Instead of trying to convince setup.py to do what we want, the wheel
package empowers us to unpack and directly manipulate the wheel.
In particular this is important because `--skip-build` really does
not work.

First we build a native wheel. If skip_host is True, then this
"native" wheel has defective empty files as binaries, if it's False,
we build a real native wheel. If skip_host is False, then we use
pip to install our native wheel into host directory.

Then we unpack the wheel, replace the platform tag with
wasm32_emscripten, remove the non-metadata files, and copy in the
new files with the cross compiled binaries.

Of course, this is all only necessary for binary extensions.

Hopefully this will help get us towards using alternative build
backends. The one concern is that this approach depends on
implementation details of where the build backend puts the files
into the directory tree before copying them into the wheel. If
the build backend moved the linked binaries after building them,
we would be in trouble. Or worse if the build backend deleted the
files after packing them into the wheel, we'd be in trouble.

Basically, it seems clear that we can only support alternative
build backends on a case-by-case basis.

This reverts commit 53900b0.

Rather than recording the first pass and then replaying it.
Build systems are allowed to implement arbitrary logic

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