhunu khala had married her man from Barisal and brought him to Mymensingh. Before she brought him, she had
come alone and explained how exactly the house was to be arranged from top to bottom. She had also instructed everyone
about what dress each one was to wear, how each one had to behave, what they had to say when asked certain questions, even
what items were to be cooked and explained every other detail to each one before she left. She had come to our house and
spoken about inviting the eldest bride. When we went to Nanibari to meet Jhunu khala and her husband from Barisal, we found
everyone speaking in low tones. Nani had cooked a variety of dishes. Jhunu khala was flitting from one room to another. Her
husband sat on the new sheet on the bed, wearing a new starched lungi and white addi silk Panjabi, his face gloomy. Only on
the day the man from Barisal came to Aubokash did the gloom leave his face. He took a great liking to Baba even though his
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shoes squeaked when he walked. Jhunu khalas sisters husband was a doctor, that too a professor of medicine at the medical
college. The man from Barisal looked unblinkingly at Baba saying, You all are, after all, our only relatives. After Jhunu khala
left, Ma said, Why does Jhunu humour her husband so much? She herself is an MA. She will now get a very good job. She
doesnt need to kowtow to her husband at all!
Ma was unable to study because she never got the opportunity to do so. At times I thought, there were others, who given the
opportunity, still wasted their chances. Rudras name was on the rolls of the University, but that was all. Neither did he attend
classes, nor did he take the exams. I told him to at least pass his Masters degree. I told him for his own sake. He clearly told me
that he was not made out for these things. He hardly cared for academic qualifications. He was going to write poetry all his life.
Poetry was his passion, occupation everything. Rudra spent five hours coming to Mymensingh from Dhaka by train; it took the
same time by bus. Once, while hanging from a crowded train he met Nirmalendu Goon, and since then he clung to him. Goons
house became a new place for us to meet. But how long could you sit in someone elses house! They too had their quarrels,
shouts and screams! Hence, better to roam about in a rickshaw! So that no one would spot us in the town, we took separate
rickshaws while within its perimeter. Only far away from town, we left one rickshaw and sat side by side on the other. Rudras
touch aroused great rapture in my mind! The only place we could go out of town was to Muktagachha. The village roads were
deserted over which the rickshaw trundled along, under the big trees tied up with saris to make them stand straight, over small
bridges built to cross tiny rivers. My eyes were attracted by the green mustard fields, the naked children splashing in the marshy
land, the nonchalant crossing of roads by emaciated cows, and my mind and heart remained with Rudra. Shyly thwarting
Rudras endless attempts to kiss me, we reached Muktagachha. We roamed about the courtyard of a Zamindars house which
was covered with weeds, and cobwebs. Even if we walked side by side on the roads, there was no fear; in this town there was
no one we knew who could spread any scandalous rumours.
When Rudra returned to Dhaka that time, within a few days, seven to be exact, I was about to enter class, when a senior girl
came and told me that Neera Lahiri had sent a message, that I should go to her house immediately.
Abandoning my class I ran to Goons house.
I found Rudra sitting in Goons drawing room. There were two wooden chairs in the room, and a bedstead. He was on the
bedstead. My heart danced with joy at seeing him. Whenever I saw Rudra that is what happened to me, my heart danced with
joy.
What happened suddenly?
Yes, rather sudden. I didnt have time to write and tell you.
I see.
Then there was silence while we sat facing each other. The blues of silence were filled with the smoke of Rudras Star cigarette.
Rudra took out a paper from his black shoulder bag and said, You have to sign on this paper.
What paper is this?
Ill tell you later. First sign.
Why?
Dont talk so much.
What is the paper for?
I asked, but was very sure that Rudra needed my signature on some memorandum, or was creating a poetry society, and wanted
me to sign as a member. My eyes filled with conviction, glowed with the gentle light of dawn. My unwavering lips flew about
like a flock of birds.
When I extended my hands to take the paper, Rudra moved it away. I was faced with a dilemma, a suspicion.
