a big thank you to everyone who offered to donate to the ebay auction-- however it seems the listing has been taken down. i'm not sure why; the blog site i got the info from originally doesn't have an update, so idk what happened. but thanks anyway, you guys, it's appreciated!

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x-posted from my other journal, sorry for those of you who are seeing this twice.

knitmeapony linked to this on her twitter today.

Heterosexual woman puts her right to marry up for auction on EBay.

Jamie Frevele says "I’m an unmarried heterosexual woman, and since I probably won’t be using my right to get married, I would like to give it away. I would like to sell it to the highest bidder and donate the proceeds to an organization that supports LGBT rights since the government designed to protect all of us is picking and choosing based on what they think is icky, weird, or unknown to them."

i really, really want to donate to this, but sadly if i win i don't have $150 to give all at once. and so i was thinking, a lot of you lovely flisters might be in a similar situation. and wouldn't it be awesome if we all chipped in a bunch of money and bid as a collective to give to this cause? it would kind of make my day, actually, not to mention my holiday season.

i know it is the holidays and a lot of you guys are probably a little strapped for cash. but if thirty of you gave ten dollars that'd more than double the current bid on the auction (you can track it here : on ebay). i won't do this if i don't get a bunch of responses, like, enough to really make a difference, but if enough of you say you're willing to chip in, i'd love to do this.

i'll go ahead and say i'll put in $50 of my own money, and if i can get pledges up to $300 (to be paypaled within the next three days-- the auction ends 12/12) i'll do it.

it's not often i see someone acting out in such a creative and positive way to fight for equal rights-- i really want to support her if i can. so comment, flist, and let me know how much you'd be willing to chip in. :)

i had pondered writing a post about coming out day, but then i read a bunch of posts that said everything better than i could have. for your consideration :

+ "fear, loathing and 'coming out'" by azurelunatic
+ elorie discusses the sexuality quiz show.
+ a lot of you have probably seen the heterosexuality questionnaire, but it's worth reading again, i think.
+ pondering the 'unified theory of gay' by thingswithwings at dreamwidth.

another friend had a really interesting post, but it's flocked, sadly. but she made what is, i think, the best point so far which is that we often don't think of ourselves as being on the front lines of any kind of equality struggle, but we are. we have to do the hard work of coming out now because unless we do, there likely won't ever *be* a world in which no one assumes anything about anyone's sexuality, a world in which there's no need to qualify "i like girls" any more than there is need to qualify "i like brunettes" now. my friend also linked this youtube vid in which a guy who makes greeting cards shows off some coming out cards, and at the end thanks the gay friends he had in school for showing him that gay people were real people too. that's why we have to do it (to paraphrase my friend) to build a world where people know we exist.

i've also been having really, really, really messed up dreams lately. not nightmares, just like, dreams containing people i haven't seen or thought of in years, really random and sometimes disturbing (in a where-the-fuck-did-that-come-from way) situations, and just a lot of stuff that leaves me waking up going "what the everloving fuck, yo?" i woke up this morning from one such and it kind of put a weird spin on the whole morning. sigh.

but i just cleaned and organized my room and vacuumed, which always makes me happy. i'd love to know what the gene is that codes people to take comfort from cleaning, b/c it definitely runs in my family, and it's very strange. rearranging furniture, too, i get such a kick out of that.

it's time for lunch. ♥