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STUDY NOTES EPISODE 21: TALKING ABOUT THE FAMILY

TALKING ABOUT THE FAMILY

A common topic of conversation and a standard
IELTS topic is The Family.

Where do I come from? Many people are
interested in their genealogy, their ancestors,
their heritage and their roots. Constructing your
family tree, going back several generations is
important for many people.

Answering questions about the family
When answering questions relating to the
family, be sure to:

identify family members correctly and
explain the kind and degree of the
relationships

have something to say about your
family, your immediate family, and maybe
even your relatives


Identify family members correctly
You need to be familiar with the particular name for the family relationship you might
want to describe. Think about your family as a tree. This will help you organise your
ideas in a systematic way.

You should first think about what perspective you are taking. If you are a parent, you
might talk about your spouse (husband or wife) and children (sons and daughters). If
you are single, you might describe your siblings (brothers and sisters) and your place
in the larger, more extended family. If you are in a relationship, but not married (de
facto) you might talk about your partner.

Family Tree Diagrams
Following are several tree diagrams representing the structure and organisation of a
variety of families and therefore a variety of relationships:

Family Tree 1 the childrens perspective (parents, children and siblings)

Family Tree 2 the parents perspective (spouse, husband and wife, children)

Family Tree 3 the extended family (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins)

Family Tree 4 divorce and remarriage (step-parents, half brothers and sisters)

Family Tree 5 marriage and the in-laws

IELTS Tips

To prepare for IELTS think of
possible topic areas - major
topic areas - and then think of
related or sub-topics.

Consider the topic of The
Family.

Think of yourself and your
immediate or extended family.
Practise talking about your
family, your position and place
in your family.

Make sure you know the
vocabulary related to this topic
and useful grammar and
structures.



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How would you talk about yourself if this were your family tree?

Family Tree 1 - the childrens perspective


Identification of family members

Sample responses:

My parents have four children.
My parents have three sons and a daughter.
I am the second of four children.
I am the second child in the family.
I am one of four children.
I have three siblings.
I have an older brother, a younger brother and a younger sister.

These responses are all Simple Sentences. They can be joined to make complex
sentences.

Examples: I am the second of the four children born to my parents,
John and Mary Jones.

My older brother is called Peter, my younger brother is
called Paul and my sister is called Mary.


This last response can be improved by removing the repeated language using
ellipsis:
My older brother is called Peter, my younger brother Paul
and my sister Mary.

From a different perspective we have the same family tree:


Family Tree 2 - the parents perspective




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Identification of family members

Sample responses:

My name is John Jones. I am married. My wife is Mary Jones.
We have four children.
We have three sons and a daughter. Their names are Peter, Andrew, Paul and Mary.
Peter is 10 (years old), Andrew is 8, Paul is 5 and Mary is almost one (year old).

Again, these responses are all Simple Sentences. They can be joined to make more
interesting sentences.

Example: I am John Jones and I am married to Mary. We have four
children, three sons and a daughter, named Peter, Andrew,
Paul and Mary, aged 10 (years), 8, 5 and one (year old)
respectively.


Relationships in large families become complicated, especially when your parents
come from large families. Look at the next family tree.


Family Tree 3 the extended family


Identification of family members

Sample Responses:

I am an only child.
My father has a brother and a sister, Uncle John and Aunt Anne.
Uncle John and auntie* Anne are my fathers brother and sister.
Auntie Joan is my mothers sister.
I have two aunts and an uncle.
Uncle John is married and has 2 children, my cousins, Robert and Joanne.
Auntie Joan is also married and also has 2 children, my cousins Adam and Emma.
I have four cousins, two on my fathers side and two on my mothers.
My grandparents on my mothers side (maternal grandparents) are both alive and are
87 this year.
My fathers father, my grandfather or paternal grandfather, died a few years ago, but
his mother is still alive.
I still have three grandparents living.
My father has a nephew, Robert, and a niece, Joanne.



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* NB auntie is the endearing or diminutive word choice for aunt.
Marital Status single, married, divorced, re-married
If you are engaged to be married, you refer to your future wife as your fianc. You
might use the word partner.

These days with all the work, financial and social demands on married couples,
whether young or old, the divorce rate is increasing. Some divorced men and
women re-marry and sometimes have children to their second (or even third)
spouse. Family relationships in our modern world are getting quite complicated with
half-brothers and sisters and step- brothers and sisters. What are these
relationships?

Look at this family tree.

Family Tree 4 divorce and re-marriage


Identification of family members

Sample Responses:
A few years ago, my mother (Sophie) divorced my father (Phillip), and remarried.
Shortly before my parents divorced, they had another child, my little sister, Emma.
My mother remarried a man called George, who had also been married before.
My step-father is called George. His ex-wife is called Amy.
Amy and George had two children, a son Robert and a daughter Joanne.
Robert and Joanne are my step-brother and step-sister.
My mother and step-father decided to have another child.
My half-brother Oliver was born a few months ago.