What paper is this? I am not going to sign it without reading!
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Rudras moss covered eyes remained fixed on mine.
It is a marriage document. Rudras voice was heavy and broken.
My ears began to burn. Shaking off the burning sensation I forced myself to respond.
Marriage documents.
Yes, marriage papers.
Why?
What do you mean, why?
Marriage papers for what?
Dont you know for what?
No.
Are you going to sign or not?
Amazing! Why should I marry in this way?
That means you will not sign?
Lets see what is written!
As soon as I took the paper from Rudra, he roared, Boudi is coming, hide it.
Why should I hide it?
She will understand what it is.
What will she understand?
She will know it is a marriage document.
How?
Im telling you she will!
Whats the harm in her knowing?
There is harm.
What harm, lets hear!
Rudra snatched the paper from me. In a stony voice he said, Are you going to sign or not, either say yes or no.
This is astounding! Why is there this talk of marriage suddenly?
There just is.
Whos brought it up?
I have.
I never said I would marry!
I am saying so.
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Can you clap with one hand?
Will you sign?
No.
Putting the paper back into his bag, Rudra stood up, saying, Fine, Im going.
Astonishment was clouding my world. Where to?
Dhaka.
Right now?
Yes.
Why, whats happened?
There is no need for me to stay any longer.
No need?
Rudras tone had no regret. No.
Just because I have not signed on the paper, are all requirements over?
Without giving an answer, Rudra opened the doors wide and went out. He was leaving. Leaving. He was walking right over my
heart which was brimming with love for him. He was really and truly going away. Going away. I was left behind alone. Rudra
did not glance back. I was nothing to him now. He was not returning ever.
A sharp agony lifted me and took me to the verandah, took me towards his departure, and with two hands stopped him from
leaving.
Lets see, let me see the paper!
Why?
Why else, to sign it!
Rudra took out the paper.
Standing in the verandah, I scratched out a signature without looking at it or reading anything. Handing the paper to Rudra, I
glanced sorrowfully at his instantly shining eyes and said, That this signature had so much value I never realized before. I have
signed. Are you happy now! Ill take your leave.
I crossed the courtyard of Goons house and came on to the road, as fast as I could.
From behind Rudra was calling, Listen, wait.
I did not turn back.
I took a rickshaw straight to college. I paid a lot of attention in the next classes.
Even then it had not sunk into me that what I had signed out of self-pride had wrought my marriage. I still did not call Rudra by
his name, or address him as tumi, we had still not kissed; our only physical contact was through the fingers of our hands. I
was then barely nineteen years old.
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Chapter Twelve
The Oscillating Heart
Two months after Rudra took my signature on the marriage document, he wrote a letter addressing me as wife. Reading the
address I broke out in goose bumps. How strange and wonderful was this address! Was I then someones wife? Had that
signature really and truly brought about a marriage! It was an unbelievable event. My own wedding, I had never imagined it
would take place in this way. In fact that it would take place at all was something I had never had any belief in. I had signed the
paper on the 26
th
of January, and after being submitted to the lawyer, it had been signed and sealed by him on the 29
th
. In an
ordinary letter Rudra had informed me that our wedding day was the 29
th
. I tried to think of what I was doing on the 29
th
. Had
I thought of Rudra even once that day? No, I hadnt. I didnt have the time. I was dissecting dead bodies. There had been a
minor exam for which I had to study a lot. After the exam, I had come home and as usual, watched television and indulged in
bickering with my brothers and sisters. Like every other day, I had read poetry, heard songs, and after dinner, had gone to sleep.
After receiving Rudras letter, I told myself again and again, Look, you are not unmarried anymore. You are now actually
someones wife. When you marry you have to become a wife. Thats the system. Whether you like it or not, your signature on
that paper brought about your marriage. It had no effect. I was unable to absorb the matter either in my understanding or
beliefs. I just could not experience the feeling that I was not the same as before. That I was now married like Nani, Ma, Fajli
khala and Jhunu khala. Even Chandana was married. After her marriage, Chandana had written, I am now a fearless person.
