A ex co-worker and friend was in a bad motorcycle accident over a month ago. He was in ICU for about 2-3 weeks and then they moved him to a rehab facility. He was in a coma for a week then a drugged induced coma for another week and a half while in ICU. I saw him for the first time yesterday, I went to the rehab center.
This guy is about 26 and he's one of those fun full of life make everything interesting and fun type of guys. Super mack daddy always flirting but you just love him because he has a good heart. Well it broke my heart to see him in the state he's in now, he conscious and can open his eyes and they say he can hear and understand you, but he can't walk, move or talk. He has a tube in his neck to breath and his body is twisted.I had to step out the room a few times because seeing him like this was to much to take. His father was there when I arrived I never met any of his family before so it was a little awkward.
I brought him my favorite bear T. Bear, I had him for years. I gave Lamar a card and being my smart ass self I wrote about how T. Bear is there to watch over him and that I wanted him back when he was better (I really do) but I wrote just being smart and not knowing the full extent of his injuries 'don't drool on him'. Now I feel like that was mean and insensitive, I wanted to take the card back but his father had already opened it and put it on the wall with his other cards. I just felt like an ass.
I used to work in a nursing home so I'm used to seeing immobilized and or comatose people and it has never affected me like this. I know it's because I knew how Lamar was before the accident that its just unbelievable to think he not that Lamar anymore.
His father said the doctors expect him to recover back to his old self maybe not 100%. It's going to take a really long time though.
And to make me seem any more insensitive, how bad is is that I was attracted to the man's father. WTF is wrong with me. He was very nice to me but I think he may have thought I was kid-meaning his sons age. He left before I did and in another awkward moment he came to give me a hug and I felt silly because I put my hand out first. I mean I have no problem with hugging I am a major hugger but he just caught me off guard.
Anyway send positive thoughts to Lamar he needs them.
This guy is about 26 and he's one of those fun full of life make everything interesting and fun type of guys. Super mack daddy always flirting but you just love him because he has a good heart. Well it broke my heart to see him in the state he's in now, he conscious and can open his eyes and they say he can hear and understand you, but he can't walk, move or talk. He has a tube in his neck to breath and his body is twisted.I had to step out the room a few times because seeing him like this was to much to take. His father was there when I arrived I never met any of his family before so it was a little awkward.
I brought him my favorite bear T. Bear, I had him for years. I gave Lamar a card and being my smart ass self I wrote about how T. Bear is there to watch over him and that I wanted him back when he was better (I really do) but I wrote just being smart and not knowing the full extent of his injuries 'don't drool on him'. Now I feel like that was mean and insensitive, I wanted to take the card back but his father had already opened it and put it on the wall with his other cards. I just felt like an ass.
I used to work in a nursing home so I'm used to seeing immobilized and or comatose people and it has never affected me like this. I know it's because I knew how Lamar was before the accident that its just unbelievable to think he not that Lamar anymore.
His father said the doctors expect him to recover back to his old self maybe not 100%. It's going to take a really long time though.
And to make me seem any more insensitive, how bad is is that I was attracted to the man's father. WTF is wrong with me. He was very nice to me but I think he may have thought I was kid-meaning his sons age. He left before I did and in another awkward moment he came to give me a hug and I felt silly because I put my hand out first. I mean I have no problem with hugging I am a major hugger but he just caught me off guard.
Anyway send positive thoughts to Lamar he needs them.