By Hannah K. Grieser<\/p>\n
A<\/span>ll five of our kids have attended an ACCS school that welcomes students from a variety of Christian denominations. This means it\u2019s not unusual for some of those denominational differences to surface in casual conversations or in classroom discussions.<\/p>\n My own memories of attending the same classical Christian school include similar collisions of views. In high school, we started plenty of impromptu lunchroom debates, hashing out our different views on baptism or entertainment standards, trying to understand the opposition and defend our own position.<\/p>\n But here\u2019s the remarkable thing: the bell would ring, and we would walk back to class as a cluster of friends\u2014literally on the same team.<\/p>\n And now my teens are carrying on the same tradition.<\/p>\n Our boys frequently come home wondering how to answer a classmate\u2019s challenge or asking for clarification on a Bible verse. They raise big theological questions that require open Bibles and careful thought.<\/p>\n Done rightly, disagreements like these can turn a profit. They can build character and deepen our kids\u2019 faith. In a society beset by so much ungodly conflict, where molotov cocktails have replaced moderate conversation, learning to deal with our differences like Christians has never been more valuable or more necessary.<\/p>\n It\u2019s precisely during these years when they\u2019re still living at home, and the debaters are their friends, that our kids have the best shot at learning to disagree without taking offense or resorting to the world\u2019s tactics\u2014and without simply hiding from conflict. The older they get, the more crucial it will be for them to stand for what they believe, and to do so with both courage and grace. If we don\u2019t guide them in this, who will?<\/p>\n Of course, not everything should become a debate. Maturity matters. Not even the most precocious first grader has the wisdom to spar with his buddies over eschatology. But as students get older, these discussions become increasingly worth- while\u2014especially during the middle and high school years. We want them to show more and more interest in understanding the \u201cwhy\u201d of their beliefs and the \u201chow\u201d of defending them.<\/p>\n And if you\u2019re reading this magazine, you no doubt recognize that these interests align with the logic and rhetoric stages of the Trivium. The teenage years are the ideal time for training our young people how to handle opposition and disagreement.<\/p>\n As you help your student learn the practicalities of iron sharpening iron, keep these tips in mind:<\/p>\n DON\u2019T EXPECT TO REACH A CON-SENSUS.<\/span> No one person may \u201cwin\u201d the argument. But they are \u201cwinning\u201d in another sense: they are learning to disagree without falling out of fellowship.<\/p>\n THIS IS ONLY POSSIBLE WHEN THE STANDARD THAT WE ALL APPEAL TO IS OUTSIDE OF US.<\/span> If the world is right that truth comes from inside of us, all disagreement becomes, by definition, a personal attack. But when the standard is the Word of God, then these debates must drive us closer to the Word\u2014and therefore closer to one another.<\/p>\n WHEN HANDLED WELL, OUR KIDS\u2014AND OUR WHOLE FAMILIES\u2014CAN LEARN FROM THESE DISAGREEMENTS,<\/span> and come away from them wiser, godlier, and better equipped to stand for the truth.<\/p>\n THE WISEST OF ADULTS KNOWS WHEN TO KEEP QUIET.<\/span> \u2724<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" By Hannah K. Grieser All five of our kids have attended an ACCS school that welcomes students from a variety of Christian denominations. This means it\u2019s not unusual for some of those denominational differences to surface in casual conversations or in classroom discussions. My own memories of attending the same classical Christian school include similar […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":18773,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[237,14,23,70,22],"tags":[252],"yoast_head":"\nARGUING LIKE CHRISTIANS<\/span><\/h3>\n
TRIVIUM IN ACTION<\/span><\/h3>\n