Putting my life at stake, I have touched my dreams with my hands. I know now how to seriously dream. I have only one life
after all. I have not made a mistake. I can now touch a blood-red rose by merely extending my hand. Even if I had wished for
the married Chandanas passion, it was not aroused in me. It was beyond the limits of my understanding as to what kind of
tremors could be felt by a woman when touched physically by a man, and what desires were aroused by those tremors
thereafter. The men friends I had in college were only friends. Like Chandana. I hadnt yet ever kissed a man. I had not felt any
physical desire for anyone as yet. The only desires I was aware of, were those for water, tea or when it was very warm, for
lemon sherbet.
The second letter written by Rudra addressing me as wife fell into Babas hands. The postman had delivered the letter at
home, and as luck would have it straight into Babas hands. Since Baba was very fond of opening and reading others letters, he
read mine. Someone was addressing his daughter as his wife was something he read with bare eyes, then with his spectacles on,
and in every other way possible. Baba began pacing up and down throughout the room. He ransacked my study table in search
of more evidence. He took off his glasses, sat down, got up, all in rapid succession and finally left the house. But he could not
concentrate on his patients, and returned home. This time he called Ma. Whenever there was some anxiety about the children,
then Baba looked for Ma. Or when guests were expected at home, he would look for Ma. Where have you gone Idun? Come
here, will you! Baba would then give an estimate of the number of people expected, how many people would have to be
catered for, in fact even what items were to be prepared. Ma would listen very attentively to everything. She listened because at
such times at least Ma felt herself to be someone of invaluable worth. That she was needed in this household, was the feeling
Ma gained on such occasions and a strange joy seemed to cling to Ma just as did her sweat. On being called this time, when
Ma came rushing to stand before him, Baba said, Do you know who calls Nasreen his wife? Who has the courage to call her
his wife?
I dont know. I have no idea about all this.
Has she got involved with some boy?
I havent seen anything like that. She in fact chased Habibullah away from the house. No such boy has even come to the
house. I dont think she has got involved with anyone.
If she isnt involved, then how can any boy address her as his wife in his letters?
I really dont know.
You dont know anything. What do you do the whole day at home? If you cant even keep track of what your daughter is upto,
then what is the use? I raised the height of the boundary wall. I made sure that no boys could see the girls. Now how come this
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boy is calling her his wife?
I know she writes letters. She prints a magazine. She has to write letters here and there, she says.
This letter is not for any journal. This is a different type of letter.
I returned home from college. On other days Ma ran to the kitchen to bring food for me. That day she didnt move at all.
Ki, wheres my food?
The rice is in the vessel, said Ma.
Amena too hardly seemed to be moving or stirring at all. At an impossibly snails pace, she brought and served me the rice, and
with it some daal.
Ki! What do you mean by giving me only daal with rice! Isnt there any meat or fish?
You dont need fish and meat everyday. Mas tone was rough.
Can one eat rice without fish or meat? I ate two mouthfuls, and pushed the plate away, screaming, Wheres the water?
Ma said, Water is in the tap.
Even I know water is in the tap, but someone has to bring it.
Who was going to give me water! When I started grumbling, only then Amena moved majestically like an elephant, filled a
glass from the tap and brought it for me. The house was seething with suspense. I gauged that something had happened. Ma did
not wait too long in order to let me know what had happened. When I had stretched out on the bed with a book in my hand, she
came with a grave face to my side and asked equally gravely, Who is Rudra?
Rudra?
Yes, Rudra.
Why?
Why does he call you his wife?
A glass of cold water upturned on my chest. I began to sweat under the whirring blades of the fan. The bright lights of the day
turned into a moonless amavasya night in front of my eyes.
Why arent you saying anything? Who is Rudra?
