I decided I couldn’t put things off any longer and needed to have the talk with one of my players. It is not what you think; he wasn’t being jettisoned from the group for jackassery, bad body odor, or an excessive and uncomfortable level of junk touching. I just couldn’t ignore the signs any longer, from the body language at the table to the constant tweaking of his character being emailed to me between sessions. After perusing his new build I finally just came out with it and said we need to talk because it seems like he is unhappy with his character. Perhaps I let it go to long? Maybe I was in a bit of denial? Perhaps I just couldn’t bear the thought of losing another one to the sweet sirens call of the striker.
I watched young Rhogar go from a stalwart paladin of Pelor who was a true blend of a sword and board defender/leader to a full blade wielding striker/defender. I saw the dice envy grew every time the twin blade ranger laid some smack on a bad guy. As I watched this unfold I tried to give some counsel on defenders and the role they played, often lovingly recounting the exploits of that rapscallion Drax. I tried to show him how awesome the tank could be. I tried to show him how miserable he could make my life and all the nasty things he could do to my monsters, and how he could thwart my plans and make me want to pull may hair out. Doesn’t that sound like fun I’d ask? All this was to no avail as I saw him firmly on the path to the dark side. I now know how Obi-Wan felt.
Here is what I wrote to him after being sent another tweaked version of his character:
“You need to play the character that you will be most happy with and I will make it work. With that in mind, it seems like you want to do a lot of damage. The problem is at its core the paladin is a defender, so even though you upped his damage he is still below a striker in damage, but in making him more damaging he becomes a sub par defender. This leaves you being meh on a couple of fronts, which is what I think you might be struggling with. So why don’t you look at the barbarian, the ranger or even the avenger and you can still be a knight of Pelor because that is just fluff. I can easily adjust things to accommodate the lack of a defender.”
So I lost another one to the lure of the sparkling damage dice.


