What should I use to reference you? he? she?

my pronouns.page profile interpretation:

• By default, use he/him.
• If we are close enough (as determined by ME), I believe pronouns stop meaning that much to me (see remarks below), and therefore you have my blessing to use either one of he/him, she/her, or they/them as you feel like.
  • I still find it hard to get used to the new-ish pronouns like ze which is confusing to me (at best), so I ask you NOT to use it.
  • Basic rule of thumb is, if you have to ask yourself or me if we are close enough, you are not.
  • If you think we are 'close enough' but not completely sure, you can just ask and I'll make the determination for you.

Remarks​

Korean language does not make use of gender-based pronouns that much when it comes to referring someone else (our names are generally short enough that does not need any compression - we can just refer to someone else by $firstname prepended by gender-neutral form of sir/madam.) so I find English pronouns to be a bit confusing. This means it might be confusing both to me and to you. Sorry if you are confused.