I did not need to tell anyone who Rudra was! I only needed to know whether my letter had fallen into Mas hands alone or
anyone elses. If it had fallen into Babas hands, then my life was over that very instant. Today I had at least got some daal and
rice, tomorrow I might not get even that. Softening a little, Ma herself said that the letter had fallen into Babas hands. After
learning this, I went about hiding my lifeless body in isolated places. When everyone was asleep I got up like one deranged, and
wrote a letter to Rudra asking him never to address me as his wife ever again in his letters. I had to always write to Rudra in this
way, when no one was at home, or when everyone was asleep. Otherwise anyone could lean over to read what I was writing;
anyone at all in this house had the right to read what I was writing. If I tried to hide, the eagerness to read became almost
irresistible.
Everyday before Baba left, Yasmin and I had to ask for our rickshaw fare to school and college. Baba counted out the money
and gave it to us. The next morning came. I could clearly hear Baba having his bath, the squeaking of his shoes, him eating his
breakfast, in fact even the sound of him swallowing water. But like everyday I did not have the strength to hold on to my
quaking heart and stand before him with my head bent to ask for the rickshaw fare. My very existence had become one big
burden for me. I wished I could disappear into thin air at the snap of my fingers. I wished I was invisible! Watching the serial
Invisible Man on television, I had very often deeply experienced the need to disappear once in a while. Yasmin had asked for
her fare from Baba without any anxiety. Inactive, I remained confined to my room, breathless, dumb, suppressing the pressures
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of my stomach and lower abdomen, hoping I would not have to face Baba. Before leaving, he stood in the inner verandah and
shouted so that everyone could hear him telling Ma Her studies are over. She does not have to go to college anymore.
Everything is stopped. Stop giving her food. No rice is to be given to her!
Baba left. I waited till ten oclock for the postman and made sure that there was no letter from Rudra. Then, taking money from
under Mas mattress, I went to college. Classes started in college from 8 am. If I bunked classes like this, my future was not just
bleak, it was doomed, I gauged. The next day was the same. I had thought Baba would soften with the passage of time! There
were no signs of his melting. I had to beg Dada for rickshaw fare to go to college the next day. Baba was not bothered. He had
forgotten completely that I, too, existed in this house. Ma scolded me at the drop of a hat. She understood whatever Baba made
her understand. Ma was like that. Whatever any body explained, she accepted. She unconditionally accepted any persons
argument, whatever it may be. If someone came and said, Do you know someone fell from the arum tree and died, Ma would
say, Ah, died! and would tell everyone, Do you know, someone in the neighbourhood fell off an arum tree and died! Ma
would never think that no one could possibly fall and die from an arum tree, and that no one could possibly even climb one. Ma
believed every person in the world, and everything anyone could possibly say.
Rudra had stopped addressing me as his wife. But I could make out my letters were being hijacked. The letters were being
removed not only by Baba, but by Dada as well. Even by Ma. Finally, I had to seek Dalias help. Dalia belonged to Khulna. She
was a girl who was normally buried in thick volumes the whole day. Can my letters please come to your hostel address,
Dalia? Hearing my plaintive cry she said, Of course. She too was in the habit of writing poetry. She had even pushed herself
into becoming a member of Shatabdi Chakra. Otherwise who knows whether she would have agreed at once to offer this
service? She might have asked all kinds of questions. After about four months, Rudra again came to Mymensingh. I went to
meet Rudra, waiting in the college canteen with Dalia. Actually, whenever I went, I usually took someone or the other with me,
either Halida, or Madira, or Dalia. Whenever I sat alone before Rudra, I could say nothing. All we did was to sit facing each
other. Very often he had said, cant you come alone? That I couldnt was also something I had never told him. If someone was
there, by speaking nineteen to the dozen with that someone, I was at least able to convey that it wasnt as though I could not
speak. I could. In fact my command over the wealth of words was not bad at all. Of course most of the words used were largely
connected to medical knowledge. Rudra had to be a silent listener then. Finding a chance, Rudra told me that now I better tell
my father about it. I laughed out loud. This was really a crazy proposal from him. There was no way out but to wait for five
years. After becoming a doctor, if it was possible to tell Baba something, I would, before that the question did not arise. Rudra
sat, most unhappy. He tried to persuade me that initially all parents showed a little anger, but later everything became okay.
