2006, The Linacre Quarterly
Mother-child attachment in the early years of life lays the foundation not only for personal security and relationships, but also for spiritual life. The implications for society are enormous. Moreover, theologians and philosophers have developed reflections about the state of childhood that reveal realities about our relationship with God and our spiritual state. Our psychological experience and our spiritual experience mutually enlighten each other. These theological developments are an inner window which shed light on the deeper meaning of maternal-child bonding. Swiss theologian Hans urs von Balthasar brought attention to the theological importance of childhood, particularly in his small book, Unless You Become Like This Child (UYBY . He says: 176 It occurred to no one [in earlier cultures] to consider the distinctive consciousness of children as a value in itself. And because childhood was ranked as merely a "not-yet" stage, no one was concerned with the form of the human spirit, indeed the form of man 's total spiritual-corporeal existence, that preceded free, moral decision-making. But obviously, for Jesus, the condition of early childhood is by no means a matter of moral indifference and insignificance. Rather, the ways of the child, long since sealed off for the adult, open up an original dimension in which everything unfolds within the bounds of the right, the true, the good, in a zone of hidden containment which cannot be derogated as "pre-ethical" or "unconscious," as if the child's spirit had not yet awakened or were still at the animal levelsomething, it never was, not even in the mother 's womb. That zone or dimension in which the child lives, on the contrary, Linacre Quarterly reveals itself as a sphere of original wholeness and health, and it may be even said to contain an element of holiness, since at first the child cannot yet distinguish between parental and divine love. (UYB,12) Balthasar points out that this time holds dangers for both child and adult: Childhood is fully vulnerable because the child is powerless, while those who care for him enjoy an all-powerful freedom . Instead of leading him rightly, they can lead him astray in a variety of egotistical ways, oftentimes in a manner which is quite unconscious of its moral indifference. Hence Jesus ' terrible threat to such a seducer: "It would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a millstone round his neck than to lead one of these little ones astray." Lk.17 :2 UYB ,12-13.