Communication Styles
Passive General Compliant, submissive, talks little, vague noncommittal communication, puts self down, praises others I dont mindthats [Link] alright
Assertive Actions and expressions fit with words spoken, firm but polite and clear messages, respectful of self and others
Aggressive Sarcastic, harsh, always right, superior, know it all, interrupts, talks over others, critical, putdowns, patronising, disrespectful of others
Thats a good idea, and how about if we did this This is what were too or I can see that, doing, if you dont like but Id really like... it, tough Im okay, youre okay Believes or acts as if all the individuals involved are equal, each deserving of respect, and no more entitled than the other to have things done their way Im okay, youre not
Beliefs
Youre okay, Im not Has no opinion other than that the other person/s are always more important, so it doesnt matter what they think anyway
Believe they are entitled to have things done their way, the way they want it to be done, because they are right, and others (and their needs) are less important Narrow, emotion-less, staring, expressionless
Eyes
Avoids eye contact, looks down, teary, pleading Makes body smaller stooped, leaning, hunched shoulders
Warm, welcoming, friendly, comfortable eye contact Relaxed, open, welcoming
Posture
Makes body bigger upright, head high, shoulders out, hands on hips, feet apart Pointing fingers, making fists, clenched, hands on hips Make enemies, upset others and self, feel angry and resentful
Hands
Together, fidgety, clammy
Open, friendly and appropriate gestures
Consequences
Give in to others, dont get what we want or need, self-critical
Good relationships with others, happy with outcome and to
thoughts, miserable
compromise