That there was no way anything would become right later, was something I tried to convince Rudra about. In the bargain, I told
him, my medical studies would come to an end. After Rudra left with a disappointed face, I wrote to him telling him that five
years would pass by before we knew it, and not to worry at all. Rudra wrote, Five years is not really a very long period. It will
pass soon enough. But for me five years are just too many days, too many years. I will not really be able to make you
understand. I understand everything about you, and yet I have to tell you. In spite of understanding everything clearly, I am still
telling you. Try to understand a little. Why am I mentally tormented? If you look at my black past you will understand. You will
then realise why I feel this torment. I am unable to make you understand. You dont know that I have no friends. I know many
well-wishing, devoted people, but none of them understands me. I now need you, only you. I will be unable to keep this
uncontrolled ,unsupported heart well for too long. I knew of no black past in Rudras life. What he actually wanted to explain
by this black past, was something I never got round to learning. I thought he meant his aimless roaming around, his not
studying, not taking his exams. I would tell Rudra about my daily life and all about my dreams. Rudra wrote, My dreams dont
match yours at all. While your dreams are very beautiful, like desirable flowers, mine are entirely made up of bricks and stones.
I see life with absolutely merciless eyes. May be such ruthlessness is not good, but somehow that is how I feel. Lets do one
thing, like spreading memories, you can continue to have the unblemished and verdant green dreams and I will have the
disgraceful and cruel ones. After all life is a mixture of the good and bad. Lets divide our lives in this way, okay! I couldnt
understand how people could see ugly dreams. I lived daily amidst ugliness, hence I dreamt of the beautiful. I told Rudra to
somehow just take the exams, may be if he was an MA, someday I would be able to bring up his name in my house. But Rudra
said, I think somewhere a mistake persists. A gap, whose fissure is extremely fine, a very small but sharp gap of
misunderstanding remains. I can make this out quite clearly. Through this fine gap one day, like Kalnagini entered the bridal
chamber of Lakhinder, in the same way, the snake of distrust will enter. Not the regret at receiving and the weariness of vain
desires. We should be alert, much more alert. As soon as my youth was over, I slowly began to live my life, and change my
belief for a particular purpose. Whatever is understood by an academic career, I have almost completely destroyed. Yes, mostly
on purpose. I have seen a lot of our society, many of lifes dark spots, bright spots, a lot of hatred, distrust, deception, and a lot
of trust and love as well. Maybe I will spend my whole life watching and burning. I will see how much suffering the germ of an
incurable disease can give to my body. Maybe a rose will never bloom in the courtyard of my house. Maybe instead of a
flower-vase, on my table, there will be a huge earthen ashtray. Maybe my most cherished treasure will be the helmet of a dead
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Muktijodhha. Or the skull of a human being. Somewhere a mistake is being made. I dont see so many flowers, birds and
dreams of happiness. Why do you? I see the dreams of two hardworking and busy people. Those who have very little spare time
by day or night.
When no more letters from Rudra came home, the incident was buried under the assumption that some mad poet under some
misplaced passion had one day addressed me as his wife. Thinking the fellows courage had now obviously failed, everyone
calmed down. The other reason the incident got buried was because no one at home could ever imagine that some one could
honestly call me his wife, or that I could truly have become someones wife. Moreover, I was coming home in time from
college. There were no suspicious delays anywhere. Most of the time, my face was buried in Anatomy and Physiology books.
Seeing this, the three pairs of Baba, Ma and Dadas frowns had finally gone. Baba diluted his anger in the tap water, because
my exams were approaching. The exam was called First Professional, in short First Proff. There were three exams to be taken
by a medical student. The promotional exam from 2
nd
year to the 3
rd
was known as First Proff., the one from 3
rd
year to 4
th
was
called Second Proff., and from 4
th
to 5
th
year, was called Third Proff. The 5
th
year exam was the Finals. After the Finals, one
became a Doctor. There was a one-year training period. Then work. During the training period a stipend was given, not a bad
amount. If one worked, the pay too was not bad, but it was a transferable job, you were transferred according to the whims of
the Government; here there was no question of individual choice. Of course, if you had connections you could have your say.
