Oh to have the time to get organized. Here I go too and fro too and fro!!!
Sometimes, I find myself rolled up in a ball, frustrated by the current state of my living conditions.. Part of the reason is I can not get enough done to accommodate my new living arrangements. After my Wife died, I was starting to re-arrange my house so I could have my Amateur Radio station, my electronics bench and my recording studio all in the house and I was in process of doing just that. At the same time, there were a number of structures on the property that due to age, were falling apart so, I was going to demolish them. Then came Erin..
Erin and I had met 47 years ago at church camp. I was a counselor and she was a camper. We became very good friends but, that was all. She was 5 years younger than I and it was not appropriate for anything else to happen. I was 21 and truly, I kept it as much like a big brother relationship as I could. Now that friendship had lasted many years until I went away with my job. After that she had developed other interests and had ended up getting married and a couple of years later so did I to my Wife of 41 years til she passed. Erin and I became re-acquainted through FaceBook but had kept the friendship very arms length for many reasons mostly because I would never do anything against my Wife. She was the Love of my Life and that was that. A year prior to my Wife passing Erin, Had had the tragedy of losing her daughter and I had tried to do as much as I could, mostly via the Internet.
So when my Wife died, Erin sent me a message if there was anything she could do, let her know. I told her I would get in touch after the situation settled. Which I did. We started messaging each other and she told me she collected knives because her daughter had so she was continuing on with that. I told her I have one you can add to your collection if, you want to come over and get it. It's a Damascus steel blade made for me by a friend of mine who is a World class knife maker. She was with a couple that were her friends and the guy happen to forge metal. When I said Damascus, he got excited so, I sent a picture. Then he got real excited. So, Erin said I will be over in 30 minutes.
Well, Erin got here and we started talking and it was like no time had passed. IO gave her the knife and we started catching each other up on our individual lives. before I knew it I looked out the window and it was getting light. I told her I should walk her to her car and call it a night(or day)... We didn't talk any that second day but, on the third day I told her I would like to come visit that evening. We did it again!! All we did was talk, it was so easy and we just enjoyed having someone that we could relate to, to talk to. Well it didn't take long and we were together a lot more than apart. Eventually it was decided she would sell her house and move in with me leaving the legalities until we were sure it would not effect us financially. Here was the problem. She had a 2500 sq ft home and mine is about 1300 sq ft. She teaches belly dancing so, she need a dance studio. She is also a costume designer and does custom costumes for a lot of the dances and she sells online and also sells vintage women's wear. So, I started planning an addition to my house since I have a quarter acre of land it would be easy to add and I am doing to work. We bought equipment and materials including 2 shipping containers which are the foundation of the addition. In the mean time her house sold and we had to start cramming things anywhere we could and even started renting 2 storage lockers for the overflow. A lot of other issues started popping up and we are still in the early stages of the addition. It will happen but, in the mean time when I need to do an electronics project, I have to go on an Easter egg hunt to find the things I need to build it. We did finally find out it would not harm either of us financially so in January we got married. I love her as I did my first Wife and I can't imagine Life now without her. We both just get frustrated with the situation but, I know I will get the addition done but, in the mean time, I still do engineering projects and they take substantially longer because of our space issues. We both have learned patience in spades but it still is frustrating to both of us. We will make it!!! I have no doubt... Just wish I could make things happen faster...
Erin and I had met 47 years ago at church camp. I was a counselor and she was a camper. We became very good friends but, that was all. She was 5 years younger than I and it was not appropriate for anything else to happen. I was 21 and truly, I kept it as much like a big brother relationship as I could. Now that friendship had lasted many years until I went away with my job. After that she had developed other interests and had ended up getting married and a couple of years later so did I to my Wife of 41 years til she passed. Erin and I became re-acquainted through FaceBook but had kept the friendship very arms length for many reasons mostly because I would never do anything against my Wife. She was the Love of my Life and that was that. A year prior to my Wife passing Erin, Had had the tragedy of losing her daughter and I had tried to do as much as I could, mostly via the Internet.
So when my Wife died, Erin sent me a message if there was anything she could do, let her know. I told her I would get in touch after the situation settled. Which I did. We started messaging each other and she told me she collected knives because her daughter had so she was continuing on with that. I told her I have one you can add to your collection if, you want to come over and get it. It's a Damascus steel blade made for me by a friend of mine who is a World class knife maker. She was with a couple that were her friends and the guy happen to forge metal. When I said Damascus, he got excited so, I sent a picture. Then he got real excited. So, Erin said I will be over in 30 minutes.
Well, Erin got here and we started talking and it was like no time had passed. IO gave her the knife and we started catching each other up on our individual lives. before I knew it I looked out the window and it was getting light. I told her I should walk her to her car and call it a night(or day)... We didn't talk any that second day but, on the third day I told her I would like to come visit that evening. We did it again!! All we did was talk, it was so easy and we just enjoyed having someone that we could relate to, to talk to. Well it didn't take long and we were together a lot more than apart. Eventually it was decided she would sell her house and move in with me leaving the legalities until we were sure it would not effect us financially. Here was the problem. She had a 2500 sq ft home and mine is about 1300 sq ft. She teaches belly dancing so, she need a dance studio. She is also a costume designer and does custom costumes for a lot of the dances and she sells online and also sells vintage women's wear. So, I started planning an addition to my house since I have a quarter acre of land it would be easy to add and I am doing to work. We bought equipment and materials including 2 shipping containers which are the foundation of the addition. In the mean time her house sold and we had to start cramming things anywhere we could and even started renting 2 storage lockers for the overflow. A lot of other issues started popping up and we are still in the early stages of the addition. It will happen but, in the mean time when I need to do an electronics project, I have to go on an Easter egg hunt to find the things I need to build it. We did finally find out it would not harm either of us financially so in January we got married. I love her as I did my first Wife and I can't imagine Life now without her. We both just get frustrated with the situation but, I know I will get the addition done but, in the mean time, I still do engineering projects and they take substantially longer because of our space issues. We both have learned patience in spades but it still is frustrating to both of us. We will make it!!! I have no doubt... Just wish I could make things happen faster...