In-laws
When you marry into another family, the relatives of your spouse become your in-
laws. So your wifes mother becomes your mother-in-law. Her brother is your
brother-in-law, and so on. The brother-in-laws wife is the wife of my brother-in-law.

Look at this next family tree.

Family Tree 5 the in-laws



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Identification of family members

Sample Responses:

I recently married Brian Smith.
Brian has two sisters, now my sisters-in-law, Carol and Marcie.
My parents-in-law are Michael and Jeanette Smith.
I have a brother, Paul, and a sister, Jocelyn.
Paul is the brother-in-law of my husband Brian, and Jocelyn is his sister-in-law.
My parents, Joseph and Bronwyn Banks, are my husband Brians parents-in-law.


Generation Gap
The word generation means the time, usually 20-25 years humans take to reproduce
themselves.


Parents
Generation

Children

Here is a family with four generations.

great great grandparents me

great grandparents children

grandparents grandchildren

parents great grandchildren

me


1

2

3

4
great great grandchildren

People from different age groups can sometimes have difficulty understanding each
other. They have different values, and sometimes different skills, or levels of
familiarity with technology, and different tastes in fashion and music. This is known as
the generation gap.

The different generations need to understand and respect each other, and learn from
each other. What can you learn from the elders in your family? What can your
grandparents learn from you? What can we teach each other? What can older
generations hand down or pass on to younger generations?

Immigrants to a new country refer to themselves as first generation Australian, or
second generation Australian my parents immigrated here to Australia in 1990.


Topics and possible questions
The topic of family seems fairly straightforward. However, there are many possible
ways of asking questions on such a familiar topic.

Think about other topics and issues related to this larger topic such as the benefits
of living in an extended family compared to growing up in a small nuclear family.

It is always a good idea to brainstorm possible questions an examiner might ask.




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Topic Question
Nuclear versus extended families Which is better, and why?

Role of the parents Should children always obey their parents?

Discipline and punishment Should parents punish naughty children?

Age of consent When is the best age to get married?
Should individuals choose their future husband or wife or
should their parents?
Generation gap What can older people learn from the young?
Do you think the youth of today show enough respect for older
people in society?


Notice, these different questions force you to use particular language functions.

Question Language Function
Which is better, and why? Making comparisons
Explaining
Should children always obey their parents?

Giving an opinion
When is the best age to get married? Identify
Explain

Expanding on your answer
When talking about our family, what can we say? Broadly speaking, in English, in our
culture, we identify and refer to certain aspects and functions of family members.

For example:

Family member + age + position in the family + where born + where grew up

Sample answer:

My parents have five sons. I am the second of five boys. I have an older brother and
three younger brothers. I was born in Northern Ireland, came to Australia in 1976 and
grew up in Cronulla, a beachside suburb in the south of Sydney.

How else can we enlarge on our answer? Perhaps we might talk about schooling,
what careers our brothers and sisters have, and maybe whether they are married or
not.

For example:

Family member + where grew up + education + profession + marital status

Sample answer:

I grew up on the north shore of Sydney Harbour in a suburb called Mosman. I went to
a small public school first, Mosman Primary School, and later to a private college. I
passed the Higher School Certificate (HSC) and decided to go to the University of
Technology, Sydney (UTS) to study Business. I am now managing a small business,
and I am still single.




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Preposit ions
When talking about your family and background you will use prepositional phrases of
time and place, using the prepositions in, on and at.
Preposi tions of
Place

in grew up in Sydney and lived in a beachside suburb
in the south of the city
in a small house
in a friendly street
in a quiet neighbourhood
on went to school on the north side of the city
lived on the 4th floor of an apartment block
on the corner of a busy intersection
on the outskirts of the city
on the edge of a large forest
on the side of a mountain
on the banks of a beautiful river
at studied at a public school
studied at the University of Technology, Sydney
played in the park at the end of the street
was born at St Vincents Hospital

Preposi tions of
Time

in was born in March in 1989
was born in summer
in the morning
in the afternoon
in the evening
on was born on a Sunday
on the 19th July, 1952
on Christmas day
at was born at midnight
at a quarter to three
at night
at Easter
at Christmas (time)

Plural forms
Plural forms in English obey certain rules. Look at the plural forms of common words
in this topic area, the family.

Spell ing Rule Examples
Regular
+ s
mother/mothers
brother/brothers
husband/husbands
cousin/cousins
uncle/uncles
niece/nieces

sister-in-law / sisters-in-law
brother-in-law / brothers-in-law
father-in-law / fathers-in-law
mother-in-law / mothers-in-law

y ! ies baby/babies

Irregular child/children
wife/wives