Windows SO_REUSEADDR is neither reliable nor safe

To get a better grip of reuse address control on windows (no reuse port on windows), `SO_EXCLUSIVEADDRUSE` is needed (in addition to `SO_REUSE`)

see [Using SO_REUSEADDR and SO_EXCLUSIVEADDRUSE](https://docs.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/win32/winsock/using-so-reuseaddr-and-so-exclusiveaddrusev) 