Connections, meaning people, a relative in the Ministry, or some one important in the B.M.A. I was not confident of passing my
First Proff. All these years the home tutors had spoon-fed me. In the medical college there were no home tutors, there was no
such system. There was no one to spoon-feed me. I had to feed myself everything required. I was not very used to swallowing
voluntarily. So anxiety bit at me like lice in the head. To top everything the language of the texts was English. There was no
Debnath Pandit to say, Put her in the Bangla medium, instead of in the English medium, she cannot cope with the English.
There were no medical texts in Bangla. There was no way to study except in English. The only saving grace was that this was
not English literature. There was no harm in case you used wrong grammar or spelling while speaking or writing. But, I had to
know everything from the head to toe of the body, where what was and what their functions were. In this, there was no
forgiveness. While describing all this in written English or in the spoken words, no one bothered about the grammar. A thought
came to my mind in France, Germany, Spain, Italy or Russia, countries where English was not the language, their students
were studying in their own languages, so why were there no texts in Bangla in our country? I was of the opinion that when
trying to gain knowledge in ones mother tongue one learnt much better than when studying in a foreign language. But no one
gave any importance to my belief. Everyone depended on a foreign language to gain this specialized knowledge. Under the
pressure of studies, where all my outbooks, Shenjutis new manuscripts or even my weekly unread Sunday Sandhanis and
Bichitras got buried, I did not even have the time to find out. When after studying all the big books, Baba saw me writing long
answers to all the questions in my notebook, he said, No one fails in the written exam; they do in the Viva. There will be an
external examiner from outside, if you fail to answer just one question, you will fail I was very sure, I would not pass my
exams. If I was asked to write, with great difficulty I might be able to put together something. Of course here there was no
question of making up facts. If the question asked was, What is the position of the pancreas? it was not possible to write
From the autumnal skies if one were to take a piece of the woolly clouds and look at it while holding it between ones two
hands, it would look very similar to the pancreas. It was amazing. How it was able to hide itself somewhere within the body!
One could neither find it, nor could one forget it. The pancreas lies alone by the side of the small intestine, under the spleen, not
very far from the heart. The sound of the heartbeat must cause it to stir as well. From two compartments in its body, like a
waterfall, two kinds of substances cascade, and so on No, that wouldnt do. If I wrote this way I would get a zero. I had to
write, The pancreas is an elongated organ, located across the back of the abdomen, behind the stomach. The right side of the
organ lies in the curve of the duodenum. The left side extends slightly upwards behind the spleen. It is made up of two types of
tissues, exocrine and endocrine. There could not be anything sentimental in this, the more logical, the more to the point, the
more scoring. If one didnt bother about marks, one could become, may be a good butcher, but not a good doctor. If one bullied
or abused the Professors one would never pass. Wherever one met them, whether in class, corridor, street, market or any where
else, one had to greet them with Salaam Aleikum. This Salaam Aleikum was something that just didnt come naturally to
me, just as I could not do Kadambusi, and touch anyones feet. Was there no other way out but to wish others well in the Arabic
language! It was possible in Bangla, Ki kemon acchen, bhalo tow! or Namaskar. The word Namaskar had become a
personal possession of the Bengali Hindus. Was there no word which was without religion? Nah, there wasnt. Whoever I
asked, said, no there was no other way. I remained helpless. I could just about manage a small smile, which was both a greeting
and best wishes. It seems one could pass ones exams this way. I found another way out. If a Professor was walking in the
corridor, I would walk past in such a way as though I was looking outside, or at the ground, or was distracted, or was looking at
the book in my hand, and hence obviously did not see